Childhood Best Friend Turned My Entire Community Against Me Over a Lie She Told About...

Childhood Best Friend Turned My Entire Community Against Me Over a Lie She Told About Me Being in Love With Her Fiancé. Then Discovered the Truth.
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[@OC_DEFENSE]

Barrett for sure left Bella bc she was doing a lot more than just plotting with Matthew.

[@thecursed01]

plotting something that will be 9 months in the making and try to have barrett raise it. also if ppl claim they could hae photoshopped the messages: invite them to scroll through them on the phone

[@mremblem9687]

@thecursed01 bella would have most likely removed the thumb up on the image.

[@MLT1904]

Porking for sure!! Fxck Matthew

[@gizmo2101]

Plotting, digging, laying pipes, etc

[@goatkiller666]

Uh… OP didn’t “assume” that it was okay to wear white. She specifically asked, and was told ‘yes’.

[@Amenimun]

Exactly, she was told by the bride herself.

[@argos6699]

Plus, she had no reason to doubt the word of her then BEST friend, so I don't see how she would have asked the other bridesmaids about it.

[@tamoeri]

She didn't even ask, she was told to. She checked the dress. I get some brides having difficulty saying no to someone wearing white or white adjecent clothing, but it wasn't even her own idea!

[@torturapesnorrarape]

just basic people not wanting to be told they are wrong attitude, very common in controlling parents.

[@omkarwadekar1214]

Where's the photo that she sent the bride?

[@virgilhawkins7368]

Ok, the mom is ticking me off. Doesn't believe her daughter and then when the truth comes out she still blames her? What a B.

[@Maninawig]

Where did you get that? The mom was beating around the bush trying to confirm rumors, got mad when her heathen of a daughter tried sniping a betrothed... but from the moment she saw the texts, the truth about the situation, Mom was her #1 supporter, even going against the church to fight for her daughter.

[@LNPragathiesh-ef9dz]

Don't insult bitches. The mother is an insult to the word bitches.

[@TheShadowSentinel]

@@Maninawig heathen? We are not in medieval times, you know?

[@Drawqwa]

@@Maninawig her mom literally said she was a bit of an asshole for wearing a white dress at someone wedding anyway and she should have confirmed with the other Bridesmaids

[@rijusorkar9253]

​@@Drawqwa and what she said was true.

[@reillycurran8508]

I don't know what people who say she should have just known not to wear white are expecting here, the bride herself literally endorsed the dress she wore with the intent for her to take the fall. Is she supposed to assume her best friend since childhood is setting her up?

[@ESPHMacD]

I know, and that stuff about double checking... she did! And with the bride directly, who is the one approval comes from anyway? She had direct permission.

[@meltedfroyo6979]

Right, like how was that OPs fault? Why does she have to ask the bridesmaids when the BRIDE is the one telling her this?

[@Reaper-bd9bl]

Even worse, the mom saying she was still an ah for assuming... she didn't assume anything, she was blatantly lied to! Assumption is reaching a conclusion on your own without all the facts. She got confirmation!

[@gabrielsfilms2086]

ikr- came to the comments cause of that

[@francinetitherington4060]

Yeah but Mom came around.

[@millenialfragrancenerd94]

Bella's just so full of shït - she chose to believe Matthew's deceit and then conspire with him to ruin OP's life. After that, she had the nerve to call OP a homewrecking slūt when Barrett just got tired of her BS.

[@NineM_YorHa]

I belive in urked Bella much more than she let on that OP slept with Berett before she introduced them to each other. That's the best explanation why she would plot for months with her best friends abuser to destroy her life.

[@francinetitherington4060]

Wondering if Bella had become Psychotic......it's often 20's when that hits if it' going to hit.

