Chappell Roan and Personal Space | Thomas Sanders

Wanted to talk a little about how Chappell Roan's plea for personal space resonated with me. Thank you all so much for watching.
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[@ThomasSanders]

Always great hearing your thoughts on this! Thank you all for letting me talk about my own experiences. Seeing that tiktok was incredibly validating.

[@legends3ud]

Welcome back on KZbin Thomas =)

[@MegaKhelditia]

I want to hear D&P's perspectives on this. Maybe when I see them in 5 weeks, I'll have an audience chance to ask... But I don't want to trigger them for the agoraphobia Dan/both developed. I wish you safety and indistinguishability.

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Incredible words

[@lizw4]

I have NEVER understood why some fans go so far. Introvert that I am at times, if I see someone famous---a little or a lot---doing some kind of activity, let's say with their family, even tho I may never get another chance---I will do 1 of 2 things: Either I will walk up to them and ask if they are who I think, asking for a picture or autograph, and if they seem uncomfortable or tell me they're with family---I will apologize and walk away; OR I will simply let them have their moment and walk away. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Thank you for sharing this with us! And in spite of your "Storytime" antics--you do NOT deserve to be treated the same. You are truly a great human being and thank you for sharing your experiences with us. ❤

[@FairFeline]

I loved hearing your experience with it as well.

[@fromloverboy]

She deserves personal space and so does every single celebrity. People don’t deserve to get hurt and harassed like this.

[@diamondbandit8385]

To build on this: EVERYONE DESERVES PERSONAL SPACE. They shouldn't need to earn it or ask for it, it should just be a given.

[@sidneyjz3]

Just because we created a parasocial relationship with someone does not mean that they "owe" us anything in public and it's 100% valid to enforce your boundaries!

[@mossman15]

even from the view point that fans are who pay her bills (which is a statement that lacks nuance, but still) if my boss, who directly signs my checks, followed me home from work to talk to me, or insisted on posting a picture of us on the internet, that would be CLEAR harassment. there is no reason for those types of things ever, no matter what kind of relationship you have with the person

[@Suited_Nat]

This for real!

[@Leftwristcast]

every celebrity or Internet personality deserves their privacy and space! It’s a shame how many people don’t respect that

[@angelaplays]

Every celebrity deserves space and respect. Even if they “asked for it” by becoming famous. They’re still human. I have a friend who was in a few shows. She gave me a whole new perspective on this type of stuff. Now i respect celebrities even more if that was even possible. Do I get attached to celebrities in unhealthy ways sometimes? Definitely. Alllllll the time. But would I ever treat them as less than a human if I met them? Never.

[@Mr...Anx1ety...]

Talking about this is really important with setting boundaries and having people understand you're also human. I feel so bad for you guys :(

[@ThomasSanders]

There's really no training to prepare anyone for it when it happens, and I'm thankful whenever I see someone seemingly being able to set up healthy boundaries!

[@k1tsk1]

THOMAS SANDERS COMMENTARY SERIES??? (but seriously, this video is so important)

[@ThomasSanders]

Haha I never feel confident commenting on something anymore unless I feel like I share a personal experience with it that I think could contribute to the conversation. This resonated with me so much, I felt it was something I could do.

[@warnadudenexttime]

It’s such an important conversation, such an important one. Parasocialism has always been a thing with ‘celebrities’ I know but I feel like it’s gotten even more accessible-? Idk if that’s the word for it, but easier to fall into, more commonplace with the internet and it’s easy access to people. I’m honestly so proud of her to set boundaries, and I really hope people will respect those. And thank you for talking about it as well, that line about ‘not being able to go to your usual church’ like hit me in the gut man. It’s good to see you talking about it and offering your perspective. Great video I really enjoyed it

[@equally.marketable]

Dude I can’t even imagine the stress of having your full address being known/your parents being called/your car vandalized/etc. That’s absolutely terrifying man! At that point it’s gone from being a fan to much more dangerous territory, and I’m sorry on behalf of those people who disregard your feelings of safety like that

[@Suited_Nat]

Doxxing is a crime- so yeah, that makes sense. I completely would feel unsafe in that situation.

