Classroom management: Difficult Preschool & Pre-K Class

[@michaeladecker23]

This is me right now! It is such a relief to hear someone else, (especially a veteran,) who has had a year like me. Thank you for your honesty!!

[@tisheikarickard-whyte3548]

Thank you so much for this! I really really really appreciate it. I really needed to hear this as I am struggling in new classroom. I don't even know you but I love you so much for this😊 I'm definitely going to be using this in my challenging classroom with 3-year-olds. Thank you again.

[@jamizimmerman8501]

Year 24 and what you are describing is exactly what I am dealing with with my first graders this year. There was no honeymoon period this year and I feel I am teaching pre-K… just keeping it real😢. When will the Covid excuse be over and when will parents take on the burden and responsibility of what they need to do to parent and raise their own children? I want to still love my job and craft, but this year (only 4 weeks in) has been so challenging. Pray for all teachers

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh Girl...YES! this is what is making me crazy...something has got to give. Teachers are expected to take on an enormous job of not only teaching our subjects and curriculum...but being the discipline, the patience, the love, and the caretakers...which should be happening at home. God forbid if we are not perfect and don't have it all together all the time...am I right? It's been a hard few years. The end is coming for you though...I am having my first "normal" year since 2020. Parents and kids seem normal at last. The pandemic took its toll to be sure...but parenting should not have changed. My kids were older, so I guess I don't know what it was like to have little ones at home while trying to work via zoom...there should be a national discussion about how to help all parities involved...especially the kids.

[@katiewoz]

Love the reminder to speak identity over yourself- I am loving, silly, firm, fair, etc…

[@teachpre-k101]

Thank you! I’m hoping for a much better year! Fingers crossed! 🤞🏻

[@chelseavm3610]

Thank you for sharing this experience with us! As a fellow ECE teacher, I can relate to your story. My current students are exactly what you just shared and it has been difficult, but when I started to accept them this 2nd semester and didn't take everything too seriously, they magically changed. I think when they're happy, they're more willing to listen.

[@teachpre-k101]

I totally agree..sorry it took me so long to respond...life can get crazy. I feel that once I stopped having expectations and let go of a few things...things got better. They just have SO much energy!

[@TheMooresDaily]

You completely described my year last year. One note from my coach is that instead of saying “I love how so and so is sitting quietly” you can just simply narrate “so and so is sitting quietly”. This takes the emphasis off of the teacher and simply describes good behavior. I find it less draining when having to say something for each and every child. Keep it up! You’re doing good work and the Lord sees your good deeds! Blessings from Arizona.

[@teachpre-k101]

Wow! You cannot believe how much better you made me feel. I know I am not alone! I love your suggestion about changing my phrasing too...trying that tomorrow! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment...it means the world to me!

[@onefourthhuman]

I’ve been trying to stop saying their names because I heard it discourages the other kids, so I get excited and say “Oh! I see 3 bottoms in their chairs!! Can we make it 4?” and replace it with I hear 3 friends sitting quietly, I see 3 friends with bubbles in their mouths, I see 3 kids cleaning etc

[@teachpre-k101]

@@onefourthhuman really good idea...I've been trying to stop using names so much too. Things are actually getting a bit easier!

[@Lovetolaughtxgirl]

Short and sweet… even better!

[@noritaappleby2779]

I think this is a good lesson in how even after many years of experience and no matter the knowledge we hold… we have to be open to challenges in a way that we can adapt and look through the eyes of the children we are working with. Taking a moment to identify and understand the needs of each child in ways that make us reflect on our own selves. Behaviors are all a form of communication - these children are saying something but are unable to communicate it. Stepping back and really taking a look at how things are running - what is and isn’t working.. taking the needs of yourself and the children into consideration. Reminding yourself that they are new to all of this and need to be provided some grace.

[@teachpre-k101]

ABSOLUTELY! shout it from the rooftops! You nailed it! That is EXACTLY what I learned last year...I will be a better teacher for it, and I am grateful! Thanks for your comment!

[@Tig02ger04]

Taught PreK since 2009. 23/24 was a crazy year for me also with unbelievable behavior issues. Thanks for all of your comments. It’s helping me not to feel like I was a failure.

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm glad...but it is so hard! We think we should be able to handle everything, and if we were just a little more loving, firm, on top of it, PERFECT....it would be so easy. I learned something big that year...sometimes it's not me...it's them. And there is very little I can actually do.

