Mental Health Experts Debunk 10 Stress Myths | Debunked

[@aycaaltay9929]

It’s really a catch-22 about the burn-out. If I could arrange a regular sleep-wake schedule, exercise regularly, enjoy hobbbies, etc., I wouldn’t have burned out anyways.

[@cristinanderson5021]

Thats a great point and so true. Sometimes stress is inevitable but I would say even if you could do one thing that helps, its better than nothing.

[@WhatsBliss]

Yeah that felt very much like non-advice… creating a laundry list of things to do and handing it to someone with burnout is setting them up for failure. Also, while a vacation on it’s own won’t solve burnout, it can be an opportunity to catch your breath, check in with yourself, and create a plan to do some of the things their talking about. Taking time for yourself and practicing self care is really important for dealing with stress/burnout and for a lot of people that’s going to look like a vacation.

[@aycaaltay9929]

@@WhatsBliss That is so true!

[@ik7357]

exactly! absolutely no acknowledgement of how the exploitative labor systems we’re working under are inherently conducive to burn-out (esp if you’re already neurodivergent, mentally ill, chronically ill or otherwise disabled). no amount of breathing exercises is going to help when you’re being crushed to death by capitalism.

[@bckazee]

EXACTLY!!!! Story of my friggin life 😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@akunabalaja6435]

What I learn from this video (I'm creating a habit of writing the useful knowledge after great videos like this one) 1. Vacation isn't going to cure burnout... 2. When feeling stressed, focus on one thing (create a game) and then do some exercise 3. When stressed, more blood needs to go to the brain

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

You can develop healthy coping mechanisms. Eventually, you can become resilient, despite your childhood and the failure that is modern education. But talk to a pro. Also, I hope you forget that 3rd item on your list. The increased blood flow throughout the body is the RESULT of the Fight or Flight mechanisms, and does not typically alleviate stress.

[@kyleroberts1276]

@@b.calvinsaul1909 vacation never fixes problem. It only puts the problem off until you return from it.

[@InnerGiggles]

Great habit!

[@SgtMacska]

Thanks for sharing these points! I somehow missed #2 and #3

[@user-gm501]

as someone who's a serious nail biter with social anxiety I think it's saying something that the only time in my life i've had long fingernails was during the first lockdown when nobody could force me to go out. It feels bad to realise the most stress-free period of my life was such an awful and painful one to everyone else.

[@olgasopilniak901]

You shouldn't feel bad about enjoying the quarantine. Had a similar situation and worked through it with my psychologist. What I learned is that you shouldn't force yourself to socialize even if everyone else is doing it. Take it slow and listen to yourself. Just because other people love to socialize, doesn't mean you have to. It's okay to enjoy time with yourself, eat alone at the restaurant or go to the movies all by yourself. The most important part is that you enjoy it and don't feel stressed.

[@redbloodedbutterfly]

Please don't feel bad or judge yourself negatively about reacting differently from those without social anxiety. It was not "awful and painful" to everyone else. Myself and those in my social circle were largely fine, if not relieved, because we're mostly introverts. Quarantine allowed many introverts and people with social anxiety to choose when and how to interact with others in a way that was finally socially acceptable, such as working from home and avoiding in-person events. I hope you're able to continue to find relief from your stress, now that quarantine has been lifted in most cases.

[@peachbooks3199]

don't feel bad about it. by staying at home and enjoying yourself you're preventing the disease spreading, it's a win-win

[@commanderwaddles3483]

Never feel bad for finally finding a piece of the puzzle that is your peace & self-actualization, regardless of the context. You have no obligation to suffer along those who suffer. I appreciate your empathy, but we wanna see you winning too. Can't just have a pity party every time something awful is going on. Be proud of your discovery!

[@bar_library]

I HATED lockdown. But I’m sincerely glad you enjoyed it. At least some people benefited emotionally.

[@pigpjs]

For vacations, I found taking long weekends more consistently instead of a week or two big vacation, was more helpful for stress. It gave me time to take care of my personal stuff and to go away if I wanted.

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

Stress affects not only memory and many other brain functions, like mood and anxiety, but also promotes inflammation, which adversely affects heart health.

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

Chronic stress. Not all stress. Some stress improves memory, provides clarity of thought, dilates blood vessels (reducing blood pressure), and inhibits run-away autoimmune responses. You know, the opposite of your implications. I believe Ms. Cook and Ms. Leyro mentioned that there was a difference between Chronic and Occasional stress, no?

[@lupey1696]

I been stressed the past 4 years and my memory is so bad. I can't remember words.

[@Antoniooooooooooooooo]

@@lupey1696 I'm so sorry to hear that Lupey. I wish you can be relieved somehow...

[@poizonali]

Pity they didn‘t talk about C-PTSD, especially from horrible childhoods. I believe that this is way underrated and people don‘t take the consequences of really bad and/or violent parenting seriously.

[@babybirdhome]

It’s because C-PTSD doesn’t exist in the current DSM (diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders) yet. It’s only recently begun being recognized and studied as a distinct thing from normal PTSD.

[@Gorrgrim]

but they mentioned microaggression PTSD lmfao

[@TheoRae8289]

@@Gorrgrim yeah and they're talking about it in the context of such repeatedly happening over a long period of time, not just the once. And there's research to support that.

[@ayannababii]

@@Gorrgrim "Microaggression PTSD" isn't a thing. PTSD comes from various experiences, including child abuse and microaggressions. They didn't mention the designation C-PTSD because it's still kind of unofficial. But it's a distinct version of PTSD, and "microaggression PTSD" is not a distinct version of PTSD

[@xXblackgaarangelXx]

Guys, it's a 13 min video that needs to appeal to the masses. It cannot include everything and, while complex PTSD is something real and was added in the World Health Organization (but not in the American Psychiatric Assosiciation yet, tho it is recognized separately in the American Veteran Association), it is not as common as the other forms of stress humans must deal with on a daily basis. I appreciate it that they briefly mentioned PTSD and that's good enough for me.

[@DescartesRenegade]

After my dad died, I quite literally stopped giving a shit about non-life threatening events. My mental health is on cloud nine. Perspective is everything.

