Men are in Crisis. The Church Has the Answer.

[@roydavis6090]

Fr. Casey, please accept my deepest gratitude for your words at the very end. The phrase, "Don't let anyone shame you for the masculine spirit that lives within you. It is good and it is holy. But it needs to be grounded in God," is exactly what I think so many of us, myself included, need to hear. And sadly, I think you are one of the first people that I have heard say those words. I will remember and treasure them forever.

[@YaHa-16-02]

This video should be turned into a documentary with interviews. Brilliant work Father, you spoke to me. Also, I love the Christmas carols in the background. You are obviously in community.

[@marktapia8327]

The world seems like it always has been in crisis. Thankfully, we are not alone. We have a Savior.

[@coffeebux]

That's not a good selling point on said savior

[@WilliamSwartzendruber]

Isn't fascinating that things are objectively better than ever and nobody's happy?

[@Colddirector]

@@WilliamSwartzendruber depends on what you mean by "objectively". environmentally things are pretty bad, plus milennials and zoomers are worse off economically and socially than gen x and boomers. there's a lot of things better about today than even 20 years ago but to say it's *objectively* better is a stretch

[@HokeTheDog]

When was Gen x well off?​@@Colddirector

[@Colddirector]

@ I'll clarify - Gen X are also worse off than baby boomers, but the generations after them are worse off still.

[@timelordn8987]

My wife makes more consistent money than me, so we changed how things work at home. She's the bread maker and bill payer and I've taken the lead roll in raising our son. It's also given me more time to volunteer at the church and I've even had talks with my priest about becoming a deacon. It's easy to get lazy and not feel needed, but what men need to do is look for new opportunities to serve our communities. Go help with things around the church, mow the lawn, dust, our church also provides a free daily lunch for the public and they always need volunteers. I've taken advantage of this opportunity to serve more and be a positive roll model for my son.

[@davederrick9431]

@timelordn8987 I couldn't agree more. I'm in my 70s and most of my friends all have jobs in the church, Vinnies or meeting the needs of others.

[@deb9806]

It's silly to not do things that work for you. I met many men who were home and wives worked or worked part time. I had a conservative Catholic say I shouldn't be doing things my husband likes me to do because I'm better and he does what he does better. Why such strict roles. Some men in the "olden days" bankrupted their families or couldn't do a budget . Couples work together.

[@magi404]

I love this for your family. It sounds like your son is being raised in a loving home, where he will see his parents love and respect each other. I absolutely love that. Blessings to you and your family.

[@tonypringles2285]

glad you and your wife have things figured out, its great when that happens

[@justsayin5609]

❤ And that is what a strong marriage looks like. Congratulations on figuring out what works for you. Makes total sense. ❤

[@minnic.6992]

If both women and men took accountability for their decisions and actions, that would be a step into the right direction.

[@BreakingInTheHabit]

St. Paul calls for mutual submission. This is critical. Love one another as Christ has loved us.

[@Tony-ci7ys]

THIS ❤

[@SnoopsJDawg127]

@@BreakingInTheHabitbefore I say this I love your stuff by and large so just know this doesn’t come from a bad place, but doesn’t Saint Paul also say that wives should obey their husbands and husbands love their wives? I know how this sounds to worldly secular ears, but (and you basically said this yourself) Christian leadership is one of complete pouring out of one’s self in sacrifice for the good of the other. Jesus Himself says those who are to rule are not to rule like the gentiles in petty tyranny, but those who are first must be last. I sort of see no real problem saying men should lead (with a sense of humility and meekness of course) given what Christ and Paul mean by leading. Also I think you mischaracterized much of the right’s viewpoints on masculinity tbh given, as you said many in that sphere recognized the problem first and are trying to return to biblical principles. While I despise the grind culture that seeks merely to subdue and use women, most of the right is not desiring that whatsoever. It’s odd to here you scoff at a return to tradition when you are a part of a 2,000 year old tradition and follow the example of a great saint from the 1200’s (though maybe that’s an unfair characterization) I just feel that although a return to 1950’s culture is certainly not what we should want, a return to earlier views of family and faith are actively good. After all in the times where women were confined to family life, Middle Ages etc, many of them worked and had jobs, lived happy lives, and many became great saints as religious sisters. Many of my favorite saints from Catherine of Sienna, Gertrude the great, Joan of Arc, Hildegard of Bingen etc were able to accomplish amazing intellectual (except maybe Joan, but I couldn’t not add her lol) work in a time when supposedly women were in complete subjugation. My point is not to say that there were not obstacles to women then, but merely to say that these things are fairly complex and that I feel the Traditions of the faith, especially when compared to the Roman culture it first stood against, were an overall benefit to women leading to better freedom and equality of worth. By contrast many women lament our culture now with stressful work and little time for family, they complain about sheepish and boyish men who won’t lead and they by into, by and large, a hookup culture that sadly uses them and spits them out feeling unlovable and lonely. It would be on thing if women were doing great under the current system while men were doing awful, but women are suffering too currently in very many ways. Honestly, I think much of this culture is what Our Lady was warning us about at Fatima (along with the other more obvious warnings) and I think the biggest things we need are a return to Christian ethics, daily rosary prayer, love and emphasis placed on family more than career (for both sexes) and a return to the ethics outline in Humane Vitea (all of which I’m sure you agree with) Sorry to write an essay lol. Honestly great video in general and I’m all for your prescriptions and some of your warnings. I’m just afraid some of the ‘vibe’ for lack of a better word, will leave some men to tune it out entirely in the first bit. Take this advice or ignore it lol, either way you do great work (literally God’s work) and I appreciate it so thanks.