[@haleyolson6785]

Wow, this could have been me describing my kindergarten classroom this year! Whew. I love this! I felt myself getting so frustrated and more firm and irritated and after watching this, I see that I’m doing the opposite of what I need to do. I pray I can show them more love and patience and kindness and gentleness. Thank you for this! 💕

[@teachpre-k101]

You got this! It will feel like you don't...but you do! It is so hard to be the teacher you want to be and know you can be with a really rough group pf kids. It can be so hard to be a great teacher with an easy group of kids some days too. We are nearing the halfway point...and there is always a great opportunity to rest and re-set after winter break. I feel for you. I made it through and I learned so much. I also appreciate my kiddos so much this year, and I don't sweat the small stuff anymore! Best of luck! Reach out if you neeed to vent or need extra support. [e-mail]

[@shannonmckeown4070]

Most relatable video yet! This is my year this year and I am so ready for Summer

[@teachpre-k101]

You got this! I still have PTSD! I was rewarded this year with 2 very 'normal' classes...but that group has changed me forever-in a good way...I no longer sweat the small stuff, and I'm grateful for 'normal' behavior problems! Let the countdown begin!

[@michellerhodes3378]

This is me right now! I’m in danger of losing my job. My supervisors see it as me not managing my class well. I have 3 challenging children that will not do what is expected. The counselors do not have any advice. I am at the end of my rope. When a child runs around, spits, kicks, will not stay in the quiet corner, shoves toys to the floor is always unhappy, hits and grabs other children. I am doing my best to stay calm. I have been given written warning if things do not change I’m gone.

[@opeyemiadewole704]

Hi, I'm in this too. It will pass

[@teachpre-k101]

I am so sorry you are going through this, and I am so sorry that you are not being supported. Sometimes we just need help. Give yourself grace, you have asked for help...you should be given help. I hope people have come in to observe and offered actionable steps and some real help. Hang in there...the year is almost over. I had to just accept that this was a difficult situation and I had to just love them the way they were and do my best to get through it. I feel for you right now. It isn't you. It isn't you.

[@teachpre-k101]

YOu are so kind to offer support...it is so hard when things get to this point! Thanks for chiming in.

[@nildacuenca7779]

I am totally feeling you. Our class room sounds the same. I had to do the same thing. Everyday is getting a little better . I have hitters and bitters. Lost my part time teacher because of the children's behavior. Everyday is a challenge, but I pick my battles. And do alot of reflection. Last year and this year the children are so needy. I have been teaching for 30 years. I love what I do and sometimes I am taken advantage of because I am so decayed to teaching. I hope we can both have better days .much love and peace sent your way. And know that you are not alone 😊❤️👍

[@teachpre-k101]

it means the world to me to know I am not alone! I was so afraid my awesome aide would quit...so glad she's sticking it out! it is a rough year, but i'm determined to make it through. Thank you so much for commenting!

[@CoCoRynsieMc]

Holy Moly! We have two classrooms with 16 kids ages 3-5 and there are some BIG challenges with attention, sensory needs, classroom respect, listening, copying poor behavior in other students. It’s exhausting. I have no idea how to help these teachers. It feels impossible to get lessons done when there’s only 2 teachers and 7 of 16 students are bouncing around like grasshoppers inspiring the others to also start a mosh pit every other second. Circle time is crazy since very few can sit still/stop talking to listen to the story and the others are bored of listening to their peers be constantly redirected. It’s chaos. Thanks for sharing your difficult time and some suggestions. This is a wild time that feels very unspoken/unsupported so it’s nice to hear that this is a more common experience

[@teachpre-k101]

It's so rough out there since COVID...I'm also curious if the new trend of "gentle parenting" might be a part of the problem...I hate to say that, because these are really good parents...but something's amiss. Your situation sounds a lot harder than mine...it is nice to know I am not alone...we are not alone!

[@toddmasters]

You sound like an amazing teacher that’s full of grace for her students. I feel your pain because I’ve been there, but I recently came across Pre-k pages. It’s a resource site for preschool teachers and it’s chocked full of wonderful, useful information that has saved my life in my preschool classroom. I am a changed teacher, because of pre-K pages! Blessings to you and your sweet preschool students. You’re definitely making a difference!

[@teachpre-k101]

Thank you! I follow Pre-K Pages too...Vanessa is amazing! Wow! You made me feel great today! I really appreciate your comment!

[@JMJ870]

I have these kids now in first grade. You described them perfectly. I share the same theory...covid impact on maturity/socialization.

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh my gosh...that's how old my kiddos from this video are right now! I have the first grade teacher's daughter in my class right now. She's had a rough go. Cried every night the first 3 weeks. So did I though...it was so hard! I wish you luck and that a lot of them go on trips to disneyland all at once!

[@Love2teachNYC]

Thank you for this message!

