They can say they're exhausted all they like, but it doesn't excuse bullying patients and treating women giving birth with contempt. It doesn't excuse having a receptionist shout at me for wanting my partner in the room whilst i have an examination because i have a history of CSA. It doesn't excuse hearing the staff talking about my autism in a derogatory way. It doesnt excuse being denied physio for PGP thats getting worse as i get heavier because they arent taking my pain levels seriously. I work for the NHS covering a service by myself. Do you not think i dont know how tired we are? How underpaid? Underresourced? Ive never once taken that out on my patients. Ever. Its a disgrace and i think its that we admit that some of the staff that are left now are just not very nice and have only stayed because they know their attitude wont carry them in any other field. Whereas the NHS closes ranks and protects toxic and incompetent staff.
@i_kissed_a_pixie15377 ай бұрын
That’s terrible 😞
@staceyhunt67697 ай бұрын
They cling to their toxic staff because any staff is better than none. But that doesn't just drive away patients and problems of care, but it also drives off good staff, because so few want to have to stay in that environment. Add into it the lack of pay, lack of any true benefit to working there, what's the point? And then they leave and it compounds the issue! Staff refused to believe I was even in labour with my daughter because they checked half hour before and I was 3cm. And refused to believe I was in that much pain. When I roared at them that I was, and if I brithed where I was I'd take them to court because I am a known risk (Hemorrhaged very badly with my oldest) they moved me to labour ward, checked to find my waters bulging and within less than 10 minutes she was fully born, I was hemorrhaging again and she'd breathed in meconium. The IV they put in made me arm swell 3x the size and the post-birth midwife said (I will never forget) "Your own fault for not putting the baby down". When 1) We both just had a very close call, 2) She was nursing almost the entire time and 3) Of course I've not put her down, she's under an hour old! The majority of my care has usually been good. But there is always at least 2 staff members who totally taint things. It's not on. :/ I'm now 1st trimester with my 4th baby (6th pregnancy) and am so anxious about how the midwives will treat me already I'm putting off my booking in appointments over it.
@blair96077 ай бұрын
Wtf …. You literally had me guessing if this was my comment I forgot I wrote ! I had midwife’s shout at me for bleeding on the floor … after labour . I’m autistic and got poor treatment . I had PGP with no physio, I got referred and they said nothing they can . My daughter is 10 months old and I still can’t walk properly . Are you literally me ?
@MrShivadie7 ай бұрын
The health care service in the UK is truly scary but ppl keep sayng that's the best in the world, how delusional..
@s.y.49687 ай бұрын
After 3 children I can absolutely attest to the fact that maternity care in this country is absolutely atrocious
@veverest21557 ай бұрын
I’m 22 weeks now, but had my son in the states and will be having this baby on he NHS. I am terrified and already was before all this came out.
@s.y.49687 ай бұрын
@@veverest2155 I hope everything goes well for you. Make sure you have someone with you, who can advocate for you.
@ScottishRoss277 ай бұрын
@@Disgruntledbellyz Birth Registrations in 2023 Scotland 45,914 Finland 43,320 out-birthed by 5,65 percent or 2594 Kuwait 39,901 out-birthed by 13,1 percent or 6013 Uruguay 35,643 out-birthed by 22,37 percent or 10,271 Singapore 33,541 out-birthed by 26,95 percent or 12,373
@londonbabe24677 ай бұрын
Sadly doctors don’t give a xxxx. They’re in it for money and to get their private practices going. Destroyed deliberately. Women should be looking after wo😢men. It’s ONLY WOMEN who understand WOMEN
@abdell75roussos7 ай бұрын
Spend more money on them. 14 000 000 spent on open borders, plus a lot more in the future. Yes that is fourteen thousand millions. A figure hard to comprehend.
@theonlylordoflight51017 ай бұрын
Maternity nurse told us our baby wouldn't survive due to too low down in womb. Said we would 100% have a miscarriage. She told us just to pray and in Gods hands with no real empathy. We sat in that car after that meeting contemplating do we just abort with the advice we were given... We've now celebrated her 2 year old birthday a few weeks ago. Maternity services in this country are appalling beyond belief and we could list other terrible experiences.
@brockit797 ай бұрын
Anyone who's been in hospital knows how scary and abusive those places can be.
@paulatreides07777 ай бұрын
Everything in the Uk is breaking down and degrading.
@cryptonut97327 ай бұрын
My wife’s experience was extremely traumatic. I do not wish it upon anyone.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
My daughters too mate, it’s a disgrace nowadays
@monikacorgi7 ай бұрын
Why did you make her pregnant? A man who respects his woman would never put her into such awful suffering
@Sophie-cw7bf7 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear this sir 😢😢😢
@kaydiangel24456 ай бұрын
@@monikacorgiWomen Choose to get pregnant, there's nothing wrong with have children. But women need to be treated better by hospital staff.
@monikacorgi6 ай бұрын
@@kaydiangel2445 There's everything with having brats as it's a pure suffering, destroying health, life, wasting life and time. No wise woman makes this choice and no wise man allows his woman to go through that. You're delusional and it's dangerous. Pregnancy is worse than a terminal illness.
@spacecaptain91887 ай бұрын
Dude was talking about how women should be listened to, then he repeatedly interrupted and talked over the woman he was interviewing.
@Reallyannoyingtoo7 ай бұрын
The midwives can be so evil when a fellow women is at her most vulnerable
@mmf84327 ай бұрын
I had two of my children in Germany and my youngest in England... There are worlds in between. I was literally sent home less than 24 hours after a c section. In Germany they keep you in about five days, even if it's an ordinary birth without complications. The nurses help you recover from the birth, look after baby, you don't need to bring anything for baby, clothes, nappies etc is provided. You're sent home with loads of freebies and you get a 24/7 number for a midwife in case you need more help. Here I felt like I was inconvenient to the nurses and hospital.
@minorcadence17 ай бұрын
These 5-6 day hospital stays after delivery were commonplace in the UK in the 1980s. It is well known now that hospital stays increase the risk of infection and complications following surgery. Why would you want to stay any longer than is absolutely necessary when you are (presumably) otherwise healthy and can recover in your own bed? I was out of hospital 4 hours after (non-obstetric) abdominal surgery for this reason in Australia, so it isn't just labour ward that send otherwise well people home to recover. Whilst it would be nice to have the support of the midwives on the ward with a new baby, a 5 day stay is also exposing you to risk to save you a few nappies for your third child. I do agree community midwifery needs to be better so that people can have the support of midwifes postpartum. Perhaps if the UK increased its income taxation to be 5-10% so on par with Germany then it could pay for better community services for new mothers.
@KasiaQobadi7 ай бұрын
You are right, there is higher risk of infections during hospital stays nevertheless risk of bleeding and post surgical complications are significant as well. If anything wrong is going to happen in 3-5 days after C-section with a baby or mum you would never survive in UK calling ambulance and waiting many hours for their arrival. It’s very scary to go into labour in the UK however I had amazing experienced nurse in Cardiff who came over to help her younger colleague and been soo great and professional ❤
@kookiebun4707 ай бұрын
If you are stable why would they keep you if you if they are many women waiting to be admitted. They normally give you a direct telephone number to call in case of emergency or if you have concerns.. District midwives also do follow up check up & home visits including the health visitor.
