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[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

Divorce and custody battle stories always make me feel bad... I wish people would learn to work things out. Relationships can become really difficult. Nobody is perfect. I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.

[@oglaskubuot]

I understand why what you're saying is important, and I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@oglaskubuot]

Thank you for this direction. I'll swiftly seek her out online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will yield results for me as well; her absence weighs heavily on my heart.

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

I promise you will not regret it.

[@jholloway23]

You cannot always fix a spouse who is a narcissist and abusive. It does not “always” work out. That is unrealistic.

[@cammierountree5172]

It is very sad when a parent ignores what is best for the child to "get back" at the other parent.

[@deenalove1234]

I had that crazy ex who wanted to hurt me until I remarried.

[@minettesv1205]

I agree. Always 2 sides of the story. Sad when ex couple hate each other and have the kid involve in the divorce. Your ex might not be a good partner but it does not make them a bad parent. If the parent brainwash a kid, whoever the kid is with, that is who the kid will have loyalty with. The relationship of the child with the other parent will be forever tainted. That is sad. I experience blended family and a product of divorce. Good luck to the kid.

[@mommak8342]

I know a few parents who share custody and it seems that they all have horrific relationships and use the kids as pawns.

[@carlypastore]

I applaud Bethenny for not turning away from career related opportunities that put her in the public eye just to be subordinate to the exact directives of the legal system. Bethenny being on housewives or going to public appearances for a business venture is what she would be doing whether going through divorce or not so there’s no reason why it would be detrimental to a child. It shows that she chose NOT to drink the CoolAid served by legal system… smart way to win the long game. So proud of your spirit!!

[@bethennyfrankel]

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[@ginnyleeakaginandtonic3621]

This woman is a legend, a great mother and an all-around amazing human. I hope I get to meet her one day.❤

[@deenalove1234]

Same

[@alymshep]

That man wanted to control and take everything he could from you

[@alymshep]

Horrible dad. I hope fathers day is a nothing day for him

[@catherinebullock9748]

Your ex hasn’t chosen to share his side of this ten year saga. It appears he values your child’s privacy and his relationship with her far too much to monetize the divorce experience.

[@lisathomas6724]

@@catherinebullock9748you think he valued his daughters well being throughout this? You should google what he did, how he did it, the people he used to do the things he did. He was arrested. There was video of what he did at his daughter’s school ( in front of other children & parents). He sent literally thousands of emails, harassing, name calling, threatening, verbally abusing the mother of their child. It’s the way narcissists operate. And they inevitably always have someone like you in their corner, “rah rahing” them on with their altruistic behavior. Only it’s not altruistic. He tried every single way he could to control this woman through their child. There’s a real good reason he doesn’t speak about this. There are videos, receipts, forged documents etc that he knows will be shared. Not to mention his parents were heavily involved in the deception

[@annanorth7997]

When our son divorced with 2 young children, my husband and I refused to take sides. The first year was rough adjusting to the new norm. However, we all remained adults and prioritized the children. They have moved on to new spouses, but we still celebrate holidays and the kid's events and activities together (including all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins). I am a bonus grandmother to my ex daughter in law's baby. The children are happy and thriving.

[@kate4biglittlevoices]

This is how it can and should be- parents that parent with HIGH Emotional Intelligence should be celebrated above all

[@lukehartman9386]

Adulting at its best! Blessings to all!

[@glendajune9140]

Nothing but respect for Bethenny. You’re a wonderful example for your daughter,& all women (young,& older). Stay strong, safe, healthy, happy, productive,& blessed. 💯👍🏾🌺😀🫶🏾💜✝️🙏🏾🇺🇸

[@bethennyfrankel]

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[@nurse499]

I have loved this lady for years! Shes so bold and brave and tries to help other women and i just love her content and how vulnerable and raw she is to help others! Thank you bethenny!

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching!

[@avarismimi]

Yess she’s amazing ❤️🥰❤️

[@southern...8163]

Children should never be involved in adult situations

[@MiaK06]

As the daughter of a narcissistic mother myself, I always take my hat off to women who, despite having been subjected to narcissistic abuse by their mothers, then move on to raising the most wonderful children themselves. It is evident that Bethenny's daughter is a very well-adjusted, well-mannered, grounded, kind and caring girl. And I dare say that this is mostly down to Bethenny as a mother. I truly have the utmost of respect for Bethenny, as a business woman but above all as a mother. And in her case, it was a double whammy in terms of the fraught relationship with her own mother but then also the ten plus years of abuse and torture by her ex-husband. It's bad enough when relationships do not work out and kids are involved; but I will never understand when one partner then turns into a vicious, vindictive, utterly horrible and contemptible person who will truly stop at nothing. And yet - despite all of this - Bethenny still fosters a good relationship between her daughter Bryn and Bryn's father. Truly admirable.

