Biggest Dating Red Flags, Dealbreakers For Women, Date a Coworker? & More!

In this video, Shaylee joins me for a Q&A! I had you guys submit questions on my instagram and I think it's great to get another woman's perspective on these. If you'd like to participate in videos like this in the future, be sure to follow me on instagram!
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[@jontalll7247]

Real life is not social media. People have real issues, real insecurities. If women don’t like it, tooo bad... deal with it.

[@tannerjoust1263]

Yes, don’t expect men to bend to your expectations when women themselves aren’t willing to change.

[@Shah-of-the-Shinebox]

Real life has no filters

[@Law19157]

I think both men and women have to deal with their insecurities before entering into a relationship otherwise the relationship will suffer. You have to be the best version of you.

[@KeijiGer]

@@tannerjoust1263 Well said sir, thats why you should always be 100% honest - if she dont want you at your worst, she did not deserve you at your best. Same for the opposite obviously

[@dylantrott18]

Unfortunately people share their real life stories out there on social media

[@FitWithRyan_]

“If you’re a girl 5’2”, you don’t need to be dating a 6’ man.” Yes, Courtney!

[@usmc1992usmc]

I’ve known a LOT of short guys in my life who have SERIOUS game. Like, you don’t even think of them as short because they don’t think of themselves as short. For example, I knew a 5’6” italian dude about 10 years ago who literally had hot chicks lining up for him. His confidence was off the charts. He was in good shape, dressed well and confident.

[@GLDn1]

I'm 3 inches taller than my younger brother. The game is real. That kid can pull.

[@drip369]

Yeah, I'm a 5'6 Italian German with smooth style, funny and creative game, broad shoulders, narrow waste and a powerlifting booty, and my head is only down when I'm watching where I'm stepping. We can be intimidating so the more you smile guys, the friendlier you'll come off as

[@locomotive5A]

5"6 is not short dude

[@Rick_Cleland]

@@locomotive5A, You have Lord Farquaad as your profile photo.🤣🤣🤣

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

Great point - ReconMarine 1969! Confidence is everything, if you have the right attitude, and belief system - the world is your oyster, it doesn’t matter how tall you really are! We only start running into trouble when we start putting limitation on ourselves, and let negative thoughts enter our heads. If a woman doesn’t like you because you’re too short, it’s not your problem, it’s hers - and she probably wasn’t the right fit for you anywhere. Just learn to work with what you got, and be happy - life is too short to be focusing on things you obviously cannot control! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@Shreadington]

1- Don't dip your pen in the company ink. Been there a few times long ago. 2- I did the dating friends thing. We established a code of we'll date but if we want to hook up with someone else we tell each other so we remain friends. If was great until she got overly jealous of any other girl I'd talk to. I broke it off with her, lost my best friend, BUT found my wife of 18yrs in return. We've talked a few times over the past 20 years and it was like none of that happened. We communicate just as we did when we were friends.

[@aciddevil]

This is an extremely rare case....glad you have that :)

[@TheCentennial4]

Wow.

[@whitemakesright2177]

I think you can go back to being friends as long as the "break up" is mutual. If one party still has romantic feelings, and the other doesn't, then the friendship is effectively over until that person gets over their romantic feelings.

[@wadereynolds6546]

There’s so much dishonesty in the dating world today, I know some people lie because they don’t want to hurt somebody’s feelings or have there own feelings hurt from the other individuals backlash but holding the truth is just going to cause more pain and heartache and all you had to do is just be honest and forthright. It’s a pay now, pay more later scenario.

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

Agreed. Just rip the band-aid off.

[@LuccatielD7]

I was under the impression that living with my parents was an instant dealbreaker. In the current state the world is in, it wouldn’t make any sense for me to move out, so I’m glad to know it’s not that big of a deal.

[@Walking.L]

Yeah I’d rather not move out if I can’t afford it even if I get more 😺. My financial well being is more important.

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

try harder at not being poor dude

[@gibememoni]

Like it or not, it is a major deal breaker with women. Especially if you are 24+ years old. If you cant afford rent you need to either level up in life or get a damn roommate. I work with a guy who is 28 and still lives with mom. Its pathetic man.

[@Rustythesuperdehero]

I'm 25 and I bought my own house July and it has done me wonders with women. At this moment in time I'm not looking for anything serious so having girls over is great in my own place, never took girls back when I lived with my parents. It's not the most glamorous but it shows I can look after myself and handle the responsibilities of running a house on my own which gives me confidence and this confidence has definitely got me more attention and noticed more.

[@LuccatielD7]

@@Rustythesuperdehero Congrats on the house! I hope to get my own place in the next few years, but the average price of houses is ridiculous where I live. They’re also very limited.

[@RemyBeast]

5'6er here. So I hangout with a lot of tall guys between the range of 5'11 and 6'5. My experience is that when it comes to going out, you want to be in phenomenal shape, have good hygiene and be one of the better dressed in the group. When it comes to dressing you don't want to over do it though. A watch, modest gold chain if you're into that, maybe a few bracelets but that's it. Some nice slacks that fit well and a fitted shirt with nice shoes really can be enough. Next, you really need to have charisma and it be natural. Your dynamics in the group says it all. If you clearly have a lot of respect and acknowledgement in the group that will show your confidence. You don't want to go out with a motive either, just go out to have a good time with your friends. Have conversations with women when it makes sense, every conversation doesn't need to lead to a phone number. Now having said all that, you're still at a huge disadvantage when you go out lol. Honestly they'll still go for your taller friends. But your advantage is more in the long term and this is my experience. You really don't want to be trying to meet girls in clubs or out at bars in my opinion. You want to meet through mutual friends, common interest, established rapport etc. I'm currently in a relationship, my girlfriend is 5'8. My previous 2 girlfriends were 5'7 and liked to wear heels. They all have told me the same thing at some point, before me they would never have dated a guy shorter than them until they got to know me. In any case, stay strong my short kings lol.

