LANA WE TRUSTED YOU! | I Got Nothin' w/ Boze

[@w9anjajqjqikqkqiqk336]

The fact he sat on your couch???? 💀 mf do your JOB

[@daniellecowan459]

Also, no victim, blaming or anything here I think this was handled great but just some thing that my mom taught me and in case other ladies, who live alone don’t know. When a male comes to do some thing in your house always wear clothes that you would wear outside and always wear a bra. My mom put it as always wear clothes that you would be OK running out to ask for help in. Also? If you can send what site they’re coming from and what their name is to a trusted friend that knows when they’re coming so you can have them on the phone at any point whether it’s just to chat shit and let someone know what’s going on or to show him. Hey I’m not alone in case you do some really wild weird shit. another bonus one that mama taught me. It may be a good idea to have a pair of men’s shoes by the door. If they ask you if you live alone anything like that don’t actually tell them just be like oh I have someone a brother, a friend etc. etc. in an out. You don’t know who’s scoping out what and honestly is true crime folk I think this is just being careful.

[@123cillitbang]

Waaay too familiar/comfortable with Boze. Not cool

[@Ohyoucaughtme]

​@daniellecowan459 what you're wearing does not matter. She could be wearing just a towel and it would not be because of what shes wearing if she's assaulted, it's because the assaulter is an assaulter. That's just nonsense your mom told you tbh. I can't believe it's 2024 and people are still spreading the lie that girls that dress "revealing" are easier/more often targets. Crazy dumb. I'd like to add that you ARE IN FACT VICTIM BLAMING BABE 😂

[@CutieYoli]

@@Ohyoucaughtme She wasn't saying wear those clothes so he won't look, she was saying wear those clothes cuz they are easiest to run away and ask for help in if he tries to do something.

[@user-um8zt2ke8o]

"I dont need to make anybody happy to feel safe, I AM fkin safe!" Preaching words of wisdom not even 2 minutes in 👏 definitely needed that. Might write it down and make it a mantra lol

[@mightymeatymech]

wait that actually is a good mantra. i hope you don't mind if i steal that idea? edit- i just texted my therapist, we're stealing this mantra idea. i hope that's ok with you!!

[@BOZESBREAKROOM]

girl I really said that with my whole chest too. Another processing episode over here lmaooooo

[@breathoffreshair7795]

huge former people pleaser. my voice still wavers when i communicate me needs but my eyes dont water everytime. also it feels incredibly good to protect myself now, recently had to share some tough feelings with someone and straight up said "i can see you arent listening and im not oaky with that so if you want me to feel heard i need you to focus on my words" 👏🏻👏🏻 we got this PP's lol

[@mightymeatymech]

yoooo that's so powerful of you, and you didn't even shame the person for not listening. you just made your own feelings and needs clear. I'm stealing that, if you don't mind!!! i'm so proud of you, that was really really well put.

[@iamAustinxD]

Ok

[@daniellecowan459]

How did you get able to speak them without crying? I can express my wants and needs very well in writing and the people who genuinely care about me and meeting my needs don’t mind that I do it that way, but some people feel ambushed and I understand that some people can’t read that well. I would love to be able to express it both in writing and verbally because I think that would be more Efficient and able to happen in the moment but other than telling people to back off or whatever when I really care about someone I need to dig into how I’m not being heard or how a pattern of behavior is hurting me? Oh, God I can’t speak it. I feel so fucking bad about myself. Would love some tips and also I’m proud of you.

[@Witchivy13]

We're just conditioned as females to be quiet and polite and have good manners

[@SweetAshGamer]

29:56 THAT TIMINGG

[@snaaughty]

i WHEEZED

[@reidequi3976]

⁠YES LMAO

[@ash__3851]

DUDE I SCREAMED💀💀💀

[@icefallssnowstorms3224]

Lmaooo i diedddd

[@SierraDonaldson]

“i ‘hate’ boze for this”😂😂😂😂 - a black woman who loves boze!❤️❤️

[@CarliArtCandy]

As a former telecom technician (female), I would NEVER. Guaranteed there’s something he could have been doing instead of sitting on the couch. I’ve had to tell men to back up, deflect come ons etc. Good for you for telling him to back up. Let them know you’re on to them. I can confirm they are literally trained on ethics and should be concerned about being inappropriate. The stories I’ve heard from male technicians would make your skin crawl. There’s no excuse for this behaviour.

