British Couple Reacts to BEHAVIOUR RULES IN AMERICA THAT SURPRISE TOURISTS!

[@ExTiNkT91]

As an American, the shoes in the house seems to vary from family to family. My family always takes their shoes off in the house, but I'll go to a friends house or another relatives house, and they tell me I can keep my shoes on, just wipe them off on the door mat before coming in. Usually when going to someone's house, the first thing you ask is "Should I take my shoes off?" and they'll tell you what they prefer.

[@donaldmccombs5566]

My family shoes and hat off. Most of Oklahoma is the same way for the natives.

[@tomhandal2834]

Yup - here too in California (and probably most of the US) - you usually ask if you should take your shoes off. If you come into my house, the answer is - "Yes please!" - I don't like shoes in my house.

[@Bggreenbay]

Shoes on here in CO

[@ericbrooking]

In Southern California it’s very weird to ask someone to take their shoes off. Makes you feel awkward. The only families that seem to ask for that are from other countries (different cultures) or have white carpets.

[@jonv1496]

I grew up with shoes on in the house but once I got my own place, shoes off.

[@lucindapick2986]

We never outgrow calling our teachers Mr. or Mrs., even when we're grown and on an equal footing. It's so awkward when you can't break that rule, even if you're just being respectful.

[@fartzr.schmelli3351]

I've run into former teachers here and there throughout my life. I still call them Mr/Mrs/Ms as I was introduced to them as a student. Not weird to me at all. That's how I know them.

[@30ART5]

I learned my old friend's parents by her mom and the name of her stepdad. From that point on, her mom was always addressed by Mrs. and her stepdad by his name. I was at her family's house to swim in the pool, and her mom said I could call her by her first name. It didn't feel right. She went from Mrs. last name to Ms. first name. She was alright with that.

[@MrBilldo426]

Here in the US many taxi companies require passengers to ride in the back for the drivers safety. Sometimes there is even bulletproof glass, or a cage separating the front from the back seats. It comes from a history of taxi drivers being robbed in larger cities.

[@donnabittner69]

Welcome to Philadelphia

[@DeborahStephenson]

My grandfather drove a taxi in St.Louis, MO back in the 1960s. He was murdered by someone who shot him in the head from the back seat and robbed him. There were no bullet proof glass shields between front and back seats way back then or he would probably have been alive much longer. He was only in his 50s when he died.

[@donnabittner69]

@@DeborahStephenson , it is a very Dangerous job

[@DeborahStephenson]

@@donnabittner69 Yes. I learned that at a very young age when I no longer had a Grandpa Luke. (That's what we called him.)

[@olehippy13]

@@DeborahStephenson I hate to hear that...there in lies why the bullet proof shield was installed.

[@TheStaceycanada]

I personally love when you pause and discuss each fact. To me it makes sense to discuss it immediately instead of waiting until the end. As a Canadian we were taught to remove our shoes in some else’s house but you never asked a guest to take theirs off.

[@Toywins]

That was how I was raised. I don't make people that don't live with me take off their shoes.

[@fartzr.schmelli3351]

The pauses are much needed in videos like this. Address the difference or lack thereof and then we can all move onto the next topic.

[@sharithompson1672]

I lived in France for a year and went around smiling at people. I was told, in no uncertain terms, to stop that - especially toward men on the street. I guess it’s viewed as an invitation. It’s normal here to smile at most anyone you may make eye contact with.

[@Jessica_Jones]

Well that's good to know! I probably smile more than some other Americans, so I'll take special care if ever I find myself in France, lol

[@sharithompson1672]

@@Jessica_Jones yay for the smilers! We need more of us these days😁 (maybe just not so much with Frenchmen)

[@MrRebelcowboy32]

@@sharithompson1672 let a Frenchman come to the states and think it be an invitation. You know just like I do, they'll never make that mistake again.

[@stev6963]

Note to self: Smile at men in France if I either want to hook up with a hot dude or get my ass beat. ☑️

[@sassygrammy1258]

I’ve been to France twice, and being from the south, you gotta know that I talk to strangers and smile a lot. 😊

[@gregrathbone986]

I enjoy your back and forth comments. As an American, hearing your thoughts and sharing your own experiences on a subject that you’re watching, shares with me a British point of view or comparison, which I’m fascinated by. As an aside, you both make a very lovely couple!

[@LethalEmbraceX]

Here’s an interesting one. If someone asked me “you alright?” I would be quite confused. In America asking someone if they’re alright typically implies that it looks like something is wrong. Like if I was crying and someone saw me, they might ask me “are you alright?” Without that context, I might think the asker thinks I’m upset.

[@JuneBaby01]

another thing they're saying when they ask you that is: are you going to be able to handle whatever is going on with you...the premise being: anyone can see something is going on with you, that something is wrong, but are you going to be able to handle it?...that's what 'are you alright' means, in some contexts!!!

[@jeremygilbert7989]

On the cab thing it's also a security issue, especially in big cities. Those partitions are there for a reason, cab robberies are a thing here and while not as bad as they used to be you'd be hard pressed to find a cabbie comfortable with someone jumping into the passenger seat.

[@lucienArindelDomingo]

The 90s were rough as far as this goes

[@Robynhoodlum]

Came to the comments looking for this!

[@hectorsmommy1717]

It has extended to Uber and Lyft too. You always get in the back first and take a front seat if there isn't enough room for everyone.

[@DeborahStephenson]

I replied to this same issue above, but considering how serious this issue is, I'll say it again. My grandfather drove a taxi in St.Louis, MO back in the 1960s. He was murdered by someone who shot him in the head from the back seat and robbed him. There were no bullet proof glass shields between front and back seats way back then or he would probably have been alive much longer. He was only in his 50s when he died. I'm all for maintaining distance between drivers and passengers--it isn't a respect thing, it's a security thing.

[@8erttownsk]

Pause and comment all you want. You guys interacting together and discussing the videos is what most of us come to see. We enjoy hearing your thoughts and experiences and especially your interest in our country. Keep up the positivity!

[@patiencecree3458]

exactly! if we didn't want to see your thought/reactions then we would just watch the video you play by itself

[@Zundfolge]

One problem I always have with these "this is how things are done in America" videos is that they tend to forget that we're a collection of 50 states that span a continent with 5-10 distinct and different regions, so some of these things don't apply everywhere (like the small talk and smiling bit ... don't expect that in the Northeast part of the country ... smiling at strangers and trying to make small talk with them in New England will get some uncomfortable looks. And the personal bubble thing is a much bigger deal there than it is in parts of the south, where you can expect to be hugged by strangers occasionally). As for the formality thing (and calling people by their first name vs their title) you'll find parts of the South where yes they're super warm and friendly, but there is still an expected layer of formality to interactions (you will call men "sir" and women "ma'am" and be expected to call your teacher "Mr. So-and-so" and not "Joe"). So before you take these 13 things as gospel, make sure they apply to the region you will be visiting.

[@sassygrammy1258]

Spot on!

[@mattslupek7988]

The only time that I could see calling a teacher by his/her first name would be if it was an adult night school class. I definitely remember calling my English comp professor Sharon. I was 44, and she looked around 30.

[@NotaVampyre111]

Also in the south they like to call senior citizens M or Miss r(first nam). Like Mr. Bob or Miss Betty as a sign of respect.

