Child Star Jennette McCurdy Surviving Mommy Dearest

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In this video we take a deep look into child star and actor Jennette Mccurdy's upbringing and abusive relationship with her late mother, Debra McCurdy. This episode contains a Trigger Warning.
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"It's Not Tea. It's Information" - BE

[@LUckygem33]

The line at the end "send money for a new fridge, ours broke" is what broke me in the book. When I read that line I lost it. How can you barate your daughter saying you will never talk to her again and then demand money. That is just evil.

[@betheecommentator]

I agree there’s just no words and I can’t even begin to imagine how that made Jennette feel. 😞

[@Violett_Ginn]

My mother told me she was selling my washer/dryer, stove/fridge bc she needed grocery money I was in hospital AND my mother didn’t even live in my house … Thankfully she only communicated with emails so I was able to save everything as proof.

[@tiffprendergast]

Yeah

[@tiffprendergast]

@@Violett_Ginn yeah

[@inaj27]

Like all narcissistic people do , they use and abuse all. Know the signs and runaway

[@longlivebeans]

I consider Jenette’s book mandatory reading for all parents. I know as a mom to a daughter myself, it gave me so much insight on things I might not have considered otherwise. Most of us would never inflict that kind of abuse onto our children but you know what aspect of her mother’s parenting is more common than we think? The way we discuss health, body image, weight & beautification in our homes. Often times we’ll say things that seem small & insignificant to us but in actuality, have a profound affect on the tiny ears listening & absorbing. This book made me realize I needed to address my own body dysmorphia issues & set a more positive, healing example for my daughter.

[@betheecommentator]

Such a great comment, that I completely agree with. Being more mindful and aware of how we may project our own issues on others is such an important topic! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and opinions, as well as your continued support ❤️

[@jerimiller5651]

Duh.Sorry- going in as a new parent- you didn't at least feel compelled to keep your child safe and warm? My childhood wasn't good. I wasn't worried about repeating the abuse. I didn't like it. Why would I subject my child to it? Before I moved out as a teen- fake Dad stood in front of me-preparing to smack or punch me. I looked at him eye to eye- telling him do it! I don't care- the pain doesn't last forever! He didn't, but as an adult- he clocked me hard! We were all talking and laughing. Came from no where. Fighting back tears, told my kids let's go. He's yelling-What! I've hit you way harder then that before! I said Yeah. I know. Monster! Behind every butt hole-is a Woman who helped make him that.

[@ZoeLander-cv7yb]

Right! Just her mentioning how she felt guilty for growing, I remember feeling that way too. I know our parents want us to stay small and cute and needing them, but it definitely made me insecure to explore myself as a young adult physically and mental/emotionally. It made me feel anxious and embarrassed about my changing body.

[@maloryj7165]

@@jerimiller5651 aw, sorry you can't understand the difference between managing personal insecurities and hitting your kids. It sounds like you still care A LOT and that's fine but hopefully you start to deal with that.

[@Idk-hy9zk]

@@jerimiller5651 like sorry that you are this way hopefully you don’t rub off on your child. I’m sry but all Parents should do some type of parenting class. Everyone doesn’t have motherly instinct that doesn’t make them bad. They just need to be taught

[@CARATMom]

What was surreal was watching Drew Barrymore, Mayim Bialik and Whitney Cummings all interview and relate to Jeannette. There is so much trauma in child acting.

[@betheecommentator]

Wow you’re right, great observation

[@wendi2819]

The Drew Barrymore was absolutely amazing! Those women were actually healing each other right before our eyes. Beautiful and painful at the same time.

[@linneal5105]

Whitney who?

[@kellyhodgson6385]

@@linneal5105 she is a comedian and writer

[@linneal5105]

@@kellyhodgson6385 woosh

[@shellywashere]

When I tell you that my jaw literally dropped when she talked about bonding with someone you’re inherently scared of… At my big age those few seconds made me understand myself more than I can say. 😭

[@betheecommentator]

Wow I to totally get what you’re saying. This episode is like one big therapy session. Much love you ❤️❤️

[@shellywashere]

@@betheecommentator I went and bought the book and everything. 😂 Much love and light to you as well!!

[@tayahalien9131]

Same and it makes me realize me and my own mothers relationship

[@tinajarvis92]

I feel like it’s another version of Stockholm syndrome, I’m happy people are finally trying to break these generational traumas. I always coped with dark humor saying most daughters first bullies were their own mothers. Instead of kidnapping, they birthed their victims.

[@educationallie9149]

YES I'm 54 and just healing from this

[@FridaysMusic]

Reading her book was harder than I thought it'd be. Initially, I just wanted the Nickelodeon tea I'd been waiting years for someone to open up about and spill. But as I read this book, I couldn't put it down - it was so much more than that. I realized through this book that I, myself, had been abused by my mother for my entire life, and I didn't even know it. Jennette described being taught eating disorders, and I realized that though it wasn't the exact same way, my mother had done that to me, and often shamed me for "gaining back all that weight." The emotional abuse especially was jarring, and sent me into a spiral of unpacking all of the suppressed trauma and abuse I'd buried away in order to maintain this IDEA of who my mother is. The blocked out memories of physical abuse came back out of nowhere - being punched, split lips, bloody noses, belt welts on my back, shoulders, butt and sides. Bruises from being pinched, squeezed, gripped around the wrist or back of the neck. The emotional shaming for growing up, developing breasts, becoming interested in dating and sex - being told that I ruined my life because I lost my virginity as a full grown adult. The public shaming and humiliation, the religious trauma. All of it. And I still wanted to be close to her. I still wanted to please her. I still wanted her approval. All this time. My mom is still very much alive and healthy, and I realized through Jennette's book that my relationship with my mother will never be the same. I will never be the same. I now know that I WAS, in fact, abused. I've since gone no-contact. I can't have her invalidating what I now KNOW to be true. I'll forever be grateful to Jennette.