[@Beethovenfan12]

This is my 2nd year of teaching PreK, and I about fell off my chair with excitement when you described what happened to your kids when you gave one a compliment, and then the others all said, "What about me? What about me?" This is SO MUCH my class! They are all so needy! Because it's only my 2nd year, I figured it's because I'm so new. Last year was difficult too, and a lot of it was because I was brand new, but a lot of it was because that class was needy as well, just in a bit different way. I feel like we are getting more and more kids with family traumas, as well. It's so hard to give that much attention to children who crave it, and absolutely NEED it. Anyway, thanks for this. You have helped my confidence immensely! And like you, I do truly love my kids. I just need to get o the place where I don't feel like I'm in survival mode all the time.

[@teachpre-k101]

I hear you! What is so great about having a class like that is how much they end up teaching you! It will be a hard year, but you will be a better and more fearless teacher when all is said and done! Hang in there! I'm rooting for you!

[@eimearoshea2359]

Finally someone talking about what I'm going through

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm right here with you! I think a lot of teachers don't want to talk about how hard it can be sometimes. I'm a veteran teacher who has no idea how to handle this group I have this year...I've reached out to so many other teachers for help...and even they don't have any ideas. I'm glad I can at least be a voice to let you know you are not alone. Hang in there! I'm being observed by yet ANOTHER behavior specialist on Wednesday...I'll let you know how it goes.

[@eimearoshea2359]

@@teachpre-k101 can't wait to hear how it went

[@teachpre-k101]

@@eimearoshea2359 She came on Thursday...She basically said they were showing all signs of being "COVID BABIES". and that she would write up a few suggestions, but over all thought I was doing a great job with a high-energy group of kids that need a lot of connection...so i'm waiting for her suggestions...I hope it is actually something actionable. I'll keep you posted.

[@eimearoshea2359]

@@teachpre-k101 See this is it, we know it but what can we do? My kids are going into grade 1 next year. I am also giving them assigned seating for circle time which is helping. I guess we just have to do the best we can. Best of luck. Looking forward to the updates

[@teachpre-k101]

@@eimearoshea2359 I will be putting out a video today about my session with the early childhood behavioral specialist that came to observe...she was helpful, and had a few good ideas...nothing life-changing...but I'm a tiny bit more hopeful...a teeny tiny bit more hopeful! Mostly just counting the days until May 26th! LOL!

[@jengiolando4159]

Teaching 2 and three year olds is a youtube channel, and has some VERY good advice.

[@teachpre-k101]

I subscribe and watch when I can...I agree, she's great!

[@MrsMysteryWoman]

You have no idea how helpful this video has been. Even just reading the comments alone made me feel 1 million times better. This is 100% my class right now. And I fully agree with you that the whole pandemic situation may be a huge contributing factor. Thank you so much, again, for being willing to share your struggles and triumphs with us. I am going to send this to my co-teacher, right now! Ps. The story you told about the little girl who didn’t want to climb up the stairs, really resonated with me. I do this all the time. Some kids need hugs and love and attention and compassion more than others. Often times kids don’t throw as many fits or get as frustrated and upset if they feel like you understand what they’re saying and like you care And are there to help them through rough times. I have also noticed that this particular crazy group of kids I have right now tell me that they miss their parents way more than other kids have ever told me before in any other school or class that I have worked in. I’m thinking that again, the pandemic may have had a part in that as well.

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm so glad! It feels good to know you are not alone and that other teachers have similar struggles. This year has been so challenging...I'm on break right now and loving every minute of it!

[@irmelabotma3654]

❤❤❤my heart goes out to you as I also have difficult kids in the 2023-2024 school year. Every morning I practise my class procedures and routine just after circletime. Then I see their behaviour for the day and work accordingly.

[@teachpre-k101]

Yeah...I did the same thing last year...nothing helped honestly...they are now just as hard for the kindergarten teachers. Luckily for me...the group I have this year are just a bunch of typical kids...it's so wonderful!

[@MariaNewman-b9u]

Very great topic..What I establishes and maintain first was a safe ,healthy learning environment. One area that I observe that some children could not set at meeting time so I would ask the child would they like to make anothe choice a table with a teacher, I aslo a share with them when they are ready to join us they can come back to meeting. I would have children's to share something special about their weekend, and play my guitar signs songs and movement,this strategies helps young preschoolers to develop their large muscle, skills a sense of rhythm and, encourages interactions with their teachers and friends in a clam and fun loving environment. I have been a Preschool Teacher for thirty years It can be a challenging situation. What help me was I always reaearching and reading the last child development, parenting and early childhood literature and share my knowledge with my colleagues and parents through informal discussion and roud table conversation as well as professional development opportunities. Teachers and parent working to gather to support young children's development. Maria Newman March 3,2024

[@teachpre-k101]

I think we are on the same page...trust me...I did it ALL with that class, and the kindergarten teachers are trying everything again this year. They were and continue to be a tough group. Tried and true methods had no effect. They will remain the most difficult group I've had to deal with to this point. I am grateful I had that humbling year...I appreciate this year's group so much more, and I learned so much.

