Cleaning when you have ADHD | aka: I don't like to clean...

[@RufflesMcGee]

I don't like cleaning my own space but I LOVE cleaning other people's spaces...basically I like going through their stuff 🤷‍♀️😂

[@Galaxiebot]

Totally get that, I love a good opportunity to snoop

[@patriciapensyl2736]

I have always loved loved loved cleaning other people spaces

[@wickedwonderland9831]

I recently helped a friend move. Guess who got hyperfocused and unpacked, cleaned and decorated an entire apartment in 6 hours? I couldn't stop. 100% that bitch

[@kandiscythe9072]

Yuuuuppp, just did a friends kitchen with just a sponge n some dish soap…24 buckets of water later.. ✨ And my room is still a rats nest..

[@nickorange4881]

Exactly. Why is that so easy in comparison to our own space?

[@GoADHDGo]

I don’t like to clean but once I start cleaning I can’t stop cleaning

[@Galaxiebot]

I struggle with that too!

[@sagegrace]

I’ll literally be dehydrated and I’ll still clean until I feel I’m completely finished.

[@Galaxiebot]

@@sagegrace that happens to me all the time! I tell myself I'll just clean a bit before I get the glass of water and then forget the glass of water entirely!!

[@logann-mackenziefroste563]

Same here.

[@logann-mackenziefroste563]

@@Galaxiebot yes. This is me also

[@deltonafletch]

Hyper-focus is my issue which sounds good in theory like I could hyper-focus on cleaning and have a showplace of a home. What really happens is I hyper-focus on searching for the right rug on Wayfair or on winning a Facebook game and then 3 hours later I have done nothing useful and still didn't find a rug or win the game. It is hard to explain to people outside of my family who have had to see my go through it.

[@Galaxiebot]

Oh my god, I know exactly what you mean about the rug though, I totally do that too all the time.

[@jiphulsman274]

set 30 minute timers and just tell yourself for the next 30 mintues im going to rock whatever it is you are doing, this triggers a certain hyper focus in me but not a full one , and after the timer i look at what i have done be okay with that and set another timer repeat for about 2 hours after that take a break

[@Galaxiebot]

Sometimes like that work for me, but they tend not to work like that for cleaning for me!

[@vlvchii]

That's so me. Except sometimes I'll hyper focus on cleaning, but I'll clean one thing obsessively and neglect everything else horribly. Those things tend to be the oven and the bathrooms weirdly enough.

[@rorusaurus]

oh my goddd i will focus on the most random unnecessary tasks while i have 10 things i ACTUALLY have to do

[@patriciapensyl2736]

I can do something then walk away for a break. The problem is getting back to what I was doing

[@Galaxiebot]

Ah yes, the age old problem! Tbh for me it really depends on the activity, sometimes it's just about matching the activities you can easily go back and forth between. Like laundry and youtube or dishes and working are combos which work for me!

[@nickorange4881]

Oh yes.

[@marianaluna7947]

It's so comforting learning there are so many people who go through what I do and understand without judgement... Thank you... I want to be productive and live in a clean environment... I'm trying :)

[@Galaxiebot]

We're all trying and that's what's important!!

[@marianaluna7947]

@@Galaxiebot yes! We're all in our own journey

[@DaneManGames]

The hardest thing for me is to start...and then restart when my mind lose focus and I take a brake! I found not being the only one like this helps complete things, at least for me

[@saielady]

My biggest issue is doing too many tasks at once so I hop from one thing to the next without finishing what I was doing. Today while cleaning the bathrooms, I went to grab a cloth from the kitchen, then started cleaning the kitchen before remembering that I was cleaning the bathrooms and now I have a pile of dirt in the middle of the kitchen floor where I hadn’t finished cleaning the kitchen 😂.

[@bluubird7077]

Yup. This right here.

[@milllestrange3984]

Wow this is the first time I've heard someone talk about over-rewarding, which is exactly what I do (and have been doing all my life). I'll definitely give that list idea a try haha

[@Galaxiebot]

That's part of why I brought it up! I don't think it's talked about enough!! Thank you for the comment

[@BoopSnoot69]

Dishes are so hard for me to do. It's a huge sensory thing. The clinging, the unexpected loud clang if you don't put them in the right spot, the FLOATIES IN THE WATER, the feeling of my hands afterwards, cleaning out the drain stopper. It's the WORST. So I have this whole method that takes me a lot longer to complete. I have to wear ear plugs and gloves and it's really really hard to do. But I do it because i also cannot stand the smell of icky dishes and sinks. It's a constant struggle lol. It's okay tho.

