Claim Your Emotions: How to Identify and Name What You're Feeling

[@aliientertainment1628]

I wonder how different my life would be if I discovered these videos earlier in life. At least I’m here now! Thank you 🙏🏽

[@snicksabea]

You’re doing great! I have faith in you.

[@Sylar-451]

Same here, I think learning CBT/ACT as a teenager would prevent so much suffering in society. Exactly why I'm writing a book advocating this

[@feedingchi4032]

I was a professional at ignoring and/or suppressing my emotions for most of my life. I spent a good majority of my time working out as a means of coping. Intentional care for my mental health was a huge missing component of my health. I also wonder how life could've been different with all of this knowledge. Thank you, Dr. Marks!

[@cyberduck7377]

​@@Sylar-451any advice for a teenage whos officially an adult now like knowing yourself more and integrating it irl etc?

[@ImagineWavesCrashing]

1. Observe thoughts through mindfulness (breath work); 2. ID your thoughts (negative or positive) & body sensations; 3. Use the emotion wheel to name your emotions (practice builds emotional vocabulary ); 4. Keep an emotion journal to see patterns in emotions &/or ID triggers; 5.Respond to the emotions whether that means expressing it, allowing it to pass, or making changes. Practice responding to difficult emotions in a new way and give yourself some grace ❤

[@ichsehnursoaus]

thank you

[@hectormayoral443]

Good quick summary to remember the video ^-^

[@prapanthebachelorette6803]

@@hectormayoral443indeed

[@edsonpires4199]

Tks😊

[@ebbyc1817]

I used to be an over-thinker. I would think through everything. Think before you act. They say. I've found that what helps me is to actually, act. Because my tendency is to identify and suppress my emotions almost automatically, to the point where I later feel confused about what I feel, because I disconnected from it so quickly. Acting, helps me to stay in touch with the emotion.

[@ImLehwz]

Do you have an example?

[@dzzzzzt]

I do this all the time. It's like being chained and made by an oppressor to do something you don't even understand. In this case, though, I'm the oppressor. In other words, this has grown to an unconscious habbit that I don't even know why I am doing it anymore. I want to break free but it feels like I'm in a constant war with myself.

[@Mr.Broconut]

i am autistic and didn't find out until i was 22 years old. this series has been very helpful and eye-opening for me. thank you, Dr

[@cyberduck7377]

Did you find out with a doctor? How do you reach out for one?

[@carnitagroves7758]

Greetings from Ghana! I'm a Pan African holistic psychologist. This is yet ANOTHER awesome video!!!!!. Can't thank you enough!

[@Texas.Gaming]

I have alexithymia and I am getting better at identifying. It’s reallllly slow going

[@shrutirautela]

More power to you

[@2degucitas]

You have the rest of your life to develop and benefit from it.

[@thinguyenhoang5004]

How we feel app is really helpful n,sing your emotion

[@mihaelaclaudiap..2]

As long as we manage to control our emotions things are manageable, the problems arise when our emotions take control over us!

[@Nashleyism]

I think that emotions take control over us when we're trying to control them and stuff them down, not hearing what they have to say. The way is not controlling, but recognising and managing emotions, treating them as signals from the body (which they are) with curiosity, not as our enemies.

[@srldwg]

​@@NashleyismYes!!!

[@caleuxx9108]

great content. I have found..... that for those of us from significantly dysfunctional families where there is a lack of basic respect, lack of love, lack of compassion, and an excess of controlling behavior, constant ignoring of boundries, etc..... It is exhausting. To set and maintain boundries you need emotions and these people constantly push on and ignore boundries, which leads to not being able to just be and relax. Like constantnly being around irresponsible teenagers. Constantly being the target of induced conversations (Ross Rosenberg term) ..... exhausting.

[@jhljhl6964]

The deepest emotion is fear, and the greatest fear is fear of the unknown.

[@RashadLovesWilbert]

I have found that I am very in tune to my emotions. I am practicing remembering that not everyone can identify their emotions.

[@GabyAR7575]

Dr you read my mind or something lol. I have problems identifying anger, frustration and emotions in that spectrum. But 2 days ago I hit my arm with a door handle and I just yelled and cursed! and you may think: that's wrong.. but for me it was such a relief and I could realize: :damn, there's so much anger inside me! I was having a bad day, a really bad one crying and feeling so hopeless and sad, and that situation just changed my perspective and made me think about how I disguise anger. You see in my family it's always been punished and silent (specially for women) to express anger and speak loudly about injustice. I'll take your advice. Thank you so much Dr.! Ps: I'm not sure if my comment makes sense since English is not my first language 😅

[@2degucitas]

I've been doing this lately. It really helps! I'll detect a mood, ask my self kindly "hey, what's going on?" and make a one sentence break down of the mood and the reason,if there is one. It's very empowering and teaches a new, healthy way. I recommend.

