CHAOS To Calm | Kitchen Declutter, Clean & Organize With Me

[@DawnStafford-ez4mp]

I’m sad that someone else’s bad choices has a negative affect on you and your children. It isn’t fair. It just isn’t. I’m also glad that you and your boyfriend seem to be on the same schedule. Enjoy your alone time together. Costa Rica sounds awesome and you’re gonna love every minute of it! 🩵

[@johnclaybaugh9536]

People's choices effect each other all the time. It's called life. Hopefully most people's lives aren't completely destroyed by the government like mine was.

[@jaytee419]

i love your declutter videos because you actually declutter!!

[@sierrag1649]

Made me tear up when you talked about missing out on time with your kids that really sucks. I hope you have a good time in Costa Rica though, it’s a really beautiful place and you’ll have a lot of fun ❤️

[@theannamueller]

getting all giddy when talking about the person you are with is super cute 🥰 i guess it is a learning process to focus on yourself when you do not have your kids and having someone in your life you can enjoy this time with is a huge help.

[@AnastasiaAlonso-gt3fe]

Celebrate Thanksgiving the day before.. you can still celebrate everything together.. it’s just a date on the calendar maybe a day or week before a day after.. don’t let the x steal your joy❤

[@Kbru829]

This! My husband's parents are divorced so we do thanksgiving on Wednesday with one side and Thursday with the other! And then we don't eat turkey again until the next year 😂

[@karens1156]

Such good advice ❤ 👍 🙏

[@shereemorgan1430]

This year you and your sweetie spend time together at your place. Cook, watch movies, go out to dinner, etc! You are doing so much better, truly! I remember when you were married, you always seemed stressed. I have been watching you for years. Take care, enjoy your future! 😊❤!

[@melly_y3]

The moment you started crying I immediately started crying as well 😢 I am so sorry for your situation. You're such a strong and beautiful person. ❤

[@Disney_Jen]

My brain deletes memories of my ex husband too! We were together for 11 years and traveled all over with our daughter. Maybe because he’s a narcissist I don’t have great memories of these trips unless it was just my daughter and it was a fun moment with her. I feel you hun. Keep up the positive attitude! You got this❤

[@shortypShortyp]

Hi Mai! I’m sorry you went through all of that but glad you made it to the other side and are in a healthy relationship now! You also did a great job decluttering!

[@jenniferheinrich4040]

Hi! I’m a divorced lady as well but we did not have kids. He essentially did not work for the majority of our marriage so I have to pay him alimony for over 4 years 😳 I will tell you that it is hard to stop talking or negatively thinking about someone in multiple aspects of the divorce process. I only have 7 months of alimony left and I’ve already happily remarried but sending my ex money every month is one of the most infuriating things I’ve ever done 😤 thinking about you and sending happy thoughts for all divorced people in all circumstances!

[@MaiZimmy]

Omg I can NOT imagine having to send money to my ex 😫😩😫😩 I’m so sorry

[@Bo0cupcake]

You totally make sense! This year will be the first where I don't have my kids Xmas morning 🥺 I just remind myself that my co parent and my twins deserve to make those memories as well..and despite my divorce not being my choice either..it's all about perspective to get ourselves to be ok. 😪 But I do allow myself to feel sad for a short moment. I really enjoy your content because it's refreshing to know I'm not the only one going through what I'm going thru. Our stories have a lot of parallels! 💫

[@FemmyRads]

I’m so sorry that you don’t get to be with your kids all the time anymore, I am crying with you! Continue to talk about what you feel motivated to talk about. I will never judge you for being yourself! Also I love your decluttering videos, always have. I love how honest you are about everything.

[@mollyrandolph1345]

First of all, great video. Secondly, don't listen to all the haters. They are unhappy and want to spread unhappiness ❤❤❤❤. Thirdly, you are BEAUTIFUL inside and out. They are jealous ❤❤❤❤❤❤. I'm so happy that you found someone who treats you like a queen. You deserve all the happiness life brings you! Un

[@jenv6846]

I’m @ 10 minutes in, and I have a suggestion for organizing any area. Keeping like items together goes a long way to helping keep the kitchen organized, but also consider arranging according to what item is used where. For instance, next to the oven you have large drinking cups, and over a bit are your plates and bowls. If you think about use and flow it makes a lot of sense to have those dishes next to the stove and the cups closer to the fridge. I know that’s a while inter level of organizing and home keeping, but it’s so worth it! Also, I love how engaging your video is, I’ll be nosing around your channel a while!