[@blaisemacpherson7637]

Sounds a lot like blaming the problem on the people. People are people. You can't solve a people problem by just throwing up your have and saying "people need to be better, if people were better there would be no problem". That's diagnosing the problem without offering a solution.

[@VincentTelenko]

It's so good to have you back Fr. Casey! I don't know if you remember, but I got to meet you at Mundelein seminary, and you gave the young group of men with me such good advice. I think this was a great first video of this year. I've learned a lot from your channel, and I really valued the message and reminder of my masculinity that you gave. I can definitely see the way the world has emasculated us in the recent years, but I know it's our duty as Catholic (sometimes young) men to embrace it and see the beauty of being a man of God, pushing for the ways of God and pushing away the ways of the world. I truly thank you for your knowledge and wisdom, as I will take to heart your 4 points of emphasis on male discipleship. You are part of the small group of creators on KZbin that help deepen people's faith, answer questions, and spread the Good News. Thank you for continually inspiring me to love my faith and my masculinity.

[@cy7025]

I'm glad you're back Father Casey. My husband retired six months ago and I have been encouraging him to join the Knights of Columbus. Not only can he serve his community but also have the opportunity to spend time with other Catholic men who can help him grow in his faith. It's amazing how much volunteering opens your heart to others in need.

[@toadabc]

I am a Eucharistic Minister in a hospital and it make a difference for me and them.

[@redeemedwelshman]

Strength is not for status - it is for service.

[@dalspartan]

Amen!

[@karlheven8328]

well said

[@nicolasadjignon1336]

Finally, a nuanced approach about this situation. Thank you father!

[@ulisesmedina7191]

All I can say finally it's happening!!! I've been ringing this bell at my church for a long time in the past 3 years formed men's group in our parish and we're working with the knights to help out in the community. Very happy others are starting to catch on that. The church needs to take more responsibility in promoting the challenges of men and getting us involved

[@julieCA58]

Glad you are covering this, as it IS a real problem. P.S. Young women are suffering, too. Just not socially. But in recognizing God values them as much as men. Many have given up on God all together. I was heartened when I ran across a clip about the Jewish word for "helper" describing women in Genesis. "Strong where the other is weak". Not subservient at all. Also a phrase God used to describe himself. It is about all of us just plain growing up, reaching maturity, in God. All this sexist stuff has always driven me nuts, as I'm old, and my mother, grandmother and great grandmothers worked outside the home. As nurses, hatmakers, whatever. And if not outside the home, next to their husbands trying to save the farm. And their husband loved them And respected their work and strength. They did not fear, nor were jealous of their success. For they were also working hard along side their wives. Mutual love, mutual respect. Helping each other. Not stereotyping, but in awe of the strength of the other individual. And assisting the other in their weakness, not condemning or exploiting them. Both grounded in Christ. Both humble before Christ, and each other. . Now, if we could just get folks to understand church is about praise, worship and learning about our shared God, and not some boring social club they don't want to join, we might get somewhere. May God bless us all.

[@karlheven8328]

Praise and worship sounds very feminized already. No, we need traditional liturgical worship if we want to strengthen godly masculinity

[@klamsanac8173]

To be a man is to be a man for others. Thank you Father Casey, I can't wait to share this video with my family.

[@garyspencer-salt4336]

The change is driven by the need for shelter for a family, with the average price of a home above 1.2 million in a major city; both must work to survive to pay for a home and childcare.

[@lear7741]

There are so many things in this video that make me made. I know I’m different, and accept that. In my life, I am married and the bread winner. My wife stays home and takes care of the home. If it was the reverse, I would have no problem. The house would be clean, meals on the table, kids taken to all appropriate outings. I would be the best that I could be in my position in the household. I am disgusted by men/boys who do nothing because they think they are better than what they have been dealt. My wife and I are a team. We do what is necessary to get the job done. Y’all need to get over yourself’s.