[@manuproulx2764]

​@@Suited_Nat As would anyone I'm sure.

[@edgarallenbro8316]

dude, you are the best for talking about this. I always think emotional intelligence and understanding people has such an overlooked value. Thank you so much for emphasizing Chappel Roan’s message.

[@thatantagkinnie26]

Always glad to see creators supporting creators ❤ no matter who you are, you deserve personal space and privacy

[@sparklemiller1969]

As a disabled person who constantly gets eyes aimed at them because some humans don't apparently know what a disabled person looks like, it frustrates me to know end. I've had people come up to me and push past me because they want to get through or I've had some instances where someone pushed my wheelchair without my consent. I've had people bump into the back of me and then blame me because they got hurt when it was them who most likely weren't paying attention. I relate so much to having the anxiety to go out. People don't understand how hard it is to go out and do what you need to do in your everyday life regardless if you're celebrity or just an average normal day person. People think it's so easy. It's not. For some people it is a constant battle, it shouldn't have to be like that for them. Everyone should be able to live their lives normally to the best of their abilities. All we want to do is simply exist like everyone else on the planet. Being a celebrity or being just an average everyday person should not matter when it comes to safety and privacy. Everyone is allowed that right. Everybody is all human at the end of the day, it should not matter where you stand on the scale of classes. We're all humans wanting to coexist peacefully with each other. Lovely video as always.❤

[@ElpSmith]

People are crazy ignorant. Ableism is so gross. I wish you lots of happiness, healing, and many spoons ❤

[@sparklemiller1969]

@@ElpSmith oh thank you very much! I really appreciate your kind words! Thank you!

[@ElpSmith]

@@sparklemiller1969 You’re very welcome! It’s hard out here so it’s up to us to take care of each other sometimes

[@theofficalsilentraven]

This situation got so crazy that Thomas Sanders has to interfere 😭 But I seriously hope that She’s okay, people are crazy about thier Idols.

[@gracesword5833]

Literally, at the end of the day, just because a certain type of behavior happens doesn’t mean that it should be considered normal or tolerable. That is just utter bs in any sense! So THANK YOU sooooo much for speaking up about this! ❤ It’s crazy how if don’t make yourself approachable, that that can somehow hurt your image and that’s again just bs 😅 ALSO, I work in Times Square and it’s just…the worse 😅 especially if you have an anxiety disorder 😅😅😅

[@angrytoaster647]

All celebrities online or otherwise deserve respect and privacy.

[@TheDoctor-t5o]

Even Diddy?

[@KattReen]

@@TheDoctor-t5o He deserves privacy, but perhaps less respect

[@vitortulio2705]

people are so quick to dehumanize each other. that celebrity you love, no matter how major or minor they are, is still just as human as you.

[@skylaralley2465]

Celebrities are people too. Everyone deserves the right to their privacy and someone being famous should not exempt them from that right

[@Onepiecefanatic611]

1:17 to 1:32 I feel you dude I love your content and it really helped me through hard times I was really insecure about my body and seeing your journey really helped me 😊. With all my heart thank you you helped me a lot

[@naaashitey1303]

It makes me happy to see KZbinrs (especially with Chappell having her start on KZbin) coming to her defense and supporting her, and it angers me how much people are easily just ignoring and turning on her, and not listening to her words. Why do we only care about people and their safety when it’s too late. And I find it interesting too because so much of fan culture has changed and celebrities have made an active effort to protect theirselves, from Olivia Rodrigo doing a virtual meet and greet, to Fall out Boy barely doing any meet and greets and also leaving social media and not engaging much in discourse, because people, “fans” or so violent and horrible. Like, this is sad this has to be a discussion

[@pearlharborbaby9747]