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

This was an excellent comment and i especially liked the advice you gave in the second paragraph. You have to make the best of what you got. Don't dwell on your weaknesses and be confident in your strengths. Plus you still got a girlfriend but that's because you put yourself out there and allowed the women to get to know you as person. I'm 5'9 but i dealt with shyness a lot until i turned 30 and eventually i worked through my insecurities and I'm a better man for it. I'm proud of all you done man 😊👍🏽

[@RemyBeast]

@@GEORGIOARCADE Thanks a lot. Honestly if you let it the struggles can really make you better, forces you to improve.

[@elvisquiff]

Great advice, as a fellow short guy 5'7 who has taller friends, the style advice and getting to know everyone and treating everyone the same is a big win (even if they don't like you, they all have friends who might). Also ask yourself, if they are open and don't want to date a shorter guy at least you know and aren't wasting your time. Take it and move on. Mutual hobbies, sports clubs, close friends parties and family gatherings are much better at meeting people I find. I met my first wife on a blind date set up by my auntie and my second wife through mutual friends so there you go. Honestly, you have longer in the dating sphere than you realize.

[@heathjoints9845]

Life is about making a foid not walk right.

[@adamcollins8907]

Ladies Here is some advice: Don't drop hints. We don't read minds.

[@Law19157]

I'm Indian and living with your parents is a cultural thing. When you're young they take care of you and when you're grown you take care of them. My parents in particular get pretty depressed when I talk to them about having my own place. My dad was very down when my older brother moved out, he's still trying to convince him to move back. I've put off moving out for now because I don't need to and I want to focus on my real estate career. Instead of putting money towards rent I want to place that instead towards my investments. I told them when I make it big and build the Castle I want to build because I love Castles I will have them move in with me. They can sell their current house and use the revenue towards their retirement. But I'm going to make sure all the rooms are studio suites with at least 2 master suites, 1 for me one for them at opposite ends of the Castle. I'm going to also make sure that both of the master suites are sound proof because my mom wants grand kids and I'm not trying to advertise what I'm doing and when I'm doing it if you know what I mean.

[@mitch2214]

Right on! Haha I know what you mean. Currently back with my parents because I can’t afford my own place. Also, I feel less alone at home.

[@ldn0224]

Dude, grow up. You don't owe them anything but basic love and politeness.

[@Law19157]

@@ldn0224 That's your culture not mine. Don't be arrogant. There's 1.38 billion of us, you really have the gal to tell an entire civilization to grow up? You're full of it.

[@RaymondStone]

Regarding the height thing, I'm a 6'1" former model who's never been in a relationship. Even though women probably take height into consideration when evaluating potential partners, trust me when I say it's not one of the dealbreaker attributes, assuming you're in the neighborhood of "normal" height.

[@28goldenboy]

It's not 100% deal breaker but it will influence their decision in choosing you as an initial screening. You might be tall and handsome (ex-model) but if you've never been in a relationship there are clearly many other factors that you're not mentioning that have affected your dating life.

[@generally_good_guy]

I am not a model, but have been called good looking. I am also told very often that I'm a nice guy, and that usually is followed by a 'but', and that is okay as I can accept there's something in my personality that didn't click. But many is the time I have been rejected because of my height, because "I want my guy to be tall" (yes, I have heard it more than a few times, and I am 5'9"). No one has it easy in dating unless they're a classicly good looking person.

[@eon001]

Raymond Stone if you're a 6'1 model that's never been in a relationship, you have WAY bigger issues. I'm guessing you have approach issues and general flirting and closing problems. This isn't an attack on you btw. All men deal with this.

[@generally_good_guy]

@Anek yes, but only statistically. Avg height in North America is 5'10" ; world 5'9". So in the realm of statistics your height is "within the standard deviation" which boils down to there not being a big enough difference to be of issue. However in the dating arena you are short and it literally is considered short by many women including many short women (women

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

youre wasting gods gift.... youre soft

[@Mateogreat]

Sometimes dating a co worker is all you can do in certain industries like if you have a random schedule for work meeting people difficult

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

That's what the good ole internet.

[@lloydkline1518]

Dating a coworker is like having a date with a woman & guy at a bar same bar every day ;; I seen woman had one night stand with male coworkers;; guys were like possess with their one night stand woman,,, sexual intercouse can be like a lust / ❤️ love drug;, need to find another pretty woman to get off lust / love drug sexual intercouse from coworker

[@michaelchambers7691]

Being an introvert, initiate some conversation and make yourself known. Leave a seed behind and something will grow. Keep it simple and smart, leave the seed amongst groups. I met my wife the first time in a group of women, I said something sarcastic and walked off.

[@jmad627]

Dishonesty and disrespect…if I feel disrespected, I walk. It’s that simple.

[@johnsmith-kt7ef]

Yup disrespect is not tolerated don't care if I have feelings or not. I'm done. One of my ex's and I reconnect a while ago (we ended amicably). We were talking about our lives if we were seeing anyone and other things, told her I just ended it with someone a couple weeks before. She asked why told her the basic reason why, and she responded with "yup I remember you never put up with that type of bs from anyone". Even she knew and remembered I don't tolerate disrespect and bs.

[@jmad627]

@@johnsmith-kt7ef good for you. In the past I put up with a lot disrespect, until I didn’t. I just flat out stopped. Now I’m too old and tired to live with the nonsense. It’s better to be alone, than be miserable in a relationship.

[@generally_good_guy]

Dating a coworker may have pitfalls, but try working in the film industry and date outside of it. People outside the industry are used to schedules which is not really a thing in our industry. (known start time but unknown shift end. Routinely work 14hrs, my longest shift being 21hrs)

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

slave

[@generally_good_guy]

@@juanshaftpatel7488 but a very well paid slave. 🤑

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

@@generally_good_guy your massa must love you

[@generally_good_guy]

@@juanshaftpatel7488 indeed they do. I get paid above union scale because they recognize the value I bring.

[@fotismichael1877]

Golden Hour, baby!

[@visaman]

I lived with my parents until I was 51 ( they passed away) and, I had no problem with dating, once I turned 30, actually, I had one date in High School.

[@moonknight4053]

Oh wow, u probly became hella rich tho haha from being there is well dang ain’t that a thing. Did u get married?