[@chrisj7055]

I think one of the major problems most of society just can't get away from is looking at the incredible power, fortune and 'elastic' restrictions on an extremely small percentage of men and then believing that is all men. Just like only a small percentage of women grace the covers of a beauty magazine, only a small percentage of men are CEO's or billionaires. I get it. There are some really, really powerful, wealthy men who have done bad things. It's terrible. But I don't believe that's the typical man's experience of life. It would be just as wrong of me to believe all women enjoy the privilege equal to what a very small percentage actually do.

[@Descriptor413]

G.K. Chesterton once wrote that the folly of letting power and wealth concentrate like this is like saying that only the most attractive men should get all the women, and all the rest of us should just live lives of celibacy. Your point kinda reminds me of that.

[@Shadows06060]

The level of discrimination in the service sector is incredible: education, nursing, but mainly HR.

[@Angela1327-o9s]

Thank you for this video. I understand that, for some men, encountering strong, self-sufficient women can feel challenging to their sense of identity, especially when societal expectations tie masculinity to being a provider. Hearing a Catholic priest frame this dynamic as an opportunity rather than a threat is refreshing and contrasts with the message I grew up hearing in the Catholic Church. Celebrating a woman’s strength doesn’t diminish masculinity-it reflects confidence and security. A strong woman is an ally, not a competitor, and self-sufficient partners create relationships where both individuals thrive. Empowered partnerships are healthier, more fulfilling, and enable women to leave a marriage if their husband mistreats them.

[@karlheven8328]

We have to define strength. A strong woman knows her place and does not need to compete with men in the domains that make women special. Of course the female submission to the man is because the man is a man of god not because the man is inherently superior. This is what true virtuous patriarchy would look like, not oppressive but leading in the best way towards god. These complementary naturss of male and female cannot be replaced.

[@hhajajahqh]

Jesus is always the perfect example. Bro washed his followers feet, that's real masculinity

[@seamusdrumm4507]

Thank you, Brother Casey for this Video, I have a passion for men's ministry. Yes the Church is the only hope for men.

[@JuanMartinez-xl2oj]

Because of you my acquaintances shun me; you make me loathsome to them; Caged in, I cannot escape; my eyes grow dim from trouble. All day I call on you, LORD; I stretch out my hands to you.

[@michaelevans1193]

I have been blessed with a father (both parents really) who taught me to balance that fine line between being masculine and what is now known as toxic masculinity. I now get to pass those lessons along to my 19 year old son. I figure if my drill sergeant father taught me these lessons back in the 1980’s, the rest of society should be catching on to this idea. Glad this video is one step on that journey.

[@catmom11]

My husband is a Lutheran pastor who has struggled his is masculinity growing up (being shut down and misled). I sent this to him not only aid him but to inspire the young children that he is leading. Thank you for this! I shared this on my facebook to also so others that extremes are not good. We need to find our strengths and work together…end of story.

[@vincewarde]

Absolutely great stuff! Just a couple of thoughts.... 1) Because your material is SO GOOD, as a retired Free Methodist minister, may I suggest that when applicable, as in this case, you address your teaching to ALL CHRISTIANS. I know you don't care if we Protestants listen in, but it would be even better if you recognized that we can learn from you too 😉 2) I think that you could have looked even further back for the typical model of how men and women related to each other. Prior to the industrial revolution, men and women were generally BOTH at home. Mothers, fathers and even children all worked on the farm or in the family's business. Skills were handed down from parents to children. We should not lose sight of the fact that a husband and father leaving home to provide for the family is a recent development. So was the brief time when wives and mothers had huge amounts of leisure time and were not doing things - one way or another - to financially support the family (not that many stay at home mom's are not doing the same thing today). In any case, as usual, great video!

[@Rolzhey]

I respect you for being willing to challenge your understanding and open to evolving your opinions. Even being willing to looking into your own viewpoint is respect worthy.

[@lilyp4708]

truly the *best* youtube video I have watched in a long time

[@eliinapajunen7500]

One small note is that, for a longer time than many will acknowledge, not all women could be full time house wives. Poor women have worked forever, as maids and more, especially women of color. I do appreciate your insights in this video. I've had my own insights on the male issues of the day, given how many Catholic men I've met use "masculine ideas" as a veil for misogyny and to try to put down femininity. I think not seeing these qualities as diametric opposites is helpful. Every man has a bit of a feminine side and women a masculine one. My ex from college was a more feminine guy while al having masculine traits and it's OK. What matters is respect and regard for oneself and others. I firmly believe divisive rhetoric that says "men should be x and women should be y all the time" doesn't allow for the goodness of the individual and encourages men to dehumanize women and vise versa. We need to see each other as people. First we are children of God. THEN we are whatever else.

