Career Or Marriage First For Japan's 'Parasite Singles'? | The Family Affair | CNA Insider

As a 29-year-old unmarried woman who still lives at home, Haruka is considered to be a 'parasite single' in Japan. Working 18 hours a day as a television producer, she has no time to go on dates.
Mum, who married at 28 and has been a housewife since, fears that she'll have to take care of her daughter forever.
Should Asian parents be worried about today's millennials?
#TheFamilyAffair explores the generational divide that Asian families wrestle with: cna.asia/2ITXVQN

[@revolutionalist]

That quote at 1:42 really crack me up, ‘like a parasite , single and here forever”

[@S2Tubes]

That's just the term that's used to describe single people living at home in Japan at her age. Women are said to be like Christmas cakes, after (Dec) 26, they lose a lot of their value.

[@mirarami1055]

Wait until the Mom got older : She will begging her daughter to stay with her to take care of her, wiping her behind. Now the Mom still a youngish mom, she might be still eager to find a lover, or just see her daughter as an unfavourable burden, thus wanna kick her daughter out from the house. What a Mom, can't wait to let go of the daughter ASAP, yet later would not be able to live well by herself. The Mom got to learn to be gratefull and enjoy the present moment gracefull, or she will not be able to be happy and feel fulfilled in any kind of situation given to her. Wishing them all the best 🙏

[@ianw1410]

Thought I was the only one! Plus did you see the look she was giving her.... classic man!!

[@mark-angelofamularcano237]

I'm pretty sure I'm gonna sound like an ass here, but can't the daughter just help out like a room mate would to her own mom so the mom won't be exhausted all the time?

[@cafezo87934]

Mark-Angelo Famularcano what are you talking about. seems to me like mom is a housewife and daughter works. has a job. is it daughters fault mom has too many kids. i don't get this story either.

[@bangbangtangahwei]

@@thisiszw do u expect her to die from exhaution? Working as producer at day and doing chores at night?

[@JohnL-m2l]

Hypergamy. The higher a woman's status, the higher the status of males that she looks for. Since women are the majority of university graduates now, that means very few men will fit their status preference.

[@eren.acoruja-x]

A man with a $ 8,000 salary will never get into a relationship with a 3/10 woman. From her appearance she hit the wall without makeup should be the sight of hell.

[@bangbangtangahwei]

Are u talking about your apppearance?

[@soloshotfirst1118]

Pfffffff hahahaha I wouldn't give that fish face a fucking dime. Would rather go to Russia or something like that and get a beautiful and humble goddess instead of Miss Ramen Living With Mom.

[@AlphaDogLXIII]

not always, if the woman just wants to settle down with a man she can trust to be in relationship with.

[@mirarami1055]

Even a hen would only lay her eggs when the situation of the surrounding is safe & secure. I think this young lady have her acceptable reason for her requirement for acceptable marriage. And she's not step on 2 boats (have 2 relationships) in the same time, asking her boyfriends to buy the expensive branded bags, then reselling 1 of the exact same bag model to get some extra pocket money. She honestly worked for her hard earned money instead. So, I think she's quite an honorable young lady. Good things in life, wether it's people, wine, or relationships, should be given enough time to be fully develop in their own nature, rythms & antics. There's things in life that we could aspire to get, but can't force ourselves to get that ASAP. Process is much more important than the result. As a wise man said :" Don't incite love when she did not want it yet...".

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Maybe some now believe that there is more to life than love, marriage and children? Marriage does not guarantee happiness. Also what about the ones who divorce or are widowed? What about them?

[@Melly16yr10]

Good points to take into serious consideration.

[@steventeoh260]

Setting expectation does not equal to love!

[@shinlanten]

2:38 *_"Ahh delivery guy....less than $8k a month = NO..."_* LOL!

[@sodiumwaste]

found the reason why she's single: "I want a man that earns $8000 per month"

[@mark-angelofamularcano237]

sodiumwaste Is ¥ 800,000 even reasonable for man of her age group to make? (The other option is a rich guy, but damn, that's a high expectation!)

[@Aman-nl2vz]

Yeah fuck her then

[@guitarhamster102]

If i make that much, i would find a woman more attractive than her. Her expectations will lead to her perpetual singleness

[@KinGwaan]

sodiumwaste i spat out my drink when i heard that outragesly high number for a below average female. This cougar in development needs a reality check asap before she becomes a cat lady!

[@xyoopridex]

8 grand a month? This chick's over her god dang head lmao

[@Aja-Christian]

Like yes I know declining marriages and births can be doom for an economy but. . .when I see these documentaries about single millennials who are unmarried with children. . .the ones who DO say that they are interested in eventually getting married and having kids sound like they're just trying to get it over with. You never hear them say that they want love, happiness, etc, they literally just want to start a family because it's expected of them and I don't think it's fair that families or governments try to pressure people into making such a personal choice. Being a spouse/parent is a BIG responsibility, and you can't just tell people that it's their "duty" to tie the knot and breed more people -___- Being unmarried, in your 20's to early 30's and being more interested in other things besides marriage and romance seems to be a growing trend around the world, not just in Japan, I think people should stop approaching it with such negativity.