[@PatricenotPatrick]

True. Even the “Texas is…” comments are annoying because all of our cities are insanely different from each other we don’t even have all the same type of BBQ 😩

[@PatricenotPatrick]

@@NotaVampyre111 in Houston we say it to everyone, our own age maybe younger, in like a professional/service situation. We’ll say yes ma’am/sir to a cashier or bus driver, etc as a sign of respect. They don’t have to be seniors per se ☺️

[@Momsbasement354]

Yes, in school we say Mr. or Mrs. or Miss unless the teacher specifically tells you to call them by their first name. I like that you pause and discuss. If you wait until the end to talk you’ll probably forget some of the things that you wanted to say. Shoes are different in different people’s houses. Usually you’ll see their shoes by the door as a cue but it’s always good to ask. The personal bubble is HUGE with us. It feels weird to sit up front in a taxi and the driver probably don’t want you there. Some taxi drivers have a policy of no one riding up front. Protection from being robbed possibly. Some have a plexiglass partition for exactly that reason.

[@willp.8120]

Very few people tell someone to take their shoes off. It is not the norm at all. Most Americans, I'd say 95 percent, estimated, wear shoes inside their home.

[@hillarybeautifile]

Keep on mind that everything is relative to where in America you are. I'm in NYC and we have a reputation for being grouchy, but you can ask pretty much anyone for directions and they'll give them to you with a smile.

[@carson2646]

Wearing shoes in the house in the US really is different by every household. It can be seen as rude to ask your guest to take their shoes off though. The thing is the US is so large that customs and manners can be really different by geographical area. I live in the south. You would have a completely different experience here than in New York or California

[@CptGreenJeans]

totally agree. I also think it depends on the flooring in the house.

[@TheCatandCrystalWitch]

It’s completely different within my house. My husband has to have his shoes on at all times, but my son and I take ours off as soon as we get in the door. He thinks we’re weird, we think he’s weird LOL

[@brianostrom4751]

good rule to live by: walk in the house... if u see their shoes at the door, kick yours off. if not, ask and keep them on if you like. growing up shoes were all over the place so it didn't matter. if you have nice carpet, i find most people kick them off anyways. nothing like nice carpet between the toes. hardwood: well, most people like to keep their shoes on unless they plan on making a sliding entrance. (which i've also done multiple times) :)

[@TheOnlyOneStanding8079]

@@brianostrom4751 No I like walking in my friends house with dog crap and mud ...And then I'll say "Hay something smell like shxx here !!!!"

[@bernitacenteno1326]

@@CptGreenJeans The residents of the house decide regardless of the flooring, whether you should remove your shoes or keep them on while visiting, but that's a point we'll made.

[@shelbys6919]

Tipping is basically mandatory. Your waitress has to be EXTREMELY bad to justify no tip

[@towermonkey5563]

it's "mandatory" because employers feel free to slough off their duty for pay onto the general public and the public let them. Guilt-tripping is what it amounts to. Can't think of a good restaurant where I should pay 20% more for someone to carry food to me and serve a drink. Insane lunacy.

[@erinshaw8544]

We usually don’t take our shoes off at other people’s houses, but most of us kick them off as soon as we get home. We also call our teachers Mrs. whatever, but call our bosses by their first names. Y’all are adorable! Much love from Texas! 🤘❤️🇺🇸

[@One_nJen]

From Texas as well, and I agree with Erin. I think you typically don't visit people at their homes unless you know them, but another great hint is to eye your surroundings when at/coming through the front door. If you see a couple pairs of shoes by the door, then you kind of get the idea that they don't like shoes in the house, as your first time visiting their home for the first time, it may be awkward for you to just ask about the shoe rules blindly. Typically, if someone doesn't like outdoor shoes to be worn in, they'll let you know before you have to ask. Also, if I have to have a repair person come into the home service lines or appliances, the company will require them to wear paper booties over their shoes, as they would be held financially responsible for any carpet/furniture cleaning bills if they were to track something in from outside. I personally hate wearing shoes in general, but my best friend has foot pain or lower back pain, and walking around without shoes is rather uncomfortable. But if he tracks debris from outside, I'm never shy about handing him a broom to sweep up his mess lol 😆 love you two, btw.. I stumbled onto your videos the other day when I saw the video explaining the history of our national anthem, and I must say I cried, and didn't know why, because our political and social climate at the moment has taken a toll on our country in a big way. There's so much discord and division going on that you sometimes forget where you came from. Watching it through *your* eyes, however, has reignited the very basic pride I was raised to have in my country. I don't think any one belief system around the world is the right one, but your roots and culture should at least be important to the individual having them. I have no problem with the pausing, in fact I prefer hearing your thoughts on each as you're having them. Keep it up, guys!

[@russbarrows6689]

I grew up in Montana and we always took our shoes off at the door whether it was our home to the home of others. Western Canadians do the same thing.

[@megansullivan6986]

I’m a server in the US and I make a little over $3.00 an hour. So we literally need tips to survive. 💜 love you guys!

[@emeraldawnz]

Tipping is less a sign of how I liked the service and more that we pay people 3 dollars an hour and think that is fine.

[@billcole3669]

With tips, what do you generally make in a shift?

[@169esmeralda]

And minimum is 20%. Less than that means you thought the server was deliberately bad or rude. J please don’t dock servers tips for problems with your meal, the servers don’t cook the meals and the actual cooks wouldn’t even know.

[@staciecarrel4492]

Yup, what a lot of people on both sides of the minimum wage debate don’t realize is that there are TWO federal minimum wages. The $7.75~ish one everyone is focused on (still not enough to live on) only applies to traditionally non-tipped positions. Tipped positions can be paid as little as $2.50/hr.

[@seryndipityarts]

@@staciecarrel4492 I've been a server in Indiana and my hourly was $2.13

[@pianomansjpm]

The shoes off thing is a household to household thing. Remember, we’re a country of immigrants. So there are a lot of families that have carried their “shoes off” traditions from their ancestors.

[@wavy2186]

No we aren’t lol

[@valme6264]

Those of us Indigenous to this land expect you to take them off. We're not all colonists or their descendents.

[@SouthernRebels94]

That's what it's like in my house my great grand parents come from Poland and Russia and we kept the tradition that you should always remove your shoes before entering the house If I didn't remove my shoes I would get slap for being rude.

[@tracypaddy4002]

@@wavy2186 so you’re a Native American?

[@wavy2186]

@@tracypaddy4002 I have American Indian roots, yes. Why do you ask?

[@jamessouthworth1699]

Friendliness varies immensely depending on where you live. In some of the rougher cities you can live next door to someone for years and not even know their name. Trying to have small talk in some places can be met with aggression. There are some very friendly places in America but just be aware there are also some very unfriendly or outright dangerous places in America as well.

[@johnrodrigues5974]

Love the comments during the video. Keep doing it,👍👍

[@aprilvoecks5877]

About shoes: In another debate, those who do/don't wear shoes talked about where they were in the US. The more likely it was for there to be snow, slush, or mud, the more likely it was that the person grew up with a "no shoes in the house" rule.

[@staciecarrel4492]

In every household I’ve visited that allowed shoes in the house, I was still required to take them off at the door if they had mud, gum, dog poop, or something similar on them. I know of no households that didn’t care about dog poop or mud being tracked through the house.

[@lone6718]

Or a variation there of. But mostly, nasty shit on your shoes? Leave them at the door are get an icy 🥶 greeting/welcome. My mom also had the shoe brushes and a big boot drier for my stepdad. All by the door.

[@aprilvoecks5877]

Exactly. In the areas where the likelihood of nasty stuff on shoes is higher, the default becomes "take them off".

