CLEAN WITH ME - BOYS ROOM CESSPIT EDITION

Gross Gross Gross. Lets clean my kids room and see how awful it truly is. I also redecorate it, but whats under the bed will make you forget that this is a redecorate video. #cleanwithme

[@agenthayek]

I‘m sorry to say this, but you raised your kid wrong.

[@feraltradwife]

The lack of give a shit I have about your opinion would take your breath away. Go ahead and f^ck all the way off. xoxo.

[@MrsSpur]

You were raised wrong. Clearly. Go crawl back under that rock, ya troll.

[@marcilandry644]

@@feraltradwife Best reply ever!

[@GentlyM3]

@@feraltradwife Wow, some people are empty inside. I love that you are sharing your journey. I almost bet this commenter has any children and if they do, I would love to ask their children a few questions. I am sure they would be embarrassed by this type of energy.

[@crystaldials669]

Love that reply!! That was great

[@MrsSpur]

"Your self worth is not connected to the cleanliness of your home" or in this case, your room. Calvin is such a sweet kid. The fact that he was disappointed in himself and actually cared that it was such a mess speaks to his character and such maturity! I remember my room looking like this as a kid lol. Actually, I think mine was worse. You couldn't even open the door very well. I was grounded until I got it cleaned up (understandably so). I think it's awesome that you worked through that with him, and you taught him how to clean. I remember being told to clean, but as crazy as it sounds, that's not a skill you're born with. It's a learned skill. I've learned so much as an adult about how to actually clean that I never learned as a child. My parents would just tell me to clean, but never actually tell me HOW. I love this so much! You both did a fantastic job! I love his cool new tween room! Congratulations, Calvin! 💙

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you! I am going to remember that exact phrasing to tell him next time. I also realized I was never really taught how to clean, just that I needed to clean. And I would be overwhelmed and not be able to start. Plus I really wanted him to keep at it. He cleaned with me for a few hours and I was very proud of his ability to stick with it!!

[@gerardoglielmi9056]

Ma come si fa a tenere una casa in questa codizioni significa che le pulizie non vengono fatte mai

[@elenaskanavy80]

I think the way ypou talk to your boy and disclose your own struggles is amazing! You're teaching him a valuable lesson, and he is trusting you throughout the process! Great work, mom!

[@pamelachamberlin8405]

Any mom with honesty can relate to all of this. What matters is you both got in and did this cleanup, and you created a great room for a growing boy. Teachable moments for both of you, and I love how you two did this. Don’t focus on shortcomings, focus on what you have done. He will remember for a long time how he ended up with a cool room. My kids are now grown adults, it happened in the blink of an eye. The stories I could tell about the horrors that lurk in closets and under beds. It’s common, it is part of growing up, learning how to cope and clean and move forward. And we do it all our lives. Great job!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much! I hope this sticks with him for a while. Earlier today he tidied because he remembered how hard he worked on getting it nice before. I’ll take it as a win!

[@barbarah2458]

This was such a great video. Your children are beautiful. The thing that really touched me was how your son was able to and felt free to express how he felt about the stuff that came out from under his bed. Many children would have shut down and not articulated how they were feeling and get discouraged. You handled that with such honesty and kindness. That girlfriend is world class parenting in action. You're a rockstar! Be proud!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much Barbara!! Calvin is such an amazing kid! I’m so proud of him. 😊

[@LynnWood-vk6by]

All I am going to say is we have to teach our children to pick up after themselves! Just my opinion!

[@danacaccioppoli4709]

Well it looks like the fact that you dedicate your life to the care and raising of your children just isn’t enough for the sad old internet biddies. These are the same women that bring us classics like “Well I guess I’m just a terrible mother” and “you don’t know how bad you were! You drove me crazy!” as adult children. I think you did a dope job affirming everyone and offering everyone (yourself included, hello modeling behavior!) the compassion deserved. ❤ That looks like a kid that’s safe to be a kid to me. Good job, Mama.