[@scncartist]

I'm a new Pre-K teacher of 2s and 3s. This was immensely helpful for me. There are more kids in my room that I need to separate from each other than space in the room, I appreciated the tips so much!

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm so glad! We have a hard job!

[@katherinecurrier8471]

I’m a first year preschool teacher with 17 kiddos and a lot of difficult behaviors. 5 different languages…… your video is so helpful. I’m going to start roping off closed centers and remember that I can’t hold the wave on the sand. Thanks for sharing

[@teachpre-k101]

oh my...that sounds like a lot! You will ge through it. Just hang in there and do your best. Try to love them as you are putting out the fires. Best of luck!

[@candiiiee]

I love your vulnerability, I’m teaching prekindergarten for the first time after teaching TK for 6 years and it is so challenging. Although I don’t want to teach this grade again because I’ve learned it’s not my cup of tea I’m their teacher right now and I plan on finishing the year. Hearing the affirmations you’ve said from your experience in this video are very motivating. 💕

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh...Thank you! Yeah...last year was my hardest year ever. I guess I felt that people needed to hear that even the best of teachers can come across a group that is a real challenge both professionally and personally. Funny thing...now the kindergarten teachers have them and they are having the same struggles. It is validating for me, and it helps them understand that it's not THEM...I am so happy to give them my support. You too! Thanks for your nice comments

[@amberdawn3737]

I love this! This really resonates with me! Sometimes you have to adjust your expectations for the sake of the relationship!❤ thank you for sharing!

[@teachpre-k101]

So true! it becomes more about getting through the year with the relationships intact, and the kids happier...it is so hard when you can't be the teacher you want to be...but you have to be the teacher they need instead. good luck!

[@UnderAttack-x1s]

During the Covid year, it was a meat grinder for me. Just about ruined my career - I am still trying to get back into Education.

[@teachpre-k101]

Yeah...I hear you! I feel like I"m finally back to myself this year. It took 3 years of really difficult kids, and trying to find my footing, my passion, and my love for teaching again. I started to feel it again last year, but this year it is finally back. funny thing, I have a little girl in my class this year whose mom is teaching my really difficult class I'm talking about in that video...she cries everyday after work and sometimes during. I've had to go up and give her encouragement and let her vent...and we are only a month in...they are STILL impossible! And she was the behavior specialist that had no idea how to help me! COVID did a lot of damage to our collective psyche.

[@antowahmister5038]

You are most definitely describing me this school year. It’s so overwhelming right now..

[@teachpre-k101]

ITS SO HARD! Everyday I feel like I’m just putting out fires! I’m glad I’m not alone

[@michellethompson4229]

WOW, you just described my current classroom! The teacher they had quit three weeks into the school year. A month later I was hired on. Our first three weeks went well then aft er our two week fall break it seemed to just go nuts! I too have been questioned myself about being able to run a classroom. We are currently on spring break and go back next week. I had decided that this was going to my reset button. Thank you so much for sharing your story because it really made me feel like we can make it through this school year. My kiddos are the exact same- very needy, want my constant attention- some severe behavior issues- definately d ifficult circle time but small group time goes well. Thank you, I needed to hear this!!!!

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh my gosh Michelle...that sounds rough! At this point I feel like it is just a matter of making it through the year! I'm done at the end of May. I'm on break rn. I'm just going to try to enjoy them the rest of the year and know I've done my best. They've come a long way...but not as far as I would have liked! Hang in there!

[@EmilyWilliams1967]

I am a new subscriber and am so glad to have stumbled upon your channel! I have been teaching pre-k for 11 years and still feel like I am throwing things against the wall to see what sticks! Your subscribers seem like they are a wonderfully supportive community I am eager to be a part of! Keep up the great work!

[@teachpre-k101]

Thanks and Welcome! I hope to add a video today about setting up my classroom from square one after a break...I think it will be good for planning! I hope I can help in any way possible...we have a hard job!