[@bernz23]

Yep when I live in Ohio no one wears shoes in the house (especially since most have carpet) But I live with family in the desert there is no carpet only tile and wood floors, we wear shoes inside

[@Jack_Stafford]

Rather than saying no shoes in the house I think of common sense to say no mud or slush in the house. Many times of the year there isn't snow and people have gone through the effort of getting dressed to visit someone it is kind of insulting to ask them to take off their shoes implying they are dirty. But yes, common sense, in the middle of winter and you have snow all over your snow boots you're not going to wear them around the house.

[@smthcrazy]

The shoes thing definitely varies by family to family, racial/ethnic background, and personal tastes. When I was younger, people used to have carpet wall to wall, and taking shoes off was a definite way to avoid anxiety of leaving any marks or causing extra cleanup. If I'm going to someone's house that I'm not as familiar with, I'll casually check if there are shoes around the door (or a shoe rack) and/or if the person who answers the door has their shoes on. If in doubt, I'll just start to take my shoes off, and the worst they will say is "oh, you don't have to take your shoes off" and usually view it as a sign of respect.

[@ingridbullock5375]

In our family, we have a different pair of shoes for indoors that are typically not worn outdoors. As for formality with names, in the southern US someone older than you is referred to Ms. or Mr. coupled with their first name (i.e. Ms. Shirley) In school we are formal as you've described. Love what you all are doing. Thank you for your interest and candid reactions. All the best!

[@MommaRose956]

I completely HAVE to have house shoes. Usually a cheap pair of slip on sneakers. I get WAY too lazy if I wear slippers all the time.

[@elizabethstone1570]

All of this, plus Southerners are more likely to smile, engage in that small talk, and kiss/hug family when entering the house, possibly some other items listed too. I have dogs, who track in from outside, so I'm not picky about my shoes (though we do all have 'house shoes'), but my Korean and Taiwanese Aunts (fully assimilated Americans) will lose their $h*t in 2 languages about shoes past the entry mat.

[@wolfofmercury7518]

It feels weird to walk past someone walking and not give them a quick smile here in the Midwest, but I guess in larger cities with a ton of people it’d be harder to do that

[@Carla-hl3fm]

My FAVORITE PART of giving a gift is seeing the person open it. ❤️ I just love it.

[@heathersautismjourney]

I love watching that, too! Whenever I get a gift I always ask if I can open it right then. There were only a few times when I had to wait and that was just when it was close to Christmas.

[@commanderdan2319]

The shoes thing definitely varies between each house hold and circumstances. For example, my family takes our shoes off at the front door. But if you're not going to be in the house for more than like 5-10 minutes, then we'll just leave them on (unless they're dirty) Edit: Also, if you guys ever plan on coming over, I think the weirdest part might be the vehicles for you. We've got everything from tiny, very low cars to massive lifted trucks.

[@MannyBrum]

As far as the shoes thing, people generally take them off in their own house, and sometimes have other people take their shoes off coming in if the shoes are full of mud or snow. Otherwise, most people will look at you funny if you take your shoes off in their house. I find that the few people who do require people to take shoes off coming in will say so when you enter their house because they know they're the exception not the rule.

[@ViolentKisses87]

Exactly

[@caliber693]

This actually isn't true. I'm from the US and I've actually learned that this depends on where you're at geographically. Sure you have the odd one out that will ask you to take them off even in a geographic area where people don't care but I know where I live in my state people actually don't care and you can wear them so it varies where you are.

[@willp.8120]

No, they generally don't. Your family may, but most Americans don't, nor do they care. This business of taking shoes off when they are not muddy or with snow is just dumb as they come.

[@Sn-zo2jj]

As a Texan, I wouldn’t necessarily agree with us not being touchy-feely. We pretty routinely hug people after we meet.

[@aprilnunez7521]

Truth! I’m a hugger

[@juliemcneal5742]

True here too. I’m a hugger and a Texan! Shoes are optional at our house. We don’t care either way, just glad you’re here! I don’t do anything on the floor but walk on it, so it is not a big deal for shoes to be worn in the house. I will say though that I sweep every day and mop once a week and immediately when something is spilled or what have you. Thanks for the videos. Enjoy them very much. New sub!

[@SusieQ3]

Texan hugger here! It's pretty common for strangers to hug after a random 20 min conversation.

[@jodytexas8540]

Texan and a huge hugger!

[@LyndsayVarsaci]

Depends where in the country you are from. I know us East coast folks are not always huggers

[@scottfield6967]

I love it exactly the way you two do it and can't wait for more.

[@kathywilliams5732]

I like most of the pauses. Gives us a chance to feel engaged in the conversation.

[@PatricenotPatrick]

The weirdest thing about “American” videos is the over exaggeration of fast food. Europeans think we eat it constantly. SOME do and that’s why they’re obese but most of us eat it like once a month if that 😂

[@marigeobrien]

I rarely eat, given the amount of fat and carbs involved. It's a very occasional treat for me. When I was a kid, sure-- but I was a runner so I could afford it.

[@taylordance11xoxo]

right😂

[@willp.8120]

Once a month? Ha. More like several times a week.

[@delaineymacphearson6850]

Yeah

[@ranjanbiswas3233]

That SOME is 30 million people. 😂😂

[@beverlydorn9498]

Yes, we wear our shoes indoors. Enjoying your reactions.

[@maxwellpollmann1527]

love that's

[@jb8331]

American here- I really despise small talk and have never been any good at it. I once got an uber to the airport and the driver invited me to sit in the front seat, which was both weird and awkward, and then proceeded to make small talk all the way to the airport. It was miserable! (But I still tipped). I also think the cleaning up your mess should apply to movie theaters as well. I can't understand how so many people leave empty popcorn bags and drink containers all over their seats after the movie is over. They literally have a trash bin right outside the door on your way out!!

[@bpwn3r]

I've always found it weird to take the backseat in a ride share. We don't need to talk, but comfortability is still a thing. Also, I tend to remove my shoes in another's household. But I'll allow a pet from a visitor and clean up afterwards. I guess it depends on the people.

[@kbrownco]

I can do small talk if it’s just “how are you doing”. But if it goes on and on I’m uncomfortable. I don’t want to talk to my hairdresser or massage therapist or nail tech. That is my “me” time and I want to relax. (Said as if I have the money to go to any of those places lately 😂). I also always ride in the back whether it’s a taxi or Uber. They are providing the same service and they are not friends of mine giving me a ride. I agree about cleaning up after yourself in the movie theater!

[@kayelle8005]

In Australia you clean up after yourself at a movie and he’s wrong about taxis. I never sit in the front of a taxi. It’s pretty mixed. Most people I know who travel for work sit in the back of a taxi. I always take my shoes off as soon as I get home. I don’t want to track any muck through my house and I don’t want my guests doing that either. Polite people ask what your preference is and you adopt that. The thing I found incredibly rude in the USA was how many people would say “what” when they misheard something, instead of beg your pardon.

[@bpwn3r]

@@kayelle8005 interesting. It's not rude to say "what" here. I'm hard of hearing and tend to say "I'm sorry, what" because I know how annoying it is to have someone repeat themselves. I certainly wouldn't deem "what" as "incredibly rude". I can't remember the last time I heard "beg your pardon". My grandparents may have used the term or something. It seems antiquated.

