Cemetery Turkeys, Psychedelics, & Edward Gorey's Ashes (DEATH SALON!)

[@Spongebobs4Life]

“I have no impulse control for morbid goods” SAME

[@quickquail]

Em B i have no impulse control at all, especially when it comes to specifically living animal friends; so i suppose y’all are a step ahead of me.

[@Kimmaline]

#relatable

[@billd66]

YASSS

[@janisi9262]

Those candles were so far beyond my ability to resist!

[@almakehlerbrown3935]

Well said

[@MartiniPistache]

I'm glad death cafes are not like cat cafes where you can hang out with cats though

[@OsnackieO]

Martini Pistache 😂

[@imacoolood]

Why would that make you glad?

[@EggTriangleTriangle]

Can we hang out with cats at the death Cafe though? Asking for a short and hairy friend.

[@furfoxsake1175]

Hanging out with a bunch of skeletons sounds pretty rad

[@blackwidor]

Nope thats a wake

[@TheMudbrooker]

By an odd coincidence, I'm looking out the window at my cemetery and there are 8 wild turkeys wandering about.

[@vanessa4587]

It's Turkey season in several states right now. Maybe they are seeking revenge. Lol

[@kbmls3]

#teamTurkey

[@Elenawen2]

THE UPRISING HAS BEGUN.

[@shinji5217]

@Vanessa 45 wait...... do you guys have turkeys wandering around in the USA?

[@TC-8789]

@lindomar 20 Turkeys are indigenous to North America. I live in New England- the northeast United States, and we have flocks of turkeys that live in the local graveyard- I think because its safe and enclosed, they end up staying there.

[@Mortyadamss]

Just started a job as a trainee embalmer! I’m only 20 and can not wait!! Thank you Caitlin for helping me find my passion!! I love you!

[@milana223]

Morty Adams can you do this without school?

[@colesuqs]

Wow you snagged a one in a billion opportunity! Your super lucky!

[@Mortyadamss]

@@colesuqs I really did. I didn’t realise how rare these vacancies are until I was actually in the job. It’s absolutely mad and I count my blessings on a regular basis!

[@Mortyadamss]

@@milana223 I have (I’m in the UK)! I mean, the company I work for are paying for my qualification but I didn’t need any existing qualifications for this particular trainee position!

[@colesuqs]

Hell ya get yours!! That's so awesome, I don't know you, but I'm stoked for you... P.s. your name fits adorably:)

[@celialovett5880]

My mom bought me an Edward Gorey book (thinking it was a children's book as it was in the Children's section) when I was young and I've loved him ever since! She was appalled after she read it but I was thrilled.

[@stephaniebaker6001]

Please tell me you love "The Gashlycrumb Tinies!!" Lol!

[@markan7550]

@@stephaniebaker6001 A is for Amy Who fell down the stairs B is for Basil Assaulted by bears C is for Clara Who wasted away.... (Yeah, I memorized it years ago)

[@athenathegreatandpowerful6365]

The Epileptic Bicycle is my fav!

[@megelizabeth9492]

If Roald Dahl taught us anything, it’s that kids love the gleefully macabre and morbid.

[@spiritmatter1553]

Talk about a happy accident! 🪦

[@ohio_nights]

HOLY TOLEDO. I honestly didn’t realize so many people knew/loved Edward Gorey. I discovered him in the sixth grade when I found John Bellairs’ children’s horror books that were illustrated by Gorey. Absolutely chilling and stunning work.

[@Unluckysandwich]

Just watched the “Adam Ruins Death” episode of Adam Ruins everything and was halfway through thinking “huh... I wonder if Caitlin Doughy has seen this..” when POOF there you were. I was ecstatic. I’m so excited more people are getting to see you and your work! 🙌

[@BennyLlama39]

You mean she was actually on the show?

[@Unluckysandwich]

ben trimble Yup!

[@BennyLlama39]

@@Unluckysandwich Ah! I thought that was her, but I wasn't sure.

[@RenzXVI]

Wait, what? I immediately went there to the truTV channel to see it but that's not her. I saw the "Adam Ruins Death: Opening" one and also checked the "Adam Ruins Everything - How Funerals Completely Rip Us Off " one, has the same girl but that's not her. Her bangs aren't good enough! Then finally, I saw another vid on TruTV titled "Adam Ruins Everything - De*th Acceptance with Caitlin Doughty !" Now, that might be her because of the name and voice but there is no bangs to confirm... :(

[@k.morningstar7983]

she was also in *Midnight Gospel* as a truly inspiring vision of the personification of Death (with a party hat!)

[@Michelleelise444]

I watch your videos everysinglenight before bed these days. I am bursting with appreciation, wonderment and gratefulness for your hardwork, dedication, sense of humor, knowledge and passion. I am going to read all your books when I get my hands on them. And I wish more than anything, I could come work with you. You are an ideal person and boss that I wish I could be around. I live in Maine, and I've been looking at potential jobs in your field. I know I would have to start at the very bottom and work very hard for many years, but I know it would be worth it and fulfilling. Thank you for all that you give, Caitlin. You're not only helping the dead, but the living as well, especially me. That is a tremendous gift. Thank you so much.

