High Value Partner: What Does That Mean? - Ep 39 - Big Mood

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[@SharkAcademy]

A lot of people expect their other person to provide “value”, but never reflect on what value they’re providing. The bottom line is you will never keep someone if all you do and expect is for the other person to be adding to your life

[@NewBlueTrue]

Can you say that for the people in the back? Also, I think if people are just meeting someone asking what value they bring is a little too high of an expectation early on. They should just be enjoying each other’s company. Then maybe if they want to get serious, they can start asking the value question.

[@fernandavassallo2167]

Exactly

[@elainechan6265]

100%!

[@anthonyvelez8002]

Facts! Even the replies above are top notch with facts. This is exactly what I believe. Glad to know I'm not the only one.

[@NewBlueTrue]

@Sara Abraham I agree. If all you end up getting is the enjoyment of someone else’s company, in my opinion, that is time well spent.

[@akshay__gupta]

Really high quality conversation..didn't realised how 55min passed..

[@karinamorado7795]

Is this sarcasm

[@anugerahhakimi]

I am a guy and I am so thankful to learn from this channel on how to treat and cherish my partner thank you!!

[@ChibiChica]

I'm looking at the comments and I'm really glad to see that there are a bunch of male viewers. I think this is a channel that women and men alike should watch to better understand ourselves and our relationships realistically. Hope my future partner watches them with me!

[@hashknight1]

I am that red son from a far off country.iam a regular viewer of big mood since heybitch episodes. but I talk shit to the tv, by the way, I watch it on tv.

[@NecroKlutz]

You guys are so inspring! My bf has been with me 4yrs knowing I have depression and anxiety. I don't bother him much but he never helped me with my anxiety when I asked for help. A few days ago, I lost it and went to the psychiatrist. I don't need a toxic man in my life! Love yall! take care

[@OmarsChannel661]

how is that toxic? 😂 just because he didnt help you? after that comment you seem like the toxic one, he wasnt ready for that type of relationship it seems, and you are just blaming him for the whole relationship failing, toxic bish

[@berenicehueramo7642]

Just ended a 5 year relationship. I thought I was in a good relationship cause he was stable and a good guy but now I’m realizing we weren’t valuable to each other! I want to stay single for a while to learn what I want in life from myself and a significant other!

[@jonsnow8756]

nikki wont let people forget that she's only attracted to personality HAHAH

[@josephchu3322]

Her fake homies prob was like "oh hunny you couldve done way better sweetheart" before knowing bout her "come up" & before meeting steve & got to know him PERSONALLY

[@Hooney2me]

@@josephchu3322 steve isnt even ugly just an average guy- looks wise.

[@Sonicboom238]

@@Hooney2me hes really tall though

[@willcee4966]

Seriously

[@mrbase5471]

I truly i'm grateful that they talk about real communication that people should have to make an healthy relationship, but so many love a dysfunctional one. Both man and woman hold information about their feelings to have control over the other,Which are the root problem of domestic abuse, emotional distress Narcissism that people carry on to their kids and other relationships.

[@Shinobi_x.ehdits]

Love Gina's ability to communicate what she is feeling to her partner. Communication is a huge thing for me but I end up dating those who usually don't either know how to or are unwilling to communicate. Many good points were brought up in this conversation and I enjoyed listening.

[@juci_monke]

Gina talking about communication starts here 28:38

[@Shugsicles86]

Ladies, can you please do a podcast on DV? Or maybe abusive relationships in general? Not sure if any of you have ever been in one, but I feel like you can learn a lot through the people around you. Maybe you've noticed things in the past about other people's relationships that have been a huge red flag. I know I certainly have. I think talking about it and not sweeping things under the rug really helps and other people could really benefit from it. I just love the way you ladies approach topics and how open you are with it all. Keep doing what you're doing. Y'all are AMAZING.

[@Shugsicles86]

Also want to add that October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month...so this month would be perfect to talk about it! 😉

[@JCamcrew]

Oooh this episode was good! I need to learn to better communicate my feelings so I don’t build resentment.

