Chef Aviyah On Why Black Women Struggle With Wearing Their Natural Hair And Women Not Needing Makeup

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[@jenniferrose-ly4ej]

She is ABSOLUTELY beautiful! Her eyes are so white and her skin is glowing, and I'm not talking about the oil on her face. She looks so healthy.

[@doctordef324]

White eyes doesn't mean healthy... There's different hues to eyes as well as skin tones because of melanin... When Europeans came to the Americas, the native called them "white eyes"... Asians first encounters with Europeans, they wrote about the white eyes looked demonic... Milk white eyes have never been normal... It's been recorded way back in history...So, you just basically made a comment about her eyes like that's a beauty standard but really isn't. Her eyes are egg white but not a sign of health like you suggested..

[@YAhsTrueNation]

That’s not oil. The shine is the result of a Natural Foods - lots a avocados

[@jenniferrose-ly4ej]

@@YAhsTrueNation Okay, I stand corrected. I didn't mean any disrespect. She is beautiful!!

[@patiencechigumadzi]

Wow I’m gonna be eating loads of avocados from now on… Even her neck has an amazing glow

[@doctordef324]

@@patiencechigumadzi your body might react differently to avocados. I can't stand avocados!! You might get glowing skin from alkaline water simply.. Sometimes it's not just the food..

[@Meikles888]

I am an African woman and have never worn a weave or straight wig.People generally respond to me in a positive way and I attract high value people whilst rocking my natural look.

[@DavidKitchen-SoWhat]

Bless you

[@KwameFadhiliWilliams]

Bless my sista

[@dnheat5894]

❤

[@meriummazima4729]

say tht loud over and over

[@codybryant666]

Wish more sistas across the world could say that

[@Mr.Edwards233]

Natural hair is a beautiful thing for me, i love seeing my sisters in their natural state. When they are confident in their natrual look with little makeup, they have a regal spirit. Its so attractive to me.

[@GoddessYemaya]

Thanks & We appreciate you for that💯❤🖤💚✊🏿❗

[@Meikles888]

@@GoddessYemaya my sister has dreadlocks and was promoted and men flock to her like flies.l

[@CeeceeH1819]

Love that 🩷

[@kathyflanagan1808]

Hi Mr. Edwards, I appreciate your comment 👑

[@WapajeaWalksOnWater]

We love your appreciation 😊💕 much love

[@danawilliams2450]

I love 💕 my beautiful natural hair and my beautiful natural Melanin skin

[@nush295]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@devinedude3690]

❤🥰😘

[@rightiousgoal]

Yes that's great I love my hair to.

[@GoddessYemaya]

ASÉ & Me too sistah ❗ The ORIGINALS will always be beautiful anything after us is just a copy 👌🏾💯💅🏿❗❗❗

[@KwameFadhiliWilliams]

We love you too my sista

[@donnaoneill5939]

When i decided to wear my natural hair i did not like how it looked so i wore wigs for a while. Then when it started to get gray i wanted to hide that. Now i embrace the natural and the gray but it has taken years to over come the stigma, the conditioning.

[@Kattkiteyez]

Me too, good for us. HAPPY TO BE NATURAL! Ain't going back.

[@WapajeaWalksOnWater]

​@@KattkiteyezCongratulations, welcome😂

[@shayneguzman]

Holy smoke what a beautiful woman❤❤

[@dartsiwinellis1976]

Been wearing my hair natural for years! It's low-maintenance and beautiful!🤩

[@Kattkiteyez]

Me too and yes it is.

[@TheAnonyy]

Unfortunately my hair is hard to deal with naturally.

[@thebutterfliesineffect]

​@@TheAnonyySame. Both my daughter and I have 4c hair and it isn't low maintenance by far.. Lol but it is beautiful ❤

[@Kattkiteyez]

@@TheAnonyy mine too sometimes but I'm still Natura. Lol, y'all have so many excuses and justifications.

[@codybryant666]

Sure is. Asé to that

[@maureenpemberton5991]

We often perpetrate texturism , colourist and features within the different black communities, which may make many black women doubt their own natural beauty. These ,too ,must be acknowledged. Ultimately, it will be that woman's personal journey into finding out what works for her and enhances the beauty she has. Thanks for the share

[@shanaisrael1016]

My sister ! I am so proud of you ! You are the PERFECT PERSON TO SPEAK ON THIS TOPIC ! Your everyday livity is of the essence of a indigenous woman

[@MauriceB-zn5pv]

I never knew it was negative.