[@feraltradwife]

I really really appreciate this. Thank you so much. Especially “That looks like a kid that’s safe to be a kid”. That stuck my heart in a big way. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your week!

[@ashmoe1022]

I just found your channel last week and I LOVE it!!!! You are so funny, I find myself laughing out loud sometimes watching you. I watched this and used your techniques to help my daughter clean her disaster of a room. Just focusing on one thing at a time was so much less overwhelming than trying to go at it all. Thank you for the tip!! It still took us 3 hours but that was cleaning, picking up and organizing some. Thanks again!!!

[@feraltradwife]

Welcome! I’m so happy to have you!

[@TheTidyNest]

You did awesome! I like listening to these videos while I am finishing up my spring cleaning and awaiting our 7th baby to decide to make his big entrance in to the world😅 we are a very minimalist family, and I remember when my kids rooms could get that way so fast! The more we got rid of the easier and easier it got for them to keep up. Now we usually do a whole house reset every night before bed and it takes us about about 30-40 minutes for us to all work together and get everything put away and wiped down and I run room to room behind the kids with either the vacuum or broom and do floors and check their work. Just keep up all the decluttering work and it pays off big time! And the quick tidy ups every night before bed has really helped the kids learn that a little work every night keeps it from becoming a big job❤ we are all a work in progress❤

[@feraltradwife]

7 babies?! That is such an incredible blessing! I’m so excited for you! I think our family is perfect and complete, but also I long for having more babies. I really do need to focus on instilling more tidy habits in all of us. Just the other day I was back in his room and it’s a disaster again. I need to tackle the kids rooms (with them of course) this week for a nice spring cleaning.

[@MrsJilly]

You and Calvin did an amazing job 🤩 my heart melted when Calvin said he was disappointed in himself and the way you responded, I was emotional watching 🥰 You are a really good mum ❤️ I hope your headache went quickly 🤗 Great job, you should be so proud of what you achieved. Hope you have an amazing weekend! 🩷🌸🩷

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you babe! I was sad when he said it too, and I hope I handled it right. We name our feelings a lot in this house, I think it’s something we picked up in the early days of the twins therapy. Do you guys do that?

[@MrsJilly]

@@feraltradwife Don’t doubt yourself, you handled it perfectly. We have never named our feelings with our daughter but I know it is used as a strategy. I have Adhd and Ocd and the one thing I’ve always done is been open, so my daughter knows mum can struggle too. This has helped her a lot especially now she is a teenager

[@jillz1542]

Omg so funny abt 24:24 the middle dog all of a sudden opens the door! 😂❤ Love how your son is kind to the pets! ❤😺

[@feraltradwife]

They looooove the pets so so much!

[@jillz1542]

@@feraltradwife ❤️😸🐕

[@ShaunaN723]

The FNAF, prime bottles, Roblox stuff is so familiar! My boys are just a little older (11&13) and their rooms get gnarly so quick! Great job supporting him through and demonstrating how to systematically tackle something that feels insurmountable! The space looks awesome afterwards, I love the headphone decal!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you! It’s so funny to me the things he’s super into. Roblox is life! Thank you for being so supportive and kind. It does mean so much to me, really!

[@lizcritten]

How does it even get this bad?

[@frik79]

Ich habe deinen Kanal gerade erst gefunden und liebe deinen ehrlichen Kontent! Toll wie du deinem Sohn immer eine Sache nach der anderen zum reinigen gibst. Ich mache das ganz genau so, auch wenn ich alleine arbeite. Immer eins nach dem anderen. Funktioniert auch in der Küche oder dem Wohnzimmer. 🧡

[@feraltradwife]

Welcome!!🤗

[@meghanmengel437]

You are such a good mom❤ the under the bed scene is perfection

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!

[@annafalciglia5165]

Great transformation well done. Love it 🤩

[@feraltradwife]

Thanks Anna!!