[@magicalmomo9987]

Bella wouldn't have fallen for Matthew's words had she already not had been jealous of OP and sown her own seeds of doubt. I know OP is just feeling sorry for her because she was manipulated and abused by the same guy but normal friends wouldn't be easily swayed to hate their long time friend by some rando like that. And the fact that OP's other friends were even saying Bella was shit talking her prior cements that. Bella was already hateful and insecure, he just fed off of it. OP needs to celebrate the victory and stop feeling sorry for her. She got what she deserved.

[@sophiewebsdale6410]

I think the seeds of doubt started when she first met Barret and got told that op and him had a fwb history and was probably jealous that her friend got with a hot guy before her

[@C.G.Gaster]

​@@sophiewebsdale6410sounds like a her problem

[@sophiewebsdale6410]

@@C.G.Gaster Yeah most definitely, shouldn't have gone there with fragile self-security/trust

[@Tris_.]

This 100%. Bella was fake friend since the moment she got together with the crumbs that OP wasn't interested in (maybe even before). This insecurity would always end up like this. Honestly, this was just a matter of time. I can easily imagine Bella and Barret's arguments (about anything) where Bella uses her mental gymnastucs to spin it that OP was trying to break them apart via feeding him lies.

[@gwenrichard7507]

I'm guessing Mathew and Bella were more then just "close." Otherwise the husband would have contacted OP to confirm the source.

[@Moodyman90]

First half was going "wow, this woman is throwing away op's friendship due to her own insecurities". Then the update plot twist happens. Op's ex is a monster in the shape of a man who shouldn't be allowed to exist. That said, ex best friend listened to said monster so she's trash.

[@dragonkitties4life]

Especially when Op had already told her about the break-up (even if she didn’t know about the manipulation part, she should’ve at least trusted her friend’s words/actions over the man who somehow broke Op’s heart)

[@ancadiamant]

OP should sue for defamation against Bella, Bella's family and Matthew. I want to know if OP got her dog back.

[@justaroodypoo]

"Post too damn long!" God, I hate most Redditors.

[@Maninawig]

Tl:Dr Fuck. Sorry, had to translate for Redditor retention.

[@user-kh5pn8to5m]

On goodness

[@Garbagecant24]

They’re there to read it right? Like, wth?

[@kush7138]

​@@Garbagecant24 people do stupid things all the time. It's like someone being a fan of a show / anime but never watched the anime nor read the manga while spewing dumb shyt

[@looksfineforme9471]

You'd think that for a forum that's text focussed, people would actually want to read, guess not.

[@aurorawood869]

I can't believe that the parents would even believe that in the first place. You should know your child even if you don't agree with each other.

[@ShadowT23]

That's what religion does to people.

[@aurorawood869]

@ShadowT23 I believe in God too, but I'm not gonna force people to believe in him too. But this is your kid

[@ShadowT23]

@@aurorawood869 I don't think you get it.

[@TwilightMysts]

@@ShadowT23 "That's what religion does to people." I've seen non-religious and atheists be just as bad. Ideology of any sort can make a person blind.

[@aurorawood869]

@@ShadowT23 What do you want me to get?

[@ziolan8970]

Barrett was probably kept out of most of the drama but also trusted OP. So when he got this email and Bella wasn't whispering in his ear he believed her. He probably then went on a hunt of his own and found out everything.

[@tdexth]

I know the real villian is Op's ex. But i feel some deeper issues with her bff. I think she's harboring inferiority complex and Mathew just snapped it open.

[@avaphynx]

Oh her family are Jehovah's Witnesses. That makes sense a lot of how this happened.

[@ThePawerStation]

I hope there is an update of OP living happy with RO against Matthew. And Bella suffering Matthew sociopath behavior.

[@harpocxy]

So OP's 2nd Ex was the ultimate villian all along. So much for the saying "A woman's judgement is always right"

[@Maninawig]

Don't forget "Woman's Intuition"

[@marieguillou8808]

Who say that?

[@peteryeeterson5766]

God, I love these videos, but why the hell are half the comments always these ultra-red-pilled misogynists pulling the most wild takes out of their asses.

