BJJ Student Loses his COOL!

[@TeachMeGrappling]

Thank you to everyone that is supporting me in this comment section. I hesitated to post this video because I worried it made my boys and my gym look bad. I really appreciate all of you. It was an extremely good REAL teaching moment caught on film. My boys in the video are young and boisterous but they work hard and I care for them. They are still learning a lot and not just about martial arts. Thank you everyone!!! ❤

[@whiskyweasal89]

I worry about this all the time for myself. And also I’ve noticed when I start trying a little too hard I have to check myself and start toning it down. I’ve been hurt myself but I also have never hurt anyone.

[@William.H.Bonney]

Great teaching moment that you shared to everyone. I think it was the right move. Thank you.

[@ThatguyFirst]

It takes fortitude and integrity to expose your warts along with the good stuff. Hats off to you sir.

[@bostoncrab4pple]

I think it speaks to your character as a coach and as a person that you’re willing to share difficult moments and not only the happy or easy ones. You have a lot of integrity as far as I can tell, and this video has only made me respect you more with your handling of the situation 👍

[@Rikimaru91]

🥋👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻

[@philipwenger1598]

Simply amazing!!! in my 15 years of training, I have never seen a coach stand up for one of their students like you did there. Every coach should watch this video and learn from how you handled that. You are professional and direct and hopefully the student can learn to check their ego at the door.

[@ESKFmma]

That’s sad bro You been training in the wrong places All coach have responsibilities of taking care of those that come to lean from them

[@mhanif8816]

@ESKFmma I have to agree. I've had the good fortune of being told off a few times!

[@brandonmacon3317]

Canada eh

[@quickfeed7592]

Thank god you spoke up, there needs to be more instructors like you, period. My BJJ team in my old gym more or less disappeared because the "star pupil" was really just a guy that would get mad and go 200% against people if he ever felt tested or ever got submitted. The instructor never sat him down and put the guy in his place and after a few years, all our promising up and coming guys were gone, from injuries. He also ended up giving me a neck injury that prevents me from doing BJJ, to this day. Don't ever hesitate to step in with guys like this. If you don't they'll do way worse and their insecure egos will run rampant through the community.

[@J3unG]

I've seen that happen at other schools, and I'll bail at the drop of a hat if I see that and nothing is done to address it. I don't need to be part of that culture, and I work for a living and don't want to go to work fucked up because of randori or some jerk who can't control himself.

[@Jamoni1]

These guys are lucky to have a coach like you. This is a hard sport, and sometimes we stray from the path. This young man will make better choices in the future because you helped him grow.

[@BeyondtheAtomm]

Good job Brian. You did very well in showing your disappointment without blowing up yourself. The students future actions determine everything else.

[@bolt.22]

You're a good coach. A lot of respect for how you handled that.

[@CarryTrainer]

We aren't fighting, we are training. Good stuff coach.

[@AwestrikeFearofGods]

The only thing worse than struggling against a white belt is maiming a white belt.

[@itsFETO]

Everyone is scared to admit it so I will. Yes I had to look up "maiming". No I never heard the word.

[@crabbypadty393]

This is what men need. A real man to show them what respect, calmness and discipline is.

[@TrayCaddyyy]

Brian handled it well. It’s not just about developing martial skill but developing minds and characters. Got to remember to “Keep it playful.” - Ryron Gracie

[@pixelcultmedia4252]

This was a solid "Use your big boy words." moment. Well handled. There's nothing wrong with stopping the action and assessing where everyone's head is at to retain your gym culture. I wish I saw more of this approach instead of the usual "mat enforcer" nonsense.

[@emiliarapgod8773]

1. He’s your fellow man trying to get better just like you are. 2. There is always a faster gun how would you like it if someone were to do the same to you 3. One day that guy might be better than you and will remember that. Great work coach! really love the way you handled that and alsoyour channel been watching for years.

[@PIOT23]

Great job coach!!! 👏🏼 The community needs to see stuff like this and how it’s handled appropriately JJ will grow because of leadership like yours

[@tobylogsdon2400]

You did a great job of stepping in immediately, remaining calm but firm, and talking him down. Egos flare at every gym from time to time, but having a coach/professor like yourself who is willing to do and say what you did is the #1 way to keep those egos in check. I thought you did a great job, and now they both trust you more than they would have before. Thanks for sharing this!

[@brandonterrazas9363]

I wish more coaches had your approach. People should be held more accountable for their lack of emotional regulation. It feels great to dominate people on the mat but the biggest compliment my coach gives me is picking me to roll with the new people. It shows he trusts me to care for them.