[@karid.4371]

I brought your channel up to my mom the other day... no clue how that came about but anyway.. next thing I know my mom and I are having a nice, not sad convo about death and how she wants cremated and her ashes spread in these woods we know, but that it has to b fall when we do it and how my dad wants to b on some mountain in N.C ( we live in ohio??) but basically I had no idea, and here they had such specific wishes and I would have had no idea. We laughed about my sister fulfilling these wishes walking in the woods with an urn of ashes.(shes not really the outdoorsy type) My mom said I'll prob handle that one on my own.LOL. but it was so comforting knowing that when the time comes.. which in NO way am i ready for, Im not that death positive yet... but when it does.. I'll know what their true wishes were. I then continued on about green burials, how embalming is the devil, aquamation, and every other thing I've learned from you in the past few months binge watching your channel. It was honestly one of the best conversations me and my mother have had in awhile.. We laughed a lot.. I guess someone mentioned to my grandma that she could be buried and planted as a tree or something and her response to that was... "Oh why so in a couple years theirs a storm and I get struck by lightning and I explode, or some man comes with a chainsaw and chops me down! I don't think so!" haha.. So prob not going to change her plans but it definitely opened things up for my parents and I to have more talks in the future... Would never have happened without you and the hysterical yet very informative way you teach us about death, the funeral industry and the fact that we have options! So thanku for doing what you do..

[@BucketCharlie]

Was it grandfather mountain she wanted to be scattered on?

[@comradegarrett1202]

every time I bring this channel up to my mom she asks me if I'm obsessed with death. I've been able to have some open conversations about it but still. my dad is chronically ill with a degenerative condition and I have no idea what his wishes are because he won't talk about it.

[@julietfischer5056]

@@comradegarrett1202 - You can't make him talk about it. He probably doesn't want to think about it lest his death become too real to him. I hope he has something written down so you and your mother don't end up arguing about it.

[@leafy81]

I'm so happy that you were able to talk to your parents about their wishes. My mom was always sure to tell me what she wanted and I didn't think much of it at the time because we talked about anything and everything, we were very open and honest with each other so death wasn't off limits at all. But I was so very grateful that I knew what to do when the time did come. It was one less thing to worry about and I was able to grieve for my own loss rather than worry about what she may or may not have wanted. She told me everything from being dnr to not spending any more money on cremation than I absolutely had to. (This channel helped me with that because I never would have known to ask specifically for "direct cremation. All inclusive" if I hadn't seen the video a few months beforehand. I don't think I would have known that I could call around and ask about prices even. I just figured that a body was assigned a funeral home and that they were all the same.) I also know that my mom wanted some of her ashes to be spread out in Massachusetts in the fall. Somewhere in a forest full of bright leaves changing colours. It will take a while for me to get there but she's not exactly getting any older or going anywhere in the meantime so I'm sure she'd understand.

[@P_RO_]

Most of the people who were born and raised in the lower Appalachian mountains want to have our remains remain here. It's both traditional and something we feel inside too, an attachment to this land that transcends time and is always an integral part of who we are. Maybe we can't tell you where we will be tomorrow, but we can tell you where we will be when this life is over. That's the one solid thing in out lives we can count on. And for anyone who is scattering ashes, just go do what was wanted quietly- do not ask permission or tell anyone beforehand as it's often denied or illegal in many places. It hurts nobody and nothing so just do it and know you've done right.

[@crowgrl13]

What the heck is it with wild turkeys and cemeteries? There's a whole gaggle of them at the historic Mountain View Cemetery in Oakland, California too! I guess wild turkeys are death enthusiasts of the feathered variety.

[@rxxnxx_]

that is such a beautiful cemetery!!!!

[@crowgrl13]

@@rxxnxx_ It is! AND the final resting place of Elizabeth Short, a.k.a. The Black Dahlia.

[@ArianYupangco]

Sending love from the Philippines, Caitlin! Hope you can visit one day and check out the cemeteries here, the ones where people actually live in, and even the hanging coffins here in Sagada.

[@AskAMortician]

I cannot WAIT to visit the Philippines.

[@OriLOK2]

@@AskAMortician I love your content! I'm so excited at the prospect of your visit to the Philippines I hope you enjoy your time!!!

[@Romandy13]

@@AskAMortician Yas!! I do hope you do visit Ph.

[@kyutboi123]

Yaaay! Filipino deathlings! 😍

[@kimmydichoso5643]

Yes I agree #sagada x

[@MossyMozart]

Wild turkeys may look drab from a distance, but closer up in the sunlight, their iridescent plumage is beautiful. Hail the wild turkey! We all need something wild in our lives.

[@allieparsons4680]

As a deathling in the south, a Death Salon would be uplifting and an amazing opportunity for so many people who feel isolated. I hope there can be a Death Salon in NC, VA, GA, TN, or SC soon.