[@visaman]

@@moonknight4053 yes, I guess I am rich. No I never married. Coincidence?

[@moonknight4053]

@@visaman Hahaha coincidence haha good one. All the best to you albert

[@marcopadilla3139]

Excellent video as always Courtney 🙌🌌, keep rocking it. I thought it would be interesting to talk about, does social class matter in relationships?

[@Jediknight4jc]

I had a female friend of 13 years who would send me a selfie every day and would act upset if she didn't get to see me at work, and I took these things as indicators of interest and she said she wasn't interested in me. I had a minor crush and some minor feelings for her for years (She was not available so I could never act on them) and I believe she knew how I felt about her. I believe she was just using me for free attention and validation, while she was separating from her husband. Due to this manipulation and some dishonesty on a couple of other issues involving other male "friends" in her life, we are no longer friends and haven't really interacted with one another in nearly 4 months.

[@Coyote-wm5op]

13 years?! That’s a toxic person.

[@beachboy4928]

Thanks for staying classy ladies! You are setting the standard!👊

[@AbletonLiveTechs]

yep! alot of village bicycles out here

[@bradcallahan3546]

FOR WHO?! HAHAHAHAHAHA! YOU CLOWN.

[@ronmance6715]

You two just make too much sense, thanks for doing what you do 🏝😎

[@aaront4472]

Does money make you confident?

[@annatar6453]

Yes it does

[@drip369]

It shouldn't make you a confident person, but it will make you feel more comfortable day-to-day, and it will make you feel more confident on a date in that you're not going to damage everything going on in Your world because of one night. It can also make you feel more confident with girls trying to find their best possible option although if you start a date or a first encounter situation with the topic of money, she will drain you. Your capital shouldn't come up until you guys have a feel for each other and what each other are looking for because again if you start it with money, that will be her Only focus

[@adamlong3885]

The real question is does the girl use your money for her benefit or for your benefit?

[@drip369]

@Hubert Humphrey yes. Women don't wanna be embarrassed nor do they wanna feel failure so it's on a man to shower her he's got her, and everything else, covered.

[@ziagno4420]

Money makes you confident indirect, due to the benefits it brings with it. Having money means your a successful man and that attracts women. If a lot of women are attracted to you, you get more confident because you have more options.

[@onlyreality8628]

I wouldn't date a coworker but that's just me. I respect others' decisions but when I head to work, I go to learn, contribute and be productive ultimately in a friendly yet professional environment. Nice work ladies, I love the collaboration 😍👯‍♀️👏

[@Dahmer_Jeff]

You can still do all those things you listed AND be dating a co-worker! We often spend more time at work than with family or other social settings. Meeting significant others at work is actually very common. Its not taboo if you're both adults about it.

[@MrDee-ct7gi]

Never date a coworker because the walls talk and it could get awkward, never date a stranger without doing research on how they are, who they be with, and make sure there is mutual interests and she's not just looking for a free night out with wine n dine.

[@importantie]

I love graphic tees, if u style well you can wear anything. Further than that, getting the right graphics shows a lot of personality. I personally like to collect merch of artists that I'm into, girls that like the same music immediately link. It's chill. I do agree though if you're not into fashion much (like I am), stay away from graphic tees. If it fits your style however, it absolutely slaps. I'm thinking of buying vintage tees of bands that I enjoyed as an angsty teen, I've often bonded over this phase lmao. Also in addition, I've recently bought blue santal by Comme des Garcons. Would recommend if anyone here likes Jazz Club.

[@KenronTheGamer]

I feel like they don't give a reason why they hate them.

[@Anamnesia]

Re: Cancels or Flakes. Yeah, this happened to me recently. In messaging, it felt like she was not "into" me & was more-or-less "going through the motions" of dating, without any real interest of dating. I tried a few times to meet her, but in the end I woke up one morning & realized; This woman has a low interest in me. So I wrote to her saying nicely; I've endeavored to engage with you (her), however I feel we have very different views & that meeting up isn't something you want (she wants). I wish you well with your searching. She was very emotive/animated in her response... I feel like I 'dodged a bullet' there, considering we hadn't met after messaging a half-dozen weeks online.

[@m_heavy8208]

When you stop living for split tail and find purpose and your own happiness, great things in all aspects of life will happen.

[@whitemakesright2177]

Agreed. There are few things more pathetic than a grown man who is concerned with "getting laid."

[@jayquanfloyd9384]

Being an introvert is one thing but having that and social anxiety is my weakness today. I'm just good with being surrounded by so much people probably crap at you for being weird when you're a quiet person

[@Atombender]

2:00 that's a great point by Courtney. The 5'6 guy she was dating was constantly having issues with it while never realizing that him feeling bad about "only" being 5'6 was making her feeling bad about being even smaller ("only" 5'5). Completely lack of self-awareness.

[@N7SpecterElite]

Ha, I'm 5'7 and once dated a woman who was 6'6. I guess im one of those guys that likes tall women.

[@fischersfritz468]

As a very tall man (196cm, about 6/5) I can absolutely tell you: height does not matter. It didn't give me a single date. All dates I had were from an online-site where height is not shown.

[@robi6317]

what site is that?

[@finesse3417]

Height matters. However, if you're ugly and out of shape, girls are still going to reject you. In a mathematical or scientific language: Height is necessary but not sufficient on its own

[@joelmccoy9969]

'Nothing you got is hot' is a negotiating stance. 'Whatever you are is just barely good enough'. Get ready for breadcrumbs, or go find a woman with a libido that is hot for you because she will look like her mother in fifteen years anyway.

[@obone925]

You both are awesome and Shaylee is super coolI loved your comments about height, I think you did a great thing by telling the guys that there’s nothing wrong with their height. Just need to act cool, and move on from the women that will dismiss you over an inch or two.