[@LabRat6619]

I dumped materialism like a stone after my mum and brother died together. I just live life to max in case I'm next!

[@zulimi]

Exactly! Now just embracing the moment, instead of living in the darkness.

[@animaticToshiue]

@@LabRat6619 I try to always give time to people now than things/tasks as much as possible. Because PEOPLE are more important. My mother, brother and father died in the span of ten years. God has been my help. :)

[@YourMajesty143]

So how do I change my perspective if my problem with death, as a war civilian, is that its a constant? My people have been occupied for nearly a century and are dying every day. How does one change their perspective and live on cloud 9 without dissassociating from reality completely?

[@Essuna]

@@YourMajesty143 @YourMajesty143 Their comments althought honest and not ill intentioned are not really accurate to most people experiences. Although I dumped materialism as well after living some really extreme experiences is not that easy to go "if I am not dying then I don't care". Honestly death doesn't worry me personally because I suffered through some very complicating and excruciating issues wirh my mental health for years and for which I am still recovering so in my experience death sometimes is way more compassionate than years or decades of intense suffering and misery. In your case I think you need to work through trauma and your own experiences, don't expect to feel like these people when your reality is different. Not all paths are the right one for everyone. They have their way, I have my own and you have yours. I know what is like to live in constant fear, although my experience was different, what I would suggest is to read presence and Buddhist philosophy books, they helped me detach from the fear of death many years ago which in turned helped me face this huge mental health challenge as I detached myself from the material. Pema Chodrön book "Start Where you are" and Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" are very good. But I recommend Pema's book more as she is kinder on her lessons and less invasive. I suffered a lot with Tolle's book because it triggered my PTSD. Also meditations that focus on being mindful of sounds around you and of your body heat, touch etc are very soothing and can help you throught the stress. As a last thing what helped me the most though this extremely challenging experience was acceptance. When we learn to accept life as it is we set ourselves free. Resistance creates a wall of conflict. Acceptance helps us become less solid, so things that happen around us don't clash with us. And again let me truly recommend Pema's book, there are some great practices in there and she is very gentle and compassionate. I hope this helps you in some way and I am sending you many blessings and strength!

[@grutarg2938]

My best vacation: I had a week of vacation time at work. I decided that rather than take 1 week off, I would work 4 days a week for 6 weeks. It was amazing. I kept up with work, and had extra time off to catch up on things at home and to just rest.

[@zoes4645]

This makes so much sense. I'm doing this next year.

[@FateHuh]

Definitely! I've been doing this and I'm liking it 😁 not good to be working for the whole month/2 months straight just to take 1 week vacation, I'd rather cut the workdays into small chunks 😁

[@YourMajesty143]

Bc of my ADD/SCT, my weekends -- even long weekends -- always go by too fast, but I still try to squeeze them in bc a few days of doing nothing was still great for recharging. One tactic is that I usually took my days off around the holidays, so that I used less PTO days for a long vacay. Another tactic is I'd take a Wednesday off mid-week to recharge, so that the week broke up my work as a 2 day start and a 2 day finish. Another is to work on a Sunday and call off on a Friday on 1 pay period and then a Monday on the following pay period while working the upcoming Saturday. It was still 5 day work weeks, but bc of that long 4 day weekend in between the 2 pay periods, I felt like I was able to get a mini-break without ever using PTO. For a different job, they always gave us a 3 day weekend every 3 weeks, bc they rotated who's turn it was to work a 6 day week, so that at least one person covered the shift of the person who was off. I tried to bring that over to my new job, but some didn't understand how it worked except one lady. So when we bid for our schedules I worked 10 hrs T - Fri and took Monday off and she worked same hrs M - Th but took Friday off, so when one of us needed a 4 day weekend, we'd ask one another to work their day off to cover our shift (for ex. I'd work my day off and cover her Monday, so that I'd be working a total of 5 ten hr days) or if overtime wasn't allowed that week, we would swap shifts within the same pay period. I was able to always stretch out my PTO so that when I was ready to bank them, I could take 3 weeks to an entire month off, depending on when I took vacation. And I always had PTO leftover to rollover for emergencies in case I needed it. Now that more companies are giving way better PTO benefits, I'm glad I won't have to game the system as much to get much needed breaks.

[@danielamaterna7348]

4 day work weeks should be the norm

[@TayyaMarie]

My C-PTSD went undiagnosed and they couldn't figure out why a young 23 year old was presenting with heart attack and multiple organ failure. I feel my trauma somatically. I wish more people understood that spousal abuse can also trigger ptsd and some awful shit 😔😔💚

[@LilliHerveau]

I hope you're doing better. Take care

[@631footytv9]

so sorry to hear that🙏🏻how are you doing now?

[@TayyaMarie]

@@631footytv9 From 2020 to now in 2022, I'm doing much better thank you 🥰 Feet are back on the ground and I'm living life the best way I can

[@WhisperedDelightsASMR]

I need this one SO badly rn 🙏🏽 Thank you for addressing these but please consider expanding upon this topic. 🌸 We tend not to realize how much negative stress affects our overall health until we’re already deeply set in it.

[@BastiaanFranssen]

I just have to say that I have so much respect for Science Insider to persistently put women of colour on their videos showing how many incredible Black (African and African American), Asian and Latina female scientist there are in the field. This is really such a good thnig to show little girls of *any* race that they can become whatever they want. Good on you Science Insider!

[@PS-zw4yc]

Race over resume. Gender over gpa right? They did a good job. Bottom line. They were picked to discuss their fields and it’s irrelevant their race. Why are people so obsessed over skin color

[@NeilDavis10]

@@PS-zw4yc imo, if you only have one demographic consistently appearing in videos, promotional material, etc. someone starting out in the world might get the idea that only those people can work in that field. Also, each demographic might have different experiences because of gender, race, etc. that can influence their work. I'm assuming that Science Insider is looking at both their qualifications and how to add a variety of perspectives to create good content.

[@whattacatchdannie]

@@PS-zw4yc It just feels so good to be able to relate for once.