[@bethennyfrankel]

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[@Ruth78620]

Having a narcissist mother is so damaging. Ive got one and when i had my son i swore id raise him in the oppoaite way to how i was raised and he has done me proud ❤ scholarship to a private school at 10, unconditional offers from Oxford, York, Durham and St Andrews University. He went to st andrews and got his bachelors in french and art history, spent a year in paris at the sorbonne and then did his Masters in Fine Art at a top achool in london and becme the manger of a top art gallery in London thats been around from the 60s at 25 and he travels all over the world for work. Itbhas been the best F you to my mother. Who says you cant be a successful young single mother after a whole life of narc abuse? She still does it i just say yes and do what i want. Bethenny has done the same for Brynn and it shows she is a delightful teenager and she's sensible and behaves like a young teen should i love watching their relationship.

[@MiaK06]

@@Ruth78620 Congratulations to you son for all his academic achievements and to you. And yes, having a narcissistic mother is v damaging. We don’t have the most fundamental of all trust relationships and that is the one you are meant to have with your mother. I always knew that my mother can’t be trusted and it has had an impact on all of my relationships. In my case, my biggest issue has always been (and continues to be) a fear of abandonment. And that makes us prime targets for narcissists - just entangled myself from one (also as a result of watching Bethenny’s videos). Mine not nearly as bad as Bethenny’s ex husband but then I also ran before it turned into a proper long term commitment. I am still in contact w my mother but she lives in a different country to me and in a way I am almost grateful to her. I was born and brought up in Europe and as a result of her having made my teenage years a living hell, I up and left to New York when I was 18. Went to university there, had my first jobs there and turned into an adult in New York and because I knew that going back home wasn’t an option for me, the idea of failing in New York simply wasn’t an option. I live in London now while she is on the Continent. Our communication purely consists of emailing about silly things such as latest popular tv series. And one is always on guard. I had to adopt the ‘grey rock’ method with my own mother, but hey ho - if she wouldn’t be such a twisted psycho (excuse my language), I’d never have had any of the life experiences I had…

[@user-xs5ys9tw6k]

My sister stayed in a bad marriage because she too helped pay for a home she knew she needed to leave and ultimately she chose the home. My niece and nephew were traumatized for the next decade because of that. They’re both grown and in their 20’s and are still dealing the fallout. Ultimately you chose peace for Brynn and that’s what’s most important

[@Starfish2145]

That’s awful. The children’s needs should also come first.

[@amyvanzyll3191]

How does such nonsense even happen? You are pushed out of your apartment , "YOUR" apartment. What could make this man so bitter, and vengeful? Putting the mother of his child through year's of torture?!! For what?,and why? Say's alot about his character!! It was never about the best interest of the child!! It was about making her mother's life miserable!!! And to drag it out for 10 year's!!! That is one sick, self centered, narcissistic boy!! Yes boy!! He saw $$$ sign's, and that took pressidence over the well being of his child!! 10 year's of precious time. SHAMEFUL!! 😢

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

B didn't want to abide by the prenup. She was fighting for years.

[@therealsandraweise]

For money. Are you kidding?

[@Ruth78620]

Money. Hes a narcissist and saw Bethenney as his meal ticket and she dared to stand upto him and when you go against a narc they will make your life a total misery. Ive been there and had no idea how spiteful and vindictive a person could be and its scary.

[@Ruth78620]

​@@marciamakoviecki3295she wrote the prenup and of course shes going to fight it was all her money he was a total grifter which is another trait of a narcissist. Would you just have given him your multi-million dollar home? I dont think so.

[@user-tx2lt2xk7r]

I was in a drag out horrible custody battle as a child when my parents got divorced in the 90s. Im 39 now and I can say both my mom and dad have come so unbelievable far from when they first split. It was bashing, rules on times, lots of hurt and pain. Lots of drama even police like you mentioned the QVC story. Something similar happened to me. This video hit home. As a child survivor of a incredibly toxic divorce and custody battle I have learned time does heal at least for me. I have a healthy good relationship with both parents. It took decades! Both parents now can even be in the same room, and be civil. It really needs to be the best interest for the child. Its a reason I never had a child of my own. Thank you for helping with advice and keeping this conversation that so many people are struggling with going.

[@BLittles]

Off topic but I listened to the podcast after your mother passed away. It moved me, and it will make me a better mother. It reminded me what it was like to be a vulnerable little girl. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching!

[@bekind7913]

Your experiences are helping so many others. I was always suspicious of Jason and his father, and there was something hollow in his mother. I felt she was too much of a people pleaser and was not respected by her husband or her son. What a train wreck his family is, and I am not convinced they have Bryan’s best interests at heart. Jason must be so jealous of her.

[@heathermorse2018]

I love her and respect her so much. She went through hell and came back stronger

[@bethennyfrankel]

xoxo

[@AbbDabb]

My dad never abused me and my siblings in front of anyone else…….so no one knew, especially extended family…..so many were shocked when they found out he was abusive our entire childhood. Still hurts at 51. 😢

[@onwednesdayswewearpink2761]

It will never not hurt. Sorry.but it just "is"

[@susandurrant6357]

I disagree, I'm 61 and this last decade has been extremely helpful in putting things in place. Getting older is generally not pleasant but you do gain more wisdom and that feels really good. ❤

[@ramonaesteves6569]

@@susandurrant6357I’m 67 and each one of us handles trauma differently so whether u agree or not - it’s a fact.