I was diagnosed with autism (PDD-NOS) at 3 and a half years old. A lot of crazy things happened in my childhood involved with getting my disability figured out. I'm 20 years old now and slowly but surely, I'm starting to handle things on my own getting into the working world and the adult life. I'm working a part-time job at an assisted living facility and I'm fitting in okay with being a server. My confidence is slowly building up since I had help getting the job. So, you should know that you're not alone in dealing with any anxiety related thing. And yeah, people, who are famous in whatever way, are allowed to have personal space and privacy. They're normal people, just like their fans. (I'm a fan who just has an account on KZbin so I could be able to comment on videos, including this video) 😊

[@randomasshumanbeing2078]

People just need to chill out when it comes to people who have just the tiniest bit of popularity. I just don’t understand why people gotta get up in everyone’s business. People are people, dude. Even if they’re famous. I’m just glad you’re talking about this, definitely necessary.

[@linnhuman]

every HUMAN deserves personal space and is allowed to set boundaries 🫶🏻

[@ririmoonie22]

You, Chapell and every famous person, no matter their fame level have EVERY right to reclaim your peace and privacy. As humans I don't think we are necessarily equiped to be confronted with such big groups of people knowing us and being treated as "a prop" because someone estimated that they "know" you enough for it or that you "earned" this kind off treatment by being famous is not okay. Being famous doesn't justify being dehuminazied

[@b33lved]

0:50 omg new sanders sides episode mention

[@OneLessThought276]

Seeing the sides rate music artists would be so fun

[@lillianvanes3914]

That’s why I generally dislike how many memes there are about these things, because it normalizes weird behavior. I appreciate this post, and please remember that people are people, not a favorite character.

[@moremoredatabase5324]

THANK YOU FOR ADDING TO THIS DISCUSSION. this is really important, thank you so much

[@morphersnivy5617]

This feels like a chat with a friend in a way, and I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to talk about your experiences. Totally support Chappell on this stance

[@espeonzeld4]

“This feels like a chat with a friend” Did you not watch the video?? 🤨

[@rinpaisys]

Yup. The people getting mad over it need to take a good LONG hard look it the mirror. Maybe if the insinuation that feeling entitled to a stranger (or anyone’s) time and space makes someone a weirdo and/or creep is deeply upsetting to an individual, they ought to consider they might (probably definitely) be part of the problem. Wild concept for those types: your freedom ends where another persons’ begins. This doesn’t stop being true when someone is famous.

[@natkatj]

i think i have the opposite problem: i get so self-conscious of not crossing their boundaries that i might try to avoid them entirely. i’d give too much of a wide berth as to not make them uncomfortable. i do want to tell people like you how much your work means to me, but i’m nervous that i would make them uncomfortable. i’m so terrified of being the villain in their horror stories that i swing the opposite way: streaming their music or going to an event they’re having is suddenly an invasion of their privacy in my warped thought process. i’ve felt guilty for even acknowledging that they exist sometimes. it becomes counterintuitive. i don’t know, this is just my fun little anxiety-ridden train of thought. does anyone else feel this way?

[@bathtubfullofcrayons]

I am glad that Chappel has for sure started this conversation, EVERYONE regardless of their popularity status deserves privacy, everyone is a human at the end of the day and have their own stuff their going through, hope you have good experiences from now and for future to come Thomas ❤

[@monicagrace9536]

I am so relieved and happy that finally someone with influence is saying that just because something has been the way that it is for awhile, that doesn't make it okay. "It's always been like this" is not an excuse and never should be.

[@Lovelyhatzz]

It always baffles me whenever people treat celebrities or public figures like they aren’t people. I hope Chappell speaking out about this during her rise to fame changes things at least a little.

[@imalivelmao]

i’m so sorry that you go through this , genuinely no one deserves it :( , it’s not that hard to just let people be

[@annagracetracy]

You, Chappel, and every other person famous or not deserves to feel safe in their environment. Especially in their own home and local community. I can't imagine how terrifying some of those interactions must be. Thank you for sharing your perspective and furthering the conversation that Chappel started!