[@kayelle8005]

@@bpwn3r we have expressions here that are common that seem very old fashioned or my American friends. One of them was very surprised that we still say “I reckon …” she told me she never heard anyone using that when answering a question. Saying “what” instead of “beg your pardon” or “excuse me” or “sorry I didn’t hear you”, or “I couldn’t quite catch that”, is something we associate with a lack of manners or a lack of education. It was really jarring to me on my first couple of trips to the USA. I’ve only been to about ten states but people did it everywhere and in different contexts so I assumed it must not be considered rude to Americans. Interesting the various cultural norms and etiquette conventions. That’s why I like these kinds of videos.

[@jtoland2333]

I just stumbled upon your channel, and absolutely love it. You're an adorable couple.

[@TheBeesleys99]

Thank you! - Millie ❤️

[@timothyoestreichii1553]

Have recently started watching and just subscribed. I'm from Michigan in the USA. Just wanted to say I like when you pause and conversate. It feels more like we are learning about each other together.

[@kathynorman468]

I Absolutely Enjoy when you pause and have discussions 👏😁 I feel as though we are siblings or cousins in our basic fundamentals 🙌🙏 also I tend to comment as I go instead of waiting until the end.... Anyway, I adore you both 🥰 Ct.,U.S.A.

[@blackpowder99]

I was surprised to hear in Japan it is rude to hand money directly to the cashier and also rude to tip, where here in the US even through a pandemic, it's rude to set the money down on the counter and not tip service workers. And yes in the US we'll walk around all day long if our feet are comfortable with our shoes on in the house, but we'll also walk outside all day long barefoot, but I guess the last part depends on how clean our neighborhood is?

[@NikkiTaLance]

I lived in Korea for a while. They never hand cash directly across the counter either. There is always a small tray to set it in.

[@JohnGalt916]

Bro even reading you say put the money on the counter made me mad. Gave me retail flashbacks from 10 years ago lol.

[@darylrobinon620]

From the US here, love your banter. As far as shoes in the house, i've only ever been to one house that i was asked to take my shoes off. I thought such a request was rude and never went back. Schools in central Pennsylvania are required to address teachers with a Mrs, Miss or Mr and last name; the younger preschool kids address their teacher as Miss or Mr and their first name. Again, love listening to you two break the video to discuss it as you go, that way you don't forget something by doing it all at the end.

[@mlee-w664]

I'm from Central Pennsylvania too! Growing up I didn't take off my shoes in the house, but now that I have my own place I do, because I have white carpet

[@Razorslash312]

Do not take Pennsylvania customs as common across the board

[@strngenchantedgirl]

I respect that some people have extreme allergies and shoes drag in allergens but some people are just clean freaks and I find that rude. It feels so weird to take your shoes off in someone else’s house. It’d be like putting on pajamas when you go to someone’s house. I don’t feel fully dressed. Some of my in-laws are clean freaks that don’t allow shoes in their house and I always have to remember to wear socks because I feel weird and dirty to have bare feet in someone else’s house.

[@davefarley4318]

@Mlee-W Why would you have white carpet? bet you do not have kids.

[@ulisesurbina7184]

Well my kids call their teachers by Mr/Ms/Mrs, whatever their last name is; I address them like that as well when we talk at meetings. I really enjoy seeing you guys banter on your channel, I think that when it comes to the pausing of the videos is fine, because I wanna know your guys opinions at the time you are pausing.

[@kathybolin5568]

My shoes definitely come off as soon as I get home! I enjoy the way you pause, it's nice to hear your thoughts.

[@valg.3270]

I like that you pause and add comments. It is interesting hearing your views on our ways over here in the USA.

[@LucyLynette]

For gifts, I always say "thank you" as soon as I receive it, and wait for an invitation to open it. Usually, that invite takes about two seconds to happen, but occasionally the gifter will take that pause as an opportunity suggest when they'd prefer it to be opened. Giving it a few seconds between initial "thank you" and ripping into it looks less greedy/more grateful for the thought than the specific item and gives the gifter a chance to add any verbal notes. I think that style of "testing the waters with a pause" etiquette is pretty common, because it's a "safe" approach. Not sure about taking off your shoes at the door? Take a two second pause as you come in to give your feet an extra swipe at the mat while looking down at your shoes. You'll quickly see if other shoes are nearby -including on the feet of your host- and you're simultaneously showing your host you're concerned about dirty footwear. That's their cue to guide you through the household norms, if they think anything needs to be said. (It's usually phrased as "Don't worry about your shoes, my floors are a mess, anyway" [even if they aren't] or "You can leave your shoes here" [usually pointing out a specific place] rather than firm directives.) Even if it turns out they aren't a "shoes off in the house" family, you've shown respect for their home and housekeeping with those extra couple of seconds of shoe wiping. Not sure of the exact details of the tipping culture at a specific establishment? Salons are the worst for this. Some have your stylist doubling as your cashier, so you can tip at the till. Some expect the tip to be handed to them when you get out of the chair. Some expect the tip to be discreetly dropped onto their workstation as you get ready to step away, but not if they're sharing a workstation with another stylist. The best answer is usually to hesitate with your wallet in hand until the stylist drops you a non-verbal hint. There's a ton of little stuff like that. When in doubt, pause for a couple of seconds and present non-verbal cues as to your questions. Usually works.

[@maillemacanaugh1841]

My parents would put their shoes on in the morning and they wouldn’t come off until they went to bed. It was considered fully dressed and polite. Being barefoot was for kids and lazy people. I’m much more relaxed about it, and am usually sans shoes in the house. But I ABSOLUTELY do not care if people come in and want to be either in their shoes or out. Do what you want, you’re the guest, and your comfort comes first. With first names: I don’t let my kids call adults by their first names. Depending on the degree of relationship, it’s “mr/Mrs/miss last name”. If they’re closer it’s “mr./miss first name” (even if the woman is married, it’s “Miss first name), or if the relationship is very close it’s sometimes “aunt/uncle first name”, even if we are not related. My neighbor children across the street Call me “aunt”. We’ve become too casual out in public and i believe it’s a major factor in how badly behaved we can be toward customer service personnel. I dress nicely even to go to the grocery, and I get treated more politely, and I treat others more politely because of it.

[@kbrownco]

My maternal grandparents had “house shoes” and “outside shoes”. My mother wears house slippers but my dad always goes either barefoot or in socks. For me it depends. If I’m running in to grab something or to use the bathroom while I’m out and about then I leave my shoes on. If I plan to be at home for the day/evening, I wear my shoes into my room to put them away and wear socks or go barefoot. Relationship wise children call everyone (here in the south) Mr or Mrs. Sometimes you use their first name and sometimes their last. We have lots of Aunts and Uncles of close family friends but I have many adults that I knew from birth that we used their first names because it was like being with our family. I currently call my boss by Mrs. (last name) but I don’t know her well and I’m a teacher. In front of the students I call the other teachers Mrs/Mr (last name) but when we are without kids we use either their first name or just their last name as a reference. It is “Hey Tina” when talking to or “I need to ask Dyer” when talking about.

[@hillarybeautifile]

In my house it's always the guest's choice for everything because I was raised that the comfort of the guest is paramount. My parents even used to let their guests smoke in their house even though they didn't smoke and it stank up the house.

[@Jack_Stafford]

This is the most common sense reply I have seen regarding this issue. Many people feel uncomfortable taking off their shoes just as if you would ask them to take off their pants and run around in their underwear. They may have feet that don't smell great, they may have a hole in their sock that day, often girls will wear a small heel to be a bit taller and you take that away from them when you force them to leave their shoes at the door. And girls often will wear shoes that don't require socks do you really want someone walking barefoot around your house and in your bathroom Etc? In the end it really is up to the guest but in my experience gets normally only children that would take their shoes off often at their parents request because they may have jumped in a puddle or gotten in some mud but most adults know to scrub their feet on the mat before coming into someone's house.