[@peteryeeterson5766]

God, I love these videos, but why are half the comments always these woman-haters saying the wildest things that are barely relevant to the video?

[@remix2593]

@@peteryeeterson5766 cause redditors are incels, so it's pretty safe to assume a good chunk of the comments are redditors given it's a reddit video

[@kazuki4225]

I got really upset when she was called a jerk for assuming she could wear white without checking with the other bridesmaids she was literally asked to by the bride

[@arcadius3257]

OP is a better person than I am, I don't care that her best friend got fed lies, she's a manipulator herself who didn't have to do what she did even if she fully believed what OP's 2nd Ex told her. Ex #2 is obviously the bigger evil PoS of the two but that doesn't absolve what is supposed to be her best friend since childhood.

[@dimsufferer9951]

I disagree, a disgruntled ex feeding someone lies is not the same as a supposedly close childhood best friend backstabbing, lying, and trying to destroy you because they couldn’t be arsed to confirm anything with someone they should be able to trust

[@NineM_YorHa]

How much resentment/jealousy/hate must Bella have harbored for OP to be so willing to destroy her life. Not only setting her up at the wedding, but plan togheter with her absuer for months to systematically destroy her life.

[@vcubed3047]

Nah Bella was still a bad person and was waiting for something like this to turn OP into the villain. Cause no good friend would shit talk about them behind their backs. She was already jealous from the beginning of the plot.

[@sun_chariot6141]

Yeah, OP has massive grounds to sue for defamation of character, and with the evidence, would win.

[@Klebkatt]

You should never be ashamed of being in an abusive relationship. Never feel ashamed for someone else not able to to trust you and respect you. You put up with a lot of bullshit that you didn't have to because you were willing to work things out, but they weren't willing to put their egos and inadaquate feelings aside and took it out on you. You are not something to be ashamed of.

[@Chuckakhan]

Like I get that Matthew was the instigator but Bella was the one that carried it out so she’s the AH.

[@autumnspells]

The thing that’s always so disappointing and infuriating about these stories is that parents and family are so easily deceived by or willing to believe lies concocted about their child or loved one. Like you’ve been with them since day one? How can they possibly believe something a person has said that’s so outside of their child’s character? I don’t get it. It’s almost like they harbor a negative view of their child and were just waiting for someone to confirm what they believed about their child’s hidden true nature all along. So weird and disturbing!

[@amalzuhair4495]

Ok stopping halfway through so Bella has been telling her mother these things for MONTHS and the mom not for a second thought to call her daughter and ask what's actually going. Like hi OP why are you obsessed with your friend's bf?

[@Nicoleandstuff]

Bruh… Bella really said I’m bored let’s see how we can spice up life

[@erinfield1943]

Wow, that was insane. Matthew should be in jail for all his intimidation and threats.

[@Killahbee168]

People like Matthew are scary you can be having the best days of your life and then it all come Crashing Down because of a manipulator like him

[@bgcno2]

So bella believe whatever her "best" friend's ex told her and decided to destroy her friendship. The only homewrecking sl*t here is her. If i was barret id leave her too. You dont do things like that unless youre sleeping with the ex. Shes probably the one the ex cheated with

[@michal31131]

Super shady that someone wants you to wear white in someone else's *western* wedding. OP should've sent the screenshots to another bridesmaid for confirmation. Hopefully OP is doing much better and leave to toxic people behind.

[@OwenOmos]

Matthew is a genius but using it for the wrong thing what the hell 💀

[@harpocxy]

This is genius, but so was the invention of mustard gas.

[@harpocxy]

If there is an evil person, you better pray to God he is an idiot, because evil smart people are truly something that will keep you up at night.