[@AngelCrafts1999]

Your right sweetheart your not bad people and you both have learned and will learn alot from each other you are an amazing mom

[@feraltradwife]

You are so supportive Angel ❤️

[@gabriellecusson1400]

A task like this you get so overwhelmed and just want to give up. I think u just have to go in head first. It looks out if control but once get started it comes along and you feel so much better. It's overwhelming for us how do you think the kids feel.

[@feraltradwife]

Exactly! Everyone needs help from time to time!

[@jonkerhouse8966]

Very inspiring ❤there is always a teaching moment as a parent…keep it up

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you soooo much!!

[@lauramitchell6725]

Love his excited reaction at the end,thanks mom!👍

[@feraltradwife]

I did too!! He was so excited!

[@Crrly]

The styrofoam head comment made me laugh😂

[@Brenda-oi8oc]

❤ thank you for showing real life and not some fake stuff that makes me feel terrible about myself. I almost turned your video off because I was so triggered 😭 but now i am happy I watched more. I realized that I never was taught anything about cleaning or organizing and my beddroom always was a drama in our household. My parents fought constantly about how to discipline me and nothing got better. I was always shamed and felt like a bad kid and humane. I was the black sheep. It was just me ans and my 2 year younger brother. His room was perfect. I am 60 years old and have continued to beat myself up,shame myself and hate who I am all because I can't keep house properly. I can offord and desperately need cleaning help due to multiple disabilities. But I'm so ashamed I don't even want to ask for that person or people. And if and when I rarely finally ask for help after they leave I feel sick from shame and anxiety for who knows how long. So thank you as I type through ugly crying for letting me know it's not my fault. And it's not yours or your beautiful son's fault either. I wish my mom had that talk with me you had with your son. Maybe not the same as my mom kept the house beyond perfect. But at leat hadn't made me feel like a the dirt that was under my bed. Be gentle with yourself sweet soul. Continue to be gentle with your kids. And I will say prayers for you sweet momma. You helped me see that I may need to try and find someone who can teach me now. And maybe not. But at least I will try and be more gentle with myself. Not everything was my fault as a child. Even though I was made feel that way. ❤❤❤

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much for your beautiful and thoughtful comment! I hope together we can learn to be gentle and loving to ourselves! The cleanliness of our home does not determine our worth! You are sweet and kind and I can feel your loving heart. ❤️

[@Brenda-oi8oc]

@@feraltradwife aww thank you for your kind response. I was worried I wrote a too long comment. Sending you a gentle hug 🫂 🤗 ❤️

[@silvermoon3486]

That was good. Ur children are really cute 🥰 😊❤👍🏼

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@elliethompson-day3576]

new ish follower here going back in your account. i have no issues cleaning but your tips are so insightful and i just want you to know that you are doing AMAZING !!!

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much Ellie!! ❤️🤗

[@erikagiovanamarques3019]

Meu Deus! O resultado ficou incrivel. Parabens!👏🇧🇷

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you!!

[@tinariddell6234]

Just found your channel and am really enjoying your content (and commentary!!). Great job on this room!

[@lizcritten]

Me and my boys used to make this a monthly thing , it helps x

[@sailortwips]

Ugh the the final "little bits of miscellaneous stuff" is by far the worst part of any sorting/cleaning project for me, mostly because I'm usually over it all and decision-fatigued by that point lol I think involving your son in the process is such a good thing. I had some of my things given away as a kid (to be fair, I had grown out of them and didn't use them anymore but still) and other things I felt pressured to give away myself and I'm still a little upset about it tbh so I really don't recommend throwing things away without his input like others have commented. Learning to make decisions about your belongings and organise because you like a tidy environment is a much more valuable lesson than fear. And I guess I just have different standards than the other commenters because I didn't think his room was THAT bad... sure, it's messy but he's a kid, he's learning (just like some of us adults 😅) Overall, I think you both did a great job, both in his room and posting that vulnerability on here for others in your situation to not feel so alone (it's me, hi 👋 haha) even though there are some strangely aggressive commenters who just HAVE so share their unsolicited for opinions (I recommend just blocking them tbh there's nothing constructive or genuine about what they have to say and I wouldn't be surprised if half the reason they comment is for a reaction) And his reaction at the end was so sweet! I think he's lucky to have a mum that loves him and that's willing to go to the effort of helping him tidy and decorate his room to suit him 💜💜