[@lhaegreenleaf]

I second this for the state of Texas!

[@RestingBitchface7]

Savanna would be ultra posh.

[@azapp4761]

ADD LAS VEGAS TOO!! 💞

[@xannaduu]

NOLA!

[@mamabear189]

Yes! Virginia!

[@GovalTrace]

i love death cafe's! it's always a treat when a dead crawls onto your lap, lays down, and starts purring. it's just so fun!

[@mowglinhazel8731]

The turkeys are just trying to come to terms with the fact that American Thanksgiving is right around the corner...

[@vickymc9695]

Death positive turkeys. :-D

[@RestingBitchface7]

Now, that's seriously funny.

[@TheKazadoodle]

They are refugees turkeys from Canada

[@spicybeantofu]

:(

[@MystiqueHorizon]

@@TheKazadoodle well,, they need to jump the border again! Canadian Thanksgiving be over already. 😂😂😂

[@lmbarak]

So interesting the word has so many meanings. A gathering, a room, a place you go to get a hair cut. And probably more...

[@emmawagner6677]

Oh my gosh, if you have a Southern Death Salon, choose Savannah, Georgia! Not only is it super centered around death (hello, Bonaventure Cemetery), but I will TOTALLY drive down from Tennessee!

[@laffyraffy407]

Omg yes please! I would totally make the drive from Orlando to go to one!!!

[@bex572]

That would be amazing. I've always wanted to visit Bonaventure. Hello from Alabama!

[@augustpritchett4521]

YES!!! I live in Savannah and was thinking that this would be the perfect city to host one in. Bonaventure is gorgeous, as is the rest of historic Savannah.

[@OceanSwimmer]

I've always wanted to visit Savannah! Hello from California!

[@katherinepagan4860]

I’m from Savannah and YES, Savannah would be a perfect place for this! It’s a beautiful, beautiful location, perfect for a hospitality event, but also one that embraces the morbid past and present.

[@RaveBabyFuu]

OMG! I LOVE EDWARD GOREY! I've never met another person my age who even knew who he was. thanks for this!

[@squeakydeedsdonesoapclean3719]

A cemetery exists Turkeys: "It's free real estate"

[@staytuned2L337]

Will definitely be looking for that documentary 😂

[@GriseldaBeliciaLucero]

I’ve just accepted my first mortuary job where they will pay for my schooling to become a mortician! All thanks to you for becoming my inspiration! 💖

[@kodyryba7676]

I want to host a Death Salon! I'm 36, been clinically dead several times and I'm not afraid of dying...I think its its afraid of me lol. I live in Omaha Nebraska

[@gwenm3527]

Ok for real I want to hear your story. Clinically dead several times?

[@sherlyndiaz4829]

wow! thats so cool

[@SakheThando]

Ye!

[@Smauggish]

Kody Ryba, I’m a fairly new deathling and I live in Lincoln! There are a couple nice places in Lincoln that one such Death Salon could take place, we could help organize one perhaps! 😆

[@mlersk8830]

The fact that every video combines the specific topic at hand but also always ties in history, current social norms, psychology, etc shows true intelligence. The reality is *everything* truly does relate to everything else in so many ways but you don’t find an individual everyday who so eloquently and entertainingly is able to make all these connections and it is so awesome that Caitlin does. Be well everyone ;)

[@amethystengledow3423]

So it's like a death convention?

[@DenisPeel]

Morticon!!

[@mphillips4387]

Or Morbi-con😍

[@amethystengledow3423]

Yes!!

[@AnnoyingAsianWitch]

I wanna go.

[@deliwoman3720]

I read part of your book on a flight yesterday & I have to say, you're an incredible author! Watching your channel and reading your book have helped me begin to overcome my fear of death. My Grandmother died a while ago & I've been so afraid of death ever since. I'm so glad I stumbled across your channel. Thank you so much for all you do

[@jd-no7rw]

Yea! A new video! Oh, and my husband and I were stalked by a psycho turkey in the woods once. They're nothing to mess around with!

[@kezkezooie8595]

Now I've got an earworm of "Psycho turkey, qu'est-ce que c'est, fafafafa" etc a la Talking Heads going on.

[@mganguly7]

No one : Literally No one : Catlin : Don't talk to the Turkeys.

[@yaoguaife1741]

I haven't heard of any here in Kentucky, so I will definitely consider hosting a Death Salon since I work in the death industry and can have access to death industry people people. Thanks for letting us know Caitlyn!

[@susaneas8401]

Yao Guaife I’m in Kentucky, western. I would be interested in hosting a Death Salon too.

[@mortizya666]

Yao Guaife Lexington please! 🙏🏼

[@WaspandUnicorn]

Same! I'm in Louisville and would love if we could do something like this!

[@yaoguaife1741]

I could definitely ask my company if we could maybe set something up in Louisville (since I'm more centrally located there). Then, depending on the turnout it might inspire them to branch out and do their own kind of Death Salon Tour! I'll send an email to my bosses assistant (she's a real mover and shaker!) along with this video and see if we can get some wheels turning 😊

[@AskAMortician]

See, Kentucky is already rising to the challenge!