[@reidequi3976]

29:09 THE COMEDIC TIMING MADE ME LAUGH SM 😭

[@MayowaSensei]

THAT WAS A F*KING AMAZING TRANSITION LMAO 29:16

[@SweetAshGamer]

I am the biggest people pleaser and I've just realized within the past couple years how bad it actually is. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I have said, "no." 🙄

[@gamingbypix]

It is so draining and you can't even see it until you're drowning! It sucks. I'm on the same path. Sending you all the luck and good vibes🙌✨️

[@tatianajackson3693]

Literally!!!

[@sarina6850]

And when I do say no I live with anxiety forever like I let them down

[@tatianajackson3693]

@@sarina6850 doesn’t it just feel so ridiculous

[@sarina6850]

@@tatianajackson3693 it drives me nuts

[@gwillypdawg]

She really put her whole lana del russy onto this alligator man

[@abbyz13]

but ppl say his alligator tours get awesome reviews and he’s a cool dude…i get it. i get her

[@HappyCrackers]

@@abbyz13ALL ALLIGATOR TOUR GUIDES ARE COOL. ITS THEIR JOB TO BE COOL 😭

[@jessie_sloan]

I just think it's weird that everyone has such a strong opinion. I'm not the most attractive or talented person but I'd like to think I could still find an epic love. It makes me sad that so many people are making fun of him for no reason when he didn't ask for any of this and I'm sure it really hurts Lana that so many people aren't supportive and happy for her regardless of what her motives are. Lana is still just a person like us just let her be happy.

[@scottwatkins7142]

Wish I could figure out how to get rid of my people pleaser side of me. Watching boze helps me cope a bit and I have gotten more assertive with my self though and started saying no.

[@DragonFlightRider]

Working retail, mostly in customer service/cashier position, for 4 years did that for me. 3/4 of the times I bent the rules for a customer, googled solutions, called 3rd party companies, etc, it would backfire on me.

[@iamAustinxD]

Ok

[@The_Slammy_Jammy]

how often are you told no? you are giving a mile for people who give you less than a centimeter. not everyone is like this, but the energy you save will save your life

[@yikes5399]

Consult with a therapist tbh

[@truecrime_with_liz]

For me personally, not only saying no but I forced myself to stop apologizing for everything... you run into me, I would apologize to you, lol and therefore I learned to take space for me and slowly but surly I started working on my past issues and my confidence and also allowed myself to be selfish sometimes and setting boundaries, learning to communicate better .. I'm still working on myself, but I wouldn't call myself a people pleaser anymore but a recovering one with occasional people pleaser outspills haha

[@justmagdalenadownhere]

Yes, Boze!! We love establishing boundaries and asserting what we want!! It's always good to see someone finally take the difficult step of standing up for themselves.

[@AprilBonenberger_]

Boze im so proud of you. This new chapter will so much less stress, bs from others, worrying about strangers feelings,etc. Welcome to the club. Lol

[@xMSxToeTags]

The second in-video Ad cutting her off while talking about adding more Ad’s broke the 3rd wall so hard that Uncle Boze is now Aunty Ericka 😂😂😂🫶🏻🖤

[@SweetAshGamer]

I'm always amazed at how much I relate to you. I've just made the same decision to start trying to take care of my appearance. I also have major self-image issues and I also avoid mirrors because I feel like there is this negativity in my mind that's attached to it. I'm glad that you are working on it as well because we deserve better!

[@gravy069]

I’m right there with you, I can’t remember the last time I plucked my eyebrows and I just can’t look at it but can’t get around to doing it

[@lilaholliday]

Boze please don’t touch your face 😫 you are gorgeous 🫶🏾 no cosmetic procedures are necessary!

[@alejandrovallencci]

BOZE IM SO GLAD WE’RE BOTH IN THE POST-BREAKUP NO-MORE-MR-NICE-GUY BOAT. As a 23 year old former people pleaser it feels good to set and stick to your own boundaries

[@lilbellpepperhater]

people pleasing has also put me in scary situations. im proud to say in the last 2 years ive learned how to say NO and when to say I am uncomfortable.