[@betheecommentator]

Wow I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through 😞 I’m so glad Jennette’s story has been a way for you to see how you were treated in your life which I believe was her whole purpose of writing the memoir. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I wish you nothing but the best. Thank you for sharing this with us. Good for you for creating boundaries and protecting yourself ❤️

[@KimMarshall44]

Strongs to you and great that you're putting up important boundaries. This too you will overcome. There's so many of us who suffered this cruel fate but I believe you are stronger because of it and if not yet, you most definitely will be now that the truth can no longer be suppressed. Sending you love on your healing journey. ❤🌻

[@pbjt2396]

I am so sorry for what happened to you. It must have been shocking to realize things the way you have, but that was the exact purpose of her book- to help save people like you by sharing with you the gift of awareness. It’s not going to be easy, but YOU will eventually overcome the hurt and pain and everything that comes with this new awareness, and you will move into a better place of acceptance. Give yourself time, compassion, tenderness and love. Learn to mother yourself. Talk to people who have lived similar experiences (aka narc abuse victims) online even if you must, and if you can afford it I recommend Dr. C healing narcissism for narc abuse therapy. Speaking about it will help you release and overcome. Just be careful who you speak with- only few will understand so don’t waste time trying to convince others of what you know to be true. And give yourself a hug and lots of time. Cry, scream, and release. Eventually you will make room for joy, peace and tranquility. I know you may feel shitty rn but THIS TOO SHALL PASS! I promise. It does get better. You just have to go through hell to get to Heaven sometimes. Just remember this was meant to break you OPEN for a new seedling to emerge- the best versio of you. I’m sending you love. ❤

[@avoiceinthedark2028]

Yes this is a game changer. I’m so proud of you! I had so much repressed and have been dealing with it for 14 years and for you to go through it all at once and be so well spoken even is a miracle! Just know that you will still have lots of emotions and experiences as you continue to process this over and over and they are all ok and always be true to yourself and never abandon yourself. There is online emdr self administered therapy on KZbin that helps get some of the memories back. God bless us, i am you, i understand it I promise that’s how I know it means a lot to have somebody that understands it❤

[@avoiceinthedark2028]

Hypervigilance is the word for that feeling of always being aware of what somebody else is going to do or say

[@jojowynne233]

The fact that Jeanette is still upright, has gotten on with her life and managed to write a book after all her years of torture is a testament to her strength and courage. So much abuse, taught to have an eating disorder, sexually molested in front of her brother who she was forced to shower with until age 17 yrs. That degrading email saying your dead to us but please send money for a new fridge. OMG my heart just goes out to her so so much. So many child stars for different reasons don’t have great life’s, but this is by far one of the worst I’ve ever heard that a mother did to one of them. I’m so happy she’s free from life now. I’m sure she’s still going through therapy and will be for a long while. She deserves all the happiness in the world. Great job on this one too Be. You always do. ❤️

[@betheecommentator]

Aww thank you so much. This one was my favorite video to do, the end gets me every time. She has such an inspiring story and I’m so glad she is able to help so many other people sort through their family dynamics. Again, I thank you for supporting my channel so much!! You’re the best!! ❤️❤️

[@craigusselman546]

I had 2 complicated mentally ill drug and alcohol addicted but loving and very funny parents. I can relate to a lot of Jennettes story even though my parents never forced me to act.

[@brokengirlsrus]

I was raised by a narcissist mother and boy, does a lot of Jennette was saying resonate with me. Dumping all of her emotional and marital problems on her child, using her to build herself up and fulfill what she wanted through her child, untreated mental illness running rampant... just wow. It's amazing that she was able to get through it and open up about it in that way.

[@i_CARLYYYYY]

Same.. didn't get the abuse until my dad and sister passed so I was hee new punching bag SMH currently I am kicked out with my daughter.. was taking care of her ALL SUMMER. Nobody wanted to even look her way & I feel like the only sucker for that... never give narcissists the benefit of the doubt 😒

[@JinxMarie1985]

What an incredible story huh 👏 its such an incredible thing to go though

[@readdeeply9278]

There are two kinds - the kind that is as you describe, living through and all up in your business, and the other kind, where mom totally ignores you and you pretty much don't exist. In retrospect, I'm glad I was in the latter camp!

[@Denise_Suzanne]

My mom is also a narcissist, and it was so difficult being raised by her..I am 51 years old and still want to please her all of the time. I need to just face the fact that I will NEVER be good enough for her. Yes, she herself, is one of the most imperfect people I have ever known. She really needs help with her mental health, but of course, it's everyone around her that is a problem. She could NEVER be the problem. It's amazing how they place themselves on such a high pedestal.

[@franziskani]

@@Denise_Suzanne Do you know the channel of Dr. Ramani ? Pschologist, specialized in narcissist (and how to deal with them. Or rather NOT. I think you might even find the comment section encouraging)

[@user-mf1kv4lk2m]

When I uttered the words "Im relieved my mom is dead" to my therapist in 2018, she told me that is a totally normal feeling after the abuse I endured. I then had to go on to forgive her bc she herself had been badly abused by her mother. Its so much to process but we can get through it with the right coping techniques. So happy and proud of this girl for coming out with her story ❤

[@moustik31]

Mothers' missions to their children: - nurture - protect - guide I like how this put "love" in simple actions. Great introduction.

[@betheecommentator]

I agree, thank you so much ❤️❤️

[@angeltalk23]

I agree too, This should be all parents missions to their children

[@moustik31]

@@angeltalk23 Yes, you are right: this is the job of both parents. Fathers need to be involved as well. Jeanette's father also let her down by not protecting her from his wife.

[@tiffprendergast]

@@moustik31 yup but he wasn’t her father

[@moustik31]

@@tiffprendergast He was in role, even if he wasnt biologically.

[@Lyrical3127]

It’s really disturbing to me there’s no regulations on family channels on KZbin. Between the Princes, Ace family, Labrants, etc it just feels like a whole new generation of children being exploited for their selfish parents’ dreams

[@SpamNeggs23]

I’ve thought the same thing…

[@HollyMurphy3]

She’s highly intelligent to be able to connect these nuances at such a young age still, and write this book in such a detailed way, with such great understanding of what and why it happened. Very impressive. Her mom knew this about her, and exploited it. She reminds me of a softer version of McKinzie Philips.

[@betheecommentator]

I agree she is amazing, and it takes a lot especially at such a young age like you said to connect the dots and go within. Very we said!

[@tonybrown7041]

You misspelled the name Mackenzie.

[@jerimiller5651]

You sometime create that out of necessity. Trying- pleading to gain some understanding.

[@Sprinklystuff]

Yes was thinking that too...I cant remember much of my childhood at all 😬

[@sarahover6576]

As a mom I just wish I could gently hug the hurt right out of this young woman. What a deeply disturbing look into some horrific generational abuse. She can, and is, breaking that cycle by being open, raw, and willing to peel back the hushed silence of her abuse/abuser. You've done an outstanding job focusing on her, and the intention of her heart while keeping some of the nonsense out. You are my favorite documentarian.

[@betheecommentator]

I know, me too. Her story is so important to share and I’m so glad she decided to share with us because I believe it has helped and will continue to help so many people. Also, thank you so much for your continued support and feedback!! I really appreciate it ❤️

[@user-ro7gr5dd3s]

People like us wish we had moms like you 💔

[@Lara-EL]

I totally agree! This is/has been presented extremely well, with respect and regard for the focal person... The victim, Jeanette ... Thank you for the great job you've done on this piece! 🙏

[@LucaAnamaria]

I just realized, now at the age of 35, that what I went through as a child was abuse, all because I am reading her book. I had no idea it was abuse. I thought my mum loved me. Now to find out that she never did, that she never will, that she can't change, and that all my feelings were correct about something being off...it's devastating. I still don't believe it. I feel numb. But I know intellectually that it's true. Thank you for spreading your kindness on the internet.