[@Galaxiebot]

I totally get this, I often wear gloves while doing dishes for similar reasons. I also find the loud noises hard to deal with when doing it but the dishes just pile up and I hate it so I do it

[@Pepperrose21]

I feel you 💀😅

[@Plethorality]

The right gloves can change your world. Also, aprons help. Feel less contaminated.

[@nomg9619]

Whoa! You just helped me so much by validating my struggle! The shame spiral of dirty house is real!! Messy - to depression and distraction - to shame - to can’t start bc overwhelmed- back to overwhelmed etc! Thank you so much 😭💕

[@Galaxiebot]

Of course!! I'm glad it was validating for you 💚💚💚

[@kirakitchell502]

I want to thank you. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 5 and I have been struggling with clutter my whole life. I was always told I was lazy and that I just wasn't trying hard enough and that I needed to do better. My anxiety and depression hand been so bad that I am afraid to do anything wrong or even let my OCD clean boyfriend come over to my place when my room is a mess. I am just now starting to look for ways that I can keep clean and try not to be so self critical about not finishing a huge task like cleaning my trashed/cluttered room. In your words," I would always underreward my self." By doing it in little spirts and taking little brakes, I figuring out piles or areas that I can do and then I can take a small 5 minute brake and reward myself. Like eating a handful of gold fish or watching a few tiktoks. I found that writing down thing I need to do when they come to mind works really well then. Then if I have a big task I try to brake it down and in the morning I will select one big task and 2 or 3 small tasks that I can do that day. But I have taken common cleaning things( Cleaning the sink or shower, picking up my floor ect.) sorted them on a planner over the days of the week. So it just gets done over the week so it isn't overwhelming and will be alot easier for me to start. You have helped me so much on just getting my organization skills and life skills better so thank you 😊🙏☺ and God bless

[@Galaxiebot]

Thank you for this comment, I'm so glad that this video has been helpful to you! Honestly I appreciate so much getting stories like this, I'm glad that my content really does seem to help people.

[@NigeriaSimone]

Girl! The overflowing laundry/sink/trashbags are my nemesis!! Currently I have basket of overflowing clean laundry next to my bed, a washing machine full of clean dishes and a sink/counter of dirty dishes, and 2 milk crates of "donations" by the door that I'm sure will becaome trash because I keep forgetting to actually donate it. Add to it that I'm also autistic so the overwhelm is a double whammy. I'm really trying to get better now though. My living room stayed spotless for 10 days so thats a win!!

[@Galaxiebot]

Yeah I totally feel that! Especially the part about a room staying spotless for 10 days, that's always a huge win for me!!

[@jelenar1939]

Wow. I flinched as you said there are people who are "two broke two see a doctor" That's so bizarre. I'm glad to live in Germany with health insurance...

[@Galaxiebot]

Ah yeah I'm sure that seems weird from a German perspective, unfortunately the US is not great at the Universal Healthcare thing 😩

[@kimberlyjennings618]

Perk: we don’t have nearly as high of taxes. Most Americans have lots of debt and poor $ management skills though so instead of saving to pay for insurance, we spend $500/mo on a new car lol

[@Galaxiebot]

@@kimberlyjennings618 I think it's a lot more complex than simply having poor money management skills, and lower taxes isn't really something to boast about when we struggle to provide a social safety net to our most vulnerable citizens

[@squiddyboog]

currently watching this video while trying to vacuum the carpet without getting frustrated and crying

[@Galaxiebot]

[@squiddyboog]

@@Galaxiebot omg, too funny. Thats exactly what i did. Side Note- so when you mentioned doing certain things on certain days, I hauled butt to my kitchen, grabbed a dry erase calendar and made myself a calendar just for housework. Tuesdays tidy up living room, Thursdays scoop cat box stuff like that. You are a genius! thank you!

