Bring your Filipina to your country | Foreigner-Filipina Dating

[@gracecrossley7890]

I am a Filipina and married for almost 10 years until my husband passed Jan 2022. I rather live in the Philippines living in the US is stress and so different , work is better opportunity in USA but living simple life in the Philippines will be worth it. I just become US citizen yesterday I applied after my late husband died . If I want to go back in the US no hassle at all. But I want to move to the Philippines because my parents and siblings is there. I'm 34 and I don't want to rush into dating again. I came here in USA through K1 visa year 2012. Life in America is not easy . You just need to find the good Filipina , look what's inside not only outside look. I came from province and poor family but I never ask money to my husband , I work for the money I sent to my family .I never ask any help to my late husband because he's not responsible to my family. I meet my late husband in person in cebu. They don't know it's hard living in USA is not bed of roses. Philippines is more fun and happy life to live and I can't wait to go back home.

[@Chris9183]

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband Grace. I'm a 35 year old American man planning to eventually get out of America and go to the Philippines myself. American culture and the west in general have become toxic, and it's my opinion that America is only good for making money these days and not much else. Here, there is abundance of material and poverty of soul.

[@MrJusticeM]

What advice would you give to men who are in love with a Filipina who wants them to live in the US for a short time? I know that I want to move there but it will be at least 4 years before I can move there for good.

[@TheOzStu]

Why did you get US citizenship if you want to go back to Philippines. From what I understand, the Philippines doesn't allow duel citizenship. So if you gain citizenship of another country you lose Philippine citizenship.

[@tastymustard6234]

​@@TheOzStu It does allow...

[@thebemolaba6625]

No place like home

[@iant8842]

Rubeauti you have given so much great advise. 12 months should be a minimum (and that is seeing each other every day) as that allows you to see each other in every season to see how you/they change by season (if they do). It is not only pinays looking for PR and then changing. I believe there are way more in China wanting to do this - my Chinese wife was very believable (very good actor) until she came to Australia and got her PR and then the real (not so nice) her came out. Guys listen to what Rubeauti has said and absorb it (watch a few times and really listen). I wish I had followed this advise before I married. Thank you for the very truthful and informative video. God Bless

[@woodspirit98]

Yeah it's important to see what they look like in the rain and sun.

[@ActiveAussie2024]

Chinese women in particular can't be trusted. I spent 8 years in HK and China, speak the language and I know how they think. NEVER bring Asian women to Western countries as they will be poisoned by Western women who tell them "you can do better" and the hypergamy will kick in. Remember, you are just an expendable and disposable asset to these women. Temporary GF, ok, marriage, NO, not in Philippines or anywhere else.

[@victorlloyd1131]

@Ian T. I agree with your comments - there are many more Chinese after PR (in NEW ZEALAND) My Chinese wife also was sweet as pie until she got PR - then the nasty truth came out - she wanted my house, car, and ALL my property. Also I married a Vietnamese younger woman 7 years after my divorce to Chinese - but the only thing she loved was my wallet. Now I have MET a Filipino lady who is a devout and committed Christian ✝️ and her English is quite good. We have talked to each other every night for two years and two months and several times with her family (7 people altogether) But she is not the typical Filipino - very very different and has always insisted from Day 1 that Jesus must be the CENTRE of our love. End of story. In the final analysis it is the language barrier that will break the relationship - I am learning Visaya and Cebuano - and her English is becoming more fluent every day. So above all - guys be prepared to learn her language - it is a courtesy to her and a compliment really. 😊

[@dingodave2464]

Full communication is so important. You must be open and truthful.

[@nriada1156]

I love your videos. You have a really warm personality and your presentation style is so natural and attractive. Keep up the good work.

[@jasonwhitacre4958]

Wonderful video! You covered alot of important topics, some of which I'm sure hit home to many. It can be easy sometime to let emotions race and end up hurting in the end. After all everyone wants to be loved an wanted and for some they become overwhelmed by the feelings of someone actually interested in them and then are blind to the warning signs. There is nothing wrong with anyone wanting to better themselves and wanting to do so by leaving their current country. Bettering ones self is a positive thing. In my opinion your comment about taking time to learn about each other, that is spot on and the most important in a successful relationship. Great topic Rebeauti 👏 and a wonderful video. Also your room setup with the ambient lighting looks great 👍. Take care and as always cherish the moments ✌

[@Murph_.]

How did I know my Filipina was the right one? She wanted to stay in the Philippines. After living in the Philippines for a year, we both agreed to move to USA. Our goal is to build a house for her family, buy a condo in Baguio for us, and retire there. In the USA, she works hard and more than pulls her own weight and helps her family as well. Most important thing in any relationship... communication. Don't be afraid to say what you want. Don't be afraid to be honest. Be sure you have the right person, and that you have the same goals and ideas about life. I also STRONGLY urge foreigners to LIVE in the Philippines for a good amount of time. NOT a vacation there, but living your life there. Know who she is, know her friends and family, know what life is like there and what she is living through. And know each other.

[@wardcummins8736]

If you're an old man, and she's a little girl, it wasn't love. Sorry.

[@wardcummins8736]

@Con Descending I remember minor earthquakes happening weekly in the 80s and tremors pretty much daily. At the time we didn't know Pinatubo was gearing up for action. Also prepare for constant brown outs and black outs. Even on base they were common...much more common off base.