[@AmeerahMuhammad]

We wear slippers in our house. Wearing street shoes indoors is considered unsanitary and rude in my family.

[@caroline-s]

It would be considered unsanitary and disrespectful to wear shoes in someone's home.

[@toob1979]

Whenever the subject of small talk and Americans' attitude toward it comes up, I'm reminded of an old beer commercial. It's a New York City pub, and there are a few regulars who are friends and one guy obviously visiting from another part of the country sitting at the bar. Another local guy walks in and says, "How you doin'?" to his friends, who answer in kind. He asks the visitor the same thing, out of politeness, and the guy says, "I'm doin' fine," then launches into a long-winded story in a Southern twang about his trip to NYC. They advertise the beer, then cut back to the bar, where the locals are trapped listening to this guy. Another friend walks into the bar, asks, "How you doin'?" as his friends gesture wildly behind the Southerner's back to shut up. The visitor says, "I'm doin' fine," then repeats his story from the top. Long story short, if you're visiting from another country and are wondering about small talk, read the room. That's actually good advice for most foreign visitors unsure about customs in any given situation.

[@timhuff6813]

When I was younger. We would keep our shoes on unless the weather was bad. So, mostly in the summer we might wear them. In the winter we always wore boots and took them off at the door. Then I got married to a Korean and was banned from ever wearing shoes in the house. Plus, my family also started doing it.

[@thomasfrederick-dg1rb]

You pause whenever you feel like it! This is YOUR reaction channel and you are reacting and we are all enjoying it! 😎✌️❤

[@gregweatherup9596]

A few of those (ie shoes in the house, opening gifts immediately) differ from region to region or family to family, but we are also aware that it varies across the country so a quick ask about how to proceed is never problematic. As for addressing teachers, it is either Mr./Mrs./Ms. and the full surname or, if the teacher has a hard or unusual surname or if the teacher wants to be less formal they might have the students just use the first letter of their surname along with the Mr./Ms./Mrs. - so you’d have Mr. K. and Mrs. S. alongside Ms. Jones and Mr. Smyth.

[@JustMe-dc6ks]

With the occasional Miss Alice or Coach Mike. Honorific and first name

[@gregweatherup9596]

@@JustMe-dc6ks I can see the formulation of “coach” + given name as an exception, but not the other example for a teacher - maybe for a TA or something though...

[@coldcoma]

The shoes thing VERY MUCH depends on the region and the specific household. It really is best to ask, or just watch what the house owner does and do the same. Some Americans hate the idea of shoes in the house, some find it weird if you take them off. I think the point is the hear what you think so don't worry about pausing.

[@poohbearsmom2964]

Even in US, some fast food places have staff that are assigned to specifically care for the dining area. They wipe down tables and the drink area, clean up spills, etc. One is still expected to actually bus your own area.

[@114YosemiteWay]

Pausing the vids so you can talk about it is great! It’s the natural approach. I just discovered you yesterday and I really like your channel. Good job!

[@Lisareads72]

Fun video! #9 about loudness I mostly agreed with, but I work in a library and it probably varies. Our library isn’t really quiet anymore, especially in the kids department where I work. We don’t generally “shush” unless people are being super loud or yelling. :)

[@seanhaase2796]

American here, I can attest that it is definitely not just in the movies, I have my sneakers on still right now in the house watching this. Some families do take them off at the door but that is not the usual. Great reactions by the way!!!

[@Nimbus1701]

It isn't anything I make an effort to think about really. Sometimes the shoes stay on, sometimes not. The general guidelines that I personally use are these: at a person's house I don't know very well, shoes stay on. Shoes also typically stay on if people even my closest friends or family have small kids around because stepping on jacks, Legos, barbie shoes and accessories, etc. is no fun bare-footed. Also shoes stay on if there is inside pets (typically dogs) because it really sucks stepping in dog pee with socks on or bare-footed. Shoes come off if I'm at home, or at a person's house where I am comfortable, unless the conditions I previously mentioned above are in play. Also, if my shoes are muddy, or excessively dirty I will take them offal the front door and leave them on tile near the door, or leave them just outside on the patio out of the way so they aren't a tripping hazard.

[@jjw1072]

I wear flip-flops inside my house. Actually, I wear them everywhere. I can't even remember the last time I put on a pair of sneakers.

[@mythdefied9070]

personally I hate anything on my feet. it's gotta be below freezing for me to wear shoes

[@trudiegentry-pears6810]

@@jjw1072 me too! I can't remember the last time I wore anything other than flip flops unless I'm going to church then I wear high heels. LOL!

[@dezznutz3743]

WHAT THE HECK IS WITH YOU WEIRD PEOPLE WEARING UNCOMFORTABLE , SMELLY DIRTY shoes (not sandals, moccasins, flip-flops, etc. but actual shoes)in the house. Were you people raised in a barn too?

[@bracejuice7955]

The shoes in the house thing is a little complicated. In movies and tv it’s just because it would be weird to spend time on the characters taking their shoes off during scenes. In reality, it’s more complicated. Obviously in areas of the US where there’s snow and muddy rainy seasons there’s a dedicated area to take your shoes off. There’s even houses that have a “mud room” for boots and winter coats and whatnot. However, in the summer months and more arid regions of the US, shoes just don’t get that dirty, and lots of floors in the US are easily cleanable. There’s also the fact that a large percentage of the population here only spends the few seconds walk from their home to their car outside, so shoes never get a chance to get dirty!

[@klausjackklaus]

Yeah we call it the "stoop" where we take off large boots when its raining or snowing. Inside to the kitchen we have a little space where we put sneakers or dress shoes

[@nuclearpoweredbrain2211]

Taking the shoes off was in the opening scene in Mr Roger's Neighborhood.

[@KevinSmith-gu7fb]

@@nuclearpoweredbrain2211 And we remember that aspect of Mr. Rogers, due to how much it differs from what you usually see in shows and movies.

[@LordPrometheous]

@@KevinSmith-gu7fb yeah, most people don't sing and toss their shoes from one hand to the other while looking into a camera when they come home. For me, that's what was different.

[@strngenchantedgirl]

@@nuclearpoweredbrain2211 but he puts on other shoes. I have my house shoes too. I take off my outdoor shoes and put on my house slippers pretty soon after coming inside.

[@mutleymutley7474]

As an American, at home I want to be comfortable in what I'm wearing. In the summer its flip flops, but in winter its moccasins. However, if company is coming over, then I put on casual shoes or sneakers. Everyone keeps their shoes on unless they are coming from a pigsty, mud pit or an oil field which is never.

[@karlaschuchmann4306]

I like your frequent comments. It’s interesting to learn which is the same or different per custom.

[@rebeccastone8732]

I like it when you pause because you are able to make relevant comments as you go.

[@DelScorch0]

Personal experience, we always kept our shoes on to prevent foot and toe injuries. Sports, hot weather, rocks, snakes, and the inevitable immovable object in your home etc...It's common to keep your shoes on in some parts of the USA.

[@aliioana8586]

Thats extremely unsanitary. I’d suggest getting a pair of shoes to exclusively wear in your house. That’s what I do.