[@baileyrapp6818]

Who cares what other people think. It's YOUR experience and if it's healing for you to talk about your past or current experiences, you do you girl!! I personally love when you chat and are real with us. It's very validating and keeps me watching your videos 😊

[@StarrREVA]

I have a friend who has been a widow for over 20 years, she still speaks about her loss of her husband. It is a part of who she is. Your divorce is a part of your life story -- of who you are. It does affect how you live today, especially because of the kids, but also because you shared 17 years of your life with this person. That would be like telling you not to talk about being a mother when your kids grow up get married and leave the house. There is still a connection. I am saddened that others want to tell you how to feel and how you should act. You are doing a great job. Keep up being yourself.

[@angeliquebenavidez]

I just want to say THANK YOU! Please speak up about it. You are helping so many of us. 💓💓

[@Aceofspades32701]

Anyone that says divorce isn't a big deal when kids are involved is always a red flag. Your grief is valid and I'm sorry people are mean.

[@gloriabatista8619]

love that you talk about your X and divorce because your story am sure helps so... many other women its important that other women know they are not alone. I was in a 30ty year marriage that was similar to how you describe yours and after 3 years of being divorced with 2 kids its still refreshing to know from hearing your story that we deserved better!

[@ashcraft555]

I split with my husband about a year ago. I feel a lot of what you're saying. We do shared parenting swapping every week. I've really worked on framing my weeks alone as time for me to take the best care of myself so that when I have my kid, I can give them the best me and my full attention. I focus on eating better, getting good sleep, doing what I need to around my home, having therapy, getting friend time, etc. Then I can be fully present when I'm with my kid.

[@gidgetgrlreading9603]

Love your mom talk and yes I agree with every word. My 1 year anniversary of my divorce from an emotionally abusive ex happens to fall on thanksgiving! So much to be thankful for.

[@ashleyromero8870]

Stay strong, sis! You may not always get to have your children with you, but they do recognize that you've been an awesome mother to them. Just take it day-by-day, and appreciate the time that you do have with them. Thank you for your cleaning content, but most importantly, thank you for being authentically you. 💕💕💕🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽✨️✨️✨️

[@cathoppe8285]

Decluttering is probably the hardest part of being an adult if you ask me

[@CynDeco-r7m]

thank you for sharing your life experience. I applaud you for holding yourself together the way you have and still creating content while experiencing such real and raw emotions of LIFE. continue being unapologetically you.

[@lisahennigan2743]

Celebrate Thanksgiving with your children early. It will be a new tradition and a memorable one. Thank you for sharing.

[@carrie3206]

Yes! This is such a great idea. Celebrate early or later. I do this with my grown children and grandkids every year for Christmas. Both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day are split among in-laws and the other parent, so I decided to have my own Christmas celebration with them on a different day. It still feels like Christmas and I get them all for the whole day! Best to you, your kids and your boyfriend. Also, I really feel your pain and so sad that you are sad😢

[@MalinaCC]

This video was very motivating! Also you are totally allowed to be happy for your family but sad for yourself! Glad you are getting to make the most of the Thanksgiving holiday with your new partner!

[@StephL1111]

I would have an EARLY full Thanksgiving dinner with my kids the weekend before! That way you can have all the memories. Do it the weekend BEFORE, though. 😉

[@amberful]

I appreciate hearing the life update!! Would love to hear about your experiences of letting go and what helped you get through it!

[@mhurtado353]

Thank you girl! I love 💗 your honesty 😅and It gives insight into how relationships can be.

[@amvien]

Mai you are so brave. thank you for being so raw and real with sharing your emotions. I enjoy your decluttering videos. 💕

[@RandomStuffWithBill]

I can't believe they actually left the Amazon crate thingy that's too funny!

[@veronicabautista11]

Loved the decluttering video and especially the ending ty for sharing and being vulnerable

[@debaustralia2320]

I'm so glad that you keep talking about divorce because a lot of us are going through the same season. As I watch this my 3 kiddos are at their dad's house and I miss them so much.