[@DrDlane]

@@wardcummins8736 you should tell that to Celine Dion and Nancy Kerrigan and the myriad other women who have married men twice their age or more.

[@wardcummins8736]

@@DrDlane Yeah, you're right...those TWO examples are exactly the same as nearly EVERy pathetic old guy who guys to the PI, and let's not kid ourselves about TWICE their age. I usually see 20 yr old women with 60 and 70...even 80 yr old men. Not 20 with 40. Your argument is absolutely not equivalent. Next.

[@DrDlane]

@@wardcummins8736 outside of the western world, marriages with large age gaps is very standard. So they're aren't only two examples. They are everywhere. It's the cultural norm in many countries. Next

[@Flymike53]

Very well said Rubeauti, I’ve figured out a lot of this the hard way over the years. Listen guys she’s spot on!

[@wiv2631]

Rubeauti, I have never heard so much wisdom, honesty and solid advice packed into such a short video in all of my many years of life. I wish I could have watched and taken to heart your message many years ago. Much respect to you!

[@leonwangls]

First, this vlogger doesn't have any experience with foreigner. Never bring yr Filipina wife to the yr country. There's a big chance bad things will happen to you and yr relationship. You would be a steppingstone for her to get out of her country. 1:55. She will not leave you if you stay permanently in Ph bcos her life will be much better than what she has now. 2:35. She should not be providing for her family bcos you are her family now. 3:00 .if her pinoy family is her priority then what are you, ATM??? 3:11. Listening to this vlogger on how to lose yr foreign bf real fast. Bedding your gf as fast as you can is the best way to seal the deal. (she's mine now). She can be chatting with many others too.

[@King31j]

My filipina and I have been talking for almost three years. I met her in person after 1 year and an half. We continue to talk and make things work. We both have already set limits on what things we would do and won't do until marriage. We have goals in place and slowly working towards them. Hopefully everything goes to plan and we are able to live together in time.

[@charlesmorris414]

So true my dear! Must be open at the very beginning and know each others goals!

[@BeefaloBart]

Doesn't matter who you are or where your from, Be honest, and be open when it comes to matters of the heart or anything.

[@drewnc6196]

Great video! My Filipina is wanting me to live there with her in the province. She initially wanted me to live in the city, but when I mentioned that I would prefer the simple life, she was happy to hear that. Now we will build a simple yet nice home there, solar powered to help with the black outs, but comfortable and simple.

[@robertcrotty9000]

I would try the city and the province. You may find the city more to your liking, but definitely more costly. Try them both.

[@TravellingMan20]

Lots of good information that I hope guys will take on board. It’s easy after having relationships in the West, to be blown away by meeting much younger and more beautiful Filipinas. You need to be realistic, if you’re in your 50-60-70’s it’s unlikely that a young beauty is attracted to you for your looks. Taking them back to your country, especially if there’s a large age gap is extremely risky, there’s a lot more competition there. We Western guys often complain about Filipinas changing, and becoming Westernised…but it’s usually our fault for making them change. It’s easy to spoil them, buying them the nice things they have always gone without, but it raises their expectations. What starts as small can easily snowball. It always amazes me how a poor girl, who before you met, had no job and survived on nothing, years later struggles to manage on 10-15 + thousand a month. I met a Filipino doctor once, when I took my then new girl on her first vacation. He said to me ‘your girl is very beautiful, whatever you do, make sure you don’t spoil her’….I did. Lesson learned.

[@ronaldwhite8581]

Thank you so much Rubeauti for your advice on the Philippines. I will be retiring in 3 years and have been looking into moving to another country the Philippines is on my list so to get your incite is much appreciated.

[@andybraithwaite118]

This has to be one of you best videos yet .. very very realistic and down to earth

[@jeffcoleman7859]

Great video I think your right on all points Im retiring early to the Philippines and Im praying to meet a good province girl to spend and enjoy life with someone to love and be loved by but im starting to rethink my plans because I have woke up a lot and I realize that a beautiful face doesn't mean a beautiful heart. If only all Filipinas were were like you smart educated and down to earth and gorgeous but if they were most men in the world would be relocating!!!!! So for now I will keep praying and preparing to move and God will make everything turns out ok. This video makes lots of sense to me I feel exactly the same way

[@jeffcoleman7859]

@@Rubeauti thank vou very much

[@piotr4248]

Thank you for sharing this important topic. Ironically, we fill good when we spend money, but spending leaves us with empty pockets. When people want to feel rich they should look for happiness not by spending money, but elsewhere. People are rich not when they spend, but when they attract and keep it and invest. But ironically, women like the spenders, the consumer-type men, while they may not notice nor be attracted to someone who perseveres the long journey of creating wealth.

[@marcrichard7251]

I was going to bring my Filipina to the 🇺🇸 USA but I changed my mind and I will move to Dumaguete. Not All Philippine women want to move. In fact many refuse to move because they love their family.

[@mikejones5364]

Moving to Epstein Island. Funny how many forgeiners want to move to Damaguete. I see way too many youtubers both male and females pimping out girls and they are based in Damaguete

[@ejtaylor73]

Open and honest communication about intentions and expectations is most important. Take things slow and REALLY get to know each other, if she really cares for you she will be willing to wait. I don't think putting your hopes on going to another country is a good thing put your future into, when most Filipina's may never even see a foreigner let alone be with one. A woman's class in society does NOT necessarily translate to her classiness as a person, and I don't think many foreigners care about her standing in society, because that won't matter being with a foreigner her standing will increase, it's how she handles herself when that happens whether she will remain a classy lady or not.