[@karlheven8328]

I agree, people who are looking to gain something through roles but lacking true charity are not really traditional. We need to focus on that and support true femininity and masculinity idealy. The real catholic manly leader does not oppress but leads.

[@eliinapajunen7500]

@karlheven8328 mhm. when I think of leadership, it is always the kind Jesus exemplified "who did not regard equally with God as something to be grasped" and who "came not to be served but to serve" yes indeed

[@Themaneman464]

I've noticed most parishes tend to grant most of their time and effort to children. This is great, but at the same time, the men who are the primary teachers and providers of these children are left spiritually dry. Additionally, I also noticed most Knights of Columbus groups are mostly retirees. Although I love the idea that older men get to stay engaged in their church, and I absolutely love the work that they do, younger working aged men don't really have anywhere to turn to. I guess as a working aged Catholic man sometimes it's discouraging to see every event at the parishes I've been to recently be geared towards children or elderly people. I have been to a great parish with engaged young men, but it was on a military base, which is naturally going to have a vast majority of it's parishioners be working aged adults, and their families. I know I can take it upon myself to change this where I am now, but I just haven't worked up the courage, nor the energy to do so just yet. Ok, rant/vent session over. Thanks for the awesome video!

[@jedlevron]

I kind of struggle with this as I am a blue collar/service type worker but I have so many ankle and feet problems that are quite painful. I struggle with finding and keeping office work. It can be quite annoying. I seem to be more of a volunteer worker like with the KCs than a paid one. I've been laid off 5 times in the last 12 years.. I'm now getting in my mid 40s and sometimes don't know where to go. Things seem to be getting more data driven and complicated and im quite simple and don't seem to fit in most places.

[@ephemeralvapor8064]

Please take care enough, help where you can, and trust God... We need people like you. May God bless you and increase your grace.

[@Colddirector]

Do you know what specific skills are preventing you from consistent employment? There's a fair amount of resources online for data driven skills

[@leigh5251]

Father, thank you for bringing awareness to this. I will be more mindful towards men in our community. I have heard that social media is changing how we interact with each other but I never considered how deeply men are affected. How very strange that the more connected we've become, the more disconnected we've became.

[@josephcaristo]

I will definitely try to apply certain disciplines shown in this video. They makes sense to me and I follow many already now. Thank you Fr. C.

[@TJ1920]

men are lost modern male crisis Masculinity 2025 being challenged to work/helping others Thank you for speaking the truth

[@paullangland6877]

As a 4th degree in the Knights of Columbus, thank you for mentioning us. I am active in my church's council ever since the pandemic lockdowns ended. I am proud of the things the Knights of Columbus do. I am proud the Tootsie Roll Drive or when my council in Northwest Wisconsin, hosts a Friday Fish Fry on the first Friday of Lent and later a Smelt Fry on Good Friday. What's both pretty funny and awesome is that although it's intentions are for men to work these events, we actually get a lot of women showing up to volunteer as well. Sure these women are the wives of my fellow brother knights but it's awesome to see the unity of men and women working together positively in such an event like Friday Fish Fry.

[@SwingSiren]

Thank you so much for this sane and balanced view. I'm so tired of reactive and unhelpful stereotypes which turn me off from men all together and that deepen these problems. A "traditional mindset" is now a red flag for me since it doesn't necessarily mean following Jesus but that I should be shuttered into some role that doesn't fit who I am.

[@karlheven8328]

Maybe I would suggest you try to understand first what they mean with traditional first, before you condemn them. Consider how the media, entertainment and politics has worked to turn men and women against each other. True traditionals understand that roles are meant to give meaning to individual souls and the family is meant to protect the children from outside influences that may be harmful. The real traditional man and woman does everything to conform to their natural selves to bring out the best of themselves in a well-mannered way. In this society that has strayed so much from the good, the true and the beautiful it is a struggle

[@ryannel3899]

Spent 20 years as an atheist. There is something about that mindset which poisons.

[@weeringjohnny]

I've never had any religious belief and am quite content living my life as if God never existed. Can you tell us what is poisonous about such a mindset? I'm genuinely interested.

[@Colddirector]

I always found the religious mindset far more poisonous. It incentivizes you to sit down, shut up and don't ask questions, even when the rules don't make sense. Religious people act like God shouldn't be questioned because he's in charge when that's *why* he should be questioned, and much more rigorously than anyone else. The powerful must be held accountable.

[@SwingSiren]

@@Colddirector These are extremely broad brushstrokes to paint over all of religion. As a Catholic I have never found this to be true and I'm sure serious Jews would laugh at the idea that their faith says no questions. There's nothing in Catholic teaching that says not to ask questions. The entire intellectual tradition of the Church flies in the face of that. The creation of the university system in Europe was by monks...it is ignorant to try to claim that religion, which forces you to continually seek out a relationship with perfect love and to seek instruction is something that would poison you, as opposed to making a god solely out of your own reason.