[@hindsightpov4218]

10:39 I wish they at least mentioned how PTSD also happens from growing up in an abusive household, which is often ignored. This kind of PTSD is referred to as Complex PTSD aka CPTSD. It is a result from continuous traumatic experiences for years rather than the traumatic experience coming from a single event or several events. I grew up in a very abusive household. It caused me to have deep depression since my early teens that has never stopped. Literally on a daily basis, I get easily triggered and relive traumatic experiences that came from my family. I referred to this as having painful flashbacks. It was my therapist who told me I have PTSD. When I put my experiences into that context, I was able to make some peace with what happened. These “painful flashbacks” have since lessened but it’s still an ongoing process.

[@DesertHomesteader]

I work well under pressure (like a deadline), but I'd argue that that is different than "stress". I think the stress part comes with fear of consequences or anxiety over failure. But in the case of a challenge or goal where failure is acceptable, that's just pressure and its okay. One thing that helps me avoid stress is dealing with problems immediately and head on. Avoiding problems only causes them to build up to the point where they seem insurmountable and that leads to incredible stress in the long run. Also, I think I have undiagnosed PTSD from my wife dying of breast cancer. Even though I've moved on in most ways, I have literally been afraid to breathe wrong for the last 2 years for fear it will conjure memories of watching her struggle to breathe those last 72 hours of her life.

[@guesswho5790]

Medically, stress happens any time there is a situación that triggers a release of adrenaline and cortisol. Every time we wake up comes from a surge in cortisol once the Sun comes up that wakes us up. Stress is stress. Working well under pressure is because you are stressed andnit pushes you to be more alert. But, if you were under constant pressure would not be great. Being chronically stressed is unhealthy, but we need stress to live.

[@ian1352]

The bear example is a good one - some people will freeze and end up dead because of their stress response, while another person needs that stress to kick off a survival action. So even here the universal we need stress fails. Similarly the claim that being stressed out will motivate everyone to work toward a goal is pure nonsense. That same stress will paralyse many people, leaving them incapable of doing anything.

[@TeaCup1940]

There are others that will scare the bears and the bears will run away...

[@sunnydoom2726]

I was a nail biter all my life. Also chewed on plastic straws. Then in my early 20s I went on anti-anxiety meds (can't remember the name) and the nail hiting and other chewing "habits" stopped. I was only on the meds for about a year. It has almost been 2 decades and I have not gone back to biting my nails. I guess I found the root of the issue.

[@markitos3006]

That’s great I might try this!! 😊

[@elin_]

I'm 28, and I've been burned out since I was 20ish.. because of mental illness. Yay.. I'm not living, I'm just existing.

[@essennagerry]

May I ask what the mental illness is?

[@elin_]

@@essennagerry depression and anxiety.. it's causing a lot of emotional stress. My brain doesn't feel like it used to..

[@mandeep3.14]

Relatable. Hope it gets better soon ✊🏼

[@elin_]

@@mandeep3.14 aw.. I hope you get better

[@WhisperedDelightsASMR]

Have you sought out counseling of some kind? For me, it took me a long time to even come to terms with some things. Speaking to someone, especially a health professional that is helpful & holistic in seeing mental health as equivalent in importance to the rest of the body’s health, can help lead you on the road to better health. Accepting and treating any underlying causes that can exacerbate things can only help. 🌸

[@Ermude10]

Sometimes the causes for burnouts isn't easily identifiable, in which case I do think that vacations can help a lot. If you really have the time to wind down and actually think about your situation you can more easily figure out a working solution to the underlying cause.

[@AlphaBookZ]

I got PTSD from my parents. They used to abuse me (still do). Complex PTSD is the kind I have, the way it was described is long-term abuse that is accumulated instead of once or twice. It's really intriguing, but it's kinda understudied

[@Essuna]

I recommend you the book "Widen the Window" by Elizabeth Stanley and her program in Sounds True called MMFT if you want to know about working through trauma, stress, PTSD. She created this therapy from her own experience with repetitive abuse and traumatic experiences. It is really good 👍 It is also very illuminating to have someone teach how in the book and the course how the brain works and to understand trauma better. I talk a little more about this in a comment at the top. Many blessings to you. 🙏

[@henkverhaeren3759]

It can make a burn out worse. Because you are confronted with yourself on a vacation. Your false conditioned self. And your soul is screaming for attention. Relax in the moment and it al becomes clear.

[@unnarthorthorisson5421]

When I think of "a stress-free life," I'm not imagining a pathological inability so much as just a life without stressors. Even after the claim that not all stress is bad, I still consider such a life ideal. It's probably not healthy to be obsessed with accomplishment to the point where it causes stress.

[@klikkolee]

I think they really misunderstood the "stress-free life" claim. A stress-free life is not a life where you see a bear and feel nothing. A stress-free life is where you never come dangerously close to a bear -- where you never need that primal motivation on top of the more comfortable kinds of motivation. With the "stress is always bad" claim, there's a lot of room for interpretation of "bad", and the interpretation I find most sensible is one for which tearing up the paper is nonsensical. There are indeed health benefits to stress. However, receiving those health benefits is a matter of enduring something bad to avoid things which are worse. These benefits don't mean that stress isn't bad -- it means that evolution has forced you to pick a lesser evil.

[@marciavox8105]

Watch 8:26. They talk about this!

[@klikkolee]

@@marciavox8105 the linked timestamp does not appear to relate to the two criticisms I gave

[@alaynajordan8459]

I think you're looking into this too much

[@martinglazer4588]

Stress eating is a positive feedback loop (although a bad one) because it is reinforcing - a negative feedback look would be a self-regulating one which this is not

[@jjk4891]

True, but I guess they were saying it is a feedback loop that is not helpful (negative) to you.

[@Waltrow]

Yep, came here to say this. Definitely a positive feedback loop, despite being used in a negative context.

[@kbtiest]

The "Stress helps people work faster and better" makes me a link to those reality shows. They make the contestant super nervous, making the people make a mistake that audacious feel there's no chance to make.

