Is Celibacy Worth It? | Asking For A Friend | Blavity

[@Momdrogynous]

I am LIVING for Elisabeth's re-brand! She's always had a great voice/been a great story teller.

[@Blavity]

Always!

[@220meeks5]

What happened to living for God smh

[@gregoryalston6720]

It like a Jews name lol

[@UnlistedAccount]

Most women with a similar past probably are living for her "rebrand".

[@believensee8621]

@@UnlistedAccount Or we just believe everyone should be allowed to move beyond their past.

[@oshetrippin2976]

Nobody could ever make me hate this lady I love her realness it’s like talking to a big sister that sugar coats nothing

[@khrishonjones1975]

I was celibate 96, 97,98,99,2000, I had a child then returned in 2004-2013, I had another child and I am now celibate for 10yrs.

[@oshetrippin2976]

I’m 3 months in n it feels like everybody knows because like temptation isn’t even a word right now 😭there tryna set me up out here

[@fauxamy23]

There was a time when people were shamed for choosing celibacy in Hollywood etc and now this generation is embracing it with positivity!

[@aphroditeg2712]

I remember reading one of Karrine's books as a young adult, and she talks about seeing two homeless people getting it on on the side of the highway in a dirty cardboard box. Which teacges that seggs is cheap and always attainable. Tgegoal is to build a great relationship with someone and to build the best possible life for you

[@Lust661]

I’ve literally became obsessed with this woman, I’ve been watching her videos for the past 3 days. She just on point bout every topic 😂

[@KandiGrl3000]

As someone who has done their "sexual due diligence" it was easy for me to begin celibacy in 2016. Everything EO said was real. You realize how little your past intimate partners know about you. You are hyper aware of the soul ties that can be created. I only disagree with sharing my celibacy with the men I date. It's nobody's business.

[@notesofnara]

I completely agree. Why would I share it with the whole freaking world??? I think it’s a flex and a need for validation from others if you need to tell everybody and their mama. It is an intimate thing between you and God. Or spirit.

[@lisaevolves]

11 years celibate since i was 25 years old!

[@leratomolele]

well done gurl. im 6 years celibate & counting. BEST YEARS OF MY LIFE by faaaar!

[@Blavity]

SIIIIIIXXXXXX?! Love a person with discipline.

[@monicaknight3079]

How have you managed to not break?

[@jgo211]

@@monicaknight3079 it's easy if you keep meeting people that turn you off.

[@destinymena]

@@jgo211 literally , I swear

[@teng0027]

I have about 6-7 as well. Same, it’s just….so much more peaceful over here.

[@KB-nx6id]

I needed to be celibate bc I got tired of meaningless sex and I get too attached.. It’s also refreshing.

[@BibleStorieswithBrianda]

I love the dynamic between Elisabeth and Alex. Such a great episode!

[@OVOxoLoveAngel]

I loveeeeee this rebrand! (even tho she really didn't have to) cause everything she speaks is facts!

[@Blavity]

We all needed some Elisabeth knowledge.

[@UnlistedAccount]

Rebrand. Lol. Is that what we are calling it now when you want to undo the astronomical bodycount.

[@jerrseyy1088]

Surprisingly, an amazing discussion. Great advice, several gems dropped! From experience, celibacy really gives clarity and the ability to disconnect without feeling void in any way. Everything she said was 🎯

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Best thing about you Your raw honesty to tell the truth.. That's fearless... We love appreciate n lift you up.. THANK U for being a beautiful person who speaks up... Keep being you sis🔥🔥🔥

[@destinymena]

Being celibate is the best ❣️

[@hamilton9651]

I have been single and celibate for a long time. I really like this lifestyle. I enjoy coming home to my own place and having my bed all to myself. I collect autographs, coins, and stamps, hike, fish, shoot trap and skeet, and listen to music. No distractions, no arguments, and no hassles! My value is not in who I am with, but who I am intrinsically. In my God...

[@Aquariustheonlyrealsign79]

I’ve been celibate for 6 years

[@cfox6549]

I was celibate for 3yrs for me it was easy after the first 3mos. I actually didn’t notice the time.