[@dmystfy]

Green Beauty is the BEST natural hair channel on KZbin. She talks about holistic health.

[@HB-yk4ut]

Thanks! I’m heading over there. After I go to the store and get my burdock root and cactus. Full spectrum sea moss is detoxing my skin and eyes as well as growing my hair.

[@laquitamarie]

She is Beautiful, my experience as a child I was teased for my hair and the way it looked also never seeing anything depicted on television made it seem as though something was off about my aesthetic, as an adult I fully embrace my natural beauty and wear my natural hair, I did not realize how beautiful my hair was from years of tampering with it. I’m so happy more of us are embracing it!!!!

[@Cushman92]

Look at that skin ❤ butter

[@kymmazelle8424]

The question should be, why is it so hard for sisters to wear their natural hair these days?Because as I grew up in the sixties seventies and eighties everybody (aunties, cousins, the Community) wore the natural hair. Early nineties more weave, interlocking, extention braids, pieces. As you went more into higher corporate world positions. That's my 2 cents. Bless up everyone 🙏🏾

[@Kattkiteyez]

As you went more into higher corporate world positions. Meaning acceptance for the European structure and shame of who you are. 10 Reply Iesha Metcalf Cancel Reply

[@beigenegress2979]

Yep! Ditto! I was there in the 1970s and saw all of the natural hair!

[@aprila9650]

💯

[@ustand2186]

You brothers got jungle fever and it had a terrible effect on our self esteem.

[@missjamrock]

In the mid-1980s and beyond, chemically-processed hair was the "in-thing" in Jamaica.

[@isiahnelsoniv]

I love my natural women. It actually saddens me that we cater so much to the Eurocentric beauty standards.

[@Buttergirla]

How old are if u don't mind me asking? Cuz men in their 30's below don't like it

[@EfoSelorm]

@@Buttergirlathat’s not true Queen, we love all natural always ✊🏾

[@Buttergirla]

@@EfoSelorm see you speaking for YOURSELF, or black men in general??? Cause black men in general have not approached me since 2007 since my hair has been LONG BIG and NATURAL. I'm from Texas by the way.

[@injuryadvocates7602]

​@@Buttergirla🤔🤔 So you're saying NOOOOO black man has approached you in 17yrs? If that's the case, 1) I'd highly suggest you LOOK WITHIN & IN THE MIRROR, be honest with yourself and determine why. 2) I'd have to ask, HAVE you made it known that you prefer non-black men? Doesn't matter where you live, 17yrs is a very long time to be saying NOOOOO black man has approached you..... If you're being HONEST, and your preference is black men I'd recommend online dating. I met my amazing BLACK HUSBAND online sista. ❤️❤️❤️💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@Buttergirla]

@@injuryadvocates7602 I have had black men approached me, but they're usually like men 20 years older than me. The man that I married to now he's black.. will sort of kind of..... His race look kind of questionable because people ask me is he Mexican now I do get hit on by men and ask to be took out on dates, but usually they're mostly white men. Yeah so it's not like men aren't approaching me at all, it's usually just like the stereotypical brown skinned black men that's my age or younger that won't ask me out. Which is fine now because I'm married as of today. Come to think of it, I don't think I've ever had a black man ever say that I was pretty or beautiful usually it's the biracial men that say it

[@essenceera9054]

Beautifully said! It’s like a light switch, after I realized this I can’t wear straight wigs anymore and started to care for and nurture my natural crown even more

[@dmystfy]

I decided that in 2024 I will not wear wigs, weaves, or any hair extensions this entire year. I finally have the information to feel confident I can grow long, healthy, kinky hair. Green Beauty has the best KZbin channel for natural hair. I no longer pay stylists to damage my hair, I style my hair myself with gentleness & care. 🌱 Qhemet Biologics Amla & Olive Oil Heavy Cream is the best product for very dry, coarse hair!! 🌱

[@DivinelyLyra]

Good luck goddess. Stay consistent you got it! ❤❤❤

[@teetemz]

Well done and proud of you!

