Casual Sex & Hookups: Is Virginity Important? (Ft. Dewy Choo, Kai and Jia Qi) | Gen Z Decodes EP8

Disclaimer: Mature content ahead
How do Gen Zs view casual sex? Is casual sex, hookups and friends with benefits (fwb) common? How much does virginity mean to them?
Join Dewy, Kai, Jia Qi, and our host Xi Ying in the final episode of the series, as they share their unique encounters and viewpoints on intimacy with no strings attached. Listen to Kai as he explains why people who are emotionally attached shouldn't do casual sex/one night stand. Hear Jia Qi out as she explains her POV on why she is against hookup culture! Lastly, do listen to Dewy where she shares her opinion on the purpose of casual sex and her personal encounters!
Z世代是怎么看待一夜情？随意性交与一夜情在Z世代里普遍吗？第一次对他们有多重要？听听文萱、凯翔、嘉琪和汐莹分享他们对随意性交的看法与经历！听听凯翔解释为何容易投入感情的人不应该随意性交，也从嘉琪的立场中了解她为什么不赞同婚前性行为的看法！最后，你一定要听Dewy分享自己对随意性交的看法与她的精彩故事！
Chapters:
0:28 Have you lost your virginity？
2:41 Being responsible for yourself?
5:50 Top 3 reasons for casual sex
7:59 Mind blowing question by Jia Qi
8:54 About loneliness and commitment
9:59 Reasons against casual sex
11:20 Can you separate love and sex?
14:37 Fear of STIs and pregnancy
17:44 Who to provide sex education?
21:14 How to protect yourself？
Credits:
Featuring 嘉宾：朱文萱 汤凯翔 曾嘉琪 张汐莹
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[@fengwei3089]

Dewy appears to answer questions more openly and genuinely, Kai seems to be more cautious with his answers😅

[@penncakes07]

Love how frank and honest Dewy is

[@ljs1995]

I think both side have their point and there is no need to throw shade at either party for them very bravely sharing their own personal experience and opinions.

[@elinyoyo]

Traditional mindset or Modern mindset has their pros and cons. I believe by practicing safe sex is your own responsibility. Be it having sex to satisfy your needs or keeping it until marriage. As long as you’re happy and healthy. Glad both are voicing out their opinions.

[@weizien5057]

After i watch this episode... i like dewy. She's so direct and funny. I know her past stories in another episode she said it before

[@quekxin1557]

Which episode?

[@Bu5es]

When Jia Qi asked Dewy the qns on like why there is that continuous urge....Its the thrill that keeps on promoting that mindset back. Like you ask a speeder why despite knowing its against the law, they still continuously speed down the road...It all comes back to the thrill of the action. Likewise, why despite knowing you dont feel its right but still continue having the urge to have casual sex. People want to feel the thrill of the action again, that is where the urge comes from. These kind of feelings will only be felt by someone who has partaken in the activity before to fully understand and grasp the concept. Like if you never experience it, you will never really understand how overwhelming the feeling is

[@pamela3134]

Yes. Which is why it’s only meant for a husband/wife because that urge binds a couple tightly together in the highest form of exclusive intimacy

[@geeeforce]

Important topic. Good that people talk more about it. Better know what u need than suffer in unfulfilled relationships

[@moonhanaa]

both sides have their own stand which is fun to listen, its not about right or wrong in the end.

[@awkwardsmile]

Sex is meant as an act of INTIMACY. That's why it means a lot to females but for some guys they just see it as releasing their sexual urge or spreading their seeds. Anyway rooting for jiaqi ❤ its hard to have traditional mindset in this modern world set on destroying morals and values.

[@slow-living_03]

u meant some females see sex as releasing sexual urge as well right?

[@Lu5ck]

It also a lot easier for women to get laid than men, means what?

[@brandonteh9179]

Despite saying "I will be responsible for my actions aka get pregnant" but the truth is most of the time the youngsters can't even support themselves with the low wage, let alone the check up, delivery and living cost of the baby. End up also crawl back to own parents to help financially and also taking care of the baby. So yea don't yaya say so loud be responsible for own actions.......

