Childhood Scars-Dawren

[@Dawren_life.consultant]

I just want to say to everyone here. I truly wish you all the best and hope you live the life you deserve. Remember, you are loved, and you are absolutely irreplaceable. Take care of yourselves and keep going. ❤️

[@MrPnew1]

Thanks for sharing your story, and I wish you all the best

[@catherinehicks6733]

Your story was very well told and extremely inspiring. ❤

[@WhateverHappenedToHer0331]

Thank you for sharing your story. It moved me very much. You’re such a kind and compassionate person. Wishing you only good blessings for the rest of your life. ♥️

[@DopamineSchizo]

you have a gentle and beautiful soul, i wish you the best

[@1azhelenmo]

a story of hurt and loss and if more humans could find peace and happiness within themselves what a better wowrld it would be

[@terrybrown3036]

It's so wonderful to hear a man share his pain. Men are hurting everywhere, but feel they can't talk about it. Thank you for sharing

[@nicklauher9323]

Couldn't agree more. Logically sorting through pain, one step at a time, to find expression and happiness through that pain...

[@ThisStoryMatters]

He is such a sweet soul. Very calm and southing. Hope the best for this guy.

[@thegroovyhead]

Abso-effing-lutely.

[@Nick-tj9cr]

It really is. It helps everyone to know they're not weird, and not alone.

[@TonyS-i1e]

you are so right. we need more of this if we are going to heal and not pass it on to our kids.

[@jsoo67]

This one hits hard for me. People might not fully understand, but for him to tell his story from his culture takes a lot of courage. Normally it's not talked or shared because it brings shame to the family if that makes sense.

[@bettystouffer6012]

I am Korean and the culture and the pressure an expectations put upon Us male or female but mostly male then those of Americans. You can throw child development of American standards out the window. And if you have grandparents that have told you stories or had any influence on you? There's generational shame and expectations...😊

[@susanfinneman6488]

It does, and it's true

[@suzannefarrell5484]

Spot on!! Korean and 50, here. A lifeti.e in and out of therapy, then finally....EMDR the last two year. I finally feel like a valid human being. This is so common int the Korean culture, especially being raised in the U.S. Dawren, you are courageous! I am so sorry you suffered at the hands of your family. I am so happy for you for taking the responsibility to heal and find peace.​@bettystouffer6012

[@oioisweetheart3500]

well you should be grateful, generational shame makes people successful and makes them behave with honour and makes them work harder and don’t give up. It creates strong men and strong women with character and integrity. As result it makes the family stronger, wealthier and the country / culture successful. Stop feeling like a victim, because you are not. Visit a 3rd world country and soon you’ll feel grateful. If you ever feel like crying, you should do it Mexican style, in the privacy of the bathroom away from witnesses. Then you look at yourself in the mirror you wash yourself and you tell yourself. Pinche puto! tan grandote y llorando !? No mames!

[@jtabal100]

I was going to say .

[@justloooveb.1670]

The way he healed and confronted old places that brought him pain…. Wow… my hero!

[@vwbeep]

I've got chills!!!❤❤❤

[@parisa5014]

It's a really cool idea, I might give it a try!

[@Iaskbelievereceive]

I have never heard Mark be so quiet, and I'm grateful Dawren is healing and no longer as broken. Wonderful young man.

[@miller6333]

"I have never heard Mark be so quiet" you must be new here

[@izzydeadyet7336]

Wow, he was really serious about healing himself. It's interesting to hear stories of people not choosing drugs and alcohol to numb old wounds, but healing the right way ! Enlightenment

[@freespeech.7254]

I have had a horrible life beyond his, and never ever choose drugs, nor alcohol. It was hard difficult to finish my education. But, I dont dwell of my life. I live day by day.

[@a.leehilliard4716]

Mentally ill, damaged, end wounded people choose that path of destruction. Drugs and alcohol are not chosen by healthy people by chance no matter how many fairy tales you may believe in.

[@Courtney-pl7er]

Healing isn’t a competition. Don’t criticise what you don’t understand.