[@cobogosauce5310]

I don't struggle with my Natural hair.I love my hair because is my strength.

[@Kattkiteyez]

Amen. Right On. Word up!

[@CeeceeH1819]

I can't stand the term nappy. Please stop using negative descriptions for our natural hair. Our hair is not ugly!! "Nappy hair is historically used as a derogatory term to describe the hair of Black people, especially women, many of whom have re-appropriated the term... The term has historically been a racist term"

[@sonofjudah535]

I love the term Nappy!! Because everyone wants to imitate us. They want to come in and steal our FBA culture. But that Nappy is something the can’t take away.

[@CeeceeH1819]

@sonofjudah535 well where I live, nappy is another word for diaper

[@Seremonii]

Nappy shouldn't be a negative term to Black folks. I like when only "we" can use certain terms about "us" and nappy is one of them. I wear my nappy hair in natural twist, blow out, faux locs, braids, afro and even a curly wig when I don't feel like doing my own hair. I don't wear satin hair wigs. It gotta have some kink to it.😊

[@Buttergirla]

Did y'all know then word nappy means, "Raised fabric"?

[@CeeceeH1819]

@@Seremonii yes embrace your beautiful coils but why dp we need to embrace terms that were used to shame and denigrate Black folks.

[@CyprianFraser]

Sister you're a breath of fresh air

[@thetruth-qf4kb]

Well as a black man I think she is beautiful and looks to me like marriage material

[@juliebarry5375]

LOL......UNTIL YOU SEE A PRETTY WW

[@riansails]

@@juliebarry5375love yourself please ❤

[@mshotcoco68]

@@juliebarry5375 or even an unattractive ww if we're being honest.

[@Ponobell]

Yes indeed.

[@moneychaser2430]

@@juliebarry5375 And what happened to black women divesting? Remember?

[@WapajeaWalksOnWater]

My hair has been natural for 52 years, and it has made my life so much easier, and more peaceful inside my heart. Sis is right about many Blk men wanting Anglo standard of pale deficit looks. I made myself extra, extra, scary natural, so those men who are still enslaved, will be afraid to aproach me.

[@Insidethemadness85]

My 12 year old told me that my hair was beautiful and I didn't need a wig. I cut my hair and started from scratch. I haven't worn a wig in two years. Still wear a little make up but we have to start somewhere.

[@fet691]

If I'm truly honest with myself, I tend to view women without makeup with a greater sense of self assurance and positive attitude towards life in general. Listening to this sister is absolutely refreshing..❤❤❤

[@TheLoveBugz]

I use to struggle cause I felt ugly but when I cut my hair off and saw my beauty I now wear my beautiful locs with pride ❤

[@keniasharpe1610]

It’s not for the weak honey you jus need the right products and a routine and it’s on and BLACK men love the natural look from my perspective

[@denyshadials5702]

Black men that are proud of blackNESS love natural hair.

[@moneychaser2430]

😂 that’s what you gals get for trying to be like white women

[@Motivation.is.the.key1983]

Natural is the way!!! 🖤🖤

[@kjen1516]

Sis you are so beautiful and feminine it’s undeniable. I love how understanding and empathetic you are👌🏾🤎💐 WISE👏🏿AP

[@joannwoods2485]

I've been natural 10 years!❤ My husband loves it.Great choice for me.

[@whitneyc.3257]

It is so important to surround ourselves with women who embrace our natural beauty as black women. My first role models on natural hair were diplomat Black women who I met in the US. Then, I befriended other black ladies during college, who taught me to embrace my natural hair. Then my mom went natural, then my sister did, then when COVID hit, I went natural. Now my little cousin moved in with my mom to attend college and she started her transition

[@omowaletheelder6420]