[@Galaxiebot]

I'm glad I helped!! Thank you for letting me know, I love to hear it

[@patriciapensyl2736]

Join one of the ADHD groups in FB. This helps me to remember that I. Not the only onedealing with this.

[@mmc91]

Ainsley, I feel this so deeply. Some days it literally feels so hard and heavy. Most people don't get it.

[@aliciamarana]

Also, Dana K White’s books are seriously the best cleaning and organizing books I’ve ever read. She doesn’t self identify as ADD but I’ve never heard someone describe my inner dialogue better than her.

[@notalltheories]

DON'T FOLD YOUR LAUNDRY IF YOU DON'T WANT TO!!! Folding is the bane of my existence, so sometimes I just shove things in the right drawers when they're clean (my goal is to get the basket empty as soon as possible after its clean) Then dirty clothes don't pile up on the floor because the clean clothes aren't staying in the laundry basket forever.

[@katiemiller8313]

1. Great content!! I've been unofficially diagnosed with ADHD recently (at 35). I've been trying to collect as many tips for cleaning and organizing as possible, and it's so relatable when someone else shares their struggles with executive function and their strategies to help combat those struggles. So thank you! 2. Constructive criticism: I'm sure your aware by now, but there was a noise throughout most of the video, which I'm pretty sure was your hair on your mic. It was a struggle for me to listen to your words without being distracted by the noise. I'd recommend keeping an eye on your mic in the future, and if possible, listen to clips of your recording periodically as you go. Otherwise, your sound quality was good, and the mic worked well. 3. I spy a Critical Role dice scroll in the background! This was the first of your videos that I've watched, but I hope to watch more soon. Thank you for this video, and keep up the good work!

[@Galaxiebot]

Thank you!! Also yes I don't use this mic anymore for a reason 😅 but I'm glad AI could help you in some way, and good luck on your journey post-diagnosis!! It's always a very big deal when you start to figure yourself out! Also, since you mentioned Critical Role, I would suggest my hyperfixations video 👀

[@dlewis895]

I WASNT DISTRACTED BY ANY NOISE...BUT DIFFERENT DAYS DEPENDS WHATS GOING ON IN MY LIFE

[@chaffegirl]

for me the worst is when people say "JUST". "Just pick it up then", "Just put them away" . makes me feel like a horrible parent and person

[@Galaxiebot]

Yeah I hate that too...

[@Kattieninja]

I have a horrible time with doing the thing that gives me dopamine, and what I need to get done. I compromised with myself somehow that whenever my back starts hurting from sitting too long, I'll take a break and use that time to clean up one thing. It circumvents the overwhelmed feeling because I'm only doing one thing for like 5-10 minutes untill my back stops hurting. It's worked okay so far for me. Sometimes I slip and go all day without moving, but my house is a bit more tidy for it.

[@Galaxiebot]

yeah that's very fair! Juggling ADHD and chronic pain is something that can be very difficult

[@daniellepinkowski8486]

Ah, the "why can't you just do the dishes" problem.

[@Galaxiebot]

The problem we all face daily

[@shaniseburris9839]

Same!!!

[@GoADHDGo]

My answer to “Why don’t you just do the dishes?” is: “If I do the dishes, I will clean the sink and then the counter, then the floor, then I’ll vacuum the floor, the move into the living room to vacuum that floor, then I’ll have to dust the living room, and then the family room, then the stairs, then I’ll end up cleaning the whole damn house.” Then she says, “Oh... so clean the dishes.”

[@strawberrydiamond5886]

@@GoADHDGo You basically just described my entire life.

[@TheAyanamiRei]

Me trying to do dishes is like trying to carry water in a bucket with a hole on the bottom T_T

[@rachelnugent3840]

Hey that's my shirt! Lol 🤣 But actually, I really like the idea of journalling what I've accomplished in a day. I often feel like I accomplish so little in a day and don't deserve rewards, especially in quarentine/pandemic when basic tasks just take so much more energy. With a journal, at least I could say "so I didn't clean the bathroom like I've ment to all week, but I did do dishes, make a healthy dinner, and do dishes (again) !" Then hopefully stop feeling so guilty over the occasional Klondike bar.