[@pattymargerum5454]

Thank you for sharing your story.. I think it happens to all teachers at some point in thier career! I have been a pre k special needs teacher for 46 years and have had some tough years. After covid I went to part time and began mentoring new teachers. It has been very fulfilling! This fall one of our teachers that I mentor took a job in a district. As staffing is an issue in our area I volunteered to take his class for a few months. What a class! It is an integrated head start class. 12 head start students, and my 8 1:1 Special needs students. 20 -2,3,4 year olds! And the typical students have more behaviors than my sp ed class. The headstart teacher has years of experience also. Circle and transitions are the most difficult. I have been doing every trick I know. But as you said, positive attention, structure, rules and patience is the key. We will get there! This too shall pass! Again thanks for sharing . It helps so much to know others have the same issues.

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm so glad this was helpful...it really was the most difficult year I've ever had. I felt like I only put out fires. It sounds like you have got a LOT of work ahead! I'm happy to give support or lend an ear!

[@Vonmacfire]

Omg I am a teacher for two year olds and they don’t listen at all. They barely sit still to do an activity. Never sit for circle time. Don’t clean up. Barely wash their hands. Push, hit etc. It’s so hard. I feel like I don’t know how to be firm and haven’t even established set boundaries/rules. I try to but they don’t listen. Glad to have found your channel because I care about my job and love the kids so much but they make it so difficult 😂😅

[@teachpre-k101]

getting 2 year olds to do anything is so difficult! Lower your. expectations for sure...and just let them play. My teacher bestie teaches 2's and she is so good at it, but they don't listen, they roll around during circle time, they don't clean up...they are SO 2! I love your attitude about hem though...it will get a little better after winter break...but I hate to say it...no much! LOL!

[@hhkline]

Thank you for sharing this video! You have given me important things to think about and given me the strength to keep going. I'm going to make some changes in my routine and give the kids all my love!

[@teachpre-k101]

You are so welcome! It can be so hard some days...That class taught me so much! I'm glad its over, but it was an important year for me. Good Luck! let me know how it goes!

[@angelbearpuppys]

You summed up this year's group of children in my Preschool room. 17 years experience and I struggled as well with some behavioral issues.

[@teachpre-k101]

Isn't it great to have learned so much from them...as difficult as it was. I am so glad it is over, but I am also glad I know how to better handle a class with similar issues in the future!

[@jl3293]

I hear this! I teach DD Pre-K, and the need for attention is SO REAL! They need it. I had to let go of the standards and embrace SEL above all things.

[@teachpre-k101]

Yes! That is really all you can do to get through it...otherwise you are fighting to keep a wave up on the sand!

[@darsig3317]

COVID KIDS!! I, too, had a challenging class. Lots of different personalities, very loud, competitive and some ADHD, for sure. I hope you’re able to talk to parents about behavior issues. I was on the phone a lot this school year.

[@teachpre-k101]

Me too! It’s so nice to know we are not alone! I love each one of those kids so much…they were jus a LOT! Are you on summer break?

[@darsig3317]

@@teachpre-k101 - Yes! I was so ready! I’m enjoying your videos.

[@natalieknowles465]

Wow! I’m so glad I came across this video. I’m about to return to work after summer break and trying to wrap my head around jt and get some fresh ideas. I had a very similar experience this past year and it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Praying we have an easier year. 🙏

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh my gosh...I KNOW! Last year was the hardest year I have ever had. I felt like a total failure every day. My morning class was wonderful...so I knew it wasn't all me...but every afternoon...whoa! I tried everything and finally just had to accept that it was going to be really hard no matter what! Support from other teachers is so important!

[@thepaperpetunia3200]

Wow! It’s like you know exactly what I was thinking! This video was so helpful to me!!! Thank you! Lots of perspective!

[@teachpre-k101]

This past year was the hardest year I have ever had...I will always be honest here! I know that I am a good teacher, but...wow...sometimes even the best of us have it so hard and we have to figure it out. All we can do is our best, and love the heck out of those kids. When I just let go and focused on just loving the kids...it got better...still so hard...but better!

[@anadelcastillo7101]

Thank you for sharing. Thank you for your honesty.

[@teachpre-k101]

Always! Thanks for commenting!

[@BrittanyCope]

You are speaking all my problems right now

[@teachpre-k101]

Hang in there! It is so hard when you are in the middle of it all. Give yourself grace and lean on other great teachers to help you get through...even if it is just to vent.

[@YalenneLopez]

Going through this right now 🙈 thank you. 🙏🏻 still have 5 month with them.

[@teachpre-k101]

You got this! It is so hard...but you are almost halfway there! I feel for you. I really do. Just love them as much as you can and remember to focus on what you are doing right and all of the small victories!

