Can MEN and WOMEN Be Friends? | HOT DEBATE vs 3 Muslim Women

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In this stream, we debate with Muslim sisters on whether men and women can be friends in reality and in Islam!
Timestamps ⬇️
00:00 - Join The3Muslims
06:29 - Standby
06:42 - Introduction
07:58 - Sisters' view of male-female friendships
09:10 - Islamic ruling on male-female friendships
10:29 - Practising Islam in the West
11:49 - Argument for having male-female friendships
12:24 - Refutation of the Argument
15:18 - The Reality of male-female friendships
24:44 - Drawing the Line in male-female friendships
27:50 - Evolution of the Sisters' views on the topic
31:22 - Better to be Alone than in Bad company
33:35 - Allah ﷻ rewarding our sacrifices for his sake
34:23 - Interacting with the Chat
35:25 - Advice to Girls having only Guy Friends
38:43 - Freemixing between Kids?
40:07 - Issues with Girls having Guy Friends
43:26 - Having friendships with h0m0s3xuals?
48:33 - Truth about friendship with an "unattractive" person
52:51 - Advice to Muslims in freemixing environment
1:00:19 - Cousins being Non-Mahrams
1:00:56 - Overlooked Muslim Women's Issues
1:03:18 - Travelling in Islam: Men vs Women
1:05:47 - Closing Remarks & Wrapping Up
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[@The3Muslims]

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[@ALKHIDRBINARRAHEEM]

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[@ALKHIDRBINARRAHEEM]

OH ALLAH 😭😭😭FORGIVE ME AND OTHERS FOR I HAVE SIN FOR I REPENT AND DELIVER MYSELF AND EVERYTHING TO YOU 😭😭😭

[@ALKHIDRBINARRAHEEM]

TASBIH 📿

[@tiafatss2001]

Long answer is "No!". Short answer is "No!"

[@yugiohmasterduel8789]

You dropped this 👑

[@Saarimul_masloolUnapologetic]

Based!

[@sajitmohammad9168]

🤣🤣

[@baqiah-tu-saaliah]

Basically 💯

[@EeLyos]

😂 you spoke the truth

[@nurilha]

I don't understand why this is even a discussion, the answer is absolutely 100% NO.

[@Top_o_da_foodDChain]

Exactly! Why is this open for debate when there are numerous ahadith regarding the relationships between non-mahrams? All you have to do is quote a few ahadith and this would be a 5 minute video. Last question after quoting the ahadith - do you know better than Allah SWT and His Messenger SAW? Clearly not so anything you say in favor of non-mahram friendships is satanic justifications. End of discussion.

[@thekinghash]

For the people who are new or don’t know?? we live in a time where it’s almost impossible to avoid interacting with women

[@maryamh6184]

Thank god I don’t have male friends anymore they always ended up confessing feelings..

[@ShafiqFaizal]

Not having guy friends is alright, it's a choice, but not having them because of that? Sounds a little suspect to me. Plus after a certain age no man would confess to women anymore anyway.

[@maryamh6184]

@@ShafiqFaizal how is that sus?.. I’m taking about my high school experience and my “platonic” friendships with boys always ended up that way.. and I was around a group who was always dating, Muslims and non Muslims. since graduating and going to uni and working I’ve come closer to my religion, got better friends and set boundaries between myself and male classmates and realized how avoidable it is and how much I my religion protects me :)

[@guccipasta6946]

Most prolly 1 of them confessed and u make it sound like their is a whole line of them lol. Cuz most boys myself included dont have enough balls to confess to someone they love.

[@CodnGta]

Well yes they have done studies. Most men are attracted to their female friends and would like them in their bed room. Most women arent attracted to their male friends

[@mosasa1307]

@@guccipasta6946 Fam you can't speak for her. Stop, its her experience and she's the one sharing her POV. Nobody asked for yours.

[@eyegirl7772]

Yeah I used to have a friend 10 years ago now he is my husband 😂❤

[@Fairydust74k]

Oh my dear sisters Y’all better drop these so called friends that are men. There should be no conversation with a non Mahram unless it’s work or school related. Other than that, kindly give short answers to those who approach you so they know where your boundaries lie. Your opinion on this matter is irrelevant in comparison to the Islamic rulings.