[@rodolfoalfonso8673]

An excellent analysis of the crisis. I agree with you. Thank you for the explanation.

[@KingoftheJuice18]

I appreciate your not falling back on 1950s stereotypes or other kinds of sexism.

[@grace.w328]

I have also heard that one of the best ways men can be formed and come closer to Christ and become better spiritual warriors is through expeditions with other faithful men out into nature

[@modernmiderntown3241]

I’m a really alone person. I’m kind of one of them but I don’t feel sad about being alone. I used to be sad to be alone but I learned that I can still be happy without any friends. I’d still like to have a friend but I won’t get depressed if i don’t.

[@Colddirector]

Managing relationships for me is complicated because I do like some companionship, but I also cherish my solitude far more than most people. People see me not going out Friday night or spending my weekend cooking and reading and just assume I'm antisocial.

[@caffinejedi]

As a (former) Catholic and a woman, please keep talking about this. Men really need other men to talk to about all this. And trust me, getting a woman to submit to them is not the solution. The solutions must come within.

[@AliciatheCho]

How often did you got to confession?

[@karlheven8328]

Actually it is both. Yes women also need to change and submit more to their godfearing husbands!

[@Ernie-y2b]

Thank you so much for this beautiful video. You have done such a wonderful job of explaining the truth. I wish more men would be able to see it and their Catholic faith. Please keep up your excellent work. God Bless!

[@niva6511]

Thank you Father. I hope that you are well. You are such a gift to us all. Good to have you back. Praying for you and please pray for me. I have tendency to be melancholic.

[@undolf4097]

I think this was a balanced take on the issue that invites men to be opened up to the disruption of society that can’t really be turned around. I will say that I find male confusion (in the Right end of the spectrum) stems largely by a fear of being unattractive or disrespected by women. I think the video would have been better served if it tried to assuage these fears that men still have plenty to offer women in a healthy relationship even if she’s earning more than he is.

[@MervinJacob]

"The Boy Crisis" , is another good book on this subject.

[@James-y6g6e]

Thank you very much for your videos

[@scootermcmooscles]

Father, thank you for this video. It is refreshing and invigorating to hear opinions that build up everyone rather than the far more popular style of opinions that build up some at the expense of others. God bless!

[@smusk2006]

I can only speak for my country, but here, the women entered the workforce due to WW2. Basically, they had to not because they all wanted to. It sounded like it was feminist propaganda that pushed women into the workforce when it was a world war.

[@Madiaraaa]

Thank you for this

[@The_Strawberry_Fox]

Wow such a great video! I agree with everything. Looking forward to hearing more of your thoughts.

[@catherinecomeau8150]

Happy to hear you again, Fr Casey! I love how you said at the end of the video that we should bring a masculine spirit to professions traditionally viewed as feminine as in education, for example. As an educator in a daycare, I have seen (not often, unfortunately) how wonderful it is when male educators come. Children love it! And we, female educators, love it too because men bring a different dynamics that is beneficial to everyone.

[@WilliamSwartzendruber]

I am not Eastern Orthodox, but I think they are way ahead of the west (Catholic or otherwise) in figuring this out. Father Josiah Trenham points to the abandonment traditional marriage as the root cause of society's modern problems. There is an undeniable correlation between the issues you brought up at the start of the video and the lack of a father in the family.

[@VirginMostPowerfull]

Orthodox allow up to 3 mariages which is unhelpful to say the least, they don't really have a long term solution so all we have to do is catch up and we'll go beyond.

[@karlheven8328]

It has little to do with Orthodox or Catholic but with traditional or modernist. The west has had to deal with continued attacks on the hierarchies of value and against the traditional culture

[@williambabbitt7602]

Dear Father, I’m 76. I am a lutheran pastor who subscribed to your channel. I have shared it with my other brothers as I will this one. When I wanted to become a priest, my pastor told me that I could not do it because I was physically disabled and I would probably have a very difficult time although they could not deny that I had a call. I have lived longer than the doctor so I ought to and there must be a reason for that. It is not because my Sterling personality or my overwhelming intelligence or my physical progress because I’ve spent the last 20 years in an electric chair because I fell through a glass door while I was walking through it using crutches. I have been married and I lost my wife to cancer. I have no children and I’ve often thought that I would like to become a Roman Catholic just to become more useful in my life. I am a scholar and I use that word lightly because I don’t feel that I am. I just do my homework study hard. Pray hard eat less and try to keep up with what everybody else is doing. I would love to have a group of men come together where we could just enjoy each other’s company talk about God pray together and build relationships that will save people’s lives. And I do mean save 16:27 very often. I feel like I’m not doing enough or haven’t done an offer can’t do enough and I have to admit to myself that that’s correct, but it is not me who’s doing it. It’s God and his purpose and his power. I only wish that my friends and my family had seen me for who I was when I was growing up instead of putting me in a pigeon hole and trying to keep me there. I’m not really pleased with the way the women’s issues have been handled. They go from one extreme to another. I feel l have been discriminated against because I am a man and have a disability. Let’s not overcompensate for the mistakes of the past, but work hard to correct them and give everyone an equal chance men or women. Let’s get over the idea that we have all been abused because we have. That’s why Jesus came into the world to provide a fine example of what being a human being and being a male is Some women. Hate Jesus just because he is a man who will not hear anything about him because of the way they retreated or taught in school or Sunday school about how life should be. If we want to know how Life should be why don’t we talk to our heavenly father and follow his example? Thank you for allowing me to vent. I wish I was 50 years younger because I would have a great time getting with you.❤