[@kristentiffanymartin]

I've been celibate for 10 years, no dating, no masturbating. I'm 31 now. Celibacy, as everything else, has pro's and cons. I've learned so much and grew immensely as a person! But now I also have some sex issues with an amazing partner. I was a heavy christian so did it for spiritual reasons. The soul tie theory is dangerous. Educate yourself on these topics if your considering it. If you want to be celibate, do it for the right reasons, I recommend to listen to the needs of your body and your emotions. Balance is key in life. Do what's good for you.

[@Unseriousblkgirl]

Can you elaborate more on the soul tie theory being dangerous? I’m genuinely curious.

[@Bri-ns5rm]

@@Unseriousblkgirl I don’t know what OP was referring to exactly but we aren’t tied to anybody. Attachment issues, low self esteem, and codependency are usually what keep people connected with those they’ve slept with. Addressing those issues and healing will really help you realize that it’s you and your issues and not some invisible string.

[@Bri-ns5rm]

I agree. I abstained for two years after a bad situationship and while it helped in the beginning, I learned a lot about myself, I walked out with more sexual issues than I came in with. I internalized a lot of shame, felt disconnected from my sexuality as a whole, and even though I’m not religious started to assign morality to a completely human need. I’m six months out and sex still feels wrong. Discernment when choosing partners and finding healthy ways to connect to my sensuality/sexuality have helped the most.

[@MoniqueIsMyMuse]

I totally agree about this “soul tie” rhetoric. I think it’s lowkey under the umbrella of slut shaming. Nothing but a tactic to control women IMO.

[@MoniqueIsMyMuse]

@@Bri-ns5rm whew this is a word!!!!!! People don’t ever talk about this side of celibacy! I don’t think it’s all about finding yourself/reconnecting with yourself. I think there are moments within your celibacy journey where this applies, but they can also be moments when you may feel like you’re denying yourself of what it is that your body and soul is truly craving. In my 2 year long celibacy journey, there were times where I felt like I was denying myself a basic human need, I felt touched starved and I really missed physically connecting with someone romantically. My genitals are not separate from the rest of my body, so why would I ignore it/neglect it?! Again, I do believe that celibacy is necessary but to certain degrees. It’s all about balance at the end of the day.

[@shonixl]

Announcing that your celibate is a red flag and shows the other person you may have emotional issues amongst other things. Just move normal, date at least 5 different guys so you can keep all your situations light and avoid putting yourself in sexual situations. Keeping all of the relationships light allows you to see people in true form and how they really are without pressure.

[@diamondeyes2417]

I pray that most women would experience celibacy. I did it in my 20's before meeting my husband. Now, we're divorced after 20 years, I've been celibate for two years. Grateful that I've always been content spending time alone. I'm a Scorpio tho🤷🏽‍♀️ Crucial for growth🙏🏾❤

[@heavenslyric5782]

This was actually really good. Great conversation 👌🏾 Happy for her and her journey

[@briisworld876]

1 year celibate and I’ve learned a lot from this podcast. I really enjoyed it😂😂

[@spiritualprincess6065]

I live celebate. But When i meet a man And tell them About it. They dont believe me because i am really sexy. And sometimes that is really annoying

[@kheriphillip878]

So big shout out to Morgan and the Blavity team! Yall are over there workingggh!

[@Blavity]

Thank you!

[@flawlessbylola]

I’m loving this podcast. ❤

[@mir428mir]

This was so good & her perspective is refreshing.

[@diamondd8017]

She had a wild life so celibacy is good for her but lets not act like all the time not being celibate is what brought everything and everybody here.

[@misguidedpearls7456]

She was gifted before all that... You got anything better to do than linger on her past.... I'm sure she stepped over that..jus like the comment.. U can support or jus change the channel🙄🙄🙄😏

[@jordenlong3797]

Day 1 fans know this isn’t really a “rebrand” she BEEN speaking on stuff like this for years

[@wombcarewomxn1727]

I love this chat about celebracy! We as women should want to do it for ourselves: our spiritual, mental, emotional wellness. Not worry about what others think. I also disagree with ideas of soul ties. I think that it's just something they tell women to keep them from seeks their pleasure. I think its a dated idea that comes from 'purity culture'.

[@angelaharrison569]

This podcast is everything I need! Thank you!

