choosing to accept your personality - a New Year Resolve

choosing to accept your personality - a new year resolve
Introversion and living in alignment with your spirit.
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[@phoebelianna7226]

I’m a highly introverted person and I feel like all I need in my life is my mom and sister, my pets, and my connection to nature. And of course books. Always books! I can find more emotional connection within a book than in a crowd of people.

[@lisahoggarth9182]

I loved reading your comment, it’s so beautiful! It’s wonderful you know what you need and how you have a connection to nature and animals! I’m the same that way, I grew up in South Africa, a place where everyone wants to either be in a first world country or have the new best things, I suppose just like I guess many many people everywhere! I was blessed to grow up next to a nature reserve and from young I learnt to appricate little things and find pleasure in everyday beauty like a daisy that has just blossomed or even harvesting fruit. I truly hope one day my kids can experience something similar

[@brightness3834]

@@lisahoggarth9182 Many people won't even see the things you find beautiful because they always have their eyes set on the next thing they believe they needed. Then when they have it, they're not capable of appreciating it either, because their eyes are set on the next thing once again, leading to an endless search for shallow accessories and a restless mind. How wonderful that you can appreciate the beauty in the things surrounding you.🌞

[@lisahoggarth9182]

@@brightness3834 awww this is so beautiful thank you darling. Yes I agree with you. You said it so wonderfully. I hope one day they get to see the beauty in daily things for it will always bring them such joy. It’s an ongoing lesson to learn from beauty near by. But it’s always there, if we open our eyes to see it xxx

[@Texan_Gal]

Same 💛

[@lo9257]

This.

[@MicheleLRid]

When I was growing up, society referred to introversion as “shyness” and wrote volumes on how to overcome it. If I’d only known then that this is just who I am, I wouldn’t have fought so hard to change. I never felt as though I fit in with or was understood by my peers. Now I’m happy with who I am but continue to struggle with navigating this loud and invasive world.

[@mshyness]

Thank you for this. I been feeling this lately

[@Fiore-23]

True

[@KN-er2ps]

Me too

[@MicheleLRid]

@sarah j. yes! Mine did the same thing.

[@chrisamies2141]

I was always called 'shy' but i thought, shy is when you want to talk to people but are afraid to. I just didn't want to.

[@nanigoose]

No matter whether you are an introvert or extrovert or somewhere in between, accepting yourself as you are is a step toward happiness. I love silence and being alone. I am especially content when I'm outside, experiencing nature. And sitting with, watching, and listening to my chickens (they are very calming). Thank you for your inspiring videos.

[@poetryinus1110]

I love listening to chickens too !! 🥰

[@MissFlutterGirl]

I’m exactly the same. I love nothing more than being at my allotment garden with my chickens.

[@followyourdreams8673]

Really glad to hear people are just like me and prefer to be outside in nature and with animals. It’s given me confidence to be proud of who I am and not put myself down for not being a party goer.

[@Dominique03]

That sounds so beautiful, nanigoose.

[@adriankenward9371]

Beautiful thoughts x

[@cco4231]

Her soul is so beautiful, sometimes I forget there are people like her in the same world I live in. We have our eyes fixed on the more extroverted people and we are usually not giving attention and understanding to the words of a silent observer.🦋🐞🕊

[@pavithrajanarsan1940]

Love you mentioned that .it got me thinking about it too..:)

[@deekshaverma2132]

I feel like silent observers and introvert people are more beautiful and sees the world in a different way

[@greenkitty82]

It's because mainstream society rewards the extroverts and condemns the introverts. Growing up I was told by being academic, loving books and films and being quiet that I was boring and I should be more loud, more demonstrative, more "fun" because that's what others found attractive as being quiet brought no excitement for anyone. But if it's not in your spirit to be like this you can't and you should never change to suit others. I'm a spiritual character and so my spirit commands me to be introvert and silent, always deep in thought.

[@TheGeekMonster]

As a fellow introvert who thinks that a quiet life of nature, simplicity, and creativity would the ideal existence, I can relate to all of this. I hope one day, I can be in a cozy little cabin, surrounded by books, music, a few pets, and perhaps someone I love. I would feel most blessed.

[@rolandwidmer6354]

Start planning ... ;-)

[@gayathris6111]

Me too

[@ImSimplyAHuman]

Amen 🙏🏻 and ditto!

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

That's a thing but we also have our civic duties and a civilization to maintain. At least here in the west.

[@lindalowry1513]

I met another introvert we married, retired early left our big city life and moved to a small country city. We have a quite life full of wonders like finding a chestnut tree and yes we did roast them and they have a unique taste. Find your path.

[@veejo9535]

I grew up knowing that my quiet, shy, behaviour was a disappointment to family members around me, to feel I was an uninteresting wallflower at school and to discover during adolescence and early adulthood that I was different in that I disliked parties and put up with them as I didn’t know how to refuse attendance. I thought there was something psychologically wrong with me and that I was a broken thing. I did not flourish. What a joy it was for me when I discovered there were many others out there like me, that what I am is an introvert and that it is ok to be that way. I am now so happy to be who I am and to celebrate that. UTube, and beautiful channels like yours, has made this possible.