[@ChaosInFlux]

No more Mr. nice Boze. Getting out of a relationship, and age can do that.... LOL

[@makhabeanz]

i’ve been expecting this episode since the second i learned about this marriage

[@meburpzilla]

This is so specific I love it

[@FirstKaliyah]

Hey Boze! Having Sage on the pod also jumpstarted my conscious decision to care about my own appearance and to put thought into how I look in a way that makes me feel nice and confident. I'm very thankful you had her on and it's nice knowing you're on this same road.

[@KelpKathryn]

This has been one of the most relatable podcasts! I have struggled so much with so many similar issues like people pleasing and body dysmorphia and it was so validating to hear this. It's inspiring to realize that a lot of the time my "No's" are normal boundaries. I am currently working on transitioning to being more bold and it's funny. I'll do the same justification of how big my accomplishment of saying no was and watching you being like "that is a huge deal you said no way to go!" made me realize its the same for myself and my small victories!

[@Violetx23]

i can totally relate to the lest segment. i used to hate the way i looked and would only wear black pants and a plain hoodie or tshirt. i felt horrible all the time and was so shy and insecure. when the pandemic started i decided to cut my hair short, play around with makeup, and find a style i liked. i ended up falling in love with the way i looked and quickly gained more confidence and acceptance of myself. after a while of learning to love myself with makeup and fun clothes and a hairstyle that i liked, i started loving the way i look without makeup too. for me putting effort into my appearance is self care. it makes me feel confident throughout the day and i can come home take off my makeup and still feel confident.

[@KaylaTircuit-en9bf]

Bro this is my ex brother in law and this is the weirdest shit I've ever seen happen

[@BOZESBREAKROOM]

Wtf im so nosey my nose started wiggling

[@KaylaTircuit-en9bf]

Idk but she just adopted 4 kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@xdessix1]

HUH?!

[@MoniB888]

I need allllll the details plz!

[@sansajune8004]

Huhhhh

[@NottyAries]

I love this Seinfeld-esq podcast. It's about nothing and everything. I love the tangents, the vent sessions, your personal experience or week in review. Never change (unless you want to) because I and my closest friends have this same rambling from one random topic to another vibe, and time flies by because we're having fun. 😂🥰😝😁

[@CreativeReptiles]

NOT LEAVES FROM THE SWAMP!! I'M DEAD 😂💀

[@meemawscookies]

The ad placement was *chefs kiss* 💋

[@NebulousNector]

Weird Al is legit the best artist ever. Comedic covers. CHEFS KISS!

[@bbkone]

him sitting on your couch is CRAZY.

[@krivera94]

Ugh dude I am literally in that “ugly” state of mind right now as an adult. I had so much confidence as a young adult and now as an full-fledged adult my confidence is so completely shot for no reason, I’m getting triggered every time I look in the mirror especially in specific lighting as you mentioned and I have no idea what’s happening. I’m in a 3yr happy relationship with an attractive man that always compliments me and never makes me feel pressured to look any way, and I feel hideous and nasty every second I’m awake.. so if you figure it out let me know 😂😂😂😂😂

[@gracynbrihn9183]

4:17 Recovering people pleaser 👋🏼 That’s why I sit back just like “mhmmmm” whenever you’re talking about it 😂 Keep it up, there’s a difference between being mean and enforcing your boundaries. Sounds to me like you’re holding your needs higher than the needs of others, which is key 🔑

[@HUX8075]

Don't underestimate a man from Louisiana 😂

[@alainawashington3722]

That’s an understatement and this is coming from a woman from Louisiana. Also, there are at least five different categories of Louisiana men: Lana just so happens to get the Cajun variant.

[@HUX8075]

@@alainawashington3722 haha very true 👍

[@123cillitbang]

She'll get fed well anyway. That southern cooking is serious!!

