How to Flip Someone From Rude to Respectful

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What if you could take someone who started a conversation insulting you...And end that conversation with them saying they appreciated and respected you
That’s what we’re covering today - the 7 simple steps to make a rude person take back what they said, show you respect, and wish they hadn’t begun with the rudeness in the first place.
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[@HealthyGamerGG]

Shhh don't give away all our secrets 🤫 Thanks for the awesome breakdown!

[@hdjfjd8]

aye ,look who's here😂

[@hdjfjd8]

Aur bata bhai kya chal raha hai ?

[@amiraligh6493]

Truly awesome

[@davidl9155]

Doctar Kay Vow!!😄

[@shaneilellis9832]

😂😂😂😂

[@conall5434]

Dr K is one of the best communicators I've ever seen

[@Brindapr]

Oh man he'd make an amazing diplomat

[@LM-hp6ly]

He really is, he needs to write a book on it. I like how he's always empathetic to others, he never gets defensive and doesn't let any discussion turn into an argument. Sneoko is as abnoxious as a child and he got him to actually act like an adult and communicate with respect.

[@6lack5ushi]

Amazing!!!! Communicator

[@ThisIsNotWhatItLooksLik]

Out of curiosity, who have you seen that are better? Sneako interviews cemented to me that he is the best I have seen.

[@6lack5ushi]

@@ThisIsNotWhatItLooksLik Joscha Bach but he’s more of a physicist so a lot is domain specific but I think he does a good job

[@Mich-jk2ze]

Boys, do not choose Tate, choose Dr K.

[@Vgallo]

But if they’re at the point of deciding whether to follow Tate- it’s usually mostly too late. We need to to stop neglecting the needs of our boys, stop demonising them or ignoring them by only focusing on feminist issues, or by attacking anyone that says we need to focus more on men . Here’s a thought, why don’t we help men and women by helping both? They need each other, they live with each other, so helping everyone actually helps everyone- who would of thought 🤷

[@another7674]

@@Vgallonah its never too late. Ur heavily underestimating how smart these kids actually are

[@Vgallo]

@@another7674 your right, but I’m not underestimating their intelligence, because this has very little to do with Iq, it’s more about their emotional development/ stability and their upbringing, if we got this right then there would be no Andrew Tate or an attraction to this kind of 1 dimensional idea of masculinity, because tates rise and popularity is a symptom of our societal failure of boys and men. So I’m not saying they can’t change, more that most will only change over very long periods of time, so our emphasis should be more on prevention rather than putting all our efforts into a less effective Endevour. For further info I suggest reading Warren Farrell s boy crisis, he accurately predicted this situation years before it happened and instead of listening to him, he was criticised and disregarded. If we just listened to more people that are ahead of the curb, we could avoid 90% of cultural problems.

[@lisa.222]

​@@VgalloI don't think ppl are saying to not focus on boys or men. But it's the things the bigger podcasts say and gave produced thay have driven ppl away from the cause again because of the absurd things these men say thay isn't helping men. They don't speak with the actual want to help boys and men because they constantly talk about women which deflects a lot of the attention from the men and their actual issues and betterment.

[@Vgallo]

@@lisa.222 who are you talking about? Cuz Warren Farrell doesn’t say anything like that. I get the impression your referring to red pill community, which i haven’t alluded to at all in my comment cuz I would never direct anyone towards that community, as it’s basically the same thing as Andrew Tate, I’m talking about legitimate advocates of men, like Warren Farrell who I suggest you actually take a look at before making another misinterpretation. Another is Richard reeves who are vilified by feminists because in the mind of feminists the majority of societies ills are caused by the patriarchy, and any deflection of this cause is in itself part of the “patriarchy” and therefore bad, so in order to correct the imbalance in support, or lack of support for men, we need to do away with this toxic patriarchy idea. So it is necessary to talk about the women who are demonising men in order to establish the legitimacy of advocating for men’s rights, because these feminists have managed to delegitimise it.

[@T1J]

the way Dr. K interacts with people without judgment regardless of their energy is super inspiring to me. i hope to emulate that one day

[@PrinceOfDarkness2k7]

I don't watch you too often, but from what I've seen you've been doing pretty well already :)

[@chandlerhuffman4571]

Same, it's something I really want to work on.

[@pempers1885656]

I’m sure the judgment is still there inevitably he just knows how to handle it all and not let it influence the moment. Judgment is a background process that connects your experience with the moment to then judge (pre mature Problem solving) the situation. But controlling that to active Listen and hear the actual problem at hand is definitely a thing that needs practice for most

[@eggymens]

i really appreciate this! we should all be more like Dr K. However, I think it's important also to maybe mention in this context, that, you can't just emulate years worth of studying and research that almost inevitably leads to this kind of understanding, which leads to his type of attitude. we can't hope to emulate such a thing without also accepting that we must put in a similar level of effort. i appreciate that we all want to be understanding, but lets not forget how much work Dr K has done, remember DOCTOR K. Just getting a doctorate on its own takes 4+ years of studying and that's not including also requiring, good grades in school, a masters and bachelors degree which also take about 3 years each to complete. we can't just hope to emulate years worth of work and research. Dr. K has spent as much time studying and researching as many of you have been alive.