[@boredbeingbored894]

The mom looks more like her older sister 😱

[@sofya3033]

In Japan and Korea most old ladies look young 😀

[@Floridamangaming729]

@@sofya3033 probably because they arent shoving processed food down there gullet every chance they get.

[@TheTranceCartel]

@@Floridamangaming729 The food is even more processed in Japan. have you ever read the ingredients on a Kewpie mayonaise bottle (assuming you can read Japanese)?

[@latenightcrazies]

that's nice her mom waits for her to get home and prepares a meal for her

[@minoriruba1828]

I think Asian daughters in general are taught that from an early age that they shouldn't just date or marry some random guy they should marry someone higher in status and income...now a days it's not big of a issue but Asian people in general used to look down upon women who dated "several" men . So the women are simply more aware of whom they are dating it's not always the fact that women are metarialistic.Dating is prohabited in school.. grades come first then go to college than simply get a good job then they see they are in their 30s...it is more like the society that shapes women like her..

[@BabcockCheng]

her mom look like her sister.

[@TenshoBlades]

There's nothing wrong with wanting a man who has a high income. However, the man will ask what she has to offer to the relationship. If she doesn't have a high income, or is unable to bring something of high value to the table, she's fooling herself and setting herself up for failure. This isn't a Disney movie. A rich, handsome prince isn't going to magically appear and fall in love with her.

[@kazumakiryuu2668]

you are wrong. japan is a magical place and therefore A rich, handsome prince must be abundance.

[@AnonW]

The problem is because you as the mother isn't enforcing your daughter to earn her own keep and become independent.

[@bursegsardaukar]

What’s the point of all that hard work in school if only to become a housewife?

[@kazumakiryuu2668]

who told you to work hard?

[@EssenceYT]

If one is making $8K per month, that person most likely has no time to love someone. Surely a spouse is just another economical asset, however since we choose our partners, at what point would this be considered love? Hell I would say this would be like a some friend or stranger borrowing my own hard working money like a leech. People like her will never be happy if she has these high expectations and even there is a person that makes 8K/month they would find someone else. I think another factor to Japan's decreasing marriage problem would be that they only see the economical side of their well-being not the actual care of it which is honestly really sad.

[@Nulley0]

2:31 "I collect goods and ship them." You need to do it harder

[@justbrowsing1683]

I did the math: someone who would make at least $8k/month according to her standards would need a job that pays on average $33/hour AND THAT'S ONLY IF he works 240 hours a week (or 12 hours a day - Monday through Friday; not the standard 40 hour work week as here in the states). My only question to her is: if you're making anywhere near $8k/month, or hell, anything at or above $5k a month, why the HELL are you still living under the same roof as your mother? I guess we all have our reasons (for her it could be any number of personal or financial things), and for all I know, she may not even make $5k a month working as a TV producer. I get that she may be doing so in order to monitor her mom's health as they both grow older (or maybe even paying rent for her mom's place), but with that kind of money I'd have enough to afford an expensive-ass apartment in California, New York or Atlanta AND put down a down payment on a new house in just a couple of short years! ...but I'd still need to pay off my immense college debt with the money from the job I somehow got lucky with using my newfangled degree...

[@Origami84]

Honestly, what really depresses me here is that, if she actually manage to marry, it will be with a guy that she will consider "beneath" her. No joke. No rich guy would want an average looking, average everything 30yo woman. She will find a random Joe, exactly her match.... but she will think she is settling for him. Poor husband.

[@KinGwaan]

I spat out my drink when i heard that outragesly high number "$8000 a month?!" for a below average female? This cougar in development needs a reality check asap before she becomes a cat lady!

[@JTu8925]

Sadly, the woman's reality check comes later in life.

[@isaymamamoo9469]

At least US8000 a month? You gotta lower your standards girl

[@eren.acoruja-x]

A man with a $ 8,000 salary will never get into a relationship with a 3/10 woman. From her appearance she hit the wall without makeup should be the sight of hell.

True.. only sex.. but serious relationship.. NOPE..

[@irawilliams343]

Seriously, Japan needs to accept that the world is changing. Women should be given the right to have both a family and career. And men shouldn't be intimidated of strong and successful women.

[@randommortal3383]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Toshinben]

She doesn't intimidate me, but she scares the HELL out of my wallet!

[@kazumakiryuu2668]

japanese women must marry george soros

[@DevSaitoTECH]

A successful woman is not the one with a good career. Who decided that? Why a woman who decide to marry and have a family @ 25 are not a successful woman?

