BOARDING SCHOOL IMPACT ON CHILD - PARENT BOND

Parents may face little problems maintaining healthy relationships with their children in boarding schools. Leaving it leads to many issues, sometimes impacting your child's future. Here, Dr Evas and Rachael are going to discuss how parents can tackle these communication barriers and maintain a good parent-child relationship through boarding. #family #dailyvlog #mentalhealth #relatable #motivation #marriage #trending #relationship #couplegoals #youtube

[@sarahganny]

This shines so much light in my parenting journey

[@claireakurut9918]

Wama for me i loved boarding because my biological mum would bond with me by visiting me after not seeing her my whole nursery. I recall crying so deeply the first time i saw her in P1 in that the teachers asked her what was wrong. They empathised with her when they realised my dad had barred her from seeing us. I loved boarding because i would escape the toxicity at home but ofcourse im cognisant of the trauma i hve to unpack because of my childhood. Thanks for the show and ohh! My mum was called Rachel and she passed in 2010 and im glad bording school gave me some time with her.

[@aggikang]

I went to boarding school when I was 9 years all through till I was 18. As I reflect on my experience while in the boarding school, I realize that I missed out on bonding with my family. It was also difficult to maintain meaningful friendships in the neighborhood where we lived because I rarely got to see my peers in the short school holidays that were swamped with homework. Boarding school has you surviving and parenting yourself, instead of just being the child you were meant to be. Lots of appreciation from Nairobi.

[@dianeseromba5743]

You have run this show at such a perfect time for me Dr. Evas& Rachael. I am so grateful for this because I have been struggling with the idea of sending my now 13year old son to boarding school. For almost all the reasons u have listed...I had them running at the back of my mind and NOW I can make a firm and unshakeable decision that my son doesn't need to go to boarding school to "mature up". I can't thank you enough Dr.Evas & Rachael. Your shows have been a blessing to us and may you too be blessed immensely ❤❤

[@nakittohellen3934]

Home is the best way to shape your children. Not boarding

[@brendanakirya1379]

Makes a lot of sense. Having gone to boarding school early, I see some thick skin and serious attachment and trust issues in me. Thank you for the insight Dr Evas

[@lifetalkwithDusie]

Am almost the first here today...but let me comment that was in boarding schedule since my early years of primary school, and i will not do the same for my children

[@martharinebiseko1457]

Am so passionate about this topic...I do agree with 98% of this infor shared: Since boarding schools are inevitable then schools should be more open to having parents come in to bond more coz in as much as parents maybe intentional over the holidays, the holidays are short....

[@martharinebiseko1457]

And holidaysbare packed with alitvif holiday work/projects

[@helganakiyingi3379]

Some schools keep children like prisoners as if the parents didn’t pay fees 😊. Even when you go to check on them, you’re not allowed to see them

[@joana1207able]

I thin for me the only advantage I got from boarding school was i became grounded in faith. Its a rare advantage but I think if i had not gone to boarding and had older girls as mentors in the faith, I do not think I would have the foundation of faith since my entire family was not born again at the time till much much later.

[@presht5596]

In primary we refused to go to boarding school until P6 third term when we were forced. Yet the school was near home and we would afford to go early and leave late. Had been so active in most clubs and was aware of my potential. In secondary, good schools were strictly boarding. I remember losing myself the moment i stepped in S1. Looking at the gates and no way of moving out to socialise. I hated it. I didn't perform well. At campus, i was in somehow a home environment since it was not restricted. I regulated myself, read and excelled. I excelled. I think I will not take my children to boarding school because building my character again has been such a struggle. Dr. Evas is right about home being the best place for character development.

[@nyakanajosiane5373]

Much appreciated from Rwanda

[@ampairecaroline5349]

This topic came in the right time.thanks

[@noowejean3183]

Wow, every parent needs to hear this❤

[@BarbaraAnjoga]

Thanks for the sharing ❤🎉

[@florenceojowa7706]

There’s so much anger in the world today. I believe this is as a result of anger that devein childhood probably due to feelings of rejection by parents. This topic is so timely and I wish more parents would know this.

[@helenbwesigye6075]

Very important information. Thank you Dr. Evas and Racheal. I went to boarding school in S.1 buy I always cried on the way to school because I hated leaving my parents behind. I hated not being with my siblings who were in another school. Since I have literally just started the schooling journey for my kids, no boarding until maybe uni. The school was nice but it couldn't compare to my parents. I am so cautious of the parent child bond, I don't want to be cut off. It's a real struggle though for parents. That's the reality. One parent told me that they have a small living space so taking their kids to boarding gives them some privacy and breathing room as a couple

[@atuhairenation2740]

am glad am watching this before having children of my own . i have the opportunity to make the right decisions for my children. Thank you Dr.Evas and Madam Racheal

[@julietokoth]

Very informative

[@owembabazilillian4292]

Feeling guilty when Evas said the teenagers ask why, my teenage sister will ask why for everything evem what i consider silly. You will tell her to clean the table and she will ask why😂 ....it would piss me off😅

[@annnyakake8497]

Dr.Evas, thank you very much. This was worth watching and listening to. Rachel, thanks for the moderation

[@eunicemutoni981]

Picked up the 4Bs. Nice one Dr Evas ❤

[@kanshabediana3791]

Thank u Dr Eva's and Racheal for this show I kindly request u to talk about sending children being raised by grand parents, some are really very good and they want grand children around them...does this have an impact on the child????