[@anngreetare773]

Finally, someone had the courage

[@greggallo4988]

Thank you, Father Casey.

[@gavinh8146]

So much subtlety packed into such a short video - great job 👏

[@justsayin5609]

Thank you Father Casey, for expressing so cogently what I have been saying for decades. I am a senior tho far from elderly, but was born with an innate sense of the injustice of gender inequality that denigrated the value of women. As women came into their own, men did not adapt accordingly so as to uplift society as a whole. Men taking accountability for their own mental health by whatever means necessary is required, which has been very slow in coming. This is not a woman's problem.

[@ConvincedofChristianity]

Wow, thanks for the wakeup call, Father Casey

[@cw6560]

Now I see a franciscan man doing Jesus and st. francis work. Rebuilding the church is rebuilding men good job Father Casey. ❤❤❤

[@sedavalos]

Joseph was another fine example of someone who was strong, a teacher, a provider… and yes all MEN are in danger nowadays. I worry so much… I mom of a son too.

[@JusticeConstantine]

Thank you Father Casey.

[@zeem.5085]

❤ thank you Father. You're absolutely right

[@jeffreyb.2817]

I have to admit, this video hit a bit harder for me than most of your others. (I'm not Catholic, so I watch your videos to learn about Catholicism.) I have been dealing with depression (counseling and medically) for a while. It became much worse when my wife of 18 years died unexpectedly. I suddenly became both father and mother to two young girls (8 and 11). Then COVID hit and I lost my job (I am back to work at 3/4 the pay, but no PTO, making life so much more difficult) Anyway my point is, I completely lost my identity. I was no longer a husband. I was no longer an engineer. I was no longer the provider, as I was living off saving. Everything I was, disappeared. Admittedly, had I not wanted to leave my kids without parents, I could have made things much worse, getting into self medication/harm. Unfortunately, I've found that there really isn't any real help out there for single fathers. Heck, when unemployed, I didn't even qualify for food stamps, because I was responsible and had more than $2,000 in savings (including my retirement IRA). There are not "single fathers" support groups. Studies have shown that most counseling isn't set up for the male mindset very well, and I can testify that it's true. I am the man without a single friend, simply because I'm so worn out from taking care of my home my myself and still working to support my family. My faith has been the only thing holding me together, and unfortunately, that has definitely taken a hit. I've had been in "I hope the Lord's plan is something good, even though I don't see it" mode for a long time. I don't have the answer, but videos like this at least look at the problem honestly and not just say, "Buck up, your a man, you benefit from the misogynistic world that we have. You shouldn't complain".

[@FLgurl407]

I used to see clients in a hospital funded pre k school that served lower socioeconomic families. Oodles of staff in that building. Nurses, teachers, therapists...but not one man. Not one. Education needs men. Health Care needs men.

[@hhajajahqh]

Finally, this needs to talked about a lot. And the worse part of it is that when men are in trouble, everyone is in trouble beginning with the family. I was on reddit the other say I saw an x rated inappropriate ad, so as usual I wanted to report it. Do you know what I saw? It was something simple yet loud. In the ad info the "target niche" intended for this x rated ad was "Men" That stuff made me really sad. It's so painful tbh, pornography is the greatest threat ever and very soon, I mean very soon we will see it's effects. It's sad that women are even catching up, in 1 or 2 counties today, according to statistics, women now watch more pornography than men. I predict that women will be joining men soon in the "trouble"

[@karlheven8328]

Do not forget that this is all intentional and not only result of individual sin, but orchestrated to destroy western societies

[@lilacheaven222]