[@matthewferbrache8860]

One of the most epic college football games of all time was the 2007 Fiesta Bowl. Boise State vs Oklahoma. I'd love for you to react to the highlight video of it! Boise state was a no-name, underdog school who had the chance to take down one of the best teams in the country. And they did it in spectacular fashion.

[@KarriePorterBond]

Fun extra shoe fact. I live in a string of islands in the US, and while a person won't often mind you wearing your shoes in their house, will absolutely require you to take them off when boarding their boat. It's considered rude to board someone's boat with shoes on.

[@Arp477]

Is this in Hawaii or Alaska or the Carolinas, or?

[@robertewalt7789]

Soft shoes, like sneakers, are best for boats.

[@ranjanbiswas3233]

Oh that sounds like Virgin Islands?

[@hammerjammer1]

Just found you and subscribed! We call our teachers/professors Mr., Miss, Ms., Mrs. or Dr. So glad to have found you!

[@rebagreen5768]

You never call your teachers by their first name. I was a teacher for many years. Sometimes a student might accidentally call me “mom” and I will just laugh, but the “Miss or Mrs.” in front of your last name is a must. I think it is because the title is a mark of respect.

[@summers6132]

Yes, most people do wear shoes in their own home sometimes over here in the USA. Mer personally, I have always hated shoes but it's still allowed in our home somewhat. :) Schools do require addressing staff with honorifics such as Mr & Ms.

[@colleenmarin8907]

Many of us leave shoes on in the house because our pets go outside, and it is difficult to ensure that the pets aren't tracking unwanted stuff on the floor where you'd be walking with bare feet

[@janetgarland627]

Lol so true

[@TheJohmac]

One good thing about the tipping culture is that sometimes when service is particularly bad, leaving a small tip, like a dollar or change is actually more telling than no tip. The smiling thing, you went to new york, right!? Not particularly known for their smiling personality, but for much of the country it is much more common. I am more likely to get in the back with a taxi than like an uber, I am happy to take cues from the driver. If they are chatty I might get in the front if an uber, but if they are quiet or seem unfriendly or disinterested, I'll get in the back. As for shoes inside, I think a lot of people have hardwood or tile floors, so shoes are not a big deal, but people with carpeted floors are more likely to have a no shoes preference. Sir names are generally required in schools and may be expected in only the most formal settings otherwise. Most people go by first name.

[@Dr.Spatula]

The small talk thing is generally BS. Shoes are based on whether or not a person wants to have to clean up after people ever day and shoes on in TV and movies is a matter of convenience. In my entire time in school I never called a teacher by their first name. Out of the 50 or so teachers I knew maybe 3 first names

[@cindycassity1104]

Tipping of 15% is the minimal percentage expected for minimal service.

[@kamryn110]

…. We do wear shoes in the house a lot….. I never noticed it😂

[@karlawilson9772]

When it’s muddy and yuk outside we like shoes off at door. But some walk around with shoes on. Usually the door will have a sign saying to remove shoes in the muddy spring time to a sign saying to wipe your feet.

[@RetroClassic66]

In schools, we generally address our teachers (and school administrators) by their last names only (Mr. Russell, Ms. Jackson), NEVER their first names. This is especially emphasized in children, where every adult who works at the school is Mr. or Ms. Whoever. In fact, in most American schools, students might not even know a given teacher's first name at all. There could be some experimental schools where students address teachers by first name, but in the majority of public and private schools in the US, tradition rules. When it comes to work and supervisors and managers, the more traditional way is by addressing them by last name (Mr. Jones, Mrs. Abbott, etc.), but as this is now considered fairly formal, it's becoming more common for managers and supervisors to request their employees to address them by first name, so as to foster a more informal relationship and thus build a stronger team mindset.

[@Yannispawn]

I think the age rule can apply here too. If there is a young person who may be new in a more professional environment, they may refer to the senior executives/bosses as Mr/Mrs. Especially if there is a lack of familiarity.

[@Clostridiumbotulinum37]

Yup, when I was in elementary school, most of the kids didn't know the teacher's first names. We would have compititions to see which kid could find out the most first names. We didn't have an easy way to find their first names untill middle school when we got schedules and the first and last name of every teacher was just printed right there with everything else.

[@dbarnett]

this may also vary by region. The south tends to lean more traditional/formal. Coming from Michigan, saying "thank you" to school staff was perfectly polite... in Florida, I was chastised for not adding "ma'am" which was quite foreign to me at the time.

[@sleepbananas]

It's normal to just ask about shoes when you visit someone. Even if you see a gathering of shoes at the front door, most people will tell guests to do whatever makes them comfortable in regards to taking shoes off or keeping them on. Kinda depends on the weather too. Boots come off at the entryway during the winter.

[@maxwellpollmann1527]

I believe you my dear you're right

[@BuntTheBlunt]

The shoes in the house is about 50/50. My dad grew up in Italy and came to the U.S in the 60’s. Absolutely no shoes were ever allowed in my house, but my friends who had been settled in America longer ALWAYS wear shoes inside.

[@Ira88881]

It’s not 50/50. The vast majority of Americans wear their shoes in their homes.

[@johnmorris8444]

The vast majority of the time it depends on the type of flooring and if there are dogs in the house. Hard floors and/or dogs is shoes on, if it’s carpet it’s hit or miss.

[@spyman52]

No worries on the pausing, you two are charming & funny. Keep it up!

[@bexlaviolette]

You guys do this just right. I love to hear your input and opinions about things. Very enjoyable!

[@Jdoom13]

That's cause you were in NYC. NYC isn't overly friendly.

[@MfckingDye]

That's ironic you say that, because NYC actually has the stereotype of being rude, and unfriendly. It's mostly New Yorkers being rude to other New Yorkers, but it's such a fast paced city, and people are often in a rush to get somewhere, that if you get in someone's way, or slow them down, they will express their displeasure to you directly and bluntly for how you inconvenienced them.

[@Jdoom13]

@@MfckingDye oh I know man. I've spent time there. I live in upstate NY. Only about 2hrs from the city.

[@piratetv1]

I feel the "unfriendly" thing is usually just "in a hurry". I live halfway between Boston and New York. People hurry around a lot and get used to being short with people. It does come off that way, though

[@STMARTIN009]

I live in Massachusetts and it is a fast paced culture. It depends on who you are talking to at any given time of day.

[@ClarkCox]

Growing up, I put my shoes on in the morning, and didn't take them off until I was getting ready for bed. As an adult (and due to a lot of influence from other cultures), I see how that can be a little gross. My general strategy is to just do what everyone else is doing. If I walk into a house, and the owner takes off their shoes, I will do likewise.

[@orphu88]

This was a good video for you to pause and chat, so I had no problem with that. As for wearing shoes inside, I grew up in California and everyone wore their shoes inside. It wasn't until I went to Europe as a teenager that I saw people removing their shoes. I loved the idea, and I've done it ever since in my own house, often being teased for doing so. And on another subject, here's the best quote from Beesley in this one: "I'm really good at small talk." Really??? You're good at talking??? Absolutely no one is surprised by that comment!

[@CTeric3742]

I started chatting with a couple and their children at Disney in Florida...we spent the rest of our vacation together. They invited us to England (Clitheroe) and they attended our wedding in Connecticut. (He wore a kilt, we don't see that much here)

[@acommentator4452]

did you actually stay in clitheroe ? what did you think of it ? and uk generally ?

