Caught My Wife Cheating on Video So I Left. Came Back to Find Her Having a Mental Breakdown and...

Caught My Wife Cheating on Video So I Left. Came Back to Find Her Having a Mental Breakdown and My Son Abandoned.
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[@DivineKnight_115]

The confession note she wrote is probably the most in depth honest confession I’ve heard from the adulterer. Not pushing him to do what they want and recognize that they did something evil.

[@TheAsmodha]

That's the trick. She is pushing him away to make him miss her. The reason why he had that unconscious desire to watch the video again and again is his subconsciente reminding him what has happened. How he felt. Denying his visit is preventing him from closure, so he is still open up to recon. She might be depressed now, because when Narcissistic persons lost their attention, then the world ends for them. And trust me. She is Narcissistic.

[@thecolorblue1635]

@@TheAsmodhashe left her son without food for days and practically abused herself for weeks. What makes you think she is in a mental state capable of abuse? Do you think her being diagnosed with depression and being in a hospital is also some cheap trick?

[@AA-ed6ek]

@@thecolorblue1635 Are you stupid? She left her son without food for days? That's abuse. It could very well be a cheap trick.

[@angelarias3395]

@@thecolorblue1635I think that it’s possible to fake anything to get your way if you have absolutely no morals or shame, that being said those types of people are very rare and it’s more likely she actually was fucked up over everything rather than acting for salvation

[@wadde_fakman]

@@TheAsmodha Bro what? She risked having her kid taken away and being put in jail for child abuse... to prove a point to him? If she was capable of that level of cruelty he would have noticed it before, not particularly with him but with other things/people she wasn't fond of.

[@cheesycheese7100]

The fact the OP was getting distracted writing about a random gym he joined makes this feel more real than others

[@Hello_1478]

It’s not I’m pretty sure it’s ai because it has a lot of phrases that are in almost all of them

[@GemzOSC]

I feel bad for OP but i feel especially bad for the son it's not his fault his mother is a bad person but he had to deal with her breakdown.

[@thematrix2661]

he is a fool who is being used, he should divorce her the moment he finds out she is cheating her reason are for her and for her only, she cheats leave does not matter why she did it

[@Ksinloveee]

@@thematrix2661divorce is a process you can’t divorce the second you find out and he’s not a Fool for feeling he had been betrayed and needing to leave.

[@dabestboi7509]

​@@thematrix2661we talking about the son homedog what

[@un-kyejohn2968]

​@@thematrix2661 did you read the comment?

[@joaop4585]

You really should feel bad about OP. Bcs emotionally-weak-man was about to take the cheater back The guy basicly doesnt have a backbone and seems to round his life on his marriege and bad things happens when you dont have a life about yourself

[@mmadi]

Bringing the person you’re cheating with into your home adds another layer of cruelty.

[@murdock94]

That's the one that gets me. Why, if you are going to cheat, do something like bring them into a place where your partner has ANY access and some form of control? At least a crappy, low rent motel is harder for them to get video of you cheating.

[@mmadi]

@@murdock94 It’s good that these cheaters are so incredibly cheap. Makes catching them a lot easier lol

[@Erebus04]

The answer to both you and Murdock can be simply 1 of 2 things, Option 1: cheating can be like getting high and the risker it is the more of a rush you get and the more you get away with it the higher your high gets or Option 2: your in so deep into what reddit calls "The Affair Fog" that you can't honestly tell what is right or wrong nor what is moral or not anymore

[@tyreesesolomon8907]

You sound mad experienced 🤨 with that cheating stuff

[@Erebus04]

@@tyreesesolomon8907 ha! I've never been in a relationship and I've only ever known kissed 1 girl, I just listen to a lot of Reddit while working out and I a unquie way of understanding the human thought process

[@keyboardandmouse7343]

Imagine he sent a note back to her that said "i ain't readin allat"

[@bored_boar]

"bro really wrote a whole essay for this 💀"

[@Justicar2503]

Fun thats cheaters tend to say they "lost control". So, cheating is the new the sims?

[@jasminedavis3030]

Even in sims they don’t autonomously cheat with someone that isn’t their partner. You, as the player, have to actively MAKE your sim cheat, even then they feel BAD about it. Sims are more loyal than this woman 😂

[@mannydcbianco]

I hate that excuse, I absolutely loathe it. It is - be it consciously or subconsciously - designed to liberate the cheater of guilt, accountability and responsibility. They couldn't help it, you see! They're actually the real victims here! They lost control and couldn't stop it from happening! MY AFFAIR PARTNER MADE ME DO IT, HE'S THE BAD GUY! It's psychological self-preservation on their end, they do everything they can to minimize the damage, to limit their accountability. They first and foremost try to protect themselves, over their partner. Even when they're wailing on about how they're scum who don't deserve their partner, the true victim of their cheating, they still fall back on the "I lost control, I couldn't stop it" narrative. Between every damn apology they squeeze in excuses or justifications, which clearly shows you that the apology isn't 100% sincere.