@citizen-277 ай бұрын
In the UK it feels like the nurses are forced to do their jobs
@Nelcia6427 ай бұрын
6 days? Completely unnecessary I spent two days instead of one after CC and I thought I’ll die I’d rather be home
@robinholland11367 ай бұрын
These personal stories are awful and shouldn't have happened. However, remind me which party has been in government for the last 14 years. The Tories have always hated the NHS and have always chronically underfunded it, both in terms of material resources and recruitment, training and retention of experienced staff. That's where the real responsibility for the decline in services lies.
@fawnieee7 ай бұрын
It's a typical Tory tactic. They want to privatise the NHS so they can line their pockets. Underfund a national service, point to the service when it stops working due to underfunding and say "see? Free things never work!" And then privatise it in a way that only benefits the Tories and wealthy. The Tories want the American model in Britain. They've fought against the NHS since it was a thing. In the 70s the NHS was one of the best healthcare systems in the world, now it's equivalent to third world care... All because of the Tories. Unfortunately, people are buying into their propaganda that privatisation "works" better, as if America doesn't have one of the worst healthcare systems and treatments in the whole of the west. But Tory propaganda is working and people are believing it.
@robinholland11367 ай бұрын
@@fawnieee All true, unfortunately. We have a Health Secretary who, more or less, wrote the book on privatising NHS services. The great Tory hero, Mr Churchill, voted against the creation of the NHS 21 times. Many of the current bunch have connections with the US insurance industry. A couple of days ago, I went to see Michael Sheen playing Nye Bevan in the play 'Nye'. It should be required watching, just to remind everybody how the NHS was created and what it was like before it came into being. I'm with Nye Bevan on many things. Here's a quote from him that could have been written today: "So far as I am concerned they are lower than vermin. They condemned millions of first-class people to semi-starvation. Now the Tories are pouring out money in propaganda of all sorts and are hoping by this organised sustained mass suggestion to eradicate from our minds all memory of what we went through."
@veverest21557 ай бұрын
Can there be a class action suit against a political party? The only way to fix it is to hold those responsible, accountable
@robinholland11367 ай бұрын
@@veverest2155 I'm not sure of how class actions work, but I imagine that it would be virtually impossible to hold any of them responsible. They have power, money, friends in high places and massive support in the media. And, as many of them are millionaires, they would have lawyers coming out of their ears. I think the only way of even remotely getting back to some kind of sanity is to vote them out of office, so that they don't return to power for several decades.
@ellaa.k.t69987 ай бұрын
Compassion has nothing to do with funds!
@al13567 ай бұрын
Maternity care in the UK is a disgrace. I remember a specialist nurse having a go at me whilst tending to my premature baby. Such a lack of understanding of a new parent in a very emotional and difficult situation, always haunts me that I didn’t say anything to her or her seniors. Happy to say my baby is now 8 and is the best gift god ever gave me.
@ScottishRoss277 ай бұрын
No single UK health service or maternity service. Can you please state which NHS it was
@HellCatt07707 ай бұрын
I was sick and my baby 2 months premature. Shouted at for getting out of bed and shouted at for not being in SCBU at the same time!
@ScottishRoss277 ай бұрын
@@HellCatt0770 In Scotland parents get free Scottish Baby Box and the Scottish Child Payment and double the free early learning & childcare than in the rest of the UK.
@Laura3297 ай бұрын
Same. Spent my time trying to bond with my baby in SCBU and didn't take painkillers which I was criticised for in my notes. Baby fell asleep in my arms so was 5 mins overdue a feed and the nurse scolded me for it as she would have to try and wake him up. Apparently it messed up her schedule for feeding other kids 🙄 honestly I don't know how I didn't rip her throat out that day. I reported her to a senior member of staff which made things worse as she had 3 friends working in the SCBU who absolutely gave me daggers at every opportunity afterwards. Ended up with PND and I've had that thrown in my face during my second pregnancy 12 years later which was horrible. I'm pregnant again and absolutely dreading the mental health card being played against me again.
@blank123587 ай бұрын
So God impeg, nated, you? Definitely one to ponder!☺
@lauraalyce66897 ай бұрын
I think the most shocking part about this to me is that all these heartwrenching stories sound familiar to me. Like ive heard them before. They are just like multiple birth stories I've heard from friends and family. This kind of treatment is widespread. In my county, EVERY maternity service is rated as inadequate.
@abdell75roussos7 ай бұрын
Spend more money on it. With your Jewish leaving, and semiopen brders tothe world.... best of luck, but its what you wanted.
@borja10007 ай бұрын
And this is AFTER they locked Lucy Letby away.
@AJ-hi9fd7 ай бұрын
You mean the ‘Scapegoat’
@crystalheart11867 ай бұрын
I was before Lucy letby.
@AJ-hi9fd7 ай бұрын
@@BrockSamson-i1i I think @borja1000 is just outlining how the nhs works, it likes scapegoats because that way they can fool the public into thinking ‘problem solved, nothing to see here’
@Bunnito-q2w7 ай бұрын
It’s almost as if it may have just been an incredibly incompetent unit…
@ordinarybread7 ай бұрын
my midwife left me when I was 10cm, my husband and step sister nearly delivered my son, she came back in and I screamed at her I am PUSHING, where have you been??! She said no you're not. I was distraught! My son got stuck and I needed an emergency C-Section soon after. They also let me go 36 hours with waters broken, which left me and my son open to infection risk. PALS were so unhelpful, I ended up being shoved off and offered therapy, that's fine, but it solves nothing.
@nom2787 ай бұрын
I had almost I similar experience to you.. it was awful... hope your doing better... its been 5 years down the line and I can't forget it....
@rosyapplekitchen6357 ай бұрын
Pals is the biggest waste of money in the nhs full of formalities but no substance
@shebhajain7 ай бұрын
I had the exact same experience like you, how is that even possible.
@ordinarybread7 ай бұрын
@@shebhajain on the NHS? It was dsuring the strikes so I imagine it's a mass failure of maternity units across the UK tbh, I have heard many birth horror stories since and joined some local support groups. I hope you are doing ok.
@kim-urban-edwards20837 ай бұрын
The horrfying thing is that this COMPLETELY echoes my experience of non-maternal medical treatment over the course of decades - just treatment related to problems that are predominantly female medical problems.
@fawnieee7 ай бұрын
Statistics continue to prove how much healthcare provides for men only and women are left seriously lacking. Pain relief wasn't even tested on women until 1994, and every treatment and medications are continued to be treated on men only. The medical world is made by men for men, and women are treated as second class citizens. Doctors would rather call us hysterical than address real issues. More funding and research has gone into ED than it ever has female specific issues like PCOS and even female specific cancers. Women need to wake up and realise that we are horribly mistreated in the medical world, we need to fight for our rights. Just recently, a new study showed that pregnant and birthing mothers are the most verbally and generally a bused patients in the entire medical community. Women need to stop pretending we've met equality, because we haven't, this world is very much made by men for men and we're not even an afterthought.
@ankaviva7 ай бұрын
Right. That's why many of us choose not to have children in the first place.
@Evelyn-bc1bn7 ай бұрын
My thoughts exactly, it’s not just the maternity services that are ‘shockingly poor’.