[@wardcummins8736]

Your honesty is very refreshing. I like the way you say what you believe, and you do not try to make your viewers happy by selling them a false image of the PI. It has it's beauty, to be sure, but it was a difficult place when I was there in the 80s, and I'm sure it continues to be the same. You are a very smart young lady, and I'm pretty sure you have a boyfriend. He is lucky to have someone who can communicate her thoughts so well. I found that was the most difficult thing to find in a Filipina when I was there. Very few could communicate, and they had difficulty getting humor, etc. I met just one who stole my heart with her sense of humor and wit. She used to sit and read the English dictionary for hours when she was not studying for school. She passed very young in 2009. It's a sad story. Maybe I'll tell you sometime.🙂 Keep up the good work. Keep being honest. So many making these videos are just trying to make money and increase views by telling westerners what they want to hear about moving to the PI.

[@ryansphilippinesdream3404]

Thank you Rubeauti for your quality work and sharing your knowledge of the Philippines. I am currently in a LDR with a Filipina from Leyte. As an American I am mindful of some of the issues we are having here with Women learning to leave the marriage and relationship after 20 years or more of marriage. I know some American men may worry that their Filipina may learn our ways and do the same to us. I would suggest to listen to the heart of the Filipina. If she is from Province, then she may do very well living in America as long as we stay out of the big cities. What you call living in the Province, we say "living in the Country". It just means we are not in a big city. Again, thank you for this channel. It helps bring insight to me for the day I will move to the Philippines.

[@humancaos]

I've know my Filipina for 5 years and have been to there 3 time and I'm coming back this Saturday, I am quite sure we will be living here in my country in the future, she says she wants to and me too because finically if more safe to stay here when your old.

[@ollelindskog4531]

Making a relationship workout is usually not easy...... when it comes to couples from the same culture. Add some cultural differences to that and it's even harder. I think I'm better suited to the climate and culture in, for example, Thailand. I will try to move to and work in Asia. I will most likely do this alone. I have a hard time finding someone in Europe and it will be even harder in Asia. When it comes to expectations I think we always think someone else has a better life and it would be better "if we could only move somewhere else". It doesn't work that way. We always want what we don't have 😊.

[@MrSterling8872]

I am so grateful for your efforts. I'm planning to retire to the Philippines. I have no desire to see the USA again. I speak several languages and am currently studying Bisaya, and Tagalog. I believe if one moves to another country it us their duty to assimilate to the culture they are joining. Your vlogs have been instrumental in my choosing the Philippines as my final destination. Thank you. I am eternally in your debt to help me find my life course.

[@donquixote1502]

You are 100% right.

[@FabrizioCapVlog]

99% of the people of the Philippines want to live in the US or the EU. as a tourist everything seems beautiful ... living there forever could turn heaven into hell!

[@MrSterling8872]

@@FabrizioCapVlog I believe that anywhere you live is based on the conditions under which you live. If you have the money to be comfortable any place can be nice. I think most of the people that want to leave the Philippines is a quality of life issue.

[@davidtesler1198]

@Johnny Boone Then you have probably never lived in a 3rd world nation

[@MrSterling8872]

@@davidtesler1198 I have absolutely lived in several. I find life simpler and much more relaxed. People are more interested in living than acquisition of assets, and impressing those around them.

[@JamesBrown-j9z]

I know you’re into your fame with your utube channel that’s great and I really enjoy watching your streams and you do an excellent job, you have a natural way in speaking to people so you no matter what happens you will get what what you want if you continue doing an excellent job like you do not

[@cosmyccowboy]

It took me a solid year and several thousand dollars to get my Filippina wife to the USA and that was precovid! My plan was to move to the Philippines spring of 2020 but the lockdowns changed that, we have been here 11 years now!

[@Dingoday2]

Why did it take 1 year?

[@cosmyccowboy]

@@Dingoday2 government of the USA

[@invisiblerevolution]

Several 1000 dollars.... like what 9000????

[@derekrobbins6800]

This is a great and informative video Rubeauti........Maybe an idea for a follow up video would be the many steps of getting to know your Filipina??? Like the right questions to ask rather than giving them already the answers in the questions us foreigners ask? Which red flags should we look for? How long should we wait to meet and take it to the next level?

[@buckfifty3470]

Your knowledge is very passionately presented and with such deep sincerity. I will definitely heed your warning. I like where you've moved your couch...away from that wall. Much better with the soft light and depth to your background.

[@peternielsen5998]

Hi Rubeauti, I agree. Be upfront and tell her what your plans are. Whether to stay or return eventually. There are plenty of Beautiful Filipinas, and if the one you've met does not like your dream, than move on. Best to do this I reckon in the first few dates before either of you gets emotionally invested.

[@raethdarkflame1292]

When I was on CF, I found a lot of women that lost interest quickly when I mentioned that my plans are to move there instead of staying here.