[@parasrawat1217]

How are you

[@amaurylannes]

Analyzing Dr K's conversational methods is a genius way to teach people how to converse better

[@theseangle]

Analysis squared

[@Thurrak]

I highly recommend his video on proper conversation.kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnqkha2Cm5KsZpY&ab_channel=HealthyGamerGG

[@Aritul]

I agree.

[@isaachester8475]

Dr. K has probably dealt with patients far more rude than Sneako. He’s an expert at it by now

[@MCDLXXXVIII_]

gotta go through the worst to deal with everything in between

[@sinia556]

​@@MCDLXXXVIII_ well said

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

Sneako may be argumentative but he's not really someone that can make you angry because his arguments aren't very well-thought out and it's easy to poke holes in them.

[@_WeDontKnow_]

yea Sneako was a bit argumentative, but Dr. K deals with people who suffer from addiction to very serious drugs. he's probably had to hear the worst personal insults someone can think of

[@Despotic_Waffle]

Well he's a professional

[@vecter]

Although it wasn't the point of this video, I hope Sneako actually heals his trauma.

[@yabiodonkey4065]

Lol what trauma tf 😂😂😂

[@vecter]

@@yabiodonkey4065 dude carries insane negative energy with him. Very uncentered emotionally, always looking for a confrontation, trying to provoke others. The opposite of a masculine man.

[@abdelilhmanflores]

@@yabiodonkey4065all that bullying and cucking is messing with his head. Your goat king acts like a child and he needs to grow and be normal

[@Kevuno]

⁠@@vecterdamn this is actually a great observation and explains why sneako could potentially have unhealed trauma. I don’t think people become like this on default but are instead brought here through negative experiences.

[@sincorazon9920]

@@vecterhe’s also just part ass🤣

[@lemillion5980]

Sneako is like an insecure teenager😂

[@abdelilhmanflores]

Bingo. Dude is still a kid mentally

[@abdelilhmanflores]

sneako turned out better because of Dr k. He came into the interview acting like a child. The conclusion is the same but you read the cause wrong

[@abdelilhmanflores]

@@Ay2xy nuclear misreading. Sneako is a kid who never grew up

[@abdelilhmanflores]

@@Ay2xy sneako came into the interview being loud and arrogant with his opinions. Dr k recognized that this guy was gonna try to debate and argue the whole time. Instead of falling for the bait, he used his 20+ years of knowledge to make sneako act normal. Did we watch the same interview? I feel like you just want sneako to win instead of encouraging him to grow up and be normal

[@abdelilhmanflores]

@@Ay2xy if you say so pal

[@jorgeperez2872]

In a way, Sneako and most male red pillers come from a place of avoidant attachment, "in some way people are going to try to take advantage of me" "let me create distance" . But the thing is, Dr, k. Amability is sincere, he is not trying to make a show or comes with a judgment from a preconcibed idea of who Sneako is, he is genuine.

[@intello8953]

Lol what the heck is a “avoidant attachment” is this another liberal psychologist feminine term?

[@mrfrenly]

It's not because Sneako is red pill, it's because sneako is a rude dickhead.

[@baskinghobo]

I think another reason a lot of these alpha males act unnecessarily rude is because they know a lot of people look up to them and giving validation to these people too easily makes them stop seeking their approval. I remember in primary school hanging out with the popular kids, a lot of them were often rude for no reason so I sought their approval and it felt great when I got it. But sort of like a toxic relationship, they often go back to their old ways and I kept seeking for their approval because I desperately wanted to fit in and be cool like them.

[@noneofyourbuizness]

Sneko is actually changing in a good way

[@Ricerrs]

@@noneofyourbuiznessyeah he’s left the red pill ideology

[@zaofactor]

I find it funny that I learned and used all of these techniques by working in customer service over the phone with almost all upset customers in my early 20s. I also found it interesting as I matured further that so many people have issues communicating in this way.

[@SocraticMethod-mp2di]

Agree.

[@lesterven1847]

AMEN TO THAT. It can really be a struggle to keep your composure around some customers but usually these tips work

[@thomaslacroix6011]

It's literally because we expect people to naturally learn this without any structure or formal etiquette to use as a guide.

[@PopPipPop]

NOBODY talks about customer services actually being a huge learning opportunity when it comes to human psychology and serious people skills. It’s so valuable

[@reviewranger4202]

Absolutely. They start high and heated to end up respectful, sorry they shouted and thank you for your work and service for them.