[@Princy131]

Another example is the Speed going to Norway (I think it was Norway) incident. He was so popular that he had no space at all. Trapped in a store and being mobbed is terrifying and no one would have the common sense to listen to him and give him personal space and let him out just because he's a celebrity. He was being attacked. Literally someone was selling a piece of his hair online. It sucks that celebrities can't live a normal life just because a whole part of the world knows them.

[@manuproulx2764]

Wow. These people sound insane! If so many people were all up in my space like that, I would have an anxiety attack or freak out! This guy doesn't deserve this.

[@VinnieBunn]

Thomas, you deserve your privacy just as much as anyone does. I cannot believe everything you and her have gone through. I am both so sorry that you've experienced this stuff and so grateful that you continued to make videos for us even when you were going through everything.

[@awkward.bookworm]

This is such an important topic to talk about, even to this day. In the end, these celebrities are human and we should give them the privacy they rightfully deserve. Thank you for bringing this up since it's a shame that some people still don't respect this basic right.

[@mnickrowe]

Hey Thomas, as someone who’s been a quiet fan of yours for years, I’d like to know even with many positive experiences where are you now with fans coming to say hi ? Do you still feel personally comfortable? Do you want to be left alone when out alone and with friends? Something that Chappel has me thinking about a lot from her sharing is, as much as I’d like to say a simple hello, fan of your work, even that is too much and bothersome and anxiety provoking. Just because at one point a public figure was okay with people saying hello, that can quickly change.

[@alan0493]

i was listening to you while i was doing some work ,only on for background noise lol, ive been following you since the begining , anyway you mentioned noise and crowds affect you and i was recently diagnosed as having anxiety and depression ,the same things bother me too,even leading me to leave my parents family get together. im a senior follower lol ,and when i was younger my dads cure for depression was "get a grip you muppet" now im a dad with 4 kids 2 of them are autistic and i attend all the meetings and have therapy weekly . i can't fault my dad as in the 70's very little known about depression , in the UK . keep making content and keep smiling ,thank you Thomas

[@gracevoight]

I met you on my birthday in 2022 and although I was a bit starstruck, I remember you being so kind!! I went through a moment of “wait is that him” and I’m sure that was awkward but it passed quickly and I went on with my night very grateful for you allowing me to share a happy moment, you even let me take a selfie with you!!

[@NyxWhoGlows]

I’ve always been so scared of seeing a celebrity (big or small) in public because I immediately assume they’re busy and won’t want an interaction and I’ll just feel bad. I feel like if I saw an icon I recognized I would just freeze up and pretend I didn’t notice them 😅

[@hrts4starfell]

celebrities deserve their own perosnal anonymity and they shouldnt *have* to make videos like chappels.

[@klai2005]

yeah, I see that on the Kpop community a lot. even if the industry puts that incentive of parasocial relationships (fan - artist), there's a need to put limits on it since there are a lot of creeps (such as sasaengs, they're like ot1 even if it's a group) and "fans" that breach the personal space for the sake of their "fan experience". there's limits for fans and that's why I choose to not talk to celebrities in a day-to-day setting, even if I am aware of who they are.

[@daughterofkew]

Thank you for your input on such an important topic. I do enjoy meeting people I look up to, but my rule is if I see someone famous in public is to leave them be. I might smile at them but I'll only really go up if I'm feeling brave and they don't look super busy. Even then I try to keep my interactions short so I don't take up too much of their free time. I don't know what they've got going on. That's not my business. Neither is where they live, how to contact outside of official channels ....harassing them, their friends or their family (and I'm sorry you and yours and other people have had to deal with that)

[@Koifish591]

I believe that it is very, very important for a creator to set rules and boundaries as early as possible. Communication on what is ok and what is not when being recognised in public is essential in, in my opinion, every popular content creator's life. You are incredibly lucky to have such a generally understanding and supportive audience who will honor these boundaries. With Chappel Roan's tiktok spreading the message that so many ccs have yet to address, I sincerely hope that this shows fans that creators are in fact people and should be treated as such when seen in public. I think the best adressal of this before Roan was Ranboo who talked about it to much more of an extent in one of their streams (i dont remember which one.) Content creators are people. That's the most important thing you need to remember.