[@Top_o_da_foodDChain]

“And do not even come close to zinna. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.” (Al-Isra', Ayah 32) End of discussion!

[@asadullahsaaid3794]

*Timestamps:* 00:00 - Join The3Muslims 06:29 - Standby 06:42 - Introduction 07:58 - Sisters' view of the Man-Woman friendship 09:10 - Islamic ruling on Man-Woman friendship 10:29 - Practising Islam in the West 11:49 - Argument for having Man-Woman friendship 12:24 - Refutation of the Argument 15:18 - The Reality of Man-Woman friendships 24:44 - Drawing the Line in Man-Woman friendship 27:50 - Evolution of the Sisters' views on the topic 31:22 - Better to be Alone than in Bad company 33:35 - Allah ﷻ rewarding our sacrifices for his sake 34:23 - Interacting with the Chat 35:25 - Advice to Girls having only Guy Friends 38:43 - Freemixing between Kids? 40:07 - Issues with Girls having Guy Friends 43:26 - Having friendships with h0m0s3xuals? 48:33 - Truth about friendship with an "unattractive" person 52:51 - Advice to Muslims in freemixing environment 1:00:19 - Cousins being Non-Mahrams 1:00:56 - Overlooked Muslim Women's Issues 1:03:18 - Travelling in Islam: Men vs Women 1:05:47 - Closing Remarks & Wrapping Up MashaAllah ❤️🤍💖 *Great Stream* 👍🏻👌🏻 _May Allah ﷻ bless you all and reward you for your efforts._ 🤲🏻

[@that.american.muhajirah]

Alhamdulillah loved being a part of this discussion! May Allah accept and place benefit in it Ameen. If anything I said came off as harsh/judgemental, forgive me. I truly only want the absolute best for every single Muslim brother and sister 🤍 - Umm Qaqaa

[@Katunar_shqiptar]

You did great jazak Allah khayran

[@oulangkous718]

No u were not harsh sister. BaarakAllahufeek

[@amnabk4]

It’s hard to be friends with the opposite gender.. If an opportunity presented itself the shaitan would definitely let something happen.. May Allah guide us all 🙏🏽✨ thank you for the great content!

[@asn9891]

Amen

[@SplendidTruth]

Our nabi said no. So no. End of discussion.

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

Always say Nabi(S.A.W.).

[@JEAGERlST]

For those saying they have male friends. Imagine you were to see one of them here in these comments saying "Bro, I'm so close to bagging this girl. Man, I got this!". That's what goes on from the other side so stop being naive.

[@CodnGta]

Yea lol Most Men are hoping to sleep with their female friends

[@abdulbarikhan2049]

You want a friend of the opposite gender? No problem! You got your Grandfather, Dad, Uncle, Brother, Son, Nephew, and last not least, your Husband!

[@savvygood]

I’m a Christian, I go to a Mennonite church where we separate the genders during the service. Women on the right, men on the left because it shows that we are all family and that men have a different role in our church. I would be friendly to any man in our church, especially if they are my friends husband. But, I wouldn’t go out of my way to make friends with single men in the church and would find it indecent to spend a lot of time with them. Our youth spend time together in public, but alone time is frowned upon. And no kissing before marriage. If a young couple would be caught, they would be reprimanded by a minister. Marriages happen fairly quickly. It’s really interesting to learn about Islam and it’s practices. There are some similarities sometimes.

[@savvygood]

Also, I have a close friend who is from Egypt and a Muslim. She told me she had never talked to her husband until he showed up and asked her parents to marry her! But, they had worked together. So he must have seen her work ethic.

[@doctorkamraan3426]

Yes sister there are many similarities.. especially among us who stick to our traditional beliefs, practices and mindset..and it's very good of u to remain modest despite all this filth happening around us...modesty is of utmost importance in Islam and without modesty, a person is considered to be as good as dead..the Arabic word for modesty is "Haya" which is derived from "Hayaat" which means Life

[@muslimah42]

We appreciate this comment sister thank you

[@shahisthabanu292]

WHEN WOMEN IS ALONE TALKING TO MEN THE THIRD PERSON SHAITAN BE THERE WITH THEM

[@Top_o_da_foodDChain]

May Allah SWT guide our sisters to increased knowledge of the deen and taqwa in implementing it in their lives. May He SWT protect them from misguidances, influences, and temptations from the shayateen. Ameen!