[@tavo6496]

I don’t understand how people can say that Sneako was being “blunt” or “simply opinionated” as opposed to being rude. There’s a distinct difference between honesty and crassness and that distinction is respect and care for the other persons feelings and comfort.

[@LittleBabywriter]

I don't see it being rude as well. Why one should be annoyed or feel attacked by opposed opinions?

[@vvey4523]

That's... not a distinct difference. Nothing that you said actually separates the two. What actual, tangible thing made you believe there was disrespect ?

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

Was it about HOW he said it rather than WHAT he said?

[@LittleBabywriter]

@@rejectionisprotection4448 oh yes. I heard that excuse.

[@chumbucket6184]

I hope you're a woman for your sake

[@Phriffo]

My respect for Dr. K only grows exponentially.

[@frankie1312]

When you said "walking away from the rudness is totally fine" I almost started crying. That's some validation I didn't know I needed.

[@phoenixj1299]

When men become so weak that they seek validation from others, thats a sign that your society screwed you over and you help yourself to get stronger than ever by taking the wisdom of the east and using common sense

[@Ryosuke1208]

Takes years to understand that we are worthy on respect and if someone is being rude we need to put clear boundaries.

[@frankie1312]

@@marilyn9138 Thank you for your words.

[@different_stuff]

In my expirience, these kind of enlightenments are pretty naive. You think that you find some truth, but it just shatters in reality, and is only good on paper. Like here, for example, you can end up with bullies treating you like a dog if you just walk away from rudeness. If you are forced to see them regularly (like colleagues at work) this could be a problem. And also, walking away just leaves you with your bad thoughts inside you. You can acknowledge that it's not about "winning or losing" but you will FEEL that you lost, which completely diminish your acknowledgement

[@Ryosuke1208]

@@different_stuff not if you control your thoughts.

[@reinaldomartinez13]

A few years ago I was a follower of sneako, this is before his whole turn to the redpill and eventual youtube ban. I have been following dr.k for the past year and a half and seeing these two personalities is a night and day difference. I could've turned out like sneako, this immature, ignorant person who is polarizing for the sake of it, I'm glad I ultimatley decided to leave that small mindset and listen to dr. K

[@TaroLoaf]

W take. Common Dr. K W

[@yabiodonkey4065]

A fake sneako watcher would say that shit, he was always redpill, now you have just started watching soy minded creators. L take

[@hisky.]

me too I'm so glad I didn't fall into that trap

[@aqeebshahbaz3306]

Well I mean to be fair he has done well for himself and he even met new people and converted into another religion and travels the world so honestly I suppose being like him isn’t to bad well at least as a template for how to live your own life

[@hisky.]

@@aqeebshahbaz3306 the way he interacts with other people is honestly the opposite of how you should strive to be

[@suvajeetdatta1220]

I read a story of an angry man who spit on the Buddha, and the Buddha smiled back. The next day the angry man apologised and requested to be his disciple

[@RedAstrals]

"I have no enemies."

[@pedrogorilla483]

It was my uncle Cheng.

[@specialknees6798]

The same concept as “turn the other cheek” in Christianity

[@mspaint93]

And I think theres a h dith of Mohammed having smth similar of an interaction with an old women but I might be recalling wrong. Its a great sentiment a lot of faiths try to advertise but is a lot harder to follow

[@justtostudylol5711]

A very good one. Can you provide me reference of where it is written and if it is real or not.

[@Sm0k6poke]

Its wild to see how hes uncomfortable and writhing in his chair because of how you challenge his idea of manhood and connection in a friendly manner, it shows just how foreign these kind of interactions are for him. Totally disassembled his defense. Before seeing this i thought it was impossible to break through to such stubborn people; your truly a master at work.

[@yerpderp6800]

Most people crave connection, it's just due to prior circumstances they start learning there are limited ways to do so (or they are scared of changing). And tbh they have good reason to be like that, most people aren't willing to extend an olive branch and instead will react according to their own learned behaviors. So people start learning ways to get what they want, and in the process of doing so if they're not mindful they start neglecting their own agency in accomplishing this. So Dr K is pretty great here because not only is he showing sneako there's an alternative way to react, but also he's beginning to remind sneako of his agency.

[@Gnomezonbacon]

Oh thank you. I am in a problem that I caused by being the rude guy. I don't want to be. And I want out. So I'm listening to this from the perspective of how do I stop being rude all that time and go back to being respectful.

[@tigdakid]

It’s your fragile ego

[@johntan4997]

I won't be so critical of oneself, I'm reaching 50, thus we all been full of youth & ego. It's mainly got to do with a person's footing in life, once you reach a certain level of foundation & competency, there's no longer the need to behave this way. Rudeness often roots from uncertainty and insecurity within, that's why it's an 'act' to quickly belittle others before they discover the truth.