[@dennislewis4886]

Hi Rubeauti, I hope you never lose your true sense of earnest and trust which come through in your voice, providing such valuable insight to helping western guys better prepare to chart the Filipino dating/wife finder seen is priceless, thank you

[@leonwangls]

First, this vlogger doesn't have any experience with foreigner. Never bring yr Filipina wife to the yr country. There's a big chance bad things will happen to you and yr relationship. You would be a steppingstone for her to get out of her country. 1:55. She will not leave you if you stay permanently in Ph bcos her life will be much better than what she has now. 2:35. She should not be providing for her family bcos you are her family now. 3:00 .if her pinoy family is her priority then what are you, ATM??? 3:11. Listening to this vlogger on how to lose yr foreign bf real fast. Bedding your gf as fast as you can is the best way to seal the deal. (she's mine now). She can be chatting with many others too.

[@bbjazzmanjazzman7721]

Okay, here's my thoughts on the basics of who's going to live where based on scenarios.. If my Filipina girl has family she is rooted to with financial support, religious dedication and doesn't want to leave the Philippines,then maybe we won't have a future together but on the other hand, if she is ready for a change and pretty much no family left or friends then there is a much greater chance of us dedicating more of our personal time exploring and learning each other..

[@VistaLatin]

Miss Rubeati, Great advice, honesty is so important...you nailed it 100%. When I was working in the US I met several Filipinos, men and women. When I told them I was going to the Philippines to find a wife and retire there they said will you bring her to the US. I said no, because I don't intend to return to the US. So I explained..in order for me retire in the US I have to keep working...if I go to the Philippines I can stop working and enjoy retirement...as you described very well, we must understand each other's goals..if she wants to immigrate to the US she needs to find someone else...I need to be with a lady who doesn't mind staying in the Phillipines...in turn I will provide for everything she needs, including building a house...this is the compromise...she invests love, and youth..I invest love and provide for her, its a great exchange It's a win win for both..

[@kawasakigpz750]

Another great great one from the very insightful Rubeauti 👍😁 After a couple of 'scammings' on a dating site I recieved a friend request on FB I was cautious to start, short but polite chats, over 3 months or so the chats lengthened and we started to get to know more about each other, long story short I started to fall in love with this lady so much so I booked my flight to go out and meet her, she no way wanted to move to the U.K, she knew I wasn't a "rich foreigner" and I had a desire to retire to PH 😁 ... I've visited each year, met most of the family and am looking forward to retiring there by the end of next year 😁

[@paulnorris6740]

your honesty is refreshing... thank you. ; )

[@davidsmajda6021]

Another great video! I love ur new set. U seem to be doing well. My situation is similar to what u describe but my wife has two son's and I don't think it's a problem if some yrs down the road she wants to move them to America but I told her they don't seem to want to become fluent in English and that's a problem. But in my heart I think she thinks they will learn as they go along. I tried to tell her it doesn't work that way. Because they can speak a little, she thinks it will just get better with time?

[@travelgo3720]

If the kids are young, they can learn the language very quickly. I worked a school, a seven yr old kid from Mexico, spoke no English and learned it in 1 year. Their brains are like sponges at young age. Best of luck!

[@DerpyMcSquirtle]

A great video and a great channel that I only stumbled onto recently.me and my Filipina have been in a long distance relationship now for almost a year, texting and video calling almost every day (except for when the signal is bad 😅) I’m finally going on my very first trip abroad ever to ligao in January to spend 3 weeks with her..would like to go more but work won’t allow any more out of my 5 week allowance.we than have plans for her to visit and stay with me in the uk for a few months depending on the visa.i can’t wait to see her, her family & friends and to experience a new way of life and culture and she says the same for coming here..fingers crossed things so far are looking Bright for our future.

[@JohnSmith-bz9be]

Well done for covering this as many men don't think straight and act crazy. They should try to act like they are back home and court the Filipina properly. It takes 2 years living together to really get to know somebody as it is hard to cover up all of your bad habits/characteristics. For me personally, whoever I end up with and if they are from abroad, maybe have the best of both worlds.

[@JohnSmith-bz9be]

@@Rubeauti Very true what you say. Also, I just found the thought of internet marriages crazy, especially if you have never met the person in real life and never spent time with them. and then both parties are entering into a legal and binding contract. Well, I hope this video of yours does some good for both Filipinas and Foreigners going forward.

[@donaldsvnnh3161]

😲 WOW! Possibly your greatest vlog ever. Much thanks to you for your " humble opinions" 🙂, and what I believe is the raw, hard truth. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

[@FarmerGregie]

Thank you so much for your beautiful spirit Rubeauti. You remind me so much of my Filipina girlfriend from Cebu 💖 We were introduced through mutual friends, and have been chatting online for 9 months now. Hoping to meet soon - maybe we can do an interview with your channel if all works out 🙏

[@leonwangls]

First, this vlogger doesn't have any experience with foreigner. Never bring yr Filipina wife to the yr country. There's a big chance bad things will happen to you and yr relationship. You would be a steppingstone for her to get out of her country. 1:55. She will not leave you if you stay permanently in Ph bcos her life will be much better than what she has now. 2:35. She should not be providing for her family bcos you are her family now. 3:00 .if her pinoy family is her priority then what are you, ATM??? 3:11. Listening to this vlogger on how to lose yr foreign bf real fast. Bedding your gf as fast as you can is the best way to seal the deal. (she's mine now). She can be chatting with many others too.

[@prescottosegie]

Good video rubeauti very informative keep up the good content 😎💪🏾

[@knewwhon]

Hahaha! So true!! People are people wherever you go ,the sky is the sky wherever you go!! Open communication is a must!! Thanks for all the good info!! Blessings!!