[@Galaxiebot]

Yes it is your shirt! Also yeah I totally get that feeling of not having done enough, especially when you're inside all day! It makes it so much harder!

[@bluubird7077]

Beautiful. Two years later and still (and will always be) relevant. Thank you. I'm trying. Each moment is new so if I fail I can try again in a moment. Until I am successful. 💗

[@reaganmarr5886]

My issue is I have been decluttering as a resolution. I keep doing a little in each room. But.. now it looks like my house vomited all my stuff out. My kids have adhd too. Its all so difficult.

[@Galaxiebot]

Decluttering is useful in certain areas but not all for sure! I don't know how many times I've gotten rid of something only to have to rebuy it because it turns out I had it for a reason!

[@melissab8500]

I have a rule, if I can replace it in under 20 minutes for under $20 it's okay to toss it or give it away

[@dlewis895]

WITH MY KIDS HOUSE CLEANING IS TEAM WORK JOB ASSIGNMENTS =SMALLER WHEN DIVIDED UP LIST ON SIDE REFRIG JOBS RESPONSIBLE FOR ROTATE JOBS EACH MONTH LESS BORING

[@dlewis895]

@@Galaxiebot I HAVE 20 CAN OPENERS BECAUSE CANT SEE WHAT I HAVE

[@ashleybernier1896]

I wanna do better taking care of my own place but I can never focus enough to do one room at a time, as I'm putting something away from one room I notice stuff while I'm putting that thing away and then start doing that area till I have to put something else away somewhere else... it's mayhem and overwhelming some days..

[@jillianguilford5191]

Dana K White of a Slob Comes Clean had this problem. She emphasizes that If I have a trash bag & donation box where I'm working, and I need to take something where it goes, I can take it there, put it up or do one-in-one-out. Then I need to go to the first place I'm working to either put the replaced thing in the trash bag or donate box.

[@eclowe6594]

My mom likes to hit me with "sometimes we just gotta suck it up and do things we don't want to do" and I'm about ready to lose my ish about it because if she knew how much I just try to will myself into "sucking it up and doing it" Also I am a therapist who was late diagnosed with ADHD and I have learned more about things that are actually helpful for those of us with ADHD from listening to/ watching videos from people who actually have ADHD than I've ever learned from my schooling or continuing education. A lot of the stuff we get taught to do to supposedly help people with ADHD is ableist and not actually helpful (like the task lists for example... Which, I still will suggest one from time to time but now I know how to set it up and how to talk about in a neurodivergent friendly way instead of "just write it down". So I really appreciate your video. Look forward to watching more of them!

[@Galaxiebot]

Thank you! I'm really glad that you liked it!

[@SolarStorm270]

I have adhd and anxiety and it’s legit a constant war of my anxiety yelling at me to do stuff and be productive and my adhd saying I’ll do it tomorrow

[@alexiousthomas]

Same here

[@kgoak5765]

Everything you say in the first 4 minutes-I totally 💯 can relate to. CBT / Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has helped some but never has really helped me with the messiness of ADHD. It’s been difficult finding someone who understands and can assist me.

[@amyrobbins5602]

I super resonate with everything you said. I appreciate your tips! I'm brand new to my ADHD journey (still undiagnosed but working on it) and videos like this make me feel less crazy and help me heal from situations in my past. Thank you again.

[@bh6277]

Jess, I just found your YT channel and felt so identified with you. Not just because I have ADHD but we also share a lot of manners and likes. New follower ❤

[@madisonhults6487]

Omg the laundry issue has been me my whole life and I relate to everything you’re saying so deeply 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@Galaxiebot]

Laundry is so hard, there's so many steps and so much of it to do.

[@amandak8689]

Been messing around on my phone for an hour and half sitting next to a pile of clean laundry. Didn’t even notice the pile until you mentioned laundry lol

[@Galaxiebot]

Laundry is the worst and I always have it piling up 😂

[@NamakauStar]

This is so helpful honestly than you for providing a space that makes me feel like I’m okay and not crazy

[@tildea4936]

Finally adhd tips from someone with adhd!!!

[@Galaxiebot]

I'm glad you're here! There are others of us around if you're looking for more!!