[@AbbDabb]

@@ramonaesteves6569 I totally agree……we all deal with abuse differently.

[@CrustyUgg]

My mom never spoke poorly of my father bc she knew I would see it for myself one day and I did

[@Shay416]

Legit! But my God once I saw it with my own eyes, jesus it hurt

[@lukehartman9386]

Same, I was thirteen when I figured it out. I’m now 59 and do not have a relationship with my sperm donor. Keri💜

[@arod3382]

She’s a beautiful soul, The Puerto Rican people adores her fully, she made things happen for us when we couldn’t be there for ourselves! She mobilized water, food and baby formula etc , you don’t know what that means until you can’t haven’t it!!! I hope and pray I get to repay Beth in anyway! She walks on water in my eyes lol love you Beth !!!! Thank you

[@susanfontaine5214]

I remember a lawyer telling me “Don’t leave your son unattended for a second. You don’t have an agreement yet. If your husband takes him, there is nothing you can do”. It was absolutely terrifying.

[@TheTaxburden]

You are so correct! I still remember the things my dad said about my mom during and after their divorce all while my mom was tell me how important a relationship with my father was. It sticks with you.

[@cammierountree5172]

Money shows people's true character. I'm so sorry you went through this. I did experience the alienation after leaving a 20 yr marriage. Thank God my 29 and 30 yr old have seen the truth now.

[@ZacharySmithhh]

wow the segment about how one parent shitting on another eventually backfires is so real. this happened with my mom, and i eventually put together how manipulated i was by my her for so long. you’re spot on!

[@jcthompson1194]

I KNOW you are helping people by doing this. I had a very similar divorce and this episode brings me back 20 years. You are exactly right about how it feels

[@driversseat1707]

Your divorce was drawn out because your husband was bitter that you owned everything and he had no money

[@chem3066]

Were you their lawyer?

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

She was pretty much still broke when they got married. They were both on the show.

[@selinaleewright5730]

Gosh you are so right. The judges don’t care about the minutia. I wish I knew this 20 yrs ago. God bless you for sharing this to help.

[@suecullen631]

Jason should be thanking you that you didnt call the police on him and file a restraining order and get him out of that apartment and his wack job family So happy this is over for you xo

[@catherinen8547]

Dude...squatters have rights.

[@laurenhahn890]

@@catherinen8547lmaooooooo

[@mommashawna707]

@@catherinen8547 You are so right and I am sure that was delegated through the courts also where he didn’t have to leave. We’re not privy to the exact orders that the judge gave. Let’s not forget also they were in New York which I am sure made it worse.

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

​​​​Yes, both people have rights to the marital home, not just the wife. And B was working so much, the court would probably allow the father to have the child with him in the home since he could provide care, instead of the child always being with a babysitter.​@@mommashawna707

[@Ruth78620]

He destroyed the apartment before he left. Hes a vindictive, spiteful narcissist and thts what they do and his parents sound like they were a massive issue and their offspring shows what their character is!

[@lindametcalf9169]

I am SO THANKFUL you are finally on the other side! But I ain't telling you nothing!! 😊

[@againstthepods4316]

I’m a great mother and have 3 horribly painful divorces. Where’s MY prize

[@bethennyfrankel]

xo

[@gabyp.9490]

Bethany. I had a situation that was very similar yet different because it was my foster child and the threat was the state. But, I sincerely, feel for you because I would sometimes spin out so badly I’d sit in a chair and be utterly paralyzed from the abject terror of my situation. I’m so glad you made it out into the light. I did too.

[@zariballard]

I went through the same thing during a custody battle for my son...fear that everything I was doing was wrong, was against the order or against the law...it was so scary...the threats...went on and on. My ex drilled my little son about me night and day, it was awful. Now that hes 35, he remembers all of it. It completely backfires...allow it to happen! The puzzle pieces DO connect and the child recognizes the good guy....trust in that fact! Dont speak badly of the ex and the rewards will come to you, even if he bashes u all day long. The child will put it together...its a delayed event but well worth the wait. Righton, Bethany. I get that!!

[@avarismimi]

Hello beautiful. ❤❤❤ so sorry you went through all this. I went through hell fighting for my son. Thought I was going to die through my divorce at 25. I’m 63 now. I would kick ass if I had all this knowledge. We love you Bethany ❤ you are a ray of sunshine ☀️ on this earth 🌍 ❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

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[@JoviesHome]

Bethanny, I am bawling crying hearing you talk about how it feels to go through this. I’m in the middle of a horrible, horrible divorce and custody procedure and have felt so alone. Your words make me feel not so alone. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching xo

[@leondrarobertson7140]

Watching Bethany build her career on tv was such a positive in my life for those who know they know ..I was mad about that apartment that Jason acted like he wanted or was his ..I was pissed.. because I remember when she got it and remodeled it. 😢

[@lorimiller7261]

Excellent advice. I never had to say a negative thing about my ex, my kids figured it out as they got older. Save your energy and be positive for your kids. The truth always comes to light 😊 Bethenny is a Queen ❤

[@iu.5146]

I so feel for you and get every word you say. I have been co parenting with a malignant narcissist for the past -2 years. They stop at nothing and weaponize their children to hurt us. They are despicable, deeply insecure and shame based people. Firm boundaries, law enforcement, minimal contact, parallel parenting and very strict Respond vs React works for me, besides healing my own trauma to remove my triggers. Stay strong and live your life.