[@fioerre]

💕

[@Wa2788]

I have the same story. I am 34, and ppl still don’t forget to point out how quiet I am. It has been a long hard journey to embrace myself as I am. I came to know about the word called introvert only in my late 20s. Till then I thought I was a misfit or a curse to the world.

[@annabrabston2892]

What you said about socializing really resonated with me. Thank you for making me feel less alone about my introvertedness. You make me want to stop blaming myself for wanting to spend time alone

[@TheCottageFairy]

I can relate, I’m glad we could support each other - much love and light to you 🤍

[@MuzicaCrestina4you]

Im the same ..

[@riettevandeventer9955]

I love spending time alone. I feel at peace. Be blessed beautiful introvert

[@zeehondje1000]

I am the same!

[@Jmaninaz1]

I am right there with you--so easy to get caught up in the societal expectations of how one is supposed to be, especially if you live in a bigger city. We are human "beings," so there is nothing wrong at all wrong with just being--too often over the course of my 59+ years now I have been a human "doing" instead of a human being, and when I fall into that trap, I alway feel disconnected and not at all content. Here's to however you choose to live your life!

[@rxstrmom]

I so get you. I'm married and I'm a loner. Like you, I too need my alone time every single day. Love your channel. xoxo patti

[@schatzishomestead8427]

I to am a loner as well. I use to fight it, but it made me physically sick and adrenal glands destroyed. Now I embrace my introvert self.

[@todddenson7354]

I like your natural teas, how you carefully pick flowers and herbs.

[@katies8080]

@Art Hobbies Family I'm not sure if I've heard the this term you use, but I love how you say "socially different but unique" and I guess that would describe me too.

[@katies8080]

Well lucky you. My husband doesn't understand my need to have time to myself. Incredibly annoying when he's home.

[@Anamija]

Wow,so glad to hear that. I‘m a married loner,too and sometimes struggle with it. My husband‘s the opposite of me. I guess,he struggles with me and my spirit as well,sometimes.Greetings from Germany

[@debrap947]

It took me decades to discover that I am okay...I am an introvert. I had to get to 62 years old, a life of experiences...good and bad to realize this. Other people's opinions matter less and less everyday, and I find peace.

[@KrissiCreates]

I'm right there with you!!!

[@sweetdweams]

Me as well and exactly the same age. New Years here in 65 mins and what a fitting last KZbin video to watch for 2020. Bless you all. HAPPY NEW YEAR

[@debrap947]

@@sweetdweams Happy New Year to you!

[@featheredsunsets4675]

💜💜

[@luisv7117]

I am the opposite and I was thinking that being extrovert and friendly will lead me to better things, but to be honest it hasn't happen

[@Monika-no3pl]

People think we are weak or shy but the fact is we are different.we are strong enough to live quitely alone.we don't always need too many people around us all the time.we don't live to please everyone around us . this is our strength to live like this.

[@samb5208]

You speak so beautifully

[@Monika-no3pl]

@@samb5208 Thank you

[@nicoleonfeels]

We should all look back at 2020 and be proud no matter the outcome... we made it this far :)

[@andthencametherain4419]

Agreed ....2020 was a discovery of oneself it's how u used it ❤️.....have a great year ahead

[@emilysmith2784]

Totally agree. 2020 helped me realise that it’s not my job that leaves me exhausted at the end of the day but the large open plan office, I would have never known this if it wasn’t for this year!

[@luckystarpiano]

Amen 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@alwayslearning7672]

"Comparison is the thief of all joy"

[@brecruz4832]

Agreed!!

[@laurenwilliams5815]

I'm writing this quote down! Thank you for the reminder love this!

[@eulabergado6927]

@@laurenwilliams5815 Theodore Roosevelt can be credited for this " Comparison is the thief of joy" Soooo true. Take care!

[@beckyparker1532]

Love the quote!

[@badindiegamer]

This gave me a feeling of deep peace, and changed my lookout on my New Years resolutions. Maybe instead of vowing I'll change, I should be vowing I'll love who I already am. Thank you

[@maleeka6312]

wow i really connected to this comment- thank u

[@Claudia_K.]

This! Well put.

[@nicolegenerale]

i completely agree yes exactly this!! let's love who we already are naturally

[@mattj1783]

That's perfect!

[@Jmaninaz1]

Well said--that was so eloquent and 100% true, so thank you for this important reminder!

[@riverunner9978]

I am 70 this year. I shared a tradition with my granddaughter this holiday season . We made snow angels in the snow!⛄️❄️☀️ I’m an introvert.