[@ryanegoe7579]

I’m 23 and what you said about boundaries is so true. I also had the misaligned belief that being nicer would afford me safety. I’m finally learning 😂🎉❤ I’m so grateful to take back portions of my power I thought were never even mine. I’m powerful asf and protect myself ❤ also Samsies again, in highschool I would wash my hands after using the restroom and rush past the mirrors. I couldn’t handle my reflect at all, shit would send me spiraling even if was the last period. I’d be like “that’s it’s I can’t do this anymore and leave”

[@skyejensen8757]

bose, I have never heard someone explain what i’ve gone through for years of my life in such detail that i relate to so much. As a child since a very young age, I remember looking at myself in the mirror and being very upset with the fact that I thought I was not pretty. When I was in first or second grade, I would go into the bathroom every 30 minutes just to look at the mirror to see What I looked like, and I remember crying being so distraught over my appearance. It is very dystopian as an adult because I hear things all the time from other adults about how “gorgeous” i am. i never can fully trust or believe them. i’m not sure why i felt that way as a child or what lead to my Severe face image issues. thank you so much for shedding light on this and connecting. I absolutely love this podcast and how raw and down to earth you are. Also, you are absolutely hilarious and I love listening to these

[@Johnny_Hipp]

Of all the concerts I've attended in my life, Weird Al was most definitely the most spectacular over the top show of all time!! An outfit change for every epic performance, and literally all his most powerful hits packed into one show!!... On the extreme image consciousness topic, the absolute worst thing used to be being tagged on Facebook with the most candid unflattering picture of all time. Lmfao! Now I am in a little better shape both physically and mentally that is very luckily not nearly as brutally awkward as used to be lol.

[@grxcedn]

boze the people pleaser convo is so comforting. i was SA by my best friend and saying NO is so so hard for me. its refreshing to feel not so alone in that battle.

[@mightymeatymech]

Boze, I also can't look at myself in the mirror sometimes without breaking down crying because I feel so ugly. I relate so hard to that, thank you for sharing. I've gone MONTHS without looking in the mirror at myself tbh. I know this won't help because it doesn't seem to help when people say it to me, but I think you're extremely beautiful. When I'm really down, you're the kind of person I look at and WISH I looked like (I promise I don't do that often with your videos- your energy is too wholesome and positive for me to stay down for long like that! As soon as I start getting depressed like that, I can't help but imagine you telling me not to get down on myself like that, and it helps. I know that's parasocial but it is what it is!) We have very different facial features, the grass is always greener on the other side. Sometimes I cover my mirrors or turn them away from myself so I just don't have to deal with it. It comes and goes on its own. I don't know who convinced me I was ugly as a child, either. Because I was also a pretty cute kid when I look back on photos of myself. Like, that's a kid I'd like to hang out with. She seems nice. That's the silver lining- we both can find compassion and love for our younger selves, even though we hated ourselves at that age! I wish I could go back and give the child versions of me and you a LONG talk about how absolutely beautiful and talented and amazing they're going to be when they grow up. And how puberty is just an awkward time for everyone and you shouldn't base your self worth on how you look as a teen. Etc etc. edited for typos

[@gamingbypix]

Recovering people pleaser too! I was severely abused (like..Turpin level..) and so i never developed a sense of self or a sense of self-worth. It's such a hard thing to break out of, the fear of upsetting or disappointing someone. Please do give yourself grace...I'm NGL...I noticed signs in older videos some really small "pull yourself up by the boot straps" kinda thing and I knew 😂 but you're so introspective that I had a feeling you would get to this point inevitably. There's clearly been a lot of change and you're THRIVING!!! Thats bad ass because it's not easy at all! Keep going. You got this! Boundaries save lives!! (Also so impressed with the new fits and new set up! Dope shii💖)

[@kmatt22]

the closing discussion is something I really relate to recently. Appreciate your perspective always Unc ❤

[@sincerelyagenshinplayer4666]

Louisiana resident here! I’m cackling 😂, Lana will figure it out eventually

[@Nananadadadawoo]

Im dealing with this now and it’s so hard to overcome & I’m glad you spoke about it because honestly so many people have made me feel lonely in feeling this way/ reacting with disgust.