[@kendalltaylor2644]

What father keeps their daughter from speaking to their mother (when the mother is a fit parent who loves the child)? What a nut!

[@naiddean5837]

When a parent hates the other parent more than they love their child. Very ugly situation!

[@Marie-xi8mr]

I'm so glad you have this platform to help people, you give the best advice ❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching!

[@kashkelly1508]

Love Bethany - while she was married to Hoppy, I knew it wasn’t right for her and could see her struggling. I was so mad at him.

[@emu9520]

Bethenny…I love you…always have…always will…you are an amazing mother…your mind and how it works is incredible …you are an outlier…so glad you are free❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

❤❤❤

[@susanfontaine5214]

I gave up pension, property, etc. just to be free!

[@joannechris7980]

Netflix series please…..

[@ShastaPride]

Custody- is nothing short of full combat of the heart 💔 abusive partners are so horrific, and I literally think they enjoy weaponize the legal system in an attempt to crush you. you feel like a complete psycho telling people what you experience- as most have no point of reference for just how dirty & manipulative the other party can be. You feel lost & alone. It was my experience, that when people do finally “see” what you are going through, they don’t want to get involved- as they don’t want to be targeted themselves.

[@elizabethbesco4758]

I Cannot imagine Grandparents had the right to interfere with a separation and divorce. They made this experience much more traumatic.

[@GypsyDreams81]

Not sure if its nationwide but some states have grandparent laws to get rights to their grand kids if parents r both in the wrong or in a custody battle and the parents r too busy attacking each other the kids get caught in the crossfire the grandparents (with good intentions) can get certain rights. It can b used for the good and u would hope there is some party that is looking out for the children whether its a divorce or not. Some mothers more often cut off access to husbands parents cuz wife and mother inlaw have issues and use kids as the weapon to attain the power and as in divorce the ex's attack the inlaws to cause hurt forgetting the kids may have close bonds with the grandparents. But with anything the shitty adults found the loopholes to abuse the rights and cause more harm than good. Check ur state see if they have this incase u have kids now or may in the future. Good info to have ❤

[@joysmall]

I remember that Jason was more concerned about the impact of their pregnancy news being leaked on his parents than how 🤔 Bethany was feeling. He was always very invested in his parents' feelings about him. It seemed 🤔 that they were his priority!

[@user-ry3cg3ns2c]

It's her partnership with Jason that brought in the Financial Success. He deserved half of what he help build. Before Jason Bethan was a 30 something, insecure broke single whippy unsuccessful female. He changed all of that.

[@joysmall]

@GypsyDreams81 there's no such thing as grandparents rights. They can sue for visitation. If one of the two parents is legality declared incompetent or is dead 🤔 I think they can make a case for custody.

[@user-ry3cg3ns2c]

@@joysmall Per Bethany, Bren loves her grandparents, is bonded with them and enjoy spending time with them. It's She Bethany who does not enjoy them. It is not about what's best for Bethany. It about what's best for Bren. She is a narcisistic mother.

[@thuff1947]

Thank you Bethenny for sharing your story. I’m getting ready to start the divorce process and I am scared and feel so alone.

[@dazzlingchick]

🌹You continue to amaze me with this series. I relate to so many things here as I know many other women do also. Thankfully I got full custody and had people to help me. My son is getting ready to start college at one of the top universities in this country on a full academic scholarship. He turned out wonderfully thank goodness. I am so thankful. You are a raising a fine young lady. Bryn is a beauty and so sweet. Thank you again Bethenny. You are beautiful inside and out. ~Love&Light♥️Carli

[@bethennyfrankel]

Aww, YAY ❤

[@meghanmoretti6078]

Bethenny, I have looked up to you for years! Starting with RHONY, of course, I’ve followed your career and the elements of your life you shared with the world…we were even pregnant at the same time, in eerily similar marriages, and divorces, at the same time and many other shared life stages. But, never have I respected you more. Your strength, willingness to be so open and honest, and vulnerability is so refreshing. I look forward to watching you for another 10 years! Thank you for all you share with us. Much love and respect xoxo

[@bethennyfrankel]

Awww, love that! Keep watching xo

[@funwithfriends634]

Your points hit so close to home its eerie. I left my ex when my son was only 2.5 years old and it was a divorce from hell. Many similarities to yours except for the millions of dollars to fight over.😂 One of the hardest things I had to do was to always speak kindly of him to our son, because I knew what a pos he really was. But as a kid from a divorcd family I remember hating the constant negative remarks my parents would say about each other. It got to a point that I would have to pretend I hated my dad when I was with my mom and I had to pretend I hated my mom when I was with my dad. I swore I'd never do that to a child of mine. I kept that promise and today my son is 26 yrs old and he sees right through his father and his hateful words he heard about me growing up. I knew he would eventually without me adding my two cents.