I ❤ Sista AVIYAH's story. My OLDEST DAUGHTER and my FIRSTBORN was born in 1978, and I asked her mother/my wife, way back then, NOT to PERM or STRAIGHTEN her HAIR, and she honored my request. First, it was just TWO or FOUR large BRAIDS (you know, like what little girls wear), one on each side of her head or one also at the top of her head and one also on the back of her head; and later in CORN ROWS, as she was growing up. In her ADULTHOOD, she has always worn some form of BOX BRAIDS (you know, the BRAIDS that look like DREADLOCKS), or CORN ROWS, which she has ONLY WORN either/or till this very day. I'm so proud of my OLDEST DAUGHTER because she has NEVER at anytime in her life ever PERMED or STRAIGHTENED her HAIR. Unfortunately, I CANNOT say this about my YOUNGEST DAUGHTER. But that's alright because she is her own unique person. And unfortunately, my OLDEST GRANDDAUGHTER is caught up in this modern day CULTURE with the FAKE EYELASHES and NAILS and different COLORED HAIR and WEAVES and EXTENSIONS, and the likes. It is what it is.😊

[@danawilliams2450]

Thank you 🙏🏽 Queen 👸🏾 for sharing your journey ❤

[@maxmax2678]

As a Haytien man who is very afrocentric, I love my black women. And I have never liked a woman with fake hair, wigs, weaves, fake eyelashes, and all that nonsense. Salute to you, my beautiful queen. We need more of our women to follow your path and liberate themselves from mental slavery.

[@Ray-jn6nu]

“You can’t consume the standard American/Sad diet, and expect your hair to blossom” so well said!

[@Ladyleemega7]

The lyrics of THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL says it all.

[@shakalalakoo]

Am I the only Black man who hate wigs/weaves, lashes, fake nails, bleaching, bbl, and those other nonsense futilities on our girls???? I just can't stand it that's why I used not date much and i cut bars and clubs completely. Got tired of it so it takes me a bit of time to find whole melanated ladies. Now the natural look is trending in the community Halaluyah!! I love the ladies enjoying and swagging the natural beauty & look nowadays. I go on blind date few times a year out of gratitude to encourage that trend

[@nias67]

Nope you’re not the only one. Fortunately for me my husband has those same sentiments…

[@delaciwoods8864]

Nope I’m glad to see a brother not taking by the fake looks

[@StarC2233]

Not girls *Women

[@ladybird491]

Clubs are not bad, people got fat from not going to clubs anymore. Our ancestors had parties, and danced weekly and it was like a club.

[@DrBeeSpeaks]

I think women need to stop caring what men want and just do them, just like any human.

[@CyprianFraser]

Queen you're an example to our young girls. I wish I have a queen like you

[@adjeleganl2984]

I'm so glad she mentioned the validation that helps on the road self love, and also accepting the notion that nothing is inherently wrong with your hair. If you truly believe that, you can't be sold a million products to "fix" your hair or skin. Instead, feed your body nutritious foods, exercise, sleep drink spring water, enjoy the sun, walk , smile, say hello to a stranger, treat people with kindness and respect. Everything will flourish...hair, skin, inner beauty. That is your root self, your gift.❤

[@adoseofreality7115]

As for my family, my grandmothers were Freedman, from Jim Crow era, they couldn’t get jobs without straightening there hair, it was a way to survive not necessarily self hatred, and I still feel the judgements even to this day, we are still judged and discriminated against and given opportunities based on your hair. That’s why I just keep mines covered in the world, I let my hair down amongst my family and close loved ones, the world don’t deserve to see our hair anyway! Keeping your hair covered keeps you protected and covered for me as a black woman, from this crazy world. That’s just how I feel.

[@electricgwen5014]

I feel the same way

[@TheQron03]

It amazing when a woman is expectable with who they are and how they look. You can just see the glow and beauty💪🏾🖤

[@goddesslife8579]

I was just having this conversation with my partner and my children and I told them it's something mental

[@shellyg9139]

It’s really not it’s for high thriving females who are pretty and feminine do you thou

[@WapajeaWalksOnWater]

​@@shellyg9139It is the long lasting residue from being abused by Amerikkka for 300 years. It may take as long to recover

[@ReasonsWhy5]

Black hair has life in it. It moves and reacts to water like other living things do. Unlike the straight stringy type that has no life & drops down. But even so, white women's looks were the so called standard of beauty. And for too long we bought into that nonsense. The Black woman is the most beautiful woman. And our hair is gorgeous when it's healthy. But we have to take care of ourselves. And a small amount of makeup goes a long way in enhancing our beauty!👩🏾👵🏾💕🌺🌹🏵

[@staywell7217]

So very true ❤

[@crystalwingate3022]

Makeup for what. If one is wearing their hair natural then everything should be natural as well.