[@idontknow2591]

@@jasminedavis3030but you can get other sims to cheat on their spouses super easily lol

[@bigbro869]

Played sims while watching this. W comment

[@Envixzity]

Human being s are very compulsive creatures aka they do very many things without thinking about it or without choosing to they just do it so it is true that a lot of the cheaters just lose control

[@Jetstream7579]

The short answer is that OP (in my opinion) should either try separation or divorce. By the end he's clearly afraid of what the future will hold and he wants to go back to the way things were before. Things will never go back, though, especially since his relationship had already been broken for years. His best bet is to focus on his son and himself, and revisit this once he's healed. It will take years. His wife might not ever get to be a mom again, and his son might never want her to be his mom again. But she's shown that she can't be responsible for her son, between the bad choices and the mental breakdown that followed. Focusing on himself and his son will show his son how to healthily manage a crisis like this. Going back to the wife will hurt his son in so many ways.

[@sosamma090]

The way he gaslights himself into being in relationship with her is gold standard. We all know that he will be with her lol.

[@SteveMichael]

This is an old story, but I guess I disagree. If I was advising him I would tell him to have her sign a Post Nup that would be 100% in his favor. Next up she agrees that he adopts the boy. Next up would be the removal of all social media. Then there would be a lot of others things like a lie detector etc. My reasoning is this. As it stands now he could get screwed in divorce and never see the boy again. He doesn't want that to happen and he could leverage her now to protect himself in the future. He can also test the waters to see if she is really committed to reconciliation and if he can handle it as well. This would take some serious time, but the reality is that divorce is horrible and he stated the fact about other women out there.

[@SpencerMckenithWilliams]

I bet OP thinks he's some masculine man now going back to his cheating wife. He doesn't love himself and that alone is why he will fail his son. His greatest asset of a father is saving his son from his own mother. That's it. His version of being a man is not loving himself and allowing such a disrespectful act of deception. Poor kid. His mom is evil and his dad is a weak simp.

[@blackkn1ght]

He really took "the beatings will continue until morale improves" to heart.

[@Wheezall]

There are so many people who mistake the residual feelings for someone and the memory of a relationship for love. You dont love that person anymore (at least you shouldn't) you are just feeling that feeling you get after a part of your life crumbles, its like the desire to get back what you lost. You love the version of that person before you find out who they really are. You miss the relationship you used to have. Love doesn't exist for people who would destroy someone elses entire world for their own selfish desires.

[@cardelharry6386]

Trying to reconcile is crazy to me . This man needs to take his son and run for the hills

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

What happens when you're Weak and Gullible

[@qlof]

It's not his son so he can't take him.

[@danacarter9147]

​@@qlof Well said. Social services can find an adoptive family to take the son; a good family.

[@OWnIshiiTrolling]

​@@qlof The wife said she'd sign anything he puts in front of her. He could put that to the test.

[@نيشا-د2م]

There’s no excuse for the wife cheating. She was actively having a sexual affair with another man in order to keep his attention. Let that seek in. I’m glad she took accountability, but it doesn’t change the matter of the fact. The husband trying to make up excuses for his wife cheating is annoying af, mental illness or not, she still did what she did. The AP wasn’t some predator who actively knew she had a mental illness & was using it to his advantage. It’s psychotic the way the husband is looking for every excuse just to stay with her. Like, at that point just stfu & just stay with her cause you clearly made up your mind 🙄

[@BrownLove7562]

On top of that, she was documenting this shit! How in the blue fuck do you knowingly cheat multiple times and write the shit in a journal/diary whatever she wrote in. Someone said cheating is like leaving a stain, it’s gonna always be there. He just needs to leave and focus on himself. If he wants to build a relationship with the son, I guess go for it, but it couldn’t be me…

[@fleurpouvior2967]

Should divorce wife. At this point, not as punishment or revenge, but for both their mental health. It sounds like wife was going through stuff and whether people agree she was physically capable of saying 'no' at that the start, by the end there is definitly an essence of coersion that's not comfortable. Staying married, and being forced to be in a relationship that at this point is causing pain and grief to both people is not healthy. I hope op asks for primary custody, and they both can learn to be alone and confident in themselves again. Maybe they could fall back in love and make it work, or maybe they could meet other people, or maybe they could find being single is just better for them. But right now they need to seperate and focus on the son and their own mental health and healing

[@Banana.toulouse]

This is probably the best response on why he should divorce her that I could find in this comment section

[@blue3532]

You wanted attention from him then gave your body to get it? Then what kind of effort did you do to get your husband attention? I cant- 🤦🏻‍♀️ she just doesnt love the husband anymore. And dont use depression or bipolar to justify her action. Gosh darn it. I have bipolar and depression but i have never cheated on my SO.