[@Mscursed2]

I wish her podcasts were longer

[@chanelgarces7787]

You are brilliant Doll! Loving this❤

[@SimonePhoenix]

A VERY wise woman. Respect. 🙏🏽

[@curetnailsasacuret268]

Greatttttttt Episode, related to so much of her dialogue, gonna tune in regularly and watch alllll the ones before!

[@candistrotter5417]

I absolutely love you!!! Please keep this going

[@Blavity]

🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@mickayj]

This was a great episode love this!!

[@zoozagt5]

Basically, old school /traditional courting is not so bad, especially if marriage is the goal.

[@JazziHenry-ur6wv]

As of right now I feel like I am doing good, but of course we never know what we are missing out on, and that little feeling that comes at the end is very powerful and easy to recall. what to do? I do not know, I think sex is a good stress reliever and it last a long time, but not when you are getting that feeling from someone that does not treat you right.

[@ABGwithSass2]

I’m loving this entire podcast!

[@evachristian7949]

Sweet Lord keep healing this woman in Jesus name 🙏🔥❤️

[@amb55555]

Elisabeth you are so wise, great advice.

[@belindasibz466]

This is exactly were im at. Everything now is for me and i. Deserve it

[@13ikea]

Such a great episode.

[@Blavity]

Right?

[@yoshis-m9s]

Wow so beautiful I see myself in her so much 😅❤❤❤ SO glad I JUST stumbled across her and this podcast….

[@Tjl0904]

Love this!

[@Mscursed2]

Phew this is some good advice

[@Creoles.nature]

Ive been celibate for 5years

[@vickikendricks1605]

I love you and I'm proud of you ☺️

[@Immaculateve]

Elizabeth……… consistently and in real time? I love

[@shawilliams5747]

IVE BEEN CELIBATE SINCE 2013 AND ITS EASY

[@kenneyfreeman4990]

Sounds like you are non-orgasmic.

[@jenniferhaynes8625]

Longtime admirer of Elizabeth,AKA Karrine Steffans.

[@87greenz]

Who is Elizabeth? That's Karrine Steffans Aka Super head

[@Kay-sg9pq]

I was wondering the same thing.

[@_space_squirrel]

But what are you drinking? Asking for a friend

[@snicholson8884]

it's the feet game, for me

[@kocoahollis9771]

I came straight to the comments because I thought I was tripping and I could still be but does Alex not have shoes on? 🤔 lol

[@Rashaadthegr8]

Always worth it.

[@sweetjr25]

I LOVE her. 😭🥰😻

[@larkbrinkley3584]

Your celibacy could be a symptom of sexual dysfunction, just in the same way having to much could meanin the same. It seems like the root of your problem is "hyper awareness". Its the reason why you could get a name like super head while at the same time be divorced three times(its a gift and a curse). Your a intellectual lover, and I would go out on a limb to say you where celibate way before you stopped having sex. Peoples construct of reality is like a finger print. It is a collection of life experiences unique to your brain. This is important because it explains why you can see more in human behavior than the average person(experience). I think you stopped having sex to make love, and I think you will start making love again(or make love for the first time). When the conditions are right. First, when you find someone you desire for selfish reasons rather than ego. Second when you find someone you trust to bring out your more vulnerable side that you have locked away in your subconscience mind for safe keeping over the years while you(shall we say) gathered intelligence. 2 years isn't that long. You could be waiting another 2 years for your softer side to forgive you curiosity and join the conscious mind to be more social or it may never forgive you, but that ok too. Side note its good to see you again. And you look better; you look happy.

[@terrymatsa]

Celibacy is not a challenge for me. Move on my guy

[@kaybee126]

Please tell me her lip color!

[@220meeks5]

Red???

[@chenesebeanmua]

It is pretty. Try “Ruby Woo” by MAC. Or “Bawse Lady” by The Lip Bar.

[@daphtravels8350]

Wow so good.

[@rhymeswithcrayon]

how u got on a jacket and hat but no shoes or socks? al wylin 😂

[@kyliawilson575]

I am living for and lovinggggg this! ❤️🙌🏿👏🏿😫 she’s always BEEN that chick 💯

[@Aquariustheonlyrealsign79]

J lo needs to take your class/advice

[@JazziHenry-ur6wv]

i just clicked.