[@cloudsinmycoffeemug]

Hey Boze, just wanted to pop in and say all of your content has been a massive comfort to me and my generalized anxiety. Just bought Juan's book about Jodi Arias and am so excited to hear the nitty gritty And boy, I get the end of the people pleasure faze. I plan on moving to Denmark and briefly thought I shouldn't because a friend of mine needs a roommate

[@BOZESBREAKROOM]

awww love that you bought the book from the jodi video :D

[@cloudsinmycoffeemug]

@@BOZESBREAKROOM It's SO good. would recommend if you're looking for a true crime read!

[@Miiimiiinette]

I also couldn't see my self as beautiful until i got to high school i think, puberty helped a lot and also my mother casually saying one day that i was such a beautiful baby that made me realise she never said i was pretty, she always praised my brains, my behaviour, my grades .. i guess it just somehow registered in my head that 'it does not matter if you are ugly, at least you are smart baby" Im 35 today and much more confident, i love myself and make it a point to tell my reflection in the mirror she is very beautiful every day, also i dont feel the need to put makeup to be confident, just a shower and a nice mist of perfume or any kind of self care and my confidence is good for the day. Love you, don't be too harsh on yourself there are way too many people that are harsh enough with you. Be the peace you need❤

[@KakatheStrange]

awww thank you so much for that intro. I needed that :)) forgot why I've been a people pleaser.

[@desert_holly]

Boze videos are when my husband knows it's ny ME time to decompress 😂 so happy to see this new post..i was needing some BOZE time in my life today! ❤

[@NanaHannah]

that cut to the ad was priceless

[@alejandrovallencci]

Lana has said before she wants to live her life like “art”, which I guess literally translates to turning her experiences into music

[@meganlynn3097]

This felt like a therapy session for me. Thank you for sharing Boze❤ I’m just developing this muscle as well

[@Dominucastro47]

Love the hex background 😍

[@passthepeace]

To the last point, I also had that same level of body dysmorphia where like I hated looking at myself or making eye contact. I'm starting to unpack that because my childhood home had a ton of mirrors and my relatives would always laugh at me and nick named me "Chub a Lubbs" and heavily monitored my eating, forcing me to over eat so I would like fit into this image they made of me, and it made me hate myself as well as my family members for making changes in my life that convinced me I was a freak or unusual. It's been really hard to unpack things. There are days where I think I look finally halfway decent, and other days where I just can't bear to look at myself. I don't even own a full length mirror in my home... but I've been working on it. Looking at body types that look like mine and finding beauty in them, finding content creators who look like me... if I think they're beautiful, then certainly maybe I can be too? There is something about breakups that really inspires self improvement, so I"m sure you're motivated by that too.... rooting for you Boze!

[@MostArdently_Yours]

Diabolical ad placement. So funny.

[@RandomRonnie02]

Girl, I relate so much to those self-image issues. Growing up I legit felt disgust when looking at myself in the mirror, but now I think it's shifting to seeing my body. Like some days I get a random boost of confidence and think I look good but I'm really self critical a lot of the time. Idk if this is what body dysmorphia is or what since I'm still processing it myself. But if it helps at all, mine stems from hearing how critical my parents and extended family are about literally everybody's physical appearance. I think it created this paranoia that these negative comments are what people probably think of me when they see me and, as a fellow people pleaser, it made me feel like my appearance wasn't enough to make me likable in a way. Like maybe to my face nobody would say anything, but I thought that secretly people didn't like me because I wasn't pretty enough. Some shit like that, but I'm working through it now lmfao.

[@sk1ttlefiddle]

yeah getting over people pleasing is something I'm going through too. It's nice to see the hard work of self love pay off tho. Also a man that can take care of animals has already some good qualities, idk the guy but having a passion for animals can be a good thing. They are either very down to earth or on literally the other side of the spectrum.. Also finding yourself and yourself love again after a breakup is always a journey for better times! You look amazing the way you are whether its in comfy clothing or this fit of today is very Boze and I love it on you!