[@Norah_The_Silly]

I love how you’re still kind to us even when some of us are not good to you Love you Thomas Sanders 💕

[@michellethemoonbutterfly97]

People go crazy, but people should really start giving their idols space, they have emotions, they're human. And that's all what matters ☺️

[@nonameless2]

I can't believe you had it that rough! I guess I should've assumed that but you do a great job of acting so positive that I never would've guessed that you've been doxxed/felt threatened. I think I speak for the majority of the fandom when I say I am so sorry.

[@Abbie846]

I will never understand people who don't treat celebrities like people. They clearly have to work on their empathy skills.

[@WildflowerHeretic]

There is a point with celebrity adoration where people stop seeing a "celebrity" as a person with a life, and more of a "treasure" that in essence still objectifies a person by not treating them as human who needs/wants/deserves space and privacy. As someone who is trying to create who ducks/cringes/freezes in front of a camera, let alone in front of a crowd, hearing the extremes can be.....hard.....(I don't blame celebrities for going into public in disguises!) but it is also very nice to hear that those are the minority for you! thank you for an honest video ✨✨

[@theresabell5750]

Thank you so much, Thomas, for talking about this. I never would have known about Chappell's TikTok without this. It seems like it should be common sense to give people respect and privacy, but sometimes we all need to be reminded.

[@kbrown4370]

It’s so great to see people coming forward about this. People should not feel like they can’t express boundaries. Yes they are stars but they are human beings

[@Raecosplays7249]

I really appreciate your openness about this. As someone with an anxiety disorder, I can’t imagine how anxiety-inducing that must be to just have strangers staring or filming you in public, or just coming up to you during inconvenient times. Also that whole thing about people finding your personal spaces honestly sounds terrifying. I’m sorry you have to go through that Thomas, and to anyone else who has to go through that. If you wanted to talk about your boundaries surrounding fan interactions, we’d be happy to listen and respect them. I hope you are doing well ❤

[@perusalenne]

the whole "they had it coming" BS is just wild to me. We're not in the musical Chicago, guys. Don't get me wrong, I would most likely freeze up and die if one of my idols just happened to cross my eyeline IRL, but I was always told "do unto others" and I couldn't imagine thinking I had the right to disturb them or their family just because they've got a bit of fame. We're all human at the end of the day, and to act otherwise just doesn't make sense to me. If they're all for it, it's good. If you can tell they just want to be a normal human for the day, let it be and just be happy you were there.

[@kennedyvanover]

yes🙌thank you for using your voice on this topic. the world of fame seems like a very scary place and even though there is a load of good, there can be a lot of bad. everyone deserves space and everyone deserves kindness. love this video❤️

[@boososcary]

HEY THOMAS! My friend saw you at dragon con but never got the chance to say hi! Super excited about the next sanders sides :) take care of yourself and remember it’s okay to set boundaries with your fans even if u don’t feel like your super famous :D

[@cookiesyruplover]

Thank you for making a video about this! The fear of being known is insane, like I can't even imagine what it would be like or how to cope with any sort of fame but no matter what the circumstances are, people learn to adapt and grow despite the things they can't change. It's good to know people are kind and respectful and to remember them and think of them instead of the minor few people who are rude and feel entitled. Standing your ground and setting bounderies is super admirable though! Everyone deserves respect and to be treated fairly as a person instead of some tourist spot. Another thing that I'm glad is brought up is "just because it's common doesn't mean it's okay" because it's true!!!! No need to make convoluted logical leaps to rationalize your bad behavior just because they are your fave celebrity. We're all random beaches here!!!!