[@reillycurran8508]

Psychopaths tend to have a high degree of intelligence, and are also very very very possessive over people they consider their "stuff"

[@chriscormac231]

@@harpocxy Fritz Haber also helped develop the processes used for fertilizer

[@girl1213]

So this whole rue was made because two people felt entitled to other people. Mark to OP. Bella to Barret.

[@n.g.l.]

Bella was jealous of OP, that's why she spread those lies.

[@user-fw7fj3df5r]

This is why there's a rule for every girl buddies, girl friends or lady friends. NEVER EVER TOUCH SLOPPY SECONDS. In OP situation she should have never given her approval for her neighbor to date her sloppy seconds. Because that image of you being with him first will always be there and she will hate him and later hate you.

[@ladyAgnis]

The first mistake was assuming the friendship/relationship was going to be normal after a friend gives a friend with benefits leftover as a life partner. Like it wasnt going to come up years down the line.

[@annaheafield1798]

I still don`t understand why Bella hated OP so much, but i`m glad she came to her sences and told Barrett about Bella`s evil actions.

[@adambenes3728]

Bella deserves to be married to Mathew

[@kingkongaintgotshitoneme]

Goddamn she became the victim of a supervillain genius mastermind.....Megamind would be proud of Matthew😂

[@dumbassproductions9005]

Even Megamind would be disgusted by him lmao

[@kingkongaintgotshitoneme]

@@dumbassproductions9005 true now that i think about it

[@randomusername3873]

I was wondering how the parents could hear that stuff about op and do nothing But of course, religion takes priority over their own child, nothing new

[@Mia-dt3gl]

Karma is always delicious.

[@susanmarks305]

Imagine an an ex doing all that against you, because you dumped his cheating self?!😮 Matthew should be jailed

[@AnimeFreakX4]

I think op doesn't realize that her fruebd was never her friend. Her college friends even told her how Bella would talk crap about her. I dont think its sunk in with op yet. If this was all it took for Barret to dump Bella. I think she was cheating with mike as well. Because if it was just that he would have tried to reach out and apologize.

[@uh4875]

If I was dating someone and I found out their heinous character then I would absolutely break up or even divorce if married. Why would I sign up the rest of my life to that?

[@GloriousRock]

Is it normal to date a friends/siblings hookup? Personally I couldn't see myself dating anyone thsgs dated/hooked eith my friends or siblings

[@moonshade3730]

I mean Bella only found out that they had hooked up after she started being infatuated with him, so I guess that changed things for her since the post mentioned Bella initially being upset over it.

[@RepellentJeff]

“She said I could wear white.” Come on OP, you just straight-up _laid_ on that landmine.

[@HeoBaby24]

What do you expect she literally just got this thing shoved into ger face people yelling and screaming at her

[@Maninawig]

I actually went to a reverse wedding. I can confirm they exist.

[@DarkEinherjar]

@@Maninawig Even then, it was too convenient to be invited last-minute and told to wear white, after being left out of everything else regarding the wedding.

[@RepellentJeff]

@@Maninawig Yes, but with how many stories there are of drama over wearing white to weddings, for me alarm bells would be going off enough to warrant confirming the colors with more than one damn person. Especially with how distant the “friend” had been acting.

[@unknown62211226]

​@@RepellentJeff Remember though that she was going by the word of someone she knew for a long time and believed she could trust.

[@grimmlord4211]

I'm guessing bella mad because she was played by both Mathew and Barrett then after being played as the fool she only blamed OP still for not telling her sooner and destroying her friendship too lol

[@jeanetteporter8114]

I understand people love to hold on to childhood memories and friendships, I guess as you mature you begin to realize what is good in your life and what is not, but some people never mature and still try to hold on to a toxic dream that was never great

[@jaylarkin4331]

This is what girl code is. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@michal31131]

Yup, Dumb and childish

[@allieisms]

Lol not me fist bumping the air cause of karma as OP is talking about the readers fist bumping the air 😂

[@Killahbee168]

Where there's a puppet there's a puppeteer

[@Rinefi]

7:42 a brilliant idea for a sentence for your depressed daughter XD

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

If my parents refused to even hear me out and just attacked me for shit, from there on out I would tell people I was an orphan. Just absolutely no way.