[@MateuszPolkowski]

I'm happy to see you want to become a better version of yourself. It's very admirable. I believe you have made the most important first step of realizing that rudeness is an issue you have and want to address. I felt your comment and would like to leave you with a few points, because I believe they might help while this video might not. 1. Catch yourself the next time you find yourself in a situation you are being rude. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just try to catch a moment so you have a specific thing to explore. 2. Ask yourself why you were being rude. Be frank with yourself. Were you angry? 3. If you felt angry, do you know why you were angry? If not, let me tell you what anger is. Anger is a natural emotional reaction to a perception of being mistreated. Do you feel the other person did you wrong? 4. This is the hardest part. Anger is a natural emotional reaction to a _perception_ of being mistreated. This emotion is justified if you are actually being mistreated, however there is a big chance that this is just your perception. What I mean is someone may be just speaking their truth and you are making this statement about you. You are deciding that some statement is a mistreatment. Do you feel this might be true? 5. If you feel this might be true in your case, realize this is your ego speaking. Your reaction of being rude is you trying to do something to the other person. Why do you care so much? What are you trying to prove? What do you want to achieve? What are you protecting? 6. Also hard. Explore your past and try to find the earlies situation in your life where you felt you had this dynamic. Work through it. 7. Realize that you being rude is a waste of energy and by being rude you are giving up control to the other person. Why be angry if you don't feel mistreated? Why defend yourself if you are not feeling attacked? Why debate someone's statement if you're not feeling challenged? 8. If you get to a point where you're fine with yourself, you will feel that every statement anyone speaks out (even if radically negative and deliberately directed at you) speaks volumes more about them than about you. Such a statement will not trigger anything else in you, but curiosity and empathy. You will feel so comfortable in your on skin and so free, you will sometimes want to cry from all the raw relief you feel. I wish you all the best on your journey.

[@octaviawinter9768]

i’m not entirely sure if this applies to you but i will say this: There’s been a recent push to be blunt and say what you feel at all times. that this is the only way to be truly authentic and politeness is just another way of saying fake. But there’s a difference between being honest and beign rude. We aren’t our worst impulses or the horrible thoughts that sometimes pass through our heads. An example: your friend just hosted an event and they’re super excited about it and they ask you how you’re liking it (you really don’t). You can tell them “i can see how much effort you put into it!” which is an honest assessment that’s better than lying and saying “it’s perfect!”. You don’t want to ruin the party while it’s going on so instead you give the specifics later about what you didn’t like in a constructive tone. You’re not hiding how you feel but you’re also trying not to hurt your friend. taking a moment to respond when you sense a rude thought and letting it pass by is crucial. Speaking rudely is a moment’s decision and you can change that if you allow yourself to calm down and think of better ways to deal with your feelings.

[@dariazhempalukh]

Very admirable! Good luck with that.

[@HandSolitude]

It requires someone capable of self reflection too.

[@MortydeGravata]

It's basically "don't think less about yourself", "be honorable" ad "treat people with respect".

[@romansdump]

I feel like patience and neutrality are also relevant in this video

[@MortydeGravata]

@@romansdump Agreed. Specially neutrality, because it helps put arguments in place and pay attention to others.

[@eggymens]

it's definitely more complicated than this, but, if this is all you can take from it, it's better than nothing.

[@MortydeGravata]

@@eggymens yeah, for sure. I said "basically"... It was like a resume.

[@shoelacedonkey]

@@MortydeGravata Yep. all good points. I just wanted to ad you don't have to actualy respect someone to treat them with respect... if only to make the conversation easier. As someone on the spectrum I've had difficulty with that for years, it felt like lying and dishonesty.

[@gingeral253]

I’m glad Sneako wasn’t rude the whole time. Some people really don’t care about having a conversation.

[@realprime1909]

'walking away from rudeness.' I do that a lot. i don't want anyone to mess with my mood.

[@tacitus_]

Extremely useful advice for anyone in customer service roles. I use these tricks subconsciously in my work as a sysadmin/sysengineer

[@GrogSothroth]

Oh come on now lmao

[@tacitus_]

@@GrogSothroth Not sure why you think this is objectionable. Gotta make the clients feel good.

[@willmont9738]

What certifications are needed to be a sysadmin ?

[@tacitus_]

@@willmont9738 Honestly any of CompTIA's certs will get your foot in the door at an MSP. If you want to work at a data center, you'll probably want Cisco and Redhat certs. If you want to work in a large office, get your MCSE (in Azure-focused roles).

