WHEN YOU ARE CHASING A MAN AND DON'T EVEN KNOW IT

We often don't know when we are actually chasing a man or not. A great deal of masculine behaviours have been normalised in the modern woman so she is completely oblivious to when she is in chasing mode.
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[@acd1168]

I did every single one of these. Every single one. In the end, it ended up being such a toxic relationship.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Oh dear! We all fall onto this trap when we don’t know better. 🌸🦋

[@lmusima3275]

Chasing or pursuing a man is a very tiring task. I’m guilty of it. When I was 30 I actively pursued a guy about 7 years my senior. I met him through friends and I got them to exchange our numbers. He came to social events with my friends. We danced together and I really wanted him. I was the one texting all the time or else I’d never hear from him. Back then i wasn’t on social media so texting was all the contact I had. It was frustrating and exhausting. We only had one meeting for coffee ☕️ only because I suggested it. After that nothing much. I was in contact with him until the early summer. By then I was done with contacting him. He happened to be leaving to go back to his home country, so friends threw him a party 🎉. I came but I wasn’t really sad he was leaving. I moved on. It’s so true that women must never pursue men. It always backfired. It makes the woman look as if she’s not valuable enough to be pursed and courted plus appearing masculine. I don’t care about the exceptions and the stories. I’d never pursue a man

[@CareBear1394]

thank you for sharing your story

[@Rwissam1987]

Number 1 is so underrated, and people do not talk enough about it! I did everything right except that one and kept wondering why it didn't work. Thank you so much for sharing, I do not have enough words to express my gratitude for you. You're an amazing person and doing so much good with your work. Thank you!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@zippyblessed839]

There was this guy I liked....i like him He has an art business I initiated contact to buy his art...didnt hear from him for 3 days n told him off😅 To cut long story short...i bought his pics n text him again After tht..i started to feel like i tried to hard to impress him and did most of the work. He still wanted to talk to me generally...but by then I told him im taking a break from instagram and decided to back off. I never want to chase a man again.

[@nanaabenadarkowaah1800]

Wow you did well

[@zippyblessed839]

@@nanaabenadarkowaah1800 😆 wat do u mean?

[@nanaabenadarkowaah1800]

@@zippyblessed839 you did well for not continuing 💕

[@zippyblessed839]

@@nanaabenadarkowaah1800 thank u 🥰

[@susan8576]

I fell in love with my childhood friend and started sending him signals to encourage him to pursue. If only i had known that i was moving in masculine energy. Well, today we are no longer friends because he never pursued and when i think back, he seemed honestly uncomfortable and unprepared. I leaned back and he never pursued. 10 years later, I'm so glad i walked away. Thank you Chengi.❤

[@ChristManifestee316]

Chengi, you said “It is okay to relinquish control.” And that gave me so much peace. Thank you 🙏🏾 😌

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

So glad to hear it Swan 🤗❤️

[@violetinispaltas7274]

How chasing/pursuing affects each gender: women get exhausted from it, and demotivated.:( Men get ignited by it, and inspired to do more and more.:) Which option sounds better?

[@ladyboss2944]

Officially green is your colour Chengi, interesting topic and well broken down as usual.

[@thorisomolefe2276]

She absolutely loves the colour, very elegant too❤️. I think it's from her love of nature.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you sweetheart 🌸🌸🦋

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

It does make me happy to wear and you might be right about the connection to my love of nature ❤️❤️❤️

[@hamisisalmah8764]

Very true Alhamdhulilah I'd rather be single than waste tym on a man

[@fabiennepdt4898]

You 👉 out many of the mistakes that I made. Next time I will abort the mission sooner. I need to rest much more in my feminine energy. Thanks Chengi!

[@jos_macharia]

Wow, this is so well explained & super enlightening. Thanks!

[@TheFidora]

I’m new to your channel Chengi and I’m watching almost everything, I love it here.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome Swan ❤️❤️❤️🌸

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

I love the way you said texting him?

[@Davienne2010]

💯 always, always on point. Thank you Chengi!!❤️

[@tetegentille1887]

Thanks for educating us. We love you too

[@shynes23sh]

so relevant & truly resonates.

[@vluvbug]

Subscribed!!! I will definitely start using these tips. Thanks for sharing Chengi..........

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome Swan ❤️

[@vluvbug]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Thank you♥️

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

Chengi please can you show me, the style of your dress, I want to sew one!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

It’s a wrap dress. You can see it on my Instagram

[@Luv94life]

Hey

[@Kassiex5]

Is it of a masculine man to text the woman first most times / always ? Or the woman should text him first sometimes too so he knows you care ?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

You can text too but not to lead

[@Kassiex5]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy I’m confused . I’m asking about texting to initiate a convo - like first convo for the day, first convo in a while- is it ok for me to be that one reaching out to just say like “ hey” and then let him lead the way or should I not reach out at all and just wait for him to reach out to me first ? Even if he’s always been reaching out to me first and he’s not my man yet

[@Kassiex5]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy because I don’t want him to feel like he always has to reach out first . But I’m not sure if if he’s feeling that way then that’s because it’s feminine energy and not masculine or if it’s because I’m just not being fair/balancing the scales enough

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

You can reach out first 3:1 ratio.

[@Kassiex5]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy thanks for clarifying

[@Kassiex5]

4:25

[@kiutpi]

What if it takes him 5 days to respond to a text?

[@nanaabenadarkowaah1800]

It's not a good sign. It means you are not even on his mind...

[@dantoinettetaylor1663]

Some men absolutely want to be pursued .. they admit to being submissive and need a strong woman in their lives. If the man is a good provider who pays all the bills then what could possibly be wrong if an assertive feminine woman takes on the challenge? Just asking ...

[@nanaabenadarkowaah1800]

They are feminine men. And to be honest it's actually very easy being with them. But if you are a feminine woman it can be tiring to be with such a man.

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

You can try it if it works for them!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Feminine + Feminine = competitive. He would need a masculine energy woman who is content with respect and little to no cherishing. Most of these women tend to want to lean into their feminine once they are in a relationship but they can’t so they become resentful

[@susanboen6860]

how do I change my energy with a man who is showing me he is with other women in front of me. He didn’t properly break up with me and just started with other women

[@mads6847]

I would say just move on. Let him do what he wants. A man treating you this way is not worth you disrespecting yourself by continuing to engage with him in any way.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

He is SHOWING you how he feels about you. You change your energy by walking away 🤗🌸

[@stephanieswan3149]

My dear, please stay away from that man and allow your heart to heal. I lived in chase mode behind a man I thought I was in love with for several years and all I got was a badly broken heart. Please love yourself more and guard your heart. You can do it!!

[@Luv94life]

Hey