[@be-dn7br]

Im sorry to say jiaqi havent been thru all these thats why shes is very judgemental and the ways she delivered is like picking up a fight, well wait till she’s in some kind of relationship that she think she can ‘’work out’’ after marriage btw love dewy’s attitude (my pov, no hate

[@huien7848]

And the way she talk to Dewy is also quite mean for me (is my first time watching the full video on youtube about dewy and i love dewy so much, the way she talk and her personality is so goooddddd)

[@be-dn7br]

@@huien7848 same first time watching this vid. We dont care if she is educated or not, she talk like she is btc =boh tak che (no go to school before,in hokian). Honestly there are many ways to be famous, i have joined shows and the these are normally the ways people get their “fame” from talkin tat way, anyhow Jia, no respect for you even though i was in ur shoes but the way u talk erhmm sorray many of us dont like u so errmm. That’s pretty disgusting cus im not the only feeling that way. Love love love dewy, gonna go to ur club if I have the time!! Support Dewy!! Love u cus im a fan or urs now❣️

[@jenniferlee26]

Blue jacket keeps judging people for their choices. Learn to respect people’s decision, it’s their body afterall.

[@kingseiryu929]

I think the problem with the type of blue jacket is they usually marry but then turns out the sex is so bad because sex is such a taboo to them that they don't try to figure out what they need You don't need a lot of partners to figure out what u need but I think she may not try to better this aspect. Then usually she marries a traditional guy with limited sex knowledge so end up unsatisfied perpetually but also don't know how to change it. My 2 cents

[@jenniferlee26]

@@benbambae just look at her expression and when she was trying to argue with dewy (trying to interrupt her also). If u had any sense u would know 🙂

[@jenniferlee26]

@@benbambae I’m not saying it offended me, I just felt her judging. Even dewi felt it and joked if she’s her hater. The key part for me was when the blue jacket girl interrupted and said why can’t dewi pleasure herself and don’t engage in casual sex. Afterall that’s what I inferred from her comment, it’s ok if u felt differently but need to call people sohai.

[@thestaringenclave]

I like the very balanced discussion here. Although, there were clearly varying views from two camps, the discussion was very respectful and insightful as well.

[@TsukyomiHoshinaUtau]

Comment section make me wanna orhsai, dewy is right, why does virginity need to be something so precious or “expensive”. Guy go fk ard say the guy厉害，牛逼. Girl go fk around say ppl upbringing got problem. If so important then guys should also be taught that girls first time very impt, v precious blah blah shouldn’t go pop people cherry right. But on the other side, girls!! Rlly need to know how to protect yourself, do it with someone you love if possible. Most importantly protect yourself against pregnancy and sti.

[@exploringapis4495]

lmao the hungry listen to music analogy knn funny

[@akiraxdespair405]

i hate the sound and bing effect is super louder than the chit chatting please improve your video. really love to the story about lifes and more

[@PangXueYu]

Whoever marries blue jacket is a very lucky guy👍

[@bloooopsz]

it’s a genuine question. why would people feel the need to have sex for validation purposes??? validation for being human????

[@awkwardsmile]

Validation from peers so that they can gain acceptance and not be a social outcast and risk being made fun of or ostracised. Sad but how this is society is. Glorifying casual sex and mocking people who wants to keep their virginity for someone they truly love or after marriage.

[@MuseHathor]

validation that they are attractive to another human being

[@roytan]

Great video but the audio is quite soft

[@supremeleaderkimjongmoon]

What is with the unnecessary loud sound effects? Those terms are not even vulgarities!

[@megan5500]

Dewy ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@natashakwek]

Ppl say once a girl lost her virginity and no more partner, they will constantly have urges.

[@ernestang5656]

Protect jia qi at all cost. Girls like her are scarce.

[@PangXueYu]

amen, she's a rare treasure.

