BTT #78 - Men Should Avoid Women That Are Alpha Widows

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[@jameshouse7862]

My aunts a feminist! 😂😂😂 thanks rich I’m getting out of my beta habits, and getting over some one ideas!👍🥀

[@AntonSoundcheck]

I was red-pilled by an alpha widow. I really liked her a lot but I felt like I was competing against a ghost. She was holding me to standards that didn't make any sense, I finally figured out that she was indirectly comparing me to a past relationship which I could never live up to. It was very difficult emotionally but I eventually left her. That really began my red pill journey. Alpha widows are no joke, you can't have relationships with them unless you are considered "better" than her ex. Even then, one slip up on your part and she's pining for ex again, either consciously or subconsciously.

[@juancintron9630]

Can you expand on the stuff she did that made you have that realization? I have my own experiences but I’m sure the less experienced users could use some examples to take with them and store in the toolbox

[@PointWithin]

Bitter pill 2 swallow. I too was red-pilled by a AW. Didn’t even know until recently

[@corby1228]

I’m into one now. She knows I’m superior vale male. Her sister is pulling on her away from me. So she backed out of coming down here without telling me until today. I’m deciding what to do

[@okaySam]

@@corby1228 Next her. There is no other way. The problem with widows is, even if you're the better man, you can't compete. I widowed a women over ten years ago. She's still pining for me, even though the relationship was a total mess. It's not rational, it's emotional. So nexting is the only option.

[@corby1228]

I don’t care what they do. I’m high value. That’s better than anything she can get everrrrr

[@chatwithaninja]

Something I figured out but never hear from the man-o-sphere is that women always compare CURRENT men to ALL PREVIOUS men. So if a partner has a lot of previous men, a current man will never ever measure up. The MORE a woman has "under her belt" the more alpha features she will have to compare YOU to. YOU will never have as big a bank account as "zach". YOU will never be as tall as "dave". YOU will never have as big a eggplant as "chad". YOU will never be as muscular as "steve". It's not ONE alpha you have to worry about, its ALL of the alpha traits she has ever been with.

[@chrisnamaste3572]

So true. That is why ham beasts that are well past their wall in their 40s and 50s have such ridiculous "standards."

[@machtnichtsseimann]

Hypergamy?

[@clarkfluegel6875]

Lol don't worry. Most women you meet and sleep with, won't have much experience with real alphas. The bar is still set so low for men. It's beyond easy to impress women..

[@yousmallfish5069]

The Alpha Widow is the topic which seems to be the most underrated but interesting phenomena, good job addressing it again!

[@j.b.p1520]

Honestly I’ve been on both sides and being on the wrong side is a hard pill to swallow, but I learned a lot thanks

[@badass1g]

I would never again agree to be in a relationship if the girl wasn’t willing to get off media. It’s caused problems in every relationship I’ve ever had. You want me to call you my woman, stop sexually marketing yourself on media. If you can’t get off media then you’ll be a plate forever.

[@shtfvan8084]

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[@bryanthomas7160]

Spot on! 👍👍

[@shtfvan8084]

@Jonathan F lol attention seeking switched to the streets

[@Songbirdstress]

Works the other way too. I have a now ex that's on apps. He doesn't understand nothing will ever go down between he and I again because of it. He thinks I'm controlling him. No. I control myself and I don't want intimacy with him anymore. He's meeting all those young hot single Mums on his apps, well knock yourself out babes, go for it.

[@OneManCanStopTheMotorOfWorld]

I’ve been getting my bachelors in Red Pill philosophy and focusing on my business, hunting, fitness goals, and training for a road bike race. Since finding your channel I’ve flown from Phoenix to Nashville to Dublin to Ístanbul and I’m just beyond impressed with your way to articulate these ideas rather than the RSD route that boosted my notch count in my 20’s but wasn’t addressing several of the topics you cover on your channel. I’m interested in diving deeper since it’s rare to find someone with your humility and class dive deep into these issues and I just wanted to say thank you for doing what you do Richard. Keep the Truthbombs coming brother 🤙

[@j.desoto5870]

What is RSD?