[@hannashepherd1208]

This is amazing! I am almost 30, my grandmother is still alive! I love and cherish moments like these! I will never forget when her and I did snow angels! 🤗👌❤️

[@riverunner9978]

@@hannashepherd1208 ♥️

[@kfitz192]

That's so beautiful! Making snow angels is one of my traditions too. I'll soon be 68. I wish my grandchildren lived closer so we could all make snow angels together.

[@riverunner9978]

@@kfitz192 ....I wish mine near also . Is it like that for every grandmother?

[@kfitz192]

@@riverunner9978 I bet it is. Especially now.

[@karenwalker1812]

It's funny how automatically people think your lonely just because your alone. They don't believe me when I tell them how much I enjoy it. I am looking forward to the new year, and more of your beautiful videos. Happy New Year !!

[@williamb7275]

Exactly!

[@scotteralus8188]

You are = you’re Your - possessive

[@eternitywithjesus777]

I get the same reaction when I tell people I live on a farm out in the boondocks.

[@margarethafalco63]

Same

[@rubberbiscuit99]

The degree to which others "believe" us when we explain we enjoy peace and our own company reflects their level of comfort with themselves.

[@annedevries3721]

Thank you for this. My husband is very introverted and I am extraverted. His lack of responsiveness, as well as need to experience new things together, sometimes make me feel lonely and rejected. At the same time he feels like he's not good enough for me and that he should be more like me, forcing himself in situations that he finds stressful just to prove his love for me. This video reminded me of how different and beautiful we both are. I will tell him tomorrow first thing 🙂 happy new year!

[@fc4660]

Hi Anne, you might want to explore the traits of Highly Sensitive People (HSP). It’s helpful to understand that some people are just made that way and how best to manage life to the satisfaction of everyone. It might bring your husband some relief to know that such a thing exists. Dr Elaine Aaron’s work is very informative.

[@tonyarolfe6107]

I'm an extrovert married to a highly introvert know the feeling. He accepts I need to go out to be around people I come home and he stays here. Then I'm good. Completely understand 😀❤️

[@ccsays]

Although 2020 was a year most would want to forget, it was the year that made me embrace my introversion. While many struggled with the social restrictions and lockdowns, I was thriving and the happiest I had been in a long time. I learnt a lot about myself and where my strengths are and that my introversion is itself a strength and not a weakness.

[@emilysmith2784]

Couldn’t agree more.

[@valeriemcwilliam7933]

Yes this is what happened to me too, 2020 helped me to discover a lot about myself,I have spent many , many years trying to be like other people and to fit in, to discover that's not really what I wanted or needed at all, I feel blessed and appreciate these comments, thankyou 😊

[@jukes243]

Well said. The lockdown doesn't phase me at all either. However, I do feel for extroverts. They need ppl around them. This is so very hard on them.

[@daisychain3007]

This is something that I have always wanted to say out loudly, ccsays.

[@carolinespianomeditations9222]

Totally agree - this is what I have felt too😊

[@TJ-kz1ul]

I have this video in my playlist history and I'm listing to it over and over and over again. I can't thank you enough, Paola. I was raised in a harsh home, and criticized so harshly for being "too sensitive." It has plagued me my whole life. Even at the age I am now, I often have an inner critic, putting me down "why can't you work more like other people do" "if you would have taken that job it would have helped you financially, why do you have to be so sensitive" etc. etc. etc. This video is a healing balm to my very highly sensitive soul!! xoxoxo

[@thehynelife]

I can resonate so much with this. My daughter is only 6 but already in every report it says 'highly emotional' and 'day dreamer' she definitely struggles in crowds just like me x

[@lilyrain6555]

I’ve been very sick lately and one thing that calms me down is rewatching your videos, i hope to live a calm life one day.

[@joyceconnolly1065]

My affirmation for you is perfect health in the New Year. KNOW that it is possible. ♥️

[@TheSign0]

Praying for your healing.

[@keawhitmore3842]

Releasing toxins can be from any or all of our bodies, Physical, emotional, mental, Spiritual. We are so much more, then we think we are. Be gentle with yourself and thank your body, for relieving you of all your toxins. Take care to nourish yourself, in all ways, drink, eat and breathe deeply releasing all stress and strife. Turn everything in the home off and light a candle, just for you and your process. You are a powerful being. Let release and rest rejuvenate, regenerate and revitalize you. May your New Year be blessed, with your creativity and abundance.

[@Lucky_5090]

❤💖

[@Abigail---]

Hope you get better💖🌼

[@brecruz4832]

I also think it’s common for quiet sensitive people to need solitude and nature because it’s less abrasive then society and more life giving’

[@TheCottageFairy]

I have gone through a lovely journey of self acceptance over the last couple years - I wanted to share a bit with you - thank you for your lovely comments! ⬇️ To those who are expecting a postcard from me in the mail: please let me know (e-mail me @ [e-mail]) if you have not received it yet (over 2 weeks), I know mail is slow in December but I don't mind sending a second postcard just to be sure it gets to you! Thank you so much for your support, I read each of your lovely messages and even though I cannot respond to them individually it always makes my day.