[@claireaquos6532]

Thank you for this video Thomas. It is important to remind people that celebraty are people too. Also, can't wait to see your next Sanders sides. Something tells me it's gonna be very interesting ❤

[@starlytecreates]

Honestly the idea of being a content creator or celebrity has always been such a brave idea to me because the idea of putting yourself out there for so many people to see, and obsess, and critique, etc, has always been such a terrifying thought to me. I wish people would be kinder and more mindful and I honestly think you, Chappell Roan, and all the other big names of the world are so powerful for pushing through the negative and still creating such beautiful content despite the challenges. Being seen is scary and I hope because of this discussion more people will be aware in the future when it comes to seeing their favs, aka, other random people in the world. Despite it all, I hope you're doing well, Thomas!!

[@QueenA.G.]

Shoot I hope Chappell is ok poor thing. I love her music but ouch. The cost of being famous is gaining huge followings but losing your privacy. She deserves breather.

[@redrose5146]

Thomas I’m so sorry for the interactions you’ve had to go through- even if they’re the minority or “not as bad” as those who have more fame they are so incredibly valid and you should have never had to go through that. I have always been very passionate about the disgusting lack or regulation when it comes to celebrities; I mean the fact that paparazzi, literal STALKERS, are legal and an actual paying job is repulsive. I truly empathize with your situation and I truly hope it gets better I have always admired you so much, your Sanders Sides videos have helped me tremendously with my mental health. I was diagnosed with OCD specifically sexually intrusive thoughts, and I honestly don’t know how I would have handled it if I had not watched your intrusive thoughts video and was able to acknowledge that those thoughts did not represent me as a person. I truly thank you for making mental health an approachable topic and educating so many people over very serious issues that are considered taboo. Thank you, you have truly had a huge impact on my life and have helped me so much with my mental health struggles. I hope you’ll never have another uncomfortable/disturbing experience because of your fame but rather only amazing interactions with your fans ❤

[@ErinHeartpenny]

No, no no, you don’t deserve any of it, you don’t ‘have it coming’, it really does come down to people should have sense and common courtesy, and I wish people didn’t do this to you or any celebrity for that matter. Thank you for speaking up on this!

[@twigbranch4556]

My general rule, whether due to my own anxiety or just my general understanding of common sense is that if I see someone I know from the internet in person and it's not an event their at due to their online presence then I DON'T know them and shouldn't go up to them. you recognise people you've seen online you don't recognise people you 'know' online because they have a life past their online presence, with friends and family that you don't know and don't have some kind of obligation to know.

[@Alfrodo8]

6:10 This is a completely random and unrelated comment. Still, I'm like 95% sure that's not a clip from the actual game but from Everglow's Kingdom Hearts Timeline Project, because that cutscene had no background music whatsoever in the game, but I can tell Link to All is playing on this clip. I remember Everglow put that in that cutscene in their project BECAUSE it had no background music. Why am I putting this in a comment? Because I noticed it and I couldn't not point it out, my brain's just wired that way XD

[@SangosEvilTwin]

every celebrity is still just a random person that deserves just as much privacy as any other random ol person. Random anxious florida man who happens to be funny online also deserves people to be FCKN CHILL and give him some privacy.

[@cashdapuppycat]

At the end of the day, we're all random bitches. Let's be kind random bitches y'all xx stay safe

[@ghost_fae]

part of me wonders if chappels video only got the negative reaction it did because people expect women/fem-presenting people to be very soft, warm, and welcoming at all times, even in the face of mistreatment and harassment, and she defied that (rightfully so)

[@clockworkmonsters8590]

Oh sweetheart. Hearing your voice shake made me want to give you a hug, respectfully, of course

[@ladyking_thee]

3:54 Life isn't about what you deserve, it's about what you get and you are well within your rights to ask for something else. Take care of yourself

[@dragoon318]

As someone with anxiety, I am TERRIFIED of talking to strangers. Even if I see someone I know on the street, I’ll probably avoid them unless it’s one of my very best friends. I can’t imagine having all that happen, but I’m glad y’all are speaking up for yourselves. Stay safe

[@V3ddira_W]

A mini rant coming up here- I understand, this has happened to me because even though I’m a faceless KZbinr, I’ve revealed my voice so now when I talk to people at school, someone will randomly yell from like, across the hallway “ARE YOU VEDDIRA?!!” And I get scared.. because I don’t want people to make fun of me for my content. My content is in a community where it gets a HORRIBLE reputation, and I don’t want to be othered because of the community I’m in. And it’s mostly a minority who make the community I’m in look bad.

