4 Huge Mistakes In Charisma On Command Advice

[@DroppingInPodcast]

What do you think? Want to see more of these?

[@medicat6494]

This was fantastic! The best of the podcast for me personally has always been you (and Ben in the past!) serving as role models for growth and learning about oneself. The first part, where you talked about "always having to run when afraid" is true for me, and I didn't realize it until now!

[@Florinedev]

Yes ❤❤ this is amazing

[@bartekdaniel6255]

Yes please!

[@b_lilla_t6464]

Absolutely! I was hoping for a video like this!

[@waitingpatiently]

Yessss!

[@ivomirrikerpro3805]

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” ― Frank Herbert, Dune

[@Zdv0rz]

It's Lady Jessica, Frank wrote it but Lady Jessica said it

[@wistfulgraph]

@@Zdv0rzno shit

[@TheSinlessAssassin]

Yooo classic style Charisma on Command video where it's just Charlie talking to us straight up! And on another channel too LOL. And yes I would love more talking heads videos, it's what I started and learned the most from when I discovered your channel. I enjoy the celebrity breakdowns for the most part, but these feel more personal, intimate, and plausible for us average joes.

[@pbdomit]

You're sooo right! I hadn't realized until you said it how much I missed those videos

[@schlep350]

I remember listening to CoC 6ish years ago. The growth shown in this video aligns so well with the growth a lot of us experience.

[@ZapatosVibes]

Big true.

[@rachel4060]

I really want to see a breakdown of statistics of where these followers are living and are they single hahah

[@itsjase1993]

Coc

[@johnc2956]

True charisma comes from taking responsibility for our mistakes and admitting we were wrong. That humility is very charismatic because of the authenticity. Kudos to you, Charlie.

[@Zack-bl2gg]

This shows a lot of psychological growth, from that classic “gigachad” vibe you had going on to a general health mindset, I’m a big fan of that

[@ZapatosVibes]

Very interesting to see the "level 2" of CoC. Hope for more.

[@EthanSmith]

It's CHARLIE!

[@AlistairWhatley]

Love this, please make more. I know this didn’t get the most views ever but I liked it a lot. Very strong nuanced view.

[@christianwolthuis1285]

i really like this style of video tbh, i kinda grew up on your charisma on command channel and id like to think i took tidbits of most your videos, so seeing you actually go back and evolve those principles was really nice

[@TheCUBARY]

Ohhh man, instant wave of nostalgia when I saw that classic talking head style video from way back in the day! Thanks so much for so many insights over the years Charles, from you and Ben both.🤞

[@antpixel3984]

Outstanding video man. I literally took notes off of this one. I never comment on videos but here I am now. I am part of the majority who hide and never comment. I just watch, read, and judge what everyone else thinks- meanwhile I’m in the “safety” of not being judged/ argued against openly. Screw that. It’s like point two of the video, I’m like displaying a mask, I’m never displaying who I am, or what I think about. Openly in this arena of thought. Yeah… it’s easy to be the critic on the sidelines, while dreaming about being the gladiator in the arena. Here I am. Finally, making the dream real.

[@codex0089]

I really like this type of video and would like more of the same. To remind people that these are rules-of-thumb and there is nuance in social interactions that need to be factored.

[@mohammadomarsalih4703]

I gotta say Charlie, from the deepest pits of my heart: Thank you. Just listening to you and Ben over the last 3 years has changed so much in me, to become more forgiving, more open minded, and of course, more confident and charismatic. Now I still have a long way to go, but right now I'm not saying that from a place of lacking, but from a place of excitement for what's to come. Again, Thank You. From the bottom of my ❤️

[@DominusNovemus]

Thank you, helpful. And respect for uploading a self-critical video like this

[@Alchemal]

What i want to see more of is authentic charlie. I really like listening to you talk about your real experiences rather then analyzing other people, as its hard to have the same insights about the internal state of other people, and i think thats where people's demeanor and behaviors reallg come from Like for example i enjoyed this video because you talked about the ways you grew and the lessons you learned, and i think that is really valuable

[@cynicshminic]

Wow. Rule #1 was really impactful to me. I grew up on Simple Pickup/Project GO content back in the day, and also later, you/Charisma on Command. I got into daygame, picking up girls, and beyond just dating, leaning into problem solving or going after what I want more than 95% of people. But now I don't know how to sit comfortably with things, to the point of having chronic stress at times from always trying to "solve" something.