@katieb20987 ай бұрын
I recently qualified as a maternity care assitant and I was horrified by how horrible and psychopathic the staff are ,I worked in other sectors of healthcare but maternity was awful , I recently spoke to a nurse practice amd she said the same thing its full of bullies .. lots of narcissistic midwives who drive kind staff away . If you want the sectors to change start cracking down on staff who are not fit to work in certain areas. Some of the midwives were just awful people. You get the odd earth angels but it's a cut throat environmental amd they wonder why they can't retain staff .
@CritterHeadquarters7 ай бұрын
I can well believe this after my own birth trauma and being ignored as i repeatedly raised concerns that something was very wrong, i was ignored and both myself and my daughter nearly died that night. My body hasnt been the same since.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
My grandson did, they gave us photos of him& he looked like he’s been a ah salt ed( this yt man🤦♂️)
@ZsofiaHorvath-yn5hm7 ай бұрын
Generally, the health care is substandard in the UK. We foreigners travel home for medical treatments.
@samgrainger15547 ай бұрын
When you don't have enough staff you CANNOT look after everyone properly.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
Plenty of staff, they’ve just gotten lazy after watching the diversity hires do nothing all day
@Peter-mj6lz7 ай бұрын
Why can’t you have enough staff?
@ThatgirlnamedAnnie7 ай бұрын
terrible timing for this to come out when im 13 weeks pregnant with my first. but i am glad to know the truth. under absolutely NO circumstances will i tollerate being gaslit or spoken to like rubbish when i am in labour. i would much sooner deliver my child alone with just the help of my husband and mother. i will only listen to what my body tells me to do
@jennyyyyyx7 ай бұрын
I know it’s not for everyone but you should explore the option of having a home birth, I’m due any day and the care I have received since going down this route has been phenomenal in comparison to the giving birth in hospital route
@brooklynpearce2737 ай бұрын
I'm 17 weeks with my 5th and dreding it.
@ridasarani72047 ай бұрын
Same - I am 26 weeks right now and yesterday went to the maternity care unit (as I felt less baby movements). The horror there was unbelievable. The midwife shouting on concerned mothers (one of them said she didn’t feel movement & they did a scan for her but she wasn’t very satisfied. Rather than reassuring her the midwife said “what do you want? Do you want us to get the baby out now and give it to you?” 😢 .. this was so rude. Another lady was in Trauma and the midwives were mocking her the whole time.
@syedsamibukhari40317 ай бұрын
Maternity labor in a rural setting in Pakistan with an uneducated but extremely experienced local midwife is far better than here in UK as my mom gave birth to 6 siblings with no complications, great aftercare and healthy diet. We had three kids between 2015 and 2020 absolute trauma and horror.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
You have NO RIGHT to complain🤫
@everydaywinning7 ай бұрын
@@Man_fay_the_Bru on what grounds?
@lewisswadling68517 ай бұрын
If they are paying taxes they do. @@Man_fay_the_Bru
@brooklynpearce2737 ай бұрын
I agree with this. Also pakistans health services is improving whilst the UK is declining.
@agnediciuniene98617 ай бұрын
Yeah,you can go live in Pakistan any day.
@NadiaHassan-km7gg7 ай бұрын
Thank God never lost a baby, but I can relate to the mistreatment of some maternity nurses unfortunately.
@kookiebun4707 ай бұрын
They are midwives not nurses
@claudiamayer-g9h7 ай бұрын
The whole UK services including judiciary are disgusting constantly violating essential human rights, filled of apathy and totally out of touch.
@MailasPresent7 ай бұрын
I am crying at this because after losing my daughter, I was disrespected by one staff member. I had my son a year after and I saw first hand again the disregard for many other women in pain.
@pondeify7 ай бұрын
after Lucy Letby i've lost all respect for the NHS
@renatas21987 ай бұрын
My experience in one of UK hospitals 7 years ago was traumatic, disorganised, not enough nurses available post birth, anesthetic administered too late, spent over 12 hours in active labour and some mistakes such as delayed doctor, resulted in myself getting into a critical condition. There was not enough funding and care, there was not enough checks on mothers and babies. Also we are being asked to sign papers that we are happy with the hospital treatment whilst under effect/influence of epidural drugs. No one is available, when trying to call for help. I met many other mothers having a similar experience in other hospitals. It's a disgrace. Its s a very rough way to deal with new mothers and welcome a new child into the world.
@xr7637 ай бұрын
my sister got sepsis after her first baby due to negligence at Homerton Hospital, she was sent home not knowing and had to be re-admitted after two weeks at home. my sister in law also had such a bad experience at Royal London Hospital that she had her next 3 babies at home.
@saoirse68727 ай бұрын
Beggars belief we are funding other maternity wards and programs to train staff for other countries but we can’t help our own says it all very sad indeed.
@i_kissed_a_pixie15377 ай бұрын
I’m a former NICU nurse and frequently noticed the stark disparity in care between our unit and the maternity ward, just beyond a set of double doors. The difference wasn’t due to the staff competency in this case but the funding allocated. I distinctly remember taking a baby back to her mother; the moment I entered their ward, the contrast in temperature from our climate-controlled environment was striking. It was sweltering, and I couldn’t fathom how the women, babies, and midwives endured the heatwaves. Returning to my unit, I felt distressed and guilty. This experience pales in comparison to others I’ve heard, but it underscores the lack of support. Even today, women’s healthcare remains a low priority, which is incredibly disheartening.
@mariamomer78757 ай бұрын
I completely agree with you. 2 years ago I had a very traumatic birth due to I've been delayed for almost 50 plus hours after my water broke to be admitted into a room so I can be induced, then being in labour for almost 12 hours afterwards my baby was distressed and I had to be rushed into emergency c-section which all resulted into my baby being born unable to breathe, had a systemic infection and admitted to NICU and needed to be sedated and had antibiotics for 5 days. What got me through all this nightmare was the level of care, compassion and warmth that my baby got in NICU, the staff there were the best in everything, very qualified, very compassionate and really knew what to do and took good care of my baby from the first second.
@i_kissed_a_pixie15377 ай бұрын
@@mariamomer7875 ❤️ it’s probably one of the most challenging experiences you will go through as a mother! I’m so glad your baby received the best treatment. I really wish we could keep all mothers and babies together and both of them get the same level of care and support.
@etiennedubois40507 ай бұрын
Poor poor Britain. Literally poor poor Britain, sliding away to a 2nd rate country within a prosperous region in the world.
@RossLeeson7 ай бұрын
Lived in France, Australia, and Vietnam. All much more pleasant places than Britain.
@ScottishRoss277 ай бұрын
*England
@Burglar-King7 ай бұрын
@@ScottishRoss27 Scotland is just as bad. Don’t think for one second they are not. Eleanor Best and Stacey Smith are just two.