[@woodlandhamilton4348]

You two should start a podcast over these topics. I would call the podcast: The Connoisseur Connection. You two would talk openly about fashion trends, how to manage a positive attitude for personal well-being, give expert advice on dating and relationship goals, invite random guess for open-minded questions and comments, show integrity and dedication to provide raw, factual, data to your audience, and promote products/services that will provide the greatest benefit for your audience. I would do this podcast on Spotify since they are more open over what you say. KZbin has a way to demonetize a video if it is even slightly offensive. In the short-run, expect a low numbers of listeners. It will not be something like the Joe Rogan Experience either, but I will promise this: you give guys like me the expertise to living a confidence life physically and mentally. Let me know what you think?

[@longliveartimus]

I use graphic tees as my workout shorts and it’s just sports legends that I admire hopefully that’s ok I played soccer all the way through college but I have some tees w my fave athletes and only wear to gym

[@elirobinson4178]

How do you separate lust from passion in the honeymoon phase, or a new relationship in general?

[@jacegallagher8589]

My first true love was my height. One of the first things she did was ask to make sure I was not insecure about her height. To me it does not matter. When you brought up living with parents. I do not live with parents. I live out of a hotel room. I just got to a point where my credit is rebounding from some mistakes I made. I am self-sufficient but am always afraid I will be judged for being 28 and not having a home yet.

[@Law19157]

As for my height I'm actually very happy being 5'5" because I love sports cars and am able to fit comfortably in all of them where as I see taller guys 6'0" and over who also love sports cars but have a harder time fitting in them, especially with helmets on track days. One of my favorite KZbinrs Ed Bolian from VinWiki can just barely fit in his Lamborghini Murcielago, you can see his head touching the roof of that car. I definitely have aspiration to own that car myself one day, I fit better lol. I've never had an issue with taller women, I've found myself attracted to a lot of them high heels or no high heels makes no difference to me.....but 6'0" and over is too much though, I can't reach her at that point lol anywhere between 5'0" to 5'8" is fine for me.

[@napoleonmdusa8877]

FYI: 5'7" is not really short--try under 5'4" before a man is considered short since 5'4" is the average height of an American woman. Most women want the men they date to be at least 4" taller, so for a guy who's 5'3" tall, it's best for him to look for women who are 4'11" or under. Unfortunately, there's not a lot of single women in America that are at or under that height.

[@generally_good_guy]

Try the Phillipines for a good choice of petite women. 👍

[@robi6317]

if ya gotta go global, you go global. however, you can also easily aim 1-2 inches taller and find women that are ok with it.

[@markquinn1216]

5 '7' is very short when it comes to dating. Hate to break it to you.

[@bakedalaska4363]

No, it's not. I'm 5'7" and I've dated and had intimate relationships with so many women that I've lost count. I'm not trying to brag but people need to hear this. Being taller can be helpful on paper (dating apps) but you can substitute other factors like being well dressed or well built for tallness. It helps to be good looking but that's independent of height anyway. Attractiveness exists on a continuum. Get as many things as possible working for you and you'll have more dating options (quality or quantity - you get to choose) than the average man has time or energy for.

[@robi6317]

@@bakedalaska4363 im in between 5'6 and 5'7 and same for me. tons of dating (and long dry spells too) my whole life. totally lost count. usually im with/going after/getting women shorter. a few taller. if you have game theyll let it slide. but of course who wants someone a lot taller anyway - the tallest i'd go is 5'9 otherwise its just uncomfortable

[@scottmoorhouse5664]

Courtney , you and Shaylee together works really good!!!

[@Firesword534]

There's a time and place for a graphic tee in my opinion. If you're a fan of something and are going to a show or event for that thing, rock it out. Could be a band, sports team, comic con, or similar. However try to still follow some of the other style guide lines when wearing a graphic tee. Get one that fits, keep it clean, etc. I have a couple Power Ranger graphic tee's. They are not in my everyday rotation. However come time for the local comic con, those are my go-to shirts.

[@lordofgingers]

1)Face, Height, and Body. It's a lot more detailed than this when you talk specifics, but if you pass the basic looks test for the girl in question, at worst her reaction to you is completely neutral. Factors that amplify this are your hygeine, your fashion, and your facial expressions and voice. 2)Game - this is where you get to express yourself a bit more. How perceptive you are, charismatic, well-spoken, witty, smart, funny, compeptent, assertive, etc. Prowess of a certain variety is also factored in here (it's one thing to seal the deal. It's another to deliver on the deal) Masculinity could be melded into this. I usually like to separate it out to prove the point all on its own, but I think it's fine to just include it here. If you get past these two points, then skills and protection capability come into place 3)Protection - this could take on a few forms. The most obvious one is combat. Being able to defend against threats to you and your family. Other skills that tie into this may be handyman skills and knowing the legal systems and things like this to protect you and yours in more nonphysical means. The point is you are capaable of ensuring reasonable safety and that's attractive to women and makes them comfortable and secure. 4)Provision - whether you like it or not, hypergamy is a thing. There's no way around it and we have seen what happens when it is unbound and the market is deregulated. As a man, this means you demonstrate status and resources. With resources, it's all about maximizing assets and income while minimizing liabilities and expenses. Some people work 6 figure 9 to 5s. Some are self employed. Some are trust fund babies. Everyone has their lot and it is what it is. The key takeaway on the wealth front is having resources. On the status side, which usually goes hand in hand with wealth is having the ambition to pursue such wealth in the first place. Having a social network, an education, a solid mindset, and a strong disregard for social disapproval. (You do what you think is best and don't let others' opinions guide your decision making. Instead, people look to YOU). These are marks of provision and are very valuable. 5)Character - Thisi can be summed up as the personality traits, the morals, values, ethics, hobbies, and common ground and so forth. Obviously this is the one that everyone says matters more than everything else, but behavior seems to NOT reflect that. Assuming the sufficient thresholds are met for the first 4, THEN this matters. And I don't think I need to go into detail because even the most bluepilled man knows this matters to some degree. In short, I think a lot of men's failures in dating are tied to them not being honest with themselves about two things 1)The importance of the first 4 things I outlined AND 2)Where they sit on the totem pole when comparing what is desirable to what they actually possess. So don't lie to yourselves. Know where you're at, plan out the changes you want to make, make the improvements, and reap the rewards.