[@NebulousNector]

24:08 anything Lana does would be good. Especially a heartbroken ex wife. I don’t see her ever settling to a house wife but if she’s happy I’m happy for her

[@DorkThink]

I used to be a people pleaser. I learned to stop with TONS of emdr. Now, I have no friends and I've never been happier. 🥰

[@mightymeatymech]

eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy..? how did that help? or am i missing a sarcastic tone

[@4leafclover133]

Good job being direct. I am newly 42 and still a recovering people pleaser. Anything you do to stand up for yourself or improve yourself is amazing. Also I think you are beautiful but you put on makeup, skincare, exercise for yourself not anyone else. Love you❤

[@inkumbinkumdinkumdoo]

“Please get you back up. You’re making me uncomfortable” - YES!! Saving this for future use. Because I let people overstep boundaries waaaaay too often

[@SarahJoStrawberry]

My New Year’s resolution was to put more effort into my appearance and I was doing well, but like so many resolutions I didn’t keep that up. You wanting to put more into your appearance - for yourself - really inspires me to start working on that again! I’ve never really liked what I saw in the mirror but couldn’t give anyone else or myself a reason why. I wanted to invest more in myself and show myself live and take the time to try and learn to better love, accept, and respect myself.

[@zooflute]

Eeek your Uber story is giving me the willies. Please learn to lie lol.

[@KrississippiRiver]

yesss i needed this. My nice phase just ended and I havnt been happier making myself happy and not everyone else and being used all the time/ being walked on and being okay with it. i’ve been abusing myself for others without realizing it. Also it’s gonna take time for us not to let the guy installing the tv do that for 2hrs. But practice makes perfect and progress is progress.

[@cosmos_rey]

It’s honestly so Lana Del Rey of her. But seriously as long as she’s happy, us Lana stans need to let her be happy regardless of personal opinions 🙌🏼

[@winniethepooht5776]

She married a man that had just left his wife....Not that the man isn't also at fault, but she willingly married a man who had just left his wife.

[@cosmos_rey]

@@winniethepooht5776 and other people haven’t?

[@_tasiaxnot]

@@cosmos_rey a lot of people doing something shitty doesn’t make it less shitty!!! Hope this helps!!!

[@cosmos_rey]

@@_tasiaxnot lmao babe that wasn’t my point! Hope that helps 🫶🏻

[@_tasiaxnot]

@@cosmos_rey literally what other point is someone else supposed to take from the comment, “and other people haven’t?”.

[@Peachiie_Keen]

I feel like theirs always a big shift that causes a people pleaser to get fed up and change. Mine started when I moved out, i became aware that it wasn't normal, and now, being a parent, I just can not tolerate bs and cut off or minimize contact.

[@dancer4life1341]

Thank you for sharing that you struggle to keep up with your appearance. I have ADHD too and I find it fascinating how people consistently keep a routine to keep up their appearance. I also will go days without wanting to talk to anyone, and then need socialization. I appreciate you sharing those thoughts, they definitely help me feel not so alone. No advice really. My psych nurse is helping me come up with different strategies such as putting a schedule on my bathroom mirror to remind me to do certain things each morning. It can be helpful, but other times I will just ignore it lol

[@sydneyelliott]

having the ad break at 29:05 was honestly iconic 😂

[@hijinx2024]

Oh no personal space is necessary! You need a big ass dog. 😅

[@Anniee77]

I could see her with a giant doberman or something 😂❤

[@AmbersHouseDIY]

I can resonate with wanting to put effort into appearance. Ironically, I've always admired that you've created a look for yourself and, relative to me, seem to put effort into your presentation. I think you look great! I've also told myself whatever it doesn't matter, but you're right it does. It definitely impacts confidence when being out and about in the world.

[@cooltina789]

33:53 same here my dear. But I knew why, my family would call me fat. I also didn’t wear makeup so they would also say “man don’t want someone who doesn’t try to look good”. Because of this, I was very critical of myself. But tbh, I still don’t wear makeup up and I was the heaviest I’ve ever been this year. But you know what, I’m the most confident I’ve ever been. The switch for me, was one day I woke up and said “I care about me, I want the best for me. I love me for me and how I look in the morning is just as cute as how I would look for a special occasion.” Same thing when it came to dating. My family hated that I would date and break up with men that would make me unhappy. For them, it’s an expectation to date and marry your first or even second boyfriend. But I’m glad I didn’t settle for less. I found an amazing man who treasures me and values me more than I knew was possible. So basically, don’t settle for less and take care of yourself because you’re worth it.