[@Thira_Steel]

I like that! I will try to do it...thanks for sharing!!!

[@nancymosby7369]

Ur breath is ur anchor to stay focused! ❤

[@GlitterRose09]

Hi Dr Marks, just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for your videos. They are extremely helpful and I love your sense of humour. Seriously appreciate your hardwork and effort. Thank you for sharing all these knowledge and information with us :)

[@gabiausten8774]

That’s so interesting! I always feel and felt 90% numb, that’s what I can easily identify. I can feel physically bad (do most of the time), but the other stuff? It took me a very long time to just identify the 10% of what I ,,feel?”.

[@caleuxx9108]

Hi, I've discovered that I feel numb and the worst when I am in and have been in the vacinity of people, where normal boundries are not allowed, especially my family of origin and/or my husband¨s family, where they have dysfunctional patterns, they constantly push at my boundries, basic respectful behavior for other people is lacking, passive-aggressive bahavior happens, etc., yet normal healthy boundry setting is not allowed, is shamed, etc. These environments do not allow for healthy normal emotions and/or healthy normal boundry behavior....

[@gabiausten8774]

@@caleuxx9108 I KNOW EXACTLY what u mean! People get unreasonably angry if you just don’t want to be touched. It’s not meant mean spirited, but they do not understand. I just see that most people are very emotional and childish in their behavior and want to push boundaries like u said. But I think everyone does and it’s in a humans nature.

[@caleuxx9108]

@@gabiausten8774 - Refusing to accept other people"s boundries..... oh, so common with dysfunctional (often immature) people.....

[@orieking]

Even just having a once weekly check-in outloud with yourself, a friend, or in your journal has helped me so much! Looking up a list of possible feelings to have accessible is a great tool, then try this prompt: Right now, I am feeling ______ & _______ For example, if I'm about to go see a friend, my response might look like this: Right now I feel *anxious and excited* Notice your urge to say "but" instead of "and", and be sure to use "and"! This teaches your brain you can feel two seemingly contradicting emotions at once When we feel like we can only feel one thing at a time, the more recognizable (usually the feeling with a more negative association) will overpower the others, so while we may be anxious and excited we'll only recognize the anxiety, which is generally less empowering than it would be to notice you're also excited!

[@NoFans2020]

Thank you Dr. Marks.

[@katharinanino1888]

you are so necessary

[@cristinagonzalez6591]

Thanks for this video and all the serie on emotions. I'm in therapy for trauma and my first work was unblocking my emotions because I didn't feel them. Little by little I have succeeded on feeling my emotions and what you explain in the video is very special for me because I have to name them and know what's the name of what I'm feeling.

[@EdgarHernandez-zt5om]

Gracias Dra por sus videos, saludos desde Venezuela. Me ayudan mejor a entenderme a mi mismo y a poder dilucidar con claridad lo que siento por dentro. No me pierdo ni uno.

[@carbine090909]

We're using this video in our Mutual Aid Model DBT Emotional Regulation class. Thank you!

[@sssk5]

One of the tihngs that let me survive trauma is to read and see a lot of movies. They are always trying to express the very complicated emotions, that almost no people can describe, what leads me to develop an emotional vocabulary with is ay least enough to deal with my trauma and being more conscious of my personalitie.

[@emilybitzel7242]

I love you and your videos! The graphics on this one are too much, in my opinion. Flashing lights and shaking screens/images tend to turn me off (I used to get horrible migraines and this was something that set them off). You're so excellent I hate to give any negative feedback so please know, if anyone on your team reads this, I really appreciate your incredible efforts - just can't watch a video that's over-produced with so much extra stuff. xo Love.

[@ceciliacastro7962]

Greetings from Venezuela.

[@yungtgofpwclicc1158]

I have been practicing self-therapy and such and i notice when i tighten my breath after something unexpected happens before i get the chance to stress over what just happened and then just take a slow-heavywarm breath (like taking things 1 at a time) with the half-smile thing built up enough kicking in my system, in an objective manner, and i have been practicing and built up enough confidence to consider myself in charge. and i make sure eating is a priority no matter how i feel because i understand that it will change any unhappiness that could occur from not eating anyway, and at times when doing all of this i feel like incredible-hulk.