[@katwitanruna]

I’ve never asked for a photo with a celebrity. I have done things like “Excuse me, I just wanted to say how much I like your work. Thanks.” and moved on…

[@lemnmchi6317]

im sorry to hear what you have gone through yourself though I'm glad to hear its the minority of interactions. Anyone with any sort of platform doesn't deserve to have their privacy invaded and I think it's rather dehumanizing to think that someone deserves or should get to know things about someone that are no where on their social media platforms. I hope in the future everyone can be more mindful about it, thank you for sharing your experience Thomas! 💛

[@Shamble_tried]

im a simple lesbian, i see chappel roan and click and omg how did i not know about this is so bad that this is happening :(

[@endersofblood648]

I love seeing celebrities set concrete boundaries with their fans. It lets them know YES there is a relationship there but not on a personal connection level 👏👏👏 well talked thomas

[@rubyrose7726]

I’m sorry you went through all that. I have anxiety too. That sounds really scary. Famous people deserve privacy and respect too. It’s still just a job like any other. People say they should just get used to it because it’s part of the job. I think that’s so entitled. Stalking and harassment should not be normalized.

[@skyhideaway]

repeat after me: CELEBRITIES AND INFLUENCERS ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS‼️👏 -unless you actually know them irl and they are your friend, in which case, i’m not talking about you-

[@jayc7559]

Thank you for making this video. Sometimes those of us who don’t have to deal with this stuff can get a little ahead of ourselves and forget that while meeting someone famous may be a special occasion for us, getting approached by random people is just another Tuesday for you guys. Clearly setting these boundaries is a good reminder to not be weird about it if we ever run into you 😅

[@crowdpleasa4495]

Thomathy I would literally listen to you recite a phonebook, you can make any type of video you want

[@crowdpleasa4495]

And yes, we as a society keep forgetting that even celebrities are still human beings that want respect just like the normal non celebrities do

[@Phoebebebebebe14]

every and I mean EVERY PERSON WHO HAS CREATED ANYTHING FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO SEE SHOULD BE RECOGNISED AS A HUMAN BEING AND THEIR BOUDARIES SHOULD BE MET. And to be completely honest, if I saw anyone that I love or purplish in public I’d whisper sheepishly to whoever I was with and just quickly run away but that’s a personal anxiety thing 😭😂. BOUNDARIES PEOPLE. MF 👏 FKING 👏 BOUNDARIES 👏

[@gecko2094]

:3 love you Thomas

[@gigifabulous]

After Christina Grimmie I really would have hoped we learned as a society. But the backlash Chappel is receiving is just gross entitlement.

[@boomgirlbucko]

I mean yeah, I guess you could see it as karma. But, I'm sure you at least asked the strangers permission afterwords if you could post it, right?

[@mrjamieb1899]

The background music is a little bit too loud.

[@MiniKitty27]

honestly i love that she's setting the precedent of how she wants her fans to interact with her now versus after having some sort of really bad mental breakdown. she's 100% right and if we are _actually_ fans of her we'd respect her now set boundaries instead of feeling entitled and complaining

[@hiiii-hehe505]

4 years since an actual episode of sanders sides...if you don't want to work on it, then don't work on it. It's not fair to profit off of your fans who are here for an empty promise while using their love for the series you won't work on, you then use that hope and use it to make incorrect quotes and other stuff nobody is asking you. Except your patreon. Idk if yall were there but I remember when incorrect quotes, bloopers, certain ads and aside videos coming early. Now it's the main content videos.