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much! I could never just throw away my kids belongings without their input. I can’t imagine the damage it could potentially do to their trust in me. I appreciate all your sweet words. Don’t worry, the buttheads out there don’t bother me. I know I’m awesome, but I’m also flawed. And people’s ugly comments are their ugly, not mine! Thank you for your support babe, it means the world to me.

[@TheVideoGamesHistorian]

My daughter is 21 and her room gets like this . I ended up cleaning it as so fed up asking her to do it and just surface cleaning is no good . Well done on tackling this and ignore the perfect people .x

[@donnamcfeeters3891]

You did a really nice job on his room. Any young boy would love this.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!!

[@nikkiarjona16]

I love watching your video especially this one. I'm amazed how calm your voice while giving instruction to ur son. Because here in the Philippines the typical mom would get mad and would talk nonstop! Haha unless the room is clean 😅😂

[@feraltradwife]

lol, thank you so much 😊

[@Chrissyhappy]

😂 I don’t do straight pictures either. I do random patterns on the walls for the exact reason that I never get them straight either.😊

[@jocropley]

you have a very soft gentle voice and with the back ground music sometimes it hard to hear what your saying .. The music can just be a bit loud . We enjoy listening to what you're saying . Thank you for all you do and show .. I so enjoy watching you .

[@feraltradwife]

@@jocropley thank you! I am trying to fix this and think I have a better balance with some of my new videos? If you happen to see a newer one would you mind commenting if it’s better or the same? I really appreciate it!!!

[@jocropley]

@@feraltradwife yes ... I agree the newer ones are getting so much better.. I hated to even say anything because I feel you do a really good job .. But I do want to hear what your saying I agree with almost all you do .. ( other than washing your dishes fist ..LOL ) .. Keep going forward your awesome...

[@feraltradwife]

@@jocropley please let me know if you notice things! I'm so new to editing and input from all of you really helps. I actually learned how to make my videos way less white washed because someone brought it up that it was bonkers bright. APPRECIATE YOU BABE!! xoxo

[@jeriheggie]

Yes I found it!! Watching it now 🍿

[@fundaaltin2986]

Real mom life, thanks for sharing.

[@genesiscanteros6396]

Es un nene , solo ahi que enseñarle y cuando vaya creciendo solo va a ir ordenando , esta bien que te ayude le hace sentir bien a el tambien y al ver que no es facil limpiar capaz solito vaya manteniendo el orden ❤

[@susangalloway8009]

Had this when my kids were small, I used to get anxiety walking past their rooms,

[@vickilewis9029]

You certainly have more patience than I had when my kids were your son's age. I gave mine 2 days to clean their rooms. If it wasn't done when they went to school on the third day I would simply put most of it in garbage bags and threw it away. Simple. They learn to out their things away very quickly.

[@feraltradwife]

Have you ever watched hoarders? It’s like half of their story of why they started hoarding. Their mom threw out most of their belongings when they were at school. It’s actually heartbreaking to hear them tell it. So I am choosing not to do that to my kids but instead work with them and myself to improve.

[@neidesantos9160]

Amo assistir seu vídeos. Me da animo prá arrumar minha casa támbem. Deus abençoe você sempre. Beijos ❤❤

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you so much!!

[@maribelperezalonso8506]

No me puedo creer que esto pueda ser realidad

[@Alliappalachian]

You both did great!

[@managing_the_motherload]

so we're all raising the same son? I'm like how are you ever going to live on your own? my son is going to be like Disney princess living with mice, and roaches, and other bugs, not the nice animals, but that is how I picture him. 😂😂😒😒❤❤

[@feraltradwife]

Lmaooooooooo

[@PTruth-md6xx]

Your child is old enough to do his room himself. Laundry, rubbish etc he should sort through daily and tidy his room. All your children are old enough.