[@Jamoni1]

@@brandonterrazas9363 this. The measure of a man is how many lives he can be trusted with.

[@pleaseunshadowbanme]

I love that too, Ive welcomed so many new people to the sport as their first roll. Its a good feeling, of course its easy not having to roll with a killer but the new guys are still fun too.

[@perryBJJ]

You're an excellent coach, Brian. I'm glad you posted that. There are things like this that occur during the course of normal BJJ training in every gym. People get mad, people get annoyed, people feel slighted or that they are being abused in some way. --It's just people being people. But if not handled well, can lead to all sorts of problems. There are a million technique videos online and some which talk about mindset, but few that focus on important stuff like this. Great job!

[@oramac7237]

The best part of this video is the cameraman. Doing a great job focusing on the right area and not lingering too long in the wrong places.

[@BjjDrillers]

Thank you for sharing. Really glad you did. The message is powerful.

[@gordonfrimann246]

Great video, as a smaller guy this also happend alot to me when bigger guys cant win on technique even on purple belt level. Its like they lost their manhood because they cant tap a smaller guy and have to prove a point for their own ego instead of learning.

[@aibjj316]

Great job coach. Indeed more coaches should see this instead of letting students get injured

[@StevenSWM]

I like it when you get candid...there are times as a coach that you have to keep the peace. Though I will say, in a game like wrestling, where it's all about two men pitted against one another in physical combat, it's almost impossible for ego's not to flare occasionally. If you get challenged by the younger, less experienced, and even weaker guy, to the point that you have to either crank it up, or LOSE to him...must guys will opt to crank it up! But you handled the situation with Logic, tact and diplomacy. I know if in my day, if my coach told me he was disappointed in me, it would have literally Crushed Me! I wouldn't ever make that same mistake again! :)

[@lordsneed9418]

but the top guy wasn't losing , he was in a dominant top position the whole time. he could have just taken his time but instead he tried to rush.

[@77soko77]

Absolute rockstar of a teacher! Everything absolutely everything starts with controlling yourself! 💪💪💪

[@mattcauth]

Really really well done, man. Love how you handled it, hopefully your purple belt will be able to reign that in. I actively avoid rolling with people that may lose their shit like this...back a year or two ago we had a couple of big, young, strong dudes that had some attitude - at one point a strike was even thrown. No good. They're gone now, as you'd expect.

[@darkyhome3483]

Absolute professional, pinnacle of not just coaching but also leadership. I hope many more continue to learn from your videos because we need more of this everywhere

[@neverforgettr2276]

Coach, you are awesome. Thanks for doing that. Wish more folks were as smart as you.

[@ChrisThomasJA]

Thanks for posting Coach Brian and shout out to the student who you helped to calm down. In the end he did listen to you and calmed himself down. To him I say: proud of you for that, and keep training, man! From what I've seen you learn lightning fast! 👊

[@camwatters-iz5bs]

You handled that well. This is what’s great about martial arts. Respect

[@Slow_UR_roll]

Great coaching. You're responsible for the vibe in your gym. This kind of response makes it great for you to retain beginners

[@datboiD]

I think you handled it perfectly. You “lost your cool” too but by doing that you showed your student that it happens but also how to control it by turning it into a teaching moment. The way the student listened to you also makes the student look better and your gym look better

[@savageinstitute9569]

Thanks to all the purple, brown and black belts that treated me with great respect and humility!

[@cysonferguson2123]

Ditto

[@universalmethod6775]

The only time we really get a chance to learn comes when we make mistakes. At least, in the class environment, there is less chance it will be catastrophic. When there is genuine care and mutual goals for growth it can be a positive life altering moment. I think you handled it great. I'm sure the guys shrugged it off and realised what was really important in the grand scheme. As always Coach B great work.

[@jedsanford5065]

Man I respect tf out of this callout Brian. You are 100% correct, there are guys that will act this way with a white belt but not with a brown belt or a black belt. And the white belt was doing great too honestly.

[@MMAGUY13]

God Bless the professor. Jesus cares more about the way we treat each other than who actually gets the submission. I always watch this man’s video and my respect has rose watching this one. Treat each other with love is far more greater than teaching people jiu-jitsu.

[@JoeyG-o8r]

Amen brother

[@frankbarron9022]

Well handled Coach. As an aside, I’ve rolled with both these guys. They are good training partners

[@jr.8509]

Good for you, Coach. Way to have your students toe the line and keep them safe. Great job 👏🏾

[@johnbettertonx1]

Good job brother. We train because we love EVERYTHING about it. The life lessons, the humility, the community. These things far outweigh the combat skill we learn.

[@JonathanHebert]

That is good coaching.