[@jimmyp8438]

Another sure fire way of knowing if a chick you are dealing with is alpha widowed is if she ever admits to having a friends with benefits arrangement with an ex boyfriend. If you hear this and you also get the vibe that she has been scorned from a previous relationship....just run because she is definitely an alpha widow. Or if you can you can hit it but don't get emotionally attached because it'll never work out the way you would want or expect.

[@bettermanchannel770]

There is no honor in being a victim

[@JohnSmith-kb5ku]

Great quote.

[@aldo3g]

I remember what Rollo said on women's infidelity, she will cheat on her alpha or main guy, feel good about what she did, and then hate the guy which she cheated on, just because she was "forced" to cheat on him.

[@brettbuescher5005]

Do you have a link to this?

[@corby1228]

I saw my daughter do this to a guy

[@corby1228]

Not exactly

[@bedadays1763]

@@corby1228cheated on her alpha?

[@emmanuelchimezie2289]

OMG this is so true about women cheating on Alphas. I had a girl in my rotation for close to 6 months and she had been pushing for us to be exclusive since the 2nd month. She did everything she could to make me commit, did every freaky thing I wanted her to do, skip days off work if I called her, always getting me gifts and stuff. While I treated her good, I did nothing close to any of these, and went weeks not speaking to her, only calling her when I wanted sex. Around the 5th month she started becoming a little more aggressive, telling me she 'loved' me and she's willing to spend the rest of her life with me. I never told her anything of that nature back, and I noticed it made her pretty hurt. Now there's this other guy she was talking to. She always told me the guy liked her so much and kept telling her he wanted something serious, I just took it that she wanted me to compete which I wasn't going to. Long story short, a few weeks ago, she brought up the guy in a conversation we were having and how clingy the guy was and how she pretty much tries to avoid him now. I was a little curious and poked her a little and she told me this guy PROPOSED to marry her. I was confused and asked if they had sex, and she confessed to it, crying and telling me she regretted it. That she kept feeling she wasn't good enough for me and felt she needed to explore other options. I told her nothing serious could ever happen between us both and told her to give me space for a couple months. She still messages me everyday and sends gifts from time to time telling me she'd never be foolish again. SMH.

[@SD-ci6kz]

Wow.

[@VoiceOfThe]

They just love that carousel way too much.

[@caucasianafrican1435]

SMH is the right response. It's so gross how she's trying to get with you, but sleeps with the other guy covertly. She wants to keep you both on the line, and that sucks low-class Behavior. They're just not worth it.

[@DELLRS2012]

You were not exclusive though. You had other women in your rotation. This guy was in hers. I mean you doged a bullet and it's weird she is still messaging you, but when you treat women like shit, you get shit women.

[@bolt-dbtfg]

Any particular reason Why you didn't want to be exclusive with her? I ask because if it because you think you can do better, you might want to tell her that, so she doesn't think she fucked up by sleeping with the other guy. (You said you made it clear you were none exclusive). Also if possible I would tell that other guy that she's an alpha widow over you, to save him from making a mistake with her.

[@beetleything1864]

very good interview / chat - Paul / Apex mindset - very smart guy - As far as chicks phones / txt - if you start playing detective - then there IS something wrong - trust your gut.

[@illimar6864]

When woman has picture of an ex in wallet or pictures in hard drive or phone or laptop - you have a red flag. Thanks for great content!

[@elrickpenn]

... Deadass ! ... Word ... On God ! ...

[@Mrbfgray]

Only weak betas even care about that.

[@illimar6864]

@@Mrbfgray caring about it and seeing it and making changes about it are two different things, if mate guarding is done in correct way there is nothing beta about it, but setting ultimatums when you find such stuff is beta.

[@Mrbfgray]

@@illimar6864 OKAY. Call it insecure then, every woman rightfully loathes weak insecure mates who have to rely on suppressing the competition, as if that was possible, instead of manning UP.

[@colindavis2113]

What if her husband died? Should you wait for her to be over the death? Just a hypothetical question.

[@northernguy8860]

"She cheats to degrade her partner." So true. When she's angry with her main guy, she'll turn to her side D for some revenge sex. Afterwards, she doesn't think less of herself but of her partner who she so easily played.