[@meghanmengel437]

I felt that head drop to my soul

[@feraltradwife]

My poor little dude. He is such an amazing kid.

[@Jenny-rr3ol]

Good to see your son helping

[@feraltradwife]

We had a big discussion about him being on camera for it before hand and he really wanted to.

[@susangalloway8009]

Superb love it

[@jillz1542]

Where'd you get ur slippers? I had those a Long time ago. Can't find 🙁

[@feraltradwife]

Amazon! amzn.to/4fzX9ZB (affiliate link!)

[@darkhorse8413]

What you permit, you promote.

[@feraltradwife]

Indeed.

[@pamelabrashears-yd7pt]

Just a thought 🤔 Your son is getting older. If you didn't have bed skirt on you might be able to see under bed now that you turned it?? I love that he did help and made decisions.. Good job 👍

[@feraltradwife]

The box spring it’s on is so old the bottom is hanging down off of it, it looks terrible. The skirt was to hide that from view 🤣😂 works a little TOO well.

[@mariabetancur6471]

He is so use to have a messy home that it is normal to have his room exactly the way the rest of the house is.

[@DunderMiflinScranton]

I loved how you handled it when Calvin said he was disappointed in himself. What a sweet kid. You are a very good mom. 👍🏻👍🏻

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you!!!

[@karenershadi]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@carolynoquinn4573]

Great job you two! Wow, he must do a lot of eating in his room?

[@feraltradwife]

He sure does! He isn’t allowed to at this point but I had no idea how many wrappers and stuff he had in there! I was shocked.

[@brandysweet9590]

You alot nicer of a mom then me I don't let my kids eat in their room only water and if I have t clean alot of that weight got trash

[@feraltradwife]

I doubt it’s nice of me? But we have limited eating to the main area for now.

[@ShaunaN723]

Good thing for this comment sections or I’d have remained ignorant about the fact I’m a terrible mother for letting my kids have autonomy over their bedrooms and spending my energy on other things 😅😂

[@danacaccioppoli4709]

Thank goodness we know now that the time we spend connecting with our children is all for naught because their rooms aren’t spotless. Thanks sad old internet ladies

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you! I do try to let them be autonomous. And all I suck at housekeeping so it’s so hard to hold them to a standard that I can not hold my self to. But this feels like something we can learn together.

[@anitarodriguez2797]

lol he came out with a big pot, if he comes out with that your not watching him 😂🤦🏽‍♀️

[@feraltradwife]

@@anitarodriguez2797 oh yeah. I’m absolutely not watching him because he’s not 3. Also, that’s what my kids put by their bed when they feel sick and are worried that they won’t make it to the toilet. It’s what I grew up doing too. Please drop any other judgement on my other videos! The engagement sure helps! 🙌

[@nuriabarral8368]

Ni siquiera quiero pensar como le dejaste llegar a eso

[@shirleenpocaigue8839]

What I use to do if they won't clean there room and I go in and clean it up anything that is on the floor is trash no matter what that's how I clean unless it's clothes and shoes and school bag everything went to the trash they learn there lesson after that they keep there room clean.

[@feraltradwife]

That’s absolutely horrifying

[@allisonhertzler4084]

Can't tell you how many times my kids rooms looked exactly like that! Now my kids have kids...and they outgrew it:) No shame and people who judge you or your family only do so due to their own insecurities and self loathing. So fuck them.

[@feraltradwife]

Thank you Allison!!

[@BrujillaMorenilla7610]

Que no es más limpia quien más limpia sino quien menos ensucia .