[@EcuaFin92]

This is really a true video, I'm amazed how you explain this as really happens. There are some teachers that are very good but maybe students need different things just keep on trying different methods 😊, we just need ways to keep them engaged and if we work with things that they enjoy it is easier. For example teaching emotions with cartoons that are in fashion etc

[@teachpre-k101]

Totally agree! I learned more from that class than I have in years! I knew I would, but it has been invaluable. Thanks for your comment

[@SmellyMellyization]

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

[@teachpre-k101]

We have a hard job! You will get through it, and your next class will be so easy because of all you have learned! I'm here to help if you need it!

[@KarlaIleana]

This is my year right now. I’ve been doing it for 8 years, but It’s so hard with this class, and we are doing really good but not as good as I would like to and I feel like I’m behind with them, it’s just rough, so rough that it’s making me want to quit. Add to it that I’m in a year round calendar…. 😢

[@teachpre-k101]

girl...I feel ya!

[@MrsMysteryWoman]

Same here with the year round calendar. One of my coworkers brought that up to the preschool Director at our last staff meeting. She said today was a perfect example of why we need a spring break and a winter break in the summer break. We only ever have major holidays off and for Christmas and Thanksgiving we get two or three days off, but that’s it. Unless we choose to take days off, randomly throughout the year without pay, or if we use our sick leave pay, which seems to accumulate at a snails pace.

[@hifiunicorn]

I’m glad I am not alone. This year wrecked my mental health and I can’t even pay my bills 😢

[@teachpre-k101]

@@hifiunicorn Oh no! I totally get it! I don't know if I will remember how to run a "normal" class! It is so defeating to work so hard and not see any financial reward...I am lucky to have my husband's job and my side hustle. Early Childhood educators deserve a mountain of respect and a whole lot more money!

[@jengiolando4159]

Megg thompson is on youtube, and she’s a behavior specialist. Check her out. That’s megg with two gs Thompson.

[@teachpre-k101]

oh my gosh I will...Thank you! Its been ROOOOOUGH! I really appreciate this...more than you can imagine!

[@jengiolando4159]

youtube.com/@meggthompsonbehavior?si=1Um_u4pdluFKWuml

[@lindseyharbaugh8228]

This has been so incredibly hard to keep focus and keeping the behaviors from getting out of control and non stop talking. I feel a lot of it is due to kids constantly being on tablets and not worked with at home on normal listening skills and life skills they should know it’s been a tough 1st year teaching been a bawling mess on every other week it feels like

[@teachpre-k101]

so true! I think that the 4-5's this year will be my most difficult class ever! The good thing about having a really tough class your first year...it makes you FEARLESS in later years. Your most difficult class will always be your best teacher. use it. I've been a bawling mess at times too...be easier on yourself. you are doing the best that you can

[@Bl4k3.]

mannnn i just started my first year as an assistant and 2/3 classrooms are good but that 1/3…oh my god it is absolute chaos and i’ve had students kick, hit, bite, screaming, throwing things (glass!!) it’s devastating and so hard to go into work now. my first day was absolutely the most stressful work day i’ve ever had-kid threw a glass plate onto the ground and was walking around with a huge shard nobody got hurt though but wow. eye opening

[@teachpre-k101]

oh my gosh! That sounds horrible! I've never had anything that extreme...but I know people who have. Best of luck!

[@bethbrech9264]

Just started at a new center with a three year old class. It's been such a rough year. My co-teacher and I have had the kids spitting on us, hitting us, kicking us. We have major meltdown where a child rips things off the walls, attacks nearby children, tries to knock over shelves and kick down the walls. I've never seen a class like this. It's been so rough and it's getting hard to be excited about going to work. As long as they have one on one attention they are fine, but we can't give one on one to every child for 9 hours a day. Any suggestions would be wonderful, thank you.

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm in the same boat! Can you lean on your admin? is there any way to get another helper in the room? I'm assuming the answers to those questions is "no". It is exhausting when you feel like you are putting gout fires all day. It feels really defeating too. I don't have all the answers, and I feel your pain. Hitting and spitting on the teachers is not okay! I would have individual meetings with some of the parents and be straight with them. No one wants a disrespectful child...especially one that hits and spits! Don't be accusatory, ask the parents what they do at home when their child exhibits this kind of behavior. Tell them you want to use the same words the child hears at home so you can partner with the parents to help the child work through this behavior. Also remember that there might need to be a LOT of modeling appropriate behaviors as well....I know this is not much help, I'd love to help more. What size is your class? do you have the kids all day? do you have a lot of unstructured time? so many questions... If you want to email me at [e-mail] I'd be happy to help you with some strategies.