[@liagrigori]

Lol Playa

[@dracon501]

Cold truth.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Theyre disgusting

[@corby1228]

Oh wow. Her ex from 36 years ago is still stalking her. But she won’t see me

[@stevec3526]

Yes I have seen this happen.

[@atariboi349]

I’ve been sharing your Before the Trainwreck series with my brothers from another mother. Thanks for keeping the info going Rich! Very much appreciated!!!!!!

[@termita358]

Why a man should put himself in competition with a woman's past lovers. That is fucking crazy. Let's say you win that competition, now you have a job for the rest of your life to keep frame. Knowing the firs time you show a weakness, and you will, she will start looking around. Take care of you and your resources and enjoy living life your way. We all die alone.

[@bolt-dbtfg]

She's going to have a past unless she is an exception to the rule, or very young. In an ideal situation, you would find your virgin or almost Virgin very young who has genuine desire for you, she dates you exclusively, while you date around, (have a kid with her). The kids grows up, moves out. You have the sex, stability and caring support of a woman you've know all your adult life, while still fulfilling your surplus sexual needs with younger girls more sexually attractive than her.

[@dexterbarnes5249]

Don't try to put yourself in competition with her past. Do you. If you're her apex, great, she'll never leave you. If you're not... Time is ticking...

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Paul’s the best. His channel Apex mindset is criminally underrated.

[@Navs126]

Ever since I heard you use this term in a prior video.. I’ve been dying to understand the whole concept behind it and here it is. Thanks!

[@mcbain434444]

Sounds like a whole lot of reasons to have sexual morality enforced. You know like every single society ended up doing. When this is abandoned society collapses.

[@dzllz]

We’re seeing the fall of the Roman Empire in real time

[@ericdon2148]

FACTS ☄☄☄☄☄... AWSOME CONTENT BIG BROTHERS.. KEEP THE TORCH BURNING.🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@studhammer]

Just stay single and work on yourselves, problem solved.

[@dracon501]

It's not just sex. She is comparing you to the funniest, most compassionate, most social, highest earning guy she has ever been with. She does this not fully understanding increases in each positive trait come with drawbacks in the others. A high earner most likely is not going to have the time to be spontaneous or have time to hit the gym to obtain rock hard abs. Chris Rock said in a standup that women do not want to move backwards on relationship standards. All the way until she describes her ideal man as a mythical 10/10 in all aspects.

[@dexterbarnes5249]

facts

[@kakalee5881]

She never realised her SMV collapsing to rubbish by hitting the wall… why they deserve the best ?

[@atariboi349]

Awesome discussion guys! With regard to your points on women keeping their EX’s floating around on their social media feeds. I experienced this first hand! Called my last EX out on this behaviour and she “attempted” to correct this by unfriending about 10 guys off Facebook but the red flag was there and I bailed. I moved away (from Toronto) and have blocked her. However, she found a way to contact me through a rogue email account and was doing her best to find out how I was doing and where I lived. 😂🤣 I ignored the email and blocked her once again!!!! Once I move on that’s it, never again!

[@SD-ci6kz]

Same. She didn’t know why she was still viewing the 2nd guy out of “10”she has slept with Snapchat stories 2 years later

[@strategic1710]

The two truly scary things about women are that most will never take responsibility for anything, and they will self-sabatoge their life, have no idea why, and blame men for it. He’s right, if a woman doesn’t see you as her best option the relationship will not last so don’t even try. It’s better to be with a 5 that respects you than a 9 that thinks she can do better.

[@j.desoto5870]

You can call a woman out on her B.S. just never get emotional during. Have all your ducks in a row before you approach her. Ignore crocodile tears. Do not let her get you off track. Stick to your point like a pit bull with lockjaw. Ignore all statements that are off topic like she didn't just say them. Stand your ground and she will buckle.

[@kurt6410]

That was excellent how Paul explained at 11:13 how women are hard wired to be deceiving. It makes perfect sense

[@JohnSmith-kb5ku]

Rich writing that down was hilarious.