@ScottishRoss277 ай бұрын
@@Burglar-King Scotland England Child Poverty Targets enshrined in Law Scraped in 2015 Scottish Infant Feeding Survey Scrapped in 2015 Public Breastfeeding anti discrimination law Not followed Free Personal Nursing Care Not followed Nursing Bursary £10,000 £5000 NHS parking charges abolished Charged Mitigation of UK Bedroom Tax since 2013 Over 500k households victim Scottish Maternity Grant £754 Maternity Grant £500 Free Scottish Baby Box Not followed Scottish Child Payment Not followed 30 hours per week free childcare 16 hours per week School Uniform Grant £120 £87 Free School Meals Primary 1 to 5 Primary 1 to 2 Free National Bus Travel to U22's Not followed ScotRail Kids for a Quid Scheme Not followed Free NHS dental care up to age 26 Not followed Education Maintenance Allowance Scraped in 2010 Music Tuition fees abolished Charged Voting Age 16 18 Free Entry to Museums & Galleries Charged Free University Tuition to Scots £9520 a year Lowest Income Tax Rate 19% 20%
@abdell75roussos7 ай бұрын
In went woke. fourteen thousand millions, and your channel four support this. Maybe try printing money.
@ellaa.k.t69987 ай бұрын
I pay over 40% of my salary as tax in the UK, I worked for 18 years, never needed NHS until I gave birth.... And they butchered me, permanently scarred me, traumatised me !! I wish we did not have NHS, rather I could pay less tax and go private ! NHS is a joke in this country! Incompetent staff with zero compassion all around from the management to doctors to nurses...!!
@Domino_207 ай бұрын
BINGO!!I am the same! After 2 pregnancies i am telling future mothers to give birth abroad or save up for private care.
@tomasklovas55607 ай бұрын
I feel sorry for you, I've witnessed it twice when my wife gave birth to our son's, absolutely shocking service, women and babies are put at risk of death every single day
@onx997 ай бұрын
The NHS is only like this because of 15 years of underfunding and stealing funds to give to private companies that put profits first. I still have faith in the NHS, just not while the Tories are in charge.
@phabebarcelona8637 ай бұрын
❤😢 so so not nice how painful for you How sare they how could they smh
@davidjames37877 ай бұрын
I agree about the lack of compassion. I had an operation in 2007 and was in agony afterwards. The person in the next bed, (not me) called for a nurse on my behalf and the nurse told me that I must have a low pain threshold.
@RantingCentre7 ай бұрын
Don't worry everyone, at least the NHS are making progress by replacing the terrible and discriminatory word "breastfeeding" with the more inclusive word "chestfeeding"...
@HellCatt07707 ай бұрын
Exactly! They don’t even recognise what a woman is! Doesn’t give me any faith that we are a serious consideration.
@purpleowl20757 ай бұрын
No room for transphobia here - everyone knows the problem is Tory management of the NHS, not trans-inclusive care - not that the NHS is trans-inclusive
@tetsu31177 ай бұрын
My baby got pneumonia after birth. They took him to ICU for a few days and I was recovering from a C section. They did nothing to keep me with him. I waited around 2 hours for a porter to take me to him, in the end I walked all the way there when I shouldn’t have done. The surgeon who conducted my c section was cold and talked about me as if I wasn’t in the room, he didn’t explain anything to me. It was an emergency c section as my son’s heartbeat dropped so it was traumatic enough. There were fantastic staff, mainly the nurses and student nurses with plenty of compassion. I just don’t know why the doctors are so jaded.
@gisellefrederick67027 ай бұрын
It's not the pandemic. It's Brexit. The staff that held up our NHS left for other EU countries where they are well-paid and do not require expensive visas.
@supremecheese54477 ай бұрын
Everything in this country is finally starting to break down but nothing is going to get better for us 😟
@TheMensRea7 ай бұрын
We've been destroyed from the inside out.
@melgrant74047 ай бұрын
Shift work influences your welfare. When I had my daughter she was in distress and the nurse didn't do enough and preferred to wait till the end of her shift and handover to the next nurse on shift to deal with it.
@JupiterThunder7 ай бұрын
Funny (peculiar) isn't it, how everything used to work 40 years ago, but now everything is broken.
@Anargnos7 ай бұрын
I think you're looking at it a bit too much through the lens of nostalgia, but at least until 14 years of the Tory regime started in 2010 things were better in some aspects. Not everything.
@jaysonjames10007 ай бұрын
My midwife illegally took blood from my placenta and tested it for drugs, when it came bk negative she claimed to the baby ward she was worried about my MH and placed a hold on my discharge for 3 days when they finally did let me go the ward sis took me in an office and told me everything LEEDS GEN INFER
@CritterHeadquarters7 ай бұрын
That's horrific, I'm so sorry ❤
@jaysonjames10007 ай бұрын
@@CritterHeadquarters that was with girl 4 and a year later walked in the the delivery room on girl number 5 of 5...
@etrikaboulkiza91097 ай бұрын
I almost died from their incompetence. Is the NHS hiring to tick the boxes and not providing proper care/training/priorities. A+E stops being emergency services when a Stroke patient arrives with the ambulance and waits for over 12h to be seen
@ellaa.k.t69987 ай бұрын
We need private healthcare! NHS had no competition for years, so they got worse and worse....
@citizen-277 ай бұрын
Same I almost died too 😢
@etrikaboulkiza91096 ай бұрын
@@citizen-27 i am so sorry. I hope you are recovered both physically and mentally. It is not easy to experience medical negligence
@etrikaboulkiza91096 ай бұрын
@@ellaa.k.t6998 100%! People that think the healthcare is free in UK are just ignorant. We pay the NHS way more money that we would have paid for private insurance, we also get dangerously low level of care with no other option. NHS staff are mainly trained on diseases and not health. 20k/year dead people due to medical negligence only from the lack of NHS care. The only good think the NHS has is that cares a lot about equality. We are all, back, white, asians etc equally dead!
@Laura-we8wl7 ай бұрын
I had a c section - and the surgical maternity ward where amazing - it’s only when they put me in the labour wards. I was treat like I was a burden. Starting with allowing the door to hit my bed as they wheeled me through the corridors - I felt like my insides were going to burst through the incision. I have never felt a pain like it/ My first few days as a mother - I was neglected emotionally and physically. My partner/dad wasn’t aloud to stay with me to help me - despite him wanting to. And despite me being on a bay on my own - I was like I wasn’t there - I was in agony . No correct pain relief - whenever I buzzed for some water I was made to feel I was being a time waster - and the health care assistant would make sure they put it in a spot I couldn’t reach. I couldn’t move and I couldn’t even touch my baby - when he cried. I was just left to cry! Lonely and in pain. And boy so confused with all the hormones. Wishing I could be happy and take being a new mum in. It’s 3 years on and I still feel traumatised - I cry thinking about it - and so sad that I was treat with so little care - knowing that many mums will have gone through similar. When the ward got busier I saw militant old health care assistants shouting at new mums for using a towel to cuddle her baby - why not use a towel? Who cares? new mums should be nurtured and taken care of. It’s such a special moment in life. -and these places make most woman’s first days as a mum misery!!! I was left in a bay on my own - and my partner came rushing in on the morning - cos I didn’t want him to worry - I called him crying I needed him. he had to stand at the door until 10am not allowed to see me or his baby ! He came in to see a health care assistant searching for holidays on the computer - whilst I was crying in pain and needing help to go to bathroom. There are a lot of people who do these jobs do not care! I’m so sorry to mums who have sad experiences! This gov has royally shafted the NHS!
@mariarotaru20697 ай бұрын
My care at St Helier hospital in London was great except for a consultant who was patronising me and trying to make me feel bad, saying how anxious I was and that the hospital had been in place for 100 years, because I was asking questions regarding my C-section with placenta previa.