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

May Almighty Allah(SWT) guide our Brothers also to implement the deen and May He strengthen their taqwa always too and May He protect them from misguidance, temptation, wrongdoing and the Shayateen too, Ameen. Ya Rabbul Alameen.

[@Top_o_da_foodDChain]

@@aasiyahwadee8479 Ameen! 🙏🏽

[@zeerakasim6316]

Bro no shot I was watching this podcast and got hit with a Christian missionary ad 💀. May Allah protect us all, and guide them, Ameen.

[@paulabenjamin3194]

May Allah guide us all in the right direction

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

Ameen. Ya Rabbul Alameen.

[@oulangkous718]

Advice to sisters who want pious husbands. If you have guy friends you can get a bad reputation & be perceived as someone with low values and lacking in islamic knowledge. Many guys will also lie to their guy friends and pretend that they "scored" and you would not even be aware of it and wondering why you don't get proposals.

[@jcl9034]

Big facts brother

[@nikiakbari]

Sister N*** here! Thank you so much for answering my questions 🥰🙏

[@channelku5490]

Org indo yakk?😂

[@Inshallahpeponisote]

Thanks for the good work guys

[@brotoshbrotosh2670]

You know when to draw the line when you already step on it.

[@saltysweatyhands]

Only the OGs will remember box head Rami

[@gusxwazt1607]

Depends on the interpretation of friendship. If it's mainstream western in 21st century's, it's a big NO 😁 .

[@Matador-.-]

Its the 400 views and 10k likes part that gets me every time may allah bless you brother rami 😂😂❤

[@mohammadnasir6716]

Yes I can be best friend with a female ! But she must be my future wife 😁😂 ! A wife can be a best friend with her hubby and he can be a best friend with his wife as well ! Two Besties ❤️☝🏻👀

[@achievepeace]

Must be your wife Otherwise no future partner , no present partner

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

Assalamu'alaikum. You are right.

[@wealthwisdom1656]

Too much of the “I think” “I feel”

[@MoeedKhan1979]

Alhamdullilah for islam. Thanks for modesty and thanks for these muslims brothers and sisters. Mashallah hijabi sisters are very beautiful. Respect from Pakistan 🇵🇰💖🇵🇰💝🇵🇰💖

[@MR-hu3cv]

THIS is what I mean bro!! about my last post..... Assalamu alaikum brothers.. I think what you need to do which would be a good idea is the sisters who come on your program can still be fitna even though they wear niqab.. as it can be stylish fancy and fitna style niqab.. also you can see the eyes (also eyebrows tend to be plucked and trimmed) which can cause elements of fitna for the viewers. Simply have them as audio only or at most blurred. These are just my thoughts. Jazak Allah khayr

[@MoeedKhan1979]

@@MR-hu3cv yes i agree with you. But atleast they are better than non hijabi

[@jn6676]

Asc, did you brothers do a pod cast with Steph is cold. I thought I saw an advertisement posted on your channel

[@elis4914]

Assalammuailkum, i have this situation at the moment, where i have to "break ties" with a male friend of mine (non mahram) due to recently learning that men and women cant have casual friendly relationships with each other. I would really appreciate some advice on how to go about it, explaining to him why im doing this, what sources to cite if necessary, etc

[@AnoushaSpeaks]

This subject of friendships with the opposite gender is quite touchy as normally in our muslim culture (I’m pakistani) we unfortunately don’t practice the Islamic segregation of genders as much and the boundaries are quite relaxed. I was born in Saudi Arabia and there was a lot of gender separation and before I used to find it kinda eh but now that I moved to Pakistan and noticed the difference and seeing as Saudi Arabia is slowly progressing to a more westernized approach it does sadden me a bit. I will not pretend to be an angel and like the sisters here I’ve some of the same feelings as them I was a tomboy and have three older brothers, when I was younger I was friends with mostly boys and cuz rarely the people we used to visit had girls around my age (either married or way too young almost babies lol) so I resorted to the boys and cuz I also got along with them Obvs but as I grew I was mainly with the aunties bored out of my mind lol. School life in terms of friendship sucked but then I had a clique but once I moved all of em became online friends and experienced friend break ups too khair Allah removed them for the better, i did make male friends online but as I became more involved in faith and faced the truth that I have been almost purpose been ignoring on this matter of guys and girls being friends, I cried alot to Allah about it but I knew it was necessary and I knew I could do it cuz they were just online friends and not irl friends so Allah made that process easy for me, I also thought to myself if I can’t be friends with them in this world then I’ll be friends with them in Jannah, then everything will be alright. I dont really have female friends outside of my family members and my actual brothers but you know one day InshaAllah I’ll have good friends and now I have an actual standard for friends because of that one quote “a man’s religion is based upon the religion of his friend so be careful of who u take as a friend” so yeah this my very long rant which is all over the place! JazakAllah for reading this far, if I made any mistakes that is from me and the shaytan, Allah and His messenger are free from it.