[@GoddessYemaya]

ASÉ👌🏾 💕💯💅🏿💯💅🏿💯💅🏿🔥❗

[@ReasonsWhy5]

@@crystalwingate3022Yes, I do wear my hair natural, and I wear a small amount of makeup. And it's my choice, we all have one. Just like you make yours.

[@ReasonsWhy5]

@@GoddessYemaya 😊❣❣

[@Ladyleemega7]

So beautiful to hear this honest process. Love this

[@kiellarenee]

I always get confused when "black" women say that "black" men want them to look European. That is NOT the case for all men. When you be your natural self then you will attract a man that like natural. If you aim to look like something that you are not then you will attract what you will. Women have the power to change this narrative. We are the creators.

[@marilynbirch6345]

As a black natural woman I love my natural hair I embrace my culture and love being me🖤🖤🖤

[@katyarnold-ji8sv]

I love!!! her beautiful!! african outfit. She is a natural beauty. I been wearing my hair natural for 28 years, I buy natural products and non-toxic products etc.

[@erickodhiambo4063]

She is beautiful. Very beautiful. She's radiating with mother nature energy. Amazing

[@1922mistyblue]

She is beautiful and makes natural hair more appealing.

[@MoonWarriorTurtle6636]

Her commentary on transforming is spot on. When she spoke on the importance of the people in your life supporting your change reminded me of a time I wore my Afro out for my 10th HS reunion. My sister seen my hair and told me not to get in any photos with her, with my hair looking like that.

[@MeMyself984]

I just want the world to leave us alone. Nobody asks BM shit about themselves. I’m a BW and BW can do whatever they want to their hair. I like relaxers, locs, braids, wraps, weaves, wigs, head wraps, fades, twa’s, big fros, medium fros. WHATEVER!!! That’s the beauty of our hair. We can rock it however. Who cares as long as it’s groomed! 🫶🏾 I don’t think any Black hair that’s not natural is trying to be white. We have NEVER wanted to be like WW. It’s a prerogative thing. At least that’s how I see. I was relaxed. Wore braids, a couple weaves ( I don’t really like weaves for myself tho). Rocked a fro, now I’m loc’d. Who knows, I might want my Toni Braxton cut back one day 😏

[@satindoll7300]

Thank you! I completely agree. I'm really sick of this conversation and everyone trying to dissect us. I don't see any other group of women getting dissected like this for their cultural customs. The excuse people keep using to try to understand why we wear our hair a certain way is outdated. Times have changed and although there is still some form of discrimination with our hair, there's laws in place now. We wear our hair the way we like. I don't even wear wigs, but I see some sistas that look really good with them, especially if it's installed properly and maintained properly. No self-loving sista is going to wear wigs or hairstyles that's intentionally ripping out their hair underneath, and to look like ww or not maintaining the extensions and keeping it fresh. The problem with alot of people is copying. Everything ain't for everybody. I can't wear wigs because they don't look good on me and don't promote my hair growth. There's too many black women wearing hairstyles that don't fit them and messing up the hairstyle. Find what works for you and stick with it. Lastly, I can understand why men prefer our natural hair, one reason being it does not shed alot and all over the place ( unique to our wooly textured hair ), but when we constantly have this conversation it gives the nonbw that are jealous of us, ammunition to come after us about our hair. When they don't even know what they're talking about. They just regurgitate the same hateful talking points they hear black men and mammy mules say. Atp it's really annoying! We really need to stop attacking each other over hair and embrace our cultural customs for the era's. It shows strength vs weakness.

[@Bane03X]

Natural or unnatural is not an issue to me. I like women with either look. I’d argue, some black women who are mixed a bit more, might even look better with a certain type of wig/weave. I know as a mixed black man, my 4c hair definitely does not match my facial features (and skin tone) or facial bone structure, so I rock 180 waves with a muscular look.💪🏽

[@ladybird491]

THANK YOU. I am sick of black people assuming things about each other cause of hair and fashion choices. I never wanted to be white when I wore my hair straight, I just liked it straight and found it less time consuming with my busy schedule.

[@ladybird491]

​@@Bane03Xskin color? Why is that in this topic.

