Building emotional safety | Sally 05 | In Therapy with Alex Howard

[@providentialhealth]

The process is so painful, but once a person gets to the core and they release all the pain that has been hidden inside, it is so beautiful and freeing!

[@pamsunderland6095]

I had a few tears with her. Hope that things start to help her get it all out. I wish her all the best. Peace and Love Pammy

[@lisadennys6045]

Another valuable session to witness! I understand where Sally is at...the fear of feeling the feelings, the autopilot of shutting them off and just carrying on. I have been there in my past, and thanks to great therapy & gradual learning/ practice, I really feel so much more now, all the time, as part of daily living. I still have work to do on accepting certain intensity of feelings in certain circumstances...it is a work in progress! I appreciated Alex’s fine line dance to push the edges to explore, but not push too much to break trust and safety. I also appreciated his explanation about how feeling what we feel is less hard on our body. That has been a hard won lesson for me in recent years and has continued to be key in my ongoing chronic Lyme/ fatigue recovery.

[@KlaraKluczykowska]

Lisa Dennys I keep fingers crossed for you!

[@gillianroberts5147]

Thank you sally and Alex, as soon as sally said that she had to be strong and to not feel things I just started crying. I also could relate to Sally and her need to push emotions down. Thank you again with love.

[@WendyEJenkins]

I feel like Sally has verbalised exactly how I feel, having that heavy uncomfortable feeling around my heart area that I refuse to feel into. Most of the time I feel emotional flat and numb and when I do try and feel what’s there I just feel like I want to cry. Sally even said the words I always say, about the need to keep strong and ‘keep calm and carry on’ because people need me. Thank you for sharing Sally

[@jordanbarnes9127]

Thank you Alex for these wonderful videos. I’m a 28 year old man, and I’ve had cfs for 10 years now. I’ve followed you for a few months and have really been sitting with your videos on emotions and calming the nervous system. They’ve been extremely helpful when it comes to picking up on emotions in my body, and cultivating a capacity to feel and heal. Your videos give someone like me hope. You’re doing excellent work and I would love to enroll in one of your programs later this year or the next. I have plenty of thoughts, feelings, and experiences to unpack. Right now I’m looking into disability and things like that so that I can have some more tangible options for my needs. Thanks again!

[@kristycohan9378]

This was a great share, numbness... has been a big shadow for me. I've learned to allow my feelings with love and compassion. (Sure wish they would go away and I could feel bliss in my core.) I'm taking a year long coarse with Wendy De Rosa called Intuitive Healer, one of the things she talks about is: most of us function from our front Chakras and that our Chakras have a back side too. It's where the Divine Light enters. So Wendy says, sometimes we close the back channels and work from the front which can drain us. I'm learning, when I have feel strong feelings, to lean back and feel the Divine Hand supporting me. Thanks Sally for sharing with us so we can learn and Alex for telling us where we can focus in the Reset Program to work on this. Virtual hugs to you both!

[@daniw.5481]

Dear Sally, I can so relate! It can feel tremendously overwhelming when you start to lift the lid on that accumulated elephant graveyard of suppressed emotions (Alex loves the phrase "how do you eat an elephant? one bite at a time" - this one is more like "how do you eat a whole goddamn elephant graveyard"). Thank you for being brave enough to let us be part of the process, you´re helping a lot of people I´m sure! Hugs to you and thanks Alex

[@viviennecherry3371]

Thanks for sharing, Sally. I feel like I’m at about the same point in my journey, just starting to realise how much I haven’t let myself feel anything for so long. I picked up a number of harmful coping mechanisms over the years, and now that I’ve managed to drop them, all those emotions I chose to drown out are flooding back. I’ve found journaling and EFT to be helpful. All the best to Sally and thank you Alex.

[@colleenbarham6567]

So real and raw,actually made me cry. Learning about our feelings being a warning sign of the body, and how we can physically drain the body. Even though I personally feel this is a very hard process,learning to be gentle and kind with ourselves to grow our capacity to experience our feelings,and that it is ok to distract ourselves in this process was reassuring. To have the insight that we can little by little be curious about our feelings in a gentle way and feel safe so we can connect with the incredible wisdom of the body to transform our life and find joy is very empowering.