[@dcinrb8538]

Personally, I find your being chosen was an appropriate decision when a wild turkey announcement had to be made to the attendees. ♥️ Followed by an update on the wild turkey status just confirmed it. Always upbeat and informative, you captivate an audience. ♥️

[@rurone]

Is there a way to watch these talks online, since they appear to have been filmed? They all sounded fascinating!

[@FloydBunsen]

This would be great

[@elrobi33]

Yes yes!!

[@palmo9823]

Yes please! I wanna see Aluas talk !

[@Kimmaline]

@@palmo9823 Alua is my HERO. She responded to a comment of mine once and I swooned!

[@scb37889]

Please!!

[@crotisserie6390]

FLORIDA NEEDS YOU AND YOUR WONDERFUL TEAM! We have the highest rate of senior citizens in our state (and thus, death rates sky rocket here). So many people in my community lack the education about death and how to regain control over your own mortality. Older people included need to know that they still have every right to control their fate! I love what you're doing, and I want you to know after 3 years of obessing over your videos and other content I've completed my AA and joined the mortuary program at my community college! Thank you so much for being such an inspiration and beaken of death positivity.

[@ThisAndromedaCat]

Woo Year of Action!! Well done, Caitlin! Hopefully you can come to Canada sometime in the future!

[@kristenpeterssen5767]

When I got into the death industry, I emailed Alua Arthur for advice and was shocked when she responded! She was so kind and gave me encouragement. I'm in the legal side of death care (deceased estates) in South Africa, so I'm so glad she was on the panel. Absolutely wonderful woman.

[@ehmeh6537]

Well, In my neighborhood, I think a extremely colorful and light death salon would have great outcomes. I live near a lot of old people, and if death is seen as a good thing, they won’t be afraid of dying. Also a finance and last will focus could also help them.

[@EasyRay64]

Can you list a schedule of events

[@OceanSwimmer]

A Death Salon in Mexico would be lovely to attend. I know I would learn a lot!

[@OceanSwimmer]

Eh Meh -- it may seem counter intuitive, but some elders are terrified of death: even discussing it is taboo among my older sisters and mom (mom is over 90 -- still drives her car, etc., but fears death like it was contagious.) My siblings refuse to discuss mom's death, as does mom. She says her wishes are all written down, but won't talk about any specifics. It's oppressive when there's so much resistance. However, if that's how they wish to travel, it's their choice. Sorry, long post.

[@camelliarains8866]

The shoes at 2:39 is epic. Also, I learned a new word- doulah. Yay for an expanding vocabulary!

[@pollyflores418]

From Mexico, nearing Día de Muertos, HEYYYYYY CAITLIN, help us drive away that colonial fear of the death

[@paulinagutierez203]

Hi Poli wich part of Mexico are you from?? I´m from mexico too

[@crystalnicole1287]

You're amazing! The personality you have is perfect for this line of work. In my father's funeral as well as my husband's the men (only men worked at both funeral homes) were so dull and had no emotions at all. Their face never ever changed... They creeped me out more than the funeral home...

[@Givulinovich]

I never thought about the effect of class & race upon people’s final day & the effect upon the survivors.

[@azura-moonstar]

ya if you are poor, it sucks. my family was lower middle class for the most part and all had sudden deaths. most ppl didn't care to help, so most the family have simply plotswith simple headstones most don't get lucky, and the corpse get unclaimed simply because the family couldn't afford anything.

[@jcphelps7054]

My parents are on the Cemetery Association here in our small town so I've started to get more involved (especially since I'm pursuing a MA in History in the next few years). I've found out that our town's cemetery didn't accept black people or Hispanic people until some time in the 1970s I believe and there's still a much smaller, less organized/maintained cemetery outside of town that many of the black families still use. It's something that people truly just don't think about with our cultures way of dealing with death.

[@shadowmatrix0101]

And sadly it goes beyond class and race to the type of religion in the region, which is sort of like putting people in a class or race. My great uncle killed himself after being kicked in the head by a horse way back in the Depression era years and the entire family, including the small town doctor, had to pretend it was an accident because if anyone dared admitted it was a suicide he couldn't be buried in the family plot. It was such a ridiculously unnecessary lie everyone was shamed into because of the Catholic church. Almost like blackmail in a way. Lying is a sin unless it's to keep your family from burning in hell and buried in a pauper's grave away from the rest of their family, then you can live with the shame of lying. Bad enough the guy suffered mental illness because of being kicked in the head and the family had to deal with those issues, but then all the rest of it just made it more horrible.

[@Givulinovich]

Rose C I had a cousin who committed suicide. His family faced the same decisions. I grew up in a fairly accepting urban catholic parish, his family was country. If he had died in town, there probably wouldn’t have been anywhere near the stigma. Money, social or religious stigmas, seems to me that should all be set aside at the time of death.