[@elamanecera]

@@Courtney-pl7er indeed

[@Italybrazilboy]

​@@Courtney-pl7eryes, the worst thing in humanity is judgment. Even my statement was a judgment

[@williamhartz8707]

A different kind of interview but shows how even “ordinary looking people” can have issues- not just ones that are homeless. Great message about forgiveness.

[@Wopedomer]

Yea tbh most of Marks videos don’t hit me crazy hard but I was definitely broke by this one. You can hear the pain in his voice the entire time, but yet he knew all this helped him. You could tell he was a graceful man and did everything right. He truly cared for the people around him but got fucked. I want to give him a hug

[@myodesign]

This man will, undoubtedly, leave a beautiful indelible mark on the world.

[@ThisStoryMatters]

@@myodesign You are right! Such a sweet spirit.

[@goergeskaplan2910]

I believe so too.

[@robertparsons313]

Dawren is a beautiful soul.

[@bettystouffer6012]

Annie's blessed to because he made it through all this and he's so composed even though it's a little broken English he kept saying brother instead of father I was getting confused I had to watch it twice lol! He's an angel and is going to help a lot of people

[@ShellBAtoms]

그는 정말 대단해요!

[@Nenas-2003]

Yess I agree

[@witchywoman4139]

This video should have been titled "Healing childhood scars" because of his uplifting message about the importance of forgiveness, including self-forgiveness. Dawren, you are a beautiful man, a beautiful story-teller, and you offer a beautiful message. I'm wishing you a life filled with happiness and beauty in every way.

[@ShellBAtoms]

I'm taking notes, and leaning a lot from Dawren.

[@elvenafae]

As a first generation Asian immigrant, it’s really comforting to see someone with our background talk about the abuse that is often times not talked about. I’m Japanese but, Asian cultures have truly stigmatized this especially for Men. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m only at the beginning of the video but I will be listening to the end.

[@araceli1461]

He’s a kind soul, he didn’t deserve that kind of childhood. I wish I could hug him. The world is better because of him.

[@sdalby9127]

Wow, this one really affected me. I wish I could go back in time and help those two boys. I can't believe how strong he is.

[@ashleybrown4015]

This is literally the most eloquently told story of LIFE & WHAT IT MEANS TO BE ALIVE! I have tears rolling down my face. Thank you so much for this. Truly inspiring!!!!!

[@patchoulijulie7769]

This is the definition of what it means to be a good man. YOU are a genuine, wonderful guy, who deserves to be happy.

[@SomeoneSomethingSomewhereSafe]

12:15 I’m mesmerized by the way he’s been on the verge of tears for the entire interview so far, but holds his focus and gets his story out. Incredible individual.

[@V-nMontague]

When he spoke about his mother leaving.. him saying “I felt like I was naked” stuck with me. It was a such a good analogy for feeling exposed, vulnerable, and helpless. He was a helpless child, nobody even batted an eye. I’m so glad we could hear the evolution of him and how evolved for the betterment of his health *stands* *up* 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Nanticoke]

Yes. I agree. All that and unprotected. I feel for him and may God bring unexplainable healing. ❤

[@bim.k]

What a strong man. He did The Work. Hope you have a happy life Dawren!

[@sofiagoncalvescecilio8131]

I couldn't agree more.What a wonderfull human being ❤

[@TonyS-i1e]

yes this is real strength, a real man.

[@michelelou2598]

You are a strong and beautiful person. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@jeanneramirez1999]

What a handsome young man. I wish him nothing but good wishes and a beautiful life.

[@neworleans1979]

Dawren- You are so strong. You did the best you could with what you had. Taking care of your brother tells me you are such a kind human. Just know you are so special and the trauma you have is not your fault. I truly hope you can find peace and happiness that you so deserve. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable telling your story. Love to you from my home. Prayers to you as well.❤

[@carissamatthies8693]

Phenomenal man. I loved listening to his story

[@greenie75]

This man is such an amazing communicator. The clear sequence and delivery of his heart-wrenching story is unlike any other I have seen on this channel. I feel privileged to hear what he has shared. I have found it so personally helpful.