[@royp8804]

​@@willmont9738 Network+, grab a+ first and make some homelabs

[@worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010]

i tried these kind of tactics with a narcissist, and it didnt work. i feel like this approach only works with people who truly have the ability to self reflect. but the narcissist not only deflects, they also gaslight and stonewall you so even if you attempt to see their perspective, even with the intention of not changing them, they dont care. they find pleasure in manipulating you, with the sole purpose of maintaining their fake grandiosity. which i think is different from just being rude, disrespectful, crass, and deflective. so if this approach doesnt work, the person may be a narcissist.

[@beeankha]

Yeah, good to know when to bail. You can disarm them though by basically doing step one - assert boundaries and walk away/cut ties. And maybe two as well.

[@roseleger5112]

How could one tweek that approach so that it would work with an abusive narcissist? I can't go no contact so I'm down to non verbal at this point.

[@ItsYoru.21]

Facts

[@michielvanmol3529]

@@roseleger5112Obviously I know nothing about the situation you’re referring to, but I’d start with asking myself “Okay, why can I not go no contact?”

[@AnnaPoli800]

and they really have no imagination at all those people (narcs) ¬so predictive as well.

[@trusterzero6399]

Love how he is physically awkward because of the conv

[@adriandelreal9126]

Why do you find joy in someone else becoming awkward

[@EndocrinologistTransGender]

@@adriandelreal9126 because he is harming the world by destroying people's attention spans, and being rude to those who are trying to help him, simply to look cool and feed his own ego. That's why.

[@trusterzero6399]

@@adriandelreal9126 dark sense of humor I guess, idk. Maybe because of his initial stance

[@TanTan-lq2mm]

He’s trash

[@xpeachypie4133]

@@adriandelreal9126it’s a consequence of showing up to a convo in bad faith like that. there’s some catharsis to seeing people who speak to people like that having to sit with the weight and discomfort they brought to the conversation.

[@querty985]

Sneako either got intimidated or actually realised he was rude and corrected it, unfortunatly non of this works on a bully.

[@tongpoo8985]

bullies can get intimidated.

[@joegibbskins]

Most bullies are seeking a reaction. If you just don’t give them that bullying is boring. Now, certain f’d up people will continue to escalate things to get a reaction, and that’s horrible, but a consolation would be they’ve lost the crowd

[@isdochegal3576]

@@joegibbskins thats not how things work in the real world. real bullies are VERY pleased if your ONLY reaction is to get a red cheek after they slapped you. its NOT boring to them and they DONT lose the crowd. if "the crowd" just stands by and watches without jumping in to help (at least with words) for the first half then they wont change their behaviour/mind just because you continue (of course there are limits.. you cant bully for 7 hours straight or do extreme physical harm, like breaking multiple bones or something like that without having people stepping in. but thats not how bullying works) i personally dislike the "crowd" that does nothing, more than the bully himself because of that exact behaviour (wich is what happens more often, sadly) all that "just ignore/dont react" bullshit only works on the bullies who are not that bad, in the first place (and that is NOT the majority, at least not where i grew up)!

[@sudato3502]

@@isdochegal3576 theres difference between physical bullying and social one. physical bullying is usually way more direct so the countermeasures should be direct, while social bullying is more subtle so more subtle approach is needed when dealing with it.

[@Evitrea]

The open question v.s. closed question part blew my mind. I knew that questions are important to communicate, but more often than not my question pisses people even more...now I know the problem. Closed question is only good in asserting dominance, not convincing others.

[@tongpoo8985]

yeah now I have a new word for the way political pundits conduct themselves, especially left-leaning ones. that type intellectual dishonesty makes my stomach churn.

[@FabricioSantos-zy6vt]

Another method of dealing with Sneako was presented to us by Sean Strickland

[@WockhardtWarlock_]

The video isnt about sneako funny man Lmao youre a hard learner

[@cooper2132]

sean couldnt even knock out sneako. he should be ashamed of himself

[@WockhardtWarlock_]

@@cooper2132 he was clearly not going for a knockout

[@lorddj9910]

@@cooper2132that’s cause Sean was barely going full power

[@serjborwi9624]

Haha that’s awesome dude, you’re such a tough guy.

[@theauntofdragons]

"This is not about you". Some of the best advice I'll never forget. Active listening helps-ish. People are still rude 🙄.

[@axion4523]

Can you elaborate please?

[@theauntofdragons]

@@axion4523 That's a wonderful question. I've learned that not everything requires a response. Sometimes people just need to yell. Who doesn't?! Their rage is not directed towards you. Maybe their spouse or child annoyed them. Hence, it has NOTHING to do with you. It only hurts my feelings because I'm a sensitive girl lol.

[@radnedge1983]

"Take responsibility. Don't say 'what other people (want to know).' This is a conversation I'm having with you." I actually like what TC said there, oops. But I'm fanatical about accountability, especially with regards to not hiding your own words behind others. Maybe he was giving the interviewer what he wanted, but for a regular conversation, I like it.