[@jabulanimasukume5575]

Ive learned a lot, these lessons shud be mandatory in schools

[@JohnSmith-kb5ku]

Schools are the reason why men are this way. “Give me the boy until he’s 7 and will show you the man”. Teachers are 90% women.

[@marcusp905]

I leave my socks on the floor dirty, a day later they are in a draw washed!! As soon as this stops she is gone .

[@DanielPaprocki]

🤣👍🏻

[@marcusp905]

@Life of Attenborough I will monkey branch on to the next wench 😏

[@randont]

If that’s all that’s wrong you’re not ltr material.

[@bitcapone3173]

First guy shouldn’t expect a woman to be dedicated in the first month of dating and as you said never ask for exclusivity. He hung himself

[@stilllearning9590]

This is one of the best of BTT- funny thing about red pill, it is really about understanding how conditioned all of us (men and women) by a gynocentric imperative. Alpha widow as a concept that can be understood cognitively. This video really helps one understand how pervasive and powerful this effects so many relationships. Shows sides and levels of female behavior most men cannot even fathom.

[@suryasongs]

In b4 KZbin deletes this gold coz a feminist reported it

[@splashmoby]

3 years later

[@780truck]

This vid tonight is great education for all Males and how Women think... keep up the great work...

[@peachezprogramming]

It’s hard to hear all this information about women and not grow resentful of their nature.

[@kroan49]

Alpha windows are basically red pilled women when you think about it.

[@bigol7169]

I like Paul. Wise, humble and straight to the point

[@JohnSmith-kb5ku]

I’m not religious at all, but listening to the stories and the stats around notch count for women. It’s clear to see religion is an old philosophy for primitive people that has so much valuable information and insights. That’s why I don’t dismiss or criticise people who are religious. The ancient people knew that women are better for themselves and their partners if they haven’t been ruined trying to act like a man’s nature.

[@dieselmind15342]

Solid information, learned and saw a lot with in my own past interactions with women as well as a few young bucks I mentor. Thanks fellas keep it up 👍😎

[@robertponder6112]

Ran into that myself. The guy kept butting into my relationship and my then girlfriend was clearly a borderline personality behavioral type which invites this behavior. She consistently allowed him, after I investigated her emails, to make personal decisions for her and constantly tried to meet her in his city. I guessed the guy liked the pussy but wasn't into a relationship. There is no winning this scenario unless she finds you to be above this guy in overall physical and financial tally. Now I'll say this, the Alpha guy saved me from a huge painful mistake because this chick was a fraud in total. After the smoked cleared she had a criminal record and a varied past in sex work and prostitution. This chick cleaned up like you have never seen and found a dude to use for money that she kept well hidden. I learned that con artist are everywhere. I don't know what her true intent was but I gathered she tried to go strait and narrow with me only she had no clue what that was like. Then the game started and once I was able to look behind the curtain it was truly ugly.

[@Ace.0.0.0.]

If you are unfortunate enough to encounter a person (usually a women) with personality disorders, run far, run fast, and don't look back. President Donald Trump has been described as having a personality disorder. Borderline Personality Disorder is one example. Consult the website for the Mayo Clinic. You will find lots. Trust your gut. If your spidey sense starts tingling, listen to it.

[@bolt-dbtfg]

Thanks for sharing that story. Men need to be aware of such crazy and manipulative behaviour. And need to learn how to vet a woman's history. Even if it's for short term, because of she is BPD she could follow you around making your life difficult long after you've ended things with her

[@Ace.0.0.0.]

Borderline Personality Disorder types are very good at fooling people, but only initially. They cannot wear a mask forever. My stepmother was such a person. She was almost charged with fraud.

[@j.desoto5870]

In the 90s we called this the "Stripper Complex". Sex workers have a certain kind of psychology and personality. You can't wife up the town bike.

[@DanThomas1161]

What a fucked up world we live in.

[@Dawa202]

Thanks Gentleman brilliant advice and great insights... God bless

[@rockfidelity8229]

If you suspect she's been alpha widowed it's bc she has been. Never check her phone unless she trying to check yours. Always have options and make sure she knows it, that is the difference bw alphas and betas.