@drmichaelalatsaris12317 ай бұрын
3rd world experience twice here in Scotland. Disgraceful. Too busy with life to complain so they got away with it.
@drmichaelalatsaris12317 ай бұрын
@@BrockSamson-i1i personal experience so the comment stays at it is. Sorry if it disappoints you
@elysiaxox7 ай бұрын
Perhaps the NHS is being purposely neglected to push the general public into privatized healthcare. We’d have to pay expensive health insurance like the USA 💔
@chloegreenfield98667 ай бұрын
Passionately agree
@chloegreenfield98667 ай бұрын
So sad to see it unfolding like this
@tuka24a7 ай бұрын
Do you think that going private will improve the health services ?😪
@jena.alexia7 ай бұрын
The hospitals and staff are under resourced and overwhelmed. The NHS was once the gold standard of universal healthcare. Now it sounds like a basket case.
@syedsamibukhari40317 ай бұрын
3 young children my wife gave birth to, first two were born in London and Birmingham, 4 days of painful induced labor, had her left fighting for her life for 12 days in ICU, Second children in Birmingham, cut the wrong vessel while we faced bullying, racist and intimidating behaviour including wife being asked to inject a shot herself in belly as she hesitated. Maternity in UK has been a horrifying experience in UK, even though we aftercare was even worst as mom battled respiratory disease for a year, sepsis, facial scars and serious depression while health visitors had no care and compassion towards mom totally ignored her. I thought dentistry was an issue here.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
Notice nobody cares about your comment SYED🤫
@DavidJohnson-dc8lu7 ай бұрын
I never forget visiting someone at Homerton Hospital, and there was a woman who had a Caesarian she was left to rot in her bed with visible blood pouring out of her wound. She couldn't hold her baby, the staff completely ignored her, her husband was distraught, the other mothers dared not say anything because they knew if they did they would get neglected and when I questions the state of the woman, they made up some BS excuse and threw me out of the ward. The woman I visited caught an infection on her hand from the bedding, in fact all the maternity clothes she wore in the hospital she had to throw in the bin, she felt like she was being bitten. I think some of the NHS staff are mentally ill, they get a buzz out of people dying.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
Couldn’t agree more, the woman that turned my nieces machine off seemed happy to tell us she’d be dead within a cple minutes, lots of psychos in hospitals working….I blame DEI
@LadyLuck8_47 ай бұрын
So is it because the staff are overworked and don’t have time to provide adequate care or is it because they are being sadistic?
@QueenBoudicca1257 ай бұрын
@@LadyLuck8_4I think the ones that are left are by and large sadistic and twisted.
@DavidJohnson-dc8lu7 ай бұрын
@@LadyLuck8_4 No, the woman was in the bed with blood pouring out of her wound, it was going through the bedsheets. She was close to the desk on the ward, and there was around 4 staff sitting at the desk PRETENDING to not see her. The senior midwife was there too, and the one who kicked me out. The only thing they were busy at doing was IGNORING the suffering mother in pain. I know EXACTLY what I saw. The mother needed her dressing changed, probably needed restitching at the way she was bleeding and needed to be in an isolated room to limit catching any infections due to her terrible condition. IF she survived she would be lucky, but for sure they were leaving her to be infected and probably get a bed ulcer too. IF she survived she would still be traumatised today, and that was a few years back.
@purpleowl20757 ай бұрын
@@Man_fay_the_Bru Judging from the controversial German flag on your profile, it looks like you would blame DEI for everything - if anything, immigrants have significantly helped with staffing shortages - we'd be much worse off without them
@seahorsecampaign7 ай бұрын
Horrible. And yet, not a single person in key decision making positions will be punished for this. Especially those who lead NHS.
@pondeify7 ай бұрын
my friend works as an IT consultant for the NHS - earning six figures and huge bonus he tells me basically they do no actual work,
@kookiebun4707 ай бұрын
@@pondeifyHe should be sacked for not doing his job as majority are overworked and with no overtime pay.
@crystalheart11867 ай бұрын
I’m terrified of the hospital, I’ve struggling immensely with physical and mental health since. I’ve aged so quickly, I wasn’t listened to. I had a C-section with only one man in the room. He spoke some horrifying things. He knew trauma in child birth was dangerous. I didn’t realise how dangerous back then. He’s ruined my life. Along with all the people who didn’t listen to me. I was 23. I’m 28 now... 6 years of my life has been wasted by trauma, ptsd, nightmares. It’s constant.
@vejaisahadeo72357 ай бұрын
A relative's normal pregnancy turned out a baby with Cerebral Palsy due to negligence by the provider. She was never compensated for the injury to the new born and completely ignored
@stephlom7 ай бұрын
I have a mild case of cerebral palsy for the same reason (Ireland 35 years ago). My mum has never spoken about what happened or said the words cerebral palsy.
@vejaisahadeo72357 ай бұрын
You said something which is what allegedly the providers are telling the patients. 'Mild case' My relative was told that with time the infant will recover and being a young mom she believed. Being a RN in the US I knew immediately it wasn't going to happen. Such negligence would have resulted in serious consequences for providers over here. The child is a complete vegetable
@vickyrichardson74687 ай бұрын
After being in labour for 24 hours with no pain relief I received a bad tear. I was left in stirrups for over an hour with midwives arguing with doctors about whose job it was. I was hurried out afterwards without so much as a cup of tea. My stitches were done badly causing an infection that lasted months
@Sarahc04077 ай бұрын
I was fobbed off and sent home on three occasions being told I had "post baby blues" or "exhaustion" midwives told me to calm down and patronised me as being a first time mum following a ridiculous prolonged labour in which i was left pushing for over 4 hours before a doctor was involved that ended in forceps, episiotomy and third degree tear with severe PPH following which i was in surgery for 4 hours and needed multiple blood transfusions and antibotics. Instead of accepting that advice i presented to A&E and was admitted into critical care in liver and heart failure with severe pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome and needed multiple medication to keep me alive. I also had multiple blood clots (PEs) in my lung with a lung infarct. It left me traumatised and i missed the first two weeks of my sons life, he was sent home with my husband. Thankfully I am a medic and was able to diagnose myself and push for help or I know I would not be here today. It took years before I built up the courage and had my second and the difference between my care was just night and day. I was so well looked after and I had no complications.
@monikacorgi7 ай бұрын
A courage to have second? lol It's so disgusting. How can 1000s of women across this planet end up as breeding cows? It's so so so disgusting and humiliating
@RDCFemmes7 ай бұрын
When a family acquaintance died due to negligence whilst delivering her twins. Having multiple conversations with women who had near death experiences, made me fearful to have children.
@ikoiko75187 ай бұрын
I return to the hospital after 18 hours of losing water and they made me wait in the collider for 6 hours while I was experiencing contractions and terrible pain, there were tens of other women and their partners waiting and only one plastic chair was available where I could seat. It was a horrible start. At the ward the midwife was so rude she was making disgraceful comments when I screamed with pain. It all got so complicated I was taken to the theatre. At the Theatre though doctors were amazing. They treated with care for all of us me, my husband and baby.