I won't hide the fact that I was initially worried about where you might go with this only because I've spent too many years lurking webs and forums about men desperate to find their purpose only to fall down the incel rabbit hole. I think the major issue to tackle is men's mental health being taken seriously. Too many men rather contain all their anger, sadness and frustration instead of talking to a trusted person, let alone go to a professional. I understand that finding the right professional might take time but most men I've talked to admitted trying once or twice and then giving up and saying it's a waste of time. It's not. Another thing I've noticed in my decade of lurking forums trying to understand the issue is that many teenage boys and some men get interested in becoming ordained/religious just because they are frustrated they can't find someone to love, are depressed or suicidal. And this turns into a dangerous mindset that usually ends in violent outbursts either online or IRL against women, communities and minorities. Of course, I'm not saying it's how it always ends, but I've seen this happen with people I've known from school, university and work too. Anyways, I was writing another paragraph but forgot halfway through what I wanted to reply to but since I'm writing from my phone I'll lose everything I wrote if I try to check. I'll write it in a reply if I can remember haha. Always check on your friends and family members and make sure they know they're loved, cared for and important ❤ It does make a difference! God bless you always 🙏

[@Colddirector]

@ Saying that women are struggling too doesn't really change the fact that men are undeniably hit harder by the loneliness epidemic.

[@annadegraeve8682]

Always spot on FR. casey

[@leighgirl123]

Excellent video father. I hope that more men embrace this type of masculinity moving forward. I wish that this type of middle ground message is what main stream media made popular, not the severely left or right view points on masculinity.

[@tophat2115]

My church's Knights of Columbus seems to exclude anyone who is under 65 and not retired. That men's group seems cliquey and uninterested in fresh blood or ideas.

[@imzjik]

Saint Joseph, pray for manhood.

[@sheilamcmunn8880]

What a brilliant talk ! Thank you

[@ENoob]

Nearly all of my teachers from the age of 7 to 23 were men. It is only now that I am over 40 that I realize how lucky I was.

[@tonypringles2285]

sounds a bit sexist

[@MichaelThompson-jq3zf]

Lol. All my boarding school life, my teachers were *switched on - mentally tough* German(junior school.) & later English/Irish (high school)., nuns, with one exception 1st, 2nd & 3rd years in high school, I had the same *alpha male* teacher for Geography, Biology & English Literature. Guess what Fr Casey, *he was such an arrogant bully* , I couldn't wait to advance to 4th, 5th & 6th Form where we once again had those wonderful, knowledgeable, strong/strict lady (nuns), retaking the baton. 😉😁.

[@angelogarcia2189]

For a terrifying moment, I thought lent was about to start...

[@milepost465historyhobbies4]

Just awesome! I’m inspired!

[@slipstick985]

I would tell a young man, "Be YOU. Find the life you were made for."

[@rayv7010]

Amen to the KoC as I am a 4th Degree Knight. I am disappointed, however, that now living in Spain, the KoC Mecca asks what is the possibility to sell insurance versus remembering the reason why I join the Knights which was Fraternity and Spirituality. God bless, Casey.

[@johnpower-m5o]

Men are not lost, men have not changed - leadership, understanding, and proper guidance is lost.

[@karlheven8328]

Exactly. The male virtues and values have been continually attacked. Now the men need to change instead of the culture?😂

[@danfobb8301]

Thanks for this video

[@willtaylor754]

Very pleasant. I enjoyed your over view on the subject and left feeling positive about the future. As with many of your videos, I find myself drawn to consider the macro instead of the micro. Or, that is to say, I am left called to a higher purpose. Lol. Damnit, you got me again! Thanks for the video. I enjoyed it.

[@BenNelsonillegalnumbers]

I would live sources here in the description as well, its always useful. Did you read Robert Putnams Bowling Alone?

[@peterv7258]

One of the problems that men face is that a large swath of women seem to have now been fully brought into the feminist and modern ideas of libertine sexual attitudes and all of its concomitant things, like hookup culture, abortion, birth control, divorce, sexual attraction fluidity, and so forth. Woman have become badly acting men, as they say. It is not so much a problem for me, because I am old, and though never married, it matters less for me at this point. But for younger men the world is a freaky place these days, with complicated social mores.

[@grababundoberni]

Men are supposed to compromise to do the will of God the Father representing Him, and women should compromise to keep very noble thoughts and pure feelings as Lady Mary did.

[@JADOPE2]

we shouldnt judge according to color, race, gender, sucess, economics, cultural level,..... we are all different, with different talents and unique. we cannot compere one women with an other, much less a man with a woman. we are all different members of the same body of Christ. we are not called to do the same men cannot give birth each of us is different

[@Handp1e]

A prayer for the conversion of the world and for the minds and hearts of men to turn to Christ ❤ how much happier they would become!

[@אלכִימאִי]

Please make a video about the filioque and answering the doubts and arguments of the Orthodox.