[@JT-fb2sh]

40:52 is my exact story. BPD "LTR" with a lot of distance (military) was eroded after 5 years by nearest beta comfort provider (literally neighbor). I am absolutely sure I am her apex and she repeatedly told me as much in her own words, but she constantly feared being abandoned, especially while I was deployed. It was hard for me to understand for a long time but this "Bambi-legged reverse dread game" concept puts it all into perspective. Now I'm wondering if I should have just let her fall to plate status... she's Alpha Widowed for sure now so I doubt she ever really moved on.

[@epgmonky]

Just want to give both of you a sincere thank you. Job well done.

[@vibeworldmeta]

So much eye opening stuff here, thanks guys

[@marcusp905]

They can smash that wine 🍇 lol what harm can it do its only 14 %

[@ABNfitness]

avoid em at all costs 😖 pay attention to the words “costs”

[@bryzen6515]

Invest in cat food gentleman

[@pokergreatest8829]

Gotta love that plug for that coffee cup ☕

[@mayorofthenonsense]

I’ve alpha-widowed a couple of girls over the last year - their dating went to shit because they now compare every new guy to me. Even men with far higher status and ‘value’ than I will ever have are second best, because they are available and seeking commitment, whereas I am not.

[@suryasongs]

Leave them better than you found them. I believe scarring them also scars the men in some way.

[@ApexMindset1]

Surya; Yes, and it does scar men and tends to crop up later as toxic behaviors when that man is trying to be in an LTR. I’ll do a video on this maybe. You want to leave them better then you found them as much as you can and they will allow.

[@flexibleaspect]

*You should leave yourself better than she found you.* Sometimes that means leaving her be rather than getting ‘entangled’.

[@kakalee5881]

By leaving it as blank you left them in a imagination self-indulgence which put you on the position no one else can beat 😂 great job 👏

[@Jay-ef2ii]

This is priceless wisdom coming from an Ex-Chad. In the end, many women who were lookers will fade in their looks, and they will be frustrated that they married a beta man in the end. Yes, they married for security but they will dislike him and will be embarrassed of him when she is out in public with him. Chad Flex was her lust dream but it did not materialize so now she has to settle for Robert The Nerd; a Physics teacher who is an adjunct faculty member at Yale or Cornell University. USA.

[@j.desoto5870]

and they will cheat on him if they think they will get away with it. Women have a particular interest in feeling young again.

[@InfuzeDcyphR]

lmfao so Gawd damn true

[@vyzardojaggerjack6387]

Great content guys.

[@youngorion1524]

13:10 there is a video where a young woman made a dating profile as a guy and did what she thought would net a lot of girls based on what she "knew" to be attractive and found out the reality of it within a week.

[@j.desoto5870]

Alexander Grace

[@user-no6gf5kf2r]

12:00 ~ & 58:00 ~ From here just love it

[@alfianbon9885]

23:44 The ideal situaton in the "enforcement" of Socially Enforced Monogamy is for every one man to marry one virgin bride. Religion was used to get this in place, but apparently nature has successfully "fought back"

[@j.desoto5870]

Actually communism. Feminism turned out to be a communist fifth column. It's an interesting dive.

[@solomonking328]

Paul is a great addition to the team!

[@skatevidcentral]

Paul's channel is awesome, this was a great vid

[@Bryanjdominguez]

I thought that was Fedor Emelianenko

[@haf8458]

I had a ons with a chick and as I’m leaving her house at 5 am I opened the door and met a guy that was her ride to work. Clearly a friend zoned dude that has known this girl for years trying to get what I got in a few hours…

[@MrSamadolfo]

🤔 Deceptive By Nature? I didnt know that

[@Dawa202]

Survival

[@MrSamadolfo]

@@Dawa202 🙂 oh i see

[@danielpetresc]

Super show!I love it!Respect!

[@gregredpill6163]

There's no alpha widows, females etc. They're feminist plane and simple.