[@weltschmertzz]

This is why people like me grow up internalizing anger because society told us repeatedly how it's wrong to be ourselves. Quarantine, being away from outside opinion, has taught me how to accept myself more and be happy in my own skin. I've been unemployed for almost a year and I've found that I don't need a lot to be happy. I had a job but was so stressed and was frequently sick due to the physical and emotional toil but now I haven't drank one medicine since March last year. Productivity is overrated.

[@MintLee364]

I so appreciate this video. I spent years of my life trying to be someone else before realizing that my sensitive, introverted self has so much to offer. Thanks for helping us feel less alone. :)

[@deborahcoyle7612]

In my mid fifties I’m finally accepting and embracing being an introvert and learning to let go of the shame I’ve always felt. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@carolinespianomeditations9222]

Same here (same age too!) 😊

[@fc4660]

Good for you! Honour that lovely self of yours ❤️

[@Theresa-jq3dw]

Yes🙌

[@charlheynike9619]

Some of the most influential people in history were introverts.

[@Claudia_K.]

Who? I’d like to know more!

[@charlheynike9619]

Isaac Newton, Steven hawking, Alan Turing, pretty much every philosopher, sage, writer, artist etc

[@marie27023]

Most of the musicians/painters/writers are introverts

[@LiLoTech]

@@Claudia_K. In addition to others noted below, I believe Michelangelo was.

[@Claudia_K.]

@@charlheynike9619 Thank you!

[@belindaknowles7440]

I love being alone. Even as a child I would wander off to spend time by myself. Sometimes I would ride my bicycle to the park and spend hours playing and thinking. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@nla5307]

I love going on long road trips where I get lost in my thoughts for hours.

[@mimss5277]

I really needed this. When you said you used to find yourself lonely because you would compare yourself to someone with a different personality. I found myself in awe because this is what is happing to me at the moment. I just wanna say thank you so much.

[@nicolegenerale]

I have done this for so many years that when she said that, a huge weight just lifted off of me giving into a deep peace within me. She is so wise!

[@alianasalvanco4415]

Wow

[@alianasalvanco4415]

Aaaa

[@savvyhealing]

Exactly me too

[@Peachy08]

You and I are so much alike. I have no friends except my family. My husband is my best friend. I love my time alone. I am definitely an introvert. I enjoy reading,art and gardening. I live my life.💖

[@jamesync]

I'm an extrovert myself, however, I totally love introverts they are often the ones that will be taking me out into nature or giving me a unique perspective of something & also helping me appreciate cute animals and all the rest nature has to offer. I'm pretty sure the Earth would suffer if only extroverts were in it and probably giving speeches all day long. I really appreciate & love the warmth that exudes from these videos so please continue to give us more.

[@GaryGirouard]

Ahhh. Is the sound of my stress melting away. Your soothing voice. The peaceful music. The beautiful cinematography and art. It all blends together so wonderfully. Thank you for your peaceful nature and for sharing this feeling with us. Wishing you abundance and peace in the New Year.

[@karenf1604]

It is so refreshing to hear that it’s okay to be an introvert. You’ve articulated it so artistically though your video post, very calming and reassuring. Continue to be true to yourself as a content creator; and know that your beautiful videos are very much appreciated and they make a difference. Thank you and I wish you a very happy and healthy new year.

[@LStottmann]

I agree. I’ve always felt so much pressure and misunderstanding from society (esp living in a city) on why I don’t like to be in huge groups, why my friend circle is very small, why I spend an incredible amount of time alone (not just with COVID happening). It’s great to have a channel to watch that, although I don’t live anywhere as remote as her, it’s okay to like to spend time alone, be an introvert, and feed your soul the way you need to!

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

That's the thing though. Nobody, friends or society as a whole, is obligated to tell us what we're doing is ok..or not ok. Looking for reassurance is on us. There is an underhanded codependence.

[@bulansi]

i like to spend my energy only around the loved ones and my pets, it feels just enough and I've stopped blaming myself for others not to understand these feelings and personal choices I've made

[@wildflowerwind6941]

I wish this had been embraced 50 years ago when I was young.

[@momiborah8707]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@erikapuelles]

@@SerendipityNJ 🌺💜🌺💜🌺

[@martinhare6085]

Never too late.

[@Butterflye9]

I'm introverted with some extraverted tendencies depending on the occasion. I've had people make me wrong for being introverted making it seem like a personal failing. At first I felt defensive and questioned myself but then realized this is just my nature and it was perfectly ok to be this way. I came to love and accept myself even more. I realize that not everyone will understand us and that's ok.

[@nicolegenerale]

yes i relate to this. introvert with extroverted tendencies and about me being defensive and questioning myself to change. We just have to accept ourselves for sure

[@Sallyreay1]

I am the same and at 67 years old I now wear my introversion as a badge of honour. I want to be me and not like everyone else. I'm just disappointed that it took me this long to realise it. Happy New Year.

