Big Sister Advice Questions (PT 2) | Cheating Spouse, Bad In-Laws, Red Flags, Burn Out, Finances

[@cavarsarah9543]

To the woman with kids whose husband cheated: leave. Take the kids. I am the child of a father who cheated; my mom gave him another chance. He cheated again. He is not worth the trauma & relationship issues your kids will very likely develop as a result of having a father who so deeply disrespects their mother. I wish you the best. Thank you, Michel, for your videos and for answering these topics with compassion!

[@jjm2948]

Primarily women cheat emotionally and men physically ….huge difference. And you have to find out why he cheated before going off like u know the exact dynamic of the relationship.

[@jennyhammond9261]

In regards to the last question (cheating ex that won't stop reaching out): You CANNOT use words/phrases like "think", "I'm not in a place right now", or "it would be nice". You have to be direct. Do NOT contact me. I will block you. If you use the aforementioned phrases, they will interpret as hope that that you will change your mind.

[@ck7506]

Just block him. Everywhere. Done.

[@liliesofthefield5310]

If someone says they don't want kids, don't stay hoping they'll change their mind, I've never wanted kids, everyone told me that I would change my mind once I got older, here we are 20yrs later and still don't want kids, if anything I don't want them even more now because I'm older, don't settle for someone you hope will change, hold out for the one who's completely compatible for you

[@libbymorehouse4466]

If you do this again, I'd love to see it with Jordy. Obviously he's lived a different life so it would be interesting to hear his perspective too! Love your takes

[@farahkhan2364]

I agree!!

[@MichelJanse]

Ooh love this idea! :)

[@gretaegan5784]

Your comment about being aware of how sensitive you are each day & not seeking out people who might have innacurate ideas of you is SUCH good advice. Especially in this age of so much social media consumption and comparison. Also side note - you are such a ray of sunshine and since coming across your videos a few weeks ago I've found so much comfort and inspiration in your content 🌞💗

[@marianacastano3277]

To the question about not being in a wedding and refusing to go if you don’t think they should be getting married. I was in my friends wedding even though I didn’t think she should be married and strongly disliked her husband.. She’s been married for years and as far as I know they are happy and have a wonderful life with their kids… if I would have taken a stance I wouldn’t be apart from her life now and wouldn’t be able to support her in even stage of her life… I also once dated a man who was completely wrong for me and I had a coworker come to me and tell me “hey, I know I this isn’t my place to say this but just in case you needed someone to tell you that it’s okay to get out of that relationship if he doesn’t treat you right or you aren’t completely happy with him you have every right to leave” and she was right.. I left him and a year later found my husband that makes me so much happier than I ever thought I could be 😊

[@tinamontevecchi223]

People need to take a step back when it comes to other people’s relationships. Everyone said my hubby & me were never going to last. It’s been 33 years since we got married. Nobody has a crystal ball & can determine who is going to make it & who won’t.

[@ggpink5866]

As a perfectionist OCD type - I'll never forget the day I said screw it to a perfect house. My son was only a couple weeks old and there was stuff everywhere as you mama's know. So walking through the living room while carrying him, I kicked a blanket on the floor out of my way and thought this is my life now. And guess what? It's ALL GOOD!

[@9384cows]

There comes a point in your life when you have to let go of the past to make room for your future!

[@jesc7596]

great new series! thank you! love the advice & insight 👏

[@autumnclack6073]

I declined to be in the wedding party for a friend because her now husband is a narcissist and did not consistently treat her well. I told her I will always love her and be there for her, but because I love her I can only want the best for her. It didn't stop her from getting married, but it did give her an oulet when things are rough. She also knows I'll always be honest with her. We are still friends. Her husband knows, and quite surprisingly, 20 years later, she still wants my approval. I just wouldn't have felt like a true friend if I wasn't honest with her.

[@kittygartland5305]

Michel I wish I was as wise and mature at your age as you are !!! It would have saved me so much heart ache!!! Now I have a daughter your age and I am very proud of the women she has become. It's my 42nd anniversary today and am so happy we finally grew up ! 😊 God Bless You 🙏

[@leslieledezma9096]

I recommend including a retinol in that skincare routine! I typically do vitamin c serum under my moisturizer in the morning and alternate nights with retinol at night 💓 please slowly build a tolerance to retinol!

[@cassandrar8153]

I do exactly this routine too!

[@esterwilson9931]

You have so much maturity and wisdom and eloquence!