[@ladybird491]

​@@Bane03Xso you want your hair too look more like mixed because your skin do? Wow. I have no comment.

[@cookiegilcrest1000]

MY BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL! NATURAL And All.

[@ZLM88]

The lady looks so stunningly beautiful 😍 her skin is glowing ✨️

[@Yanahh9]

I have a similar experience - i did not see my natural hair until I was in my senior year of high school when I told my mom to stop putting perms in my hair. I never knew what my hair looked like until then. Gratefully, I have 4c, so that was fun lol but the journey of just playing in my hair and doing so many different hairstyles was so enjoyable, I loved every second. 2 years after, I decided to get locs as I've always wanted locs as a kid. My mom was my biggest hater and would say slick comments like they're nappy, etc. for the first 2 years, and we all know that starter locs are not the most tamed. 4 years later, my locs are down my back, my mom absolutely admires my locs, and my mom has finally started to wear her natural hair after 40+ years wearing weaves/wigs. It really is about unlearning and becoming completely xonfident in thyself. The loc journey especially makes you appreciate the natural beauty that God has given you. Needless to say, my confidence is through the roof, I love my locs! Whereas when wearing weaves/perms, I was very self-conscious.

[@lanziemusic6739]

Black men love black women with natural hair.

[@Buttergirla]

Yup. With natural wavy or curly hair lol

[@milanC4659]

​@@ButtergirlaFacts!!!

[@learningearning8385]

You mean cancer causing relaxed hair or Spanish wavy. Blk men don’t like kinky hair

[@Buttergirla]

@@lanziemusic6739 for you to talk to her like that for asking a question let's us know we hit a sore spot.

[@ladybird491]

​@@lanziemusic6739notice you said short cuts and things that don't reveal the texture. Short texture can be altered and dreads also high the true hair texture one they are aged.

[@crystalwingate3022]

The FATHER created me like this who am I not to accept it. 🔥 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 when we don’t expect how the father made us. We’re saying he made a mistake. Am still repenting from having that mindset to this day. The decolonization of the mind is so real.

[@Laydeebee317]

Thank you for this interview. This was very healing and relatable and relative.

[@angela_marie_]

I love my natural hair as well! January 2024 made my 10 year naturalversary😂👏🏾✊🏾👍🏾☺️🌹💯🌹

[@bbw1255]

First of all, this woman is absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!! Her smile is a WINNER!!!

[@JazzyJay263]

Thank you, Sis!🤍⚘️🔥💫🌟 May GOD continue to bless you Richly!🙏🏽❣️

[@maureenpemberton5991]

Aviyah, you are absolutely stunning and magnetic. You had some very thoughtful and insightful points. You broke down very well why many black women struggle with their natural hair. While I think there is a much needed healing journey to embrace the health and beauty of natural hair in whatever curl form,density, length and thickness, it is all about one's decision in wearing extensions, weaves, wigs etc. All over the world, people want to appear beautiful and attractive, with this, we see trends and traditions. We'll before Western European colonialisation and current globalisation, every region or culture had their own beauty and make up standards. Putting aside the shaming of black natural hair, there are extensions and weaces which mimic natural hair for example, and many women, who have had thin,weak or brittle hair through going through tge menopause or medical treatments ,still want to look beautiful and confident. Not everyone will cut their hair short ( which i have myself myself a few times , through some disastrous hair accidents 😖 and grown it back ) - again, due to societal or familial pressure. There is also pressure from the corporate world to dressing a certain professional look , which means a lot of people having to conform, just to make a Iivimg. So, there are many dilemmas out there. I totally agree about the ingredients in many of the make up , today, which could have long term health impact. That being said, there is nothing wrong with enhancing one's natural features with make up. Many of us don't feel conventionally beautiful, and there are certain aesthetics in the black diaspora community which often doesn't embrace the full diversity of the black phenotype.