[@clairewere]

♥️♥️♥️

[@asada7972]

She was probably thinking about her biological clock.

[@slimmsg7]

She's so broken yet she CHOSE this life ...

[@_love_cats-889]

She’s beautiful, successful and appears fulfilled .. broken where, little guy?

[@PacificMoceans]

I love this woman. Thank you KZbin algorithms.

[@DrCareyYazeedTV]

Great advice. I’d you can’t be by yourself self you don’t know how to love yourself

[@DivinevirgoFeminine]

Ok does masturbation count? Asking for a friend of a friend 😂😂

[@ymoslee3865]

90 days count lol

[@Blavity]

Do they though? I feel like thats the standard "I don't want them to think I'm easy timeframe" for the people that choose to go that route.

[@ymoslee3865]

@@Blavity I think the people who go that route are far and few in between. I think most people wait a month max .

[@Blavity]

@@ymoslee3865 overruled then. 90 days count!

[@indi5]

I’ve noticed y’all are bare foot! 👀

[@ANich-eo9gn]

This episode was distracting, I couldn’t stop look at the fact that Alex had on a hat, jacket, Cartier frames, AND NO SHOES/SOCKS! Jesus Tyrone Christ, be a pair of yeezy slides

[@Blavity]

Are you an earth sign?

[@twiggynation.2779]

Super head give us the real 🍵 and watch your subscription grow..

[@RicardoCray]

Y’all taking advice from her?

[@jayshar659]

First off, everyone does not have a past like hers and are damn sure not trying broadcast it. Would you want your son marrying this woman? There is really no overcoming of living that kind of life for that period of time and being known for these kinds of escapades that are probably in the cloud to be known and seen by the entire world forever, plus how embarrassing and mind bending for her kids must this be for their entire life. The only thing that could by honestly learned from her is to NOT do or be anything like her. This woman is actually trying to advise Virgins (AMAZING)!!! Being a virgin vs not being virgin is a colossal difference, night and day. Just because we've gotten used to coming behind multiple men and accepting/settling for the first guy's leftovers does not make it right nor profitable or healthy for our mental disposition. Here in the US this mindset is prevalent because we think that there are no or a lack of virgins (untouched woman) in this Country. But in other Countries a virgin (un-spoiled) truly high value woman will fetch a much higher price/dowry than the lesser value non-virgin (touched/spoiled) woman. If these women can grasp that they are consummating with each man that they allow inside of their body then they might rethink their true value and act accordingly and take full responsibility for their life and mind altering actions. These women Parents tried to warn them no sex before Marriage. But they have rebelled against this warning and this is what we have now. Used bodies, and no one honestly favors used over new. Btw pretty much every woman knows that they are suppose to be untouched, a virgin un-soiled and new before marriage. What man honestly wants to come behind other men and wed that woman? We are settling when we know that this eff's with our minds. There are many virgin women abroad in numerous Countries. Now if someone doesn't mind coming behind other men after they have used and soiled/consummated with these women with their DNA gene pool, then disregard everything said above, if you can.

[@TheBreemad]

LOL you can go around posting this on all her videos. It means nothing to most people. Laughable when you're the ones sleeping with these women.

[@jayshar659]

​@@TheBreemad Sorry, but you're wrong. I don't have sex with these kinds of women, although they do try to with me. I just have respect for myself and don't need the possible STD. I prefer a virgin (the norm). By the way, who are most people? I'm a man and I am sitting next to a woman right now and we agree. She's working on comments today also. This woman superhead is not speaking for any man or any woman that I know of and she's damn sure not dropping any wisdom or REAL knowledge. The only knowledge that she can drop is how to f-up your life, be suicidal, make yourself unavailable for a REAL happy marriage, be full of regret, extremely shameful, full of despair, lost, worthless, alienated, and flat-out bat ass crazy. Because if you follow her template the above results are what a women would have to look forward to. Now, how laughable is that? Honestly, who in the universe wants this life for a daughter, niece or sister? For if they do, they just might be a devil. Now, if superhead don't want the comments then she should stop posting on an open forum where people can leave comments. Trust me, we are good if stops posting. Now, who the hell are you? You might want to stop trying to defend the undefendable.