[@zb2363]

I’m still waiting for my child to see the truth about his other parent. Sigh.

[@funwithfriends634]

@@zb2363 don’t worry it will happen I promise and it will be the best feeling knowing your ex showed his true colors without you causing it. 🩷

[@selinaleewright5730]

I was made to believe by my ex there was a problem I worked at my daughters school as the school nurse. (Like what) he would say she was sick because I was a nurse and would go to the principal and tell him I shouldn’t work there. It was crazy. You mentioned in previous videos about ptsd. My experience was over 10 yrs ago and I can still go back to that place in 1 second . God bless you and your daughter! My daughter is 22 and just graduated from college. She’s an amazing young lady but not without scars.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching ❤

[@880me]

Thank you

[@Threesisterfam]

So true about the backfiring!

[@alo_11]

♥️ Bethany, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. You’re such a wonderful person and mother. 🌹

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching xo

[@yessica6624]

Currently going through a custody court case for my 2 week old baby. These spiteful men don’t care that you just gave birth to their child. They only care about their own wants and needs along with hurting the mother.

[@nildakovacs-colon5892]

Bethenny my love, thank you so much again I cannot thank you enough for sharing your divorce experience and information to help others. My best friend still suffers from past divorce that continues for which she has not opened up to me yet on mental abuse. I want her to see how powerful the abuse negatively impacts one for years. I don’t know how to help her if she doesn’t share details until she is ready. She knows I am huge fan following you reads your books and learns so much from you. You are the most credible influence I can provide her with your sharing knowledge. Thank you. I love you B. Que Dios las bendiga a ti y a tu bella peanut. You enjoyed every second you had & have today with the most precious gem 💎 God gave you. You also did the BEST for you & Brynn on bonding with your Mama. I am so proud of you from my inner core. I adore you.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching! Share with other women ❤

[@narelleravesi4993]

Bethenny you nailed it to the core when you said It Backfired Like A Bag Of Shit,l grew up with a mother that did nothing but trash my father and his parents,l loved my grandparents more that anything,when l grew up and got that emotional intelligence and realised exactly what she had done it sure did blow up like a bag of shit,l have no relationship with this woman and haven’t for many years ❤️🌷

[@jacquehoosier6597]

This is all 💯 real facts! I wish I had known all this info back when I went through it. Bethany you are a warrior! ❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

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[@Angiebell333-ux7qv]

Always Words Of Wisdom Bethenny 🥰 Thank You! ❤️🤍💙🇺🇸😎🌞💛

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching xoxo

[@frankievalentine6112]

I really like these. Don't gaslight yourself is the moral.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Keep listening ❤

[@shirlynb148]

I divorced young but was married 10 years having 3 children in less than 3 years before I was 21. My biggest regret was not Fighting like mad about everything. My X & I had agreed on everything but didn’t have it in writing, bad move. His 2nd wife was a total witch, caused nothing but hardship for me & my children. If I went to a sporting event & they had the children she would not let them come speak to me. I finally snapped & got a lawyer to threatened them. They got divorced and my X’s 3rd wife was a joy. My advice is “get everything in writing”. Don’t assume you can work it out as someone new might come along and F🍀ck everything up!

[@karen81986]

So glad you has Denis when you were going through some of this.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching xo

[@patti9952]

Wow! I’m so sorry you went through all this! My heart and soul goes out to you and I hope your life is better now! I went through a life altering experience after my late husb passed away in 2014 We had been married for 30 years, but after he passed my entire world became something I didn’t understand or would have believed 6 mts before he passed he cashed in a life ins policy paid off his mothers land, and gambled the rest left me and my 2 daughters(his step daughters) with nothing! I felt betrayed and devastated! Life does go on for sure but now tbh you don’t trust anyone! Sometimes we don’t realize how we are in a much better place without the people that hurt us!

[@bethennyfrankel]

xo

[@jenlown4640]

BETHANNY YOU ARE SO STRONG WITH WHAT you have gone through

[@bethennyfrankel]

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[@sherrismith9002]

The history books are going to be very good to Bethenny. You are my hero for real. I balled in the court while signing over half my custody to an emotional abuser. I had to sign so I could breathe, so I could keep fighting. I had to give up, to keep fighting if that makes sense.

[@bethennyfrankel]

❤❤❤

[@sherrymillerable]

This is so important! You are amazing - this will help so any people! At some point, people should step back and do a mental/emotional reset to be able to think logically. I had heard that I was just like my father and he was bad which made me feel like I was bad. It is so damaging

[@bethennyfrankel]

So important to share with other women. Keep listening, spread the word xo

[@annewahl6421]

I’m going through the exact same thing with my ex. The physical abuse was done to me… I can relate to Bethenny a lot unfortunately… It is sad, especially when a grandmother gets involved after ignoring the children for years… The best interest of the kids is often put to the side in a divorce. I just spent the equivalent of an expensive brand new car in legal fees this month. The legal system couldn’t care less about minors. Even my very experienced and well known family law attorneys are getting discouraged by it… The financial and mental torture are as REAL as Bethenny.