[@_deannagrace]

The way this video speaks to my soul 🥲

[@LalulaPsy]

04:49 was already liking your content, I was searching for vids on how to clean when you have ADHD and there was not much around, or the same ol' same ol'. Then I clicked your video just to check it out and your first few minutes really resonated. BUT this exact timestamp is when I clicked subscribe. Thank you for not offering me to make a list that I'll NEVER get around to doing and even if I do, will never obey lol. A new sub for being someone who I can really relate to. Thanks

[@Galaxiebot]

Omg awe thank you, I'm glad it resonated with you!

[@suzannethompson3636]

This video made me feel a LOT better

[@Galaxiebot]

I'm glad it could help!

[@cvelasquez8041]

I have one of those spin-the-wheel apps on my phone where I list individual tasks in, I spin the wheel, then do the task that comes up, because I can never just pick a place to start. Kind of feels like a game, but also once the choice comes up it's blacked out, so when my wheel is all blacked out I feel like I actually accomplished something.

[@buffybowman1192]

Thank you. This helped me so much for ideas with my 13 year old daughter. Such great advice!

[@Galaxiebot]

Awe that's one of the best comments I've gotten in weeks 🥺 good on you for looking into this stuff to try and help her!!

[@rebeccachristopher5342]

Thank you so much for this video. I never think of everything I actually did during the day, it’s mostly what I haven’t gotten done. I will start a journal and then celebrate my accomplishments.

[@Galaxiebot]

Of course, glad I could help!!

[@imnotkimyoohyeon4979]

I love how you talk faster than the usual KZbin content creators. I usually just change the speed to 2x just so i could focus on what they're saying lol.

[@Galaxiebot]

😂 omg that's so funny bc I often feel like I talk too slow! But I think that's because I spend a lot of time on Tik Tok

[@Roatanlova68fmp71lliiiak]

Omfg I love you already for not making lists! This was helpful, thank you. X

[@Galaxiebot]

#EndListMakingCulture

[@Roatanlova68fmp71lliiiak]

@@Galaxiebot sing it sister 🙂

[@lacyaubut6751]

“Sometimes you just need to figure it the heck out.” 😩 ur right

[@Galaxiebot]

Lol thank you

[@BoopSnoot69]

I also totally agree that making small tasks is a LOT easier. But then i tend to get crazy with it and next thing I know I've done all my laundry, organized my desk, made a plan for the next day, took a shower, made dinner, etc. And it's 2 in the morning and I still need more things to do lol. It's either that, or I get absolutely nothing done at all!

[@wiseOne1982]

for my family we have reusuble stickers that we put on a scene. like a house. we can earn decorations for the bedroom as an example. did dishes and earn the bed sticker. and getting a whole room decorated feels awesome.

[@harrietcraig7817]

Wow this is profound. You’re the only one I’ve ever listened to that understands what a humongous achievement it is to simply unload a dishwasher. Glad I found you, but I’d like to give you my mom’s number so you can explain this!

[@Galaxiebot]

Hahaha I'm glad I could be helpful! You might be able to show the video to your mom and maybe if that doesn't work, we can work on a consulting situation 😂

[@Leena79]

I'm supposed to have a small get-together tomorrow, and it's now 9 am the previous day, and instead of doing what I was supposed to do, which is clean the house after basically living like a pig for months, I ended up watching tips on how to clean with excecutive dysfunction. I'm diagnosed with autism, but I wouldn't be surprised if it came with a little bit of ADHD, too, looking at my life. I was trying to clean yesterday, but after procrastinating for half the day, I stirred some of the piles of stuff that should be put away, realized my craft and art supplies are impossible to fit in the storage spaces I currently have, so I ended up browsing Ikea website to find the kind of bookshelf I'd need, and then got overwhelmed by the task at hand, so I took "a little break" painting a fairy painting (my special interest) for hours. I feel, regardless of how I decide to do things ahead of time to avoid the last minute panic, I always end up doing things too late, and at that time, I have to cut corners and never really get my home looking the way I'd like it to look. It all feels kinda hopeless.

[@LeeBrenton]

that was realistic and helpful. thank you for taking the time to make this x

[@Galaxiebot]

Of course! I'm glad it was helpful!!

[@ZephyraFated]

I wake up, get something to drink then I sit and watch tv. As I wait for the laundry to be done so I can change it out. I enjoy doing a little bit at a time like clean off the shelves. I make the mess bigger than it should be when I clean.