[@jeff1130]

I always thought I had a tough life until I watched this channel... I realize now that's so many people have life so much harder than I do..... How can a child have a chance when their parents don't give them a chance.

[@GypsyRock]

This is top quality stuff Mark. My favorite interview you have done in a long long time. Has a lot of learning lessons and insight, and shows a man stripped down to a broken shell of his emotions and how he freed himself with love and forgiveness and compassion. Hard to do for most, rare for men. Please do more like these. I really hope the best for this guy he seems amazingly centered after all he's been through

[@kattnoll]

What a beautiful man you turned out to be, Dawren. Truly incredible you were able to forgive all those people who hurt you and move forward from your trauma.

[@melinakardell8758]

Its so beautiful when hurt children are able and willing to heal themselves as adults. Its a choice not many are capable of achieving. Congratulations to you, Dawren.

[@FFLapin]

Gosh…..family with so much trauma, poor guy, hugs 😢

[@YeetCodeX]

Thank you for sharing your story and as an Asian American myself struggling with parental abandonment issues currently, it really helps a lot to hear about others like myself. Thank you Dawren and God bless.

[@Sheboss333]

Stay 💪 strong 💙✌️✨️💫🤗

[@Jbarham32]

Asian British here, I can totally relate too.... Thank you for sharing Darwen

[@sweetcaroline7107]

Nigerian Canadian woman here. Dealing with parental abandonment too. My dad left the day after we moved to Canada. It's so covert how trauma affects us. Healing now slowly but surely.

[@carolinecheatham1087]

Oh my god! What a fabulous young man. I feel so lucky to have heard his story- he is so amazing.

[@timothy-523]

I love this guy. I can't imagine how he must feel after all he's been through. He's such a sweet guy with a great heart. I wish him nothing but happiness.

[@greencare9702]

So much vulnerability and courage!!! May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.

[@cozyredpanda1633]

Every little boy needs a great father and role model in their life.

[@ow3wells]

He doesn’t need an abuse father.

[@lisamac2764]

Even if he has to be the father who parents himself.

[@7WeekendWarrior]

@@ow3wells well... Both actually. I got abusive mother and 0 fucks given father. I appreciate my father for non-impacting my life for sure. But he is literally 0 in my life.

[@elamanecera]

@@lisamac2764 in the process of trying to do that now, re/mother and re-father myself at the same time… no one should have to do this excruciatingly heavy work. Trying to put things together now in this program called Reparenting Daily. It’s not easy, and it’s a very long process.

[@elamanecera]

@@7WeekendWarrior abusive mother is the word man 💔 i feel for you

[@candygirl9504]

I’m so glad that Dawren had this platform to talk about his trauma. He is working on healing from his trauma. This is why we should be kind to others because we don’t know a person’s story. I wish him the best.

[@jmsrnmsn]

As a first-generation Filipino-American, a daughter, and the first born, Dawren described my father's abuse exactly. My mother put up w/ a lot too. She was just as abusive, but I'm willing to consider that she was projecting her own unhappiness onto me. I have two younger sisters. My thoughts were to protect them at all costs. If this meant that I was to take the brunt of all the abuse and violence, then so be it. I'm 55 now, and I still struggle w/ forgiveness because forgetting is very hard - especially when PTSD moments take me by surprise and cause such visceral, emotional, and tearful responses. I hope to one day be able to fully and completely let go. My father hasn't apologized or even acknowledged what he did, not even the time when he beat me so bad. I was 17 yrs old and had to go to the emergency room. He knew i was there and found me , probably wanting to control what I would say, but i told him i had already spoken w/ the police. He still did not apologize. I didn't press charges becz my mom was afraid that he would go to jail, not make money, and we would go hungry. Not too long, I tried to talk about what pain he caused me growing up. He deflected and said to "stop thinking about it" and "that was a long time ago." My mom has apologized, and I'm slowly taking that in. I still don't trust my parents. I was raised on lies, betrayal, gaslighting, blame, shame, and guilt. Thank you, Dawren. Thank you, Mark. This spoke to me in so many ways.