[@deborahgate965]

I've never thought of these issues before. The stories in these comments r very sad.

[@anonemail8371]

i was at your powell's event tonight - EXQUISITE. the people in the crowd were all incredibly nice and your presentation was so engaging! thank you so much and i hope you have a lovely and minimally stressful travel!

[@KayandPComics]

I am so bummed out I couldn't make it to this! Right in my neighborhood.

[@maddycheeze]

Same, bro. Same.

[@whalen84]

🤣🤣🤣 ouche! In your neighborhood? Im in ct and i feel bad i couldn't go

[@KayandPComics]

Yeah I live in the area - besides anything on the east coast is like... my neighborhood compared to LA! XD

[@KateLove21]

Same! I didnt know she was going to be there.. and I am at Mount Auburn all the time. In fact just a few weeks ago I made a comment asking her to come back to Mount Auburn for her book tour. Little did I know she was here likely at the time I made that comment.

[@brigidspencer5123]

We started having Death Cafes at my Unitarian Church. It's amazing! Everyone there has watched your videos and read all your books Caitlin!

[@jamiemarsh8826]

“I found my people and I feel like I am home.” This is how I feel at Comic Con.

[@plum.preserves]

miss caitlin i truly hope this event makes a comeback! even just something virtual would be lovely!

[@MareCat31]

"Herding border collies " I can't even 😆🤣🤣

[@AshesAshes44]

Right? It's almost redundant to say herding Border Collies. The dogs will sort those turkeys out and probably teach them to write apologies. Such lovely dogs...

[@lucianagalvagno4096]

Yep i have a border collie she Even control the Cats... I already talk to her about it is not Nice to do that to them

[@chemgeektim]

Mount Auburn is an amazing cemetery, I used to visit it when I lived nearby. Time for a Death Salon in Madison, WI! Thanks for visiting and doing the book signing today! And we have plenty of wild turkeys to make the event even more fun!

[@LindsayDaly]

Ah this makes me so much regret not going! I'm right here in MA! 😢 UGH !! And the Gorey-themed fundraiser! I'm so mad at myself haha. I've been to the Edward Gorey house on Cape Cod, too!

[@quickquail]

Lindsay Daly yoooo i’m located on cape, i would’ve gone if i knew it was happening

[@ArnellaMaturin]

Me too!

[@chickie3376]

I’m an hour and a half drive from Boston- wish I knew, I so would’ve gone!

[@crains8087]

Follow Caitlyn on Instagram...

[@ItsNat]

Omg SAME! 😭😭😭

[@TheHealthKitten]

Thank you for making and posting videos even though you’re so tired! We love you!

[@haleyswanson3368]

Wooo,I'm early to the death party today! Caitlin you're the bomb.com just thought I'd put that out there. ❤️ Thanks for making death less scary.

[@ERYN__]

Was honored to squeeze into the 2nd stop on your book tour and be amongst our people, looking forward to hearing highlights from the rest of the tour.

[@32mybelle]

Please come to Arizona for Day of the Dead! We would love to have you! I like in progressive Tucson. My community would probably really embrace you if they knew about you. We mostly consist of aging hippies (not me) and college students (also not me). I found out about the need for services like yours through a series of personal losses in my life. Since we have a huge aging populace that is open minded to many types of burial, please consider Arizona in the future. Tucson is prettier and rock stars live here, but Phoenix has more people. Bisbee is also a lovely alternative since it has a huge artistic community. Hope to see you soon!

[@TheShatteredhookah]

I think Bisbee would be a wonderful idea!

[@mikecowen6507]

Gotta throw a vote for Phoenix! Plenty of walking dead, and future customers here. Just kidding. The walking dead aren't bad, but beware the driving dead!!

[@WaltersMama]

oh and I'm sooo glad I went to Death Salon Boston, it was so great to hang out with so many intresting people from all over with so many different perspectives on the most universal of subjects. omg, I had so many conversations with people were the baseline on anything death related was so super chill.

[@jourdyn414]

We need one in Milwaukee! I'm a licensed (although currently not practicing) funeral director and I have experience with setting up events and the like, I would love to get more information about how to help set up a death salon Wisconsin in Milwaukee. Also, I'll be at your book signing in Madison next Friday and I cant freaking wait to meet you!

[@ashdaniel2034]

I just saw you on Adam Ruins Everything and I'm screaming! I absolutely love your videos! Your point of view about death and burial is like a breath of fresh air. Keep up the great work!

[@AbiGodinha]

00:40 You missed the perfect opportunity to say that you were DEAD TIRED lol

[@lizzybeehunter214]

I wanted to come see you at your book signing today but I’m here at work! So bummed!!! I hope I get to catch you next time! I’m mildly obsessed (that’s a gross understatement) with your channel and I can’t wait to buy your books!! You, my dear lady, are my spirit animal!!