[@fatemasaad934]

Gurl i felt that and honestly good for you for taking that step masha Allah w elhamdullilah...also how do I hit you up I wanna be your online friend😭

[@emachines3447]

As Mahdi Tidjani said regarding wife having male friends is that "you simply draw a line and say NO". Sura isra, verse 32 وَلَا تَقۡرَبُوا الزِّنٰٓى اِنَّهٗ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً  ؕ وَسَآءَ سَبِيۡلًا Do not go near adultery. It is truly a shameful deed and an evil way.

[@SkaiXmask]

The3Muslims brothers I don’t normally comment like this. But can you ban Starla LLLA from commenting. I swear this guy wrote half of the comments in this comment section. Every single one of them I lost about 20 braincells reading them. Genuinely though the guy needs to be banned since he’s making fun of Islam and the 3 sisters on this video

[@mainulhasan7689]

I wonder, why there should be this kinda debate on such topic among Muslims Brothers & Sisters.

[@saaleha6603]

You would be utterly delusional if you think there is not some level of attraction or unspoken feelings from one or the other. The level that women have friendships and with each other And try to emulate that in men will always lead down a slippery slope. Men will tend to want more from that relationship and end up being friend zoned..And women will continue that 'friendship' under the naivety that they won't pursue something with them or they don't see them in a certain way. When your male 'friend' gets married he won't be your 'friend' anymore 🙃 they way you probably won't want your husband to be messaging other female 'Friends' don't think they will put you on a special pedestal. And then you have the women with the "Gay best friend"...whole other topic of delusion..🙃 MashaAllah, amazing podcast with amazing panel members. may Allah bless you all! Such an important topic that was discussed, shout out to the awesome sisters! ❤️ ☺️

[@VIOLETheavenBeenMyHandle]

In the Public arena with at least three people are present. With a mahram is preferable.

[@KarimBilal1]

No scholars allow this. Idk how this is a debate topic. Maybe in 2024 they'll debate whether men and woman friends can hug and kiss. Normalising ideas. Unnecessary and subliminal use of the word ”HOT".

[@laurascott9495]

sweet Yasmin is still in Uni. She does not have the experience that the other sisters have. I think this was a wonderful chat for her to have and it helps younger sisters as well. Please don't judge her. She will understand and grow in Allah

[@roni_aust1594]

How to attend your live sessions?

[@CRUZEOO]

the women in green is delusional with her thinking that she can be platonic friends with guys clearly she doesnt understand what man is

[@GhulamMustafa-pn2xi]

As my opinion, no we can't. But we can interact with each other only business related matters.

[@mosaquatics1802]

Here's an interesting topic... Are women able to travel to uni/ work and work in a place WITHOUT a mahram?

[@JOYRIDEUS]

How is there even a debate? What's the point of hijab anyway if you can still entertain men for socializing?

[@Fluffylightsoul]

Well the answer is naturally a no like let's be honest sisters when you are texting a guy (a friend) and your dad comes by and ask you who is it you instantly get a guilt/shame/ sin-like feeling then you lie saying its my friend Sarah (for exemple) so it's obvious deep down that it's a wrong act.

[@Lokournan1]

Why a father would ask his daughter whom she is texting ? Would he ask the same question to his son ?