[@rettawhinnery]

I'm from the midwest and am of an older generation. I was an adult before I ever heard of anyone taking their shoes off in the house, until my brother married a Korean woman. Farmhouses generally had a mud room at the entry to take off muddy outdoor shoes, but they would put on clean shoes (not house shoes or slippers) to wear inside. In more modern times, people with white carpets might want people to remove their shoes, but it seemed rude to me.

[@livinginthenow]

I've read a lot of different things about shoes in the house in the US, and it seems to me that there isn't a single nationwide way of dealing with that. My experience is as follows: I take my shoes off in my own house, but leave them on in other people's houses unless they are good friends or are family. I would feel uncomfortable being that casual in someone's home if I'd just met them.

[@trudiegentry-pears6810]

In some peoples homes it would be rude not to take your shoes off.

[@Ballaurena13]

Interesting how shoes off can be seen as polite or rude, yet I have experienced enough variety to get both mindsets.

[@janelleg597]

Yep, it's very variable. No consensus

[@user-ml9qm4dj6w]

The condiments thing really depends on the restaurant. If you're at a diner, ask away. If you're at a fancy steakhouse, you can ask... but people will judge you for sure. Tipping is always expected and the standard is 20%. Opening gifts in front of the giver really depends. Some people are embarrassed to have their gift opened in front of them. I usually ask them if they want me to open it right away or wait until later. Shoes depends on the house. I always take my shoes off when I get home. Usually people with hardwood floors don't mind if you keep your shoes on, but houses with carpet usually prefer that you leave your shoes at the door. Always ask. Great video 👍

[@DavidSimmons42]

I was looking if anyone made this comment. There are plenty of restaurants where asking for condiments is bad, high end pretentious places or quality steakhouses. And bad places where the chef has more ego than skill.

[@starchitin]

The shoes thing def depends on the household. Some don't care (usually younger people or those that don't have many carpeted floors) others absolutely won't tolerate shoes being worn inside (usually if they have carpeted floors). Also, if people just use their first name in introductions that's what you use, if they use both their first and last name then it's Mr/Ms and their last name unless they tell you otherwise.... if you haven't been introduced, it's always Sir/Mam or their title and last name (Mr/Ms Smith, Dr Smith, etc) until an introduction has been made.

[@marieneu264]

I love your pauses! Keep doing what you’re doing!

[@sspiker]

What is meant by restaurants is the kind where there AREN'T any condiments on the table. You can go to fine or FANCY places and still ask for special accommodations most times.

[@GuadalupeGarcia-pt4ex]

I have never been to a house where I have needed to takeoff my shoes. In fact, in my Mexican American household you must wear some sort of shoe. Flip-flops and slippers is typically what we usually wear. I know a lot of other Mexican American household that have this rule and believe that if you walk around barefoot you will get sick

[@mainnerd2222]

Yeah, we wear our shoes in the house. My Australian wife found it weird, as well. I don't know why we do it. I actually didn't notice that we do it until my wife brought it up. I don't expect guests to get undressed (aka take your shoes off) just to come to visit me at my house. If it's a BBQ we are in and out of the house, I don't expect you to take your shoes off and put them back on as you are coming inside and going outside. When I was in school it was Mr. and Mrs. I don't know what it's like now. And they were strict about it. It's seen as disrespectful to call your teacher otherwise.

[@leannewith3]

That’s funny because I’m Australian and we wear shoes inside. Obviously, we take them off if the are dirty but generally leave them on.

[@ekill1395]

As an American, the fast food table cleaning really depends on the restaurant. There are plenty of restaurants, such as Chick-fil-A, that do pay employees to walk around, clean tables, get refills for customers, etc. There are some that don't, and the tables are frequently filthy, KFC comes to mind first. It really just depends on the restaurant, though.

[@L-M-O-1]

Chick-fil-a doesn't do that in nyc. There are no refills here & you clear your own table. Someone comes to wipe off whatever you've spilled but it's tacky to leave your mess for them.

[@ekill1395]

@@L-M-O-1 well, I wasn't saying they always clean take your trash and get refills for you. It probably depends on how well they are staffed/how busy they are. With everywhere struggling to find workers, they might not be doing here now either.

[@katana253]

Love you pausing for your insight I learn your culture threw your comments and that’s why I I watch your videos and others reaction videos

[@mamacc9927]

I love your videos! It's so neat hearing your perspectives on aspects of America that I mostly take for granted. I definitely prefer the "pause and comment" style of your video vs waiting to comment at the end; I wouldn't be able to remember which points you were referring to! Regarding shoes in the house: 8 grew up in Wisconsin, with 5-6 months of winter weather most years, and we would take off snow boots if we had regular shoes to wear inside, or just do our best to clean the mess off before coming in the house. My mom doesn't like to wear shoes at home, but I don't like to be barefoot, so there's also the personal preference thing.

[@barbaracampbell7127]

My two cents on the shoes indoor question; Americans keep traditions whether we realize we are doing it or not. Imagine you live in a log cabin. Shoes on or not? Dirt floors, shoes on or not? Cold New England weather, shoes on or not? It was a matter of protecting the feet. It is to my mind a hold over of what families have always done because at one time floors were cold, splintery, dirty or you might need those shoes to make a run for it if attacked by hostiles.

[@Eidlones]

I dunno, I live in Canada, so pretty similar living conditions at the time back then, and I don't know a single person who doesn't take their shoes off when you enter someones house. It'd be weird if someone didn't.

[@davidnicholas7516]

I've never been asked to take my shoes off in someone else's house, other than when I was in Hawaii. There it was accepted practice everywhere, the houses where you didn't expect it out of the ordinary. As for myself, if I'm staying in I wear sandals, but if I'm going out I put on a pair of shoes and don't bother them off until I go to bed, usually.

[@mrhappykillz8450]

If someone tells you tipping isn't mandatory in the us I feel they've never worked in restaurants. Technically it isn't but in most places wait staff make under $3 an hour. The tips are their pay check. So it's basically mandatory.

[@maggienygard3512]

It's not mandatory but we know that people don't make much hourly in the food service business and we know that their paychecks and livelihood are counting on tips. Out of respect and common sense we make sure to leave a tip.

[@KPSingh-dv5iq]

@@RoseMaeWS I don't think there's a lie here, but I do think you misunderstand what is being said. "Basically mandatory" was saying just that, it isn't technically mandatory, but in application it BASICALLY is. It's mandatory for waiters to be tipped because corporations generally pay them under minimum wage, legally and on purpose. Because they can't live off of less than minimum wage, waiters would not take waiting jobs unless they were tipped. So it's "basically mandatory" because otherwise no one would wait tables. Knowing their salary is structured this way, and going out to eat, but not tipping-is incredibly selfish and most people aren't willing to put another person in that position. So people's conscience makes it... basically mandatory to tip.

[@Arp477]

$2.19 per hour, plus tips. If a customer doesn't tip, the server cannot keep that job!!!!!

[@Arp477]

@@RoseMaeWS Maybe Congress should make all restaurants go with $20 wage and no tipping policy?

[@lijohnyoutube101]

Plus as wait staff you typically have to tip out your cooks and host staff plus pay taxes and pay the bill for anyone that dined and dashed and pay the fines if you get any alcohol fines.

[@jenincompton7012]

Dude, I totally adore all y'all's videos!!😍 It gives perspective to other countries way of looking at things. Also I like how you pause and comment. As for shoes on or off. Growing up we did keep our shoes on for the most part(if we were wearing shoes), but as a nanny, most of the upper class require shoes off at the door. Unless you're the cleaning ladies. Then they get to do whatever the heck they want.😃 Y'all keep up the good work. I enjoy your dynamic between each other and thoughts.