[@jayshar659]

@@TheBreemad There is really no overcoming of living that kind of life for that period of time and being known for these kinds of escapades that are probably in the cloud to be known and seen by the entire world forever, plus how embarrassing and mind bending for her kids must this be for their entire life. The only thing that could by honestly learned from her is to NOT do or be anything like her. This woman is actually trying to advise Virgins (AMAZING)!!! Being a virgin vs not being virgin is a colossal difference, night and day. Just because we've gotten used to coming behind multiple men and accepting/settling for the first guy's leftovers does not make it right nor profitable or healthy for our mental disposition. Here in the US this mindset is prevalent because we think that there are no or a lack of virgins (untouched woman) in this Country. But in other Countries a virgin (un-spoiled) truly high value woman will fetch a much higher price/dowry than the lesser value non-virgin (touched/spoiled) woman. If these women can grasp that they are consummating with each man that they allow inside of their body then they might rethink their true value and act accordingly and take full responsibility for their life and mind altering actions. These women Parents tried to warn them no sex before Marriage. But they have rebelled against this warning and this is what we have now. Used bodies, and no one honestly favors used over new. Btw pretty much every woman knows that they are suppose to be untouched, a virgin un-soiled and new before marriage. What man honestly wants to come behind other men and wed that woman? We are settling when we know that this eff's with our minds. There are many virgin women abroad in numerous Countries. Now if someone doesn't mind coming behind other men after they have used and soiled/consummated with these women with their DNA gene pool, then disregard everything said above, if you can.

[@blancobey3837]

I think people forget.. 1 in 3 women/ girls have been raped or molested... & I mean Globally... The effects on a person who has had their "ESSENCE" taken from them is something you won't understand, unless it's happened to you... using old patriach ways to justify anything is trash when you don't acknoledge the sickness that went on then & still happening at an alarming high rate today.

[@gz5405]

do you always focus on other men when interacting with women?

[@buemanjones2291]

She should be tired by now anyway. I'm happy she's getting her life back together but the way she talks about men needs to be more thorough. She doesn't bring up a woman's actions. It's just how the man was not enough.

[@ladylady7848]

Some people don't want to touch all those different topics at once. She simply speaks about what she wants to speak about, and then there are others and other videos that speak about the women

[@JesusIsLordLasVegas]

She's been with like 200 dudes...who's beating down her door? That said, she's really smart & I could see how it could be very easy to fall for her. It's a damn shame that she was so promiscuous.

[@Trini190]

Right

[@LedZepp07]

Who’s beating down her door? Maybe the “200” men she’s been with.😂 🤔

[@cbusjones2657]

@@LedZepp07 if that were the case, she'd be with one of them now.

[@LedZepp07]

@@cbusjones2657 takes two to tango.

[@kenneyfreeman4990]

Another 200 dudes that want to experience the infamous "Super Head"

[@donavincrypto7332]

Wow why listen to a women who divorced 3 times and did porn. Have better coaches women!

[@believensee8621]

Yet...here you are. Btw she never did porn.

[@ABGwithSass2]

Sooo women are supposed to listen to the virgin or the pick me that hasn’t learn anything from their experiences?

[@donavincrypto7332]

@@ABGwithSass2 You’re welcome to think what you want. The comment triggered you and if this is the sort of women you listen to. Good luck out their cause you’re only going to end up with men you dislike in the long run. Top tier men do not associate themselves with this sort of women. Why would we?

[@jchess78]

its cool to be celibate when youre young (before 25) but not when youre in your 30s..because the clock in ticking and MOST men wont wait around forever.....there are some guys who will wait (though mostly religious guys) so it eliminates your options

[@chichikito3618]

Most options are trash anyways.

[@SeanJ2A]

There are a lot of simps out there that would wait though.

[@believensee8621]

It's cool to celibate at any age. Celibacy is a declaration made for a reason that serves your life. Many men (or women) may not be on that path but don't change course for that reason.

[@ABGwithSass2]

No one cares on who is going to wait forever. It’s not a sit-out contest. When men come across a celibate woman, they are SO selfish. It has everything to do with the woman and NOT the dusty male