[@jayceeb3142]

I’m sorry for everything that happened to you. Your comment about not pressing charges so you don’t put your mom and sisters in more vulnerable positions or how you can’t trust your parents bc of the lies and abuse were just so heart breaking. I hope you can find peace and happiness someday.

[@oilnurturelady2347]

This is possibly the most brave & beautiful story I've EVER heard! I cried listening...Am extending soulful love & glimmers of joy to Dawren. There are simply no words...😢🙏💜🙌

[@sheepnomore8063]

What a wonderful story. It's so refreshing to see someone take all of the trauma of their unhealthy childhood and figure it out without drugs and alcohol. The power of forgiveness is life changing.

[@eunae-elizabeth1324]

I hope there is a part 2! What a gripping story- his quivering voice and pain were hard to hear at times. Great message, forgiving other people but most of all yourself.

[@WilliamWatts-uy5ln]

Mark: I think letting him speak was cathartic. It allowed him to present himself as he wanted. Watch his hands. They are open and honest. You can actually listen to him and not be distracted by drug induced insanity. Wish him well.

[@neworleans1979]

Thank you for this comment. His hands really do say alot. His eyes are full of pain. He seems like a very kind and genuine soul. Many prayers for Dawren.❤

[@dianariley6112]

You and your brother deserved so much better. You did amazingly well for what little your parents did for you. You’re a beautiful soul, I hope you never feel sadness or guilt another day in your life. I’m so sorry for all your losses. I wish you peace.

[@ID_iKONIC_VIP]

Omg cried so much for there child he was and all that he went through. Dawren's story of healing and forgiving was so inspirational... I'm sure he will help many others in this lifetime. I hope he will be healed and have peace and love from now on.

[@jasonc.8521]

I needed this. I'm still trying to heal from the trauma and abuse I suffered as a child. I will be 50 years old next year.

[@PearlsCraftsYT]

Healing is such a huge thing - not only for yourself but for your kids, your bloodline. What a wonderful gift you gave yourself and those that you love. Stay strong Dawren, thank you for sharing your story of strength

[@Chris-rv5mm]

God Bless you, Dawren. Good for you for taking care of your younger self.

[@jamiecrawford8133]

Great man. Great communication skills. One of my favorite SWU episodes.

[@SecretSquirrelDunDun]

You doing this talk has helped and will continue to help people, trust and believe! Thank you for sharing your story.

[@Lexington-Felix]

VERY WELL SPOKEN AND HANDSOME.

[@gcmacyman]

I know how he feels in many ways, but like him, I too had to learn at a very young age to keep my level of strength and get through horrible times but still maintain my own level of peace and contentment and no one or nothing will erase the smile from my face. I very much admire Darwen. He's a good natured handsome man and may his future be bright.

[@cherylaguila]

I love this one. Childhood trauma is hard to talk about.

[@LisaSovde]

This man is so introspective. He's had a long tough journey & has slowly came out on the other side.

[@kyliemack1131]

This man seems to have such a beautiful soul. I wish him all the healing he deserves.

[@glor432]

For so much pain and abandonment he has been through, he has such a bright aura. I wish him all the best in life

[@eliisha151]

I don’t know what to comment. Your strength to reflect and forgive is what i aspire to have. Also it feels so refreshing to see men opening up about pain rather than acting emotionless. I truly believe u are helping people to change and inspiring them.

[@darondatoole7439]

This is truly an incredible young man. An absolutely extraordinary soul. Extraordinary soul. I have my own load of issues from being abandoned, mental & emotional abuse, invisible, love starved, devalued, excluded, etc. but honestly nothing like him. I have been to South Korea, worked a year there. I know how huge it is that he has opened up, shared & Wow! his growth.

[@georgina4152]

Dawren is a person of courage ...... all the best ❤

[@kristopherbearden590]

What an amazing man this person is. A perfect example of forgiveness and fortitude. I have a tremendous amount of respect for the way he carries himself. We need more of him in the world. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope nothing but peace, love, and happiness in your life.

[@captnghosteyes]

Dawren, you are such a BRAVE/VULNERABLE human being. Never forget that. It takes REAL STRENGTH & COURAGE to share this type of experience. Know that you are fully and completely loved for who are. My heart goes out to you, and i hope that you realize that you’re meant to be on this 🌍 w/ the rest of us!