[@manderson735]

Stop relying on men to build self esteem. Hate that she said male support helps. A man liking your natural hair is meaningless if you don't like yourself. You don't need male support to like your natural self.❤

[@misskay-zs2ow]

I cut my hair this year after relaxing it. I wanted to be natural again but i wanted a big fro or nothing so even with my short hair I was braiding just because i felt uncomfortable looking at my short hair in it's shruken state. The past few weeks since taking down my braids because i wanted my head to feel free i kept watching videos promoting 4c hair and I've gotten comfortable with my tiny fro now. I like how shrunken and thick it is, i like the texture and how i can't even see my scalp. I enjoy combing and oiling my hair and pairing my small afro with nice earrings and cute dresses. Only recently did i start confidently taking photos. I'm so happy because i thought I'll be happy only once my fro is big but now I'm enjoying my small fro, especially with laid edges, it's usually a nice contrast i like. Thank you God for this gift of self love ❤ My Sistas struggling with a small fro and confidence may you receive the gift of seeing gow beautiful and unique you are❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@MwendeSchwinn]

Her skin is so radiant 😍😍🥰

[@lenitabruno5736]

Very liberating video! More black men and women need to hear this!

[@katyarnold-ji8sv]

Excellent!!! informative video. This sista made a lot of sense.

[@blackbeauty5685]

Well my hair is natural and I get lots is compliments and I stopped relaxing my hair 5 years ago and I don't regret it and I am encouraging young girls to do the same.

[@ladybird491]

It must be long. Long hair get more compliments

[@HB-yk4ut]

Look how beautiful this lady’s skin is! Wow🌹✨

[@SJ_Vibezz]

I am a black woman with very coarse hair. I am disappointed because since living in London, it’s only west African men who have made a negative comment on my hair. I love myself and my hair but they feel the need to comment negatively. So sad

[@jacklyneverage3881]

But they wear those naps on their hair unprocessed, so they can really kick a rock. LOL! It's sad, but it just shows the level and extinct of social psychological damage of some Black folks due to a system of anti-Black racism.

[@chrrylocks]

They've been taught in reverse also, keep loving your natural self, you only need to attract what love you back...

[@strivingfortruth3808]

They comment because they have not accepted themselves and our woman they like esau so they try to bring us down the white live our hair they always want to touch it (nope) and asked stupid questions… does it hurts. Keep wearing your natural hair slavery is over.

[@marciabernard3820]

They hate themselves.

[@Mr.Edwards233]

Please keep your hair as it is, stay beautiful. Some of us black men still adore natural

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

From what I’m gathering from the comments section, black men claim they hate wigs/weave and love natural hair BUT from my real life experience and watching black men interact with black women, they love long flowy loose curly, wavy “natural” hair and could care less if its weave or natural. Men break their necks looking at women with long weave. Not saying there aren’t men who like 4c twa but they need to be honest, it’s not most of their preference

[@jenniferrose-ly4ej]

Using the "Protective Style" excuse is a copout at this point. My question to Black women that say this, what are you protecting when you are going more and more bald every time you get a new weave?

[@mwenzisiliya9411]

I live in Southern Africa, and one of the only ladys’ with natural hair in my family. My Aunties, blatantly thought natural hair wasn’t beautiful in its natural state, so they made me perm my hair through my child hood. I only transitioned at 20. I had to re-learn and fall in love with myself, beauty and hair. I’m so happy I went against my family and society views on my hair. Now I let my little ones hair grow, and be confident.

[@KushQueen9]

I decided to be natural last year. Enough of wigs/weaves etc and textures that do not represent me. My hair is beautiful!

[@rootsgirlrider2006]

Give thanks. Listening to this sister speak makes me think of Slave Queen by Judy Mowatt

[@rosannag.burroughs4563]

One day I was going in a store and a man stopped me and said, It's been so long since I saw a black woman with her natural hair, he said he loved it and I should keep it natural! Of course this was a black man that complimented me!!!

[@EmpressWanderlust]

Same thing happened to me at a recent conference. The man looked like he was about to cry 😭

[@wandak1889]

In 2005 I decided to wear my natural hair! In 2008 I shaved my hair and went on my loc journey! There was so much negativity from friends and family. Now that my locs are beautiful and healthy I get nothing but compliments from both men and women

[@childofthesoil1163]

In South Africa natural hair is big we love our natural hair our kids wear natural hair 100%

[@nashonharris7805]

I will never hide my hair! I am grateful for it.