[@bratp4504]

It’s her fault she didn’t have to believe or go along with him

[@susanmarks305]

Op didn't recognize the insult of why she was being asked to be a bridesmaid. On top of being excluded from the engagement party.

[@flore_gsn7449]

"Bella fell for his act", and ? She still actively tried to destroy you. She didn't discussed things with even once. If she's so quick to trust the EX of someone, she isn't your friend to begin with

[@MysteryGaymer]

The way I did not see that ending coming

[@katherinenelson7221]

She's a bitter and she's been jealous of you. She whent out of her way to mack you the bad people in there life. It's all she has no life of her own so she took and whens your life. Go NC. Had a friend just like her but I head on to login. It's going to be better with out her. Keep your head up and live a great life

[@YugiDmega]

'Didn’t know if I should blast it all over-' yes. Yes. YES. Blast it all ovef social media, let them know they were wrong, 'I feel bad...' don't.

[@daniellewolf3697]

OH Boy I have A Feeling OP Is Gonna Update Again,And Bella Got What She Deserved, She Believe Matthew And Now She Has NO Husband

[@nicelyjay3921]

Op's not an asshole for not confirming to wear white with the other bridesmaids. Maybe she's a little bit stupid, but not an asshole at all.

[@beatriceaba8851]

Op has no self respect. If she didn’t want you as a bridesmaids then okay. But the second someone drops out she asks you, you tell her no.

[@charlottebarham7722]

Sue for defamation of character. OP shouldn't have to feel unsafe and like an outcast in her own hometown.

[@LadyWolvie82]

I think the following is part of future updates: 1. OP is granted the RO. 2. Matthew gets arrested and charged with varying cyber crimes (on a federal level if in the US), which includes cyberstalking (this is an actual crime). 3. Bella cheated on Barrett with more than just Matthew, causing a divorce caused by Bella. 4. OP's employer gets involved due to Matthew's confession, which includes firing those tied to Matthew. 5. OP takes the out of country job and moves abroad. She finds her true love in another country. 6. Bella has no one on her side once the info about Matthew is made public. Her parents will also disown her.

[@Lmao_69__]

this is some "marry my husband" vibes 😭

[@andreirosculet554]

Matthew seems like a text-book sociopath.

[@bigums21]

It was the crazy ex!!?!!!??? I didn’t see that coming.

[@kianna2530]

She introduced them! That girl needs help

[@DarkEinherjar]

Honestly, once she goes to the new country, OP needs to go low or no contact with her parents too. Even though they turned a new leaf and sided with their daughter in the end, the fact that they rejected her for so long over religion and politics is borderline unforgivable, and believing all the lies about her was absolutely unforgivable.

[@f1nex280]

Why does nobody on the internet believe in growth and change? They realized their mistake and now they’re making up for it. The woman who wrote the story seems happy to have her family back as well. Not to mention they’re probably the only family she has that doesn’t still believe she’s a weirdo. I’ve noticed it’s a common occurrence for people in the reddit space to immediately jump to cutting people out/divorce/breakup for no valid reason.

[@munchie3909]

This should honestly be illegal, this is like slander or something.

[@detectivewinters3180]

And OP was never heard from again, the end

[@LinkPizza]

The mom is wrong about her being an AH. If the bride told her what to wear, that’s what you wear.

[@taragaming7861]

Op is so weak

[@user-sq5mr8ut1o]

Sounds like Jehovah's witness. *Slams gavel* justified destruction.