[@BasillioDorado-p2l]

The most powerful one of these I’ve seen. So hard to hear. But well worth it. So humbling. Amen

[@myrootsgraspNewsoil]

I have so much respect for him!!! What a beautiful heart and courageous soul! Thank you for sharing your pain with us and may your story help heal the untold thousands who deeply need it. ♥️

[@amyw9665]

Dawren you have been through so much. What an amazing brother, son, friend you are. Thinking of you and sending you a big hug ❤❤❤ you are the comfort to others in your life that you wished you had as a child and the world needs you

[@vanhoudtshoorn]

Oh wow this conversation blew my mind. What a beautiful, kind and humble soul. This is true forgiveness. May your life be filled with joy, love, happiness and goodhealth❤

[@nanirangel-oz9zw]

@marklaita I must say this is of the most human interviews you have done. I applaud you. This young man’s life. Has not been easy through no fault of his own, he’s strong/has dignity/and acknowledges the power he has over this life, regardless of all that’s happened. Wish him nothing but the best.

[@fandangoyo]

How can anyone not forgive and embrace this man? Thank you Dawren for your story.

[@kuxica]

This one has me bawling like a baby. I can relate to him in so many ways. Thanks for sharing his story.

[@andreanicole225]

What a beautiful human being. I hope that the rest of your life is full of blessings and joy

[@jenniferbax7667]

What Dawren said about forgiving his grandmother on top of that hill with a beautiful view was so inspiring and a beautiful way to think of how to forge forgiveness. Your an amazing person and I really think your otherworldly view will help many people x

[@SatyaKaliYam]

Dawren, I hear you, I see you, I feel you, and I believe you. Your heart is open and your soul is pure. You are a blessing to us all by sharing your wisdom from your inner child woundings. You were the scapegoat and it’s not easy being that person who can take it. Thank you for showing us and helping others being blessed with these insights to be vulnerable as an adult man in today’s society. I cried listening to your words and your voice, I felt the little boy behind the deep voice. I want to hug you and the little boy who suffered this experience. May you always be blessed with your grace. You are a spiritual warrior. Thank you. 🙏🙌💞💝☯️☸️🕉️✝️☮️💟

[@StardustMoneybags]

Forgiveness is so fascinating…. Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey. I was engaged to a Korean American man who looks very similar to you. Your story is very similar to his. I left him due to his control and aggression. Your story made me forgive him. I am keeping only good memories now of him.

[@rm2828]

Dawren… You are an incredibly warm, strong, articulate, intelligent, introspective, elegant and handsome person… You shine brightly even without having been nurtured… Such an INSPIRATIONAL story ❤from Montreal

[@liber7773]

You are so much stronger than you think you are Dawren. Thank you for telling your story.

[@staceylopez6247]

I have never commented on a KZbin video before, but this story is amazing. Your story of resilience and working towards finding peace is amazing. I wish you peace and happiness. May you be able to shine your light unto someone who needs it.

[@FernandaTeles30]

Bless you Dawren ❤ you have grown so much through your pain, and your awareness is admirable. I hope life brings you many blessings moving forward.

[@josireekie4482]

What a beautiful man, you very rarely meet special people like him. What a example to everyone who has suffered

[@mjm9285]

This broke my heart this young man was abandoned by his family many times over he should be proud of himself for surviving and always moving forward despite poverty and emotional trauma

[@JohnTran-w4t]

This is great, Darwen and Mark.

[@chicame2]

Cannot stop crying!!! What grace, what courage, what a beautiful man. I wish him peace and joy and much success! You deserve much more Darwin. I pray you get to speak with your Aunt someday soon. Bendiciones ❤

[@christinacusumano8216]

Wow what an amazing man, his story made me cry.

[@janinesnyder8250]

That’s so smart, rewiring your emotional “childhood systems” at the source.

[@cinders1413]

If I could jump through the screen and hug you I would. Your story is so moving yet your acceptance and grace about the past is amazing. A truly beautiful soul. I wish you joy, happiness and love for the rest of your life.❤

[@drkdrumz]

Very powerful. Thank you Dawren.

