I resonate with this topic but I don't intentionally set out to hurt anyone, but I know I have. Mostly my kids, for staying with their abusive (verbally, mentally, emotionally and physically) father. He still rages at me as though everything that upsets him is somehow my fault. I am safe and no longer with him but the trauma inflicted upon me and them has deep wounds. I have been in Therapy to heal those wounds but I still have a long way to go. I too, had little Boundaries but I am learning. If you know you have wounds it is absolutely our responsibility to heal them and not take it out on others.

Our father told us we "weren't people" until we were around 16-17. We were to be seen and not heard.

Building a stronger interior a plan of action person centred care is the energy realise momentum to help the inner Burden be enlightened and finding peaceful meaningful purpose

Yes, i have all of these symptoms except I have fluctuated appetite, sometimes i have good appetite and i can eat a lot; sometimes i don't feel of eating at all. Thank you for your educative video btw! ❤😢

Well done, Belle, what an amazing journey you're on. It takes a lot to work through all that scary stuff, but the only way to get past it is to go through it. Wishing you all the best for the future, and thank you for being brave enough to share your experience with us!

Amazing session thank you for sharing. So many lessons and powerful questions we can all use on ourselves.

Belle is truly lovely❤

Wowwww true

i cant sleep i am feeling lowing i cant get my emotions out in my body i am down lot i get my vice in my head iam not happy in my self at mount my life is hard in my self my vice talk my self in my head iam feeling up and down i find difficult understand my self of my life of and more of my friends and family

is it the same when hurt people hurt themselves?

Music, writing,

Your video was excellent. I suffered from childhood trauma which I didn't really recognize until it came out in therapy. My journey to becoming a whole person took decades of self-discovery, but was well-worth it. One of the ways I have learned to deal with trauma is to focus on my breathing. I take a very deep breath, as much as I can take in, then slowly let it out as I envision myself slowly going down an escalator to a safe place. My safe place is the beach. I even sometimes envision a cozy little all glass room there, with a comfortable couch I can lie on and peer out at the ocean. I am a retired family physician, and now am even fortunate enough to actually live at the beach. I have tried to teach my patients about their trauma, and how it impacts their lives negatively, and many have benefitted from understanding and acting upon it using the techniques you have described. I am grateful to find these principles so artfully explained by you in your video. People can watch it over and over again if they need to. I want to add that I am a spiritual person, though not particularly religious. Nevertheless, a belief in God, which I came to later in life after being agnostic, has helped me immensely. The saying "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will guide your paths," has given me great peace.

Sir, I got an email from an email starting with hello@, about a Decode Your Nervous System is a powerful five-day serie. I do wonder if its an autentic offer as it sounds interesting but don’t know if it’s really from your platform.

You are speaking to me. I've sort of contained my rage for 66 years. In the last several months, I can't control my rage, frequently screaming during phone conversations. Then I hate myself. Ty, your style speaks to me. Gonna watch the trauma video you suggest.

Thank you, Alex.

I do not recall ever intentionally setting out to hurt someone...even those who did me great harm. I had no boundaries then to protect myself; now I do. There are things in my past that, upon reflection, I am not proud of. Complex PTSD warps us. The proof of my new understanding of boundaries (against 'pain passers') came recently as the result of the abject misery inflicted upon me by a long time 'friend'. Never again.

Damaged people do damage to others. Compassion for ourselves and for others is essential...as is having effective boundaries.

Very wise and simply put.Also healing our wounds can help with our karmic patterns as well.

this is so true 😢

All of them in different spans of time, they happen to come together and enhanced when anxiety and work overload go up.

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Mannnn I am so glad I found you I wish you went deeper You speak slowly and calmly . It helps keeps us calm

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Jesse, we need to break bad habits

So whats the answer to the question of looks? its kind of omitted in the video?

Thank you so much Dr. Alex Howard. You don't know how much that is helping my daughter to understand her issues. I don't know if that will help her get free of depression, anxiety and other issues but it is definitely making her put those things in proper perspective. Thank you.

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It would be great if Alex could do a follow-up with you, Hayley About how you are doing now. ❤ I hope you are ok. You deserve the best.