[@sek898]

say no urge is lying

[@awkwardsmile]

False

[@sek898]

@@awkwardsmile how can be no urge? means u won't get turn on no matter what? if that's the case, pls go c a doctor

[@awkwardsmile]

@@sek898 people mature sexually at different ages. Some only discover sexual urge when they are in a true intimate relationship with their significant other. Not everyone is a horndog.

[@sek898]

@@awkwardsmileu r referring to comfort lvl. evone has sexual urge whether they admit or not (due to hormonal changes during puberty) some r just more comfortable with ppl they know due to various reasons

[@sek898]

@MsLexx thanks for sharing

[@choonkeonglim6178]

If we take a step back, Dewy's reason for casual sex feels like reasons a drug addict abuses drugs.

[@jianxiongRaven]

Maybe she nvr try berfore Qfter try , u will want it liao Like explore

[@peachypink4598]

4:44 ‘why is virginity so precious?’ Idk. Why is life so precious? Maybe because we only have one…. 🤷‍♀️.

[@Paperheart1997]

Here to support Jia Qi❤

[@TidePoolSea]

lmao the excel sheet guy i cannot

[@pamela3134]

Everyone is bashing Jiaqi but Dewy was the one who said she’s not an old hag since her virginity was lost (implying those who still has their viriginity are old hags) & asking in such a condescending manner as to why jiaqi hasn’t lost hers. Lol

[@KenshinHimura27]

Yes there really isnt a wrong or right answer, however the issues is man can have many sex partners and can dettach easily.And woman who have high body count,the first time sex experiences of attachment will keep decreasing until at a certain high body count, by then,a very high,not saying every woman.she will not have had any real desire to attach to man any longer.That means higher possibilities of cheating,disloyal and when married,higher chance of divorce.Do man really want this type of woman, ask yourself.Cos man and woman is very different.

[@magenta_brown5327]

What’s your source ?

[@magenta_brown5327]

You think many women want men with high body count also meh

[@minzzles]

Jiaqi fr a kid help

[@KenshinHimura27]

Actually not really.real man really prefer for example like qiaqi.Is true,and in fact,jiaqi is more mature that audiences might beg to differ.

[@cats6278]

Thumbnail say ep 7

[@hishiko]

LOL dewy is super funny i like her hahahhaha but i'm more towards jiaqi kind of person >,

[@aaronchen155]

i see jiaqi talks, machiam is a old soul trap in a young body...

[@Bahamut84]

I would personally choose jia qi type of girl than dewy.. no offense ..

[@TsukyomiHoshinaUtau]

Good for you! Please take a sticker

[@jianxiongRaven]

1 for fun 1 for lifr

[@awkwardsmile]

Sorry i have to comment that many guys go and exercise to deal with sexual urges SO IT'S NOT UNCOMMON. Some shower, some gym.

[@sek898]

nope, as a guy I can tell u all guys release their urge sexually, either diy or hookup. nv heard of anyone that gym or shower to release, might as well say sleep lmao. btw gng to the gym just increases testerone which increases sex drive

[@sek898]

@@awkwardsmile next time when u r hungry just go shower or gym, it's a good distraction, u won't ever need food again. I learnt this from a forum, many ppl said that it works

[@awkwardsmile]

@@sek898 it's called nofap for a reason lol. Didn't equate it to the rest of basic needs

[@sek898]

@@awkwardsmile it must be true bcos I learnt that from a forum. some say if u stare at the wall long enough, all your needs/desire will be gone too

[@Hippodude5]

90% of men masterbate, the other 10% is lying

[@baabaablacksheep113]

wah dewy choo daamn red flag bruh

[@laosai3938]

Don’t like jiaqi so step

[@demon427]

Those who take survey is lying😂😂

[@junhaoyap8095]

Jia Qi i root you, such a lovely girl i want marry

[@user-uy9pd6dr5y]

Dewy is so truthful however the parents will be disappointed if they watch this video. Maybe she has some problem in her upbringing 😅

[@Maximax1091]

She’s adopted

[@MrCuteBai]

Basically girl to the right has already been ran thru