[@TheHandsomeOne]

I feel lucky. Had PTSD when I was out of service and then burned out while working full time and studying for my finals at the same time for a long time. Still haven't recovered.

[@eml3077]

They really simplify stress and it's quite frustrating. Just because it works for most people doesn't mean it works for everyone. Mental health is so complex and unique to each individual.

[@PritenVora]

I am feeling instantly better after watching this video... thank you

[@spiderliliez]

To be honest, after I come from vacation, I get morrrrrreeee lazy when I come back to work.

[@aaronmcdaniel7768]

9:45 That is a POSITIVE feedback loop, not a NEGATIVE one. A negative feedback loop is when one action DECREASES the effects of another, not when it makes it worse or more "negative"

[@faithfocals]

What helped me with my nail-biting habit was my friend inspiring me to clip my nails when they got long enough that I wanted to bite them. Sure, I wanted to grow out my nails, but they weren’t growing as long as I had the habit, and clipping them deprived me of opportunities to reinforce it. I can’t remember the last time I bit them anymore.

[@eml3077]

I used to be a nail biter and I'd try all those strategies but they didn't work. The only 2 things that worked were being told how dirty it is under my nails and a deep motivation to want to stop (which then took a long time to actually stop the behavior like I had to consciously stop myself before I was about to bite them) I think any behavior whether it's biting your nails, drug addiction, food addiction or compulsive shopping... it can only be stopped if the person doing it wants to stop the behavior. No strategy will work if they don't want to stop doing it!

[@Voguemama]

Yep I agree!

[@leepemberton8854]

As a white guy I wanted to thank you for your use of varied races & sexualities in your video clips. It's easy to unconsciously forget that media is still predominantly straight/white. I want to see the whole human family. :)

[@-8h-]

If you're in NA then I dunno what media you're seeing. You must be watching with your eyes closed. Besides, who cares? It doesn't matter anyway.

[@himesilva]

@FuckOuttaHere Because having a diverse range of perspectives is important if you actually want to understand the whole picture

[@cmdjk1]

@FuckOuttaHere There tends to be less studies and knowledge in illnesses that affect ethnic minorities. By having a diverse group of people helps to spread more understanding of medical issues that can affect minorities. If you weren’t racist then you’d agree with the original commenter.

[@cmdjk1]

@FuckOuttaHere In your comments.

[@PS-zw4yc]

I had similar comment in another thread. Why are so many people obsessed with race? It’s ridiculous that that is the first thing you get out of this. Pretty racist that you immediately look and judge that they are a certain color. Or decide to listen more or less. I did dent even think about it being a black woman it could have been an alien. She was talking about her professional field. And sounded logical and reasonable. I listened. Not because of skin color. You people should be ashamed of your selves

[@priscilabee583]

Plot twist: I did not feel bad about eating the chocolate cake 😁

[@sheikhsafik2199]

Pls make a dedicated video on anxiety and panic attack

[@Essuna]

As a person who has PTSD and OCD generated from it, has lived most of this experiences and coping mechanism (except for alcohol) and has done extensive studying, therapies and practices to help myself I can say that all that they are saying is spot on. I am glad theu find really empathic and wise professionals because I have met a few that are completely ignorant of the ways of trauma or have a complete lack of empathy. I am going to make a few recommendations if you find yourself with PTSD, chronic stress, anxiety disorders or generally have a hard time self regulating. First meditation can be very good, but depending on your experience can also be very triggering to focus on your breath specially if it is a meditation that requires intense breathing as it doesn't soothe. So my suggestion is if you want to meditate find one that focus in feeling the sensations of your body or being present to the sounds and silence around you, that is a lot more soothing to the survival brain which is the one that gets activated with stress and creates fight or flight response and freeze. Two, exercise is a tremendous help, on top of generating a lot of uplifting sensationa it can also help discharge stress activation. A few minutes of a cardio practice are enough and there are a great variety of cardio exercise you can try; like running, power walking, HIIT, jumping rope, etc. Those things are good for handling stress in general. Now if you want to work through your stress responses, stress activation, PTSD, anxious disorders I recommend two things I have personally tried. Of course I go to a psychoatrist and had therapies with psychologist but not all of us are at that level. In general these two "therapies" I am going to recomment are good for all the above. One is EMDR which was extremely helpful whenever I got triggered, working with a professional is a must, but it is also great to have them teach you how to self estimulate your brain so you can work through whatever stress activation you are going through. Is great for working through traumas as well. The next one is MMFT created by Elizabeth Stanley; this is a program that helps to soothe and repare the body and survival brain after going through traumas or having ptsd but is also extremely helpful for chronic stress, burnout, high demand jobs or generally if you are a person that has a hard time coping, self soothing and handling stress. More than anything this course helps you work with the symptons of dysregulation in your system that can show up as physical or mental illnesses. She has a book "Widen the Window" where she talks about how the brain works, how different experience can lead to trauma and her own experience with trauma. She also explains to exercises you can use to start practicing to help your system regulate. Her full program of you are interested is in Sounds True page, at least that is where I am doing it and it gives full explanations on the mind body system, trauma and a bunch of exercises on how to discharge and activate healing and recovery from stress. As an additional note I used to be a biter when I was a kid and my mom bought a "nail polish" that had a horrible taste so I would put it on my nails and in a few months I stopped nail biting. Of course it did not handle the core issue that I was anxious and stressed but it did help to not damage my hands and I have never returned to nail biting. You can put aji (I think in english is chile) in your nails, it will burn like hell and you wont bite again. Also, another tip, sleeping helps a lot to recover from stress activation. Hope this helps! Have a good day!