[@kanshabediana3791]

" sending children to their grandparents to raise them"

[@martharinebiseko1457]

Important topic...ready to listen in

[@namanyamidret1311]

this came just at the right time for my decision to be made❤

[@patienceasiimwe6983]

For that i am pushing harder for atleast a week of my annual leave to be with my sons while in holidays. Thank you so much for sharing dears.

[@jacentmbaga4176]

Very insightful, thank you for this information

[@zainabadoli4031]

This was very insightful and powerful. Thank you Racheal and Dr. Evas. Dr. Evas may God bless you for this all the free good information.

[@evasatwinekansiime5106]

I receive your blessings mwatu Zainabu!! May God take all the glory!

[@Ssonko100]

Brilliant lessons 👏🏾👏🏾 a call to Ministry of education to intervene. Why take a 3 year old to boarding school ?

[@lateefahnuwagaba-ce8mi]

Where my daughter goes to school, they made it compulsory for p7s to be in boarding, i tell you today they are closing the term and on this very Monday, they are starting the holiday study, eeehh!!!,to make it short, they will rest just a weekend and then go back for second term.

[@besigyesimpson1693]

I have just Subscribed...my love to Dr.Evas

[@evasatwinekansiime5106]

Thank you so much!

[@peacepatra5986]

Am blessed

[@gloriandagire1452]

I went to boarding school at 6 years.....now that I have kids, I pray for long life and good health to be able to raise my children like mother duck.....never will I ever take my children to boarding school, not when I'm alive. The psychological tremour from boarding school is real.

[@KalungiSarah-kz9qy]

Me too I went to boarding school in my p3 but it took a certain effect on me really.i want to see my children grow under my wings

[@lucyisoke5894]

I will never forget my welcome to boarding school life when i was 9. All the biscuits in the school were burned up in the rubbish pit. We spent 2 days drinking all the quencher in the school. Like they combined all brands, diluted them and we had to drink. P1-P7. I can still see the burning and burned biscuits, the weeping, the glances at the rubbish pit, every evening as we went for prayers. Dont ask me about the other traumatic events. I am so determined never to take my children to boarding school to the point of choosing homeschool. Agree 97% with the show. The 3% is for parents whose hands are genuinely tied or if God forbid, i die early and my children are coerced into boarding life 😢

[@sarayan.3467]

Haha...where you in Gayaza?

[@lucyisoke5894]

Namugongo

[@namiirojose6824]

​@@lucyisoke5894typical Namugongo

[@SA-vw4ny]

Modern day flexi boarding schools are different from the traditional strict boarding schools

[@florenceojowa7706]

Regardless of how good these modern schools are, still the children miss what Dr Evas mentioned earlier; particularly on the bonding with parents as well as character formation at the formation stage in a child’s early life. Nothing can compare with the home environment.

[@peacepatra5986]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@gianarightonassisya2248]

Thank you for this conversation. I was one of those "not made for bordering sch" kidd n my mum thought it's just the norm. I troubled her alot by falling sick when I was in sch. But physically I was fine. However when I got to sch I actually was sick. With high fever,vomiting, all the signs of illness. When I came home I was ok n happier. She took me out just becz the logistics of picking me up every week was getting high. I did thrive though in day school n I think it saved my life becz I tried to commit Suicide one day in bording. I took her blood pressure pills with me n I was going to end it all. Looking back I didn't deserve that but our parents didn't have these kind of resources now to reason. I will do better ❤

[@atuhairenation2740]

ehhh

[@elizabethmawere5566]

What is the solution now let oss say the child does not feel mother and daughter bond. How can the parents work on the bond between them and the children most when the children has become an adult

[@namudopebarbara1407]

I think boarding school affected my bond with my parents. I hated boarding and i wouldn't like to take them back to boarding unless university

[@daphnekajugiira8260]

Educational and very much needed conversation. How does one book a session with Dr. Atwine?

[@realitycheckicfc]

Kindly Call the Numbers in the caption...

[@realitycheckicfc]

[phone]

[@aishahussein2122]

As a victim .and traumas i got from ther . I can never take my kids to boarding .

[@gloriandagire1452]

My daughter is 9 and she is already asking why on everything.

[@namuyanjacathie808]

Thanx....i ignorantly put my 6yr old child in boarding coz she asked me to but I am putting her in a day school next term coz she became so distant,bigheaded,angry all the time

[@Shamallamasingsong]

Bambi sorry for both you and your child. Good thing you have become cognizant of the negative effects of boarding school, and making a positive change. Best of luck!

[@bamusiimemaryalice3199]

Why😂😂😂😂😂

[@namwangahajarah4830]

Conversation ended too soon.

[@who_me4321]

Boarding school😂😂😂. I want beaten first day in P1 just cz i dint know how bath time worked. Then beaten 2nd day for peeing on bed... Ahhhh..... Never. Tho my moms hands were tied. Widowed twice n she had to work n at some point worked up country. Iam tough, too independent, i dont trust. But God has helped. My hubby sometimes just looks and laughs. Like girl can u just let me love and care for you We survived nayeeee. I prayed to God that i first marry n make a stable home for my kids. Then money. God answered. Mukama nsiima and i pray you continue to make a way for parents not to be cornered into that choice