[@e.meakin102]

36:46 I really relate to this. Growing up in my family there was a lot of judgement and shame towards my body and my appearance. Over the past year I have gotten into cute hairstyles and doing my nails, and did some red light therapy, stopped picking my skin. It has made me feel a lot better, but it is slow work.

[@chenni4127]

10:09 how do you do true crime and you’re like this ???? 😂

[@nisaba5752]

🌟Dude I'm SO PROUD of you!! Dont diss the self you **were**though either. Sounds like you're asking yourself all the right questions. I'm a recovering people pleaser too. I understand too well what it's like to hate the "fawning" we were sure we were supposed to do,UGH!!! NO MORE,RIGHT???✨ Thanks for sharing your progress with us,Boze❤ Weird Al, you're so lucky to get those tix!🎉 He's a LEGEND!

[@JoyanaBourke]

Boze I am so happy/proud of you 🙏🏼💗 and relate to your experiences, thank u for sharing with us, you are wonderful ✨

[@augustjede7707]

What you're describing happens in our early thirties. Especially after things like "hot gurl summer" and the break up

[@Chalkboardbird]

Current people-pleaser trying to reform here lol but also- 10000% relate to not being able to look at yourself. I wasn’t able to look at photos, or myself in the mirror for so long, and I’ve also started to sort of gravitate out of that but I still find that I try to avoid it if I can. I feel like I’m going through a similar process in trying to feel better about myself by taking more care or putting more into myself, but it’s really a whole new journey. It’s almost like I don’t really have a clear understanding of what I really look like and It’s like I’m having to meet and get to know myself for the first time lol

[@kumamoncone]

I seriously relate to what you said about not being able to look in mirrors. I used to constantly be aware of myself and thought that I looked bad all the time, even as a kid. I think recently I’ve just started to love myself and start caring less about what other people think. Doing all my self care to make myself happy and not for others. I DECIDED NOT TO BE MY BIGGEST HATER😼✨✨

[@leighlavigne5482]

And WHY does this always happen in clumps? Like 5 times in a row??!! I’m really so proud you are speaking on this! This “passing over interest” is often just too OVER. Go Boze!

[@faeriiee_bugg1651]

Boze I really relate to the appearance stuff. I also thought I was a hideous little gremlin as a kid/teen and I’m still working to unravel those thought patterns. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing ❤️❤️

[@sabgo352]

36:58 i actually talked to my therapist about this. i have a incredibly hard time looking at myself, taking pictures of myself or with my friends, i struggle to get dressed up. I think it stems a lot from getting bullied by the mean/pretty girls as a small kid. *i was super poor and so my clothes were never good enough for the preppy neighborhood my hometown is* plus being poor meant i couldnt do a lot of things every one else did. Later as a teen only feeling valued if i was pretty, girls or boys wouldn’t talk to me unless i was “pretty”. Bullied into not being myself. Very relatable segment! But now as an adult, i am working on affirming myself, and treating myself well, being presentable, its hard! ps- choosing what makes me feel good over external validation is my MOST CHALLENGING FEAT!

[@laurapotpie]

HUGE Weird Al fan! HUGE! I used to record his videos on vhs and watch them over and over.

[@chisomotule]

I’ve never felt so heard when it comes to people pleasing ! ❤😂

[@miekevisage2785]

I’ve also have expirianced self loathing when I was younger, and I’m still trying to struggle with this, but I’ve driven deep down and I’ve found that it’s because of three factors: 1)I was a wiered kid, and so In my head I thought wiered = ugly 2)I know it’s a bit fucked up but I thought no one said they had a crush on me, so I thought people thought I was ugly 3)My mother in particular wanted a lot of control over how I looked, especially my early stages of being a teen, so she made me shave at a very young age (11-12), didn’t allow me to cut my hair short, and didn’t let me choose my own skin care. Ik some of the things are a bit small, and that’s why I don’t relize her control mad making me feel ugly, but it was because subconsciously she was making me feel like I wasn’t good enough and I had to chainge my physical appearance to her own accord. I remember this one time, she told me that no boy would ever love me if I don’t shave my legs, and another (I use to have horrible worts on my hands) that no one would want to hold my hand with warts, it took literal YEARS trying to remove them.

