Can Women Really Have It All? | Asking For a Friend | Blavity

It's 2022 and there's nothing women can't do. Or is there? Elisabeth Ovesen reminds us that there are no rules and you can have it all or none of it at all if you want.
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[@kknowsinfo002]

she gets to define happiness, success and accomplishments for herself so I don't have a problem with what she said!

[@lapx1]

My pop said When women and children are in charge it's over son. We headed in that direction.

[@churchroadrecordsreviewsan231]

😂😂 fact..America is done for

[@blessedandrich]

I related to so much she said in this podcast. The whole “I can’t work and be in love at the same time”, but “don’t really like working” 😆I felt that.

[@lavaanyagarg]

For some people- being an overachiever and superlatively successful in their careers comes naturally to them, but unconditional love and care and attention from those around them in their personal life chronically eludes them. So when they do fall in love and are caught up in the romantic bliss of it all- they naturally feel fulfilled like never before. So they are allowed to acknowledge the overwhelming nature of this new source of validation. It need not mean it has to be the same for you or anyone else or dwarf what their achievements mean to their fans. People place different values on different aspects of their lives. It's okay to have favourites!

[@textingstorynaruto2913]

I disagree. I think a person’s accomplishment is what THEY feel is their biggest accomplishment. If LOVE& HAPPINESS is what you feel is your life’s accomplishment then who is anyone else to tell you you’re wrong for feeling and admitting that.

[@Salutations26]

If getting a ring is her greatest accomplishment she is a pick me.

[@MA0814]

@@Salutations26 or maybe a happy wife??? lool incel

[@The1-4287]

@textingstorynaruto2913 completely agree with you

[@ellleethereal]

When she said “be paid to be alive” I FELT THAT!!!

[@StarringShameka]

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[@VonnThaDonn]

I agree with her, I hate when women say they are equal to men. Why would you downgrade yourself, to want to be equal to them? The correct term is equity, but many people dont read so they dont have the correct verbiage for what people are seeking. Coming from a place of oppression, equality was an umbrella term that truly didn't correctly advertise the wants and needs of women.

[@ashslay3224]

I get what Karrine is saying and agree. However, we have to remember that she and Simone are in totally different experiences and places in life, 20-something vs. A 40-something. I would teach my 20 year old self a ton of lessons but she needs to go through it to get to that 40-something level of self-awareness. Some 20 somethings do already have that too and they are amazing.

[@Plentypeppeh]

Love this episode. The last segment truly resonated with me. Luckily I know where I am mentally / emotionally to prevent that regret in my 40’s.

[@MarieAmicalola]

Wonderful episode. I love what she said about compartmentalization to prevent codependency.

[@kt42071]

Current fav podcast. Keep em coming y'all💚!

[@eon001]

You think finding your soul mate, starting a family, having kids etc should be less valuable than a gold medal?

[@churchroadrecordsreviewsan231]

That's what she saying..I think women nowadays are looking up to the wrong people as role models

[@amyxmay3677]

Different strokes for different folks. There are people don’t care about finding a spouse and starting a family but there are others that do, we’re all different. Having a wife/husband and kids is not the pinnacle of happiness for ALL people.

[@eon001]

@@amyxmay3677 But Simone clearly does, so let her enjoy her life instead of acting like a gold medal is more important.

[@amyxmay3677]

@@eon001 true true

[@JSmooth89]

​@amyxmay3677 MOST women want a husband and a family to call their own. Women don't gain fulfillment from working long hours and makingmoney like men do. Washed up 304s, who blew their chance to find a husband and build a life together, giving younger women advice is absolutely ludicrous. It's like the guy that could have went to the NFL but chose drugs in college giving you the advice to do things the same way that he did, bcz "everyone that plays football doesn't want to go pro and make millions" 🤡🤡🤡🤡 Yea right

[@ladysusanharris]

I don't believe her comment was to say her accomplishments were less. They're two different things...a different type of happiness. Totally get her statement. She's in love. We should let her have her moment without picking her words apart. Just my thought...

[@wm6089]

I agree. Simone is her own person and said what she said. She is aware of timing and has made wise decisions in the past. A 🌳 is known by its fruit. Be careful who you listen to young people.