[@tulipsunny6334]

😉All these insensitive things Jason did to torture you probably moved your daughter to be be closer to you now that she is reaching adulthood..sad that you can’t get that time in her young years back💜Brynn appears to be well adjusted and loving in her relationship with you so just give her that LOVE right back❤️❤️❤️

[@MessageFromGod444]

That’s how narcissists work. They seek to destroy you. You feel the need to correct the lies and defend yourself. When you recognise it as attention seeking and mental manipulations (constantly preparing your defence) then you can find some peace. It’s part of the process. I think it’s a brave person who takes the chance on another relationship after going through this level of trauma.

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

They broke up too

[@kristenbrookeemdrtherapist]

Licensed EMDR trauma therapist here (LCSW) and yes, I agree Bethany. More harmful to not let them do something “normal” in the situation. Makes kids scared and paranoid and also question the validity of their wants and feelings! Forcing a kid to choose the attachment (mom and what she’s saying to do) over their own autonomy (what they feel and want) for that kind of reason (“divorce fear” and perceived threat) will mess with them HARD!

[@bethennyfrankel]

Love that you watched!

[@kristenbrookeemdrtherapist]

@@bethennyfrankel I’m having 3 clients watch this series who are going through this and we discuss it in session after they watch. I specialize in working with complex trauma, domestic violence and eating disorders and all of my clients are women. I’m so thankful that you are doing this. Its one thing for me to talk about this kind of trauma from my lens as a therapist/expert but I can’t tell you how helpful it is for my clients to hear it from a woman who has been through it. You are incredible and this is making a profound impact on other women who are in this experience and the women who have gotten to the other side of it. We need community and to know that someone understands us and you are providing both of those things in such a beautiful way. 💛

[@JohansonScience]

Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. As a teacher with 30 years experience and seeing lots of things throughout the years, I admire you so much for trying to do right by your daughter. I think you are doing a fabulous job! I’m glad you are on the other side and can make beautiful memories with your family. PS Love that Brynn is a volleyball player. I played in college and back when there was no club volleyball. It’s definitely a whole big thing these days. Love that you are diving into it!

[@bethennyfrankel]

Love that you watched ❤️

[@amyvanzyll3191]

So , so very sad. This man knew exactly who you were when he met you. His action's through your divorce are a huge reflection of his true character. Why would any descent human drag out a divorce for so many year's?? Just do what is right by your child! Respect the woman who gave birth to your child, and move forward!! Keep in mind ... your action's speak volumes!!

[@starswithstasi]

Thank you for this ❤❤❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching!

[@CBB672]

Thanks for sharing, I’m sure someone will be saved by your experience

[@Canaday291]

I’ve lived through the nightmare of being married to and went through the divorce with a malignant narcissist alcoholic ex. He would intentionally create expensive time and stress inducing discoveries in court and fought every request my lawyer made in best interests of my children including selling the house they were raised in when he knew it would hurt the children making them move to another school instead of waiting a couple years until they graduated .. all just to “win” and seek his revenge on me for divorcing him.

[@DUFFYSaraxian]

Thanks! This is the money I will save on sunscreen short. You are great!

[@gandhiangles3213]

The lawyers are being logical. They know the longer they drag the process out,the more $$$ they will make.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

Good lawyers value their long-term reputation more than short-term profit.

[@gandhiangles3213]

@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 Yeah right. 🙄🤣😂

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

B didn't want to settle either and didn't want to give him his share of $ that was in the prenup.

[@njb1814]

I'm so sorry you went through all that Bethenny. He was trying everything to ware you down, and you stuck in there. I worked in court, not divorce, juvenile, and we had a really good judge that actually cared about what was best for the children. Totally different situations though, I'll say that. I'm so glad mine was easy, he was in jail. What could he say or do. My girls are in their 30s now, and want NOTHING to do with him, EVER. He's out, and thankfully lives in another state. He keeps trying to finagle his way in, but they want nothing to do with him. I never had to bad mouth him, they saw it for themselves. I'm so happy you are doing this. I love the fact that you tell it like it is! Sorry to ramble. Thank you for doing this. ❤❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching xo

[@AA-cm3pd]

This podcast is so important

[@bethennyfrankel]

Love that you watched xo

[@christineskeen7252]

Thank you for sharing your story. In my husband's case during the divorce with his 1st wife, he had custody of the kids. Other mom's at the children's school, the kids were 7 and 5, would ask him why he didn’t move out and why did he make her move out! That wasn't the case and the kids would hear them ask! Just horrible! Please mind your own business, just support the family as best you can by being supportive to the parents, don't gossip! Children should be the priority and protected!

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching xo

[@lugodi1]

This is excellent advice. So hard any way you look at it.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching!