[@kennethmills5470]

Fema Nazi

[@Star-hg1kt]

Thanks Paul; Apex Mindset for reminding us to hit that like button LOL

[@codyb8278]

One best videos for info on here

[@hansblitz7770]

Some chick that rimmed me about 80 times is getting married. Kiss the bride.

[@ChattinBoxingWYB]

Women take the last names of men that they respect and see as high value. Aka DMX' ex wife, David Bowie, Eddie Murphy and Mick Jagger's ex wives! Despite their wives being divorced, they still keep their ex husband's last names. As they have been Alpha widowed! A woman cannot and will never move from their best. Also Friends Actress Jennifer Anniston is the perfect example of someone who is Alpha Widowed. She will never move on from Brad Pitt.

[@PumpkinKingXXIII]

That or the women who were trophie wives to alpha. They don’t understand that they have deprecated and that’s why there ex is with a new one who is 20 years younger. I have a friend who is last years model trophie wife, I was trying to explain why men her own age with the cash her ex had only pump and dump because they might ride in a banged out old camary but they buy the new car. A rich alpha doesn’t put another mans garage sale trophy on his mantle.

[@Jbisme13]

I hate when the commentators claim “oh back when I was a Chad”. Nobody buys that, you complain about women for a reason, Chad has no reason to complain. Not buying it.

[@j.desoto5870]

Some men are great at getting laid but bad at relationships. Some of those men are trying to solve that.

[@splashmoby]

No man is perfect buddy, sometimes we fall off, but we are all constantly working to better ourselves

[@corby1228]

She took down her late hubby pic after a few weeks. But prior status was on her mind. I Gave her the best feelings in her life. But the earlier years were social status entitlement materialism.

[@kovokilla]

more with this guy!! legit stuff

[@jong5156]

Sometimes you learn more from seeing the other side when a woman shows you attention and they have a boyfriend.

[@j.desoto5870]

It's a disgusting feeling. A girl always shrinks in my eyes when she does that.

[@j.desoto5870]

In my 20s, I was very good looking, even though I was 5'7" and skinny. This was during the mid 90's. I ran across a web page titled "How to Lay Girls Guide", and even though I was getting tons of sex, I read through the site to see if I could add to my ability. See, word got around the girls that I would have sex, even do bondage on them safely, and that would be that. I didn't kiss and tell, I never disrespected them, and I never manipulated them or got attached. So I was having sex with all of them. I was the go-to guy. I saw some neat tricks on the site, but I don't like being manipulative, so never practiced the techniques. I have checked into the culture off and on over the years, and have picked up some very valuable insights into how a typical woman thinks. Ultimately, I think The Game is bad for you. Men cannot have inconsequential sex. It affects our ability to bond just as much as women's. The cure for adultery is not more adultery. No one is a player at 90. They are a dirty old man, and I do not want to go out like that. I listened to a Hank Williams song "Rootie Tootie", and it describes plate spinning. That was the norm until the boomer generation. The difference is you didn't have sex with the plates. This culture has a lot of insight to offer, but some things are unhealthy. Eventually I got bored with sex and went on a long celibacy streak. I think that was my psychological immune system righting the ship. Just my train of thought and 2¢. Sex before marriage is bad for everyone. - John

[@napoleonkrishnabayu9768]

31:30 what to do when a girl keeps past couple pictures when dating you

[@splashmoby]

What you do when you realized you are being alpha widowed.

[@nathanricetalks]

Hey, really interesting podcast. I have one question tho: How does the dynamic change when she's really a widow? So she's been alpha widowed by a guy who's literally dead? Does it make the situation better or worse?

[@splashmoby]

Worse. You'll be trying to piece back together a broken porcelain cup.

[@MrCox2121]

The only real solution is to avoid the marriage trap.