[@Dani-wz8mz]

I feel like you guys are the big sisters I've always needed 😭😭 I'm the oldest so I've never really had someone to talk to about stuff like this

[@FlavumSignum]

15:36, 23:02 I think one thing to discuss and remember is some of us came from very dysfunctional divorced families. Many of us had parents that were emotionally/physically abusive, or emotionally/physically absent. So some of us spent years of younger life truly looking for love in the wrong places; either in similarly abusive people whose abusive behaviour is what we were used to growing up, or trying to earn love from the emotionally absent partners. It took years for some of us to 1 - understand what reciprocated love looks like, 2 - know what we have to offer and therefore stand behind what we deserve with conviction.

[@CorinaSierraMUA]

You’re an adult when you’re able to take accountability and responsibility for your life.

[@poisonkiss201]

I agree with Nikki. Choose someone who can be your best friend. It's a great feeling😍

[@jaipark1817]

Listening to other people’s problems makes me feel good about myself. 😂😂

[@thechristiandash]

To get a high value partner, one must also be of high value.

[@QuyenTran-hq4sb]

Basically if u wanna be a high value person, be self aware, have self respect, and be able to communicate ur boundaries. They’re basic ideas we overlook cuz we’re so worried in our minds all the time

[@sharigaming1662]

This Tuesday came by quick, I just got done watching the Bad Friends podcast.

[@kevinjoseph8119]

Nosotros Papaya

[@franksinatra2024]

Best podcast

[@gabriella8141]

The more I hear about Joe the more I’m like.... interesting person... to each their own though cuz they’re both thriving right now and I’m glad they’re happy

[@serina402]

TIFF what are you using for your hair?! It looks soo healthy

[@cranke99]

80% of all women are competing for the top 20% of the highest earning men. As a man in my 40's I've finally given up. It's not worth trying to meet women anymore. I'm just gonna do what makes me happy and focus on myself.

[@TheReMorseCode]

I don’t think that makes sense because you just need to look at people on the streets, or hell, for most people, in their family. Are all your male relatives with a wife/girlfriend 20% in wealth, looks, etc? Are those guys with women walking by you on the street 20%? It falls apart pretty easily just from that standpoint. However, you’re absolutely valid in doing what makes you happy and focusing on yourself if that’s what you desire. I wish you happiness.

[@richardluu8322]

there has never been a better line "i love cheese!"

[@iheartclog]

You girls should watch Daniel Sloss' standup episode called Jigsaw. Pretty eye opening!

[@NapQueen96]

Tiff has

[@MichaelJonn]

If you like jigsaw, you should listen to sloss’s interview on the Modern Wisdom podcast with Chris, where he really goes deep into his thoughts on the problems with modern dating. It is dating viewed from the males side and perspective, which is the other half. Don’t forget that men are also trying to work things out and learning how to start, develop, and sustain a healthy relationship. I highly recommend listening to the Modern Wisdom podcast in general because it gives really great life advice on productivity, good habits, and mental health.

[@Shadow_Regis]

Love all the honesty on this podcast!! Keep up the good work!! Also could you link the article of high value people.

[@kizzle45shizzle]

I ship Jess and Kassem

[@jeremylecocq826]

*The girls stay for the advice, the guys stay for Nikki's thighs.*

[@sharigaming1662]

Nikki's thighs? Nah bruh I'm here for Jess eyes.

[@nobody-n9s]

MZH Comedy you Love Jess 😂

[@sharigaming1662]

@@nobody-n9s Love is a strong word, But yes. Yes I do.

[@nobody-n9s]

MZH Comedy you are hilarious 😆

[@josephchu3322]

Tiff should take notes but lowkey she has been with the cleeaavage on jknews

[@SuperJust4girls]

Me: lactose intolerant Gina: I LOVE CHEESE

[@karinamorado7795]

Same team! My husband and I's therapist said the same thing and it was such a game changer to remember the "same team" idea in the start of an argument 🥰 I'm so grateful for a receptive partner as well!

[@thekhoatran]

when you try making a joke and your friends failed maths "wtf is a rombus" HAHAHA 3:20

[@itsNinaLeeyo]

Didn't know I needed to hear this topic! ❤❤ Also, can Jess drop a book list as well on IG? | Done with the video. This felt like the video went by quick. Rewatching, hehe. I really like this conversation ♥️

[@jonsnow8756]

second the booklist

[@nobody-n9s]

Yes I hope Jess sees this

[@INVERTEDBUKAKI]

It would be nice to see Jess find somebody she deserves. I can smell something is gonna pop.

[@quacker008]

Hopefully it's her bad attitude 😅

[@YovaniBinuelo]

Same Jessica. same. I just deleted tinder yesterday. Finally letting go of past relationships and really figure my out wtf I need or would like form a partner.