@KarolinaTL7 ай бұрын
You will be fine. I am sure you will get a great midwife during your labour. Mine was great but the other nurses werent as good and probably other hospital staff but that’s fine.
@_Ali.7 ай бұрын
Having 3 experiences with the same hospital over the course of 5 years and losing a child in hospital along the way. I can say NHS maternity is atrocious. Some of the nurses, midwives and doctors are amazing. But they are fighting a losing battle. Some of the doctors and midwives you wouldn’t wish on anyone or any child. “You didn’t request a scan” was one of the lines I heard afterwards. “I didn’t know it was my job to ask for a scan to be done to check my child’s heartbeat” I said and got a blank stare back. 14 years of Tory cuts, Tory policies and Tories stripping the carcass has brought us here.
@frocktopus94297 ай бұрын
I’ve not given birth, but (TW assault, negligence) have been sexually harassed and violently assaulted by nurses on an open ward with my carer there, no one is doing anything, no one will let my carer give a witness statement, no one will let me send them photos of the bruises, it’s left me bedridden for2 years and some other drs since won’t see me because I’m a “problem patient” I’ve been berated and denied healthcare for having that I tried to go to the police in my notes. I worked in the nhs for years and it’s so so dehumanising now, I’d have been sacked on the spot if I did anything a 10th as bad 15 years ago. My carer, g.p and mental health support worker are being so supportive but no one’s listening to them either. I was so scared when my sister in law went in to have my nephew, I’m so glad she was ok, my brother works in care so he knows what’s up and I’m glad he was there and she was ok. So much solid with any ogling in and giving birth, it’s so vulnerable
@stevec64277 ай бұрын
My wifes experience was not good. Packed wards next to closed wards, only two nurses to look after 18 women, they were rushed off their feet all day and night and she was sent home too early because they needed the bed.
@kookiebun4707 ай бұрын
See you understood that they were understaffed but some patients & relatives wants a staff nurse to be at their bedside all the time. Not thinking about other 17 patients. They complain that nurses don’t care because they are looking after other patients as if they are the only ones that are poorly. It’s not a 1:1 care.
@C.Goraya7 ай бұрын
Recalling my birth experience. My midwives were amazing but one the nurses treated me badly, leaving me in tears. Our NHS really needs improvement and our politicians are doing nothing.
@mazzymaz61587 ай бұрын
Currently pregnant and honestly my care was better during Covid than it is now. It takes several attempts to get through to the Maternity Assessment Unit. I dont have a proper midwife, and the one i do have is so rubbish- I asked her to complete my Maternity Exception Certificate which she said she would and she never did- for that reason Ive gotten 2 penalty charges. At my most recent appointment she didnt bother completing my MATB1 certificate which was needed by my employer so again I ended having to chase and a different midwife ended up doing it for me. Cant even get an answer back or a means of contact for the community midwife to find out about blood test results, glucose test etc nor has anyone bothered to try and contact me to update me on anything. Wait time in MAU was average 5-6 hours. Treating it like "A&E". I can definitely see the downgrade.
@KarolinaTL7 ай бұрын
Remember when a young nurse said when i was in labour that i have to control my emotions 😂😂😂 i screamed from pain but they refused giving me any epidural and when finally got me to the theatre the nurse said she will check on me in 2 hours. By look at my face she changed her mind and checked in 20 mins and was shocked i was fully dilated.
@pb899057 ай бұрын
I spent 48 hrs in labour before they figured out that my daughter was in the wrong position and got cord wrapped around her neck and she started suffocating! I had an epidural injected that damaged my back nerves and forceps that I was not introduced to what it is and the risk it brings! During 48 hrs - no food, just water and every hour 2 paracetamol followed by sickness. My baby nearly died and post labour I had 1.5 years I could not recover with multiple serious infections. The GP did nothing - had to go back to Poland for private treatment. There was no compassion and because I was born in Poland they were treating us like stray dogs but will less respect. I suffered PTSD and never had more children due to the damage they made. I am a higher incomer and seeing hardly earned money going for NIN boils my blood as since I treat my family abroad. The worst care ever received was in the UK! Even USA care is much more decent!
@sarahshahzad90717 ай бұрын
When my water broke at 15 weeks, they said they would test to see if it was amniotic fluid. After that, they made me sit in the waiting room for 7 hours and then said we couldn't check if it was my amniotic fluid because the lab had closed. They sent me home, and the next day my baby died, and I miscarried.
@rosyapplekitchen6357 ай бұрын
😢how awful
@Aleinad77 ай бұрын
That’s so horrible, I am so sorry you went through this! You should sue them!
@rashminable7 ай бұрын
This interview needed a different interviewer. Someone able to demonstrate more empathy. Laura's story is heartbreaking and her words were so powerful - they deserved to be given more gravity.
@fawnieee7 ай бұрын
6:46 awful reporter, keeps interrupting her. Let her speak.
@evas58097 ай бұрын
I had 2 children in the last 5 years and have to stay the UK maternity care is appalling compared to European countries based on my personal and experience that of my friends. Very little oversight, you'll never meet a doctor, only midwives, who obviously don't have the level of medical education compared to an OB gynecologist, infrequent visits, long waits, extraordinarily unhelpful admin staff who book you in for appointments. UK should sack all the consultants and admin staff at NHS and instead hire more doctors, nurses, midwives etc who are meant to work in a hospital. There are more bureaucrats in NHS than in Brussels!! they're driving NHS into the ground
@MARACoach.7 ай бұрын
Both my childbirths were traumas. After the first I thought there’s no way it would happen again but it did. I could never risk my life and my baby’s like that with a third. I love the nhs but I hate what’s happening to it.
@espresso87367 ай бұрын
I was left with PTSD after my last birth 8 years ago. It was horrendous. I went through horrors with the actual labour after being talked into an induction I didn’t need which ended up in an emergency csection but the postnatal stay afterwards with my poorly little girl was the worst. I remember being left in agony (happened a lot) , whilst she screamed and screamed. I remember pressing the bell to call the midwives because I couldn’t get up to reach her after my operation and they ignored me whilst they were laughing, drinking tea and eating biscuits in a room I could see them in! Pretty sure not one midwife was caring for patients as the room was full! Luckily another mum who was mobile got up and passed me my sick baby (who was in and out of neonatal) otherwise I don’t know what would have happened. I was told by the midwives to stop crying during the night from my birth trauma as other women on the ward were coping just fine (not that they’d gone through what I had). They told me I was being ridiculous. I had to beg for help because I was left leaking blood all over for hours. My notes were vague and never mentioned the MH issues I experienced in there, the problems they put me through and even the notes around my baby with a bad infection were sparse. I never would have even seen the notes (as they were taken out of my green folder) if it wasn’t for being pregnant now. It’s taken 8 years to find out what happened and how badly they recorded it. The whole thing was so unprofessional and negligent.
@drmichaelalatsaris12317 ай бұрын
Traumatised mothers are not in the position to raise a complaint - so long it shall continue.