[@mamabee2151]

I’m so so so glad that it’s not just me

[@Galaxiebot]

It's not! Don't worry, there's a lot of us! 💚

[@snomad2248]

It sounds like there’s a ghost scrubbing your house for you as you’re talking.

[@Galaxiebot]

It's my hair on the mic

[@carleighloder1819]

my favorite thing to do is fold my clothes and vacuum, its the other steps i need to take before i can do those things is what i struggle with the most.... aka walking to the laundry room, and picking things up off the floor.

[@Angel-gb9gi]

I have ADD I hate boring things like cleaning and cooking. I can be talking on the phone and do so much cleaning and not even remember doing it because I was enjoying my talk while doing boring things and I didn't get bored or realize the boredom. I use Videos and music sometimes to keep my mind occupied when I have to do BORING things I want done but hate the boredom and overwhelmed feeling when doing it. I have to break up my work load. No more than an hour a day of cleaning. I set goals for each day and if they don't get done I'm not too hard on myself. Monday has its goal as every day of the week. Not saying I always meet my goals but I really do have to take breaks and push myself on those little goals I set for myself. I tell myself if this is not done now you will fail yourself and that bothers me and so I try not to focus on anything else and only get those goals done. I don't know how many times I'll be cleaning something and I get distracted by clutter or another task and never complete my cleaning list. I'll never be good at house keeping or staying up on everything but I am learning how to eliminate the boredom and to make sure everyday I have a reasonable goal set that never takes more than an hour after I get home from work. I hate cleaning and cooking but I love the satisfaction when I see my progress.

[@cendrecovfefe2496]

Don't fold your laundry. Buy pretty baskets. Throw it in it. 👍 If you hate some tasks, one way to get out of it is just finding another way of getting it done. I hate doing the dishes, and hope one day I'll get a dishwasher. But to cope until I get one, I start by forks and knives. Because it doesn't take much energy. Once it's done I can at least clean two bowls. When I finish I clean a plate too. Small goals. But I do not think about it at all, I do it naturally. If I start thinking about strategies to deal with cleaning it makes it even worse. I don't know why.

[@cendrecovfefe2496]

I still do my dishes once a week tho.'

[@Galaxiebot]

Yeah breaking things down really helps me! Unfortunately, I don't really have the space to not fold my laundry. In an ideal world, I would prefer to hang everything because I find that task really calming for some reason but my closet is far too small for it 😔

[@aubreecarter5006]

This was VERY helpful! I can use this at work as well. The reward system was my favorite part (and your funny comments 😂)

[@Galaxiebot]

Thank you! I'm glad that it was helpful to you!!

[@wiseOne1982]

I love those folding boards

[@jennhoff03]

Holy crap, this is my sister!!! Like, every single thing that was said! And it drives me nuts that she doesn't do anything bc it's too overwhelming. I always tell her to bite off a small chunk and start, but she won't start ANYTHING bc it sounds like it's going to be too much. Our mom does all her laundry, pays her bills, does her shopping, and cooks her food. I literally started going to therapy to deal with my anger issues on the topic. It never occurred to me until this video (how did I even find this?!) that there could be an actual, physical reason why she doesn't do things. That changes things. ....Hmm, now I have to figure out how to talk to her about this.

[@Galaxiebot]

I'm not a doctor (as I've stated) but if your sister is having similar symptoms to what I'm describing, I would recommend taking her to a professional. A lot of times, by the time people are at the point where everything is overwhelming and people are frustrated with them, they probably are struggling internally more than they let on. At least that's how it was for me! Good luck with your situation 💚

[@jennhoff03]

@@Galaxiebot Thank you!!!! That's great advice. Honestly, your video last night has already been a huge blessing to me. Like just in one day I've already felt less frustrated knowing there's a reason for this. I could not be more grateful. Thank you for putting yourself out there like you did! I think it's really helping people.

[@Galaxiebot]

Thank you 💚 I'm so glad I can help!!