[@paulo0e]

Thanks a lot for the comment. I've been doing psychotherapy for years and atm taking several psychotropics (been on meds for years as well). The thing is I had been practicing mindfulness for 3 years and it was great, but I gradually lost the discipline to do it during the pandemics, defeated by anxiety, which I think was a huge loss for my mental health as a whole. I'll certainly have a look at the Elizabeth Stanley's training, it sounds amazing! Thank you :)

[@Essuna]

@@paulo0e I totally understand. Caring for your mental health is kind of a full time job and sometimes you just want a break and loose the consistency of the practice, I definitely been there. What's important is that you are aware and still doing your besr to help yourself and that means the world. I am glad my comment is of help and definetely check her out, I have found botj her course and book extremely helpful 😊 Many blessings to you 🙏

[@unknownparadox8041]

I didn't know that vacation are not the cure of burnout. I thought that it would help to alleviate it, but it's actually nothing but an escape to reality. I can't remember when I stress eat but I do know I tend to watch multiple videos on youtube for a long period because of stress and thus making a never ending loop of feeling stress and then watching more.

[@berliozchick]

How about pandemic stress, burnout, or PTSD? Sure, removing the stressors helps, but certain conditions, notably, during the pandemic are causing more burnout than ever, without a solution available; sadly, this is happening mostly to caregivers, women. Solution? Well, in " normal " conditions, your video can help.

[@WhisperedDelightsASMR]

They need an addendum to this video. Stress, anxiety, mental health are all forces that can cripple people, especially in the social environments we’re in now. There are reasons people are leaving their jobs in droves, taking medications which they otherwise would not be taking, feeling angry, aggressive or easily frustrated. This is such a huge topic to just afford one video to.

[@berliozchick]

@@WhisperedDelightsASMR yes, for sure, among other issues I find with this rather superficial and not well organized presentation. Cheers

[@LP2488]

Great questions. I think seeking assistance with processing through everything you mentioned maybe helpful if it hasn't been pursue yet. Wishing these times were so different but hopefully they will be soon one day. Take courage

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

'This is happening mostly to caregivers, women.' - Um, got any data for that unnecessary claim? Why do some females have this drive to be 'most affected'? Yes, the lockdowns caused a lot of unnecessary stress. The pandemic did not. The media fear porn caused a lot of unnecessary stress. The pandemic did not. In the US, even after attributing every flu, cancer, heart failure, and diabetes death to 'the cough', the total was a slight fraction of automobile deaths over the same period. Solution? If you suspect that you have an actual mental or emotional issue, make a phone call to a local help line. They can set up a free Zoom meeting with a professional to start the discussion. Otherwise, start by ascertaining the actual source of the stress. Try to put that risk in perspective, relative to other risks. Perhaps, disengage from the sources of that stress, such as Twitter or corporate media. Redirect your anxiety into something positive, like starting a windowsill garden or learning a light hobby.

[@babybirdhome]

@@b.calvinsaul1909 A million deaths in 2 years is a slight fraction of automobile deaths over the same period? Um, got any data for that blatantly false claim? Dude, there’s typically about 30-50k automobile deaths per year in the U.S., not half a million. If you’re going to chastise others for not citing data, then at least make sure you’re not guilty of the same thing.

[@user-cv1jb9xv2p]

0:09 going to Nani's (mother's mother) house, Bua (father's sister) house or Massi's (mother's sister) house relieves from burnout. People in Indian Subcontinent have been doing this for centuries.

[@TheGomezIndustries]

I’ve spent $50,000 on vacations and it only caused more stress.

[@Mockduck2020]

That would definitely stress me out!

[@STRUCENGG]

Teresa's voice is already healing my stress 😊

[@wicked_deftlady]

Sending all my fellow human sisters and brothers positive vibes. May we all pull through with kindness. One love. ☮️☯️🌈🌎🌏🌍✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽✊🏼✊🏻

[@miekeduwe6602]

Saying that it’s simply not true that people can thrive under stress is really exclusive to neuro typical people. As someone with ADHD it’s absolutely true for me. It’s the only time I have enough motivation to get things done.

[@leeplumy4316]

I agree with the vacations one, at the end of last year I had the worst burnout in my life and the vacations that I took did make it a lot worse for me, actually when I started following a schedule I started recovering

[@bunnyboo6295]

Good idea getting into a routine

[@MissVasques]

I think the ”better under stress” is that it is easier to keep away from distractions as it is easier to see direct effect. Without a near deadline it is all about working for the you in weeks or months from that which comes less natural. Harder to grasp.

[@NikkieN1992]

I literally grew up with my parents in stress due to poverty and my husband was shielded from all stresses in life and now he struggles with everything. He calls his mother constantly for help and he's 35 years old.

[@allisond.46]

That’s an interesting combination.

[@unhash631]

I wish more KZbin videos are this detailed and reliable

[@harrypothead6222]

Really nice diverse representation in this video. Appreciate it with both speakers and B-Roll footage ❤️❤️

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

What do you mean, 'diverse'? They seemed to be in complete agreement on everything until the topic of PTSD. Same sex, same country, same social strata, same income level, same language... Would a poor young French man and a wealthy aging Russian man been a less 'diverse' pairing, in your eyes? Or is it all about skin tone for you? Were you trying to get some sort of beta points with this comment? Weird priorities, Harry. Weird priorities.

[@rk13567]

@@b.calvinsaul1909 I think he's referring to the inclusion of various races, as well as a same-sex couple getting married in the video

[@ian1352]

Vacations themselves are stressful, because you have to plan them, pack, travel there, then make sure you pack everything at the end, travel back and then unpack everything. Never mind the cost involved. By the time it is all over you need a holiday to recover from the vacation. If you're rich of course it is no big deal. The cost is nothing and you just tell somebody else to make all the arrangements. Plus you get to use luxury transport instead of being packed into economy class or having to spend several hours in a car.

[@divest_.2759]

Im a nail biter, didnt brush my teeth all my life until just now 3months ago picked it up daily, with a skin care routine, reduced my smoking. These things are hard guys. Building habits and quiting your old bad ones. But its very possible and you have to turn off thar short term dopamine. Thats literally the only way.

[@cyankirkpatrick5194]

Thank you for this, I'm bipolar perfect timing, I have medication, I've slowed down in the overeating, when I'm bored and stressed I realized that sometime ago and thanks for bringing that and anyone that can get PTSD I get anxiety when I go down stairs I had a accident going down stairs and I do get a little bit nervous when I have to use them and I get nervous when I walk on uneven ground I have a fake hip.but I'm pushing myself.