[@tammyroyal7547]

The older I get the more I appreciate silence & being alone. I enjoy simple pleasures & nature so much more now. Your videos are so beautiful & your words touch the real me. Happy new year to all of us.

[@rest_in_grace2423]

I love being alone. I spend my days odd hiking alone in the wilderness & people think I’m crazy bc I’d rather hike alone than with a group of people

[@tinalemna7998]

I’m an introvert like you and very happy just staying at home with my two cats and husband. Hoping 2021 will be a better year for all of us.

[@TheCottageFairy]

Oh! Lovely - I so enjoy cats, I hope to have one someday! Yes I’m hoping for a great next year! Thank you ❤️

[@patrickwalden4993]

I find joy in the simple things of life, not money, or presents. Today I made pancakes, instead of eating a granola bar for breakfast. This, and other small things, always make me happy. ❤️

[@irishlady5051]

Happy New Year to Paola and everyone reading this!

[@fabienneroure9995]

Happy New Year to you as well!☃️

[@jonirennirt2391]

Happy New Year to You! Blessings!

[@NixPix]

Happy New Year

[@miskinasaikia8691]

Thank you!! Happy new year to you as well!!

[@tonnywildweasel8138]

Happy New Year, and greets from the Netherlands T.

[@caitlyn449]

I’m also very introverted. I’m also an INFJ for those that know about the 16 personalities. I’ve always felt out of place and felt like even though I could understand everyone around me, no one could understand me. Now I completely embrace and love who God created me to be. Your videos are the embodiment of big part of who I am. Thank you!

[@tammyatkins6101]

I love alone time, I honestly can't think or be creative with others around me, I always been a deep thinker, love watching your videos

[@rickjensen2717]

There is nothing wrong about being rather introverted and enjoying quiet and nature. Some people hate it - I love it and couldn't be happier any other way.

[@robertaionescu2614]

I fell that this year has been rought to everybody. In my case it was a real nightmare. I had to deal with a lot (intern and extern problem) and I feel that my soul is tired. Sometimes it worries me, I´m just 20 and I´m already this tired? I think that I have been fighting not only with my problems but with the problems of other people too. And again I´m tired, but some months ago I started to deal with the reality as it comes. I tried to be kinder to myself, and to let myself not to be ashamed for crying and for needing help. Since I was young I was seen in my family like the typical anti emotional sister. Since I have quite a strong character it was easy for people to let me have a hard time knowing that I was able to endure it. And even myself I tried for almost all my life to live up to those expectations. Feeling ahamed when I need that emotional support from my family and friends. Feeling ashamed for enjoying happy endings and silly love songs. But now I look to myself and accept that those things that maybe in the past I was convinced that they had nothing to do with me, bring happines now. I am grateful that even if it had to be this way I can finally start to enjoy my own soul. Without people telling me what I should to or think. I´m still tired but al least I can feel a tiny ray of hope in my day. I must say that I love your videos and I love to hear them while I write or paint. You are a lovely person. I hope that you and your loved ones are safe and full of bless. I´m sorry if there are some gramatical errors, english is my third language. Love you lots, and Happy New Year!!!!!

[@gentianharrison3992]

I was exhausted trying to make it in a dysfunctional family system for 55 years , its not worth it, i got out then after 3 years of crying im rebuilding an incredible new dynamic/quiet life

[@mariel.9660]

I deeply resonate with this. Thank you for sharing and you're not alone. Trust me. We're all in the roller coaster of life. Stay beautiful. And take care 🦋🖤

[@lottieloves4431]

Lovely Roberta. I am the same as you, I am the quiet soul that keeps everyone else going and often forgets to allow myself to feel. This year in particular I have taken on the role of the ‘strong one’ and always tired. I am so proud of you for speaking out and making space for yourself.remember there is no weakness in allowing yourself to feel, or saying that you are too tired emotionally sometimes. You are a beautiful soul and your feelings are valid. 🧡🧡

[@vetha_litlov]

🤣🤣Anti-emotional, they consider me so😅 but I hold more emotions within! just I don't let anyone understand anything from my appearance! My face is not the index of my mind🌻 I'm 20 too Roberta

[@vernabryant2894]

I'm like you.I like being alone people stress me out.Im an introvert.