[@anthony9013]

This is very true. I think part of the reason men disregard women's dating advice is because they always seem to emphasize these attraction points backwards (4 as most important and 1 a least) while we know from observation and in our heart of hearts that for a woman to even care if you have integrity, you have pass all those other attraction points first

[@anthony9013]

5 attraction points*

[@lordofgingers]

@@anthony9013 yup. But if you’re young and you KNOW this information and accept it, your life just got a lot easier because what women want isn’t a mystery anymore

[@finesse3417]

There's no such thing as game. Unless you want to play her game where you are her jester and constantly entertaining her for the hope of maybe getting the honor of dating her.

[@grondhero]

I think there are exceptions to "don't date a co-worker," but people can't _force_ the exceptions. The big exception is if you work in different departments and don't constantly see each other. You get both separation and togetherness without invading each other's space and you don't create any awkward situations about helping because one needs help and helping because you want to spend time together (and reducing productivity). A related exception would be something like if you're both teachers. (There are some jobs where it culturally makes sense to date a coworker.) You each understand the ins-and-outs and bureaucracy of the work - you have known schedules and understand the "team meetings" and summers. Also, you're really not going to see each other much and when you do it'll be in passing or at lunch.

[@lifestoryguy]

As an introvert myself, I'd say we have a superpower: we are often very good listeners. We might even come across as a bit mysterious, too which I suspect is attractive to a lot of women used to the more talkative kind of guy. Also, if we become comfortable with giving prolonged eye contact the combination of eye contact and deep listening skills may make some women feel really understood and accepted just don't forget to smile, crack a joke now and then and turn up as your authentic self.

[@ryans6699]

Cologne: Maison Margiela; ‘Replica’ is amazing.

[@xtimemachinex]

I love Courtney and all her friends. They’re all the solid cool chicks we quality men appreciate and enjoy their opinions.

[@SquallSZ]

Please people don't fall for that, just screen her face at 0:39. Because with due respect, your face Courtney.... is obvious. You don't even ' believe what you say. The sole fact that the "confidence" is everytime mentioned for short guys means that this quality is a CURSE. That they are condemned to have it if they want a chance. So Ironical that confidence is a CONDITION for short guys whereas it is just a BONUS for tall guys. So please guys go look for people who will rather tell you that it sucks and tell you how to live with it rather than grab on small fake hopes. The funny thing is that courtney seems so innocent and so cool to hang around but her and her friends are the same girls that don't even calculate your existence if you're ugly or average. And we can't blame them. What we can blame, is that they profit from your frustrations (I'm including myself. No need to point out the obvious to attack me). And HELL they profit à lot from it you have no idea. This glimmer of hope is what bring them views and money. A lot. But I'm not a complete a**hole here, those advice are still good for above average and attractive people and somewhat attractive. For the rest of us, I suggest some dose of grief and search for ways to live with this body, face and height of ours.

[@tomasdeleondominguez7693]

I agree overall. I just note that I have seen plenty of ugly, economically poor guys with atractive women. Some even are chased by them. How they do it? It has always been an illusive mystery for me and I am 57.

[@garmisra7841]

@@tomasdeleondominguez7693 Maybe they were good listeners, made their interest clear, and didn't let some imagined disparity of looks stop them from approaching and getting to know these ladies.

[@capriomichael1879]

You both rock haha, thx for the advice! :)

[@jamesj5469]

I like your channel cause you don't sugar coat it and your not talking about stupid games like some channels like "secret tip to make he obsessed with you " ugh

[@hansen370]

"If you're in a band and looking a little punky..." Lol . That was funny

[@martintanz9098]

RE: this height thing. Only once did a woman comment on my height back in the day. And she was maybe 5;3" and overweight. I wasn't the thinnest guy in the world, but in those days, I was in pretty good shape, had a good job, and dressed better than average. My takeaway from this was a couple of possibilities. 1. She was delusional, I understand a very tall girl saying she wants someone equally tall. Makes sense. Or alternately, a girl who accurately looks at herself as a 9 or higher, having high standards, because she correctly views herself as someone who can go out with whoever she wants. But, if someone is, say, average or slightly above average at best, say a 6 or a 7, she might be kidding herself to think she can attract a guy who is a 9. 2. After dating me for a few months casually, she felt something wasn't connecting (and she was right, I felt that too) , but the only thing she wanted to talk about was my height. 3. She really wanted to break up with me and was afraid I might try to talk her out of it. But if she said the dealbreaker for her was she wanted a guy over 6' tall, what can I do, promise to grow 4 inches? Finally, I did a bit of a deep dive on height distribution in the US. For men, 5'5" is pretty short, and indeed that is only the 9th percentile for men in the US. But 5'5" for women is the 68th percentile for women, so even a very short guy can still look eye to eye with a taller than average girl. If a guy is just a bit taller, say 5;7", still pretty short by modern standards, about the 25th percentile, but he is still as tall as the 90th percentile woman.

[@GhilliedWDB]

9:56 This is the problem with dating. It's very possible that something is going on where they aren't able to hangout. People to quick to give up. But hey I'm single and happy also not looking.

[@oldschoolweekend]

I’m 5’5” and never seem short to other people irl but it is the primary screening tool for women online. Match a cute girl and the first question is how tall are you? I’m honest and get ghosted. You chalk it up to well, I don’t want someone that shallow anyway but it can only happen so many times before it becomes an insecurity and you become defeated. Men are rational creatures and make decisions based on patterns like stove’s hot, won’t touch it again. This is why I’ve also stopped approaching girls, women are automatically on defense, so they don’t want to talk and just say I have a boyfriend. I’m 26, I would say I’m a 7 in looks but others say higher, dress well, I’m fit, I’m a warrior in a garden, everything else in life is on the up and up. Health, I have a boat, I’ve lived abroad, I’ve failed 3 business start ups, onto my 4th. I’m a vet, I have 2 trucks now and I’m going to mechanic school, I’m a licensed ship captain, I choose not to make 6 figures to focus on being an entrepreneur. Maybe I’ll be going back to college but damn man, I’m feeling hopeless, not that modern western women exactly float my boat. Seems like the height thing is a new trend too, I had no problems whatsoever prior to like 2018/9. Another anecdote, it seems that women have an innate ability to know how they look in pictures, like they can pick their own best photos or see what doesn’t look good and course correct. Oh well, I’m happy and have a pretty good life just bothers me I don’t have anyone to share it with. Even if that day comes, they wouldn’t have gone through the wringer with me and will most likely be a gold digging Karen with a high body count from college days.

