Byron Katie Goes Step By Step Through a Specific Example of The Work (Four Questions & Turnarounds)

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In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being.
Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.
Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her books, public events, weekend workshops, intensives, and nine-day School for The Work have brought freedom to people all over the world.
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@squamish4244 Жыл бұрын

I have struggled with many mental health and substance abuse problems in my life. I have worked very hard on them. The fact that she awakened at a women's shelter in the midst of numerous mental health problems and substance abuse is inspirational and hopeful to me.

@JesseChappus Жыл бұрын

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@claresmith9261 2 жыл бұрын

It all starts with believing our thoughts, nothing beyond that , not always easy to accept.... I’ve done the work for years now and all I can do a lot is laugh at the whole magnificence of life She’s a gift to this universe... she’d be a wonderful ambassador for world peace ❤️

@JesseChappus 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Clare! :)

@evelynmontez3565 2 жыл бұрын

She is so good. It causes you to look at your thought processes you hate to give up. Many times they are distorted but we insist on revisiting them over and over.

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

@leahannwhite1111 10 ай бұрын

The beliefs she hasn't questioned are imagined. 💓

@oneconsc3333 2 ай бұрын

Because the TRUTH is "nothing is happening".... the mind creates the story which gives everything meaning, this is the egoic mind and this IS OUR PRISON. If you continue to believe yourself to be this person, especially your name which is the root of your illusion, then you will always suffer and never realize that you and everything in existence comes from unconditional love. You are the awareness which observes all things, not the body mind which feels, reacts and stores all illusory experiences🙏🏻💜🇨🇦🕉️

@chocomanger6873 2 жыл бұрын

I've been doing The Work for about 15 years now. It's just one of those things that is pure, as opposed to the plethora of "self-help" procedures you can go through. It's simple and common sense. It's just a way of seeing something from different perspectives. That can be really helpful. Sometimes it can be very insightful.

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

Not pure at all! She literally cites alot of believes she hasn'tquestioned yet: Katie's belief's she obviously hasn't questioned yet: - "The ego is offering up what I'm not (in this moment now)" - "The ego is what we're reacting out of" - "I see two really confused human beings at war" - "We're people at war with each other an the example that sets for everyone lese"' and more

@mariogalvez427 Жыл бұрын

Does it matter? Would be a better question. Our mind tags meanings to the outside world. Nothing is good or bad until our mind gives it a meaning. In the end, nothing really matters. Unless we want to.

@troecurov3 Жыл бұрын

@@mariogalvez427 we clearly understand, even children, what's bad or good. Clearly.

@troecurov3 Жыл бұрын

Hi , I am really struggling with different psychological issues, specifically in my family. I was wondering if you think that approach could be helpful please?

@GMR.24 Жыл бұрын

@@Helter195 That's not how this works. It's not a one and done thing. You don't ever complete the work. It is a process. We will never reach a point where we will stop thinking, until we are gone. Many of our thoughts are automatic, and as people, it is natural that some of these thoughts will be stressful. The work is a way to process those stressful thoughts as they come, and look at our views from other possible perspectives, and see if we can find one that feels true and doesn't bring us pain. I also started doing the work about 13 years ago. It has helped me tremendously. I am not as reactive as I used to be, but I'm also still human. There are situations that come up, between friends, family, coworkers etc. Life in general. If I find myself stuck on something, I do The Work on it, and it always helps. This isn't a gimmick or a business tactic. It's a way for people to help themselves get through the tough stuff. If you think that this is something you do one time and then you're cured- then you're fully mistaken. It helps to truly understand what something is, before making up your mind that it's bogus or "not working". Also, Byron Katie has all her teachings of The Work (instructions, explanations, worksheets, etc) available for free to everyone.

@deej7188 2 жыл бұрын

I know this is completely random & off topic but she has beautiful hands & fingers!

@marthayanethgomezplata9036 9 ай бұрын

Like all the people who have hands. Many don't.

@juliegusmerotti9249 4 ай бұрын

I noticed the same thing! Lol.

@michaelhare9608 15 күн бұрын

Well I wonder if she knows? Should we point it out?

@lauracragun5974 Жыл бұрын

SHE has done the work. Her eyes... they show it. Thank you for this

@mrmcclear 2 жыл бұрын

If these videos had a million views, the world would be a better place.

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

Is that true?

@kokos6030 Жыл бұрын

Who the hell can endure this much blabbing?