[@PamHanley]

My son absolutely signed the child custody papers under duress. We now have spent over $7000+ just to see our grandson for 4 hours a week. Hopefully by September it will change a lot with the time. Also having the other grandparent around for supervision because we haven't seen him in 6 months because the mother kept him from us for no legal reason, just taking pictures of him with us is so uncomfortable. Our lawyer is working on a better agreement and I pray that things will move more in my son's favor. He's deleted and emotionally exhausted.

[@stacyspears3366]

20 yrs ago when I was going through my divorce he went and secretly picked up our 5 yr old from school. The school called me after he left and that is how I found out. They said that the look on my son’s face made them think it wasn’t planned. He kept him all weekend without returning my calls, I didn’t know where he had taken him…..its was pure mental torture.

[@amygoldberg9115]

Love it ALL. And the lashes are sensational. You mastered it! What are they? Ardell? I’ve never tried to put them on, but now I’m a believer. I gotta try this. Keep sharing ur stories. Real fans love it. And the new beach house is a dream come true.

[@barcelonaspain7910]

Ty for sharing🥰 its awful u had soo many negative moments that have now passed, know u have a beautiful daughter that’s thriving n someday n future she’ll know n remember all the awesome memories u were part of, like u say karma will get those who did u wrong, my mom use to always say as long as uk u did ur part to make things work that’s all that matters, u have health, roof over n food on table, u share ur wealth, I really hope what we c outside (amazing souls) reflects how u feel inside❣️look back everyday b happy what you’ve achieved, u have n army that’s proud n happy I can’t imagine how content n overjoyed ur heart is 🥰 continue sharing ur beautiful family ur awesome role model to us girly girls🙊🙊

[@bethennyfrankel]

❤❤❤

[@peacelovelight27]

Hi Bethenny! I was involved in a 4 year nasty divorce. My ex met a younger woman after 25 years of marriage. I had supported him through medical school and building his practice. I stopped practicing law after we had two boys and he had started his surgical career. We went on and had two more boys and lived a fairly unhappy life. But I would never have left bc I wanted my kids to have the “family life” that I thought they deserved (obviously a great lapse in judgement). Despite the fact that he was the one who had an affair and he had never been an involved parent, he fought me tooth and nail on everything! So much sh!t it’s not worth even mentioning. I actually gave up fighting about an apartment in South Beach because I knew that I if I continued to fight, the pain and the bleeding would never end. After the divorce, he immediately put the apartment up for sale for over three times what we settled for. While it occasionally eats at me, I totally get everything you said bc you just cannot fight anymore! I have always wanted to create a business where I could support women, both emotionally and with my knowledge of how divorce works, to “hold their hand” through the process, to be that person who can play interference for them, so they have a network to support them when they feel so alone. I have never been able to garner the support to create this type of advocacy bc everyone in the system doesn’t want an outside source to get in the way of their own ideas of how divorce should work. It is such a broken system and I think that listening to you has given me the extra push I need to try to start finding a way to do it once again. Thank you for doing this difficult podcast and hopefully, one day, such an advocacy service will be a standard part of this life-sucking process. Keep doing you! We need voices like yours! ❤❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for watching ❤

[@peacelovelight27]

I have a question for you, Bethenny. Is there a business email where I could reach out to you?

[@poshbyjodygreeneisen5147]

I went through a nightmare custody battle myself but thankfully it all worked out. Found my husband now, he has been in our lives since my daughter was 2. Got married and he ended up adopting her as his own. She just turned 22 last year graduated college and got married herself. So thankfully everything worked out for the best. But also went through hell and back. I was in a physically emotionally abusive relationship with her sperm donor. His mother actually got temp custody of my 6 month old baby because I had left her father when he went to jail. But because I had no place to live, because I had no money, the judge granted temp custody to his mother. I wasn't even married to this man. I had no money to fight it. But it took me 3 long yrs in court to get her back into my custody. Then still had to hand her over for visitation. So it was a living nightmare! Then he threatened my now husband and I had a tape recorder...I recorded the threat and thankfully ended up getting a protection order. Then during adoption hearing we ended up winning. But it was all a battle! I had to fight hard for a long time! But never gave up! Now she's an adult I told her the truth. She never really knew. And her sperm reached out to her last year. I told her if she wanted to go meet him, that was her choice but she said she wasn't interested. Because her dad is my husband and he's the one who has loved her and walked her down the aisle at her wedding! He has loved her as his own! we are both blessed to having him in our lives!!!

[@kristenschunemann615]

I feel like I’m already friends with B. We just admire her honesty 💖👊….

[@lisakelson4082]

I know exactly what you mean. I used to dread being alone with my Mom in the house. I knew that I would be the only one she could lash out on.

[@BrookeAmber007]

It absolutely backfires to the parent talking badly. Happened with my own daughter once she hit 15-16 she saw it and even then i kept my mouth shut

[@deenalove1234]

I personally think his parents enabled him an allowed him to do this it all goes back to his childhood his parents are very weird to me. Like who does that. Yes I grew up in abuse as well you are correct having a village is your security

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

He had a strong family who supported him and helped with the child. B had only hired help, which was probably easy for him to argue in court was not as good for the child.