[@sorencarpenter8312]

Gotta think about how more extreme for female presenting celebrities as well, I mean the world can already be such a creepy place sometimes.

[@heyimexhausted]

not the person i thought would talk about this but after being in the fanbase for nearly a decade im not surprised. even in tweets or comments, seeing people demand more content or speak parasocially are scary! the art creators make are gifts to us, not necessities, and nobody owes anyone anything except basic human kindness

[@gart0562]

Also sad that a lot of people don't even do it on purpose but just kinda don't see how strange their actions are.

[@Just_Green42588]

Honestly I don’t think anyone should deal with this Also same Thomas 👍 I dissociate when I get to emotional good or bad

[@icchasaki]

[Very important and valid points] OMG, NEW SANDERS SIDES EP??? [More incredibly valid, important points]

[@Pinky_Lover_]

Wow didn't even know this whole thing happened

[@YourRyeBread]

BABY KERMIT IN THE CORNER OMG THERES MORE This makes me so glad Max Goof and Bradley Uppercrust lll aren't real

[@quirkyblackenby]

I genuinely feel like you should just leave celebrities alone. I just think it’s weird to approach strangers regardless of how much you think you know them. I’ve seen people I watch internet videos of in public and I just try to place them and then move on. No need to approach unless they’re at an event where they expect to meet fans.

[@PsychicCupid]

Ohhhhh I really, really like your unique take on this discussion being someone who used to go up to people. Admittedly, while I enjoyed many of your vines, the Story Time ones always gave me a little sense of anxiety at the beginning of each one. I always got the sense that you cleared them with afterwards, and I believe you'd said before that you do, but it's nice to hear the confirmation now, just for anxiety sake, ahaha! But despite that, I don't think these are comparable, and I don't think you deserve it karmatically. Yes, going up to strangers and filming them is scary for them in the moment, but for the most part, this is a random and wild one-time experience and more akin to a jumpscare (perhaps with technology as prevalent as it is, that number might be higher then 'one' but for the sake of argument I'm going to stick with 'one' ahaha). People going up to *you* are doing it because they know you parasocially and want to interact with you. Once you film the vine, I assume you just walk away after a single conversation. I believe the people who call you out want to talk for as long as possible. My two-cents is that they are similar, but not entirely comparable! And I hope you absolve yourself of any guilt there might be. This has been fun to think about!! :) I dunno if I've ever commented on a video before despite watching for all these years, but I was really impassioned by the idea. I'm a huge advocate for celebrity privacy and freedom. Y'all deserve peace of mind just like we do.

[@rowlands_]

what’s always made me mad is people saying she doesn’t “appreciate us” or having and attitude like she owes us something. Like bro she did her job. She performs, she made the music. She doesn’t “owe” u crap. She’s a musician, she makes music, she’s not a cardboard cutout for you to harass and take photos w/

[@V3ddira_W]

Im sorry you have to go through all this, Thomas..! I’m glad that you had mostly pleasant experiences with your fans, but now i feel like a small group (including me) of your fans are definitely ten times more scared to approach, because we may think we come on too strong, or we could be like, the 10th fan you’ve met in the span of a few hours, and we don’t want to deter you from going out anymore… other than that, I do hope your fans treat you with more decent human respect in the future..!

[@BreadPaper-Human]

I feel like that edict that is common in conventions for cosplays should apply to influencer/celebrities, if there eating let them eat, if there already in a convention let them talk, if they say no that ok ect, I just think ppl forget both celebrities and influences are ppl and have boundaries

[@stratosfearful5441]

I've thought about this for the longest time, and you're so kind about your experiences but you are 1000% allowed to feel the way you feel, I'm so sorry you've experienced this. Your content has affected me so opposite to the way you've described, and you deserve so much better. I hope you are able to be just a person with your friends, in your world. You're a human, and I hope you enjoy that in the foreseeable future. Your characters are separate from that entirely, you are you, and that is enough.