[@kyriakiyiannouri]

It's 7am in the morning in Cyprus Island. I've just experienced the last sunrise of the year. And it got me thinking. No matter what, the sun will keep rising every day. Let's allow it to warm our hearts, and let's rise together with it. 🌻

[@tammyf1541]

I appreciate this video so much. I’ve battled with my personality at times. I admire people who can strike up a conversation with anyone, as I’m the queen of awkward silences. I’ve often wished I could be more outgoing. Although I love connecting with friends and diving deep into conversation, I also love to take quite moments by myself (which isn’t always easy with 4 kids) But over time, I’ve realized that just being me is ok. So thank you again for this beautiful video 💛

[@peacockyman]

What a wonderful message! This year has been very liberating for me because I haven't had to worry about socializing at all. Being an introvert, I also have slight FOMO and that's a toxic combination. This new year I'm just going to stay home, light all the string lights I own, video call my family who are on the other side of the world and cuddle up in bed with my cat with a book. Looking forward to it!!! Happy new year to you ☺️ oh and Sassy says hi! ♥️

[@Svedorszag]

It’s always comforting to hear that I’m not alone wanting to be alone 😊 I’ve been on a similar journey myself where I’ve tried to be the extrovert I thought I was supposed to be, always feeling exhausted and never good enough. It’s been so liberating to rediscover and embrace my true introverted self! Spending more time alone has been so much more enriching than all that time I spent trying to be that outgoing, busy extrovert. Lovely video as always 💛🙏

[@nancybrown2700]

Your candles in the snow were a perfect image of serenity and calm beauty. Brava and thanks for you stirring videos.

[@marieradatsz4126]

I am glad you have found who you are early in your life. I was a people pleaser and it has only since retiring from work I truly found who I am. I am more at peace now than I have ever been. I live a simple life do what I want though I still have time for others it doesn’t consume me xxx

[@isabellaw3151]

Such a lovely person I love you Not meant to be creepy

[@jennyfulcher8035]

Your "Living quietly in a loud world" aligns with my own introverted, highly-sensitive spirit. While I enjoy my friends and family, I much prefer my alone time reading, creating art, listening to music, bird watching, and being in nature. Your inspiring videos provide a visually calming and soothing escape from our chaotic world of noise and busyness. Wishing you a Happy New Year filled with Peace, Hope, and Goodwill. Namaste, Jenny

[@lindabatungbacal2080]

In silence, we find our strength! A challenging year, yet ee have found wisdom in all our struggles and again, follow our stars! Be brave, be strong! And TRUE!

[@kalissamarya6028]

I am a sensitive introvert too🐣 This helped me a lot of accepting myself ❤️ thank you

[@annalittlejohn7772]

Thank you, Paola, for all the joy that you have brought into my life this year through showing the world your small portion of the universe and sharing your wise words. You are a wonderful person just how you are

[@TheCottageFairy]

you are very kind, thank you, that is lovely to hear. Sending good wishes for the new year 🤍

[@thetransformatorium7980]

I'm watching your video Thursday morning while drinking a cup of mint tea and slowly petting my deeply adored cat. She is on my lap purring softly, and I am honored that she is so completely at ease with me. Your peaceful, thoughtful, and beautifully executed video fits perfectly with my morning, and your kind reminder that its okay to be me gently lifts my spirits. Thank You Paola. Wishing you all the best. Till next time, be well.

[@danisantos3088]

Your message really resonated with me. I too am an introvert who prefers some quiet time alone each day. It recharges my batteries. I wish the world appreciated quiet, calm, sensitive people more, but I have a close circle of fellow introverts and they appreciate me as I am. 😊 Happy New Year!

[@Dina4444.]

I'm always comparing myself to extroverts, always trying to change myself. I need to learn to except me for me. 🌼🌙

[@kimmyhealingcrystal4158]

It's not until we get to being adults we relize it's okay to be a introvert , my self and iam a empth so observe everything around me , it's taken a life time to gain it as a blessing and be yourself wholy , thanks for your beautiful video uploads and take care 🐥

[@LAE45]

Thank you, Paola, for the peace that your work communicates. Your video aesthetic is outstanding: pictures, music, voice and message are all one! Considering your open confession to being an introvert, my mind‘s eye pictures you (and your camera helper) capturing the spirit of your moments for you, and then making the conscious decision of what and how to share with us. As an old lady living in Europe, I confess to being inspired by your choices. Again; thank you. And all the best for 2021‘s trip around the sun (who says we weren’t able to travel in 2020?? You captured the perfect answer in that phrase!)

[@MiaCaliendo]

BLESS YOU AND YOUR HEART ANGEL GIRL

[@thedarkhairedone7672]

Love this so much!! One of my biggest challenges as an adult is raising my two very extroverted children who I love so very much but find extra-exhausting in light of my solitude-loving, reflection-needing spirit. In trying to meet their much-greater-than-mine needs of socialization and activity, I often become very empty and-quite frankly-irritable! Still trying to find some sort of balance during this rather chaotic season of my life... thank you for sharing a bit of calm and peace with me!

[@gabik2234]

I am just like you and it took me a long time to finally accept who I really am. I wish you and your family all the best in 2021❤

[@morganinwanderland]

Living through this uncertain time, I’ve learned that I really am an introvert and that I had been fighting it. Quarantine taught me to embrace my love of aloneness. I know this year was more than difficult for so many, it was a test for me as well, but it was also one of the best things to ever happen to me. I feel blessed for what I gained and learned in 2020, and for having the time to get to know myself better. Happy New Year 🥳 Feliz año nuevo 🪅

[@FancyRavenmoon]

Finding people like ourselves will help us get through hard and difficult times we face in need of connecting to the natural and beauty of the world instead of being stuck on the condition of the world. Finding you in your simplicity and your recipe for life keeps me going to the place I need to be in. My sacred place. In Montana with my 7 horses 2 dogs an a loving husband. Living close to the Earth. Im visiting in Florida with my family. Happy new year!! Enjoy your family!