[@shadthagod8033]

These episodes are amazing Elisabeth & Alex keep doing ur thang

[@GoddesssofMind]

Omg I can relate ..I do not balance love and work. If I’m succeeding in my career I’m failing In my love life. And vice versa.I hate working. I feel like going to university is enough for some women. It’s enough for me. I aspire to be a homemaker and housewife.

[@mobellescorner9702]

I would love to luxuriate for a living as well. I hate working but the way my trauma is set up, I have to make my own money. I couldn’t be a house wife. I need to feel comfortable leaving when I want and if he left me I need to know I’m good. But this working thing is Ghetto, I have to figure out a way to live a life of luxury and leisure without depending on a man for it 🥴

[@henry-ni9hg]

This! ☝️ I'm working on this as well! Good luck to you sis. I. Rooting for you too!! 💅 Live luxurious boo! We deserve it!

[@JSmooth89]

You're admitting to having trauma that will bring you into a relationship with one foot out of the door, and exit strategy in place. Yet, if a man who has his shit together and something to lose says that he wants to date a younger woman with less baggage or a woman from overseas where they don't have modern/western 304 culture with less baggage, then he's shamed like he's the one doing something wrong. 🤔

[@mobellescorner9702]

@@JSmooth89 I didn’t say nothing about those men. I personally don’t care about men who aren’t interested in me. What they prefer is none of my business.

[@JSmooth89]

@mobellescorner9702 I never said that you said anything... What I said was in general. Your situation is not as unique or special as you think. GENERALLY, women have been taught to work and be 304s because that's what "men do," even though their inner biology tells them they don't want to work, and that their not built emotionally for promiscuity. Then, when a man who's on his mission chooses not to deal with Pookie or Chads baggage or "trauma," he's GENERALLY shamed as if he's the one that's wrong. "Creep, insecure, not man enough, intimidated, predator, etc.etc." it doesn't make sense. You may accept men who don't want your trauma, but MOST women won't. They will come up with all kind of coping mechanisms to project the problem on the man. Like the story of the fox and the grapes.

[@britneeg]

I need the social equality discussion as it’s own clip I can share 😫

[@Blavity]

you can clip directly from KZbin now!

[@theadvancedforce1017]

Nobody is better than nobody. How can people support her argument?

[@theadvancedforce1017]

Bro you should of told her nobody is better than nobody. It's OK to disagree with some of her points. A real one would never say they are better than their partner.

[@ellleethereal]

I love love looooove this show!

[@joparis957]

It doesn’t take years for everyone, esp if someone’s is family planning 🤦🏽‍♀️ Less there’s a lot of trauma and healing to be done ☑️ We’re not here forever after all. But everyone IS different so different folks different strokes.

[@orangemoon9634]

There is alot of trauma and healing to be done 💯

[@blackwealthpower7877]

21:18 -27:33 call and commentary 00:00-13:19 female prioritize self/on top

[@DSKim-ej5uf]

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[@vickikendricks1605]

I love you and I'm proud of you ☺️

[@imanigordon6803]

That mic guy I think he on Flagrant too. No push back whatsoever for what she said. He’s either too dumb to have the conversation or he’s paid to keep quiet 🤦🏾‍♂️ either way it’s sad that men like him exist.

[@bods4dadsaquil912]

Nah he was raised by a single mother I bet my bottom dollar

[@Babanla420]

@7:18 I think she just called Alex a b**ch!!

[@camillestorm740]

love thisss

[@ronaldrigid1245]

I will only believe that she stands by her views if she can keep them on the fresh and fit podcast

[@candistrotter5417]

Those guys have the combined IQ of a raisin. She'll be alright lol.

[@godstimenwosu6537]

I she can take them apart….. she is really amazing

[@savagegamer2292]

@@godstimenwosu6537 lol no she can't.

[@azarrobanks3418]

Ew, nobody wants to be on those incels podcast. They are kings of contradictions and hypocrisy. I'd love to see them get roasted tho, I won't lie

[@JSmooth89]

​@candistrotter5417 They would eat her alive, same way they did with Brittany Renner and every other 304 who live life based on how she FEELS instead of what's REAL.