[@doublejacketjimmy391]

Agreed that whole blaming everything on bipolar and depression is so ubiquitous it makes it seem as if bipolar is a mental issue exclusive to cheaters.

[@adnanorochi3761]

She already confirmed that she liked AP she said he's handsome.

[@ReconCrusader]

Once you forgive a cheater, they cheat again.

[@goat-sama]

F*cking A.

[@lillia2479]

Eh... not always. You can forgive a cheater, but still not take them back. A few will understand the consequences and no longer date. But if you take them back after forgiving them... no guarantees. 😂

[@user-vp9ko6bv2p]

@@lillia2479yes

[@dierdred_the_gray]

depends on who they are, how they behave, their mental state, etc. Not all cheaters are repeat offenders and are often poor shmucks that got roped into an addiction to attention. If after D-Day they carry on and look for new fuck buddies, then yeah. Guaranteed re-offence. But in this case, where they had a genuine breakdown (staring at a tv whether it is on or off for 2 weeks straight is not something someone sane and mentally home can do) should they recover their sanity, They will never cheat again. Seen it before, Buddy had his fiancee cheat on him with a similar premise, Dude she was banging was married and attractive as hell, dudes wife was a bombshell too. Once her affair fog cleared and she got the whiplash from it suddenly clearing via D-Day, She BROKE, Like full psychological break. She attempted suicide multiple times, her father found her hanging, arms stiff and forced down even as she was turning purple (Now I dont know if you know, But the sheer willpower to DIE it takes to keep yourself from suffocating yourself is insane. thats not faking suicidal mental state, its the definite proof that someone is suicidal) Eventually she got the care she needed through therapy, and he forgave her. I dont live near them anymore but id occasionally see her shopping and some dude would flirt with her, she wouldnt be polite, she wouldnt even say anything. She'd lock up and walk away. One time the fuckwit grabbed her arm and she let out one hell of a scream from what i heard. Not only did she never cheat again, but from what i know, attention from anyone other than my buddy makes her basically flashback. Last I heard she was still in therapy but getting better. It aint an act. She broke, His forgiveness gave her a rope out of the hole she dug, and unlike most Wayward spouses, she didnt hang herself with it, She clung to it for dear life.

[@miriamkapeller6754]

No?

[@Erebus04]

I remember this story from like years ago, did not know their were more updates, I just remember him talking about the fighting club and that was it

[@willo8856]

Get her to sign a prenup that if she ever does it again that she walks out with nothing that includes the son. Other than that you're between a rock and a hard place.

[@AmethystEyes]

I think those are called “post-nup”

[@Icemanic99]

I don't think u can do that with the son as op is not his biological father.

[@crimsonstorm34]

I was married to a bi-polar woman for 13 years and I can tell you that its hell. A lot of them don't take meds and just make excuses. Its funny some of the commenters were telling him AP was a predator and such. That's total nonsense. Bi-polar women know what they're doing. OP needs to divorce her and get full custody of his son and quit making excuses for her.

[@CriticalPopulistAnarchist]

Agreed. He should have taken photos and videos of the dirty apartment as court evidence to get full custody of his son.

[@PMMcIntyre]

The kid isn't his. He got cucked into raising another man's son.

[@Mytelefe]

The husband got finessed. You could see her true face the first time he confronted her when she gaslighted him and returned to the affair like nothing happened. Then when caught on camera she binge watched some shows for a week while preparing her "honest" diary and other parts of her plan. Going around and confessing to something your spouse has an actual video of you doing before he does it and adding some unimportant detail like texting some dude for 2 weeks to sound sincere and forthcoming is very logical move especially after you have been planning what to do for a week+ and are not a stereotypical panicking cheater making stupid excuses on the spot. Then take a vacation in mental health facility and smear the AP and bang your hubby is cooked.

[@yngvildrthevoracious]

My sister is bipolar and adhd and I'm autistic with adhd. Do you know why we don't know what we're doing ? Impulsivity: you can't know what you're doing when you're doing it without giving it any thought. That's why medication therapy and proper countermeasures should be in place. This woman has no excuse for cheating, but there's an explanation and judging by how AP's wife seemed to say there were other women, I subscribe to the predatory theory for sure. Doesn't excuse the cheating, but at least she is trying medication and saying all bipolar people refuse to take them is painting all of them and all neurodivergent people with a broad stroke that hurts perfectly decent and medicated people who don't cheat. I heavily suggest you look into the trauma your bipolar ex gave you with a therapist and I wish you well

[@crimsonstorm34]

@@yngvildrthevoracious That's a bunch of BS. You're trying to make excuses for the cheating. Apparently, you can't read, or you would've seen I said "a lot of them" not all. If you can't understand that then you need to work on reading comprehension. Let me guess, you're a f'minist? 🤣 Quit making excuses for cheating. Just because you're bipolar, adhd, doesn't mean you can't comprehend what you're doing. That's total nonsense. Suggesting therapy for me? Really? Why don't you take your fingers off the keyboard, the adults are talking here.