[@Injamamul.8]

​@@Lokournan1yes

[@usamuslimvt]

Assalamu alaykum! WOW...I think this was the most uncomfortable conversation I've ever seen in I can't even remember how long lol and for completely understandable reasons. You were all very courageous to take on this topic so well done all! I sincerely appreciate sisters that wear the full niqab...skukran sisters! Hijab is an obligation for men and women - we know this. And we know hijab doesn't just refer to appearance, but in fact refers even more importantly to one's modesty. I know from personal experience it IS possible for one's modesty to be stronger than one's biology (I had a platonic relationship with a female best friend for fifteen years - we were like siblings to each other and looked out for each other - mind you this was before I reverted), but from all I've observed in my many decades in the dunia I would surely agree it's not common and wholeheartedly agree that the best course would be one of avoidance physically at least. JazakAllah khayran to all who strive for the sake of Islam! #no

[@oulangkous718]

U were non Muslim so shaytaan probably spent more time working on the sister u were friends with. Shaytaan works harder when the calamity of such friendships r bigger. Like when married couples think they can pull this off.

[@usamuslimvt]

@@oulangkous718 Shaytaan would have wanted to corrupt/ruin that friendship. There was literally nothing unwholesome about it in any way...and that's not at all how the evil one rolls. But even then, aldumdulillah my fitra was too strong for him to break down completely. Knowing what I know now, understanding what Allah SWT expects of us, I would NEVER encourage such a friendship.

[@CodnGta]

You are likely the exception. Most men are attracted to their female friends. They have done studies on this. But most females arent attracted to their male friends

[@thesabiqoon4178]

@An American Muslim in Vermont how did you break off that friendship if I don't mind asking? Did she understand or did she feel betrayed? It probably felt like losing a sibling? I don't know, I cannot fathom opposite gender friendships as I grew up quite different but can imagine it will be difficult to change your thinking. In my upbringing there is no such thing as friendship with opposite gender and taboo to even talk to them.

[@sugoi9680]

I didn't find it uncomfortable just stupid

[@aali8874]

وَعَلَيْكُم السَّلَام وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

[@maazsayyad5623]

If you know about the streamer atriocs situation you can see why it is prohibited and why men and women can't be friends

[@Katunar_shqiptar]

#No #never #onlyhusbandwife

[@AliA-qn3fz]

💚💚💚

[@fynexjeralt4186]

1:00:45 bro what itaqillah

[@oulangkous718]

*sister Yasmin needs to look the video about the monk Barsisah. Shaytaans traps are such that he will lead you to sin slowly without you realizing how far you have gone until it's too late. You know your taqwah os at a high level the minute you don't trust yourself 100% because if Prophet Adam, his son Qabil, Prophet Yusuf's brothers and many more in Islamic history were lead astray by Shaytaan then we know we are weak and must take every precaution to protect ourselves.*

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

Assalamu'alaikum. Please always say Allay-His-Salam(A.S.) when you are talking about any of the Prophets(A.S.).

[@mariamtanveer5104]

Do a podcast of hijab and Niqab .Is niqab obligation.Plz have a detailed podcast to address this topic.

[@CodnGta]

Niqab isnt obligation. Its sunnah

[@mariamtanveer5104]

@@CodnGta and what about Jilbab.Can females do hijab covering and wear lose clothing or they are required to wear outer garment till their feet when going outside of their homes.

[@_zaaphiel]

I think there's ikhtilaf on the niqab so you need to ask a qualified Shaykh

[@savvyinfo9762]

Brotha I know u guys good but stay away from this weird thumbnails and weird video tittles , i know KZbin can be toxic for the mentality because you want more clicks and more subs but I have noticed few times you guys are doing thumbnails and titles that loook desperate for views and makes Islam looks bad keep doing what u doing and don’t go for clicks and views thanks brothers

[@speeddemon4692]

I honestly do truly understand the sister in the brown Hijab but I will say that it just doesn't work. Dont go into territories where lines need to be drawn, if you have to interact at uni, be halal about it and move on.

[@legendsofrei]

it's scary how the western ideology affected us Moroccans who were born in a Muslim environment to end up thinking that it's okay to date and hangout with the girls as if it's nothing.

[@davidruffinsghost349]

Why was this labeled heated. There was literally nothing heated about it. It was more like Luke warm no offense. Seems a bit click baity.

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

You are right. Alhamdulillah it wasn't heated at all.

[@Username12245]

That's very extreme, "Not even the brother" biologically related? Your brother is your mahram. You can be friends with your brother, you grew up in the same household. What exactly is the difference between a twin brother and a older or younger brother? Somethings really need to be expounded more cause these comments can confuse part of your audience who have newly reverted.