[@t.kayoung5304]

Sending Love from Cameroon Central Africa ... Fantastic show here

[@LadyRootzTV]

Give thanks for the reasoning

[@Shirleyowens383]

I grew up always wearing my natural hair and I loved it, but as I got older having to work and multitask, this is when I realized that black hair is difficult or should I say my hair is difficult, curly or straight, and I accept and that. I’m not in competition. It has nothing to do with any other woman or any other race I do not have get-up-and-go hair, and it’s OK. I am going to do me and I would suggest the same for you.❤

[@berachiyahysrayl7584]

Malcolm X said who taught you to hate yourself. I use to ask my self why do I straighten my hair. Them Most High YAH revealed to me how also thru videos like 400 hundred years without a comb.

[@RonnieWisdom]

Powerful! Thank you & blessings! ❤

[@Sistahknit]

It's NEVER been a problem or self hate for me to wear my BEAUTIFUL Natural hair. I never wore wigs, weaves because my hair is just so damn beautiful. I don't wear my hair for other people I wear and style it for me. I don'g care what a man (Black man) thinks. I am God's child.

[@sablesupremacy888]

She is so pretty! I love her head wrap and earrings ❤

[@ReleasewithPhilece]

Her skin is beautiful

[@tanyaatkinson9682]

i looked so good today wearing my real hair i love my real hair my hair eats a wig anyday

[@applepie6559]

I Love Your Comment🫶🏽❤️ I Just Adore my Natural hair as Well! I keep it Plaited and when I Unravel my Plaits after Two or three weeks its So Beautiful. I Would Never Insult my Strands with that fake Stuff….

[@nanaofori-atta6395]

Sister you did a wonderful job’ keep doing what you are doing

[@Mikemike-n1c]

I don’t know why our sisters buy fake hair and not grow their own hair. I went from bald head to hair to my shoulders in less than 5 years

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

You sound like a man😒🤔 If you’re a woman then you know it’s all about maintenance. Sew ins, braids, wigs are low maintenance. Natural hair (type 4 hair) is expensive and time consuming, either you’re spending all day in the salon or you’re spending the whole day doing it yourself, at least once a week.

[@Whoisderon]

She’s naturally beautiful

[@jbtooreal112]

She got that melanin drip omg 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@187Blackheart]

I was watching the last clip with those empress and in my mind just thinking how gorgeous she looks and has no make up on. Here we are on the topic of self love or lack thereof

[@jackiew.2262]

Some time our crown is not easy to manage, plus some of our parents did not know how to style our crown. The fact that our hair is so beautiful make that sad.

[@kimberly1868]

Great conversation! She looks good as she glows 😊

[@rhunieangella5424]

It is not only about comparing ourselves to a new form of beauty. It is too the fact that our tools were lost when we were colonized. We using shampoo made for white, comb made for white. That makes the care absolutely degradable for the hair and hurtful. So we have to do research and make the care of the natural black hair more affordable, easier...

[@wosenaoliver-smith957]

African women wearing their natural hair all the time but there’s an increasing in skin bleaching

[@jacklyneverage3881]

There are many African women who are not wearing their natural hair and often do not know how to even care for it. It's not all, but it's many. So, let's not push a false narrative here.

[@Naturallyshe77]

African women love wigs as much as black american women. Some of them even talk down on you for not wearing wigs

[@SpeaktheTruths]

Where did you learn that?

[@rubyreduxx]

@@jacklyneverage3881but the user is right. There is a boom in the natural hair movement right now. A lot of my Nigerian friends, Ghanaian friends, Ugandan, Kenyan, South African they’re going natural

[@James.ego1]

I learned more from her as in school

[@kandidkicommentary]

*@**3:35**-@**3:55** to sum the whole reasoning ❗️👏🏽*

[@cookiescorner]

Thankfully, I've never had an issue with wearing my natural hair. However, I am going through the process of deprogramming and transitioning as I try to embrace my natural GRAY hair. ❤🖤💚

[@mielieoema7513]

Excellent.

[@TomikaCox360]

It’s not always a self hate thing if a woman relaxes her hair. It could be as simple as easier to manage.

[@ihatethug]

relaxer damages hair,causes hair loss,burns scalp..it shouldnt be used

[@anthonybates8568]

Great conversation. Much respect✊🏿👁Ms. Aviyah