[@jak0816]

Single mom 21, where is the dad? 🚩🚩

[@ARcinder]

Ladies explain this... So you find a man who is willing to raise your children. Most guys aren't willing, I certainly am not. You have dated and you know most guys run to the hills when they find you have children. But this guy comes into your life, betters your life. WHY CHEAT? I know this isn't all women or all single moms, but I have seen it happen time and time again.

[@minatodroger7890]

The 80-20 rule I guess

[@isrln]

Doormat: asks for advice from people on reddit Also Doormat: ultimately I'll do whatever I want and feel is right

[@Mytelefe]

Doormat: my cheating wife was a victim in all of this

[@isrln]

@Mytelefe I made her feel unloved and its all my fault. Ultimately we made the decision to have the AP stay with us and allow her to bring in whoever else she deems necessary. My only requirement was that she let me know each time so it wasn't considered cheating

[@danialdirty5656]

if this is real, and OP takes her back. then all i can say is OP if something happens afterward just know its all your fault, you chose this path despite many people warning you not to do it.

[@yadadidyoea]

this story breaks my heart, especially about the son :( i hope the son and OP are ok now

[@DarkEinherjar]

As always, cheaters feel no remorse or regret about cheating. They only regret the consequences.

[@lazallewillemse3617]

Agreed

[@tomoyakun9294]

She was extremely sorry for it tho ?

[@DarkEinherjar]

@@tomoyakun9294 Like all cheaters, she only stopped and felt regret after she was exposed. So no, she's only sorry that she's been caught.

[@lyamlienard953]

I would agree with you if it was on almost any other video from this kind of channel, but I do not agree on this one here. It's too sad on every aspect and side of the story to say this, it doesn't fit this video in particular.

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

​@@tomoyakun9294She was extremely sorry... Extremely sorry, that she got caught

[@mcmanus354]

It’s not possible to come back from your wife being raw dogged by another man as sad as this story is. Someone giving your wife attention isn’t an excuse.

[@Gavin-fz3oh]

Divorce her. That’s it and that’s that. He needs to divorce her.

[@kafiulhaque8508]

I know what you are saying but the problem with divorce is she's unstable she could even comite suicide then the kid will lose his mother

[@angelo3998]

okay she deserves it imo@@kafiulhaque8508

[@Zenitricious]

​@@kafiulhaque8508his mother already showed how neglectfull she can be she abandoned him for her own problems i don't think that kid needs a mother like that

[@user-vp9ko6bv2p]

@@kafiulhaque8508stop

[@CriticalPopulistAnarchist]

@@kafiulhaque8508after a divorce, you aren’t owed a thing by your ex

[@peppapog8376]

That’s rough… one thing I don’t like about this though: the guy calls her alternate partner a predator… I doubt he was aware of her depression etc and o doubt he played that to his advantage. He was doing what people sometimes do, got interested in “greener pastures” and she got hooked. Don’t give her excuses by blaming him. They are both to blame, her being vulnerable or not is irrelevant, she could have come to you for the fulfilment she needed. There will always be other people who are interested. Are they predators too if she cheats with them?

[@AshdorCrush9000]

I hate it when people that have been cheated on consider reconciliation. Your partner chose to cheat on you. They chose to stray from the relationship. There is no point in staying in a relationship if they chose to move away from it.

[@analyticgeometry9014]

It's funny how she takes away all responsibility for her actions from herself, makes herself out to be the victim and her husband is just collateral damage. What a cop out. Just accept that your decisions have consequences lol

[@gamemaster9461]

😅 hahah fucking hell mate, its like you said its a cop out, she's now a victim, and now thos dumbass is going to take her back

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Accountability is a Woman Kryptonite - KS

[@williamlenderman387]

Would really like to see a conclusion to this story

[@rubykila2695]

not the real conclusion but here is what probabbly most certainly happend he forgave her, they both "worked it out" he never went back to be himself, she never went to be herself again, eventually she cheated again, or maybe it was him, they both then recognised that they should have gone separated ways long ago, luckly they havent had any other kids, son is now an adult, and he can deal with his parents divorciing better, she goes to be a full on whore, and he never finds love again because you cant just trust anyone at this point maybe at some points one overdoses and the other game ends themselves

[@melkormorgothbauglir.4848]

@@rubykila2695 Do you have a link to the rest of the post.

[@idkissausername1667]

i wouldnt be surprised if she cheated again and we simply never heard about it. i mean, honestly, how could this guy come back to reddit (or any other social media) and tell people "yeah, i got cheated on again after i took her back for cheating on me before." he would look like an absolute clown, and i think he knows that. he shouldnt have even made an update post if he wasnt gonna adhere to the advice people were giving him, which was "run fast, not slow." i hope he learned his lesson, but unfortunately, i know he would have to learn it the hard way.