[@Kinetic7z]

So happy to see you step in for your student! Keep up the great work!, I've been training for about 4 years, and you never really know someone until ego gets involved.

[@jdiaz8819]

Glad to see you step in with your more senior student , vs the newer guy , that energy will make newer guys quit and might happen more then once because it’s part of his personality, I get the alpha energy but it’s a team energy, as well as a business owner, I wouldn’t want someone a part of my belt lineage who acted like that , like a rousimar palhares,

[@JosueDominguez-g4z]

I’d love to train at a gym like yours; I’ve seen enough videos of dudes getting seriously injured training bjj because of reckless rolling partners like that to scare me away from trying it out (I already had my knee operated on after a Judo injury), but if I felt the teachers were as attentive as you I’d feel safe enough to give it a chance. Great job on taking care of your students 👏🏾

[@RAPEDBYBLACKS]

lol just train. Don’t be afraid to speak it.

[@10tive]

Thanks for this valuable insight. This is for real and it does happen. 🙏👍

[@EricCKeys]

Teachable moment. Beautiful stuff and the real meaning of martial arts.

[@kimsamson2545]

Got more respect for you than ever.... Coach Brian. Your students are very blessed to train and learn under you.

[@firstfighter7037]

I'm with you! I'm teaching MMA (Basics) in Germany for 6 years and 2 to 3 times a year, there are Students who think they have to fight a real Fight against an opponent, not train with a comrade...

[@Aaron-qg7dz]

This guy is great!! I wish I could take his classes!!

[@shadowsmirk]

Coach Brian is the real Alpha! My gym's owner/coach is like this too. Sometimes people play too hard, and he'll stop them and remind that we're all on the same team and we're all there to help each other. This is what seperates a black belt at jiu jitsu vs a black belt at teaching jiu jitsu.

[@kingmo565]

My coach never stood up for me like that, and now I don't train anymore because of permanent injuries.

[@Rajinbin]

This was actually helpful because it teaches self-control and how to deal with frustrations.

[@SuperSneakySteve]

A good coach has to protect the culture of the school so everyone feels welcome. If he let this kind of thing slide a lot of people would stop training there.

[@bed4dmc]

Respect for the coach. So many people approach training like it's adcc. Ok guys, we're here for training, not winning at practice.

[@jabba0975]

Good job! Thank you for sharing.

[@adirondacktrekking1972]

Coach your amazing the way you dealt with that scenario,I can only hope for such patience 👍

[@Rikimaru91]

Wow that was incredible to watch and well done instructor 💯💯💯

[@tunaman2200]

Good decision to show it. Videos like This should be seen. You handled it well. Even your boys handled it well. It happens and good thing you brought it to his attention. It will Make him a better person eventually.

[@keithromersenior155]

WOW NEVER SEEN A INSTRUCTER SAY THIS, their are so many bad partners even those who dont thinks so I know I have been. Myself . No one wants to learn from each other. Most instructors will not address this at all or even yet stop students and correct them Your the man Brian////Keith

[@DavidShort1]

love it!! Great job addressing the problem in the room!

[@dmatsuoka6973]

Good on you coach, seriously coming from a family of judoka’s we never tolerate this behavior at our dojo. You are exactly right how are we to learn and grow if we don’t allow the art of the sport to prevail?

[@yewknight]

This is a good lesson for other coaches. Train long enough and you will end up in a situation where someone loses their cool. Coaches need to keep their students safe by intervening in those situations.

[@Leopar525]

Words of wisdom in the end

[@quentindunigan1727]

Glad you stepped in when you did. Homeboy was about to rip that Choi bar.

[@figjames]

Step over kimura and not a Choi bar. Could have been worse for the guy on the bottom. The Purple belt needs to learn how to Rarikoplata and he won't have to worry about breaking that grip again lol

[@noxpulso]

@@figjames I thought it was going to be a very swift step over kimura too. Good on the coach.

[@strengthskillandwillwithph4980]

That’s good leadership. Massive respect to you.

[@jahosaphat]

Good call coach.

[@Brandon-ob9rg]

Good coaching!

[@jaysonholman2791]

I'm thankful for videos like these. Also thankful that at 46, my ego has thoroughly been checked by the guys in my gym lol..

[@snazzfab]

You are a great coach

[@Azul_blue1923]

I’m looking to start coaching. Been training 16years but I’m a pretty bad coach. Definitely enjoyed your insight. I learned a lot

[@greggaskey5336]

I dont practice, I am going to be 58. My comment is simply. Your words inspire me beyond the art you teach. We all could do better

[@Toolie716]

Dude besides my own Coach this is my favorite Coach now. Stand up guy!!! 🤙🏾

[@TeachMeGrappling]

Appreciate the support!