@JoeRussellProductions Жыл бұрын

@@kokos6030 What part is blabbing to you? Many people find the 4 questions to be incredibly helpful.

@agusteschmidt9686 7 ай бұрын

A lot of people are stuck on trying to understand this literally. She is giving an example of how to transform your relationships because you also need to give up on your fixations which create barriers in your relationships. When we say, you are doing this, its a place that creates a barrier in the relationship. When we can hold ourselves also responsible to the relationship we can give up struggling.

@mariogalvez427 Жыл бұрын

Two great books to read: The Untethered Soul and Living Untethered by Michael Singer. It simplifies our understand of where our thoughts and emotions come from. Until we deal with the roots of those reasons, we just continue suppressing (resisting), and putting temporary bandages to our past traumas. The works is a great tool, but it doesn't work for everybody and it is not guaranteed that one cannot distort the results. Our mind loves to intellectualize everything.

@eydaalvarez1170 Жыл бұрын

Those books are absolutely wonderful!

@dalelight8340 2 жыл бұрын

She always touches me, assisting me to see that I am here to constantly inquire, to constantly search for what truly is my truth. This is the Work, the ongoing ness of the process, the relentlessness to discover clarity and compassion with myself and with all others.

@JesseChappus 2 жыл бұрын

Happy she's been a guiding light Dale :)

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

@Metaphyical0samak Жыл бұрын

I Am Grateful for this

@nadiawilliams5865 Ай бұрын

This is such profound shadow work. So grateful for this content

@Ra-thesunking 9 ай бұрын

Love how you get right into it ✨💖🙏 thank you, thank you so much

@thatswhatnicksaid 3 ай бұрын

Her insights at the end of the video, super deep.

@beingoneness5831 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Universe 🙏🏼😇😍

@JesseChappus 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching! :)

@corirenata6541 2 жыл бұрын

I feel like weeping with relief as I listen to this tonight. After 2 and half years of ding the work I am starting to melt.

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

@htc1144 Жыл бұрын

@@andyreacts ok we get it

@aubreythomas4477 2 жыл бұрын

Great teachings!! Thanks for sharing!😊

@JesseChappus 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Aubrey - glad you enjoyed!

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

@forgetfat3207 25 күн бұрын

I needed this

@JesseChappus 23 күн бұрын

💙

@karanbirkaur6528 2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!!!

@JesseChappus 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Karanbir 💙

@freisein6554 Жыл бұрын

This an excellent tool, to be used in therapy. I am combining it with clinical hypnosis and EMDR. Thank you for uploading. ✨👍✨

@JesseChappus Жыл бұрын

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@mariogalvez427 Жыл бұрын

EMDR or even just clinical hypnosis should be enough. The work system is good, but it could also allow the person to over analyze and rationalize any situation to justify things. Is it true? In the mind of a dysfunctional person the answer is yes.

@GMR.24 Жыл бұрын

@@mariogalvez427 The answer can be yes. She always says she's not pushing people to a yes or a no. It's about inquiry, and just asking and thinking. There is no right or wrong answer.

@nivedithau1755 8 ай бұрын

I found it difficult to understand

@hals816 3 ай бұрын

Me too!

@sithabisodube 28 күн бұрын

Me too. Moments here and there, but difficult to synthesize and practice.

@tuninghumans Жыл бұрын

Byron Katie is ah-mazing. However this example was hard for my client to follow because it was kind of unclear to hear for a new person. Looking for the best beginner videos now for new to Byron people. Any recommendations?

@ljkoh20052000able 9 ай бұрын

Mind is not body but it is one unit. Never to be considered separate thou different.

@beyou2133 4 күн бұрын

May I share my experience with the work? I tried it a couple months ago and it worked a dream. I became more compassionate with myself and a lot of my self inflicted fears melted away. Until recently where I felt let down by being unemployed for a long time (whilst trying my best to get work- it’s terrible in the UK at the moment) and then all this work fell to the floor. I’m at my wits end. I need help. I have a therapist who referred me to this gem of a woman and I feel lost again, without control. How do people do it? How? Maybe I’m being too hard on myself. I don’t know. I just feel defeated.

@user-ys4iq3sc1k 6 ай бұрын

oh my god thats true

@meej-7010 5 ай бұрын

How do you do “The Work” but in the first person? For example, it teaches to judge others, but in a situation where I want to investigate myself. In this case, I have thoughts about the situation, a way of acting, and a perception. It may not necessarily be about judging someone but about you, with a belief that influences your actions. How do you trace that belief?