[@godzilla4005]

I understand but physical touch isnt always appropriate. Particulary when you grew up with an abusive parent. One of the most important thing that you can do for your child is to teach them about boundaries and respect theirs

[@bellj753]

I'm glad Jennette is speaking about this. I also had a borderline/narc mom. The dirty house, the invasion of boundaries, the nasty letters, I understand it all. I LIVED it all. When I tried to explain to friends as a teen, someone said, "What??!! Moms don't do that!." That phrase lives in my head till this day. Her position in my life gave her impunity. All moms are flawed to varying degrees, that is expected, we are human. But some are genuine abusers and that needs to come to the light of day.

[@herluka]

It is difficult for people coming from loving families to understand that your parent's mere presence could make you scared for your life. The same way, people coming from abusive background (like me) can't understand how is it possible not to be frightened to death that your parent may one day find out your new address and it may be too late for a Restraining Order... Being a parent doesn't mean being a good person.

[@rydz656]

The worst part is she put herself around that psychic vampire Jada. You could just tell she was feeding off everything and loving it.

[@redwoodrebelgirl3010]

Amen. I'm so sorry for what you have endured & what you are enduring. I wish you comfort, healing, strength, support, Light, Hope, & Peace. 💗

[@NatlovesJesus1]

​@@rydz656right. That woman is no better. I had to skip through them

[@crystalm2316]

Oh my gosh! The part where she talks about, "You don't have to defend your mom." My therapist told me the same thing. It was so wonderful. I felt free for the first time. The choices my mom made were HER choices. I didn't need to explain or justify her choices. Just understand the pain the had caused me. That's my only job.

[@betheecommentator]

Good for you! Wishing you all the best on your journey ❤️❤️💕💕

[@lhr8833]

Nothing like the first time you hear that is not your job to take care of your mom.

[@websurfer5772]

We are very fortunate to be living in a time when these issues are discussed openly and intelligently. The stars have aligned for our generation to do the hard work of trying to heal ourselves first, and then our families and ancestors. However, you don't have to forgive what was personally done to you unless you feel like you really can. Sometimes you might feel forgiveness towards them, and other times you might not, and that's okay. Sometimes your higher self can forgive them, but your ego cannot and never will, and that's normal. Most of all, be here for yourself, and do what feels naturally right for you. Feel your rage and anger when they come up, and address them by coming online and finding others who are going through it too. That's my advice to others and myself in this type of situation.

[@rightweaponry908]

As the daughter of a mother with untreated borderline personality disorder this hits close to home for real. I still struggle with the guilt of growing up because i was always made to feel as though i saved both my parents lives by being born, that is an unhealthy amount of pressure to put a child under even if it is true. I realize now that "growing up" was seen as "abandonment" by my mom. Me becoming my own person threatened her sense of control and she worked hard to divorce me from my own senses. I am thankful i got away from her but i still miss her and wish we could be the kind of mother and daughter society says we should be. There is soo much internalized guilt and shame and a lot of people don't understand that being a mother doesn't excuse or trump serious mental health issues, and to respect peoples boundaries rather than shame them simply because they aren't the same as yours. People really need to stop saying "but she's your mom"

[@betheecommentator]

Ugh I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through in your family dynamics with your mother. I wish you all the best moving forward, and I thank you for sharing your story with us as I’m sure it will encourage and inspire others. I agree with you and I thank you again ❤️❤️

[@lyndsay2354]

Bless u i was thinking her mum symptoms were borderline personality disorder.

[@rightweaponry908]

@@betheecommentator thank you soo much! I absolutely love your channel! You are sooo smart, thoughtful, and talented. It's soo refreshing to find logical healthy commentary on the internet🙏🏽🧧🙏🏽

[@Anonymous-54545]

That sucks bc women w borderline can be unusually phenomenal and empathetic mothers, but from what I've heard they can be traumatizing as well if they don't care for themselves.

[@amu9551]

i remember mentioning to an uber driver that i can’t have a relationship with my mom and she immediately started defending motherhood and trying to give me advice to talk to my mom bc she has kids my age. the whole ride was so triggering after mention of it and she had no idea bc i’m so unable to vocalize what i’ve been through.

[@thegoddessofbread6535]

Growing up, I never got the sense that she was okay or seemed happy in her shows. Jennette has a real knack for writing, I can't wait to see what she has in store for us in the future.

[@jenniferpelkey2770]

Thank you for spelling her name correctly!

[@tiffprendergast]

Yeah! I never knew what her life was like growing up & am horrified what her mom & the creator did to her

[@egg_bun_]

Same. Her smile always really bothered me. Something just never looked right.

[@mitchellalexander9162]

It was the Place where she had the Most control though I wonder if she'll actually go into Writing Professionally or just as therapeutic and Private matter.

[@lanamuir9352]

This documentary was heart-wrenching. My narcissistic mother was a carbon copy of Jennette's. The only difference was that I separated from the dangers of who my mother was. I became my "own person" at a very young age and bonded with other family members and kept my mother at a healthy distance for most of my life. Jennette is a strong woman who will live a rich life because she did the necessary work to understand what her mother did to her. Her brothers are lucky to have her as a sister.

[@debopriya14]

So so many people in the comments section relate to her. It's really scary, what kind of people have kids and absolutely fuck them up. Some people should not have kids. I'm 36 and so scared to be a mother because I'm terrified I'll pass on my issues and be a terrible mother.

[@denedennie1516]

No. You will not be a terrible mother. Even the fact that you are worried about this speaks volumes. You wil be a great mom, dear.

[@DeeVine999]

Her voice is beautiful 😍❤️ all these years I didn't know she could sang like that!!!

[@betheecommentator]

Me either she is so talented ❤️❤️

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Same :)

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I started reading her book but as someone who also grew up with a narcissistic and abusive mother, I couldn’t finish the book. It was too much for me to handle since I thought of my own mother. My mom was in a toxic abusive relationship for 8 years with my stepfather before she finally left him. I remember hearing screaming and walking out my room and seeing my stepfather beat my mother. Instead of getting help, my mother took out her pain on my brothers and I. She mother was verbally and physically abusive to me. She beat me like I was a random chick on the streets and she even threw an iron at my head once. I grew up being a people pleaser as well. My mother was my first bully. Both her and my dad ( who wasn’t there resulting in me having abandonment issues ) were the first two people to betray me which affected my other relationships. My final straw is when she cursed me out because I wanted to set boundaries with my her and my brother. I cut her off at 26 and I don’t talk to her at all.

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Sending hugs ♥

[@lilianabacilio5812]

I’m so sorry. I hear you and your story ❤ that’s so awful to experience. It’s sucks bc going No Contact is so hard. It’s like your mind plays these games trying to bring you back to them. Stay strong love ❤ you deserve peace

[@marisortiz273]

So sorry to hear this and hope it doesn't limit your future. You sound very brave and seem insightful. Blessings sister.