@AlesyaAlexandrova7 ай бұрын
I have a history of precipitous birth and also have autism, so don't display pain in the usual way. When I came to hospital with my third birth, I had a note stapled to my maternity notes explaining this, and I reiterated it to the triage nurse. I asked for epidural and informed that last time I have given birth on the floor, so I would like her to make sure it doesn't happen again. You know what she said? "Let's hope it doesn't happen". And you know what? It absolutely did! I had no epidural and no one believed me despite I kept telling them that I have history of giving birth too quickly
@henachaudhry12357 ай бұрын
I ain’t going to lie I have had a great service with every birth of my girls can’t say the same about when my second baby I was left on the cold floor could feel the air going up me while the nurse stayed away writing notes sitting in the chair next to me however the loss of my last baby has been so traumatic and I believe it’s coz of the covid jabs
@hermajesty697 ай бұрын
What became of Britain is quite shocking and it’s only getting worse.
@pondeify7 ай бұрын
quite fitting that an indian should preside over it's decline to third world status
@Iheartmyscent7 ай бұрын
My experience was awful in 2012! My family, in medical profession in another country, were shocked of how rubbish was UK maternity care
@ShahidaSabir-vn6bg7 ай бұрын
They almost killed me during delivery and while i was getting unconscious due to blood loss, they told me they put wrong stitches on me . Later on i found my vaginal cut was opened and i have to go for another surgery after 10 months
@sachalopez21577 ай бұрын
OverNight stay care in the hospital for new mums is atrocious. The head night nurse wouldn’t let the other night nurse help me with my newborn baby that id given birth to that day, she said I have to do it myself as I need to get used to looking after my baby and get used to not having help with my baby. My pad was drenched in blood and not changed and when I called the nurse for help I was told off by the head nurse for pressing the help button. If the services are so exhausted, why can’t they let a family member stay overnight with the mum and baby to provide that extra care if the night nurses can’t/don’t want to?
@Gazshadows7 ай бұрын
My wife gave birth to my son last year in Glan Clwyd Hospital in North Wales and all the staff were fantastic.
@pondeify7 ай бұрын
you'll regret bringing a kid into this world. selfish
@poetryinaction20887 ай бұрын
Wales is not England and thank goodness you have better community there
@Gazshadows7 ай бұрын
@poetryinaction2088 obviously, the title of the video says UK not England 😐
@poetryinaction20887 ай бұрын
@@Gazshadows it’s better to be in Wales and Not England 🏴 I prefer the Welsh spirit of community
@mothergingie57657 ай бұрын
Living in wales my story doesnt count in this. 7years later I was awarded a settlement but no court or real answers. The whole concern procedure is awful
@sammym92597 ай бұрын
The way I'm traumatized by my birth experience and no care after...😢I'm just thankful i made it out of surgery alive with my baby. If it wasn't for my extensive medical background n nursing myself n my baby...i dragged myself outa bed within 6 hours post op...because of the state of the unit and the suffering of other mother's...discharged myself couldn't give a toss..horrible staff in the nhs
@travelgirl60287 ай бұрын
3 and a half weeks in the hospital, trying to have an 11 pounds baby naturally. Got admitted with high blood pressure at 35 weeks.. you can imagine how dangerous that was for me and the baby.. they tried pills, broke my water with a rod, the baby was just not ready to come out. In the end skyrocketed blood pressure and had an emergency cesarean. I was passed out for 2 days. A terrible midwife told me off because when I got my senses back, I was asking for water.. extremely dehydrated and weak... i forgot to say during the operation they had to do adrenaline shots as I was burning up with fever.. my husband was crying as the machines were beeping. My heart beat was too low... that is my experience from NHS
@bebelors7 ай бұрын
I had a very traumatic experience last Feb 2024 with my labour and birth experience. Until now it’s affecting my mental health.
@shebhajain7 ай бұрын
I gave birth in Queen Elizabeth hospital and I had the most traumatic experience of my life. They made me suffer for almost 2 days in pain and at the end ended up having emergency c section
@ThePixey10007 ай бұрын
An asian doctor read my daughters notes when she was in labour so did two midwives they then gave her two much epidural but she had low blood pressure and nearly killed her. When the doctor turned to me and shouted why I had not told him she had low blood pressure I said he had read her notes and if he could not read English he should not be in the job. The midwives had been too busy gossiping / chatting to take in the information from my daughters file. But I could have lost me daughter and my grandson his mother through pure neglect and staff that could not give a toss..
@snyadmin7 ай бұрын
When my mother had a stroke the English consultant treated her, right in front of me, like she was just a piece of meat. It was an Asian doctor (who seemed embarrassed at the low empathy of the consultant) that stayed behind to give me some hope and tell me that although at that time it was severe, recovery rates could be quite high and it was too early to tell.
@squizza287 ай бұрын
Sounds typical. The government's answer to any and every NHS issue is more money. Not proper management. Most of the staff are foreign, and it's a wonder any operations are done successfully.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
That’s the main problem right there mate, DEI managers will hire them as long as they tick a box, it’s rediculous
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
@@snyadminI had a stroke& when the consultant asked me if I knew why I was there& I said through a drooping mouth( a shtroke pal) he was not happy& then went on to tell me that I’d definitely die of one …I was 47, he was showing off in front of students( I’m back to full health& would love to pay him a visit )the way I seen nurses treat folk on that ward scared me& sickened me, they must put the worst in that ward
@everydaywinning7 ай бұрын
@Man_fay_the_Bru you cannot blame NHS issues on foreigners. Nurses and doctors need to be paid fairly for English people to bother getting into these professions otherwise we will always rely on foreign professionals.
@Renf-sk5li7 ай бұрын
I was so lucky to have impeccable treatment during my labour and delivery, but the postnatal treatment was severely lacking. The postnatal ward was short staffed, the doctors and midwives had clashing views on everything, the infant feeding support was rubbish and the postnatal mental health support is nonexistent.
@AbigailBrown-wk7xl7 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to this lovely lady . This woman is a voice and strength for so many woman. This woman is incredible. This woman should have been given respect and dignity. This woman is a becon of hope for so many woman . Such a brave woman .
@Boo-pv4hn7 ай бұрын
It’s sad that a review isn’t done just to stroke care. It’s unbelievably poor, I was shamed repeatedly and told to clear up my own sick when the medication they put me on was making me sick. I was told I do realise everything isn’t just about me and I’m in a stroke ward.. as if I didn’t realise from the huge limitations it had put on me, I was one of those patients, as if I was being selfish for repeatedly pleading and getting upset because I was in constant pain from them repeatedly not handing me correct medication or my pain meds on time, I was ridiculed and shamed in front of other patients so much so that I was joked about which made me self discharge much earlier then I should have and so many more issues, I tried to complain repeatedly I was told it was taken and put as a complaint but it never was, if I’d of died in hospital no one would of ever known.
@nataliewinzer68027 ай бұрын
I’m still suffering with ptsd from the recovery of my second and the very little help I received.
@ElectronInc7 ай бұрын
Is there not a single public service (except Westminster et al) not in poverty ?
@Stormcrow-dc3ez7 ай бұрын
That was the plan with ‘Austerity’
@msbee-xj8ni7 ай бұрын
I am pregnant 21 weeks, around 19 weeks I went to the maternity triage because I had some discharge and I wanted it looked at in case I have an infection. The consultant did a smear like test dry swab. Obviously, I was tensed, and she impatiently was telling me relax you will only make it harder and more painful for you. I understand they couldn't use a lube due to checking for infection, but she didn't have to make me feel it is my fault for being tight as I was tensed, scared, and anxious that it made it hard for me to relax. It made me feel embarrased, guilty, scared - that it was my fault somehow. I had red spotting a few days after, which resulted in another trip to the maternity triage and another smear like test. I now wondered if it was because of the first consultant doing a dry swab forcing into me that made me bleed. I can't even imagine what these women giving birth who had awful experience feel like. This is scaring me when I give birth.