[@Benucci_music]

Not guna lie. I've been ploughing Paul's tail for years

[@SonnyCrocket-p6h]

I agree to not bother long distance in the US, but bro, you really DO need to look over Columbian women if you "think' that women are the same everywhere, They are NOT. most emphatically. I DO agree that you should never get involved with, much less marry, one over which you dont have some sort of a club, and when you lose that club (ie, she becomes a US citizen) it's time to dump her and get another one where she came from . I definitely had oneitis plus the "Romeo and Juliet effect" over my first woman, 45 years ago and it messed me up for many years. She was married to a man who made 10x as much money as me. I couldn't believe that the dumbass didn't dump her over the affair with me. It went on for years and years. She even moved in with me (twice) Both times, 6 weeks later, her having refused to help me pay the bills. I called to ask him if he wanted her back, and he DID! Sheesh, once I can (kind of) see, but TWICE? However, that has proved to be an inoculation against it ever happening again. I had to marry my current lady in order to stay in Columbia and to get the VA money for her college, and her college loans. and of course, also to get her into the US. I'm 71 and she's 21, tho.:-) By the time she's free to divorce me, I'll most likely be too old to care, if I even live that long. (ie almost 6 years). She's a sweetie, very smart, lovely, sexy, but without that "club" of her (badly) wanting to get a college degree and go to the US, I'd never have risked it.

[@kevbrown2589]

What is "Frame Control"? Sorry, I am new here, I keep hearing that.

[@fars7463]

Google it bro?

[@drishy94303]

Read Rollo Tomassi book

[@johnq.public3302]

The ability to walk away at ANY time.

[@carygregory7772]

Grateful 🙏

[@ethankendall9499]

The bigger the hoop? Shit! She's been wearing those all week!

[@PeteSwagg]

Thank you so much.

[@kamartaylor7963]

IMPORTANT QUESTION PLEASE SOMEONE ANSWER OR MAYBE A DEBATE. I FULLY UNDERSTAND THAT WOMEN WILL BE ATTACHED TO THEIR CHILDREN.....BUT IS THERE EVEN A POSSIBILTY THAT THE FEMALE WILL RESENT THE CHILDREN SHE HAD WITH THE MAN THAT WAS NOT HER IDEAL MATE? ESPECIALLY IF THE ALPHA WOULD COME BACK INTO THE PICTURE, SHE SORT STARTS TREATING HER CHILDREN WITH RESENTMENT. I COULD CARE LESS HOW SHE TREATS ME, BUT ITS MY CHILDREN THAT I WOULD BE CONCERNED FOR.

[@lizziebennet2084]

Interesting. I think maybe unconsciously this is possible. I don’t know anyone with this problem but I believe there are women of every kind of behavior, and narcissistic mothers do exist. So, it is possible that a woman regret having children with the “beta”, but I am not an expert of the subject.

[@rm6857]

Many times mums throw away kids to have fun. Search 'kill to party'

[@splashmoby]

There is always a possibility but her innate female nature is to love her children not you. If she resents her children she got deep seated issues.

[@__Lopps]

I agree with he alpha presence/sexual desire. I was the "best sex" of a courtships sexual history. She actually reaches out to me once a month trying to see how I'm doing. I am definitely good on that. lol

[@rullangaar]

Homo sapiens is not a monogamous species. During most of our evolution we lived in foraging groups where polygyny and polyandry was the norm. Once you realize that you‘re free.

[@willhelmberkly3025]

False. The majority of men did not contribute to the gene pool prior to the agricultural revolution. If you want to create a society in which most men have healthy and consistent sexual access then monogamy is the only option . Hey but if you want to go play "jungle -life" with Tyrone be my guest.

[@pierrevanhalteren5733]

Hey guys, if women applies the same attitude towards you that I see in those videos best is probably not to try mixing at all.

[@Mrbfgray]

What sort of weak beta is going to pop the "where do we stand" question? Good Grief. All this adds up to women being the stronger sex in this context.

[@j.desoto5870]

If you chase a woman you lose all your power.

[@kirbyaugustine761]

Will Smith has left the chat

[@clarkfluegel6875]

Well I'm alpha as fuck haha. So I'm not worried about it. I'm the ultimate alpha ghost

[@Inner-gains]

Will the first guy who she has kids to always be the alpha, will another man be able to take his place?