[@StriKe_jk]

Should divorce. Trust is broken and neither of the two want a marriage out of pity and guilt. He will always think about it and she will always feel guilty, making them eternally miserable.

[@YouArentSlick]

Bro was smoking some exotic copium at the end. How are you justifying the cheating when your wife isn’t? She didn’t even ask to get back together, she doesn’t even want to talk to you because she pities you and your simp tendencies. “Should I leave her” bruh she left you, have some self worth. If this was about your son you would have simply divorced and gotten full custody due to her neglect, you’re fighting to keep the problem around

[@ronaldocruz4594]

He's a doormat

[@Wheezall]

It's so sad that this man thought of anything except for taking his son and divorcing that evil psycho. Especially after she completely abused his son because she went total psycho. She doesn't have the right to react that way. it's her own fault, and the fact that she, even after being caught, chose to be selfish and completely melt down to the point of abusing that mans son is disgusting.

[@GOTTA_RUN]

Jesus fuck. This is probably the worst reaction I've seen of getting caught cheating. I actually feel bad for all sides here

[@Maninawig]

I have a theory that the reaction wasn't just about getting caught. Rather, it was the catalyst that reminded her of all she's done since her aunt died, the way memories of your horrible bender might come flooding back once you wake up sober. I do agree though, empathy all around.

[@user-vp9ko6bv2p]

Her?

[@miriamkapeller6754]

Yeah, they both have issues and they both need therapy.

[@thatone_dude]

I'm sorry. I know this is a serious post but God damn it I lost it at baby rabies.

[@dierdred_the_gray]

shits real man, ive seen 30yr olds chasing any man they can in hopes of getting a provider and a kid.

[@MathewCR]

​@@dierdred_the_graySo that's what it was! When I was 19, this thirty something YO was chasing me like crazy. She would pay drinks for me, invite me to her hose every other day. The first time I slept with her, I was black out drunk (my first time drinking alcohol) and woke up in her house the next day. I just don't know about the provider, as I didn't even have a car or a good job till 25 YO

[@dierdred_the_gray]

@@MathewCR That was definitely more on the predator side of things rather than baby rabies, you got cougared my dude.

[@Im_Just_Here248]

Sounds like she’s making excuses. No an affair can never become so compulsive the person does not have free will. I guarantee you she either thought up what she was going to say to make you pity her or she just wanted to make it sound less like her fault by making it sound like she had no choice but in reality she did. Everytime she met with a new guy or was flirty you crossed through her mind and she decided to do it anyways

[@Mytelefe]

Everybody knows she went around spreading her truth as a preventive measure and the "dairy" was cooked probably during the "apathy" week. You could see her true reaction when she was confronted by the husband without any hard proof which was her gaslighting him and going back to the affair like nothing happened. If binging some tv series for a week on a couch and then taking a vacation in a mental health resort is all that it takes to get away when caught in 4k it is no wonder so many people cheat.

[@miriamkapeller6754]

Hobby psychologists "guaranteeing" things with no basis whatsoever. Don't talk about things you do not understand.

[@Mayank80204]

I doubt she has the brains to plot it this big u know her diary and the video where she didn't enjoy it and some other stuff if she was this smart I believe she would have had better things to do

[@idkissausername1667]

​@@miriamkapeller6754oh, but im guessing you DO understand, since you clearly know enough to know hes wrong, dont you? otherwise, dont talk about things you dont understand.

[@miriamkapeller6754]

@@idkissausername1667 Of course I understand. What he said is completely wrong and naive, how is that even in question.

[@Maddluv4eric]

Shes dramatic af.

[@Dado_nastro]

Nah, she got some mental problems.

[@daman571]

She only sorry she got caught

[@dualmo7185]

Most loyal swedish woman

[@sanddagger36]

His final rant about thinking his current wife wouldn't cheat again felt like desperation. I fully believe she thinks her depression caused this and she thinks she will never cheat again, but if it caused it once, the same situation could repeat. I do not believe for a second she is incapable of cheating on him again.

[@whitneymcclendon16]

I see why some of these guys get cheated on.🙄 Where are their balls? They're too nice showing that they're doormats. They really try to work with the cheater or question themselves for how betrayed they feel like they're the bad guy. Weird asf. No women will respect you if you don't respect yourself.