[@ian1352]

Terminology can be confusing. Like no pain, no gain. Exercising is painful, but it is a different kind of pain to an injury. Same with stress. The problem I see is that we don't have a good way of quantifying or recognising which is which. Also each person is different, so just like physical exercise some can withstand more than others. Some even need more.

[@alaynajordan8459]

I love the way you phrased this!

[@StoneHeartMetalMind]

To add-on to reducing or stopping nail biting, I stopped bc someone complimented my nails which made me want to take care of them. i also bought a nail file to help manage the length of my nails which I do to cure boredom

[@Dominus_Potatus]

Whenerver I got stressed out, I'll go playing game to refresh my brain so I can see from fresh point-of-view

[@gedalyahreback2133]

The tone of voice delivering the advice is making me more stressed out than I was before watching the video.

[@dannerzme]

VERY useful video. Much appreciated. I will absolutely take some of the advice. I was stressed with their inflection finishing statements like they were questions, though.

[@gopalkrishnsharma8989]

I was a nail biter and it became evident to people around me due to this habit.. my teacher used to catch me when he saw me doing the same.. I started cutting my nails short and still do so.. after doing that my habit of nail biting just went away and I became a little bit more confident.

[@saralepelenburg1327]

I’ve found that there are multiple stages of burnout. So maybe a lower degree of burnout can be solved by a vacation. But if you have a medium degree it will not be enough and you have to alter your lifestyle to recover. But if you are so burned out that you cannot get out of bed more drastic measures are necessary and I do not think just lifestyle changes and a removing of some stressors can help

[@stressedvulture]

"kids need stress" yeah um tell that to 13 year old me strugging real hard at school overly stressed, being bullied and then developing anxiety.

[@fictionmeister]

Kids need *some* stress.

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

Did you even watch the video? Occasional stress is good. Chronic stress is bad. No offense, but a whole lot of people self-diagnose themselves as having anxiety to seem special and garner attention. I'm not saying that describes you, but you did come out of the gate with the name 'StressedVulture', saying 'I was really stressed as a kid', 'I was bullied', and 'I have anxiety'. Being bullied is normal and positive, unless a LASTING injury is done.

[@stressedvulture]

@@b.calvinsaul1909 I have been diagnosed with anxiety by a professional. My username has nothing to do with it, but is a reference to a band I listen to.

[@stressedvulture]

@@fictionmeister yeah but they never really seem to take a stance on where to draw the line other than chronic vs normal which even one very sturessful event can leave lasting damage. Kids should experience some but extra stress should be avoided if possible.

[@cathxrne]

We need another ep!!

[@christins.1481]

The vacation one is my biggest thing and actually don't like taking vacation because of this. You're basically just trading one schedule for another when the whole point is to relax. Same rule applies with theme parks too. You have to be a Point A at a certain time, then leave Point A to get to Point B at a certain time, then get to Point C at a certain and continue before said event closes. Get back to your hotel, make sure you go to sleep at said time to get enough sleep for said time you're waking up to repeat again for that day. It's literally the same thing. This is why IF I go somewhere with someone, I'm only in the lobby of the hotel and swimming, that's it. I sleep in as late as I want and don't have to worry about get a said amount of sleep. If I can't go to sleep, I go I to the hotel lobby and chill out down there.

[@iBRiDGE380]

Min 8 BEST EVER! YES! A GAME FOCUSING ON THE MOMENT AT HAND!!! LOVIT. Of course that requires a person believing its more important to leave the stress rather than justify staying in it.

[@multifangirl2155]

been coming out of ER a couple of times due to intense stress, anxiety and panic. Now my physical health is getting worse hahaha!

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

Reach out to the local help lines. They can set up a Zoom meeting with a professional to begin the discussion. They'll help you develop resiliency and coping strategies. You can become strong and resilient.

[@multifangirl2155]

@@b.calvinsaul1909 thank you. but I don't think I can.

[@SneakyJoeRu]

For me it was kinda easy to stop biting nails. I was doing it for my whole childhood. At some point I just thought they don't look as nice, and I stopped. Just like that. For this whole time I was having a lot of stress by parents, school and university. About once a year I can try biting again, but I stop as my teeth aren't as strong and now biting nails hurts. It didn't in the past, when I was used to it.

[@draglovsk7279]

These ladies are my new inspiration to be part of psychology community

[@norma8686]

I've been biting my nails since I can remember but I don't want to stop, I actually like biting my nails, kinda helps with my anxiety too, I think...

[@sunnydoom2726]

I was a nail biter all my life until I went on anti-anxiety meds. Then I just stopped. Not on the meds anymore and haven't gone back to chewing my nails. Even braces didn't stop me.

[@-8h-]

How do you get some stress relief? I feel like I stress an overwhelming amount and there isn't really any way to reduce it. I know how to handle things that stress me out, but not how to reduce the feeling that I believe is ruining my health.

[@Mintstar_Oceanpop]

I am genuinely perplexed how micro-aggressions can lead to ptsd.

[@sketchur]

Ditto. To me, it seems like a modern fad to plug in the term "microaggression," and connect better with a younger audience, but... I'm open to learning about real-life examples of this throughout the lifespan of humanity. We are discovering phenomena like this everyday.

[@whyisgamora4191]

@@sketchur It's called C-PTSD and it's currently gaining more and more research interest. When small, negative experiences happen to you repeatedly (keyword: repeatedly), it's really no surprise that your brain starts to expect these negative experiences everywhere. This can lead to the point where one might start having PTSD-like symptoms like avoidance behaviour or extreme anxiety from sounds or other stimuli that have been conditioned/associated with these experiences. PTSD is just conditioning after all - the brain associates the stimuli that were present during (a) fearful experience(s) with danger, this can happen from just 1 very traumatic exposure but it also happens after repeated 'lesser' exposures.

[@dhruw9935]

I just love this series

[@tigercubrawr159]

"Is that a thought or a fact?" Changed my whole mood

[@har5814]

Sex is a very good example of good stress.

[@calyco2381]

I want to exercise and doin something fun > no, you cant. Gotta finish your work first > but i'm bored and need a break > no. Finish your work first > repeat. This evil cycle i had.