[@analazarescu6091]

I had the same experience last Year, couldn't believe nothing really mattered to those children. Are you alone with 16? I think that's not a good ratio. When i had another teacher helping and was able to work with them in small groups and having different stations, that's what worked.

[@teachpre-k101]

I am not alone , I have a full time aide, and I had another aide who was with me 2-3 days a week as well...finally, my admin listened and I had another aide for that class so that there were always two of us. I'm VERY aware of appropriate ratios...no way would I take this on alone! The schools who expect that of preschool teachers are insane! I'd love it if the admin at hose schools had to try to do it all themselves for a week...they would want an aide after an hour...plus, it isn't safe. Those kids are now in kindergarten and the teachers are exhausted every day...just like I was...and I noticed their half time aides went to full time right away! I learned so much from those kids...so, so much!

[@lalabtube]

May I ask the demographics of your class? I’m curious if this isn’t only urban inner city students. I feel your pain.

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh my gosh…just the opposite. I teach in a VERY affluent suburb…a private school no less. From what I’ve gathered…this is an across the board issue. COVID lockdown did a number…especially on kids at a certain developmental age. It was necessary to save lives, but the other damage has remained largely unaddressed

[@briggetteguerrero1925]

What square boxes did you use?

[@teachpre-k101]

I didn't use any square boxes...I used carpet squares. I just did a search on Amazon for "colorful carpet squares" and I got a few results. I found one set my administration was willing to purchase and we ordered them!

[@lindseyharbaugh8228]

How do you get parent help with students without saying the wrong thing??

[@teachpre-k101]

I just had conferences with the parents of this class. The way I normally handle bringing up difficult behaviors with parents is to mention all the positives and strengths I can about the child first...then I will site a few instances of difficult behavior and ask how similar things are handled at home. I ask what words the parents use when confronted with a similar situation ...so that I can use the same phrasing and provide a consistent message...or at least that is what I say. A lot of times it is a fishing expedition to see if the parents have rules for the child and how they handle problems at home. If you are seeing behavior issues, its more likely than not that it is happening with more frequency and to a more intense level in the home. This will usually open a dialogue with the parents not feeling attacked, and realizing that I am on their side and want to work with them to help their child. It is a delicate little dance that takes a while to perfect , but if it is genuine, it will come across that way and actually go far to help everyone involved. If they claim that their child is not exhibiting difficult behaviors at home, it opens you up to ask how they would LIKE those instances to be handled at school and also ask for help from the parents. I don't completely believe the parents when they say they don't see those behaviors, but I respect what they say and understand that they may have a different perspective on the behaviors in question. What I see and experience as a difficulty may have just become an accepted part of daily life for the child's family. It is hard, and sometimes your efforts will fall flat. Be willing to accept that and do your best...but keep dialogue open with the parents and document what is going on so you have a record if things escalate at any point. I hope that helps!

[@lindseyharbaugh8228]

@@teachpre-k101 thank you this is going to help so much! I’ve had a lot of firsts this year and some not the best but I truly love the kiddos and want to do my best for them

[@teachpre-k101]

@@lindseyharbaugh8228 I'm so happy I could help! I was observed by a specialist from a children's center here in town this week...she is going to give me some new things to try...I'll make sure to do a video about what I learned and what works! Please feel free to contact me anytime for help!

[@lindseyharbaugh8228]

@@teachpre-k101 thank you I love your videos and your tips and trucks

[@lindseyharbaugh8228]

Tricks not trucks lol

[@xtinamariegraffiti7184]

I work with TK and Kinder, and I call this generation the Honey Badgers. They "just want to" do whatever they want and do not care what the group is doing or what you want them to do.

[@xtinamariegraffiti7184]

and I have 40 of them....

[@teachpre-k101]

NO! 40...not all at once I pray! "Honey badgers" is the perfect name! LOL!

[@annieshaoli1966]

It had happened to me before. I ended up quitting my job.

[@teachpre-k101]

I'm so sorry...I know I had my moments where I wanted to...I'm glad I didn't, but now the kindergarten teachers are counting the days...They are just going to be "that class"

[@TheKnallkorper]

First year teacher. I’m in K and it’s so so hard. My class will NOT listen to any of my lessons. They don’t care if they’re sent away from carpet. They don’t care if they don’t get to participate in brain breaks. They don’t care when I go over the top with praises on other kids. I’m losing my mind 😭

[@teachpre-k101]

That sounds exactly like last year for me. I felt the same way and it was so perplexing. Remember the kids you have now were at a crucial age in their development during the COVID lockdown. I honestly think this group will be really difficult all the way through their school years. Routines were interrupted, they did not get the attention they needed from parents who may have been home working and could not give it. There are so many things about this group that will be difficult for every teacher they have. I hate to say this...but hang in there. I promise next year will be so much better. The end of the year will come eventually!