[@whatsup3270]

It is very simple a man gives up his social life for his wife and children. Now when the children leave home as young adults the wife kicks him out and keeps everything. Judges, lawyers, even cops if involved protect her. Then he is on the streets in his late 50s, maybe 60s. He has no friends because he didn't have time for them when he had a family. Most of his money, real estate is gone, his career is in its last phase. His children will go to his former house, where his wife is, but they don't know his new place which is likely a cheap apartment. Honestly we have made a system that distroys the husband, simply don't marry and that means stay sideways with the Church.

[@lguevara586]

😳

[@FearthelordRomans1]

It’s all by design brother, just know your valued by God.

[@karlheven8328]

Reminder: You do not have to marry or become a priest to be a great Catholic

[@tophat2115]

Men and woman are 80% alike, it's the 20% that is the factor.

[@sevillajuanillo3308]

Yes father it's very powerful message. The Holy Spirit is with in you.act always like Jesus.we proud of you .God bless us all .praise to you Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on us sinners and the whole world amen 🙏 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tflics]

It's a pretty good video, father. I think you are on the right path to understanding this problem. I would point out, though, that the different roles of men and women do not derive primarily from culture. Rather, they are derived from nature. The author of nature is God. A war against nature--by suppressing masculine strengths, or by trying to convince women that they can only be "equal" by displaying (usually ineptly) masculine virtues--is a war against nature's author. A Franciscan priest I used to work with would say, "Mother nature may be a b****, but she is no fool." Coarse, perhaps, but painfully true. Men are built for sacrifice. Women, not so much so. This is, perhaps, the real reason that women are incapable of being priests. They are also incapable of being fathers. Priest, husband, and father are all roles in which sacrifice is an integral element. A man who fails to live his vocation of sacrifice (whether priest, husband, or father) is widely and easily despised, even if we live in an age in which people are incapable of grasping exactly why.

[@edwardwright8127]

An excellent video, and there’s very little I disagree with, but I would like to offer a couple minor corrections. First, the chart showing differences between men and women in GPA and ACT scores is a bit misleading. It is poorly constructed in a way that makes the differences appear larger than they actually are. Second, your statement about a lack of opportunity in construction trades is simply wrong. There is a shortage of skilled carpenters, plumbers, electricians, etc. This is due, in part, to a decrease in vocational training in public schools. When I was growing up, my high school (which was by no means exceptional) offered classes in wood shop, metal shop, auto shop, carpentry, electrical, ceramics, and mechanical drawing. Today, such classes as rare. Most schools have computer labs, many of which include classes in computer-aided design but without any way to turn designs into physical objects. (This is starting to turn around, thanks to the development of 3D printers, but we still have a lot way to go.) The shortage is exacerbated by the war on immigration which (contrary to political rhetoric) is being waged by both political parties.

[@BreakingInTheHabit]

I would recommend looking to Richard Reeves’ book, where I got all my data. I may not have perfectly represented his research, but it is well-proven

[@Prokotra1]

Fr. Casey, thank you for your words. I find you view on this topic very inspirational for the way we as a society and should talk about those issues. I would like to know if you have any recommendations on catholic literature or any magisterial documents on this topic?

[@TheHyBriD3I6]

welcome back

[@MM-te5iq]

As I women I love to be just house wife but even with nuclear family can we sustain with one income with the higher expenses not at all. When both work there will be imbalance as men are not used to this shift as well as women feels more powerful her expectations towards men increases. Ego and misunderstanding creeps quickly. Kids feel identity crises. The only and forever solution is to reach out to god for guidance

[@Letsgofighting-rf8oo]

Thanks for this. If you're interested in the Imperial virility of the Roman Catholic Tradition I strongly recommend a coop/interview with Schwerpunkt. Lots of theological insight from it

[@isoldam]

What is Schwerpunkt?

[@Being_Joe]

Let's check again after Monday.

[@KJBITSME]

You’re dead right. Preach the truth. Let us meet honestly. A woman loves a man and likewise. Marriage is a covenant. However, I see men need to model Saint Joseph - and the culture isn’t that. My wife is my equal, my council, my beloved, a woman I respect. A mother to my children. A man must try. But don’t reject the other for cultural reasons. Give each other a chance. A chance with kindness.

[@eagleswings5693]

Thank you.

[@777theright88]

I am glad to see you can admit that you were wrong

[@markfornefeld299]

Finally, Father, at least it’s being told and exposed just like Satan’s lies

[@eduardohoover2127]

Yes and you can know them by the collar they wear. It's not a halo people!

[@chuckmaxon3727]

We can't turn back the clock, however we can turn back to the bible. Husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church and yes, women should obey their husbands.

[@reeveetalk1907]

I just want a beautiful Catholic wife who either shares or is fine with my beliefs

[@TheWarkilla]

I can also recommend the book "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine" by Robert Moore & Douglas Gilette. They name Jesus as the man to represent many of the archetypes, most notably the Lover - the loving man who cares deeply about his people & guides them compassionately.