[@hapyharyhard0n581]

years ago, I started training at Straight Blast Gym. I quit the gym because I watched way too many examples of poor leaders enjoying watching young graplers get wrecked viciously. there was a teen female there to learn to defend herself after being raped. The coach used her as a ragdoll over and over trying to get her to quit. the look on his face when he caused her pain was disgusting. she didn't quit. but I refused to roll in a gym with so much ego and alpha mentality. It's great to see you stand up for this kind of behavior. thank you for being a good example.

[@darkninja136]

Dude so true. Martial arts is about leaving the ego at the door but so many upper belts start to forget that, that belt color gets to their head and they forget that at any moment you can “lose” to anyone. Let these people work and learn something new ! Improve your defense and stop getting so worked up.

[@kevinomahoney]

Ego is the opponent.

[@santos_bjj]

Happens sometimes it’s a learning curve everyone has to learn how to grow thick skin. If you had a hard time in that position drill that position so you won’t have a hard time next time around !

[@christophervelez1561]

This was a good lesson for coaches to call out this behavior.

[@BH-gh6qm]

is that guy acoustic?

[@dpeshy6719]

Lmao

[@Howling-Mad-Murdock]

Yeah, he’s not plugged in 😂

[@slowdown3415]

Great coach right there

[@kunedoman]

That was a time for the purple belt to encourage & compliment the new student on his potential. Likely the purple belt will control him easily next class and going forward, it happened to me once in front of a friend I had brought to watch my class. So much for showing off, double ego kick in the head for me. I controlled him easily there after as expected, we all have our poor outings, just hope it doesn't happen in a self-defense situation.

[@johndillon4991]

Addressed so well and we ALL can take something from this. Thats what a professional coach does and is there for. And I just want to say.. this absolutely will help Aaron leaps and bounds on and off the mat ☺️ Iv been watching this channel for years and when Aaron came on the scene Iv always loved his enthusiasm in these videos.. he always asks questions, he’s always constantly learning and pushing himself and he’s become such a part of even this channel.. he’s one of the main characters almost haha I really enjoy his appearances. He’s a great guy and this shouldn’t hurt him at all in the comment sections, you should take all the positives in this my friend and keep growing. It’s an awesome clip really of real time and you’ll only improve leaps and bounds. Your coach seriously loves all of you guys. Brilliant stuff and keep moving forward Aaron. Great stuff Coach Brian

[@beshirrickymohamudally56]

You are a good coach ❤

[@RobertoBren]

Great coaching (mediating) skills.👍 Definatly leave the ego in the parking lot. Just focus on leaning and helping out newer students when it's time to do so. ✌️🥋

[@J3unG]

Good for you, coach. I've been teaching a long time (not bjj or straight judo) and when I see this shit I get pissed off too. The bottom line for me is the liability issue. There is a reasonable expectation for all the participants in the school that they will not be hurt while in class. I make sure everyone that is in the program understands that EVERYONE IS LIABLE FOR EACH OTHER'S HEALTH AND SAFETY. No one, and I mean NO ONE, gets hurt in my classes. The way injuries happen is usually when one person moves too faster than the other person (one person zigs and the other person zags) and someone gets something broke. Another reason is one or both of the people are tired and are not moving properly while trying to execute technique. The last one is the shit you had to address -- bullies who use other students to get off on their prowess. For better or for worse, I make sure that all the students in my classes are moving appropriately to the skill level of the person they are with. I will deliberately pair up guys who can take punishment as well as give punishment together, so they are equal in skill and are mature enough to be able to work through shit without hurting each other. If there is a mismatch, I will fucking babysit the pair so that the better skilled one knows how to perform at a lower level so that both of them get something out of it. I make sure the better guy gets more of the punishment and becomes uke most of the time so that the lower level guy understands what is going on. It's teaching the better skilled player humility and conditions them to be able to take repeated slams (within reason) so that when they work with higher level guys they can take it and move fluidly. The boy you addressed deserved your rebuke. I think the kid was not raised properly because he had no empathy for his partner and wanted to feel once again what it's like to abuse another human being. The boy is the product of bad parenting. His mum and daddy probably let this boy do all kinds of evil shit, and he never got corrected for it. There's a good chance the boy's daddy is a sadist himself. I've seen it before. The apple does not fall for from the tree, if you know what I'm saying. I'd pay real close attention to this kid from now on and make sure he falls in line and doesn't hurt people. If he acts up and start hurting people and goes against what you say, then it would be perfectly within your scope as his teacher and as gym owner to tell him to GTFO. No more insurance liability for your school. He can go be a sadist some place else, where he may end up broken and battered because he wants to be tough. In grappling, you can be tough only for so long on the mat. Then your back goes, then your legs, and you might have CTE for a long time and not know it, but your wife can't understand you any more when you speak. I'm sure he doesn't get it and, unfortunately, the other kid was abused needlessly. This is the kind of shit that makes kids quit programs and leads to low self-esteem. You don't want to be responsible for raising a shitty adult, do you? Keep up the good work, coach! You're the best.