[@avindrasookram3348]

What kind of parents don't check on their kid

[@user-vg7iy6nk8d]

With regards to Barrett the incident with white dress would have been red flag 1, finding out about Bella’s cooperation with evil ex would have been red flag 2( and that she could do that to her own childhood best friend)and finally 3, it’s almost a guarantee Bella slept with the evil ex. On Bella’s part, not an excuse but she would have had a seed of jealousy for the work off. I can almost feel sorry for her when after much therapy she betrayed her best friend, and torpedoed her marriage for the sake of a controlling narcissist

[@gajeelredfox1016]

Nah, them dude bros of Barrets for sure had the right idea not getting involved. Honestly, I'm the same. Aint no way I would be stepping in the middle of that minefield.

[@sosamma090]

She gave her blessings to get her best friend to get into relationship with a guy she was getting plowed lmaoooo. What kind of best friend does that?

[@ComeliaO7]

Her own mother said she was kind of an asshole for wearing white to someone’s wedding? What in the entire fuck? When my cousins father got married her dad and the whole bridal party all were wearing white. That’s not weird. Some people really do want to keep the whole white elegant theme. My male cousin got married and he wore a white tuxedo. And when my other cousin got married, she told me people could wear a white. She did not make a big deal about it. so the fact that her mom was really gaslighting the situation is so fucked up. Cut her off too.

[@Mischa21xo]

Wow. This woman really needs to grow up. She runs out of there crying like she was at fault, instead of standing up for herself when she knows that she's not in the wrong. Then she says later that she's not afraid to "taze the crap out of" her ex if he comes around her. LMFAO. AS IF a taser will mean anything to anyone when someone comes around you with a firearm. Get a firearm yourself and grow the hell up. What kind of grown woman acts like this... So weak that a few words will make her run away sobbing like a 6-year-old. Too weak to properly defend and arm herself with a proper firearm, and instead chooses some worthless taser. Ffs. Give me a break.

[@nateorade1819]

Wow this played out like a movie with the Mathew plot twist.

[@umagovindarajan4339]

Idk why but the OP is hella frustrating 😬🙄

[@julioakapyrocovarrubias3115]

Get away from all of them. Especially the mom and dad

[@Deedoof]

Once OP mentioned religion everything made sense.

[@brakis18]

No sympathy for anyone here. If you cant take up for yourself you get what you get.

[@jordywhidby4061]

That mom is hella shallow wtf

[@hanson417]

The plot twist 😮

[@shii5795]

This was psychotic!

[@sadiewashington2855]

Ahhhh another story that should lead people away from organized religion.

[@VeliThaGawd]

Could've just showed the screenshots to the 1st group of women but ig everyone is just a emotional coward

[@ColdSilverD1]

Apostate. Would this be JWs? If so, this story makes sense. They'd be against her for that alone; the 'proof' just made it easier to justify the exclusion. As for Bella? Just because she was manipulated does not justify her actions. She deserved to be left by her husband.

[@Tvhiti]

Oh they GOTTA be Morman

[@michal31131]

Or JW

[@tothewonder6248]

Wow.

[@Tocabocaisslay]

7:55 mom what the fuck

[@grde37fds]

I personally would have went nu lear revenge instead ... absoulute savage myself! But that is just me

[@Killahbee168]

Bella don't deserve no sympathy not only does she destroyed her friendship All For What clearly a mentally insane person she was never her friend in the first place if she was so quick to believe him

[@Bruue2011]

i hate everyone

[@floxer]

Someone knows what parkour map that is? ^^

[@ryangooseling]

Religion....ya, that Christian love...😒

[@mainegardenguy703]

Are there any positives to religion?

[@user-ko9zr7bd2k]

And I thought she claimed she had a father who would not put up with BS. . This whole post is bull shit .

[@helenasouza9196]

May I suggest you just drop the background Music altogether? It's not really necessary and sometimes it dampens the mood of a story that is more funny revenge than "someone died". I would be pressed to believe anyone would stop watching this channel if you drop the background Music. We're all here for the tea. And it's honestly hard to binge watch videos with funeral Music playing in every single one of them.