[@jengiolando4159]

I don’t think complimenting positive behavior is necessary, because of what u said in the video, it elicits competition.

[@teachpre-k101]

Maybe, but it is a great way to get everyone to stop and do what they need to do...I end up complimenting everyone, so it is useful. And then I have their attention and can move on.

[@l.a7710]

I am not an educator, but it is wonderful to hear and read the comments from the teachers perspective. Again, Im not an educator but it seems that nurses, social workers and teachers (pre-k) are taxed and drained and exasperated. Anybody would dealing humans. It's not these little humans are "needy" , no, they actually NEED guidance just patients NEED care and the more vulnerable NEED help. Also, when dealing with a Group of people, particularly little ones, you should already accept that its going to be taxing mentally and emotionally, thats a given, it always surprises me when teachers want miracles or wish it was easier, no you are on the front lines, just accept it. What's more important is Learning ways To COPE with the mental drain so you can have energy for your day and yourself. Sadly that is not taught in school. I do not understand ny kids can't have water during circle time, it seems so petty and minor , and controlling, who cares, its not wine! Also teachers spend more time with kids than the parents do , specially if the parents are divorced! Also that is another issue. 2 parents 2 systems, 2 step-parents , different routines , foods etc. At the end of the day don't rely on the parents too much because its YOUR time when they are misbehaving in front of you, children behave differently in school and at home. basically, don't take to personal, you chose this field, so now you are in it so find ways to COPE for YOU to stay sane , support group, therapy etc.

[@teachpre-k101]

hey...thanks for your insightful comments. It is clear from your comment that you are not in education. I can tell you that I AM an educator and have been for over 15 years...I cope very well, and this year I am speaking of was particularly difficult. I was constantly talking to other teachers, trying new strategies, and doing my job (that I LOVE) to the best of my ability. I knew that by making this video I would help a lot of teachers to see that they are not alone when they have that one really difficult group of kids that are all wonderful on their own, but together...they sometimes make a rough group. My goal is to show all teachers, that even those with loads of education, experience, awards, and have always been excellent at classroom management can have a rough year and have to do a ton of pivoting to try and make things work with that group. I am REAL. Yes, these little humans were especially needy...I have had 14 other groups of 18 humans of that age that did not need half the attention that group needed. I know my job, I am excellent at my job, and i love the kids I work with ....even when they are being difficult. They get all my love, patience, acceptance, and I will do anything to make their lives better and their days happier. Kids are usually MUCH worse for parents than teachers...if you were in education, you would know that. Part of educating young children is teaching them that there are simple rules to every part of the day. Having one 10-20 minute period where they cannot get up to get water is just fine, they are not dehydrated. It is not controlling, it is part of helping children learn this thing called " self regulation", and to learn that there are certain procedures to everything in life. Everything is done in a kids and gentle way with positive reinforcement etc. It is so enlightening when people with no experience in education think they can judge teachers or tell them how to do their jobs. Even if it is kindly meant...walk a mile in a teacher's shoes before giving them any advice. Educate yourself first.

[@l.a7710]

@@teachpre-k101 Thank you for your reply, I hope this video helps! : kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZpbQamOBhsRjq7M

[@workjustforfun1676]

Do you think all of these happening today is because our kids spend too much time online? I believed you’ve raised a profound question concerned about the future of humanity!!!

[@teachpre-k101]

honestly, I think this group of kids was at the worst stage of development to be subjected to a lockdown like we had with CVID. Their parents were home...but they were working and couldn't give them attention. They couldn't go to daycare or grandmas to socialize, the parents couldn't have family or friends over for even more socialization...they all needed so much attention. I don't feel like most 3-5 year olds spend too much time online...but yes, some do. It's like TV was when my kids were growing up...sometimes I needed them to watch a video to get dinner made or something else done. I used it sparingly and only when I really needed a break...hopefully that is all that is happening now, but some kids have an ipad in their car seat and know how to turn it on and find their shows or games. Kids need their parents and caregivers to get them playing and having fun without a screen...screens will take over their lives soon enough. More play, more play, more play!

[@cindyriehm7411]

Why would covid ruin things . Just let us know? They did what they wanted?

[@teachpre-k101]

i'm not sure I understand what you are saying here.

[@margkropf5541]

Here we have the result of parents refusing to parent. The human race is doomed.

[@teachpre-k101]

Oh gosh...I wouldn't go that far. I'm pretty sure there was a lot that went into the mix.