[@Crownholder]

Blackbelts, Coaches and Trainers around the world should teach and take care for their students like in this Video! Amazing! ❤❤❤

[@matthewtabone6874]

Great video of a Great Coach

[@bostoncrab4pple]

When I was very new to bjj (prob about 1-2 months in) I was just going balls to the wall against everyone. There was a very good blue belt woman at open mat one day and she obviously would wipe the floor with me. That day I was in her closed guard and was spazzing out trying to break it and pass. Coach spotted it and told me to chill the fuck out. It was a really important learning moment for me about modulating intensity depending on size, training with intention, and trying not to get frustrated (which I think is inevitable, at least sometimes). I’m really glad that my coach was there to do that for me, and I suspect your student will appreciate being stopped in the future once he’s had a chance to reflect

[@Hajievdav]

those guys are my close friends we literally eat lunch together everyday and we always laugh and fight, no bad blood just young / I am the guy who coach fist bumped at the end 😁

[@rollinOnCode]

double fist bump

[@bigbodykarate6403]

Good For you brother , straight up your homie is hiding some inner bullshit from you guys (EGO, Envy, personal) he wont be your friend for Long , that's one of those dudes that comes and goes from every circle of friends every handful of years . Bro needs to work out his own bullshit you can see it in his face the moment he struggles with the lower belt his face becomes straight evil, you can see he wants to Rip the arm bar and hurt the guy . That shit aint ok

[@EastNewYorkSchwick]

How are you able to analyze so much from a short video? Yes, his actions were uncalled for but you're making assumptions and you don't know the man probably was having a bad day and shouldn't be training that day. Your deep critical view of that gentleman was ridiculous and weird.

[@pleaseunshadowbanme]

@@EastNewYorkSchwick Thats how redditors are, they live in a crazy little bubble lol.

[@Yes-Gi-Man]

Good on ya Coach for pulling him up on that Ego B.S....awesome job

[@zoctopus]

shout out to the coach for putting him in his place

[@megabjjx]

handled it perfectly. great job coach.

[@NicoH155]

Side note: That NCAA Championship mat is beautiful!

[@deltaman7]

Good job Coach!

[@GravysTraining]

the way eric snapped back into reality

[@sammalama]

You're teaching the other aspects of martial arts that are often overlooked. Teaching your students respect and honor will help them become better grapplers in the long run, they just don't see it yet!

[@thaddeuscorea]

one of your best videos.

[@lanceroyal699]

Coach? What I've experienced and seen throughout the years is lack of emotional control... in the 80's and 90's I believe more self-control was employed and emphasized. With illustration ? look at some of the older mechanics? Boxing, Kickboxing, Karate, Taekwondo? Responsibility was required..! as I recall? Just because you can... doesn't mean you should..! What I've come to understand is that the body has surpassed the brain, and emotional immaturity is rampant in young men, and individuals stopped challenging themselves and focused on their opponent or Sparring partner with premeditated emotions ... I'm happy to see, learn, and hear what you think... Good work controlling yourself and removing yourself and allowing him to think about changing his attitude ... also? Seeing all the (BS) and Ihyper empty emotional sandbags on T.V. doesn't help... "selling wolf tickets!" -Nick Diaz

[@PeterJung-cx1ib]

Specially when the white belt is so calm like he, I could understand when the WB is spazzing and shit. But he is so calm and not defending to hard. Stop ego rolling! Oss

[@TheCyndicate]

Thanks for making the mats safe. I hate seeing ego based aggression like that.

[@thebaneking4787]

Awesome Coach. I got my neck broken bc of people acting like that. Took me away from grappling for 9 years. I just went back to Catch.

[@Time.2.Repent]

Great leadership at this gym! Definitely getting a sub

[@mamnoonraza1429]

The white belt did mock the dude saying "oh look the purplr belt is giving a seminar" I would be bit annoyed too but would never act in this way.

[@idkmybffjv]

And then he duck duck goosed him with the hand on the head when he walked away...

[@ratgerms138]

Great video.

[@bjorneriksson6480]

good post, inspiring