[@tomdoingfunstuff]

I also find it particularly frustrating when communication is veiled like this

[@adrianrocabado5040]

What's being said in the video is that it's not a bad way to create boundaries usually, the problem with it is that it creates a power struggle. This means that if the person pushing for it wants to keep control of the conversation, it will escalate with different antics. There are people that will want to go against your view just for the sake of it. Engaging in a different way can prevent this. Pretty much every way is okay, as long as you know whom to use it with.

[@drakonli]

One of the things that was new to me is the "slow" thing. I immediately realized when I did this by accident and now I will add it to my toolset. thanks bro!

[@speedytherabbit8535]

I was having a pretty bad day since some people in my life were being rude to me and I just wanted to let you know that this video really opened my eyes on how to deal with these types of situations and people. I’ve always wondered what to do in these types of situations since I always felt helpless and sad, but I want to thank you for making this video. May God bless you ❤️

[@dr.skillz77mgpl92]

also props to Sneako for being understanding at the end, sure Dr. K was very open and de-escalating, but I'm happy they were able to have a genuine conversation at the end :>

[@mackieincsouthsea]

A masterclass in sincerely empathetic dialogue and the benefits of the bridges it can build between people at odds. It's really impressive to see it broken down by someone so skilled at it. It doesn't matter who you are, feeling like you're truly understood without judgement is an immensely powerful gift to be offered, particularly when you start off heavily guarded.

[@Valentin-jn3lk]

I'm glad you're back Charlie. You've been a light for me when I was struggling with social anxiety back when I was 14, 5 years ago. Your book was the first I finished reading on my own for a very long time. You showed me something else is possible. You changed the trajectory of my life and you keep inspiring me to this day, not only as a communicator but as an entrepreneur as well. I see you're inspired to keep inspiring, as you're doing with this video. I'm glad. Thanks ❤

[@juniperpunch7751]

This is golden. Please post more like this like how to engage in tight situations because i am surrounded by these kinds of people and it is draining

[@tongpoo8985]

I'm around 1 person like this but it's one of the worst ones I've ever encountered. Opportunity to learn

[@BigDaddyWes]

It can't be overstated how valuable this approach to rudeness is. Not only for us to learn how to navigate it within others, but how to recognize it within ourselves.

[@Acoto]

I'm 100% saving this video. Human behavior is fascinating. Be able to manage human behavior, command technology, and have the physical skills and power to handle violence and you can manage almost any situation imaginable.

[@brucesjogren8417]

in most cases you just need help to help yourself. nudging someone in the right direction is often better than giving them a straight up solution is what ive learned from this clip

[@LadyShiver]

Please this is the first time I ever saw one of your videos and I'm immediately intrigued and amazed. I need more videos like this. I feel like rudeness is so prevalent nowadays... and I can't deal with it very well. I don't get angry with rude people, instead I stay polite but inside it eats at me and I end up feeling horrible after such encounters (I work in a customer service job). I would love to be able to disarm rude people like that or at least shield myself from feeling so bad.

[@TheBranchan]

Excellent breakdown, Charlie. Can't wait for Dr. K's next appearance

[@Lealea2828]

This is absolutely true for those who even have the slightest ability to self reflect. There are others though who are so disconnected and disrespectful no matter how you approach them you will continue to receive the rudeness and disrespect. I just say this in case there are some in abusive relationships who are seeing this video and thinking they need to approach the other person in this way to get respect. There are some people you can never get respect from. But great points for those willing to check their ego

[@shreym03]

Dr K is amazing. I need to see this interview now. Thanks Charlie!

[@migalorsdarwin1930]

Yeah this was the best part what Sneako said. kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJLSYZSsoM9lask

[@pegaferno4429]

Oh wow, didn't know the bloke from charisma on command did a podcast. Your videos helped me years ago when I was a young teen understand and interact socially. I was completely incompetent and it really hurt my life. Now, social interactions are one of my best skills and has taken me far in life. Thank you Charlie. Really. Thank you.

[@JaneNewAuthor]

Downloading so I can listen on repeat. Absolute gold. Thank you. I'm having problems with a very aggressive neighbour, you've just shown me how to fix it.

[@_mayankr]

the first point was also very well made in the sneako rubi rose interaction where she threatened to leave if sneako was rude

[@tomdoingfunstuff]

I don’t even know what you call this type of content, but I’m not seeing it anywhere else and this was a fantastic video

[@stagesnake4146]

It's nice to see someone doing something valuable with KZbin. Thank you for these videos.

[@Bhattacharyyya]

I’m beyond proud of everything you’ve accomplished. Good luck-I’m rooting for you

[@onemanenclave]

Thank you for making these videos Charlie. I think these ideas will definitely come in handy in certain situations for me. Thank you again and keep up your amazing work of spreading useful advice for better human relations. If Ben could come over once in a while for a special appearance/episode on the pod that'd be nice. I miss you guys' absorbing conversations.