[@michaellupo3299]

Videos like this are really good I feel, because they bridge the gap between really good concepts like attacking your fears, and what can happen if that’s the only habit you learned to grow. Especially now in the world of online self-improvement, finding the right advice for your particular situation can be tricky and it’s very easy to get lost in how loud everything is, the flashy, cool sounding advice often can rise to the top quickly and be the loudest. Content like this is what we need more of

[@simoc69]

This! 👌🙌🔥 more of these please. Very self actualization.

[@StormBRNGER]

This was great. And I think you are right in everything you are now "correcting". I think that most things have good and bad parts to them, and they change depending on the situation. That's why you should be always aware and try your best to "be" in every situation, as it might not be as the one you encountered in the past and you should act differently now. Aware, humble, brave and knowing yourself, four pillars I would highlight maybe.

[@poshdelux]

I also noticed you have a young following. My brother 15 y.o. Got stuck on this MDMA topic for a while. He’s obsessed. It’s frightening.

[@gabikoyenov]

Hey Charlie, I loved this video. Genuine listening is such an important thing for living a fulfilling life. It's probably the most important thing for truly connecting with people. This video also reminded me of the older days of COC. Thanks!

[@_aSilver]

listening and being patient is a major one since I have been trying to be more social and rush into stuff more. but talked to this person who is really shy and I used to be good at being patient but recently been rushing to do things rather than sitting in a moment being patient to let someone take there time I ended up making a fool of myself in front of them since I wasn't patient and listening to what they were saying at that moment.

[@NoahTahiliani]

Love the old style! Feels like a FaceTime or just convo with a friend I love it!

[@mattrfay]

Great! Please make some more videos on listening skills that would be awesome 🙏

[@seanfrancishenry]

Pertaining to your first point, letting the fear wash over you and then deciding if you want to engage, I think most people choose just not to engage, this is the easy way out and an excuse to not push themselves.. Definitely push yourself maybe for a couple years and then try this washing over/decision technique.

[@Jabran-i6s]

yes do more of these, i just found your channel, Long time subscriber for my daughter, I teach her these things and your videos are a learning material i go in depth in.

[@andhover3686]

Big fan love this and the podcast I know your probably being pulled in alot of directions but I think these style videos are the most tangibly helpful and applicable if those are metrics your interested in thank you love the content keep up the great work

[@brandonulloa17]

Give us more videos both types! Loved this fr

[@jacobmorres9817]

Yes ❤ nuanced advice is the most valuable advice

[@zacharydean6637]

really enjoyed the video, hope to see more of this format

[@intrinsicload]

I'd love to hear more about the downfalls for the other 4 charisma types!

[@appliancetraining]

It was good to see ‘you’ again.

[@lokyewming]

this is your best video essay so far. thank you.

[@barbaralawrence6226]

Thank you. Yes, more of these, please. New subscriber 🙋‍♀️💖

[@LearningKaizen]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:29 🏃‍♂️ *Embrace anxiety by moving towards it rather than fleeing, as it can lead to positive outcomes, but be cautious of reinforcing a habit of running from fear.* 03:59 💔 *Rejection should be felt and acknowledged, as numbing the pain can lead to pursuing relationships where your authentic self isn't accepted.* 06:30 👂 *Deep listening is crucial for fostering intimate connections and building trust in relationships, even though it's often undervalued in our culture.* 08:23 💡 *Be cautious of overreliance on charisma types like conviction, as while they can bring initial success, they may hinder long-term growth without authenticity and listening.* Made with HARPA AI

[@hh8982]

yayyyyyyyy talking head!!! i actually cant tell you how much i miss this

[@nownotlater]

Charlie, when are you and Mark Manson going to do a podcast together? It might be an echo chamber, but it would be a really good one! 😂

[@AnnHelle]

Leaving this here in case it helps anyone, as someone who's recovered from GAD and a panic disorder. In my experience I'd say #1 isn't great advice for some. "Staying with the fear" sounds good on paper, but actually TRAINS the body to get accustomed to being in a constant state of anxiety and fear, which will sooner or later turn into a full-blown anxiety disorder. Instead, we need to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, to get out of the fight/flight/freeze response as soon as possible. Breathwork is great for this, so is movement-type meditation like taichi and yoga.