[@mickeybooth9892]

My best friend refused to come to my first wedding as they said I was making the biggest mistake of my life a couldn’t watch me blow up my life and boy was they every right at the time it was devastating not to have them there but hubby #1 long gone. ( cheater ) and my bestie is still here 35 yrs later .

[@antheasvlog]

Loooooved these Q&A videos as someone who wishes to have had a big sister 😘

[@1231amandamarie]

Such great advice! I’m in my mid 30’s, and I can’t help but think of how badly my 20 year old self needed to hear these words. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of your viewers. I’m so glad, especially for the younger generations, that we have someone like you to learn from. 💛

[@MichelJanse]

🤍🤍🤍

[@spider-mantobeymaguirefanc9469]

@@MichelJanseI love you so much ❤

[@Sunflowers_220]

So true ! Micheal is such a gem.

[@bekahchapman1646]

As for the in-laws MAKE SURE your spouse will choose YOU over their parents. Or you will either be miserable or not last ESPECIALLY if you choose to have children. I have a pretty rough FIL and it’s taken a long time to basically unbrainwash both his kids away from his crazy self and they both now put their wives (me and my SIL) wayyyy above him ir it would not work at all

[@AudraLeigh01]

I also didn’t understand the “you know when you know” until I met my current boyfriend. 3 years together now and he is my best friend and I love him so much. I just knew…I knew 2 weeks in and have only received confirmation of knowing since ❤

[@ggpink5866]

This was fun, Michel. Keep 'em coming!

[@meganmcgowan827]

I work in mental health and I will say, your advice was so kind, thoughtful, and genuine. Love this. You are a wise big sister to us!

[@MichelJanse]

this means so much🥹

[@heatherhuang6404]

Love your perfectionism recommendations. Also loving your food videos. Your alternatives for gluten and working with things you have is inspiring.

[@bernadetteerdmann9095]

Wish you a wonderful day! Also love this series …

[@MichelJanse]

Thank you!! You too friend🥰

[@darlenegrit6959]

Hi Michel, love this type of content. You are a very kind and caring person. You give very solid advice and as someone that is older , I think is great advice , I wish I had your insight when I was your age!

[@maryannkilduff8659]

Love this, you did a great job! ❤

[@ValthatBish]

would you ever resign the contact that has you on a set schedule

[@user-mv2tg8hc8c]

When we are young it’s hard to notice or tell when we are seeing red flags. Unless you have great formation, great people around us pointing out concerns, and us being truly open to see the whole picture, it can be very hard to see.

[@ChristineS-sf3rc]

That was good Michel... yes, to once a month🎉😄 Thank you for your time. God bless you❤❤

[@bethanysmith7554]

I loved this!

[@victoriaamira5390]

Love this thumbnail!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@maxonrylee]

I really appreciate your cooking content also ✨

[@daleadoherty7000]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't stay because of your kids. Leave and start a new life for yourself and your kids. You have to be happy to raise happy children!!!

[@ritabarnes2440]

I always enjoy these!

[@MichelJanse]

I’m so glad!🥹

[@isabellalacy9901]

Ahh Michel!! I love this so much and I love these chatty vlogs so much. Thank you for always being yourself and showing your day to day life. You are such an inspiration to me and so many other people. Thank you for being vulnerable and authentic with us and I love that about you. Ilysm and I hope you’re having an amazing day 💕

[@MichelJanse]

Thank you so much Isabella!!🫶🥰

[@kelseywinterhalt6468]

Interesting Q&A section of advice around two! I love your Q&A advice about everything about marriage and dating. 😊

[@kathysmith1451]

I love your food videos! I can't afford most of the ingredients 😢

[@marcyfalconer1275]

As an older woman, great advise! You have "your head on your shoulders" Michel. Thank you for the video.

[@MichelJanse]

This is kind, thank you🥹

[@olivet.9948]

Ok but I really want to try that matcha!!

[@Eclecting]

Thanks for the advice for content creators! You are a breath of fresh air.

[@AllieEm]

I've been so busy that I haven't been watching KZbin but when I do I immediately go to you :) love this video, love you, and what you are doing with your channel 💛💛

[@elothegreat3011]

Please keep doing these! You have very good advice. ❤❤❤

[@suecorrigan1216]

Love your thoughts on things!!❤

[@ValthatBish]

your 90 will always be amazing I'm so happy you feel that

[@kadeesalisbury]

thank you for being yourself + humble enough to share some of the harder things we don’t usually hear about. wishing you + jordy all the love 🪩🩷💫

[@rmk7101]

Love this new video style ❤️

[@danielleholcforeman]

These are so good, and I think you're giving such solid advice (so kindly too!). I wish I knew these things in my 20's!