[@Fr4gg3r2]

Good video. Though the editor went a bit overboard; it is rather hard to follow up your speech when there is constantly effects with sounds popping up in the screen. At least for me.

[@marijkatilton3054]

I'm with ya - the editing was too much for me to focus on what was being said

[@barrycrowder]

@@marijkatilton3054 It's not just you...

[@ceruleanstone]

Yeah, super distracting. Her content is already interesting on its own. I'd be happy if they dialed it back by maybe 75%.

[@rw_panic0_0]

the video resonates with me so much, i'm on my journey for improvement and emotional identification, and what you sad is helping me to understand the problem better, thank you

[@robertcounts5300]

I know a girl who was SA, this helps me understand her better!

[@bestrongandloveyourself2370]

I love the idea that this process takes practice. It’s so true! Being able to regulate emotions is a skill that can be learned. I never heard of emotion wheel or chart, very interesting. Thank you so much for this video Dr. Marks! 🙏💕💕💕

[@jasonlaird798]

You have made my day with this! Thankyou! Cant wait to get busy practicing this process ❤

[@FriendlyAC130Online]

honestly the most helpful channel on KZbin. Much love

[@CraigAnderson-h2h]

I cannot overemphasize just how important learning Mindfulness techniques have been for me. I was once very dysregulated and making very poor decisions that wrecked my life until I got serious about accepting my mental illness, learned Mindfulness and committed to a medication regime....

[@NihouNi]

I’m really grateful to you for yiur practical advice. I work with autistic offenders and not one has ever been told about their alexithymia. It’s vital for their relapse prevention to know emotional regulation. Thanks so much.

[@earncryptoz]

This is so profound. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[@MeshMwah]

I like the new editing in your videos ❤ you've come a long way on KZbin and I hope you continue to grow here and in your career 😊

[@alaskaincarolina]

Thank you for all your free content. You explain complex things so clearly for people like myself without a medical background. Also really love the new retro/cool production style!

[@exhortationswithdrjacobs]

Great content! Thank you!

[@lizielita]

Thank you. Great video. IMHO, I think we feel sad, it's better to seat with the emotion and feel the emotion, before reaching out to a friend or doing something else. We should feel our emotions, not go away from them. The emotion felt/processed can transform. Become friend with your emotions, see them like a messenger. After reach out to others instead of isolating ourselves from others.

[@marcozanga3876]

Really enjoy this video. Thanks doc. ❤

[@Thira_Steel]

Thank you thank you thank you!!! You've made me understand that I might have adhd and several issues trauma-related..and now I've understood something new about my emotions...in a few days I will finally start therapy, I will talk about some things you've made me understand about myself...so again, thank you so much!!

[@mospeaks9256]

I give my emotions names; my anger, I call it Kitty Puff. 😂

[@dodgerdog16]

Your videos are so helpful Dr. Marks. I even told my Psychiatrist about them and he’s seen them and says that you’re very good.

[@ml3141]

This is life changing information! WOW!! Thank you sooo much Doctor!!!

[@mrblue___]

I like the braids doc!

[@medusianAllure]

Being raised in abusive home really doesn't help with learning healthy emotional regulation. I'm still working to undo those harms 15 years after leaving my mother's home.

[@EyinLight]

thank you, I always enjoy your content

[@pawe3039]

The editing on this one is so over the top. I love it. 😅

[@amandabrown1045]

Thank you Dr. Tracy ❤

[@desireer6915]

THIS IS PERFECT!!! EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED, THANK YOU!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@Neda..]

This video is Very helpful, i struggle to describe and label my emotions

[@nyarparablepsis872]

Thank you for this video! I've only recently realised that this is definitely something I need to become more fluent in. I'm a bit sad to see the old, calmer visual style of your videos go. You probably get more views that way, but I found the simpler style calming (fitting your soothing voice). The new style overstimulates me and makes me tense up - but with increased photosensitivity, ASD, ADHD, and PTSD I'm probably not really the target audience.

[@az-qf9ht]

Exactly what I need right now. Thank you!

[@reallybrandy]

I love how straight to the point these videos are. ❤️

[@fridanianoname4560]

thank you dr tracy. i always have a hard time naming my emotion i use the word angry all the time. now im off to get my own emotion wheel

[@ilikemusic8632]

The graphics, visuals are very interesting, creative and attractive, i hadnt watched a new vid for a while because i usually listen to specific playlists to help me sleep, because unfortunately on youtube you get automatically fed other channels' content if you press play on the videos tab

[@SugarsSweetest]

I don’t want a label for my trauma I just want to be healed and grow from it so that I can help the next person dealing with that type of pain.