[@ni-feidir-eitilt]

I prefer the pauses you guys do! More fun seeing an immediate reaction :)

[@ccchhhrrriiisss100]

It's interesting that when I travel to another country, I prefer to see a more "natural" view of that country and its people. So, if I go to the U.K., I avoid London. If I go to France, I avoid Paris. It's not that the people in those cities aren't shining examples of the national culture; rather, it's just that they are heavily influenced by international cultures too. So, I'd prefer to visit smaller towns and cities (or areas within a town or city) that is less influenced by international norms and customs. As such, I'd much rather visit a place like Jersey, Hull or Hereford than London, Birmingham or Manchester. I wouldn't mind spending some time in the bigger cities, but I'd rather see the country in a more natural (and less touristy) setting. It's like New York, Chicago or Los Angeles. I've been countless times (I'm from the East Coast of the U.S.) but those cities are far from being a "norm" or "mean" barometer for the nation. I live in Palo Alto, California -- just a few miles in between San Francisco and San Jose. There are tourist spots in San Francisco that some people enjoy (like Pier 39 and Fisherman's Wharf). However, I'd rather spend my time elsewhere in the city (and further away from tourists).

[@DoggieFosters]

Indeed. Can't judge American propensity to smile by New Yorkers if they've only been to Manhattan either! 🤣

[@amberrose7495]

Yeah someone gunna visit San Fran and take this advice and be shocked when they visit the tenderloin area. 😂 you’ll see naked people high on drugs shitting on the street and do not park ur car their they will break in to it!

[@ccchhhrrriiisss100]

@@amberrose7495 - Good point. To be fair, I also avoid those sorts of places too. I made a mistake and drove through the neighborhood during a Pride parade. I saw mostly-nude men on a float wearing dildos and having simulated sex with a doll of Jesus Christ. It was, uh, disturbing.

[@Daveyboyz1978]

"It's not like the people in those cities aren't shining examples..." I couldn't disagree more... I live in London and there is very little Englishness left here... just cultural degeneration.

[@ccchhhrrriiisss100]

@@Daveyboyz1978 - Good point. Still, that culture -- as "non-English" as it is -- is still a part of the UK's collective "culture" (for better or, as it often seems, for worse). The same is true in the United States. The U.S. used to be a "melting pot" of cultures and racial-ethnic groups. They used to say that the United States was a "nation without a people." This is because the people who immigrated here melted into a singular culture. This was the idea behind "E pluribus Unum" -- "out of many, one." However, it's now shifted from people melting and blending together as one "people" into one that enforces and celebrates "multicultural" differences of many peoples (i.e., groups). As such, some of the groups that don't take advantage of the "opportunities" now point fingers at the groups that do (or have). They complain of "privilege" or "advantage" as though it was a nefarious thing. They forget that many of those same "privileged" and "advantaged" people came to this nation under difficult circumstances and worked hard to get to where they are. I do think that all racial-ethnic groups (and ideological groups) can create an unified culture. However, if the focus is on differences rather than the ideals that unify, then the idiocy of magnifying "multiculturalism" (i.e., differences) will win out over the basic idea of becoming "one." Unfortunately, many of the less ideal statistics are in places where people immigrate for the wrong reasons (e.g., financial motives, etc.). This results in more nefarious things too (such as higher crime rates, theft, violence, etc.). Thus, because some have no desire to fit in, they become evangelists of their own cultures rather than heralds of blending. And, sadly, they become unfortunate poster avatars of the negative. This is one reason why I avoid places like London or Paris. Those cities seem to have no "culture" and are the most likely places for bad things to happen.

[@robertschwartz4810]

I was surprised when almost every person I'd come across would greet me on my walks. In the suburbs I'd drive everywhere and seldom talk to people. In the city people are friendlier and almost always wish you good morning, etc.! One more thing, don't expect me to take my shoes off if there's no chair near the door.

[@jorgejefferson8251]

Being a taxi driver in the States has been one of the most dangerous occupations you can have, depending on where you work. I can't think of too many taxi drivers who would be comfortable with a passenger sitting next to them, in fact in certain areas of the country taxis have partitions(sometimes bullet resistant) separating backseat passengers and the driver. The advent of Uber and Lyft is a different matter since a potential passenger has to be on the app and their personal info and identity is known before they get in the vehicle. That said, I don't think ride share drivers in the States as a whole want front seat passengers.

[@suzieredfoxfur6982]

I was actually just about to make this point exactly....I know many that won't even entertain the idea of having a passenger up front for their own safety...

[@reneebush2399]

My father was a taxi driver for a few years and would only let his regulars sit up front for safety reasons as well.

[@cicelymasden4477]

Yeahhh, people who get in the passenger seat of cabs are weird and make me uncomfortable. Lol like whyyyyy😩 I would never.

[@bullcrapgoogle8528]

I just paused the video to make a comment that when you pause it is perfectly fine with me since your reaction and comments are why I watch your channel. Now, about the shoes indoors.....when I was a child 60's and 70's, it was very unusual for people to take their shoes off at the door, but now it is very common. Although there are still a lot of Americans that do not. What really drives me crazy in movies is when they leave their shoes on when they are laying on a bed. No one I know does that.

[@Sunny-jz3dy]

In my house... Its always been shoes off in the house. But there are others that don't have problem with it either way. You guys do your show whichever way is good for you!

[@sheisthechurch.official]

I like when you pause in between to chat about each subject! I’m American and we usually kick our shoes off at the front door after work- but we don’t mind running back in the house with our shoes on if we forgot something in the house and have to go back inside to go look for it. We also let our friends keep their shoes on during gatherings at our house; but we definitely ask other people what they prefer before we enter their house as a courtesy since America is a melting pot with different cultures in each household. As for #13 I call my boss by her first name and it’s totally fine. As for the tipping portion: I tip based on my experience as a customer. If my server has a terrible attitude or completely ignored me during my visit at a café, I won’t tip at all and I will tell the manager why so there’s room for improvement at that company. I enjoyed the video- god bless! Love from Florida 🌴☀️

[@jeffb4612]

I have lived in America all my life and love traveling to Canada. The one thing that i now bring with me to burger or fish and chips joints is malt vinegar. In Canada it's on every table, but in the US it's behind the counter if they have it. It also seems that it's been there for years. Oh I miss Canada, haven't been there since covid started.

[@braemtes23]

In New England, malt vinegar is common in fish and chip restaurants.

[@MetalphysicalMel]

In my experience, being indirect simply makes the other person more determined to convince me otherwise. This has happened to me SO many times. ( I am American)

[@acommentator4452]

i don't understand what you mean. could you expand please ?

[@cindydee8475]

I just love you guys and your sweet & brief comments during the video are just the right amount. The shoe wearing in some homes is normal like my own... oh and i guess we are loud talkers but don't really realize it until we travel abroad which is what happened to me on a public bus near Cheltenham. I was chatting away with my friend thinking nothing of it and apparently it disgruntled a little old lady who passive aggressively complained to the other passengers about hearing my entire conversation and having to turn her hearing aid down lol

[@BlairStopnik]

We love your videos. Or family is well traveled and enjoy your British take on things. Our family wear shoes pretty much all the time in our house. Unless they're muddy or something. When our kids were younger we made them take their shoes off but it was just to preserve the carpet from they're mud and dirt. Also, we like when you pause and comment on the video in real time. If I wanted to just watch the video I would just watch it directly on KZbin.