[@ranthropologist]

I was studying for midterms while seeing the death salon on everyone's instagram 😭 BUT I got an A on all my midterms, and I'll be at Powell's to see you tonight!! I'll be the one with the super-cute service dog and also maybe nervous about meeting one of her heroes

[@betterwiththeirish]

My mother and grandmother are buried at Mt Auburn. I love that place, it's gorgeous and was just there last weekend.

[@neutron212]

Death and cake? I thought it was cake or death! Oh you must be the church of england

[@mrschurch1990]

Little red cookbook! Little red cookbook!

[@TinksiehTink]

Well I'll have the chicken then!

[@Tubularvalleydude]

LOLL!! I belong to the Church of England and this is hilarious

[@SophieW-z9r]

Too true..' More tea vicar!!'

[@johanvajse8410]

well we've run out of cake! so my choices are or death?

[@user-yj5bj8ke6c]

Oh I love the works that Peter Stephan does! Great man!

[@lhaegreenleaf]

I'd love to hear you maybe talking about the connection of psychedelics and death more if you feel comfortable doing so!

[@carolynnixon3086]

So would I. Bring it on!!!!!!

[@cookingprof]

I wish that I'd known that you were here @ Mt. Auburn in Boston. I love the fact that there is some amazing art there. IMO it is also a collection of older graves that might replenish some of the most beautiful collections plants & trees.

[@Kia-y5n]

My pair of doulas were full spectrum doulas. Supporting not only live births but still births and abortions... have you spoken on that topic yet?

[@MareCat31]

Awww...that's nice to hear about your doulas, it can always be really hard on the mother and the family if there is a stillbirth.

[@ambertownsend9684]

October is pregnancy and infant loss month and it’d be great if she would do a video about doulas and still births.

[@clmaynor]

Why would you have a doula for abortions?? It's just a glob of cells and not a living baby right? If it is actually a baby, that would make it murder, right??

[@argentiaertheri]

clmaynor I’m guessing because most late term abortions are of wanted pregnancies that went horribly wrong

[@ambertownsend9684]

clmaynor the baby I carried died in utero at 23 weeks pregnant. The process to artificially start labor to pass her body falls under the term abortion.

[@SlavaUkraine966]

I was waiting for the turkey at the end, and you didn't let me down.

[@Peakaboo304]

Come to Detroit!!! & speaking of Detroit... can you make a video of the Cantrell Funeral home in Detroit? It closed down in April this year when reports of moldy bodies were being stored & just today they found remains of infants in the ceiling while construction crews were doing work in the building.

[@BryanBednarek]

I certainly found my people at Death Salon 2018. Thanks for all of your work!

[@lynne99]

I wouldn't be able to leave to Turkeys alone

[@amyrenaud7589]

Thank you for showing the inside of Mt. Auburn. I've lived in Cambridge, but never had a reason to go inside the cemetery, despite passing it daily on my way to work. PS: wild turkeys are a fixture in the Kensington, CA cemetery. So I appreciated a mention.

[@1015SaturdayNight]

I have many thoughts but I will start with, holy shit those red Fluevogs though 😱

[@scarlettsiren]

Sarah had great shoes all weekend! And super sweet note- I asked her about them and her husband picks them out for her.

[@OceanSwimmer]

What is a Fluevog?

[@1015SaturdayNight]

OceanSwimmer The amazing red boots with the hourglass heels are by John Fluevog

[@katharinehe]

My wonderful archaeology colleague presented there! It's great to find other communities to discuss your career passions

[@agypsycircle]

I’d actually love to hear more about Edward Gorey!

[@lazyhomebody1356]

He was good friends with an ex-boyfriends parents, cause they were neighbors in Cape Cod. As he was my hero, I got all excited, but sadly they are those kind of people who can't describe anything...

[@wolfman75]

Get some rest Caitlin!!! Thank You for sharing!! That looked like so much fun!!!

[@Charlotte66666]

This looks like it's so interesting, I'd love to attend one.

[@nicerice8439]

I really like that antique singer sewing machine in the background. I just got my first antique machine and it’s a singer 99 made in 1920. I’m not sure if you sew on that one but it’s a really incredible machine and I think yours is just beautiful.

[@EmmeChatterton]

Man, didn't know this happened in MA, how awesome! Portland, ME salons, anyone?

[@amyhaynes3288]

Two years after the fact, but I'm over in Gorham, and after ye old covid I definitely be interested in attending one in Maine.

[@mrmusiclover4178]

Caitlin, I eagerly await your wonderful videos for days before Friday comes around! I LOVE them! But then lots of folks think I am an odd person, thinking about death all the time! Love this video. Cheers!

[@pilze.7213]

I'm a trans guy, (thank you for the trans funeral rights video

[@dangolguitartech]

🖤

[@unknownposterr]

i live near philadelphia and i think something based around the basic information regarding the industry and the your options regarding your own death or when someone else dies would be great especially if its geared toward helping people understand the financial aspect more and giving people options. Also, I may live near philly but i'm in the suburbs and I think what i'm going to say rings true for most suburbs...a lot of them are full of older people or middle aged folks with older family members and having some basic information in a positive supportive environment may help it seem less intimidating and less frightening and help them feel more in control when it does inevitably happen.