[@ClayMastah344]

I cut mine off around 24 I think. My dad too. They both send lots of gifts to make up for it which I accept if I’m in need of the item or don’t accept if I feel there’s a string attached beyond rebuilding the relationship. I already told them what I needed to change and what they got wrong. Neither admitted it really. So it’s distance. I need real love in my life now or keep the farce away if it’s not real

[@lilianabacilio5812]

@@ClayMastah344 I’m 21 but I feel this in a way. I tried but had to finally go full NC. Honestly it’s sad I love them but it has helped me so much more than even a lot of distance and boundaries. You don’t have to worry and fret about how every move you make will affect them anymore. Idk just something to consider friend. Wish someone told me sooner 😅 but whatever you do I’m sure you’re doing your best no doubt

[@mainwitchmeg]

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at 16. I have a wonderful relationship with my mom, who taught me real empathy, respect, and gratitude. I'm 25, and I've always wanted to be a mother. Relationships like these show me how NOT to treat my potential future children.

[@mainwitchmeg]

@Blessedly Thank you for such kind words 🙏🏻 🩷 I have heard about BPD potentially 'burning itself out' a bit later in life, and I do believe that by continuing with the proper treatment & therapy, I am slowly but surely getting there! Gives me a lot of hope that I will be able to provide my potential babies with all the love, support, and guidance every child deserves 💖

[@ThatGingerHannah]

I wasn’t diagnosed with BPD until age 27, so I am in the process of unlearning maladaptive behaviors and figuring things out. I want to be a mom but I’m also scared that I am going to hurt my future children because of my BPD. 😢

[@rydz656]

Depends on the cocktail they gave you to deal with the mental diseases. Chances are you got a combination of meds that has a natural sterilization side effect.

[@animefreak1149]

“Even her place of death was cluttered” Amazing book, helped me understand more of my generational trauma. I hope Jeanette gets peace and lives her life the way she wants healthy and happy.❤

[@RinaRoo2You]

This makes me so sad. I had such a wonderful mother, and the thought that others didn't is such a tragedy. What a strong and amazing young woman Jeanette is. My heart goes out to her.

[@betheecommentator]

I agree ❤️❤️

[@amelian9677]

As another child abuse survivor, THANK YOU for not gaslighting or victim blaming Jeannette just because her experiences don’t align with your own 🙏

[@tiffprendergast]

Same

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

That emoji was meant to be high five not prayer hands. I found that out the other day and just found it interesting. LOL

[@min_blogs28landing32]

This means everybody doesn't need children at all. I don't care how bad you want to procreate. Children are innocent and should always have a childhood filled with joy and not pain. If one can't provide that then don't have kids at all, ever

[@avoiceinthedark2028]

Jeannette is the bravest girl on earth right now and she told her story to help all of us, sisters under abusive mother’s.

[@betheecommentator]

She is so inspiring, I agree

[@cassondralynch6342]

She literally seems like the realest person ever. Let alone in Hollywood!

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

Before reading Jennette McCurdy's book: "I'm sure the title is a little hyperbolic" After reading Jennette McCurdy's book: "Y'know, I'm kinda glad her mom died too"

[@PinkTaurus93]

What’s even more disturbing and unfair is that this woman knew she was dying for 3 years and NEVER in their entire lives, even then, felt the need to tell her 3 ADULT children who their real father was!! 😱 Jeanette was 21 and her brothers were even older!! I’m so glad her dad didn’t take that to his grave as well! And I’m so glad that it doesn’t seem like he was also abusive to them even though many people in his position would’ve been.

[@betheecommentator]

You are so correct!! I did have a conversation about this with a family member of mine and they felt that the Father should’ve kept this information to himself and not told Jennette because they felt as though this information inflicted more pain. I agree with you. I felt like this was a huge weight off his shoulders and the children deserved the right to know! I am completely with you!!!

[@PinkTaurus93]

@@betheecommentator The truth always comes out! Lying just makes everything worst. They’d experience more pain if the birth father decided to find them or if they found out after their dad died. Or, God forbid, they married an unknown family member 😩 or one of them was sick and they did genetic testing and found out 1 was not like the other 3. 😩 This is never something to lie to anyone about. I’ve heard of similar situations and a lot of times kids just “know,” even if the parent is loving and treats them no different.

[@PinkTaurus93]

Btw I love your channel!! Keep up the amazing work! 💗

[@coruptedboy4614]

He didn't stop it either, why? My dad worked odd hours lots of nights, slept days and wanted us gone to grandma's so he could have the house by himself to sleep. I remember my mom did something I didn't see as bad, cause I was done that way, to my son, my dad had a fit. I looked at him and said that's how we were raised by her, don't yell now.

[@BB-pt9hv]

I had such a similar relationship with my mother like Jeanette and her mom did, hearing her talk is vocalizing my feelings more than I've ever been able to

[@betheecommentator]

Oh wow, I am so sorry you experienced that. I can only imagine what that must’ve been like. Wishing you all the best ❤️❤️

[@SamanthaCZimmerman]

i didn't even come close to experiencing what jeanette did w/ her mom, but i did have a very complicated bestie-type relationship w/ my own narcissistic mother and i related so intensely to a lot of what she discussed. it's so brave that she's been so open about this and her healing journey is truly inspiring.

[@betheecommentator]

I’m so sorry re: your relationship with your mother. I could only imagine how that must’ve been for you. I’m glad you found Jennette’s story inspiring and relatable. Thanks so much for watching ❤️

[@Sam-gh3bk]

Same same same. I feel more like the parent these days and I’m in my 30s. There is def no sense of privacy or independency.. she’s almost too inserted in my life that I fear when she goes I won’t have any sense of self.. or any idea how to properly function independently.😪

[@tiffprendergast]

Yup

[@tiffprendergast]

@@Sam-gh3bk yup

[@tiffprendergast]

Same

[@emilyreal166]

the bit about emotional enmeshment w a member in your family really hit me, like the concept of the entire mood and emotion in the household hinging on the mood of one person that’s exactly how my household was as i was growing up, just never had the word for it !! maybe it’s time to go back to therapy lol

[@betheecommentator]

Oh wow, I’m so so sorry to hear what you went through growing up. When working on this video it was the first time I had heard that word as well. Puts a lot of things into perspective. Therapy is a beautiful thing ❤️ do whatever you need to do. I’m wishing you all the best ❤️❤️

[@emilyreal166]

@@betheecommentator thanks so much for your kind words

[@KristenLB]

Wow, I almost got chills at the part where her mother didn't get to/ try to make her own life what she wanted and therefore tried to simultaneously push it on Jennette while also trying to destroy her. The ole " vicarious narcissistic mom" I call it. Where they want to live through you, and want you to have your name in lights, basically, but also degrade you and belittle you. It's the biggest mind warp. I have learned a wealth more and gotten so much validation through her story and I think it's amazing the way she knows herself and how aware of everything she is as she speaks. She's done some major work on herself ( that she shouldn't have had to) but it's amazing and I'm so glad for her. These pieces of work need to quit having children and I will never be sorry for feeling that way.