[@jeanne.gonzalezg5290]

❤️👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 yeah. Finally a video. I don’t do shorts. Live these ❤️❤️❤️👏🏼👏🏼💯💯💯

[@Emilia923]

Girl yes, thank you for sharing. I’ve seen a lot of comments of people sharing that they have had similar stories to yours and I’m also one of those people who have a similar story to you too. It seems like our kid’s dad are different pages out of the same book! ( mine did it while I was pregnant with our second daughter) So yes people will say don’t talk about it but you keep doing what makes you feel good. You deserve to do what you want. You hit me right in my heart about not having kids just to see them part time cause that’s how I feel as well with mine. We have our kids and want to see them everyday. waking up/ going to sleep without them is heartbreaking. Also love the decluttering part too lol. Keep following your instincts, I know it’s hard when there might have been a time you didn’t always because of trying to have hope in things. Videos are great and you’re a great mom.

[@herroyalhighness5634]

I’m so glad I found your videos! I found out as an adult mom that I have ADHD and I love to see your process. Keep the instant pot! I love using it to defrost frozen meats that I’m going to use to make dinner. You can also throw leftover chicken/turkey bones, vegetables, and water in there for 60 minutes and have the most flavorful broth for soup! Also i put eggs in there on high with a cup of water for 3 minutes and transfer to a cold water bowl for the best-cooked hard boiled eggs ever. Soft golden centers not like the dried chalky crap I had as a kid. Hard boiled eggs are my favorite now.

[@missgreece91]

Wow such a super super satisfying video and thank you Mai for opening up ❤

[@gohelio]

Your divorce is also a part of your life, so of course you're going to talk about it when you talk about your life. Great declutter! I've been decluttering as well lately and it feels nice. Getting ready for my favorite season! Hope you and your bf have fun in Costa Rica!

[@nataliepineiro8912]

You are amazing and I love hearing about everything. It makes you real and relatable. I’m almost 8 years into marriage #2. It gets better and yea, kids always change everything. Keep on motivating all of us and don’t forget to give yourself some me time too!

[@angelacimmino1102]

I really like the Stanley organizers. They look great, Mai! 😊

[@RitaDeeDee]

I love your transformation! It will make everyday a lot easier! Regarding the shelf @ 7:14, try to turn it the other way, so that its side is on the left, and kind of behind the cabinet door stop. That way you will have more space to get the plates in and out!

[@candacevillegas-giron8560]

I am in a similar situation a little over a year officially divorced after a 16 year marriage, 3 kiddos and this will be the first year I am not with my kids for Christmas. I am relieved to not be married to someone that couldn't care less about my well-being, but having to co-parent and still communicate, coordinate, and be in their presence makes the healing process so hard.

[@ann-louisep7573]

You are wonderful for sharing this ❤❤❤

[@linayoung4595]

So happy to see a longer declutter 🎉 🥰

[@leezasims9959]

Wow great job…. You really let go of a lot, that amazon box was huge ❤ Great job organising those cupboards they look great!!!! It must be so difficult not seeing your kids on special occasions 😞 I hope you have a lot of special days together ❤❤

[@jezo2008]

You are not alone in your pain. I feel you. Thank you for sharing the exact SAME situation my daughter is going through right now. Thank you for putting out great content which is why we all follow you and look forward to your Videos!!! Thank you for always being real and just keep being you. You have a follower for life girl. Zory in Katy Texas XOXO

[@lula1908]

You have me crying too💛 Please keep talking about it; I’m here with you too. Same situation.

[@mullins809]

Don’t listen to the criticism You can talk about whatever you want ! I’m glad you have found some happiness now - Don’t beat yourself up about the past - you were young - Now your older and wiser yet still young !

[@kitw76]

Yay a video! It’s been awhile but I know you are busy!

[@motherhen7]

YOU got this!

[@inspiteofbecauseof4745]

You can use gift wrapping paper to wrap the crystal cups.

[@missgreece91]

Or newspaper so she doesn’t have to waste gift wrapping paper 🎁

[@Beth-zh8fc]

@@missgreece91she said she doesn’t get a paper.

[@taesspochkah]

Mai.. I understand you.. stay strong ♥️

[@novanorman1091]

You will love Costa Rica! Your explanation of why you discuss your divorce is just awesome! Your sharing will help someone who needs it!!! God Bless! Celebrate Thanksgiving Big w your boys! (It doesn’t have to be on a November Thursday). You have a lot to be thankful for!