[@spiritualitywithzoe]

Another brilliant episode i can totally relate to Sally sometimes it's so hard to really acknowledge how we feel especially if it's a negative emotion. I'm super excited to see how Hannah is getting on

[@andreabuntpercy]

I was in the process of opening to my feelings when a very stressful series of events over a long period of time was finally coming to an end. But I wasn't quite there yet and the ending was not necessarily going to be a slam dunk. It could have gone either way. I felt like I was on a ride at an amusement park, the one that throws you from side to side in a room very quickly and hard. And I felt as if I was losing my mind, my go to 'tower of strength' for most of my life. There was no sorting out these problems using brain power alone. Thankfully thee crisis ended happily a few days later. I became a hermit for a while because in company I'm quite reactive..... I've just had a good session with my Shaman, and my Naturopath prescribed some more homeopathic nerve remedies. Now I'm even more intent on getting back to progress on feeling my feelings!! I'm 71 - just older - not working with chronic fatigue. But I find your sessions, Alex, are right on target for my situation too.

[@Tam438]

this is brilliant! SO helpful! Thank you 🙌

[@martinadonnelly3370]

Hi Alex I’m so enjoying these sessions as a lot of it resonates with my way of dealing with my feelings I often feel guilty for having emotional moments as if I am weak. These sessions are really helping me look at this more closely. Martina

[@donnajohnson8035]

There’s something in those eyes!!! ❤️❤️

[@christinafly8619]

I SO relate to Sally, especially feeling numb. I sometimes feel like I’m so numb that I couldn’t even answer the question about how it feels in my body. I guess maybe it feels like my whole body is clenched at all times, like I’ve got a death grip on life to be in control. I believe this is a major part of my insomnia. The numbness makes me feel dumb and in the dark when it comes to trying to work through my emotional issues. I struggle with feeling defeated because I have a 4 year old daughter that I want to be able to keep up with, but the fatigue and fragility make me feel like a failure as a parent or even a bad example because I have to lie down so much more than I’d like. So she watches more TV than I’d like. I just want to be my old energetic self and enjoy life again. 😔😩

[@charlotteinez3160]

I relate to feeling that deep drop sadness and not knowing why/ what it's about and the resistant to it because why would I want to make myself feel sad!? Haha but I've realised that if I don't feel that then it's just energy stuck in my body that needs shifting...

[@andreabuntpercy]

Go well, Sally!

[@baja1988_Texas]

I've been in Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn (FFF&F) for so long now, I don't know what it feels like to be any other way. When a feeling pops up not related to FFF&F, I get scared and a nano-second later I get angry. And once I'm angry it's almost impossible to think rationally.

[@timothyskene]

Yep I’m connecting to a lot of this Management and leadership, holding back on the raw emotions. Being dismissive of those emotions coming up in myself and not giving them expression later...Because I’ve been an all or nothing achiever I can do the anger bit and it can become or be interpreted as aggression or even abuse. So I shut it down and it rattles through my body taking my energy and incapacitating my muscles through fibromyalgia. My difficulty is not even able to manage the shower cry. Instead it builds up and comes out occasionally in overwhelming tears of deep grief and frustration. I often feel like I’m trapped in my own body. Like being in a glass cage looking out on the world but never fully able to engage with it. EFT doesn’t seem to do much for me... I’d be really interested to know any other pointers on how to constructively deal with my emotions day to day? I’m doing the awareness and acknowledgement bit and breathing into the emotion. Any pointers for dealing with the old stuff which I can revisit easy enough . I don’t find them that scary... Sorry for the splurge but Sally’s amazing story and honesty and commonality bring it into the arena for me. Great to see you’re making such great progress Sally. All the best to you on your road to full recovery.

[@ekaeteekop5616]

I don't get this. As I listen to Sally speak, my chest seems to be on fire. I don't understand it. It is so uncomfortable I am taking intentional deep breaths to see if I can cool it down. I resonate too with a lot she is saying.