[@Rishabh-Dev]

Very sad to see that guys like Paul brothers and Sneako have such fan following. Very weirds times we're living in right now.

[@isaiahthomas4444]

They’re ALL good content creators. Ofc they have a following. Just cuz don’t agree with them doesn’t mean they’re not good.

[@Rishabh-Dev]

@@isaiahthomas4444 Thank gosh I don't belong to such mediocre audience base.

[@isaiahthomas4444]

@@Rishabh-Dev Ok cool guy 👍🏾

[@Rishabh-Dev]

@@isaiahthomas4444 K.🍻

[@nunpho]

​@@isaiahthomas4444but they aren't good content creators

[@ahlemana5273]

Everything YOU SAID IS SO TRUE , TAKING THE TIME TO WATCH UNDERSTAND N SHARE THE KNOWLEDGE IT S SO BEAUTIFUL IT HAVEN T CROSSED MY MIND TO DO THAT ,I APPRECIATE IT ! I GUESS ALL THE REALIZATION I HAD IN MANY VIDEOS I NEVER SHARED made me feel seen by encountering your video. thank you for being you and putting yourself out here

[@christopherbenoit1002]

That’s was solid video. I’ve noticed when I’m aggressive and go into an argument ready to blow a fuse, and the other persons energy doesn’t match mine, I feel it immediately and how wrong I am. I’ve used this managing ppl. No matter how hostile they come in just stay calm and with most ppl it defuses itself and we can talk.

[@LoraleiBayette]

I love these think pieces you do! Keep them coming please! The one about the manipulator and this one I thoroughly enjoyed your analysis.

[@dn526]

Would like to say, that this video is incredibly well written and edited

[@Rickfernello]

Dr. K is amazing! A positive force into a more kind world. Big inspiration. Thanks for the great analysis.

[@ingusbingus8750]

Great video! i feel like all of these steps work in favor of showing the other person that you are actually listening to them during the conversation, and trying to reach an agreement by showcasing your point of view, instead of what we usualy do by just trying to prove our point at all cost, even if we are wrong

[@codydabest]

This is actually a really good video for new sales people to watch. Lots of very similar scenarios and interactions.

[@Vis80842]

Incredibly informative video! Dr K just illuminated Sneako to the point where he himself even realized it. You could see it in his body language, lots of fidgeting. He didn’t know what to do with himself when he couldn’t take the defensive/aggressive route to reaffirm his own brokenness by projecting it on others. The cognitive dissonance was so obvious, when Dr K didn’t match his aggression. It’s like he temporarily became a little boy. It’s also just cute how Sneako seems to think that opening up with that kind of rhetoric will somehow result in a ”dynamic and exposing” interaction.

[@MultiReptilian]

having seen Sneako since his early videos (algorithms do weird things sometimes) it makes me sad see what happened to him, he legit seemed like a young man trying to figure out life, here you can still see this kid, hope he finds the way away from being so hateful

[@NotCommon_Foh_1795]

This was a great breakdown!!!! Thank you! Will definitely work to remember these techniques.

[@nigiastephens6984]

OMG, this worked the moment I used it! I’m surrounded by these types. Will rewatch this video a great deal. Got to control letting them trigger me though, need more info. Maybe add NLP to this. Need way more content like this and like your Aragorn video, I’m a black female nerd and I love, love, loved that video. Will explore your content. You rock!

[@Werdxp]

Excellent video as always. Imagine what the world would be like if we all knew how to do this

[@Peter.H___]

Bro you’re so good at analysing interactions

[@KodiFootball]

"Listen to understand." I'm going to do that from now on. It is a very loving thing to do.

[@visalserei]

Him: I don't believe in therapy Also him at the end of conversation feeling better. Now this is literally a meme worthy 🌝

[@isaiahthomas4444]

Cuz he had a conversation where he connected. He still doesn’t agree with therapy

[@visalserei]

@@isaiahthomas4444 The reason why people go to Therapy because they want to feel better. And he feels better. End of discussion

[@isaiahthomas4444]

@@visalserei If the therapist is good they’ll tell you the truth and the truth doesn’t make ppl feel good. Therapy is meant to improve your quality of life. That’s not happening off of one convo

[@visalserei]

@@isaiahthomas4444 You generalize therapist is stupid and baseless, not every therapist is telling lie. Many therapists will tell you in your face your struggle and show you a document about how you can fix it through rewriting your brain wire.

[@visalserei]

@@isaiahthomas4444 It is like saying all lawyer are corrupted, all accountant are just there to suck your money. You see how stupid this is? This is your problem, the world is not black and white. And I have never been to a therapist but my brother is one and he is very decisive and TOP G.