[@betheecommentator]

So true. I think Willow in the red table talk interview said it best when she said “it’s violent on the child’s mind”. I agree with that comment. It has been such a complicated thing to comprehend and understand

[@gglizzy4651]

My mom has always been my best friend because she has always done everything she could possibly do to support me & she never forced me into a mold. She always let me be myself & helped me navigate life and grow into a woman. We're actually complete opposites & she loves it. We talk everyday still. I'm grateful that I was able to have a relationship like this without all of the toxic aspects that usually come with it. It's heart breaking knowing not everyone gets to experience this. I'm glad Miranda was there to show her what it is like to feel free and be yourself.

[@karlaf.64]

Exactly this. My mom and I are complete opposites and often have big disagreements but always with respect and apologies if needed. I am so grateful that I was given an understanding mom but it’s also heartbreaking to know others grew up with such different lives and still having to navigate this difficult life 😞

[@spa-peggymeatballs4861]

The heartache of hearing her own mother telling her she doesn’t want her to grow up while knowing it’s connected to the affection she’ll receive from mom and that she’s powerless to stop it. I cannot imagine. Literally, the point of raising your child is to prepare them for their future. I can’t imagine creating fear and anxiety (among, I imagine, many other issues) around simply getting older. I’m so glad we are having these conversations. Sadly I don’t think things have gotten better since when Jeanette was a child. Now we have social media and family channels pumping out child stars even faster. Whew..

[@betheecommentator]

That is such a good point. The children of family vloggers is a whole mess!

[@tiffprendergast]

I don’t want to grow up either

[@KimMarshall44]

As a child at the mercy of a malignant narcissistic and histrionic, abusive birthing vessel, I'm so glad I survived and have zero contact as an adult. I did the work and pray everyday to always do better as I'm a mother. Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. Thank you BE for this and I share her sentiment.

[@betheecommentator]

Good for you!! And thank you for sharing your story with us I’m sure it will encourage and inspire others! ❤️❤️

[@truecrimenwine489]

I've watched loads of youtube videos on Jannette, but this is by a country mile, the best. So info heavy, so well researched outside of just the recent stuff and such an awesome video. Can't wait for that million sub mark

[@betheecommentator]

Awww thank you so very much!! That means a lot and I’m so thankful for your support and feedback ❤️❤️

[@MyNameIsDaykia2]

The “Mom bestie” thing has always been terrifying to even think about bc it’s the person that gave birth to you. it’s the person that whatever they say do, you’re going to do and they will assure you that it’s okay as long as it’s between the 2 of you. it’s can be so bad and Jeanette is living proof of that.

[@betheecommentator]

That’s a good point

[@Bianca_Toeps]

It's also very telling regarding the mom. What kind of an adult has a kid as a "best friend"? There's probably a whole lot of emotional immaturity there, because adult friends might talk back or have different plans and opinions.

[@edgyfoxgirl8342]

There's nothing wrong with being close with your mother especially if you're a child but if it never changes when you get older is when it becomes a problem. Like you can't make decisions on your own without your mother.

[@MeetFrizzie]

Losing a parent you had a strained relationship is such a complicated grief. No one except those that have been through it will ever understand that kind of hurt. That ending excerpt had me sobbing. The fantasizing about the conversations you wish you had or wish you could have now that you see them fully.

[@sarahhaynes9704]

Trauma bonding is a horrible thing, it stops people from cutting ties with their tormentor

[@betheecommentator]

Oooh such a good point

[@betheecommentator]

Please read below for further information that didn’t make it into this episode and why: 1. Jennette’s experience with Nickelodeon per se wasn’t included because I am saving it for a deep dive on Nickelodeon as a whole. 2. Jennette’s non feud with singer Ariana Grande wasn’t included because their relationship has been misconstrued in the media. The narrative is that Jennette hated Ariana and was jealous of her which wasn’t the case. Jennette envied what Ariana represented. In her eyes, Ariana represented freedom, independence, and privilege, all the things Jennette felt she didn’t have. Jennette says in several interviews that I’ve watched how upset it made her to see the media focus more on the Ariana Grande storyline which was a very very small part of her book and less on the real reason why she wrote the book. She wrote the book to bring awareness to abusive mother/daughter dynamics. That was the arc of her book and I wanted to honor her intentions and reflect that with this video. Hope this helps. As always, thank you so much for your support. Have a good day. See you soon!! ❤️

[@madisonbyler6815]

Thank you for leaving those out and focusing on her and her message 💛

[@deeesoirscegardner]

Why would u support nickelodeon aside with Jeanette after despicable treatment of Johnny Depp. ..I'll be boycotting in Ireland 🇮🇪 and warn ⚠️ that u and heannette and all on nickoldian are a disgrace. Apologies to Johnny Depp..Jeanette playing a Amber heard

[@KimMarshall44]

So appreciate this, goodness you're so thorough and thoughtful in everything 💖 I'm sitting here thinking she's "BE INTENTIONAL" 😉

[@betheecommentator]

@@KimMarshall44 awww thank you!!! ❤️❤️ that is such a sweet thing to say, thank you!!! ☺️☺️

[@therobotdevil2284]

I'm so glad you took this focus, it truly was the main arc of the book and I can totally understand why Jeanette would be upset by the media focusing so much attention on the Ariana and Dan Schneider stuff. So many other KZbin channels did the same and it's refreshing to see videos like this that resisted that.

[@malpal777]

I listened to this book a couple of days ago and all I can say it wow. the feeling it gave me has stayed with me since I finished it. it is truly a good book, the way she told her story put me right in it

[@betheecommentator]

Yes you are so right! Very good book!!

[@tiffprendergast]

Yup

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Epic job on this. The voice overs and clips you chose…perfection. You really honored Jeanette’s story.💜

[@betheecommentator]

Thank you so much!! I’m really glad you enjoyed it ❤️

[@nipit_indabud]

My story is not anything close to Jannet's but the damage is still the same. I don't think parents realize that EVERY SINGLE THING THEY DO AND SAY HAS AN EXTREME IMPACT ON WHO THE CHILD BECOMES. And I mean EVERYTHING. I cried quite a bit hearing this story. So many things I do now and suffer trying to correct is 100% because of what I went through as a child. It shaped who i am today. Broken.

[@eej1983able]

Exactly 💯

[@pinkpugginz]

I think they know and don't care

[@tiffprendergast]

Jennette

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

*Jennette

[@lorimiller4301]

​@@pinkpugginz You are correct. Narcissists will do anything in their power to hurt you. I just caught another rotten thing that was done behind my back. Don't trust them. Don't drop your guard because they don't care and they will do anything they have the power to do to hurt you or make life harder for you. I'm just waiting for my 93 year old abuser/parent to die so that I can have some bit of a life of my own. I'm so sick of him. Truly evil to the core. He's an absolute monster. Should've been in prison for life before I went to Kindergarten. He's lived like a king while I live like a slave. I'm just hanging on, waiting for my freedom. He doesn't deserve forgiveness, maybe never. I deserve better.