[@nearlynsolera3018]

New subscriber here. I love your channel because it inspired me to love myself and accept who I really am. We are also the same in terms of loving nature and experiencing its beauty.

[@riettevandeventer9955]

I am exactly the same. Proudly a beautiful introvert. I feel at peace when I am alone. Blessed New Year.

[@deborahditto9389]

I have no family...3 cats...I've been alone since 2013....My husband and daughter died..u r amazing#!!

[@CC-Pi]

I have the feeling TheCottageFairy knows Eckhart Tolle... if not in person then in her soul... :-)

[@keen2461]

I had thought of the same from previous videos. It seems like Paola lives in line with Eckhart's teachings (which are awesome).

[@CC-Pi]

@@keen2461 yeah I agree, it seems like it comes naturally to her as well which is also awesome.

[@thesocialintrovertchronicles]

@C C, 😂😂😂😂

[@vivioprea4046]

Thought the same haha

[@kayshay8150]

It has taken me a long time to accept that I am an introvert. I always enjoyed being alone even as a child. My family always made me feel bad about the way I was and made me think there was something wrong with me. They encouraged me to change my behavior and it never worked for me. It made me miserable and desperately unhappy. I never felt alone when I was by myself. I actually like my own company and the company of my dog and rabbit before he passed away. I still have my dog. I wish I had come to this realization when I was much younger. I experienced years of shaming and belittling. I think that's why attracted me to your site. Gob bless!

[@Chuloon]

It is so freeing to accept ourselves! I am a HSP (highly sensitive person) & once I learned I'm not weird for being this way & there are others that process the world in a similar way it felt like such a load off my shoulders! I'm sure many of you are this way, let's love ourselves finally! Brilliant video, your filming is so captivating.

[@salihzanatta3116]

Me , myself and I get along more and as each day goes by.

[@carolynpoley8565]

Happy New Year! My husband and I took specialised personality tests, which showed as introverts, we thrive, and become more energized in a quiet slower pace. Also, too much social interaction takes away all of our energy. Extroverts typically become energized in social situations. I was so relieved because I really thought something was wrong with me. I love our friends, but need to visit them in small doses. We also grew up in a small town, were close with our parents, and made more friends as adults. We are also very creative. Both of us have experienced the loss of our parents, mine passed this year. Enjoy every minute with your parents, family is a blessing. We are thankful to have experienced happy memories. Thank you for your beautiful videos.

[@damarispickin649]

My son has Aspergers. He is very smart, witty and talented. He rather spend his time with our farm animals than people. He finds animals are much more kinder and caring. I agree and believe he is happier and more satisfied with who he is than 90% of us. He is not bothered about what the rest of the world is doing because he is too busy planting vegetables, running after his ducks and playing with his dog. It’s a wonderful world 🎶🎵🎵

[@joanna3221]

This is so beautiful ✨ the world really praises the extroverts and often introverts and sensitives spend their lives thinking they are somehow broken. I’m so glad we’re starting to realise that we have many gifts and are no longer denying who we are. Thank you 💕

[@tanishasoni7546]

So true!!

[@chelseymichelle9115]

It’s funny, I am an extrovert and love people, but when I am home, I am gone. I need aloneness, peace, nature soft music. Definitely relate. I fully accept that and wouldn’t want it any other way ❤️

[@MeMommyEms]

I survived all the struggles this year. So proud of myself. Happy new year!

[@ladymorganofficial]

I have similar feelings. I get so tired around people and feel much safer and happy around animals and when I'm alone or with the close ones. I don't like crowded places and I would love to live in such quiet place. I hope that one day it will be possible. Happy new year everyone!

[@milkweeddreams8828]

I too have come to terms with and relish my aloneness, having given up my Iowan 6 acre sand prairie and gardens I established myself, for my quarter acre retirement home in Florida...I am practicing permaculture and planting a food forest on once barren land, nothing but sugar sand when I moved in 3 years ago...now it's lush, tropical fruits everywhere and I just ate my first Florida grown heirloom tomato, I may try raised beds...though I miss my chickens, I don't have room for any and at age 71, I'm weary of hauling 50# bags of feed and bales of hay...an artist, I can't imagine life any other way, however if a man was my twin soul, I may reconsider...age is only a number...stay true to yourself and have a blessed 2021...