[@eriksteverman]

the ability to put this into words is way more impressive than applying these concepts lol i feel like i do this stuff without even thinking about it

[@agsheena]

This is a brilliant, visually displayed example of effective and diplomatic communication. Thanks for sharing

[@JohnnyValmaggia]

coaching with charlie seems like a total cheat code to life. I hope he's enjoying getting back to it

[@chromerabbit]

Love your work mate

[@netking767]

I smiled at that ending!

[@gojo-zn7du]

Thanks for this video. I'm a really bad communicator but I have begun working on it. I'll try to observe these things in my life and do my best to implement it. ❤️

[@100VideoProject]

That was awesome advice. I really need to work on this, I just avoid rude people altogether but I realize if I want to be productive in life, I can't do it alone and not everyone is going to agree with you.

[@KeltikManEater]

Being your authentic self will always put you over the games other try to play

[@4TFlowers]

Kind of agree. You'd need a lot of self control too

[@tongpoo8985]

staying grounded and authentic and removing ego. something I'm working on lately. luckily I have an absolute PoS coworker to practice on.

[@mosiahbennion706]

YES!!! More doctor K and Charlie!!!

[@mogwai_]

This is a good social guide for neurodivergent folks who have tone issues that often lead to conflicts with others

[@drew-id]

THIS is the only fun part of being a telemarketer. The ability to start convos/end convos in a similar manner.... Feels awesome.

[@yoimkingdom]

Bro this video is super knowledgeable gonna save it

[@adiksaff]

Great topic, and great subject. Dr K is awesome. I need this done between Dr K on Dr Mike's podcast please!

[@TheCUBARY]

This is an amazing video, Proud of how far you've brought your Dropping In channel Charlie!

[@hab0272]

I think Dr. K is very good at what some people call non-violent communication or connecting communication.

[@isabelleallemand6063]

Lovely video .Thanks✨✨🤗🙂

[@ifoundthistoday]

with age I found myself not needed to be "right" which kind of solves a lot of conflicts like, being open to others ideas, which can be difficult depending on their education or lack of

[@FrootNinja]

More of this ! I love the communication breakdown.

[@Buddyguard120]

Dr. K is an amazing doctor. Just the fact that I grow to hate debate more and more each day, and I would still consider an honor to build a case for certain fundamentals and beliefs I disagree with Dr. K in order to debate with him is a compliment in itself. The man's just awesom, haha. Wonderful breakdown too, I'm gonna watch this again, for sure

[@suntzupup]

This is a great video. Drawing boundaries is done on a scale from 0 being completely passive and 10 being getting authorities and the law involved. Along the way is passively ignoring things you don't like, asking politely, asking firmly, and even being aggressive.

[@GraveRave]

Love Dr. K, wish hime nothing but the best he's helped so many people.

[@TaroLoaf]

this. last year i was a walking ball of shame, after discovering dr. k, he has helped me realize my most important relationship is the one with myself

[@Wzdom1]

Legendary explanation! So many examples and clips added what a deep dive 👏🏽

[@tom5361]

Great to see you making content again Charlie!

[@iyellalot]

And that’s how it’s done.

[@Ciskuss]

this is gold. A psychotherapy lesson

[@ShinobiZXx]

Thanks you for this, very helpful!!!

[@davidrichardson7435]

Aaaamazing! There is so much opportunity for self reflection and personal growth in exploring this approach to defusing rudeness. 🤔 Wow! That's "adulting".

[@yessirge]

you sound like him a little bit

[@dreaminginnoother]

I was like, man this video reminds me a lot of Charisma on Command.... oh it's the same guy haha.

[@alisonsmith7334]

I loved the expertise shared in this video. Thank you!

[@juraviel]

if somebody tells you that you're a scammer (quite literally what sneako says in the beginning) i wouldn't call that him being rude

[@pradyumnarahul]

I think this only works when there is some form of power/status play by the individual on the receiving end of the "rudness"

[@craigrison007]

No it doesn't. I'm a counselor and a behavior analyst. I control situations like this in my everyday life since graduating. I change argumentative and time wasting behavior and heavily reinforce calm time sensitive behaviors without arguing or breaking a sweat

[@holyjolias3229]

Ever been with a Dominican? ​@@craigrison007

[@bnsgokugreat]

I didn't realise it was you Charlie from Charisma on Command until I heard your voice! Great to know that man! Instantly subbed!

[@dertyp2919]

I loved the examples that you picked out. Its like made for that video

[@elijahdrotts1025]

Literal quote from Romans 12, “Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.” And my favorite “Do not be overcome with evil, but overcome evil with good.” What the author Paul is saying here is to respond to aggression with love and seeking to help the other person. Hatred on hatred just breeds more hatred. But love can most of the time defeat hatred unless someone has hardened their heart to the point where they’re too stubborn to believe they can say or do anything wrong.