[@wyattE415]

Oh man, I would love to go to one of these. I actually have one friend that I think enjoys the macabre and what most people would find "morbid and weird" to be fascinating, if not beautiful. I've always kind of had an interest in death. I've been a long time horror fan, and especially but not exclusively the zombie genre. Then, in 2015 my dad passed away, and he was one of closest people in the world to me so, through my grief and pain, I have begun to have a very serene, peaceful, and fully embraced the reality of death and no longer am ashamed to make really off-the-cuff remarks that make some people uncomfortable (I actually find those moment funny), but I certainly do not fear death the way I used to. I fear suffering, but I do not fear the death itself. I would prefer if I knew it was coming and it wasn't a sudden death just so I could mentally prepare and say my last things to people, but I do not worry about it nearly as much. For me, I think my current attitude about death comes from two things: my faith, I am a Catholic Christian; and the death of my dad. The fullness of the Creed of Nicea of the Communion of Saints and that we are still connected to those gone before us, they are a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, praying for us, rooting for us to live our lives in accordance with God's will, which is love for God and love for others. I certainly still feel connected to Dad even after him being deceased for over three years now. I know he is dead corporeally, but behind the metaphysical veil that exists between us and the Communion of Saints, I know he is still with me and I have felt his presence. I realize this is anecdotal, and I am not trying to convince anyone to think or believe anything. I am simply being honest about my thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Take them for what you will. Thank you to Caitlyn for doing what you do. I am so glad you do the job that you do and I am thankful for your informative and educational KZbin channel. Keep up the good work. I am one deathling who says you are awesome, doing a good job, and an inspiration to a lot of people. It makes me wonder how many of us would admit and be open about our fascination and interest with death (i.e. being a deathling) if you did not operate this KZbin channel? While I cannot speak for others, I would certainly strongly suspect that I would not be open about it. Any time you talk at all about death at all, let alone if you fixate on it or talk about aspects of it that are interesting, many people look at you with concern as if there is something wrong with you. There are definitely many things wrong with me. I have many faults. However, being a deathling is not one of them. If anything, it is an aspect of my personality that makes me grow and become stronger as a person.

[@blumeshullman8002]

I would like to thank you because I can clearly tell that there was a before and after watching your videos. They really encoraged me to think about death in a rational and peaceful way, and I learned so much. It's made me realize how when it comes to taboo topics, ignorance seems to be valued more than knowledge, which is ridiculous because knowledge is something we all benefit from. The same can be said about other taboo topics like sex or mental health and the more you learn the better. Always. I can tell you I feel empowered now that you have taught me the options we get when we die, and that we have a right to refuse the useless bling of a casket and the environmentally harmful embalming products, I get a sense of control over it, not death itself naturally, but the fact that I can have a funeral someday that is closer to my values. You also encouraged me to talk about death with my family in a much more peaceful way. I do believe that your channel has some real and positive impact on poeple. Thank you so much for allowing strangers to take that time to reflect on death. It's precious.

[@michellef7130]

"We're gonna do crimes together" Dying...

[@charlieraven6342]

This has inspired me to start a death cafe in my town actually! I live in lansing and I know there are deathlings here but no groups or get together - a death cafe is much needed!

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

G'day from Sydney Australia! Wow so awesome I wish I could have attended. Sadly it's a bit of a trek to Boston from Sydney. I hope you'll come to Australia & do a Death Salon here. It would be awesome! If you ever do come to Sydney then you *have* to visit the cemetery at Lidcombe. It has a lovely historical section. You can get there via the train - the cemetery is literally across the road from the station. It's well worth a visit. If you'd like to visit other historical graveyards in Sydney. Then the historic Camperdown graveyard is worth a vist. As are the many historical graveyards of Parramatta. Please do come for a visit Down Under dear Death Momma we (the Deathlings Down Under) would love to meet you! 💀 BTW *LOVED* the turkey at the end I got a real laugh out of it. 😂 Well I've been 'gobbling' on enough best get back to sleep (It's 3:30 am here) as I've got work tomorrow. Hope you (& all my fellow Deathlings) have a good one. Bye! 😄

[@kme]

We used to live right across the street from the cemetery in Morningside, Edinburgh and so. many. weirdos. Wow. But walking through it was so peaceful despite the bustle of the city just metres away. A LOT of old graves too. We had a game, trying to find the oldest grave. 😊 Where we live now, it's tucked away just outside of town and the only people who go there are those with family buried there. This town is over 2000 years old (former Roman vicus ruins maybe 200m from our house?) but idk where the older graves/cemeteries are.

[@Bofeministspider]

Yay fellow Sydney deathling!!

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

@@Bofeministspider So nice to hear from a fellow Sydney sided Deathling. Or a fellow Deathling Down Under as I like to call us! 💀

[@itwasagoodideaatthetime7980]

@@kme How cool to live so near a historical cemetery. But I can understand why you would dislike all the weirdos. People can appear to be normal but soon as they get into a cemetery they can be all creepy. Ugg!