[@jessjms1181]

This one is so good

[@gangster8540]

Deadass gina mindset and energy going to change over the next 5-7 years I can sense it and Jess will change over the next 3 years

[@blackhell8079]

This episode was sooo helpful! Not long enough!!

[@candicelafernz]

You know this is a new episode when Gina hair is grey 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@anthonynguyen]

more partying stories pls!!! quarantine got me missing it

[@FateHasFallenGaming]

I think what Nikki was looking for was “every square is a rectangle but not every rectangle is a square”

[@uy3780]

Love this episode so much!! Thank you

[@kimchijeans]

love this!

[@SaraTiara]

Love Gina's hair! :)

[@yesir4331]

Gina, what kind of sunscreen do you suggest? Does it matter?

[@ilikeRUNE]

remember when Geo was apart of this?

[@Edmans4311]

Really liked this episode, feel like I need to evaluate the value I bring to my marriage, thanks for the reality check!

[@hoxious]

value monetarily obviously has a price, but value with in people is relative, with out knowing fundamentally what will truly benefit you in the long term, in a healthy and moral way, it can be secretly destructive... good talk ladies

[@kornshim]

AHHHH YESSS FINALLY FOUR OF MY FAVORITE PEOPLE IN ONE EPISODE

[@teatime9810]

I would love for one day to see Tiff and Casey sit down and talk about their relationship journey.. if they want to ofc

[@vodkanockers5098]

Respect comes first

[@random01759]

Loved this one!!!

[@daiishi_kinyoubi]

i really enjoyed this topic ❤️

[@willcee4966]

My ex loved to keep shit to herself. I value communication but she said that it gave her crazy anxiety when ever we talked about serious things. It got to a point where I couldn’t ask her question cuz it could make her uncomfortable. Then I realize she ain’t for me.

[@HelloTruDee]

Theirs high value and there’s shallow qualities. My high value would be someone who’s genuine, confident, kind, goal oriented, etc. If you’re looking for a man who’s specifically 6’2, has a Mercedes, a CEO, those are a bit more shallow. But to each their own.

[@Wenipoo]

LOL Love you guys, Check your mistype @ 19:32 Third > Thrid

[@QuyenTran-hq4sb]

Be an individual first and know ur values, wants, and needs and learn to lower ur ego and communicate those needs and not blame someone else. Once u have those, the person u meet will be a bonus in ur life and not everything in ur life. Just an additions

[@jessica8739]

You guys are great

[@sayusaymee7722]

12:12 Oof 😩 58:04 I ship it tho 🥺💕

[@sharigaming1662]

Time to become a accountant.

[@ivyyang7752]

The quality of the videos! 😍

[@thephoenix81]

To Jess: The textbook answer to what Bob Marley died of is Skin Cancer, which started in his toe. The REAL answer was: he was pricked by a poisoned pin stuck in his soccer cleets gifted to him by a CIA opp. I know, I know it 'sounds' crazy, but close people know. The cancer was immediately stage 3 or 4, how ironic & he got it right after entering the political fray in Jamaica (which the CIA had backed Seaga). From the outside it sounds ridiculous BUT when you factor in who Bob was & the sizemic revolutionary shift his music sparked, you'll see he had to go, from the elites perspective. Ever notice the most revolutionary people NEVER grow old & always tragically die young...#THINK

[@Hannes789]

Theres a typo in the third love ad

[@delilah9974]

I'm with Tiff on the Tesla, you go girl!

[@SS-vt1hb]

❤❤STEVE IS KING❤❤

[@willcee4966]

I realized I need a responsible girl 100%

[@rebeccaramos5347]

I love y'all 😭 everytime I start playing a video I say hey bitchhhhhhhhh 💖

[@ArminciaEdwards]

Gina doing the work of gods 🤣 K+J💕💀👌🏾

[@sdma4775]

You are really good at Talking. You are so geniuine

[@mzzah06]

So idk if you guys noticed but theres a typo when you guys talk about the third love bra. it says "thrid"

[@samanthatrevino4722]

Great video girls 💟

[@raiyanahmed9211]

I really believe nowadays people a devoid of actual emotions and it really is all about looks and money. Don't let anyone tell you other wise. Don't listen to what people say but watch what they do.