[@AndreLuiz-wg1cu]

It is ok to be both introverted and extraverted. Well then, with your permission Courtney, I would like to suggest a you tuber that helps men approach women just by being who we are, with no tricks nor lies. May I?

[@teddychalgren]

Monday morning 10 January 2022. Thanks, Courtney. Very helpful. Take care and all the best.

[@damianogrady6157]

Enjoyable video ladies keep up the great work.

[@Bigdaddyslasher]

I never let anyone disrespect any woman I dated. I love your rule one lie and done. I have lived my life with that rule.

[@dogbarbill]

13:18 You can easily get fired for it once HR hears about it.

[@RisingChaos]

I'm 5'3". I've simply given up. Resigning myself to my fate has been less painful than busting my ass only to get nothing back for my effort anyway.

[@KingDavid00]

I hope you find your special lady someday I know it’s tough sometimes but we gotta have some type of faith man

[@finesse3417]

That's the right choice. Don't let people gaslight you. Most men under 5'11 will struggle to get laid on a consistent level unless they have a gorgeous face.

[@moonknight4053]

Keep being a king David, good words

[@KingDavid00]

@@moonknight4053 I know what it’s like to want to give up but I don’t think anyone should quit on themselves we live in a cruel world but that don’t mean we shouldn’t strive to change it for the better and I love Moon Knight btw lol

[@lakelanddentalarts]

1. I'm 5'6" and all of the few women that I've been involved with have been taller than me. My wife is 5'9". If a woman says something about your height, have fun with her. Give her a playful smile and ask her, "Are you asking if I think you're pretty enough to climb a ladder so I can smooch with you?" Women appreciate men who are secure enough to readily indulge in a little self-deprecating humor. 2. The point about "bros" was spot on. If your SO is not your best friend, then she is not the correct priority in your relationship.

[@benjaminhurlburt3085]

I think one thing women need to work on is if men have insecurities women seem to jump on us instead of listening to us. You want us to listen to you when you’re insecure. No one listens to us when we’re insecure. We need help working through it too. Women don’t see that. Like for instance I was insecure about how my body looked, I told that to a girl that’s a friend to mine and she got so angry! She was like if you don’t like how your body looks, what do you think of mine? In my mind I was like that had nothing to do with you! 🤨🤪

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

youre weak bro

[@benjaminhurlburt3085]

@@juanshaftpatel7488 That’s your opinion

[@benjaminhurlburt3085]

@@juanshaftpatel7488 I’m just stating men aren’t the only ones that need to work on our personalities.

[@BrotherK-ex2co]

But what about her?????.......

[@benjaminhurlburt3085]

@@BrotherK-ex2co Guys are always trying to support women when it comes to self esteem issues.No one supports us.

[@jleano609]

Us introverted guys have to get a bit more consciously “out there”, that is true. I know I had to learn this lesson, which I did about 20 or so, after a realized beautiful women weren’t just going to fall into my lap even if I was smart, fit, well dressed etc etc. An extroverted girl and an introverted guy can be a pretty good combination in fact. All women are insecure, even those that seem the most brash. If you can just be a girls ROCK, even a very quiet one, that is what many women are looking for. I don’t mean putting her on a pedestal or doing things for her that are not reciprocated, but women can be quite chaotic and being that stable center is what many crave. That and the real strength of introverts is because we are not flapping our gums all the time we are LISTENING. Again, what girl doesn’t want someone to listen to her, reflect back what she has said and not try and solve her problems but just tell her she’s been heard? We also tend to have interesting hobbies. We need to learn how to talk about them in ways that others can access, but some of the most interesting people I know are quiet, focused introverts who are busy doing their thing. And if you can find another girl with interesting hobbies, they don’t even have to be the same, you just have to respect them and ask after them. My wife has always been a great crafter, sewer and cook. When a girl realizes that a guy “ gets her” and is interested in what she does, that’s gold dust.

[@Ironman4u]

Bottom line... Be comfortable in your skin...work with what you have. Improve & control what you are able to. Nobody's ever perfect! Have an " attitude of gratitude" 🙏 Be positive, confident & be 😊 happy with who and what you are. If not, then make changes...

[@vincenthoebeke5506]

Hello, you give some great advice for "short guys" who are around 5'7. Some of that is useful for me also, but I'm actually much shorter than that I'm 5'1. I've accepted that it is what it is and tried to work (successfully) on my confidence in other ways (work out, level up, etc.). But obviously there is quite a difference between being somewhat short (5'7) and being really short when it comes to dating. You wouldn't believe some of the things I've been told! I've been told that I am unworthy of love. I've been told "you should probably turn gay or be single forever" and many other gems like that. I can brush that off as just a few bad apples, most are more polite about it, but it still comes back to the fact that no girl wants to date a guy who is 5'1. Any advice? Thanks in advance!

[@geekiepooh808]

I know/met a guy who is even shorter than you. He was 4' 10".

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

...Gee, sorry, man. Is it that you had an endocrinological disorder that led you to being so short?

[@McCRBen]

Maybe take up chess where there is no luck or advantage involved. Just watch out for Elizabeth Harmon !

[@ShadeTreeKennyT]

Another great video! You two are adorable. 🙂

[@carlosverde-datingtips7001]

I agree. Confidence is everything, if you have the right attitude, and belief system - the world is your oyster, it doesn’t matter how tall you really are! We only start running into trouble when we start putting limitation on ourselves, and let negative thoughts enter our heads. If a woman doesn’t like you because you’re too short, it’s not your problem, it’s hers - and she probably wasn’t the right fit for you anywhere. Just learn to work with what you got, and be happy - life is too short to be focusing on things you obviously cannot control! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

[@heathjoints9845]

Grifter.