[@DigitalLogicCircuit]

I’m 36. My mom is a narcissist and it’s very hard. I feel like I will never truly be free. Very concerned about looks as well. My sister developed an eating disorder from it. She abandoned her family and started cheating on my dad with our friends dad and left the state.

[@mayanardone1376]

I have finally accepted that my mother was and is nearly the exact same way as Jeanette’s… as well as severe paranoia. Reading Jeanette’s book has been one of the hardest things as it’s been so enlightening. I cannot vocalize just how helpful it has been to read and know that someone else has gone through something similar. Thank you Jeanette.

[@amu9551]

this book and Jenette’s words in her interviews have helped me more than i can say. i will always be grateful to her for sharing what she went through.

[@mandaleemilly6367]

I was hoping you’d cover this. You’re doing such a bang up job on everything! I can’t wait for you and your channel to get the recognition you deserve!

[@betheecommentator]

Awww thanks ❤️ I appreciate you and am so glad you enjoy my content! Thanks for your support ❤️❤️

[@ferninthehouse]

@@betheecommentator i just found your channel from this but this is a really good video

[@biancadiamond2]

Yes. This is GOOD documentation.

[@ferninthehouse]

@@biancadiamond2 I’ve seen plenty of videos on Jennette and read her book but this was good to watch because it’s organized well and compiles info from lots of different places

[@Libra_Strings]

Listen, I don’t really like Red Table Talk, but I also haven’t seen a more appropriate guest for Red Table Talk. Well done as always BEE 👏🏾

[@betheecommentator]

I agree she was a great guest!!! And thank you so much for your feedback! ❤️

[@Libra_Strings]

@@betheecommentator you’re welcome ☺️

[@typhaneyritchey4180]

As someone who refers to their mother as "mommy dearest" and has been no contact for almost 3 years this is hard. Jeanette was always my favorite character on iCarly. Idk what it was, but she just stood out to me. Once she came out it all made sense. I'm so damn proud of Jeanette. I don't know her, never will. But I know how it feels to come out against your mom. It's HARD. People make your life hell sometimes. The fact she did it and on a mass scale is mind blowing! It takes a strong woman to be able to do that.

[@emirojas92]

I like that your channel is more educational rather than gossipy.

[@betheecommentator]

I really appreciate that thank you!

[@emirojas92]

@@betheecommentator please don't change that about your channel. I like that the comment section is about people sharing their personal stories as well rather than bashing people. 💛

[@betheecommentator]

@@emirojas92 trust me I won’t, and thank you for your encouragement. I agree it’s so inspiring to read everyone’s comment and hopefully we can develop and create a very supportive, well articulated community even if we have different opinions ☺️❤️

[@ravioli2020]

The audiobook of this was so good. I really appreciated how honest it was, from what her mother put her through to her own flaws and mistakes navigating the world as a hurt adult. Thanks for giving all kinds of supplemental interviews to add more layers to Jennette's story, I've seen a lot of videos that just recap the most shocking parts. Hopefully we see good coming from her putting herself out there, I would love to see more protection for child performers, ESPECIALLY those getting famous on social media that don't even have a coogan account.

[@betheecommentator]

I read the book but I have heard how greasy the audio version was. She’s so inspiring! And you’re welcome, I’m so glad I had all the interviews to work with. Just made everything that much more impactful.

[@jen-ms4xo]

@@betheecommentator what is the name of the book again and when did it come out

[@betheecommentator]

@@jen-ms4xo hi there! The name of the book is “I’m Glad My Mom Died” and it came out August 9, 2022

[@jen-ms4xo]

@@betheecommentator ty 😊

[@tiffprendergast]

Yeah

[@the620master]

I am similar to Jeanette's mom. My family has that generational trauma with the mothers. Both grandmothers, my mom, and me. I have been diagnosed with BPD, however that was a year after I had my daughter. I was misdiagnosed for 10 years with bipolar because I tried my hardest to find what was wrong with me. I found it, and I feel repelled for asking for help. I have tendencies for abuse. And I don't want my daughter to ever feel the need to please me. I always love her, even when I can't think cause of the rage in my head. Even in the rage, I am so angry with myself that she sees and knows it. I wanted to be a good mom, which is why I sought help before I had her. Turned out, life's funny like that. It is very treatable, via long therapy. But it's hard between.

[@noctnight7353]

I've really only found out a year ago (roughly) that my mother is not ideal. She's not abusive, but she's a horrible mother. Never should've been one. She's narcissistic and brings the whole house down whenever she doesn't feel "good" (and trust me, she's hardly in a good mood at home). I hardly feel loved. But regardless, this book helped me accept that what my mother has been doing is abuse. I'm so glad I purchased it when it was available again (was sold out for weeks!). I still haven't finished, but wow. Incredibly emotional and raw. Thank you, Jeanette, for sharing your life story.

[@Kiefsti]

Wow. Her mother was...a force. Excellent episode as always 💜

[@betheecommentator]

She was definitely something else. Thanks again so much for supporting and watching!! 💓

[@kamillemayes5894]

Wow didn't know jenette could sing so well! She's amazing... I'm sad she was forced to do it though

[@betheecommentator]

Right! She had such a nice voice I didn’t know that either

[@britnicox3929]

I remembered loving her main single that got traction but knowing it was because of being forced makes it really sad

[@erinhaury5773]

I was excited when she started doing music as I love her voice, but now that I know she was forced into it, it makes me sad. Such a shame her mother couldn't let her just be herself. ❤

[@iwatchtoomuchtruecrime]

OH MY GOD! This is was incredibly heart wrenching & healing at the same time! So impressed with Jeannette. ❤

[@betheecommentator]

I agree, she is amazing

[@Katyloveheart]

Thank you for including the interviews along with the book

[@betheecommentator]

You’re welcome ☺️

[@rondazug9967]

@@betheecommentator yup great addition. I love how you incorporate clips and quotes. The *BEST* deep dives/docs on KZbin thus far. How can we help give you more exposure 😩❤️??

[@betheecommentator]

@@rondazug9967 aww that really is so sweet. The algorithm really pushes content of the videos are watched as soon as they come out as well as engagement with the video meaning likes and comments. That will help the video reach more people. I really appreciate your support so much!!!❤️❤️

[@BlueGeen]

I love the fact that you've compiled really relevant clips from Jennette's different recent interviews on her press tour. She's been doing so many, which is awesome! I've watched several, but it's impossible to watch them all, so you actually bringing together different clips from different interviews where she talks about different things is awesome.