[@deepika2644]

I love the resources of Banyan Botanicals for well-being... seriously it has changed my life

[@hendrasutika]

- stress-free life is not a perfect life. When need stress and that is valuable to make us a fighter. It can motivate our behavior. - Helicopter parenting is making shield and over protective to the children. Let children being adaptive to the stress. - Taking vacation is not a relieve of burn out. The only way to cure burn out is to remove the cause of burn out or doing meditation, eating healthy food. - Think about the stressor to deal about the stressor (stressor : the one that cause stress) - Nail biting when stress coming is a bad habit. - Alkohol is initial stress relieve but not for prolong time and better relieve - Stress is not always bad. -

[@jeremyc4811]

It's funny how all the listed solutions to burnout are about symptom management and not addressing the root cause of the burnout. "Yes, eat veggies, sleep better, be mindful" "How about quitting that shitty job that's burning you out?"

[@twipardist9742]

Thank you! I am quitting the job. I feel downright funky and my energy/mood has been off for the last month but I refused to acknowledge it was my job until I had a panic attack a week ago (felt like my heart just couldn't stop racing). The last time I felt that on edge was in a legitimately dangerous situation.

[@viktoriyarts]

Vacation also can be stressful, I rest after really long sleep, not being active in a different place, just complete ignorance.

[@littlestbroccoli]

Every time I've talked to an expert about chronic stress they often start out by reminding me not all stress is bad, eustress is healthy. I can usually tell this is a sign they're going to gaslight me into accepting a level of stress that's unhealthy. They can't see the global effects of it on my health and life. These days I stop listening when someone starts out with that. The sleep scientists video was very helpful and illuminating. This video is painful for people who experience high levels of constant stress or depression.

[@dianastacey919]

Thought I was handling stress when I got married but I got a bone cyst on my hand and developed Renaud which means the circulation in my fingers got cut off for a while. All I was doing was university/job/setting up new household without the usual wedding planning with dress, etc. I strongly suggest getting married at the courthouse by a judge. Stress when my husband died which we knew was going to happen was unbelievable on the body. Blood pressure soared with a terrible headache and could not sleep for days. When a person dies the day after their spouse, this is not romantic, this is stress killing them. You will feel like you are being chased by a bear for weeks afterward. If I had a weak heart or circulation system I definitely would have died. I had PTSD when young which lasted about 3 plus years. So I do not get stressed when the tree falls on the house and takes out the roof and rain is coming through the light fixtures. I consider that a normal day. So I feel sorry for people who are sheltered and unable to cope with a simple traffic accident. My husband functioned like a deer in headlights when the roof was damaged so I had to handle everything. You can learn coping methods. I am always aware others have it worse, but they are careful to hide it, and that helps when you feel the world is out to get you.

[@b.calvinsaul1909]

You have had the real deal, and you are right on the money regarding the loss of a spouse. My heart goes out to you, but it is clear that you are actually quite strong and resilient -- and not like every female on social media is told that they are 'strong' when they are actually very weak in every way. I salute your most respectable self, Diana.

[@babybirdhome]

@@b.calvinsaul1909 Oh wow, you again. You’re just plain toxic it seems. Maybe you’re just young, but the comments of yours that I’ve read on this video so far suggests that, whatever the cause, you’re a toxic human being. You could change that for the better.

[@YourMajesty143]

If I'm not mistaken, I sense a patronizing tone from this comment. While I'm absolutely not sheltered, I will absolutely freak out over a traffic accident. That's bc I have a neurodivergent brain that suffers from poor emotional regulation, which makes me hypersensitive. Let me explain to you how NOT sheltered I am: - Since age 3, I've been steadily losing my vision and predicted to be completely blind before I reach my 60s - At age 9, my yound dad collapsed with a stroke & entered a coma until he died 3 yrs later. And every year since, I've lost loved ones to death's knock. - At age 10, I fought off my bipolar brother tryna stab me. - At age 12, I had to break down the door to stop my mom from committing suicide bc of him. - At age 13, my best friend of the same age joined the Crips and got shot in the head by the Bloods. - The same year, the Crips cornered me under a stairwell and sexually assaulted me. - I had to have a school-administered bodyguard walk me to school & back, until I got expelled for cutting classes. - Moved from NYC to Cleveland at age 14, got expelled out of that school. - My mom sent her troubled kids off to a boarding school in Palestine at age 15. - The war started and I became a war civilian at the age of 16. __Bombs blasting, tear gas, dead babies, women crying over bloody bodies are recurring memories I now have__ - Age 17, stopped my mom from committing suicide again when she tried to poison herself, followed by many sleepless nights of suicide-watch. - Age 18, climbed a dirt mountain to avoid a checkpoint in order to take my SATs, a jeep repeatedly shot at me while I was screaming "Stop! I'm an American!". It went around the mountain and repeatedly did this 3 times until my brother who had climbed the next mountain double-backed by leaping off like a psycho and throwing me behind a boulder while the bullets ricocheted right over our heads. As the jeep circled around again, he carried me up the next climb where a taxi waited for us. I passed my exam despite all this. __Btw this happened again on our way back home, but this time I was mentally prepared and even carried a paralyzed woman while my lungs were full of tear gas. Learned alot about myself & the resilience of my people__ - Left Pali after 3 yrs, but in USA dealt with alot of physical, verbal, and sexual abuse and had 5 near death experiences. (Vague, I knoe but c'mon I gotta leave something for my memoir 😏) In conclusion....

[@YourMajesty143]

Continued: Bc of my experiences at such a young age, I know the world to be cruel. I refuse to bring children into this shitty existence and am now asexual. I have APD, CPTSD, ADD/SRT, MADD, MaDd, among other "fun" co-morbities. But yeah, I'm likely to "stress cry" if I end up in a car accident. One thing I will not do is ever belittle anyone's trauma or experience just bc I assume people must've been sheltered. Pain is subjective. I could easily smirk at your trauma and compare it to mine, but I don't. Our perception of suffering depends on our personal emotional constitution and neurological wiring. My condolences for your husband's death and I'm sorry if it's numbed you from reacting normally to tragedy. But please don't assume that others way of dealing with stress is bc they didn't have a hard life. Sometimes it's bc they DID have a hard life, but weren't given proper coping skills to handle triggered experiences. Be well.