[@ImBrockatron]

When people say you'll find the right person... I won't be experienced enough when I do so she'll probably leave... or not get with me in the first place.

[@BigPapaSam96]

Well most people will understand if you still live at home with your parents since living on your own in BC is really expensive. I do agree that you should be honest and If they judge you for that then they are not the one for you

[@BigPapaSam96]

@Milan Vukovic Lol apparently we live in a world that is expensive

[@mikeg1433]

A lot of dudes tend to add a few inches when asked how tall they are and, unless they’re tall themselves, a lot of women pretty much lose count if you’re taller than like 5’9” so I think the whole 6’2” thing is super arbitrary lol.

[@Kvh47]

I think if you really like your coworker you should go for it. Finding a new job is easier than finding a partner.

[@kevrokka.d.9749]

Don't shtt where you eat.

[@dogbarbill]

Don't lay your meat where you make your bread.

[@Kvh47]

@@kevrokka.d.9749 you can use as many food analogies as you want I find love more important than a career. plus as I said nowadays finding a new job is easy.

[@angelvillarreal3648]

Ehhhh…..

[@TheRixtah1]

LMAO. No, no it is not

[@shamtactics4712]

I’ve been stood up the last 10 first dates

[@bl4ckw1z4rd3]

Regarding the question with the co-worker . I have friends who are still together . In my case, I am very much in love with a woman at work , I have no idea how to get it out of my mind . Although he refused me 3 times when I asked for a Date

[@Razear]

Height tends to be one of those things that most women will be unforgiving on because they don't want to feel like the dominant one in the relationship. There's even leg lengthening procedures conducted to add a few inches of artificial height by breaking the femur and inserting metal plates. Even short girls, like 4'11" to 5'2" will only screen for guys that are significantly taller than them. I think most people prefer their partner to have a full Brazilian downstairs, both men and women. It's just not aesthetic or hygienic to have an untamed bush.

[@garmisra7841]

I think it'd probably be more sane to just think of height as a preference and not a requirement you know? If the alternative is risky surgery, that just seems crazy to me. Find something good about yourself you want to emphasize, your style, a wicked sense of humor, a DGAF attitude, know how to show her a good time. Tease her and make her laugh until she snorts milk out her nose. Have a thick skin and a positive outlook, honestly it's the best way forward. As far as the hair down below that changes with the times. It was popular in the 70's but these days some people care about it and some don't.

[@CanucksxDream]

What do you think about interracial relationships? I am shocked after all this time, no one ever asked you about them.

[@rodneymorris2695]

This was right on point Thank you

[@tomasdeleondominguez7693]

Excellent advises to have in mind.

[@lakerskid2013]

As far as graphic T-shirts go, what about the types that are sports styles? I personally don’t think it hurts anything if you’re just wearing a shirt that has a sports team you’re supporting. Usually most of those types don’t cover up much of the shift so it’s hardly noticeable most times.

[@The_Alpha_Kevin]

once i wrote with a girl and we made a phone call too a views day before the date but at the day where the date was she blocked me you have any idea ?

[@jleano609]

She just wanted some attention to boost her ego. When it came time to actually meet she realized you weren’t that attractive, or she has had her own self confidence issues, so she flaked. Nothing you can do, just write her off as a time waster.

[@moleahy6880]

The question of height keeps coming up again and again. Taller men do have an advantage but as long as a man is relatively average in height (5' 7" to 5' 10"), it is not a deal breaker. Definitely work out because it's pretty rare that very tall men have great bodies - it is much tougher to develop them. Cultivate your personal style by dressing better and improve on your grooming. Find the most flattering hairstyle and whether you look best clean shaven, or with stubble, or a beard. Learn a foreign language, especially one that is perceived as being sexy such as Spanish or French. The other thing a man of average height can do is target cultures in which the women tend to be shorter such as Latinas and Filipinas. They are also used to being around men who aren't quite so tall.

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

You have some great points and provide some good solutions. I think the most important thing is to work with what you got. My cousin is like 5'5 and has never had a problem getting girls. Him being confident in himself and working with his strengths definitely helps him a lot.

[@jleano609]

Exactly. Women conflate height with strength, it goes to their subconscious need for “protection”. Shorter guys can hack that attraction cue by being fit, preferably jacked. Some of my more light weight judo buddies have never had trouble getting girls. Smaller framed guys can get cut more easily, a little bit of muscle mass and low fat levels can really lean them out and give classic 6-pack, vascularity etc. that will get the girls all tingly.

[@moleahy6880]

@@GEORGIOARCADE I hear you. My brother in law is about 5' 4" and he was pretty successful in dating. In fact, most of the women he dated were a couple of inches taller than he was. Not super handsome but very charming with a great sense of humor!

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

@@moleahy6880 yup see that's what i mean! He let his personality win them over. Most times that can't happen just online. You have go out in person so women can experience the full version of you. He realized that and I'm happy for him

[@moleahy6880]

@Evidence-Based Health UK If a modern woman isn't attracted to a man's looks or personality, how is she ever going to get close enough to see a man's penis size? Or is your strategy just to whip it out at a bar or nightclub and let your goods speak for themselves?

[@TruckGuy88]

Dating is such a joke nowadays. Best to just stay away from women entirely. Btw I like how these type of videos make it seem like it’s so easy to meet or talk to women, in real life, it’s actually not easy.

[@garmisra7841]

It ain't easy but nothing worth pursuing is No certainty of success, but no guarantee of failure either.

[@ElliottM-ck2wg]

Yeah modern dating is a joke nowadays, especially Tinder for guys! I'd match with people even though I'm 5 foot 7 inches, and then they wouldn't reply and unmatch me and I'd think 'why tf did you swipe right if you're just gonna unmatch me anyway? I'm not annoyed, just confused and think it's pointless. As a short guy, I'm just gonna focus on working many hours per week and focus on hobbies, then go out on the occasional Friday or Saturday night. If I happen to meet someone out then great. If not, so be it- I'll continue with my work!

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@@ElliottM-ck2wg It might have NOTHING to do with your height

[@makattak88]

Such a HUGE KEY is attention. If she likes you she wants all of it. Boys, message her and ask how she is. Ask questions. If she doesn’t like you she will be annoyed by you, if she likes you she will answer ASAP.