[@mariaespinoza6358]

First, clean out dishes & whatnot. Second, trash. Third, clothes. Then, papers. Should be easier then. My brother's room was bad, but he had other problems going on. Baby's room shouldn't be like this (whether he's little or a tweenish young boy). Even when my very young, single mom w 3 kids under 5, lived in a basic apt in North Hollywood, 1970's, she never had a room looked like this. Our 20ish yr old mom would have been mortified to have anyone see a mess like this. Not teaching and helping him clean is bad. Having him leave it like that for sake of a video, is even worse. Alllll that dust isn't good for him to breathe.

[@feraltradwife]

Have a great day!

[@danacaccioppoli4709]

Granny ain’t nobody ask about your opinion or your brother, go take your meds

[@lauramitchell6725]

OUCH!😳

[@SharonMum]

Hi Beth , I hope you won't mind, but I recently heard of and learned about executive dysfunction, until then I just thought I was weird, its explained a lot to me and made me accept myself more, just in case it might help you I wanted to mention it

[@feraltradwife]

I love that you mentioned it! I (and my son) both seem to toe that line pretty hard. I have been researching ways to over come it. I would love any books or resources you’ve found.

[@SharonMum]

@@feraltradwife I've just been googling it there's a ton of stuff online, I only heard about it through watching a cleaning channel called Remi Clog she's very open and honest like you are she's lovely to watch too, I want to say you've raised your son just fine, when he said sorry and was helping you warmed my heart, the way he showed gratitude I just melted, he's a credit to you in all the important ways!

[@feraltradwife]

He is incredibly gracious and kind. I love him so much. Thank you for seeing the amazing side of him. I will look Remi up! Thank you for the resource ☺️

[@Chrissyhappy]

@@feraltradwifeI watch Remi too. She lives not far from me in the Uk. Lovely lady. Definitely worth a watch.😊

[@margiebeeb2836]

Hard to hear you, music is loud

[@feraltradwife]

I know. It’s awful. But I struggled for like 20 hours to get this thing to upload. I’ll have to see if I can correct it through KZbin :)

[@nuriabarral8368]

No hace nada .... Solo da vueltas😡😡😡😡😡

[@MrsSpur]

By the way.. did you know those pictures aren't lined up and level? 🤔🧐

[@feraltradwife]

No they are. Watch the whole video again, start to finish. Make another KZbin account, like and subscribe from that new account. Then watch it all the way through again. Repeat until you see how exactly lined up those pictures really are. 😉

[@MrsSpur]

😂🤣😂🤣You right. They're straight 😂🤣😂🤣@@feraltradwife

[@lauramitchell6725]

MrsSpur: At 30:52,you must have missed this.

[@MrsSpur]

​@@lauramitchell6725oh no..I didn't miss it 😂. I was just giving her crap and being sarcastic because that's what we do.

[@feraltradwife]

@@lauramitchell6725 thanks for having my back Laura! @MrsSpur is a mean ol troll! (Who has become a dear friend) one of those amazing online to real life friendship stories 😊

[@francaerario4390]

Ma come si fa' ha sporcare una casa in quel modo 🤦

[@vickilewis9029]

Get the animals out of your way.

[@widowswatch6610]

This is not right . How can you let your sons room get like this. This is wrong. You definitely do not discipline your son. This is just not right mom. Kids should start to learn to pick up as a 2 year old. Wow I am shocked you would make this video so the people could see this. This certainly doesn’t make you look good or the kid.

[@feraltradwife]

I don’t make the videos to make myself look good. I can see you have big feelings! I hope you can feel better soon.

[@danacaccioppoli4709]

Have you ever seen a 2 year old clean? You’re talking crazy right now lady

[@gbk1t]

There is nothing wrong with your son. It a the mother’s job to keep the home tidy, not the child. You clearly have not been in that room for weeks judging by the state of it. Blaming a child like this is all wrong.

[@feraltradwife]

Not blaming him at all. Not only is that room messy, but my whole house is often a complete train wreck. It’s something I’m working on and trying to install better habits in my children.

[@genevievepetruzzelli4423]

For starters he’s 11 years old and absolutely can clean up after himself. Second of all did you not hear her talking to him and taking most of the blame? I think some things wrong with you.