[@ibrahimissaiaawad2888]

all sound advice dr. Tracey!

[@crystalidx]

Thank you Tracy as always, your videos are helpful and informative.

[@maiwasekumwenda4186]

Thank you. I have a lot of emotional chats but getting to identify the deeper meaning of my emotions has been hard. Will try practicing with a journal too. Can't wait for more of these series and learn more🙏🏽

[@austinthornton8729]

Thanks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks a bunch Austin! ❤️

[@edsonpires4199]

Gratidão Dr Marks seu trabalho é muito importante, descobri seu canal hj e estou super feliz de saber que ha um espaço com tanto conteúdo de qualidade, profundo e bem explicado. Seu canal é precioso, foi como achar ouro ❤❤❤ tks 🇧🇷

[@Demirose1992]

THIS IS EDUCATING ..... I HAVE LEARNT A LOT BY HOW TO HANDLE EMOTION. A GOOD VIDEO

[@lcbryant78]

Why are you yelling? Or is your caps lock broke?

[@itzikca]

These are basics of meditation :) it’s a very nice video, I love how you speak and explain things, youre very inspiring.

[@jollyhoppy5200]

The emotion wheel help me alot

[@ليالالربيع-ك6ر]

Could you please talk about fibromyalgia ??

[@caleuxx9108]

Great video. How to learn about various emotions and emotional states..... I personally have found Atlas of the Heart helpful including the HBO Max TV miniseries....

[@glamarian9513]

This series is very helpful!

[@johnkovary5121]

As usual, Appliable insight for the masses. I can't wait to share with my daughter Doc.❤

[@Alwaysherethere]

Can you explain what hysterical blindness is and also what mental brain freeze is? (not the ice cream kind) I've experienced both and it was and is so weird

[@richardroyster405]

WOW. Feel like I need 1 hour of CEU after this tour de force. Packed with info. Thanks.

[@ceterisparibus8966]

CEU?

[@nodozhit]

Thanks. That was very insightful.

[@emiliavila3235]

Amazing 🙏🏻

[@noahswart]

I love the new style of editing! It makes it really engaging to watch! 😃

[@AllyMcPhee]

Another aspie here. Ty soon much

[@qaithequeen]

Is no one mentioning the video editing? 😂 Whoever Dr Marks hired is surely having a lot of fun with all the effects, fonts, and graphics😂😂

[@KatzeDerNacht22]

Hi, I found your cards very useful, i didn't know I had alexithymia (spelling) until last Saturday, when I also got DX for ASD.

[@alishasanchez77]

I have been watching your videos and have tried to reach out to you for help for my 15 year old son who suffers from anxiety and depression and may even be on spectrum but can’t find anywhere that doesn’t want like 6000 for testing so I am so lost on how to help him have a happy successful life and was hoping you could point me in right direction

[@DrTraceyMarks]

States require that clinicians has a in the license in the state where you live in order to perform clinical services. So my help is limited in being able to steer you in the right direction for a clinician in your state. I usually recommend looking on psychologytoday.com where people post information about the kind of practice they have and you can see see if they may be a good fit. Psychological testing is expensive. I don’t treat children, so I don’t know of any resources to recommend for a less expensive intervention.

[@ceterisparibus8966]

I don't know for what you'd need it, but maybe skip the testing?

[@MrJoxxxi]

I saw you are working with better health!? Really Dr. Marks. I like you channel but now I have a second thought.

[@mohammedmm7671]

Thank u 🩵🩵

[@swetamudaliar1135]

Hi @DrTraceyMarks Thank you for all your informative content. Can I request a video discussing the Father Wound and Mother Wound? I understand these topics are unrelated to this current video. But it would be wonderful if you'd please consider doing a video on Father/Mother Wound and tips on how to heal :)

[@MikeWatson-z3n]

I am schizoaffective bipolar. I am on olanzapine 10mg twice daily. I wanted to ask, if I take an antidepressant alongside olanzapine, say escitalopram 20mg, will it cause a shift to mania? Sorry it's off topic but I feel this question is important for bipolar 1 and schizoaffective patients.