[@purplebanana6420]

Smh cheaters always wanna be surprised when their spouse leaves them

[@WHOISMRDXM]

This guy is such a joke in my eyes. He assumes she’s cheating which she is then she gaslights him into thinking he’s being accusatory. Then when he catches her he leaves and she tries to save her own ass by telling everyone “I cheated and he’s gonna leave me” then all of a sudden she can’t function and barely a reaction when he does try to help. “Are you real?” Then cries? 😂 Then while she’s in the hospital she doesn’t even wanna talk to buddy and he’s over here trying to justify every reason why her cheating is like “justified” or something and how he wants to reconcile or divorce which we all know he just gonna choose to be stoped on all over again😂. She has a chemical imbalance in her brain, unless she takes whatever tf they give her she’s gonna be wildddddd. She’s nuts and he’s a pushover and weak minded. He gave up on anything and just tried to make up this man even called HER the victim 💀 what a joke. At first I felt bad but now whatever happens he deserves it. The universe gave him every chance and opportunity to leave yet he thinks he’s her savior although it might be the opposite somehow. Idk man it just seems like he’s scared to date again and thinks because the wife wrote a 32 page apology that she won’t ever do any wrong? This all started cause HE caught HER in the first place. She’d prolly be bouncing in the other dudes body rn if he didn’t find out 😂 they only care once their stability and security is at risk and she played the whole 4 quarters breaking his ankles and all 🤣 In the end she still has a home and family to go to after all she did with like 0 repercussions because he wants to fiddle a cheaters butt hairs

[@delamarhamilton7225]

In a relationship, flirting is the start of cheating, their is no such things as innocent flirting and nobody can change my mind on that

[@gajeelredfox1016]

Addiction is a scary thing. You may not realize it, but anything can be an addiction. In this case, the attention she got was what satiated her, and after a few tastes, she could hardly function without it. It's a nasty nasty thing that no one walks away from ok.

[@I3urton]

Yup, those little kicks are one hell of a drug to the mind deprived of them.

[@TheKG636]

This guy made a mistake not sleeping with APs wife if she was that beautiful 😂 Best solution is to try and stay in the sons life by being civil with the mum, but he has to leave her, for his own sanity.

[@imaniislander755]

OMg i feel so sorry for you and your son op

[@imaniislander755]

28 minutes in

[@valmirius]

What a doormat

[@tattoomesam]

Yeah if you live life as a doormat, don’t be surprised when people walk over you. He loved her son too much and she saw him as a beta cuck. That’s why I would never date a single mother and advise others to do the same. Sadly my lil brother didn’t listen and his wife cheats on him and her son that he took care of since he was 2 years old wanted to fight him over his moms cheating. Go figure right

[@CriticalPopulistAnarchist]

Thank you

[@Whykickamoocow]

Ditch the witch or become king of the simps. Those are your only 2 choices

[@VRDejaVu]

You deserve what you tolerate. You tolerate her cheating hence you deserve it. Don't come back crying "she cheated again, what should i do?"

[@ayoSzn]

eh. Tolerating cheating and deserving it isnt really the same in my eyes.

[@VRDejaVu]

@@ayoSzn Imagine someone putting his fingers on a door then slamming it on them. He does this once... twice... etc... etc... At what point do you say "this dude deserves the pain he is causing himself?"

[@ayoSzn]

@@VRDejaVu eh. You are correct

[@ShadowReaperX07]

I'm 35 seconds in and I've already avoided the problem. If you want to take on someone at 21 who ALREADY has a 3 year old (that isn't yours) You're happy to roll the dice. I'm not.

[@math2222322]

Using depression as an manipulation tool is something I have seen too often. The guy got manipulated soooooo hard it hurts.

[@Duncanate]

I would bet those 2 weeks she was rotting away in the house was the time she wrote that digital diary.

[@TheZirael]

on the one hand, giving in to your vanity and escalating things to cheating just to feel "special" is disgusting. just talk to your husband if you're unhappy ffs. but on the other, if she really does have bpad and major depression, i can realte to the feeling of being a passanger in your own body even in the most fucked up situations. the amounts of bridges i've burtn and people i've slighted before i got help with my bpad makes me drown in shame and guilt even more than a decade later. so i dunno. these two will need years of therapy, each of them, no matter if they stay together.

[@thesaltysoldier9971]

Idc what her excuse is. She slept with the guy five time that's five times if I don't care about my family or marriage. Then only lose her mind when getting caught don't feel bad for her she is an adult and made her choice to sleep with the guy multiple times. Idc what she was diagnosed with you cheated, leave her she will do it again.

[@idkissausername1667]

facts.

[@DuskTale5]

I find it very strange that she basically wrote an entire book about how sorry she was. Anyone else find that strange but also cute?

[@JLN41211]

I love how broken down people become when they get caught 😂 like naw keep that energy you had when you were cheating.

[@arcadius3257]

I'll be the first to say "Never go back to someone who cheated on you" but this woman feels different than usual case's. I genuinely hope (Mostly for her husband and the child) that she redeems herself to the best of her ability and that she doesn't just continue cheating if he ever gives her that second chance.

[@demonvictim]

In this case I think that the best decision is to downgrade her into a gf. Just because you divorced doesn't mean you have to leave each other. She has to understand that her actions have consequences and apparently being a wife is too stable for her mindset.

[@arcadius3257]

@@demonvictim Her reaction seems to suggest that she knows quite well though, being downgraded to girlfriend would probably mean little to her compared to the damage she knows she inflicted. Honestly I wish we just had the answers so that we could fix these kind of situations easier or prevent them all together. Its so damn disheartening.