[@janeashton2027]

Making the first move towards a guy, that doesn't like to have a conversation with any woman, he is very quiet and he is a mommy's boy, and he still lives at home with mommy

[@DianneBunting]

oh the things I could say about this but~~Michel, you are a beautiful soul with a wonderful life with an incredible man. And you just keep shine shine shining because you my sweet girl are worth it. Love an ole lady from Ontario Canada mwahhhh

[@MichelJanse]

This is so kind, thank you 🥹

[@megstarbright]

Love these videos!

[@kcmorris4875]

LOVEEEE these so much!!!! Thank you Michel you are so inspiring, kind, gentle and graceful. xxxx

[@nadinepotgieter9594]

You give really good advice...🎉❤

[@leeg9787]

I loves these videos. Thanks for sharing! ❤

[@MichelJanse]

I’m so glad you like them!🥰

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

Love your channel ❤

[@lizzygrace6322]

Like the Q&A videos!

[@Callisi]

I looove your videos! Have a wonderful day! Love from Greece!😊

[@marianamoore5943]

Love this !

[@user-kj2zi9ui1g]

Who on earth would want to stay friends with your ex husband. He cheated and lied, terribly, and more. No one good I’d bet. Not to project

[@ValthatBish]

the lil screw you omg i love the attitude

[@MichelJanse]

😂😂😂

[@dianaallen5700]

Yeah every time she says something like that I lose it. My dog is still looking at me funny. So unlike her but I love it. Screw you comes outta my mouth 10 (good day) to 20 (better day😁) times a day and that's me being nice. I really don't tolerate stupidity well. Anyways... Coming from Michel that makes my day. Atta girl...

[@crisslpz___]

Where was the question about splitting finances? 😅

[@SandyMath-xq5ve]

Love these sisterly advice videos! I’m nearly twice your age and absolutely could not have given such thoughtful advice in my 20s. You will help a lot of people. ❤

[@MichelJanse]

🥹

[@bethanysmith7554]

Thanks for helping us girls enforce healthy boundaries too 😊❤️

[@MichelJanse]

So important!

[@lvlysticgirl]

I thought your advice was great!

[@cetinozden6937]

Hello love you're amazing ❤❤❤

[@How.Dare.You.]

Do you think partner noticing pretty women in public and looking at them longer than 3s or giving 2nd glimses is a red flag?

[@owbliviow]

😍 Nice video! I have a funny request, is it possible that you realize a new video on KZbin where you make a funny hairstyle on a boy hair ( Mohawk or spike ? ) With gel! It will be very cool! Thank you

[@user-wi5iz8py3n]

For some of these questions, I would question why people are asking you to answer them so publicly… the questions seem to be manipulating you into defending things that are no one’s business

[@ValthatBish]

Hi Team

[@charlenedelange3934]

Hi friend 🎉🎉 have a lovely day

[@MichelJanse]

Hello!! You too🥹🥰

[@emily57644]

Your shirt where is it from?

[@MichelJanse]

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[@mariamangion21]

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[@MichelJanse]

🥹🤍

[@eeshazor]

I wonder how big the backlog is of people who watch your videos, support your sponsors, etc. but can't communicate with you bc you haven't accepted their messaging invitations on IG. I can't be the only one?? And I am by no means a random weirdo trying to send inappropriate photos or something, lol 🤣. I can't even go and delete super old messages so that I DON'T look like a creep, until my message request is accepted >

[@CarolJoyable]

Respectfully disagree with your advise on the woman that has a husband that cheats but they have two kids. The adult decision would be to put the children first and let them live in a home with two parents. She chose the wrong man but the kids shouldn’t pay for it. They both need to behave civilized toward one another and focus on raising their kids. Time to keep the door shut on their sexcapades and suck it up until the kids are 18. Unless he harms her or them physically, she needs to stay in the home with him.

[@CharisBombela]

No absolutely not.

[@kge6492]

Only if the cheating spouse is a good parent. If they are both bad spouse and bad parent, clear reason to take them away.

[@CamrynCarter-wx2es]

you’re the best big sister ever!!!🩷🩷 your videos make my day so much better! thank you for all you do!

[@MichelJanse]

This is so sweet🤍🤍

[@SuzyqLimon]

I liked it, but missed notification to submit questions, help me see it? I do follow you on Instagram

[@ValthatBish]

[@whitttrujillo8470]

I LOVE these. I did not submit any questions but a lot of these actually helped me and applied to my life currently. Thank you!🩵💙

[@diane_1904]

Keep these up. You have a wonderful perspective of life ❤