[@ItsSoarTime]

i don't think THIS is necessary for my healing and development (at least not at this time). i'm VERY in touch with my feelings. i KNOW to stay away from whatever and whomever triggers me, if possible. that's just how i'm wired. hyper-sensitive some would say. others would say very intuitive. whateva. for me, i'd rather spend my energy on overcoming the negative feeling, regardless of the trigger. once i feel the uncomfortable/unhealthy feeling, regardless of what it is and how it originates, i want to IMMEDIATELY summons the strength of my Inner Being to help me overcome the obstacle or go thru the obstacle. i want to start calming myself down FIRST. LATER, when i've reached a certain level of calmness or i am completely fine, maybe i'll reflect on what the trigger was, etc. this is what i believe works for me, at this point in time ...

[@mkdutta9428]

What if I am not feeling anything? Completely numb..., then?

[@cherryvic1869]

Have your thyroid levels checked. If that's normal and your B vitamins intake is regular, you might need to get diagnosed by a mental health professional. Feelings of numbness are a sign of depression

[@dmgsoultogetherness6667]

how do we name emotions " on the go"...on the bus,in the store etc

[@ArjanKop]

I guess my alexithymia is actually the one thing that bothers me and those around me most. ADHD(PI) and probably ASD can and will cause problems, but being unable to deal with emotions before they make you explode is quite the handicap. I’ll check your wheel and I’ll practice identifying those emotions once more. Thanks!

[@zenbound33]

Can you do a video on cognitive bypassing and how to get out of your head and into emotions?

[@Fxwitcher]

Best video

[@amarixolarasin9795]

Can you please make a video about limerance?

[@maximilyen]

Very useful

[@robiny.4395]

Ugh, I’m new to working in the mental health side of medicine and recently was asked a question right after our group ended, “How do you feel.” I said, “what, I don’t know.” I actually said, why do I have to have a label for how I feel? Busted! I know it’s from growing up in an alcoholic home where you numb yourself,and as a survival skill push your feelings down. My son said, maybe I’m autistic, so now everyone’s autistic? Also, I hate to say, I’m burned out on hearing phrases such as “Mindfulness” it feels so much like a Buddhists gig. Anyway, not sure how the AI found I looked something up like this, but here I am and if God is trying to get my attention, then that’s great. I need to ID these issues so I can be a better help to our patients.

[@Amanda-uc5jq]

I’m glad I’m not alone with the mindfulness stuff, it actually makes me cringe now because it’s so overused.

[@jerobarraco]

great video as always. i wish it didnt had all that animation and music and noise. is somewhat overwhelming to see.

[@breakeverychain7]

They’d need to come up with a new dsm to define my emotions. What with covert 19 and 247 monitoring by our phones

[@SuzD0n]

Hi Dr Tracey. Have you done any videos on Bilateral Stimulation and EMDR? I'm receiving this therapy for trauma, and it seems to be helping a lot. I would just like to know 'how' it works as it seems very mysterious.

[@AroxTheMutilator]

I cant download the chart 'Your access to this site has been limited by the site owner' :(

[@alphadog3384]

Do most individuals with BPD, understand and label emotions? That's my question.

[@ceruleanstone]

Right now, I'm feeling distracted and overstimulated, and even a little anxious from too much animation, stock footage, and non-stop sound effects. I'd rather just watch and hear you talk. The audio/visuals look cool, but they're overwhelming.

[@rebekahfischer218]

Same for me

[@AlysonArchibequeDavis-kv1bx]

So close your eyes.

[@Cathy-xi8cb]

From the small number of comments, I'd be guessing that most of the viewers of this channel aren't too excited to mindfully attend to their emotions, identify them, and choose how to respond. Too healthy an idea.

[@SelfoRiser]

What are the difference between feelings and emotions..?

[@mahletmekonnen1300]

Hey Dr. Marks, are there any ways to deal with emotions where the methods you have listed fail to work? Such as in the case of Alexithymia (not sure if it's the right spelling) which is basically being unable to identify emotions. I think I may have it as I find quite stressful to understand what I am feeling most of the time. Would love to hear your input on this. Thanks.

[@milakohen630]

I love Your content! However, I have noticed that Your videos have been using a lot of bright colors and movement lately. This could be triggering for some people with sensory sensitivities. I would love to see more calm and relaxing videos in the future. Less is more 😊

[@KonjikiKonjiki]

Our high school's guidance office had a resources room, mostly a small space for kids to hang out in for short periods of time. The room had words for emotions all over the walls in large letters, I realise now they had modified an emotion wheel up with the text size getting smaller to signify the words on the edge. It was too complicated for me, plus the subject made me intensely uncomfortable and mocked the whole thing. I was just behaving as I was shown to. :(