[@farkhonda.29]

it was a joke..

[@alexanderwilson3096]

49:28 is that the same for people with same sex attraction should a male with same sex attraction not have any male friends either because it could eventually translate into other things. That dont make sense to me are they just supposed to be a loner then, people say people with same sex attraction, have their same sex attraction reduced by having healthy male friendships

[@s.e.7604]

You word some things a bit misleading sometimes… it’s not haram to have a conversation with the opposite gender. Of course it always depends on the circumstances and surroundings. But I think you guys were mixing your own opinions in too much.

[@tiagomelo4019]

Hey there friends. I have a question: Can muslims listen to secular songs? Like rock bands, jazz music and etc. Thanks :)

[@martizen]

musical instruments are haram to listen to, so you wouldn’t be able to listen to any of those. may Allah keep you steadfast!

[@thomassussek2117]

No

[@KATSPF]

Allah gave us free will. Either you study His commands and obey them, or you disobey them. Allah knows best, I really recommend asking Him to guide you.

[@melik_]

Despite what many people on KZbin will tell you, there is no consensus on whether or not music is haram. This is not some made-up modern view. There is Hadith that mentions girls singing and playing instruments and the Prophet (peace be upon him) allowing it. The commonly quoted Hadith from Sahih al-Bukhari that alludes to music being haram is not reliable because it has no supporting chains. Ibn Hazm considers such Hadith to be fabricated. There is a rich history of music from the Muslim world that goes back a thousand years. However, that doesn't mean you can listen to whatever you want. Pay close attention to the lyrics and the frequency of the instruments. Very often you will find that they are very juvenile and go against what we believe in Islam in subtle ways and negatively affect your soul. There are very beautiful İlâhîler pouring out love to Allah, the Prophet (peace be upon him), and Islam dating back to Ottoman times that are still sung and played today. To have reformist movements of the 19th and 20th century say that we were wrong for almost a thousand years and it's all haram is insulting to not only our intelligence, but to the scholars before us as well. If you don't want to listen to music, that's perfectly fine, but we shouldn't say there is a consensus that it is outright haram.

[@tiagomelo4019]

@@martizen really?! I didn't know that. But thanks friend :)

[@prodigy8868]

Asalam, is congregating in mixed groups permissible?

[@brotoshbrotosh2670]

Next topic on your channel?

[@oulangkous718]

No

[@maryamasghar7863]

oh my God, I want to come on this podcast and speak properly. The women are so timid. look at how the men speak. they even made her to feel like she is doing wrong

[@barahui9]

Because it is

[@khandawah3147]

Men are polygynous by nature. It's natural for men to look for multiple sexual partners from among the women which makes it close to impossible for them to maintain platonic friendship towards any woman. Women are hypergamous by nature. It's natural for women to look for the best man available from among the men which makes it possible for them to maintain platonic friendship towards average and lower men who don't meet the dominant man criteria.

[@CodnGta]

Men prefer novelty more in terms of intimacy/partners. Women prefer familiarity. Men also are more hyper in their libidos which can be ignited just purely on sight of a womans body. Whereas a woman generally needs an emotional connection before desiring sexual

[@theBakinNoob]

Where did you get that info? Especially about the familiarity/novelty part. Would love to read more on that topic.

[@theBakinNoob]

@@CodnGta that’s so interesting barakAllahu feek

[@CodnGta]

@@theBakinNoob one of the reasons Allah allowed polygamy for the man. He knows the mans desires very well

[@saniyauzumaki]

@@theBakinNoob Read the study I linked above as well btw. Although it acknowledges men like novelty, however it is equally just as strong for women if they think they will match with those men.

[@Rankhole123]

If their guardian - be it father or husband - says they can't, then even if it was not Haram (which it is), they wouldn't be allowed to.

[@nouyt9144]

I feel bad for the father of any woman who has guy friends.

[@user-tz8zi7uo9z]

Don't put the oil besides the fire 🙂🙃,U got it

[@milademjayy]

*FarkHonda "uhmmm... aaaa uhmmm aaaa..."*

[@firstname1317]

Was Faiyad joking about not letting his wife be friends with her non-twin brother? 💀

[@AliA-qn3fz]

☝️☝️☝️

[@dbaby9361]

Yes if there is absolutely chance of sexual attraction

[@elfarah1343]

So when he walks in you put your hijaab on and when she does you wouldn't, and you say you don't see a male or female. You just see a humanbeing.