[@Vestedgirl]

This is Karrine Steffans!

[@lapx1]

No its super head

[@churchroadrecordsreviewsan231]

@@lapx1 naa..its a bitch

[@ayodanielle9047]

Was wondering if she changed her name?

[@telebiopic]

Love the vibes. Watertight prenups are so important. Better still, have a se*xual partner but don’t live-in or marry. Entertaining episode, good to learn how some people can think in their heads. I wish all women should listen and emulate her. Marriage is so passé.

[@joparis957]

Hey after all love & lust does to our minds the same thing drugs do so ofc that would be the feeling in the moment😭✨❤️‍🔥🌅

[@lydelltucker2372]

Why does she use a diff name?

[@SN-ty2rg]

I thought she was Karin stefan aka video girl. she looks like her a lot.

[@TelesiaKyler]

Thats her

[@anuskawebster]

Its her, she rebranding i guess

[@michaels6049]

24:23 this bus to catch statement… A couple of podcast ago you mentioned in your prenups you have an expiration date on marriages. Where are YOU going? Your advice is hypocritical and comes off really opportunistic.

[@britneeg]

She’s also said her marriages weren’t for love. Her advice was geared towards someone interested in love.

[@lolapink3508]

I agree that guys are not equal to women. I know MANY women who run households, work, take care of children, grocery shop, cook, etc. Doing EVERYTHING in the house. I know TWO guys who do this & 1 is failing miserably. If guys are so strong then why can’t they do EVERYTHING like women can…

[@theadvancedforce1017]

I believe nobody is better than nobody. Guys put their lives in the line in war also.

[@theadvancedforce1017]

You have a superiority mindset.

[@lolapink3508]

@@theadvancedforce1017 the only strength guys have is physical. Is that why guys are so violent?

[@lolapink3508]

@@theadvancedforce1017 and who starts wars…y’all dudes lol

[@theadvancedforce1017]

@@lolapink3508 you gotta heal and get out the jezebel mindset. No guy want a girl that thinks they are better than him. Nobody is better than nobody. Would you say your son is less than your daughter or would you love them both the same? I know you been through things with guys but bashing isn't the answer. Nobody is perfect regardless gender or race.

[@jonathansantiago3606]

Elisabeth really? Lol I understand re branding but I would’ve loved her standing in her truth as the EVOLVED Karrine. Nonetheless I’m glad to see her regardless

[@asada7972]

Amen.

[@ivorysmith239]

The Bible says that we are all guilty of breaking the Ten Commandments of God (Romans 3:23). As a result, we all deserve to go to Hell because none is righteous, no not one. (Romans 3:10). But the good news is that you do not have to go to Hell (John 3:16). Jesus Christ loves you so much that He died on the Cross for your sins and if you Repent of your sins and Accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior then you will be saved (John 3:16). Jesus is calling on all to repent and you know longer have to live in despair but in love, joy, and peace through Jesus Christ. Amen.

[@margreetzeefuik2665]

Superhead ;)

[@220meeks5]

Her collar bone look soft af

[@Blavity]

Are you ok, Meeks?

[@mukbangnishpodcast3867]

Name change?

[@Eric_Cartman_30]

How do you carry children and get pregnant without the man

[@hashhackerhossain8323]

#misandrist

[@lapx1]

The female version of Kevin Samuels 😨

[@churchroadrecordsreviewsan231]

Naa..this is the opposite...Kevin had morals and values.

[@vaughnettemonroe283]

@@churchroadrecordsreviewsan231 lies

[@vaughnettemonroe283]

No she's kevin talked down on self low men and women she's talking from her experience of sexual trauma and suffering, healing which she's said she's been through therapy to get to this place she is nowadays

[@churchroadrecordsreviewsan231]

@@vaughnettemonroe283 she is not healed or improved in any way..why do she hate men so much? Even the guy that's on the show with her she talk down to and he has no balls for letting her talking to him like that

[@indi5]

Alex is 33???? I thought Alex was 45!! 🫣