[@samduke3669]

Would love more content like this! you have definitely have grown a lot and so have I, I could use more COC type content but for higher level consciousness type stuff.

[@petbird19]

Wise advice! I'd love to know your deeper takes on the old videos.

[@warrengday]

Great adjust advice. Thanks. All content good regardless of video format.

[@Yarmalate]

So valuable and much appreciated. Very helpful, thanks

[@oponomo]

Hi charlie, big sucker for you here. The style of the isn't my favorite i'd say so so. But the content on this topic just brought me some peace, as i was struggling recently exactly with the negative feelings/outcomes you described, for these reasons! Thank you for helping me see hope through my natural unbreakable barrier to advices.

[@Bomberman64x]

you need to post this on you old channel a lot of people need to hear this :3

[@thegoat1261]

Character development, great vid

[@MrCaptainSquibbles]

Hi CHarlie, welcome back to the video!

[@NicholasTada]

Love this video style

[@TrentonF505]

I want more of these kinds of videos

[@parkervybiral1736]

I’d be interested in an in-depth video about deep listening from you

[@dynamonawab]

Brillant. Want more of this

[@asdfasdfuhf]

I have done nothing my whole life than wear different social masks that I don't know what my true core personality is if that makes sense.

[@simpleselfhelp]

I love this type of video

[@johncracker5217]

Women’s super power is being able to socially calibrate. However, guys who say “they know exactly what they’re doing.” Are dead wrong.. their greatest weakness is that they are almost always oblivious to how they come off and how men are truly judging them… use this knowledge men.

[@shootatsquare]

Excellent 👏

[@antonpletikos1470]

We want more!

[@charisma-Leo]

Miss this. Still so eloquent haha

[@bluehorse6714]

Amazing!

[@jasonfanclub4267]

I miss videos like these

[@emersonpfeiffer9674]

Love the vid style

[@MajorasMaskMailman]

Great work to the thumbnail guy

[@richardkingjunior7475]

GOAT

[@Werdxp]

awesome video

[@DonnieThorson]

As state in the CD episode-Tiffanis Gold:They just are.

[@kai_johnsonn]

I find that a lot of the videos are very intense and don't truly represent every day interactions. Some are displays of two extremes, which can appear unattainable to most. This is especially the case when you are emulating behaviour of Hollywood stars who are the epitome of physical attractiveness, combined with the highest of social status. When you are acting in similar ways, people won't respond in the way you see on the TV screen. People admire those who are famous, they don't admire the common man on the street.

[@LittleTimmyO]

Agreed. The examples on here are too outlandish, and honestly performative. All the examples are of actors and singers giving interviews which is about marketing their movies and own brand. The second the cameras turn off, they’re completely different. Less present, less overtly assured, and certainly less confident.

[@averma12]

First

[@technicolorgiallo1111]

...ironically, you look like the male Charisma Carpenter. Might be a distant relative. Excellent content as always. Thank you. Minus the Joe Rogan stuff, of course-his world views are far-right and his followers are the bottom of the barrel.

[@SynaTek240]

ok, I have not watched the entire video, but just on the first point, ain't no way building a habit of talking to random people is going to make you start negging your partner when they need space. I understand the connection that was laid out, but I don't buy it, it's too elusory

[@burlingo]

Because Joe Rogan is a salesman, his reactions aren't good examples.

[@simeond8685]

MORE TALKING HEAD

[@bigknight202]

Bro, I bet you're just a hater ;)