[@HN-fh8di]

And our beloved prophet Muhammad (saw) said The example of a good companion is like that of the musk seller: even if you do not receive his good scent, you at least can smell it. The example of a bad companion is like that of a blacksmith: even if you are not burnt by his fire, the sparks will get you. Source Rawdat al-Uqalā p56 The garden of the wise and the meadow of the virtuous. Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him said. A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer. Source Rawdat al-Uqalā The garden of the wise and the meadow of the virtuous. Also if I may add with young adults at school, try different interests. Example a new hobby that may open a new door to new girl as friends.

[@nightfallthrillr1527]

13:15 with all due respect rami, I’ll have to disagree with you.

[@mohammedhasan7364]

rami rami rami......hair bro ......not sunnah i think

[@SKCAAR]

How about NOOOOOooooo

[@inaaya5282]

What if you have a guy friend who isn’t attracted to girls? He didn’t come out as gay but he’s very feminine and has a strong faith and is against lgbt. The friendship is purely platonic. Is this allowed?

[@Aikadou]

Regardless I think it’s not allowed, even if they’re gay asexual etc

[@knowntoache]

What world are you living in???

[@emachines3447]

You can be very feminine, strong in faith and still be attracted to girls. How do you know its platonic from his end? Did you read his mind? Maybe he is just saying that to get close to you?

[@inaaya5282]

@@emachines3447 because he told me he was attracted to a guy before but has never been attracted to a girl. But I guess even if he’s gay or asexual this is haram…

[@emachines3447]

@@inaaya5282 yes sister it is, best to avoid him completely, no benefit whatsoever having him as a friend.

[@thehourglassfan3515]

No free mixing, please. Blur it out at least.

[@palestinenotisrael3088]

The is answer no men and women can never be friends it's as simple as that

[@najahkassim8358]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the two genders to be friends or work mates

[@jcl9034]

There are numerous hadiths disagreeing with you. This is not even a matter of debate at this point.

[@takieddinbalti6956]

I agree, it doesn’t even make sense if you intend to marry one day. How do you know you like a person if you can’t even be friends? Are we supposed to judge on looks and rumours and then directly talk to the dad??? I agree that a man and woman shouldn’t be alone if they are not mahram. But to completely ignore the other gender seems kinda ridiculous and extreme. Why do muslim assume that every man is a pervert who just wants to sleep around, blame yourselves, not everybody has zero control over his urges.

[@Kakeshii]

Well we don't base our religion on what you "think" we go to the textual evidences and the scholars understandings

[@water479]

@@takieddinbalti6956 you can get to know the potential through the woman having her wali there. Liking someone isn’t enough to foster a successful marriage, and often times it will blind you to the other persons faults because you’re willing to overlook them. You can interact with the woman as long as she has a male guardian there because he isn’t attracted to you and blinded by that attraction, being a man he would also better be able to get a read on your intentions. Nowadays yes it may be hard to find someone, but even you agree that having friends is not a platonic ordeal because you state that it would be how you meet your wife. So you already see the danger no? They’re not a friend then they’re a potential. If things don’t work out would you still remain friends even if you had feelings for them? What if shaitan tempts you? Maybe not every man is a pervert, but you will not know until you are put into a situation where that may happen, so why risk it? May Allah bless you with a pious spouse insha’Allah.

[@safiquazi2704]

@takieddinbalti6956 you are seeing this from a very western lens, I agree that talking to a women is not haram, but hanging out and doing useless short talk with them is absolutely forbidden. If you are meeting a person for the purpose of marriage then talk to your family so they can reach out to the girls family have a family get together and you can talk to the women there. And if the family wants to pursue marriage further then you can get together more and talk more it's not rocket science.

[@azikazikazik]

The Prophet (saw) said no so no

[@ThePaahchan]

Obviously , NO.

[@englishteacher3145]

If you want to make a joke of your own fate, do it; else abstain or no.

[@editscooledits]

#no

[@bustinjieber7521]

Strange though. I have 4 female friends for more than 20 years and all have our own family's now. We do the same things as my male friends and they really were the best help in finding my wife. So to me it's so strange to hear that male and female can't be friends.