[@richbelog2117]

Thank you on a great topic, some of it scary but it’s the reality. Thank you for keeping it real. God Bless

[@timsretirementjourney8323]

Rubeauti you give out good and honest information. I firmly believe the reason a lot of foreigners won't take their much younger Filipina back to their home country is they know in her country it's him that's looked at as the great catch, where if she goes to his country he's just the old man and she's the great catch. If she has some looks, and if she has the body, she can walk (or run) away from him and be living with someone young and handsome before the old guy knows what hit him. Any day it's just one small disagreement away.

[@fcguam3939]

Yes, not really surprised, i am very traditional also "family first, BUT i expect her to love me as i love her" ... i do not have a problem helping her family as long i feel she loves me too. BUT once i feel different, know her love has chamge, i will change too. And basic common sense NO marriage until at leasr 6 months relationship, stay together at least 60 days ... and if good, then WE BOTH decide if marriage is BEST for BOTH of us. I am looking for long term, its very EASY to find 2-3 nights relationship, not easy to find 6 months relationship. Anyways just my opinion🙏.

[@BobNchannel]

i have been married with my loving Pinay for 14 years life is so good now, i am always very happy to make sacrifice to help the family back in Davao thank you miss Rubeati , from Bob in Seattle

[@Fraggelmann]

It feels good to know that I seem to be pretty far away from any of the things mentioned. We're approaching two years of chatting/video calling, and she has pretty much forbidden me to move there, and I don't think I will be able to handle the heat anyway (used to northern climate). We have discussed the future and possible locations, but no decision made (as well as with relationship yet, even if it looks promising). I have sent some money for things, but she's never asked for it and she's very aware of that it's not the same if she was to move here, which is also a very good. Appreciate the content though, because even if I feel like things are under control, it's good to be aware of what does happen to people.

[@steveperyer4850]

This is the reason why, I have an exFilipina, because her focus was moving to the US, and mine was okay stay in the Philippines. I felt and still do, that it was a big red flag in our relationship. I now have an LDR who does not want to leave the Philippines

[@robertcrotty9000]

I'm from the U.S., Colorado specifically. I left the U.S. for PH and didn't look back. Very few Filipina's are going to find an American counterpart with a sufficient income to live comfortably in the U.S. It's much better for the Americana to come to the Philippines to live so that both, and her children, can have a better life together. Now this is not a one-size-fits-all point of view to be sure, but it is generally better for the Americana to come and live in beauty of the Philippines where the very best people on the planet reside.

[@rickj.2638]

RB you are so right I'm proud of you to make that video I appreciate you I'm going to give you two thumbs up 👍👍.

[@paulbunyan9436]

Once I updated my dating profile to say. "I will not bring you back to my country," my likes and messages dropped by 90 percent. It's a good strategy to weed out the fakes, even if you do plan to bring her back. 😄

[@endrjukomon7053]

smart

[@LordTaylor007]

I did the same thing but was happy because it weeded out the bad flowers.

[@henrymcmiller2527]

Thanks Sir!

[@nathangibbs7539]

Ruebeauti...All you said is very true. My friend had filipina from Davao he was with her in Davao 1 yr then here in NZ 1 yr until she left him. Seems also a problem when new filipina mixes with local filipinas & much gossip occurs which can undermine a new relationship quickly as the new filipina doesnt understand the culture. I do think even a good filipina would find it difficult not to take on some of the negitive western ideas when she hears the ideas from another filipina whos been her 10yrs or so.

[@Niftynorm1]

That happened to a lot of navy guys in Guam, they would bring a Filipina there as a wife and she would talk to the other Filipinas and develop a serious entitled attitude. It was a sad but hard lesson.

[@marcrichard7251]

@@Niftynorm1 That’s why I’m moving to the Philippines 🇵🇭

[@CindysBisvlog]

Im from davao and not all filipinas ,your friend is not lucky ... and i agree its also about their friends when they are in your country ,i have so many friends but they love their husband..but one is exception ... She told me to apply independent residency because i dont know if my husband will still love me tomorrow .,and i was so angry that i told her ,i dont come here to use my husband .. (because she is planning to leave her husband when she get a residency ) but one thing i learned those bad influence filipina are not happy with their life so they try to convince other filipina and ruin a good marriage ... So thats why i respect if my husband dont like some of my friends if he feels they are bad influence so we have rules here who is allowed and not allowed in our house and never ever go to filipino community ,

[@nathangibbs7539]

Not all for sure well do this..my intention is to live in ph & holiday in my home country...with my partner ..when i find her..lol

[@louisshort6225]

Great video Rebjti. Very informative and enlightening. Thanks for sharing your insights and personal experiences. Hope you're doing well.

[@mr.raydio8039]

Thanks for the wonderful video’s you make for the love of your viewer’s. More power to you and may God deliver many blessings in your life.

[@stephencurd4478]

Dont panic...its organic. We Love you Rubeauti! Keep up the good work!

[@Niftynorm1]

Wow Rubeauti you put a lot of good advice and wisdom in a short video. For such a young lady you have very good information that your viewers should pay attention to. Once the rose colored glasses are off in a relationship it is time to take a cold shower and really consider what you and your lady want out of life and make sure you understand each other. Thank you for some serious and needed advice. Please take care of yourself.