Dear Hayley, you are amazing. You deserve the best in this life. ❤ This episode was a breakthrough in your therapy. So glad you got to realize you deserve to be treated well. It's so exciting to see how you advanced in your journey, dear Hayley. I've seen 6 episodes with you. For now this one is the most powerful. I've seen it like 5 times and will rewatch it. I rewatch all the episodes with you at least 3 times. So much information. I also have that problem that i justify my father's abuse to me. I'm struggling to see it's not my fault. So your therapy journey is exceptionally useful for people like me. 😢 Thank you! ❤

seriously? you think meditation is as good as having a loving person in your life that can give you a hug and be there for you? I don't think so...

Well done Belle ❤

🩷I just adore Katie,she is so sweet and is trying so hard. I can so relate to her! Wish you were my therapist Alex,mine is great but you are phenomenal 🩵. Thanks for sharing your gift.

How do I meet the need myself when it’s help with things i physically cannot do? Or need for relationship as others have said?

I really resonate with all 7 of these - feeling understood and seen perhaps for the first time in 57 years!

I absolutely relate to all 7 of these - feeling seen and understood by this video!

oh, Beverly, you are remarkably inspiring! Thank you for doing this. I'm almost 64 and I feel much like you did about your life. I'm looking forward to seeing your progress.

I loved the book and was actually when I finished it!

This has been very helpful as I go through EMDR therapy. You are inspirational and a clear communicator.

excellent illustration. I went through lot of emotional trauma through my marriage because my spouse was aggressive. I didn’t realize that I was storing everything. He ended up getting help, but then I started having all the symptoms you were talking about nowhere. working with the therapist, but I think the biggest thing I took away from here is that when I feel angry for no reason or depressed it is part of my recovery

Thank you. As far as I experienced, the biggest problem in the way of getting relief from our mental an peshiclogical matters, is not recognizing and or abilities of naming them. This kind of summarizing of the whys and how the traumas creation, and step by step recognizing process, naming them, and knowingly abandoning them, is the best therapy solution I have ever heard.👍👌🙏

Thanks Belle, for allowing yourself to be vulnerable in such a delicate situation. Right from the get-go, I was impressed with how well spoken you are ~~~ you are very bright and insightful, and clear with your words. I'm now almost 83, and it took my until about the age of 50 to finally explore and express my feelings, and I'm still working on it. I'm very happy for you about your current situations and changes. Well done, to you, and of course, to Alex.

No wonder I’m so fk’d up… I was raised like a feral child… I was always afraid and dismissed… not shown any love really … but wasn’t necessarily abused either

Chinese face reading and non verbal body languange, I am obsessed with that

I had all those things made bad decisions became overwhelmed and destroyed myself . People pleasing was terrible. Trying to get better. Going to a therapist.

Thank you, Alex. I am learning so much by watching your videos. I'm in a men's group where we often say, "Your work is my work." Being able to sit in on these sessions offers me such beneficial information and validation of my personal work.

Great updates, Belle. You worked really hard on some scary stuff and should feel so proud. The body image stuff, particularly for women, is so ingrained in us from such an early age, that it sometimes feels impossible to totally break free from it, but feeling healthy and good about looking after our health is a great step. You look at peace and you are definitely glowing! Best wishes to you.

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It's uplifting and inspiring to see you feeling and doing so well, Belle. You're so much more positive, stable and resilient than you were at the beginning of your sessions with Alex. As an integrative therapist who had lots of relationship misery and therapy earlier in my life -- and a very pernicious Inner Critic -- I followed your sessions with great interest, identified with you and your struggles and felt for you every second of those sessions. I've learnt more from you that you could imagine, and I'm hugely impressed by your courage, openness and perseverence. I wish you all the love, happiness and success that you deserve ... and then some. Take excellent care of your excellent Self. 🙂

meditation on youtube i like work outsit dancing and art music listen read book

Belle, you are so brave and courageous! Thank you for being so authentic and transparent! Congratulations on moving to your own place and on a healthy beginning to a new relationship! I love that you have know him for 10 years! You are so bright and beautiful on the inside and out! I hope you will continue to update us on your life’s journey! All the very best to you!