[@shtfvan8084]

No. You had to ask so you weren't alpha, and if you were, you lost sight of it when you apologized for cheating after getting caught. Never apologize. Youre never wrong even if you cheat. It was her fault that you cheated. The dude before you was most likely more alpha, you just never thought about that. She is searching for anything but you. Face it and move on

[@shtfvan8084]

I dated a chick who had one 3 year old son, and her baby daddy wanted to get back with her so bad, but I came along and Chad'd her up. She never looked back. He cried, tried to fight me. Kinda felt sorry for the guy. I eventually lost some of the alpha energy after 2 years, and we split. She didn't go back to her baby daddy. She got knocked up by someone somewhat more alpha than me at the time, and had 3 kids by him. She will have kids by another alpha , but most alpha's ain't saving these how's so you might have a chance, but then again why would you want to go back? It wont work unless God steps in

[@cathrynisaac8077]

Another can take his place

[@splashmoby]

She was never yours, it's just your turn.

[@IllIlllI]

So thousands of years of evolution has ended in a system which is optimized on our survival. And what do Woman do? They break it, instead of choosing the best male, scoring in all five categories, she choses two scoring higher in different categories...

[@dexterbarnes5249]

Each category often has tradeoffs in others A guy who's hot & good at sex probably won't commit A guy who will commit, has money & is compassionate probably isn't hot Very rare is it that the 5 categories show up to a high degree in the same guy so women have to make tradeoffs depending on their age. When she's young and hot, she'll try to take the alpha so he commits. When she's older she'll try to get the beta to "alpha up." She's trying to get the best of all 5 categories, just that she can't

[@stevec3526]

When a girlfriend was ovulating I often noticed that her breath smelled different.

[@kasparovthegodofwar]

Every "wholesome" ex I've ever had is still single with no kids. They're still trying to hook up by any means They want to have kids with the best option. They will always compare suitors to their alpha...forever 17:40 reminds me of banging a girl before her boyfriend picks me up at her house to drop me off at the train station to go home. Dude had no clue She was 19 and I was 16 😂

[@schwerpunkt7687]

Short nerd and bald nerd telling other nerds how not to be nerds. Classic.

[@fede3j]

he's 6" 2

[@schwerpunkt7687]

@@fede3j yes, the bald nerd. Reading is fundamental.

[@sweetio]

Bruh

[@santoparfano1910]

Those in glass houses....

[@j.desoto5870]

Are you ridiculing intelligence?

[@DeviantDeveloper]

It's cool the MLD guy has overcome his feelings of low self-esteem and come out finally, great to have gaay representation in the community...

[@bigvic950]

money

[@jcgillin51]

That Paul guy is somewhat annoying, have no idea what women see in him. Sometimes when men like him brag about his experiences there not always true.

[@playerhater948]

It’s all subjective bro he’s gotta be doing something right

[@j.desoto5870]

Meh I am straight. All guys are ugly to me.

[@Genevasplaytime]

Men always exaggerate unlike women

[@DeviantDeveloper]

MLD checks his boyfriend's fone, of course he does, he'll always cheat.

[@فارسالهيجاء-ض5و]

40:00

[@duke9555]

How come all these relationship experts have the same vocabulary / sounds like a 'religion' quoting a bible ....John 3:16 ... Romans 10:13 etc LTR SMD FRAME etc

[@splashmoby]

It's called terminology, so you understand the context better.

[@craigm4204]

Don't get into a committed relationship ever. Modern people are so toxic on both sides but particularly woman as they are greatly encouraged to be that way. Also the whole it's your job as a man to provide and it's natural for women to want the best provider thing is not true historically or biologically. It's true culturally post industrialism but really much more recently then that. For most of human history woman were partners in providing and infact probably did MORE do provide then men and the children helped as well. This is true for most mammal arrangements. It's always been shared provision or females do more or even all providing. Even most non mammals have this arrangement. Ever watched birds build a nest, hatch eggs then hunt for food doe the chicks? Is it the male that does it all? No it's shared they both build the nest l, they take turns sitting on the eggs/hatchlings they take turns hunting. And this is true for most human history. Stop using this so called natural inclination as an excuse for shitty behaviour.

[@pokergreatest8829]

Gotta love that plug for that coffee cup ☕

[@fanoftheshow1724]

There is no honor in being a victim