[@rayrunn9441]

You are so right! Exactly. You need to know expectations from each other. How about religion. If the foreigner is not a Catholic it could be trouble. That religion dominates the Philippines. I’m a Christian not a catholic. I think there’s going to be trouble. I’m not sure. What you say about the Filipino moving to the US just to end up leaving the foreigner when she gets to the US. That’s true too. I’m too old to play games. I’d rather live ion the Philippines. But we have to agree on our future. Where to live, religion, etc. all things need to be consider.

[@GMANN83]

Your content and keeping it real is just what I need to hear, because it's a big difference in having a certain amount of savings here in the states compared to the Philippines.

[@leonwangls]

First, this vlogger doesn't have any experience with foreigner. Never bring yr Filipina wife to the yr country. There's a big chance bad things will happen to you and yr relationship. You would be a steppingstone for her to get out of her country. 1:55. She will not leave you if you stay permanently in Ph bcos her life will be much better than what she has now. 2:35. She should not be providing for her family bcos you are her family now. 3:00 .if her pinoy family is her priority then what are you, ATM??? 3:11. Listening to this vlogger on how to lose yr foreign bf real fast. Bedding your gf as fast as you can is the best way to seal the deal. (she's mine now). She can be chatting with many others too.

[@SARUJAN5]

Currently dating a Japanese but she wants me to live in Japan with her, which is harder said than done because Japan isn't a really foreigner-friendly country and doesn't have a great work-life balance.

[@MrBobm001]

In my day Japanese families forbid their daughters to date foreigners, While in High School I had three penpals (before internet, remember Postal mail) one girl from Japan and the two girls from Australia, then I enlisted in the US Navy, this was during the Viet Nam war, my Japanese girl wrote me off due to the Military bit whereas the Australian girls loved it. Almost three of my four years enlistment I spend in Southeast Asia, many visits to Japan including the Japanese girl's city but never attempted to meet. Meanwhile I met a Filipina gal and loss interest in the Australian girls because my ship (s) never visited Australia. Sorry about old man story, now regarding working in Japan as a foreigner only if you have special work permit with Japanese company. My Niece worked in the Tokyo area for over 10 years, married a Canadian who work there also, having three children born there before moving to Canada later. Bottom line you will always be a foreigner in Japan and cannot get citizenship and limited to 90 days unless you have that special work permit that is hard to get nowdays.

[@derekrobbins6800]

"Getting to know your Filipina very well!" .....Great advice and a good idea for a future video???? Tips for that getting to know them well video?

[@franklinindustrialservices4972]

Great video, I wish I had seen it before my first trip to the Philippines,

[@jrwolf6]

Your video is very helpful and very true. Thank you so much.

[@SamShippen-fk2rh]

Thank you for your absolute honesty. What you have said really makes sense. I have to say what a beautiful person you are inside and out. And I do plan to come to the Philippines to check out the possibility of retiring there. I love being by the ocean. and now I feel that I have a little bit of knowledge to protect myself, and a potential partner from falling in to an unhealthy relationship. And now I feel that I have a little bit of knowledge to protect myself, and a potential partner from falling in to an unhealthy relationship. I will take it slow and get to know the person for at least a year before making any permanent decisions. God bless you be safe. Sam

[@GMANN83]

Great topic speaking for myself Being a black Westerner Upon retiring I chose to reside in the Philippines with her. The ridiculous Economy being expensive out here And the permitted allowable racism in the States I prefer to live overseas. I'm glad she feels the same way

[@melrichard2745]

Rubeauti,I in joyed the video about American men and Philippines women that were very good @ informative ,about getting to know each other @ be upfront were you will live, thanks you /with love ❤ 😍 @keep up the good work!

[@anthonyliggins8156]

Hi Rubeauti! Good advice! However love is blind and often times ppl will see what they want to. Why so sad at the end ?

[@timlee5260]

I had a foreign wife and it didn’t work out. She never asked me for a dime and offered to pay for her plane ticket back so she was not a scammer. Let me put it this way, the guy is asking a young lady to give up everything she knows and loves to move to his country. I blame myself, it was too much to ask of a woman. Guys, move to her country, you are mature and can handle the change better than her. Besides, you are the hot commodity in her country and hold all the cards. When she comes to your country she holds the cards.

[@AstrospiritualAtheist]

You both can share time between both countries if you can afford it, or if you have business assets in your home country that you need to tend to from time to time. Otherwise, just stay with her in her country.

[@woodspirit98]

Yes bringing her never works out 100% of the time and living there with her works out 100% of the time........... Except when it doesn't.

[@jacobsanders9167]

A very insecure answer.

[@Mottleydude1]

You make an excellent point. I wasn’t in a financial position where I could relocate to the Philippines when I met my wife. In fact I had been introduced to several Filipinas prior to her, one was absolutely stunning in her looks, that I quickly moved on from because I assessed that they wouldn’t be able to adapt well to the US. Third time was the charm as I did assess correctly that she could. It’s a very important consideration most guys don’t think about.

[@THEEYEINTHESKIES]

Very true and there is no shame in being insecure. In most cases being insecure shows you’re being realistic and wise.

[@seansollars70]

It depends of she has a large family or orphan it would depend on circumstances

[@davidwood3852]

Well that's another good video dear very informative you know there's an old saying by Ralph Nader let the fire beware right I think it's important if you're in that situation to get to know each other very well it's no different than if you meet somebody here in this country

[@ericrusby807]

Wow. Your discussion was so :Spot On"!