[@betheecommentator]

Thank you so much, this was my favorite episode to do. So many great interviews to include! You’re right there are so many and her story is just so inspiring in my opinion. I didn’t know much about her until I covered her story and she is amazing!! Thanks for watching as well as your feedback

[@spa-peggymeatballs4861]

Ooooof. I’m on my first minute and I’ve already been punched in the gut. How is it that all your videos (especially lately) manage to scratch all my various itches? You’re killing this and choosing such good topics. Can’t wait to see the rest of this.

[@betheecommentator]

Oh wow thank you so much, I really appreciate it. I just try to cover topics that we can all relate to one way or another. I’m glad you’re liking the content! I have some really good topics well be covering soon!! ❤️❤️

[@lifewithklc]

wow Wow WOW! This deep dive was amazing. I relate to her on SO many levels. May her healing continue.

[@betheecommentator]

Thank you so so much!! I’m glad you enjoyed it and I agree with you

[@AnniePants367]

I dealt with very complicated feelings when my dad died. He was abusive and controlling but could also be incredibly loving and supportive. I felt a huge sense of relief because the control, abuse, and some other very inappropriate things ended. So when Jeanette’s book came out, I felt so seen, like oh my gosh that is what I have been feeling about my dad for almost 20 years

[@pbjt2396]

Wow. This video was really something. The end brought me to tears. My mom is also one of my narc abusers, and I have felt all the things she expressed. Thank you for ending it how you did. Even though I’ve worked through so much, every bit helps. Thank you.❤

[@betheecommentator]

It was my pleasure! Healing is a journey and a process, you’re doing great! Awareness is the first step. I wish you all the best and I’m here for you ❤️❤️

[@amyneil5573]

She has done an amazing job, as usual! I really feel connected to this particular story, because my daughter was at the target age when Nickelodeon was airing “iCarly” She and I watched the show all the time. I was amazed at the amount of talent Jeanette McCurdy displayed! I remember commenting about this to my husband as we all watched an episode featuring Jeanette dancing, Scottish style. She had on a kilt with those cute, lace up shoes and tartan knee socks! She could dance, and sing, and her comic timing was jaw dropping. I never, ever dreamt that she wasn’t born into show biz! I pictured her as the kid who never stopped pestered her parents for head shots and an agent! Looks can be deceiving! I had no idea about what that poor child endured at the hands of her sick, twisted mother! I sincerely hope that she has found happiness now that her toxic mother is gone, and she has some form of closure! Amy

[@krisjay262002able]

I’ve learned so much about my youth and as an adult today through Jennette’s story! I can’t wait to read the book. Bless her heart ❤️

[@Stop_It_Just_Stop]

Omg can we talk about the fact that this creator is responding to all the comments, it’s great. I know it’s normally not possible too do this, especially the larger the channel gets, but it’s nice on a topic like this the creator is engaged :) props

[@betheecommentator]

Wow thank you so much for compliment!! It is a lot but this was such an important topic and video and it is my pleasure to respond to as many comments as I can. Thank you so much ☺️☺️

[@sharkiesupernova]

I appreciate willow listening whole heartedly. She looked pain during Jannet speak her words. What a truly sad story. So complicated.

[@learntobake2023]

So good. SO much there. The world needed this documentary. Thank you Jennette for being brave enough to share your true feelings and experiences.

[@101handbags101]

Every time I watch one of your videos I think this is your best video yet, but wow, the way you presented Janette’s story was so deep and thought provoking. Thank you for the hours of work you put into this story.

[@betheecommentator]

Awww you’re welcome!! It really was my pleasure. This is such an inspiring story and I’m glad you liked it!! ❤️❤️

[@idkwhatimgonnado695]

i’m so glad she has siblings to help her work through this and siblings who were there with her in those rough times and she wasn’t alone bc ik that must’ve been rough she deserves sm better

[@elsaadams3841]

Wow!! My kids grew up watching iCarly. I watched it too. I never would have imagined this poor girl living a life like that. My heart goes out to her. I hope and pray she has an awesome adult life.

[@betheecommentator]

Me too, she definitely deserves it!!

[@KeeKeeSoto]

I've been binge watching your channel for the last few days! You really do an amazing job with these documentaries 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@betheecommentator]

Thanks girl!! I really appreciate your support, I’m so glad you like my channel ❤️❤️

[@vickilynn3760]

I am also a cancer survivor. After surgeries and treatment, all I wanted to do was go on with my life. I was 36 and never let my children see me in the hospital. I had a long recovery and tried to be as normal for my children as possible. It was a while before I could cook their favorite foods and do activities with them, but I talked to them every day and held them and hopefully made them feel loved and cared for. Right or wrong, I didn't want them to feel fear of losing me. Today, they are all successful and happy adults. Thank you, Jesus! I hope you recover from your trauma. God bless you !

[@SC-bg2lv]

So sad. Made me cry. You present information in such an organized and thoughtful way. Every video is so good!

[@betheecommentator]

Omg I’m with you, this one was so sad to me but I’m very proud of Jennette and where she’s at today. Also, thank you so much for your support, I appreciate it ❤️

[@unionunicorn6776]

Wow I can relate so much to what she went through. Not the child stardom, but the relationship with her mother is almost exactly what it felt like being around my mother. My mother always made everything about her, she was a textbook narcissist and I had the same desire to always cater to my mother’s needs, only learning later in life how absolutely backwards that was to be a parentified child. I was made to feel like my emotional needs did not matter, the only person who mattered was my mother and her feelings. I lived with my mom and my mom’s mom too, and they would constantly be at each other’s throats, threatening violence. The cops were called on multiple occasions. I could also relate to living in a Hoarder’s house and feeling great shame for the surroundings that I was ultimately not responsible for. I have bought her book and have not read it yet, but this video is a great overview of it and it’s on my top priority to do list to read it. I wish her nothing but the best in life and I hope she has a successful and happy future. She deserves happiness after such an ordeal. 💗

[@betheecommentator]

Wow I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through. I truly wish you nothing but the best on your journey to healing ❤️. Like, Jennette you deserve all the happiness in the world ❤️❤️

[@unionunicorn6776]

@@betheecommentator Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot to me. ❤️

[@peytonwensaut6876]

Different situation (cult survivor), but as someone who's been close to people/in relationships with a similar dynamic to Jeanette and her mother, hearing her story is both incredibly validating and healing. Wonderful video!

[@nikkydalby7126]

Man, I wish I could have a conversation with you about the cult, because surviving that is no joke. Especially when your family is involved.

[@ozziewolters7818]

Prayers to you Jeannette, so proud of you for owning your truth and helping all of us.

[@cassondralynch6342]

She's pretty heroic for real.

[@Luumus]

This video was excellently made, I've seem many of the interviews on their own but you really weaved her story and her voice in a very compelling way.

[@melissaholman2605]

You did such an amazing job on this video! Hands down the best one I've seen covering Jennette McCurdy. I always enjoy watching your content.