[@danteerskine7678]

@arcadius3257 it's also funny how the affair partner gets the best part in all of this, he got ass but clearly wasn't there when op wife was falling into a deep depression. In these cases, the affair partners are always M.I.A and I've read enough reddit posts to see a common pattern

[@arcadius3257]

@@danteerskine7678 Yep, probably off finding a new married target to have an affair with. Some people have absolutely no shame and actually get off on ruining marriages.

[@demonvictim]

@@arcadius3257 the downgrade is to put her on her best behavior and to make sure she knows he is one foot out. He wants to be there for the son and she is either average or below average in looks considering how he compare to ap wife and knows that op is a catch. So she has to make him want her back in the time period before the kid goes to college and maybe op will cheat on her just to feel better or not but that has no basis anymore since if you've been cheated on there is no longer any striking need to fight off people who want you.

[@DiploV1]

Cheating is never something “out of control” or something they didn’t know how to stop. Fuck all the cheaters.

[@ChinoMegan]

This man got so mad he went to a cage fight 😂😂😂😂😂😂 this made me CACCKKLLLLEEEEEEEE

[@shannonrichardson5129]

I really don’t think OP should reconcile with his wife. The comment about salvation from the letter setting off red flags.

[@GARBO96]

Simp alert. This dude tried to justify the cheating so quick oh she's got bipolar disorder so she cheated it's inevitable.

[@elizabeth-lmhxmx]

Seems like she’s had issues long before but still, not an excuse to cheat. I hope op is okay and the son

[@GlockyGlocky]

“Good news is you came a long way. Bad news is you went the wrong way”

[@thehiddensilentone1795]

Imagine, cheating on the man you supposedly love, then when he leaves you like he should..... you literally go insane Either that's the definition of a guilty conscience or I don't know what it is.🤨

[@JoelXl-zc4rp]

If she was truly guilty she would've went insane before he left. So she wasn't sorry, only sorry he left and she got caught.

[@ReiAyanami8]

So the story is very intense and all that, it sucks it happened, so on and so forth...but the OP's interaction with the AP's wife just got me, LOL. Like, she is _also_ someone who has been cheated on, so you think there would be a mutual understanding between the two of them but instead he's all like, "Damn, woman, you are annoying as hell," 🤣. I don't know why that got me.

[@Bluecrimson217]

"If he had to deal with this all day I can see why he wanted out."

[@unknowed5048]

Honestly, a "revenge affair" is so immature and would only makes things worse. I can see why OP would want to stay away from the AP's wife.

[@Maddy-me5hz]

The diary, the amount of depression the woman falls into, her confession… this reads like a bad story.

[@Number-vt1fl]

He's a fool if he decides to stay.

[@RabidDisposition]

Always tell your children about their parent's infidelity. They deserve to know who their parent actually is.

[@richardwolf6417]

“I’ve always loved you”. The biggest lie. She’s for the streets

[@adamxiong1817]

"I don't understand why I do it?" Cuz she for the streets bro! Depression isn't an excuse for cheating. OP stated, "Even if I divorce here, I will still have the pain. I will still have the scar." He really fails to realize that at least he's giving those pain and scars a chance to heal. If he stays, they will never heal becuz she will be a constant reminder of what transpired and the trust will never be there. And not holding her accountable for her actions will only enable her again once she recovers. Those pains and scar will always be re-opened. He really let that apology letter get to him.

[@VihanOjha-p3e]

You can choose what ever you want ❤️ and sorry it's sounds like round

[@JenniferJohnson-l3r]

Everyone TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING!!! Never ever ignore it.

[@JenniferJohnson-l3r]

Her condition is called WH0r3 She is extremely faking it because she was caught and is only sorry because she was caught. My xhusband pulled emo bs like this until one day he said if you leave me I'll unalive myself so I said here are our divorce documents sign and finish ur $h!t show for someone else.

[@hunterjames8653]

I like that the cage fighters where just like “yeah this guy needs to hit something/someone”

[@Maninawig]

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[@QrincessQri]

A small part of you will always love the father/mother of your children… even if things end terribly. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that either as long as you know you deserve better.

[@Lillrulle21]

I really hope this isnt real, hearing this poor fellow gaslight himself into reconsiliation, completely and utterly disregarding his own mental health, boundries or values.. its heartbreaking. What good will he be for his son if she ends up cheating again and he ends up truly breaking?

[@cheesesteak]

Felt bad for the guy until he choose to be a doormat to the very end.

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

Not all cheaters are so evil they're unforgivable. However, just don't take them back...

[@jakelucid9650]

Step one: adopt son Step two: give that woman space. Lots of it. Let her fix herself first. Step thee: take care of you and son. Go from there.

[@brightiris]

Get full custody or parental rights of the child somehow and divorce that 304. Cheaters gonna cheat no matter how "remorseful" they seem to look like.