[@nevillehusa8217]

Yes, your right! Christian Filipino is where I’ve found my soul mate. Over 4,500 messages on CF to find the right lady for me. I haven’t met her in person yet but we usually talk on the phone for a couple of hours each morning or evening depending on her shift at the hospital.

[@invisiblerevolution]

Yes.... CF is the best site, even if it's $350 for only 3 months.

[@ActiveAussie2024]

@@invisiblerevolution that is a total rip off. I know how much they charge. Somebody is becoming very wealthy because of that site. It should be illegal.

[@jdbjoshua]

The 350 I spent on Christian Filipina was well worth it, customer service is great and they coached me the whole way, I also went with their Visa service to help process her Visa I've been very happy,

[@invisiblerevolution]

@@jdbjoshua Agree... it's $350 but it's worth it! How much do they ask for the VISA service... do they really help you, and move the process along quicker?

[@jdbjoshua]

@@invisiblerevolution , Is 3,600 but it's well worth it, they do all the paperwork for you, they keep in constant touch and step you through the process, they pick up your girlfriend from the airport they're in Manila and spend two days with your fiance with coaching her for her interview, the biggest thing is that they keep in touch with both you and your fiance if something needs to be done they tell you right away, help you do it, help your fiance do all the paperwork she needs to do,,

[@teddybaring7731]

I like your values and your disposition.

[@jimc3672]

This is one of your best most honest videos I have watched. Thank you for your honesty. Niether sales pitch or debby downer, just plain facts. 👍

[@patrickcareyart4080]

Yes I do too recommend Christian Filipina they seem to have many nice ladies. I met my lady there and so far so good!

[@thomasstrain9427]

Hi rubeuti, I have been dating online for over 6 months with a girl in Philippines. We plan on meeting soon but are in no rush, we were introduced by a Filipino friend of mine here in Australia she is nearly 24 and I am 41, she understands now that we are not all rich and must work hard and long hours, and she still wants to be with me, your videos are very informative, also do you have any info on going to places in Philippines that are listed as dangerous by our government like Zamboanga Peninsula? Thank you for your advice, love your videos 🙂

[@glenproctor1999]

At the core, it's always about talking to each other and being honest and open just like you said! If you don't discuss plans for people's lives, that's not love that's just looking for a servant/slave. Keep up the good work Rubeauti! 🥰❤

[@alfredogarcia7516]

I really enjoyed watching this show today I have learned a lot from what you have been talking with about meeting a Filipina I also like what you mentioned about you got to get to know her my question to you is how about when you meet an older woman with kids and she's saying that she will be with you for as long as you both shall be I accept that her kids and I don't have a problem and she already knows so my questions to you is how older women with kids are with a family and they are widows what she does want a better life I am willing to be with her

[@jefferysilzer6413]

Everything you do for us is greatly appreciated!! I love you very much and pray to be able to meet you!!

[@woodspirit98]

Lmao.

[@robster9944]

I would say most guys going to Philippines are not rich by western standards. If I made the same income in the Philippines as I did here in the west I would live comfortably but certainly not in a palace overlooking the sea. Although incomes are much higher than over there, things are also more expensive from housing to food to utilities to...you name it. We do save-or go further in debt by using credit cards, to travel to far away places to see and experience new cultures and food and people. My dollar does go further in the Philippines and it is actually cheaper than if I took a taxi downtown(at home), stayed 3 weeks in a hotel, ate all my meals at the hotel or restaurants, checked out the local museums and attractions. Even if I include the cost of flights to and from there and island hopping flights it is still cheaper to vacation there!!!

[@flybywir1]

R....I just watched this video for the first time and I listened carefully to what you said....and now I'm totally devastated 🙈🙈😅

[@go320]

Rubeati you are the most honest person I watch on you tube and you are beautiful Thanks for the information.

[@ricardosmith6261]

Hello Rubeati. Thanks for the vlog. More info to think about prior to my arrival in your country. My plan is to retire and live out my life in the Philippines. Thank you again for your contributing thoughts on this subject. Blessings to you.

[@ricardosmith6261]

Oh the decision has been made. I'm coming to the Philippines. I don't believe in luck. I believe that you make things happen by your mind set.. You want it, go after it. Again God's blessings to you.

[@paolo1566]

Clear straightforward intense and also not nice to hear truths.... Extremely useful video especially because it reminded that, sadly, something similar happened to me just a few years ago. Thank you again.

[@offthecuffadventureswithjamie]

I must say you throw it out there very accurately! 💪🏻🙏🏻👍🏻😊

[@tljackson7898]

I really appreciate your videos. My brother who has his fiancé in Brazil always told me…”never bring them home” cause they get Westernized and corrupted. Better to provide, buy a house out there for them, the family and the kids then bring them back here because your money stretches much longer out there. Thanks Rubeauti! You’re awesome 👏🏾!

[@bradlashua5401]

I'm glad you made this video, I was assuming that because Philippina's are generally very family oriented that they would want to stay at home. I thought I would have to make several trips to the Philippines so that I could decide if I wanted to live there or not before even looking for a girlfriend. Now that I know many women would like to move it opens up more possibilities. I'm new to your channel so you may have covered this, but do you have any advice on how soon a guy should discuss his finances? Especially if a guy does have quite a bit of money (asking for a friend). LOL

[@bradlashua5401]

@@Rubeauti Thanks, that sounds like good advice. I would hate to lie to anyone, but I also don't want to encourage scammers. I guess it's best to avoid the topic as much as possible.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Opens up many possibilities to divorce. You lose your leverage instantly when bringing her West.