[@mandyann79]

Love your videos and shorts. You do you girlie and don't worry about the negative. Big hugs to you ❤

[@wendyreid2458]

♥️keep being a great mom

[@clairevimalaanderson2860]

I watched you declutter your kitchen the first time around... It took you many sessions and you were so focused! And soon after the marriage went belly-up. I firmly believe and have seen that when you determine to declutter your space, everything changes. You were signally for change...and it happened. Will be interesting to see what this declutter brings your way. Hang in there! You are on a good path!

[@meganfitzpatrick1019]

I've missed you! ♥️ You look beautiful, love your hair!!!

[@lauramatsuyama9742]

The fact the you fit in that box made me spill my water!!🤪 It’s important to keep it real and share those moments when they are happening. Divorce SUCKS! But you seem to be pulling it together nicely. You are right nobody she live (in the brief explanation that you shared) that way. Unhealthy is not Healthy! Your focus now is on making sure that your boys know that they are loved, THATS IT!

[@redrover2370]

I think the 3 layers thing might be from Dana K White at a slob comes clean. And if it’s not, you might like her no mess decluttering method

[@calliebrockett9181]

Love the video for the motivation and your vulnerability. You're so strong and you have definitely changed my mind when it comes to forming an opinion about those that have gone thru a divorce. Everyone has their biases and opinion but you have definitely shown so much of your story that it has changed my attitude. As a Christian woman, I still struggle with accepting the idea of divorce but I can still appreciate that you are living your life for you and your boys and it is not my place to judge your situation. So thank you for your honesty and openness. Screw the haters Mai! You got this. ❤🤩 Ps Hate the audio from the microphone. I have watched a lot of your videos and this audio just doesn't do it for me. LOL Do you, this is just some feedback from a long time fan. 😘

[@elsaromero4743]

Watching this declutter video while in bed ... 😂I NEED to get up now.

[@sammyg2808]

So proud of your growth!!!!! ❤

[@carolynoquinn4573]

So fun to watch!

[@jll1027]

That metal thing is for a waffle maker!!! Goes on the bottom under the waffle irons in case the batter spills :)

[@simplyfunctional6451]

Girl you put a whole new perspective on divorce I never thought about! I’m so sorry!!! The silver lining is you found a damn good man and plus he has the same custody schedule and he understands the feeling of sharing his kids so he can sympathize! Girl you go on that thanksgiving trip and have a bomb time!!!!

[@liddfamily10]

It’s Clean My Space on You Tube that talks about the 3 layers/stages of cleaning 😊

[@JanineC_maron]

Love that you are so real❤❤thanks for sharing

[@mandaa9335]

This is my first time watching you. I am enjoying your declutter. Keep talking about your divorce. You don't sound bitter. Anyone who doesn't want to hear about your divorce can leave and let those of us who need your words of wisdom. Thank you

[@noemisolano4748]

Mai I can relate with you when you said being criticized, walking on eggshells and you make the tiniest mistake and he blow up. Then you said once you realized that was not normal and you stood up for yourself that's when your marriage ended. This exact same thing happened to me. I stood up for myself and defended myself from all the lies that my husband made about me and marriage over. I spent 25 years with my husband. That's 25 years I won't get back. I spent my entire adult life with this person, only to be tossed aside like garbage. I too was a good wife. I wonder work full time, clean the house, pay bills and all that other stuff. Thank goodness my child is an adult. I feel sad with you that you won't be with your children for the holidays.

[@bruckssarah]

My mom always said don’t have kids with someone you wouldn’t trust to raise them solo if you unexpectedly died. Different warning but same vibes. I’m so thankful that you share with us. The divorce is part of who you are. NO SHAME!

[@Rachel3815]

You can use the instant-pot to make hard boiled eggs! They are insanely easy to peel when they’re cooked in there.

[@LorraineIvers]

Great declutter. Love your hair😊

[@charmin78]

I never thought about how iPhone memory pop-ups can be re-traumatizing. . “Lost time” of having your kids for only half of their childhood and splitting holidays.

[@sarahbliss8417]

Melissa Maker with the 3 waves system of cleaning.

[@stephanied6711]

❤❤ her and this system works

[@lind1107]

I love that you share your divorce story, I literally have the exact same story/situation although I only have one kid and she is now 14. But we got divorced when she was 5, and having shared custody and not having them on holidays is definitely rough but you eventually get used to it. I also found a wonderful boyfriend who also had kids, like yourself and we have the same "off" weeks which has been pretty great for the last 9 years. Embrace the freedom to travel easily as so many of my friends cannot do this, enjoy Costa Rica!