[@jjes181]

Thank you for the video on the advanced directive. I was just having a conversation about it with a friend last night!! x

[@ginarickicki8586]

(forgive the fashion squee) THOSE ORANGE BOOTS

[@petroldevo9934]

Where I live we don't exactly have " Death Cafe's". We do a thing called " Dia De Los Muertos" translates into day of the dead. This is held in Mexico, but we have this here in New Mexico as well. We paint our face to look like skeletons and march in a group around a designated area thinking about the ones that went before us. Afterward we eat, talk about remembering the people we lost etc. There's a lot more to it, but it's a holiday to honor the dead it starts Oct 31 and ends on Nov 2.

[@agentmothman5343]

Is there any chance of a Death Salon outside of the US in the future? I'd love to attend one. :)

[@cheriefrench6956]

If we set them up, yes

[@jamiecolver9826]

You are awesome sister! You have made an uncomfortable subject comfortable, interesting and entertaining. Thank you! Keep doing your thing!

[@louisebentley4886]

We, the Down-Under Deathlings, eagerly await the "Death Salon Grand World Tour" which ideally will commence in Australia ;)

[@TracyMarie71]

I’m excited to find out where the next Death Solon is as well as there possibly being smaller venues to go to. Both would be a great way to visit more people, cemeteries and ideas.

[@eryne98]

Waiting for death salon to come to Canada

[@pigeonpower42]

Yes!

[@gaiaocracy]

Yeah, me, too.

[@KristineMaitland]

Then let's make it happen. And somewhere that has a good death history but is not as expensive. I'm in Toronto and the costs here are insane. How's about Windsor. ? Just a thought.

[@SpiritBear12]

I'm in the burbs many miles south west of Boston and we get turkeys in the back yard quite often.

[@sest6621]

I see my dumb blue head!!! amazing

[@sest6621]

Hey thanks

[@danielamckee5435]

I have no need for this in my neighborhood thank you just the same. I'm not able to explain why I can't stop watching your channel, Ms Caitlin. I do have an unrelated (to the topic). How on earth did you even get interested in this industry? I mean. Your enthusiasm for the dead, death and dieing is contagious! I never feared death, but as many people in the world the subject line was taboo until I watched your speech at a ted thingy... I feel so much more comfortable with the thought now. I'm still uncomfortable, but the more I look at you, the intimidating the subject becomes.

[@VelvetCondoms]

if we had a Death Salon here in Florida, and in Brevard County specifically, there's a few useful topics in addition to the standard ones. * We have a lot of elderly people here, and that means that we have a lot of people who are guaranteed to be closer to death than birth. Some related topics could be how this affects a person psychologically and the sociology of funeral homes. * People who were born here are only about 2% of the population. The vast majority of our residents moved here. For people who death is a family-related affair, how do you handle that geographical separation? How do you handle funeral transportation when people have moved so far to be here? How do you handle inter-state body transportation? These are all very important local topics. * Since we're one of the frontlines for loosing our homeland due to climate change, how do we deal with the probable death of our community? Thoughts anyone?

[@lazyhomebody1356]

I lived in Boston for many years- well, Cambridge and Watertown- and I really miss Mount Auburn Cemetery! There were graveyards all over the damn place and I miss them all...

[@nomafox5076]

I kinda have a question and am unsure how to word it. I'd really like more death positive videos from people since it's unrealistic to expect you to make them all for everyone. I am working towards becoming a funeral director myself, and although I'm not quite there yet, do you think it'd be okay for those of us without credentials to make videos? I mostly want to talk about the philosophical aspects, or start a conversation for those who are mourning without getting into the legal stuff. Like, would this be okay or would you advise against it until I or anybody else has certs to really talk about it?

[@belizeguy]

The Cemetery across from a home I owned near Rock Hill SC had a flock of Wild Turkeys that would visit each evening near dusk . There was an albino hatched and sure enough ,5 years later there are 5 more when I last saw them .

[@cashrichards9139]

I JUST SAW YOU ON THE EPISODE OF ADAM RUINS EVERYTHING. I seriously screamed when I saw you! So happy for you 😍😍

[@stevenbosch429]

You might want to consider Greenlawn Cemetery in Brooklyn. Among the other points of interest are the recent additions to the graves of Civil War veterans. Greenwood offered free burial to any indigent veteran. Many could not afford headstones so wooden crosses were used.The cemetery later located the graves and when the cemetery was added to the Register of Historic Places headstones were provided by the federal government. The stones are similar to those at Arlington and other national cemeteries.

[@Snezzleify]

The turkey updates 🤣🤣🤣 you have a great sense of humour! So needed in the world. The audience laughing was the best!

[@Sparkledrummer44]

Come to Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn! Its massive, breathtakingly beautiful, incredibly historically rich, and they already throw a bunch of really cool events there on the regular so I'm sure a Death Salon would fit in perfectly!