[@afetkardelensimons7148]

Hi Beauty. 😊 I've only bumped into your vlogs recently and now I'm here writing to you. First of all, I wish you good health and happiness always and may you achieve whatever you desire in life. I enjoy your videos, oh how I wish that the rest of the people in Philippines had your brain, attitude and honesty. Then maybe your country would prosper in many ways. I have quite some stories myself and quite a variety of experience. Keep doing what you're doing. Good luck and lots of love 💕

[@adventures223]

You covered everything very well thank you. You have to get to know a person absolutely for sure you covered everything so well i cant think of anything more to say best advice on KZbin

[@theking1446]

I agreed with one comment given earlier. It’s no picnic here Living in the USA 🇺🇸 can be difficult. At least a retiring man can move to the Philippines 🇵🇭 and give the Filipina a better life there. like you said, the couple has to have chemistry. You will know in your heart if you got the right Filipina. Another man I agreed with, there are plenty of Filipinas that are older looking for a Prince Charming. They deserve to be with someone who will love them for who they are and give them the better life they want. You did open my eyes to be careful of the Filipina i would start a LDR with. Thanks Rubeauti.

[@brunosvlog24k]

“DON’T PANIC…IT’S ORGANIC”? I like that phrase! 👍👍👍

[@brunosvlog24k]

@@Rubeauti Hahaha. It’s not corny 🌽. Over here, there’s a similar phrase…”It’s my way, or the highway”.

[@andrewbrann6231]

I dated a Filipino for 2 years and 4 months on video calls plus I went there for 2 weeks in the middle of the two years. It did not end up working out because covid happened I couldn't go back for so long she got back with the father of her 6-year-old. That being said she never once wanted to come live in the United States. That's one of the things that attracted me to her to begin with. I want to live over in that area where it's cheaper and she was one of the only ones talking to me at the beginning that showed no interest in coming to the United States. I think that was a good sign. We didn't work out and it's understandable with no hard feelings but I personally would date no one in Thailand or the Philippines that insisted they wanted to live in the United States

[@kevinmacdonald9849]

This is all new material no other vlogers have touched on. Your best video yet.

[@erictews6270]

Rubeauti. Like normal you give great advice. Thank you for that!!

[@SIDEBYSIDERACING]

Hello ✌🏽 Rubeauti.. Happy 🙂 Sunday to you!! I work with people from all over the world and I know a lot of Filipinas that have moved to the West and also a lot of Filipinas that live in the Philippines. I “respectfully” disagree with your claim that most Filipinas want to move to the West. A lot of Filipinas that marry foreigners “don’t” want to move to the West. They want to stay in the Philippines because their family lives there. And even a lot of poor Filipinas enjoy their “simple life” there. They just want a partner who’ll take care of them and be faithful to them. Something that many women from all over the world want. Take care and have a nice✌🏽day, Rubeauti!!

[@modernrobinson2934]

funny, when my wife and me meet we did deceit to go back one day again and stay at her home town to be close to the family, i think this is what counts the most, not money or materials in other country's but family where you go back to...( 12 years happy married going back from US Florida to Catanduanes and our own beach property ) and most western people are still poor working in 2 jobs to make it living here...BUT the opportunity's are much bigger here to step out of that to become independence...

[@dave-d-grunt]

You can always find bad stories. But, there are many many more success stories. I personally know a lot! One that I was best man at in 1976.

[@markthompson8532]

Spot on from what I have observed. Oddly, I think a western man could give a Filipina more financial security if they stayed in the Philippines simply because his money goes farther. But I also get that she has more opportunities in the western world.

[@schnuffelhase1968]

The same takes effect for every country (no matter if 1st, 2nd or 3rd world) ... there are good and bad people everywhere and you have to be careful ... regarding both, friendships or relationships 🤔

[@truthbetold6496]

This is from personal experience that i witness myself, 2 men at my job married foreign women one was from dominican republic, and the other cuba, both of them divorce within the 5 years, and had huge dept to pay, studies, etc while there ex wife where enjoying life monkey branch to a doctor and the other one a dentist. For myself i been single for 10 years never married no kids good thing because i saved up money like crazy there is no way i would want to bring a foreign women to Canada and not at my age i am 50 now.

[@truthbetold6496]

@@Rubeauti it is very sad because both of these men are good people. Don't worry i have been cheated on too by my ex girlfriend i was with 9 years i did so much for her but that change when she met her so called soul mate gave me 3 days to leave the house and was very mean. Western women are really not good women sadly i been single for 10 years not for nothing. And why i am not sure even if i do retire to the PH to find another women.

[@arnoldseay9118]

Good thoughts miss Rubeauti. I am married to a Filipina and I would say our relationship is good. I never gave her money while we were online dating except special occasions like birthdays and Christmas. We know many successful mixed couples here that have good marriages. Most of the ones that didn’t work were between an older guy and a very young Filipina. If you are 60 plus and marry a 20 year old Filipina how do you plan on keeping her satisfied in bed 10 years down the road. Filipinas need to be careful too. There are guys that will look for an Asian wife because they think an Asian girl will be their slave. You are right get to know the person. We online dated for 5 years. We did see each other in person at least once a year but even with dating that long we did not completely know each other. Cheers.