[@j6453]

So glad you are on the other side! The other case I would like to know about is Brad and Angelina. Their kids need to have a relationship with both parents and I think it seems like one side is toxic (I won't say which side I think that is).

[@wendydobbs112]

I liked your talk show

[@brittanimel3270]

I went through a custody battle over my son that sucked the life out of my own family. When the other side has resources in another state to put you through hell, there is no paperwork that can prove your time is valid. I had to make a choice after four long years of a custody battle as a 18 yr old, is this fight worth flying my son from Florida to New Jersey every three months and moving him back and forth, while filling lawyers pockets as a grown man tries to manipulate my child and my life just to “get back” at me. The hardest decision I had to make was to allow that monster to raise my son without being there for the sports, graduation, highs and lows.

[@lfero6399]

You are brave! ❤

[@bethennyfrankel]

❤

[@busynana7917]

I can relate to so much of this Bethenny as I’ve been watching my grand daughter go through this for 4 years. Unfortunately in her case the parental alienation has worked & she recently moved in with him at 16 - this is so heart breaking but I’m still hopeful that she will see for herself what’s going on!

[@JulieLoving-ph6jz]

Sorry to hear that. I'm dealing with this regarding my first child. Thankfully my second child saw right through it and now lives with me. Unfortunately my oldest has special needs and has a fragile mind that is easy to manipulate and convince that I'm the bad guy. Hope your granddaughter will eventually see the truth ❤

[@busynana7917]

@@JulieLoving-ph6jz so sorry to hear you’ve been through it - I realise through seeing this at close hand how it can break you - glad your second child realised! Unfortunately although the second child is still with her mum he’s working very hard to change that - you only know really if you’ve been through it don’t you?! The stress is indescribable but Bethenny speaking about it & also comments like yours does help! 🙏❤️🇬🇧

[@JulieLoving-ph6jz]

@@busynana7917 thank you ❤️ it's sad that anyone has to experience this at all. I really hope your grandchildren see through all the lies and see what's really going on. I would do anything to have my oldest back. That may not happen until my ex mil passes. My ex lets her run the show. He can't stand up to his own mother cause he relies on her for a roof over his head. He was a real winner. Not lol. Wish you all the best ❤️

[@JulieLoving-ph6jz]

While it doesn't fix my situation I am very thankful for this series. It's nice to hear I'm not crazy after all my ex and his family has done and continues to do to me.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Love that you watched!

[@JulieLoving-ph6jz]

@@bethennyfrankel wouldn't miss it ❤️ whether you are sharing your experiences to help others or cracking us up with Chanel videos. Love ya ❤️

[@rocketqueen008]

I was a HUGE fan of your show years ago, and recently, while searching for shows to watch on Peacock, I rewatched yours and felt a wave of nostalgia. You were my favorite on RHONY, and I enjoyed your spinoffs immensely. I’ve always looked up to you professionally and personally; you’re witty and hysterical. As a fan who has followed your journey, I’m curious if we will ever get a consolidated explanation of what happened between you and your ex that ultimately led to the demise of the relationship and such a horrific divorce battle. I know you mentioned that you weren’t happy and things weren't as they seemed on the show, but especially after rewatching, I was convinced it was exactly as you portrayed it then, particularly with the therapy sessions where you conveyed that you were the happiest you've ever been. I loved your transparency then and even now, but I feel there's a gap of information that we, as an audience, feel is missing.

[@bethennyfrankel]

Thanks for following along! Keep watching ❤

[@rocketqueen008]

@@bethennyfrankel Thanks for replying! I will absolutely keep watching!

[@mjbalmmac1588]

Always enjoyed B straight talk. Struck that so many years this man has lived in your head and stayed at your kitchen. End things as quick as possible no matter the money. You will always earn lots more money. Peace is everything. You really need to stop wearing the divorce blanket he put on you. Stop talking about him get him out of you daily life. Weddings and graduations are plenty

[@joniheisenberg]

The reason the issue of whether a party was comped was brought up, is because it plays to the argument that you were getting advantages due to your celebrity. His lawyer was most likely establishing a narrative that played into that scenario,in an attempt to argue that you “overall had unfair privileges.”

[@kathryn11111]

Thanks for sharing B. How did you heal from the trauma?

[@sharondobbs1]

You seem to talk in circles to just try to not say anything negative about your ex. It can both be true that he has a good relationship with Brinn now, and that he was a jerk for 10 years in this divorce to YOU. Tell us about that, I think that is where the lessons are.

[@litalpeled2055]

She does talk about him negatively, regardless whether it’s true or false.

[@emu9520]

She’s not talking in circles at all!

[@tcarter_cartert]

I'm sorry, but he was absolutely diabolical during the divorce. I don't know how I would feel about my parent when I learn later just how difficult and petty they were during their divorce from my other parent. It would open my eyes to who they are at their core.