[@miasimone3422]

This is the most comprehensive video on her life and book I have seen. Great job

[@clarebear3391]

Poor girl wasn’t allowed to be herself 💔 hit the like button before I started watching because I know your content is first class 👏🏻

[@betheecommentator]

Thank you so much!!!! I really appreciate that and your continued support ❤️❤️

[@BabyBlue-um3li]

Obsessed! Thank you!!!! So happy you made a video on her story! 💕

[@betheecommentator]

You’re welcome! I hope you enjoy it

[@PhoenixRoseYT]

Her book made me realize in part that my own mother is a narcissist. It helped me heal a bit to read, I read it all in one sitting. It’s so hard. You want to love and be faithful to this person who has done so much for you, but who has also done things TO you. Harmful things. Abusive things. I still haven’t figured it out. Idk if I ever will.

[@space_babe034]

my mouth has been agape since the beginning of this video. so much of this makes sense. i’ve not once heard a story so similar to mine in my life. no not every detail is the same, but wow, the similarities. gonna let myself have a good cry after watching this. i feel seen and heard, like i’m not alone now

[@BearyAggy]

My heart hurts so much for Jeanette. I can't even imagine the sheer amount of trauma, the hurt she has to heal from. The story about being told to sit and re-watch that video about how her mom survived cancer is just beyond understanding. I'm so happy for Jeanette speaking out about it, still remaining strong. She's so inspiring for how strong she is. I love listening to her podcast. I hope she gets to do everything she wants to do with her life moving onwards, and that she would have much better experiences.

[@Transguyenergy]

I just wanted to drop in and say I recently found your channel, and I am such a big fan of your videos. You really take your time to tell these people's stories and provide context that really helps the viewer fully understand their viewpoint. Keep up the great work!!

[@betheecommentator]

Wow thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share your feedback regarding my channel and content! It is greatly appreciated! Thank YOU

[@internetcrow9805]

Revisiting this video because it's so good. Thank you Be for highlighting how articulate and insightful Jennette is about her experience. I hope I can someday speak about my own traumas with the bravery and grace she brings to these interviews and her book.

[@betheecommentator]

You’re welcome! It was my pleasure to narrate her story. She is so inspiring and you can, it all takes time. It took her years to get to that point, you will get there too, one day at a time! ❤️❤️

[@corporalchloe]

I read this a couple months ago. So excited to listen to you cover this! You keep picking topics I want to hear discussed. Keep going Bee.

[@BaddieMaddie.THEbaddest]

Yay another video! After learning her background through both her mother and “the Creator” It’s hard to imagine what she went through. I can’t wait to hear her story more in depth.

[@betheecommentator]

Yay!! Thanks so much for watching!! I will do a deep dive strictly on Nickelodeon which will include Jennette’s experience in a future video ❤️

[@melyndalegg7446]

Excellent video!

[@betheecommentator]

@@melyndalegg7446 thank you so much!!!!

[@cheechalker8430]

Another excellent presentation! Your videos are always very informative, move at a steady pace and are not exploitative or sensationalized. It’s refreshing to see someone present information in a factual. unbiased manner!

[@betheecommentator]

Aww thank you so much, your feedback and compliment is much appreciated and VERY motivating, thank you 😊 ❤️❤️

[@jacquelinem9278]

I'd heard a lot about her book but this video is profound because I'm resonating with so much of what's being talked about. I definitely feel compelled to read this book now. I feel so grateful that in sharing her experience, she's helping so, so many women confront their own toxic relationship with their mother. Which by the way, should be talked about more. The dynamics between a mother & daughter are significant in who we become as women. When that relationship is unhealthy, we carry it with us every single day, everywhere we go, UNTIL we acknowledge, & get help in managing our trauma. Im inspired by her ability to articulate her experience. She is incredibly wise. & I am truly so happy for her!

[@juno128]

excellent video. i’m sobbing for jennette. i understand her and just want to give her a big hug. she’s so brave for being so raw and honest with us. i can’t even imagine how hard it was for her to be so vulnerable like this so openly. what an amazing woman.

[@No1superjuicey]

Thanks for the deep dive and your voice is sooo soothing

[@betheecommentator]

Thank you so so much!! ❤️❤️

[@CeCe-op3vj]

i really appreciate how you credit where you get all of your resources. Definitely watching more of your videos , and subscribed !!

[@betheecommentator]

Of course re: crediting sources, I wish more people did it. That way you guys can see things for yourselves. Also, thank you so much for your support and feedback I appreciate it❤️

[@lilianabacilio5812]

I loved the way you made this. I loved the inserts from her book but also the interviews it was really immersive and engaging. Poor girl.

[@betheecommentator]

Thank you so much. I’m glad you enjoyed it!

[@thedarkside0fmars]

Thanks for piecing this all together. This story is so wild

[@betheecommentator]

You’re welcome! I agree, so crazy! Thanks for watching ❤️

[@christilynn7182]

Can we say WOW! Phewwww that was A Lot! God bless Jeanette. I pray for total healing

[@betheecommentator]

Omg yes, what a story she has. I’m so proud of her and how her sharing her story has helped so many people ❤️

[@IMFJP82075]

I cannot wait to watch this video! I'm literally on the last chapter of the book so I'll be watching this once I finish.

[@betheecommentator]

Yay!! Her book was so inspiring as well as her story. Thanks so much for your support!! ❤️❤️

[@Kony-2012]

I absolutely LOVE your channel. Your voice has a genuine and kind air to it that’s enjoyable to listen to instead of a lot of the monotone channels I hear a lot that covers topics similar to you. You also take the time to really go over a lot of details, it makes for a longer video but I love that. I can throw on your videos while doing household chores and get totally immersed, suddenly all my laundry is folded and I barely noticed I was doing it because I was so into your video. You’re doing such a great job, love the long videos and appreciate the effort and research you so clearly put into each and every video! Again I absolutely love your channel and recommend it to all my friends ❤

[@Kony-2012]

Also just wanted to say I have been subscribed since your very first video showed up in my algorithm, and I was sad there was no more but I subscribed so I could continue watching when you’d put out new content. You are one of the freshest and most interesting channels on here!

[@betheecommentator]

WOW!!! Thank you so much!! I’m so glad you found my channel, enjoy my voice, format and style. It genuinely makes me feel very encouraged to keep going and making content. I appreciate your support, feedback, and love!! Thank you SO much ❤️❤️💕💕☺️☺️

[@Kony-2012]

@@betheecommentator awww you’re so sweet! Definitely keep going! Your content is so interesting. You go more in depth than even the most popular channels covering the same subjects. So many of us are cheering you on, keep it up! Proud of you 💜

[@angelabergstrom553]

Loved your narration and your voice is so soothing! Absolutely loved this thank you for this content!

[@chrisholzhauer3698]

The deep empathy and understanding I feel for this total stranger. She's been through so much and just the fact that she's willing to keep going and be open and honest about it speaks volume to her strength and courage. As a daughter of similar trauma, as a young woman trying to make sense of it all, as a mother now, I just want her and anyone else that's gone through this know that you aren't alone and someone cares about you.