[@karimaajana2662]

Your voice and your words with your quiet attitude let me feel a peacfull feeligns ;sincerely your voice touch our heart and convey to us a positive message we know that your are introverted but we don't feel this sentiment by your video we feel that you are so close to us and we share with you a agreable moments thanks

[@SONALI_V]

I needed this so much As someone who has admired silence more than anything in this noisy World I needed to know that I'm not alone and sometimes i feel guilty for being a quite person but this warms my heart and makes me feel content ❤

[@glorycaravella2446]

Nothing better then waking up with my puppy…coffee…fire in the fireplace..and your videos. Thank you

[@felicianicol3066]

I've just discovered your channel and it's like a breath of fresh air 💕 The day I read Susan Cain's 'Quiet' my life changed. To realise there wasn't something wrong with me that I struggle so much in groups & long for alone time, but that I was just in fact an introvert was such a relief. I still live in a city but long for a life similar to yours. I can see your channel is going to be a much needed escape at times 😊 Thank you xx

[@lindawallace8129]

You are such an amazing person! I am 72 years old and doubt that I know myself nearly as well as you know yourself. I feel blessed to have moved to a tiny cottage on a wooded mountain eight years ago, so I understand your love for your cottage and a rural life. I thoroughly enjoy your videos. Thank you!

[@artwithmamafairybreadd]

You chose your words thoughtfully , everything you say makes sense ...you speak clearly without fuss....your voice is soothing, your videos are peaceful....xo

[@cherigreen4471]

You probably don't realize how many people admire you for your calm, meditative spirit and how you capture beauty with every frame of your videos. There is so much to learn from being quiet and listening with your heart and soul. By the way your animals are so precious. Great vlog! Hugs from NE Ohio.

[@TheHearthFairy]

I’ve been thinking a lot about ego and my place in the world- and then your video popped up! Lovely as always. Happy New Year 🌟

[@lisaa6099]

On behalf of all introverts thank u sooooo much

[@OurNationalAdventure]

Another wonderful message. Happy 2021♡

[@buddy8225]

As an introvert myself I think better when I am alone than I do in crowds. I love the quite ofva simpler life.

[@plantifulalexandra]

Yes, as you say: there are different levels of being introverted. Introverted also doesn't mean you don't like to socialize or are too shy - what many people often think. I'd say I'm rather introverted because I need a lot of time for myself alone and it's always been this way. But people who meet me probably wouldn't think I'm introverted. When I'm out I have no problem meeting new people, talking to strangers, going to events by myself, leading a group, travelling alone etc. Happy new year!

[@carolknapik7426]

You are SO blessed to have family. I have NO family, no siblings, no children and I find life very very lonely and difficult. It's very hard to have no one that has your back...no significant person I can rely on. It's very depressing at times. Again, yes, you are blessed. 🌷

[@helainarogers1457]

IM HERE EARLY AND I JUST EANTED TO SAY THAT I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SO MUCH, YOU ARE SUCH AN INSPIRATION! sorry that was aggressive but hi

[@TheCottageFairy]

😂 hello!! You are so sweet 🤍

[@lukefish9443]

😆that was indeed sweet

[@prepperpat]

I will be 70 this spring. I only recently found out I am a supersensitive empath. It explains all the stern lectures I got as a young person hearing "tuffin up buttercup", you need thicker skin, etc etc. In February of 2020 my body finally rebelled. I am now dealing with extremely high blood pressure being around people. I have gotten books on controlling it and am working at it diligently. Be who you are is such good advice. It will catch up with you. You are wonderful just the way you are!

[@sallycormier1383]

From one introvert to another, Happy New Year! It took me a long time to realize that there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. Giving off my energy to others requires much alone time to recharge my spiritual batteries. I now look at my personality’s uniqueness and and feel like a rare jewel rather than a lesser being. Peace!

[@leslieefird7062]

I needed to hear this tonight so much, thank you❤️I love your mother’s flowering plants grown inside during the winter!!!

[@thehynelife]

Me too. These videos come at the right time ❤

[@carenh241]

This was delightful. I teach high school and spend a lot of time working with my students on being ok with their personality, energy needs, and their spirit. I am personally not shy at all, but love quiet time with myself and I need it everyday as well. Thank you for making a video that encourages people to be at peace with who they are. Have a happy new year!

[@susanwale8887]

Dear Paola, it is 3:08 am here in Vancouver, I couldn’t fall asleep after too much Christmas food, I made myself a camomile tea and I’m watching your lovely videos, they give me peace and calm. Thank you for sharing your world with us. ❤️🙏🏻🎄

[@kevinharris1392]

Peace is a beautiful feeling. Alone is where I find peace. Even through endless days that have taken what made us free. Still we must carry on, because we've come so far and we've won before. Let's try not to waste,waste one moment, let's try today. Take back what we've lost.

[@lindajones6835]

Thank you! I so needed that message. I too love the quiet, to be alone. I work at a job where I am around people and sound throughout the day. I crave the solitude I find at home. Just me, God, and the cats! That’s all I need. That is what I love. Thank you for reminding it is ok to be me-to be that quiet introvert. Thank you for your beautiful, restorative videos. They bring healing to the soul.