[@rachel-hu1ne]

I still can't look at myself in the mirror with out wanting to cry and I am 37 years old i started feeling this way back when i was 10 i think

[@MsMurphey24]

Thank you for sharing your experiences! 🙏❤

[@bugwaterbuffy]

question for the culture: why is lana dating this man ????

[@ultraviolettas]

STOP 😭😭😭

[@milkcatdog394]

The lore!!!

[@antesium.]

LETS GO BOZE WE TAKE THOSE W'S I feel that 100% though, I was raised with the mindset of "oh you're uncomfortable with a boy? he just likes you, you should appreciate that", so over time I just get used to telling myself that it's my problem I'm uncomfortable and I need to be appreciative instead of being "rude" (and by being "rude" I mean setting boundaries)

[@bubbletea9111]

My little sister had the same thing with mirrors but the opposite. She had a lot of trauma and self esteem isssues. She would always have to look at herself in every mirror to make sure she was always looking presentable. I too am the same way in a bit. We were both told to always look nice so no one sees the need to look deeper. It is something we both have had to work through and it is still tough sometimes.

[@mortuaryspencer]

this episode is taking me out the cut to the add at the end like PLEASEEEE give your editor a raise 😭😭

[@TheTravelingCamellia]

Boze you are amazing. I love that you're learning to set those boundaries and those boundaries are gonna start pushing back all on their own too. I can see it. Cuz people will just know where they are and act accordingly. Thank you for your content beauty! Stay amazing.

[@kidmisterE.]

Recovering ppl pleaser, you mah girl boze! ❤

[@justmagdalenadownhere]

Hi, folks. I see Uncle Boze has fed us well today.

[@charleycarr9320]

We’re connecting thank you for talking about this, I hated myself for so very long. I always thought I was just bad which what does that even mean. But thank you Bose for existing 😊

[@JadedzUzi]

I struggle with being a people pleaser. My thing was, if the person isn't happy, regardless of if it was my fault, I thought it was MY fault anyway. Their happiness was my responsibility. LOVE your videos!

[@smlspicy9416]

“no more mr. nice boze, alrighty?” lmao

[@ElenaNoiia]

Gurl i needed that IT'S OVER rn😂

[@aleksandravioletholubowicz1385]

Boze.. regarding feeling ugly as a kid, this is what one of my students wrote on her assignment (the prompt was ‘give an example of when someone wasn’t a good friend): “one time a girl told me that I’m fatter than the fattest animal and that I’d feed everyone with my body for Thanksgiving dinner.” Rage erupted in me after I read this. This hurt my heart. The things people tell us during childhood stay with us for a long time. I’m still getting over it in therapy and I’m 34!!

[@hiropon2985]

Recovering people pleaser here, the CPTSD diagnosis helped/explained a lot 😅

[@NCharise0]

Super happy for your confidence in setting boundaries. I am also a former people pleaser. Now I call men out on their bullshit before they have a chance to be a creep. They know exactly what they’re doing and only get away with it because they don’t get called out enough. You’re not a bitch, you’re The Bitch 👑

[@kathleenlourde1475]

I kept pumping my fist during the first part of this, lol. WTG! Also, I went through a 5-year period after my partner died when I would go to any lengths to keep from seeing my reflection anywhere -- mirrors especially, but anything at all. It was hell. I hope you let us know what that is when you find out.

[@glazyy_]

“man in a swamp from Lousiana” 😂❤

[@BoiledPotatoes737]

As women, I feel like we’re all taught at a young age to be polite and quiet, and I think that leads to a lot of us developing that over politeness as a coping mechanism for when we feel unsafe or uncomfortable. I know I have at least, I was always taught that being quiet and agreeable keeps me in a safer position. Im growing out of it slowly, but don’t be afraid to stand youre ground when you feel unsafe or disrespected

[@gcakes1]

good for you Boze!! I look up to you so much as someone younger that has a similar personality. Honestly I've learned to just stop being nice to strange men - I'd much rather they think I'm a bitch than think that I'm someone they could maybe poke and prod to see how far they get. So many men see an inch of politeness and take a mile