[@Heiura]

I'm going to say it again .... If you can't bear the consequences of cheating , don't cheat ... No , and first of all ... DON'T CHEAT !!!

[@i.n.stiktokcontents6850]

See... i am not going to say that the OP's ex wife is not guilty . but at the end of the day it just shows that she is quite remorseful about what she did . for the fact that she wrote a 32 page letter and still gave up her login and other things . shows that she loved OP but was suffering from identity disorder

[@scaredpaul540]

She's remorseful for being caught, not for affair...thats is big difference...if she wasn't caught she will continue her affair with this AP, or another AP. You see that difference now?

[@knightawz]

oh come on if she was remorseful she would have stopped way before.... she dint stop until she got caught

[@JohnSmith-bs9ym]

@@knightawz Yes, exactly. If she was truly remorseful, she would've not only stopped but actually come clean voluntarily WAY before getting caught red handed...She did the exact opposite of that. This should be a lesson for everybody here. Always carefully watch what people actually do instead of getting distracted by what they say.

[@knightawz]

@@JohnSmith-bs9ym correct actions speak louder than words. Observe people

[@leon7894]

I have a hard time caring about strangers but this one was tough sitting through to the end

[@alext9320]

You know it's a bad one when you just start getting angry at every single thing the OP says in the last five minutes.

[@DraxXThanos]

your mental health comes first, and honestly it feels like shes still lying and the sex being a chore to her.

[@irisairsoul]

I didn't full on cheat and I've since of course healed from the depression (not all the way but I've made progress leaps and bounds), but even now, my husband still remembers the pain. I scarred him and I can't take it back. I can tell just based off the disconnect and the 32 pg letter and the fact that she instantly confessed to every one of her own volition, I can tell that if they stay together, once she's able to somewhat heal from this, she is going to hate herself forever. The guilt will loom over her for the rest of her life. She'll probably dedicate her life to making him happy/making up for everything. But I'd be lying if I said idk if all this will be true for her but it sure is true for me.

[@jhonnysins5282]

Another doormat blinded by love 😮‍💨 his wife is clearly a bad influence to his son but he just need a reason to keep the wife not for his son but for himself. He says there is no guarantee that his new partner will cheat, but isn't capable of seeing that the odds of his wife cheating again are very high.

[@Theyreallyfooledyou]

Damn the demons really did a number on that woman. Husband fought his off well but she succumbed to hers and then really struggled to repair after. I never thought I'd believe a person wouldn't cheat if they did once but this time I think is an exception. Man is talking himself out of divorce and I kinda think in this one exception I agree.

[@juniormon7514]

So a 14 yr old boy couldn't clean or cook for himself while his mom had a mental breakdown ? I know he's probably hurting too but he can't take out the trash and just do the bare minimum to help out.

[@JohnSmith-bs9ym]

Judging by how weak and pathetic the "father" is, everything actually checks out.

[@MMC619]

I just don’t understand why people ruined there life for 10 minutes of fun but what we can say I am glad that I am single and don’t have to go through this

[@homebass3426]

I bet that when OP messaged AP's wife, the AP immediately distanced himself from OP's wife. Any delusion that they were in love was destroyed in that moment and she was left at home, alone with nothing but time to contemplate all that she had destroyed

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Most Definitely

[@Noramythseeker]

“I’ll ignore anyone who says divorce that tr**p” but then asks “reconciliation or divorce?” Like buddy you know the majority is gonna say leave! Just admit you’re not strong enough to leave and stop asking for advice when ya not gonna take it when it’s offered lol

[@AstaStaria-li1pe]

If someone is so weak willed to cheat on someone they “love” then they are just going to cause more problems down the line, and in her letter she had summarised it well

[@PR3M3]

I don't think I hate a reaction more than the meltdown/deep depression reaction to being caught cheating. I feel like how dare you where was that energy before or during?

[@PawlPlaysGolf]

I believe the best thing he can do is forgive his wife and work on rebuilding the relationship and trust.

[@SSFighter1701]

The AP’s wife being so gung-ho to get a revenge lay and then the subsequent description by OP of her was a fun little detail.

[@wiresculptor5951]

Divorce her and take full custody tell the courts how she acts and what the house was like after you where gone for two weeks shes and unfit mother and her feelings dont matter as shes clearly sub human

[@abshekprasad]

What is an R?

[@Dado_nastro]

R is a letter.

[@abshekprasad]

@@Dado_nastro Wow! Thanks for letting me know.

[@JDBluedevil]

Your giving in bro, take your son and never look back. She can worry about her own mental health and well being like everyone else in the world.

[@morganleanderblake678]

feels a bit like wife never learned how to say no. Not a defense, mind you, but it makes sense she totally broke down. Hope she gets better for herself, and OP is safe and possibly far away.

[@user-vp9ko6bv2p]

If you don’t wanna make excuses, why did you make an excuse?

[@jjnix9517]

Caring about the well being of another human being is called being human.