[@RonniGail-u5l]

Dawren, Thank you💙🙏🏻

[@lissettebrooks7659]

You are an incredible person. Your past does not define you. How you chose to use your past to heal and help others, including yourself, is absolutely beautiful. As someone who has a lot of lifelong trauma from childhood into adulthood, I appreciate your ability to be vulnerable and share your story. Your strength gave a stranger in Massachusetts today a reason to go to work without the weight of self loathing. It's a beautiful life, because of people like you.

[@cheyennewolf6095]

What a powerful story. Your perspective is profoundly beautiful. Thank you for sharing, Dawren!

[@shosmyth1454]

Wonderful young man and triggered in me how important it is to heal childhood traumas!! Thank you. 💕💕💕💕💕

[@LaurenmRios]

Wow. So incredibly inspiring. I wish you the very best Dawren!

[@taniaalford4490]

Thank you for sharing your story. Hearing the ways you worked through your trauma is very helpful ❤️

[@jimhim585]

What a beautiful story about hope and forgiveness arising from deep trauma. Handsome chap too. Thank for sharing Dawren and Mark.

[@quandaharding2977]

I know so many kids from other countries that raised themselves since babies. This man is as sweet as it gets!

[@xTurningPointx]

Dawren you are one of the brightest lights in this world! A kind, beautiful, loving soul. I wish you the best sweet angel

[@tesa_renee]

This is my favorite story on this channel. This man has a beautiful spirit!! ❤️

[@DOdo-gs4cl]

고생하시고 힘드셨네여~ 앞으로 아주 행복한 시간만 남았어여^^😀

[@trulymeashley]

Dawren, you are a kind, compassionate, resilient person and storyteller! There’s such a powerful, healing presence within you that the world is so blessed to see! May you continue to be strong, happy and I hope you find the peace within yourself that you truly deserve! I wish the best for you & your family!

[@amorperez8641]

Thank you for sharing your story Dawren. You are absolutely right, your experiences are assets to helping others. May you continue to find the peace you need to help others. Blessings 🙏🏼

[@muliefriend4785]

Living as a child with mentally ill caregivers is a nightmare 😢

[@ewaleahy4520]

Dawren, thank you for sharing your life story. Nothing that happened to you, was or is your fault. You were just a child that could not possibly comprehend your parent's problems and actions. You have been surrounded by "broken people" who should have been loving, supporting and taking care of you and your brother, physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially, but they all failed you miserably. Your aunt has her own emotional problems (again you are not to blame!) and at this time she is not able or willing to see the truth about her own son, who himself was not mentally stable. You did your part and there is nothing you could have done to help him. He needed professional help. Your past does not define you and I'm so glad you have the drive, passion and willingness to do better and love others. Take care of your family first, that is your calling as a husband and a father. You have a beautiful soul! May God's blessing and favor be with you and your family.

[@theresedixon1824]

I am proud of you and all the work you have done to overcome your life’s obstacles, I pray you will achieve true healing and can be joyful and live a wonderful life. God bless you ✨🕊️

[@Chelsbrooke08]

What a sweet and kind soul! Love listening to this interview and the vulnerability of this man. Thank you for sharing.

[@kimmy13069]

Dawren thank you for sharing and being open and vulnerable. I know many will find your story inspiring.

[@lizethmejorado7957]

Sending you and your family a great big hug, billions of prayers, and endless love. You have made an impact on me today that will last forever.

[@nicolettaturano7020]

Beautiful soul. I wish more people could reach the place he has. My mother's death was the single worst most impactful event of my life. However, it's been my greatest lesson. It has provided me with a level of gratitude I never knew I could reach and it has allowed me to live with empathy, compassion and strength.

[@richotto100]

Darren: You gave me inspiration today that I needed. Thank you so much. Thanks Mark; you always find people that strike a nerve with me.

[@celinemccutcheon1988]

*Dawren....😊

[@signupz6576]

This story healed me. Thank you so much for your strength and for sharing Dawren