[@mikechippin7905]

Ur lucky buster

[@safiquazi2704]

Yes but we can't make rules on the exception you are the exception, we can't advise the general public to do what you did because it's very unlikely to have the same outcome as you. And more likely to bring emotional damage to both parties involved. So the ruling still applies for the greater good of the society men and women cannot be friends.

[@nightfallthrillr1527]

I agree with you. At the end of the day it’s all a generalization

[@CodnGta]

As mentioned above. You are an exception if you are being honest. But regardless, you did something Allah forbade. Their are no female and male friendships in Islam

[@bustinjieber7521]

@@safiquazi2704 Exception? Here in the Netherlands it's normal men and women are friends and hang out.

[@jigglybandito9505]

The problem is is most men who are friends with woman. Would most likely have sex with those woman if the woman initiated something. I myself don’t really have friends who are woman and if I do we don’t hangout much at all.

[@CodnGta]

Exactly. They have done studies on male and female friends. Most men want to sleep with their female friends

[@jigglybandito9505]

@@CodnGta exactly. Allah is the best of planners. There’s a reason why things are set up the way they are. Unless the man is gay it’s literally impossible for a man to just be friends with a woman. Unless he’s gay there literally is no way for that to work.

[@lovinglife7893]

Yes i think opposite genders can be friends as long as there is no physical attraction between them .

[@MR-hu3cv]

Assalamu alaikum brothers.. I think what you need to do which would be a good idea is the sisters who come on your program can still be fitna even though they wear niqab.. as it can be stylish fancy and fitna style niqab.. also you can see the eyes (also eyebrows tend to be plucked and trimmed) which can cause elements of fitna for the viewers. Simply have them as audio only or at most blurred. These are just my thoughts. Jazak Allah khayr

[@oulangkous718]

Yes exactly, these days niqab has also become problematic. The only sister who wore it properly was the one bottom right. It should not be attractive. The sister bottom left has beautiful eyes so niqab causes it to be highlighted. She should have put her video off, especially since her face got exposed.

[@AM-bm9rs]

yes they can.

[@samihakhondoker2456]

emotional attachment is dangerous

[@channelku5490]

Well, we do agree that we live in the same earth. We can’t just ask the opposite genders to go out of the planet right. In fact, we live side by side (Men and Women). But, when it comes to interactions, we need to set a border. For me personally as a man, I realized that I can’t avoid interaction with woman. In the college, I sometimes got paired with female members in a group work, and of course I’ll not say to the lecturer “sir, I am not going to work with these girls, it’s prohibited”. At the office, of course there are female workers. And I can’t just like “hey, don’t talk with me, and don’t look at me, it is haram” like huh? It is not this way. For me personally, It depends on what term of “Friends”. If we talk about Best Friends. I don’t have any female best friends. All my best friends are boys. But friends, yes I do have. Female friends at College, female friends at work. BUT, I set up a border with them, this is the most important This is just my opinion, if you guys don’t agree. I also appreciate. Because we can’t push each other 👌

[@rowshansharjil]

Friend with a woman. Hell no. Unless she is my wife other wise please watch your way and I will watch mine path.

[@davidruffinsghost349]

Are there gangs in Islamic countries?

[@actuallysilent7274]

Evil is everywhere, but generally those countries are better in many ways than western countries.

[@strugglefortruth262]

you are not allowed glance a second time, these girls follower western culture

[@MoeedKhan1979]

No. Man cannot be just friend with woman

[@shahisthabanu292]

WHAT OUR QURAN SAYS EVERTHING IS GOOD FOR US BECAUSE CREATOR HUMANS HOW HUMANS ARE

[@Injamamul.8]

Hindu ?

[@VOLAAD]

Start with the basics, Rami needs to cut his hair right, that's not halal.

[@sarahsamuels3553]

So it’s impossible for males and females to be friends because men can’t lower their gaze or control themselves?

[@razamughal9095]

No one is going to let you be a prostitiute, men are born to work. DAMN RIGHT THEY ARE NOT GOING TO WALK AROUND WITH THEIR EYES DOWN. Sluts will always be sluts.

[@beaulayancy3874]

No

[@Isabella_kh]

Why have useless arguments with the Ummah when you know the answer?

[@roni_aust1594]

#NO

[@idiocracy1604]

Allah box.