[@gaiadove]

8k before or after taxes. Lol

[@mahdiyussuf9804]

8k USD a month in Japan is ultra baller status, tho....she looking for the top 10%

But men don't really care about money.. The only male she can get are the ones who have no job. At the end of the day that 8k per month won't make her complete.

[@daisykangaroo]

why does she have to get married to move out of her parents house?

[@zoyou1632]

like a parasite? 😵 what a strong word

[@meedddneeeeeezzz1444]

Its true though, she even wanted a rich man who earns 8k a month just to be a parasite to his bank account.

[@John__-ie3od]

Good luck! / がんばって!

[@bobbyharsono]

8k per month is quite ridiculous, in my city it is a manager level salary for a year...yep...a year....

[@simonjack0071]

Where do you live mate ?

[@bobbyharsono]

@@simonjack0071 indonesia

[@bangbangtangahwei]

@@bobbyharsono u must be dumb to put yen and rupiah in same page. Even indo trainees in japan could get 18.000yen/month. Indonesian nurse could get 35million rupiah/month in japan.

[@Sleepgarden]

the sad thing about women's expectations is that the men that make 8000 a month that they want dont actually date the women that want them

[@aravearave]

the mom looks relatively younger than the daughter.... and wow come homes , with mom prep all the snacks and beer ...

[@yushi911]

It surprising that she knows exactly how much a man need to made as salary to be her husband. She doesn't mention any other criteria like that person should like hiking or be a foodie. It's so sad. She just looking for a bread earner. When I meet my partner, he was a new grad and no job. He is the most interesting, hearty and funny guy I know. I trust him and I'm confident he will find someting good. Actually, I meet her only criteria but I'm not interessed to married her. My parents raise me to be a financial independant woman. I can search all my life for a man who has a better carrier than me. Instead my mom use to said: we want the best education for you so when you gona search for a man to married...just find someone you love and who love you. Not a transaction. So sad that a such developed country is still so old mind. If you are sucessful, fine! Why can't you be the bread earner and let your husband raise the kids or do most of the house keeping work?

[@rommelb.8070]

$8000 per month ? Where would I get that ? 🤣😂

[@notsatan5457]

let's put aside about marriage, i wonder why she is single being as parasite? she can just move out and live alone or she can stay at home with parents but she takes care of herself and may be help her parents. i just don't understand about this at all

[@shinlanten]

Thought that said *_tonkatsu_* (2:18), got me hungry ;-)

[@jyc9767]

Women, It's not bad to have a standard . I don't get why people shame them🙄

[@kazumakiryuu2668]

keep searching till you are 90 years old lol

[@LookmyBack354]

$8000 monthly salary is 17 times bigger to my country minimum wage and your $8 thousand dollar husband will be not easy to catch for sure..

[@codelessunlimited7701]

Expectation: Ferrari Spider. Reality: Toyota Prius. She expects Ferrari Spider with Toyota Prius mileage range. You can't have both words woman, you're definitely delusional.

[@johnmarktan1615]

Them unwarried is because of the mens fault, not theirs.

[@someguywithabirdface2583]

Trust me , people with 8k month would prefer adoption or stay single the rest of its life.

[@Floridamangaming729]

Do people not understand in japan that its okay to not want to get married or have kids? i dont see the problem if shes contributing financially.

[@VishwasKumarAnand]

Till when would she be financially contributing?? After her retirement, she will be consuming social safety nets paid by taxes of children of those who got married.

[@NOSFERATU_ONE]

well as of today it's been 3 years and 1 day so time's up. I wonder if she found someone since then

[@Aman-nl2vz]

I think you can't force someone to do something.. If she wants to make job her priority and she's happy in what she's doing I say let her keep doing what she's doing... Also women with a high social status think they are worth gold... So fuck them then.

[@CC-6454]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 She is a Gold-Digger, $8,000 that is way off. If she is a TV Producer, how come she hasn't asked these celebrities men on stages to get marry 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@michaelhart7282]

The mom looks better

[@glenglen6386]

They have good jobs yet live at home???

[@saisrirajnallam2751]

OMG 8000 US dollars a month....she has to catch son on politicians then

[@shinesun893]

Pwede naman mag asawa kahit wala pang malaking ipon. Sabi ng tita ko hehehe. Basta kaya niyo kahit papaano maka buhay ng pamilya.

[@l42222c]

i wonder if she's married now hahaha

[@mjiecastro1265]

Hi whos single out ther willing to marry a pilipino woman im 29 years old😊..

[@Toshinben]

Sorry, I don't make $8,000 a month.

[@hussainhunza8038]

hillo miss i am 30 year japanes looking same for marring plz

[@khav11]

heck im 29 and i feel young as can be. big deal 29 unmarried what is this 1950? call me when it's 39 lol

[@teteurr6516]

Entendi foi nada kkkkkk

[@SevenDeMagnus]

Hi. This is sinful. Must be independent at some point. God bless, Proverbs 31