[@NikkiLimo]

Having that mindset can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. What you focus on grows. You gotta focus on the ones that aren’t superficial and then you’ll start to see more. 🤘🏼

[@raiyanahmed9211]

@@NikkiLimo agreed, I suppose its about putting out that positive energy.

[@christbearer511]

This has made me feel better. #goatsteve

[@seanc6468]

I love Nicki 💘

[@anojansmart]

36:30 😂😂😂

[@tmalonso]

"a square is still technically a rectangle, but a rectangle is never a square"

[@waynehunter4371]

Do a video on the Enneagram personality types. It's like astrology signs but better. You're legit describing them to a T in this video. the Nice Guy is a type 2

[@waynehunter4371]

Casey is a type 3

[@SirCumcisi0n]

Becareful Tiff! Your bosses might feel that shots are fired!

[@ChromeOfTheFuture]

Y’all should make a bloopers video for the girls and the gays

[@hockeyxgamer]

“Anyone with boobies out there,” me being a fat dude, well ig this counts. XD

[@rachel.doremi6974]

What’s up with this blue vibe?!? Cute!!!

[@AshleeeyK]

What’s the book that was mentioned. Something desires?? I can’t remember where it was mentioned and don’t have the time to rewatch the whole thing 😭

[@AshleeeyK]

Game of desire! 😂 3am and i skipped through the video for 30 mins looking for the mention.

[@Raptors19tdot]

For sure the hardest one to crack is Gina. It's some freaking Jason Bourne spy mission to date Gina lol

[@hannahcruz9618]

Ooo will Geo be a guest somedayyy?!

[@panucolizeth]

Is it just me or does Gina look so much different with that hair? I love it but damn at first I thought it was a guest!

[@KiwiCrisis]

I think she changed more than her hair?

[@franksinatra2024]

Has anyone tried eating at Sushi with Attitude? Its like beef n hot cheetos its weird

[@rachel.doremi6974]

A rhombus is any shape with four equal sides, figure it out

[@hockeyxgamer]

“I LOVE CHEESE.” -10/10 intro

[@carlosocatavious3363]

How can girls hold food in their hands for so long without it melting. Magic?

[@laylabug39]

You don't have to be rude. They obviously watch your relationship with David on youtube. They don't know you haven't been in touch with him

[@RonRuble]

The ThirdLove link in the video appears as thRIDlove.com; I and R reversed. Might want to fix that. That's the one that appears on screen in the lower 3rd, not the link in the show notes "Thanks to our sponsors!" section.

[@DutchesLove1926]

How I determine if your high value is if I introduce you to my parents if I don’t introduce then you know that it

[@bobdole991]

I respect Jess for deleting her dating apps.

[@cogs11]

Dating apps are pretty much useless and just take your money. I'm above average in terms of attractiveness but the women i find attractive get so many matches its a tough pool. Not worth the money.

[@alexisrose4221]

IILMTII wait people actually pay for dating apps? So people are paying for tinder and stuff? Lmfao

[@josephchu3322]

@@alexisrose4221 pay for ass is the new dating ig

[@josephchu3322]

@@cogs11 being attractive just gets her attention.. the conversation, personality & the way u carry yourself gets her to stay. But lets be real people use those apps to hit & dip

[@cogs11]

@@josephchu3322 Yeah I know all that but for that to take place, there has to be a match first with someone I find attractive too, not just one way. I don't contact, if I match with someone I'm not interested in. I don't do it just for the sex.

[@allisonmalaki685]

Can we have the link of the article about finding a high value partner? :)

[@Shugsicles86]

I suggest going to Reddit and searching for the Female Dating Strategy subreddit. They are ALLLL about high-value men.

[@LMason-qd7sq]

I can't say "dollars" properly anymore...Thanks Gina...

[@brianparchamento9349]

Miss G

[@kittyandkita]

Alright so what I got from this is that I need to be more wrong. Gotcha😉

[@No1likeSharon]

54:25 I love Tiff 2.0

[@blackhell8079]

Jess didn't even introduce herself lol!

[@Taka12G]

I was called low value because of not being white, didnt know how to respond lol.

[@wowzapop828]

that’s messed up wtf

[@Sonicboom238]

damn what race was the girl

[@Tablechair45]

Jess looks like she's on her way to her bar mitzvah

[@supermantien3999]

How do you find a rich gf ? I tried and nothing yet