[@SandraKettler]

That Stanley stacker top is cool .

[@Enpemberton29]

I just recently filed for divorce a few months ago, and it was super hard at first. But now, same thing, my brain is starting to delete him from stuff. Like ah, yeah, forgot we were married for 8 years 😂 brains are wild! Also have kids and bonus kids too! Happy for you! And praying for you

[@teresagreen9139]

Love your videos and reels. You are beautiful funny smart and a great mother. Hope you have a great weekend!

[@louiseash5705]

Can totally relate to what you said about not having your kids with you all the time! I'm in a very similar situation, sounds like we for divorced for the same reasons, sad you had to go through that too!

[@mollyschmit9350]

I feel like the people who comment on your KZbin shorts don’t really know the whole situation and should keep their opinions to themselves. BTW - I am absolutely floored that your ex would have the audacity to say you needed plastic surgery. You are drop dead gorgeous and can rock all of those cute dresses you showed that you bought off of Amazon. Clearly that was his own insecurities coming out when he said that. I am glad you are now with a man who makes you happy and appreciates every wonderful thing about you. You deserve it.

[@graceaxisa4213]

You are absolutely right: decluttering is a long process and it takes a long time to get to a point where you can say, that's it, I'm happy with the way things are. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sad to hear of the experiences you had. I agree, women sharing their experiences is so important. There may be someone out there, watching your video that has a light-bulb moment because, it's sad but true, but a lot of psychological abuse can be subtle. If it doesn't feel right, then it's not right. Many blessings to you and your family x

[@lormac2769]

I want a quad size kitchen ❤❤ Thank u for sharing ur feelings. ❤❤

[@wusiwuschel]

Thanks for sharing ❤ wishing you the best. ❤

[@rossanaruiz8839]

Loved this video I can totally relate!!!!

[@rueminty1315]

I'm really glad you have found someone who makes you so happy and is showing you the love and kindness you deserve ❤❤ will you be willing to share how yall met? I can so relate to your personality type, I found you a few months ago and have been watching your videos daily! 🫶🏼💖

[@beverlysteiger6757]

Use paper towels in place of newspapers to wrap fragile items.

[@meganwomack1654]

I have never seen an Amazon bin! I kinda want to order a bunch of stuff just so I can see it in person!

[@natalieeubank4533]

Please don’t that is not healthy

[@breeanawagner8186]

FYI world market has the cutest drinking glasses for guests

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Hi Mai how are you happy Thursday afternoon to you and I enjoy your channel and you are amazing supporter

[@jubby89]

Hi Mai. Those who are hating you for talking about your divorce clearly are just selfish and can't see last their crappy lives. I have been watching you for years. I found your mom content and review videos. They were helpful. You are just so relatable, down to earth and humble. ❤ you deserve nothing but the best.

[@Dragonswagg66]

Dana!! Dana K White is the first one ive seen talk about it!!

[@laurenlong3169]

With your issue with the height of the shelves and the organiser maybe move your shelves 🙂 could make that hard to reach area at the top smaller and increase the space below where you need it x

[@catherineburke5389]

That memory erasure you’re describing around the 25 minute mark sounds like a trauma response 😅 And excuse me while I pick my jaw up off the floor after hearing the cosmetics surgery comments…if you need work the rest of us are screwed 😂 So happy you’re no longer being subjected to that bs on the daily. Sending hugs ❤

[@casn3424]

Good job! 👏👏👏

[@beccachurch]

Wow!Superfasttasks!Goodjob!!

[@Carissa_Explains_It_All313]

Where did you get that giant bin? Also im not married and do not have kids and i dont mind what you talk about... im here because i enjoy your personality and content!

[@michelesusanne1]

It was what Amazon left all of her packages in.

[@jcimlas210]

I like to use mason jars- and I buy colored lids off Amazon so it’s easy to tell which is whose- my kids are 8,7,5,3.

[@michellechapman9905]

I'm 43 and refuse to get "adult glasses"😂😂😂 We only use one bottle or another.

[@Louise21665]

Corner to corner and match things that are alike

[@katevaliente7130]

The layer idea sounds like A Slob Comes, Dana K White.