@sevecc9397 ай бұрын
Having a baby is very high risk, but it is not treated as such by our government and services are not funded properly. Staff are burnt out and get compassion fatigue. I would love to train to be a midwife, but not in a million years would I do it in this country. I was lucky enough to have good care in birth, even when I had an emergency with my first child. But the aftercare on the post natal ward was non existent. You are exhausted and there is nobody there to help you. My second birth went well, but my birth injuries, despite being minor, were not dealt with adequately. Why do we accept this? We always say how luckh we are to have 'free' maternity care, but the NHS is not free, we pay via our taxes. I understand it would be £££'s in other countries, but we should at the very least have a service which is safe.
@hazelsulmn1237 ай бұрын
It is absolutely harrowing the care I received during the birth of my first baby. I birthed my baby on the efin floor. I was never listened to by the midwife. She wasn’t there at any time I needed her. I birthed my baby with only my husband. Scary. No help or encouragement was offered from anyone. Bad maternity services. Don’t even get me started when it comes to the experience of coloured women, it’s bone chilling. I want to sue.
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
The nurses were clrd I take it, utterly inept
@everydaywinning7 ай бұрын
Who uses the word coloured in 2024 other than racists???
@sammym92597 ай бұрын
@@everydaywinningI'm happily proudly coloured aannddd😊 i don't feel offended being called coloured. South African coloured ppl are actually a race. Y'all are too sensitive
@sammym92597 ай бұрын
What she's saying is coloured women gets treated worse than Caucasian women..but i disagree i think immigrants of all races gets treated differently
@everydaywinning7 ай бұрын
@sammym9259 we are not talking about South African colored, I am from Zimbabwe and we use coloured people for mixed race too. However, in the UK it is an offensive word used to describe people that are not black. We are comparing apples and bananas here.
@henachaudhry12357 ай бұрын
The lady speaks about her placenta not being tested I’m still waiting for mine it’s been 3months
@nomadnesh7 ай бұрын
Basically, they are usless. Me, my whole family were at their peety. I wish my baby girl was not born here in so-called nhs. I was so helpless n do not give excuse of understaff and finance they get enough,.what is lacking is will n passion for work. They are robotic in work. Till today, after 4 months, the pains we suffer haunt us, and it still continues with my newborn. When I raised a complaint to area lead, they just gave me an excuse to speak with the duty manager. Now, at last, someone is bringing this up, but this again reminded me of the horror l went through.
@TheMensRea7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry but people need to understand the absolute horror that midwives have undergone in recent years with all focus being taken from the care they're trying to provide and stupid levels od management above them dictating bs. Two difficult pregnancies, two traumatic labours and births, but the care i received was sound, efficient and by dedicated staff to whom i will be forever grateful. STOP attackint the symptom and look to the cause! Ridiculous management levels, underpaid and overworked staff, demoralised staff and practices, constant passing of the buck. Maternal health has ALWAYS been precarious. My heart to all the mothers, all the babies who have suffered so much. Fathers too. Staff too. No good midwife wants to lose a mother or an infant 😢 ❤
@Man_fay_the_Bru7 ай бұрын
Stop talking nonsense dear, they get enough money& there’s plenty of them too, especially of the diverse persuasion( what’s Actually ruining it)
@TheMensRea7 ай бұрын
@@Man_fay_the_Bru What a moronic response. Congratulations! You win a prize for sharing your ignorance with the rest of us.
@everydaywinning7 ай бұрын
You are 100% correct, the whole NHS is in shambles. Staff is over worked and that affects a lot more that what people think. The pay is awful as well, nurses and doctors are not well paid and a lot of them are now leaving and going to Australia and Canada, some even South Africa. The working conditions there are much better
@janewayles4997 ай бұрын
@@Man_fay_the_Brumidwives do not get enough money. And wherever they are from women are grateful for their good service. I think your comment is racist and unnecessary. If men had to bear children it would be very different.
@ciesheila7 ай бұрын
The situation is certainly awful with the NHS not providing enough to support. They are overworked and frustrated but this isn't an excuse to treat women, their patients, with disrespect and indifference like many of the stories we heard in the video and read in the comments. Empathy should always be there for the patients, instead they use their work/life frustrations to justify not caring, that is NOT OK!
@elven_music7 ай бұрын
I have heard some horror stories from other mothers who gave birth in the uk. I'm due this year, I'm trying to not let it taint my view and hopefully have a positive experience. The early pregnant assessment unit were nothing but lovely to me when i was going through pregnancy loss last year. So I'm hoping this is the few not the many. I'm wishing all mum's a healthy and happy experience.
@gowrinaidu45337 ай бұрын
The maternity care is horrific. I have had my two babies, my experience is traumatic.
@rebeccavantassell53777 ай бұрын
I had horrific birth trauma 10 years ago. I still suffer from flashbacks and physical injury. I want to add my story to these women. I’m tying for another baby now and I’m petrified about the future care I will receive.
@monikacorgi7 ай бұрын
A mentally stable woman would never do this to herself. How can you even try to get knocked up and be a breeding cow again? It's disgusting
@teoandreea43097 ай бұрын
I gave birth twice naturally in Yorkshire, Wakefield, and all through the pregnacies, and during labour, the midwives were extremely thoughtful, empathetic, and knowledgeable. I feel bad for the good midwives who do such a hard and dofficult job. I don't think they get the recognition they deserve.
@kookiebun4707 ай бұрын
Maybe you are also a nice & understanding person. I know others want a 1:1 care as if they are the only patient in the ward. But yes there are some not so nice midwives and we often hear about them and not about the great ones.
@Daisy-tl2lh7 ай бұрын
my grandmother was an English midwife, one of the first to be state registered in 1920, she must have looked after hundreds if not thousands of mothers and their babies during her forty year career always at home and sometimes in very basic conditions. She told me she never lost a mother or her baby and always had a doctor on call if she needed one
@leemackie84347 ай бұрын
I totally understand my birth 25 years ago was horrific I died for three minutes on the operating table from internal bleeding not picking up after the first operation just after the birth at 32 weeks on ward breech both no drugs told when asked for help an hour before the birth and told I was a lot of trouble. My son is Autistic. That was in Australia 🇦🇺 so I understand and can’t believe it’s all still happening across the world.💔🇦🇺💓
@etiennedelaunois17377 ай бұрын
Why is it shocking? Is there anything left that is not low standard in the UK?
@lindacoaley81077 ай бұрын
Sometimes a bit of logic is needed. It’s possible to see when a small Mom is expecting a BIG baby before an unproductive labour is begun. It’s pretty obvious to a person with normal intelligence.
@sajjadnaeem78217 ай бұрын
I have had 5 children in Slough. All different ages. From 21 to 5. The experience was terrible for all 5. Begging for pain relief for hours no anesthetist was ever available as they only had 1 in the whole hospital. Forced to go home after 2 hours of giving birth but couldn't walk or even go for a pee.