@tracybenson6364 10 ай бұрын

I understand how I can accept what is happening to me in the moment. However, How do we accept and turn around things like, “Children are suffering or Starving.” Etc.

@mariogalvez427 2 жыл бұрын

Our false identity, the ego mind, is a tricky manipulator. Even while doing the work, the ego could be messing with us and making us believe that we’re doing the right thing. We are all 100% ego.

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

She literally cites alot of believes she hasn'tquestioned yet: Katie's belief's she obviously hasn't questioned yet: - "The ego is offering up what I'm not (in this moment now)" - "The ego is what we're reacting out of" - "I see two really confused human beings at war" - "We're people at war with each other an the example that sets for everyone lese"' and more Let me add yours: - Our false identity, the ego mind, is a tricky manipulator. - Even while doing the work, the ego could be messing with us and making us believe that we’re doing the right thing - We are all 100% ego.

@ericphinney5053 2 жыл бұрын

Of what use are thoughts that constantly tell us what we already know? Just a thought.

@hangingwithmaggie3743 2 жыл бұрын

I had a similar thought…

@dimcbride8969 11 күн бұрын

I understand this from a spiritual perspective and especially since my awakening. However, anyone I would share it with that struggles and hasn’t woken up yet to reality will simply say she suffers because she tricks herself into believing good when others are doing wrong and letting them off the hook . They wouldn’t see it with enlightened non-judgemental eyes tat wish to learn more about our truth and our true nature but only in victim consciousness 😢

@yamesotericist4188 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing! But it will not work for 98% of the audience but you yourself know that! The fact is that Tolle's "Pain Body" turns out to have a physical body too, which works reflexively, automatically and constantly! You must discover it in yourself first.

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

Sounds like alot of new concepts to question to me

@yamesotericist4188 Жыл бұрын

@@andyreacts “Present moment” is a quantum state of consciousness, not just “thinking” about what you are doing now. Consciousness is kept in the “thinking mode” forcibly, it is not possible to get out of the Matrix of the “internal dialogue” (Collective Unconsciousness) ‘just like that’, if everything was so simple, and for 98% forever in this life.

@sidsawant100 2 жыл бұрын

Magic Magic

@tungstendeliz4960 Жыл бұрын

I don't get it

@xXoOoXx 7 ай бұрын

The opposite of him lying to you is , you lying to you. Switch one opposite at a time, or one may get lost quickly. Is it true? Is he smoking less and less ? If so, where does this put one, in the future, future, future?

@jarnohealth 2 жыл бұрын

So is this a way to change a belief?

@andyreacts Жыл бұрын

Not really. She literally cites alot of believes she hasn'tquestioned yet: Katie's belief's she obviously hasn't questioned yet: - "The ego is offering up what I'm not (in this moment now)" - "The ego is what we're reacting out of" - "I see two really confused human beings at war" - "We're people at war with each other an the example that sets for everyone lese"' and more

@troecurov3 Жыл бұрын

Ego, it's simply demons.

@Deelitee Жыл бұрын

Has this video been removed??

@JesseChappus Жыл бұрын

It's still there :)

@Deelitee Жыл бұрын

@@JesseChappus it was my phone!! :-/ did the update and it helped. Thank you!

@DxROC 10 ай бұрын

I don’t get this at all. She caught him smoking. She saw him throw the cigarette butt out the car window. His breath smells like cigarettes as he speaks to her. But her conclusion is SHE lied to HIM!?

@GumbyTheGreen1 Ай бұрын

No, that’s not her conclusion at all. Listen carefully starting at 6:45 (until 9:33).

@IamTessaMarie 10 күн бұрын

Because she’s recalling times where she has also lied to him. Humbling herself with the truth that by keeping the negative thoughts she is reacting to her own hypocrisy making herself suffer. Without the thought she lets him live his life and loves him anyways while also letting him make his own decisions. By doing the work you learn to let go and be more compassionate. She says compassion takes the place of anger! We make no progress if we expect others to take accountability of their actions. Should they? No. Because in this present moment they are not. The thoughts surrounding his actions are causing her to suffer. And her reaction to the thoughts are making him suffer. Dropping the thoughts allows us to choose not to suffer and love the moment as it is. She said “I’m not changing anyone’s world, I’m changing my own” That’s all we can do.