[@MakeupDrShari]

This is one of the most useful ones for me. Thanks so much!

[@Hosenanzugtasche]

this would work so much better if you explained the terms. laymans terms differ wildly from scientific terms, you explain arousal which falls under stress - scientifically. in common parlance, that is simply not the case.

[@chaos.n.cosmos]

Just looking at and listening to these wonderful experts eased my mind to a huge extent. 💜😃

[@iBRiDGE380]

Min 416 Mindfulness meditation is a commitment to empty the mind and in fact WILL align you, with practice, to NOT think about it at all. The "zen corner" is just a time out calm corner for those who are newbies and can't meditate yet. Meditation can be quite depressing in the beginning.

[@PhoenixProdLLC]

How about stigma based on Ageism, or having a physical disability, or being on the spectrum? How about all the senior shut ins who, literally, die from loneliness and why aren't the social sciences trying to solve for THAT, given even the UK gov formally acknowledged the SEVERE health detriments of socially isolated and excluded people? Also, the issue ISN'T "stress", it's being OVER stressed in multiple ways with few or no opportunities for relief OVER TIME. The longer ANY organism is OVER stressed, the more damage done and SOME kind of relief most be had. Given our society is fine, (seeing as how the issue of social isolation has long been ignored), with shaming and guilt tripping over stressed people who finally snap, it's rather backasswards to harp on "substance abuse". Yeah, organisms WANT to feel better. That's neither good not bad by default. What's unethical, is to try to take away from that organism the things that give it needed relief and not offering any SUBSTANTIAL solution to their issue. You don't say to a single father on the cusp of a breakdown,"Oh hey just go take a hike in the woods!". THAT is Sadism, pure and simple.

[@g33xzi11a]

Obviously the stress eating feedback loop is a bad thing, but it’s not a negative feedback loop, it’s a positive one. Negative and positive don’t mean bad and good, they mean that the feedback loop is either continuously decreasing (negative) or continuously increasing (positive). So with cake and wine you’re continuously increasing the amount of consumption and stress, therefore it’s a positive feedback loop. Negative feedback loops are pretty rare iirc.

[@raeloy]

i have to really applaud science insider for consistently finding diverse professionals for these videos !

[@ryankelly8077]

They should’ve featured a psychiatrist w/ a psychologist in order to identify (1) the medical relevance & (2) the psycho-social-behavior relevance

[@Scruffed]

I see vacations as something that can help prevent burnout rather than as a cure for it. If you're experiencing burnout then it's either time to move on to something else, or you have to make some fundamental change in how you approach the activity that burned you out.

[@wellnessweek3912]

I cut down the regular coffee (that's tough I'm ITALIAN). Went to decaf, added yoga and less junk food. Connecting with friends more too! Big time lowering of my stress load! Now if I could just win the lottery.

[@japprivera3129]

I am starting to like this channel. Pretty cool people demystifying stuff.

[@mariyatsarova8763]

Ohh, this video was really needed. Thank you!

[@helcrestertou9684]

Is it just me and my device, or is the audio in this video seemed like muffled?

[@jJust_NO_]

ive developed a capacity to dampen stress hormones (whatever that is, im just trying to articulate my intent, though i doubt the body is following me all the way). through this breathing technique i can manipulate my system to be slow functioning in its energy consumption and thinking process. it was all fine at first, i could feel relaxed and be at peace. yet when i try to engage to external world with all its complexity, i was having a hard time being individual and autonomous. i became slow to needed social engagements and when my body perceives a threatening event, my hands and feet would get cold. the suppposed release of cortisol hormones had become foreign to my system and i would need to freeze, breathe to be relaxed. whereas before, the release of such hormones excites me and alerts me. now my fear response has amplified and distressing events stick more... the cure is exposure too much peaceful moments, on the one hand incapacitates an individual because he/she is almost incapable in handling negative, conflict ridden stimuli. its an interesting personal observation corroborated with a friend whose been using CBD. after awhile of incessant marijuana use, he could no longer tolerate simple stress.

[@melvayaredaguilar]

sometimes things go out through one head and out the other

[@inkognitongue765]

I don't know why but I'm so stressed after seeing this video

[@allure767]

This is just what I needed!!!!!

[@sir3nd3r70]

Trying not to think about it is easy for me I have ADD. I can literally just turn on the mind wandering mode mid conversation/situation.

[@boboloko]

ADD is an outdated term. ADHD is the current term used in the DSM … … … what was I just talking about? ADHD …

[@Mockduck2020]

@@boboloko the DSM definition is way outdated! It doesn’t even mention emotional disregulation

[@boboloko]

@@Mockduck2020 what’s outdated? … Oh, yeah, right, the DSM 5.

[@himesilva]

Letting your kids be too stressed ends in anxiety too, trust me lol

[@LilliHerveau]

What they described as a a negative feedback loop is actually called a positive feedback loop, because the feedback loop increases the intensity/frequency of the behavior. (For sure it's negative for us :) )

[@kathrynharring8270]

there is also the opposite to stress eating where you forget to eat.... that one sucks a lot too. You don't realize you're hungry until you're nauseous

[@kashiichan]

I've never understood that! If you don't eat, how is nausea helpful??

[@kathrynharring8270]

@@kashiichan it's not...

[@Carewolf]

Yeah, and then you don't want to eat anything. It is soo messed up.

[@BankruptMonkey]

People who never experienced any stress or losing as a kid become anxious or suicidal adults who can't handle the far bigger stresses and losses of adulthood. People will fail job interviews, or have breakups, or experience stress, and if you've never encountered that over low stakes as a kiddo you won't be able to handle the high stakes later in life.

[@pharmclare]

I found this content fascinating and informative. Thanks for sharing 👍

[@ametbeal]

They're saying "stress" but their description is actually fear. Yes, fear is a good thing sometimes