[@zalamael]

You nailed it with the height question. Guys who are shorter tend to be insecure about it, and it is the insecurity and low self esteem that makes them unattractive, not their height. However, regarding the female standards of 6ft etc, that is because most women are basing their 'standards' on what other women are saying. They are afraid that if their standards are lower, it suggests that they are lower value, so they pretty much copy other women's standards to avoid being perceived as inferior. Amusingly, anyone who cares more about what their friends think about their partner than they do, is inferior anyway, because only an insecure fool would choose a partner based on what other people dictate to them.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Lol..I'm a woman and don't follow these 'trends ' and never care what anyone thinks. Best height for guys is 5'10.

[@Cantetinza17]

Agreed I'm 4'11, so to be with someone massively taller than me is ridiculous. If your insecure about your height that's a turn off. Yeah I personally like hair. I'm with a man not a boy, just keep it groomed. When it comes to attention for me, I'm the opposite. If the attention stops I'm going to assume your no longer into me and I'll go elsewhere. I like graphic t-shirts, but not for a date. I think it helps me understand your personality. That quote, is sadly so true! I think if it's a coworker that is not on the same floor as you or sometimes isn't on the same schedule as you then I think it's fine, BUT you need to pay attention to whether or not the person is emotionally mature for that because if they aren't STAY FAR AWAY!!! It will bite you in the butt. Smells on men depends on the girl.

[@ImBrockatron]

10:46 yes C, I got turned off real quick when she lied to my face after putting the evidence on instagram...

[@innerfire8937]

I'm a socially awkward introvert that struggles with social anxiety. But I'm at the point where I just don't care if I say something weird because most of the time people think I'm funny.

[@garmisra7841]

That's fortunate! Chicks dig a sense of humor

[@trevorlawrence310]

You two are lovely!

[@MG-qd6im]

Courtster layin' down the law! Preach!

[@lorenzosamaniego684]

I wish there were more girls like you Courtney

[@learnpianofastonline]

I have turned several female friends into lovers. Not sure why it is such a red flag to be friends first. Sometimes that is the only way to get close to a woman. Particularly a beautiful one. leading off with your romantic intentions would shut things down before they even began.

[@starrk7158]

on dating your co-worker. It's simple, just "don't shit where you eat".

[@JuanCarlos-vf5xg]

I LIKE A LOT COURTNEY'S RYAN VIDEOS SO HELPFUL AND INFORMATIVE FOR MEN AND BESIDES. DRESSES UP SO ELEGANT SO CLASSY SO CHICK . BOTH ARE AWESOME. !

[@ahmedboshra7625]

I really like how mature your thoughts are regarding what you present in your channel :) Good job Courtney, keep going

[@johnyaniuk1254]

I wear La Male by Jean Paul Gauthier. Opinion on that fragrance?

[@jimmymcwatters4182]

It's an older fragrance that came out in the 90's but it's one of those timeless fragrances. If you want to stick to the house of Jean Paul Gaultier, I personally would recommend Le Male Le Parfum. It's more modern, has a gorgeous scent and it's a compliment magnet!

[@johnyaniuk1254]

@@jimmymcwatters4182 I believe I know which One that is. It is very similar to the original I wear. I liked it as well. I think I'll Get a bottle of that one too & switch up once in a while. Thanks for the tip.... 👍

[@govannivelazco677]

Choose one brunette or blonde

[@BrotherK-ex2co]

Why not both?

[@grondhero]

A funny story about the height difference. My cousin is 6'6". His wife is ~ 5'2". They were set up on a blind date. My cousin promised he'd go on the date, but wasn't looking forward to it, so he put the first date at some restaurant with spicy, foreign food and followed up with some sport/game he likes that most don't. She was fine with it. He tried a similar attempt on their second date (thinking if she was just being nice, she'd cancel the 2nd date) and she enjoyed it. They've been married over 10-15 years now. :)

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

Do they have any kids? What are their heights?

[@grondhero]

@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 One daughter in middle school who is currently a wee bit taller than mom.

[@scottclark3761]

I love graphic tees. Wear them all the time. Graphic tee and blue jeans. Of course, I am happily married, not dating, and don't care about fashion. It is what it is. I wear whatever's clean. Love seeing Shaylee, by the way! And lying....I have to agree with Courtney here. Integrity is everything. The secret to a marriage that has lasted more than fifteen years is trust. Communication, trust, and being a decent human being. Life is seldom easy, but it usually is just that simple.

[@Roozy_Persepolis]

How can we be a romantic person( buying flowers,fancy restaurant, etc) without crossing the line to look like needy or a simp? When and how can we do romantic things but letting her know that these deeds and acts are just for that purpose,and not out of being weak,desperate,needy, and ...?

[@garmisra7841]

It's easy to say that height's a dealbreaker for women but you don't really know that until you approach and make the effort to engage right? Even on a dating profile I would see it as a preference over a requirement, unless she says Don't bother if you're under 6' or something like that, and if so, it's a Thank you next. One should still try to put their best foot forward - style, social skills, charm, confidence, that can make up for a lot of things.

[@michaelchambers7691]

This reminds me about being in the Navy trying to shower and dudes shaving their balls leaving the hair on the drain which is very inconsiderate. Keep yourself and your own surroundings clean. Keep things nice for others. I keep my bathrooms nice for my wife and daughter.

[@visaman]

Thank you for that mental image.

[@dietmarmuller9965]

They are my roommates

[@caiotorres6156]

i really like these videos

[@thelegendarycamel]

Being a shorter guy, look, know how to talk, invest in yourself, your goals, fitness, and taking care of yourself to be as squared away as possible and have the confidence to know it doesn't matter no matter what tik tok would like you to believe, hell dating a girl that's taller then you ain't bad or if she's the same height, take it in stride and stop having a napoleon complex

[@dubongros3108]

As I hear about short guys... I had a friend who was well above 6' .... Never seen him being approached by a lady . I don't believe it's that magic dealmaker people think it is ...