[@catherinedean3796]

You are an amazing example of being exactly what we need... willing to learn and unlearn. I'm 28, was diagnosed at 13, and my mom STILL doesn't quite understand me. I can tell she's slowly coming around, but having people in your life that are willing to go on the journey with you, even if they don't understand, is such a treasure, and your sister is so lucky to have you

[@jennhoff03]

@@catherinedean3796 Awww! Thank you, Catherine! I needed that today. ❤️ I'm sorry that it's been 15 years and your mom is still struggling to understand. That must be really frustrating. I wonder if sending her a video like this might help so that she hears it from someone else besides you, ya know? Sometimes we can't hear things from the people closest to us bc it's so emotional. I don't know. Anyway, thank you for your kind comment. That was really nice.

[@v1v1dlyv1rtual]

Thank you so much for this helpful video!! also I love your metroid hoodie!

[@Galaxiebot]

Thank you!!!

[@najtrows]

Thank your for a video that gave me some more motivation. Cleaning and keeping stuff tidy has always been a issue for me and when I start I always get stuck on details like sorting stuff so it's easier to clean next time. But I never manage to sort stuff in a good way anyway :P

[@NigeriaSimone]

I'd say even the ADHD isn't the problem. People not accepting ADHD and accommodating it are the problem.

[@dlewis895]

CANNOT CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE FACT REALITY TRUTH ACCEPTANCE ONLY PERSON HAVE ANY CONTROL OVER WITH TONS OF WORK BECAUSE LIFE IS TOUGH IS ME MYSELF AND I LOVE TIPS HELPS A LOT KNOWING NOT ALONE AND TIPS TO HELP

[@dlewis895]

ACCOMMODATING ME MY ADHD MY LIFE IS NOBODY ELSE'S JOB THEYRE BUSY TRYING WORKING TAKE CARE THEIR OWN LIFE WORK HEALTH ETC

[@NigeriaSimone]

Sometimes being accommodating is just a matter of respecting boundaries and not judging. It doesn’t take much time.

[@maddieek6865]

I LOVE YOUR PERSONALITY SUBBED. currently on break and having a pile of laundry to put away LMAFAOOO

[@Galaxiebot]

Omg thank you!

[@marylandj3228]

Thank you so much for this video. You're a life saver.

[@Brandi.Nicole]

Ps FREE clinics offer help. Even if it’s 6 months out sign up! Then tell the receptionist you have adhd and need a text reminder and email. Meds changed my life as I was always filled with the “don’t want to do it feeling”

[@Galaxiebot]

Tbh I have health insurance again now, but this is good info for people to have!

[@AS-fu3uv]

I'm loving this but I feel the need to share I had to take multiple breaks while watching and I am feeling very adhd aligned rn

[@AS-fu3uv]

still watching and commenting because stimulation lmao I am so grateful this though thank you sm!!!

[@Galaxiebot]

I have to do that with vids all the time lol I'm glad you liked it though!!

[@krystaking1858]

I have been trying to clean my apartment FOR A YEAR. It always starts out so strong, I might get like *A* room clean, but as soon as I move on to the next room I either lose focus or interest, or I will get completely distracted with the most unimportant task. Like I meant to clean my kitchen and do my dishes but my garbage disposal broke so instead of putting in a maintenance request I spent FOUR HOURS looking up the model I have and how to fix it myself. I'll break my cleaning list down into steps like pick-up trash, sort laundry, at the very least get the floors cleared. The list just never gets finished and I do not get that serotonin boost when I cross something off. I want the whole list done, and I will not feel better until its done. But I cannot finish the damn list, ever. I HATE. My brain.

[@Galaxiebot]

It can be really, really hard! I would highly recommend looking into either the basket cleaning method or KC Davis's five things method based on what you're saying. It might help your brain a bit!!

[@klorraineb9818]

See I suffer with adhd, was on meds from 5 to 22, so my brain basically developed on it, But they cut me off then, I am 30 and really do not think anything is better and then I suffer with depression and it seems pretty bad but I kinda think its it's the brain, meds changing brain, and now nothing, I get help with insurance and where I live theirs 1 mental health place and they don't believe in controlled substances because people with addiction, mental issues, developmental learning problems, ect.. So I am really looking for real solutions because I don't wanna just be an adhd depressed hermit because I kinda feel like I'm not living, kinda just letting time pass by so thank you and also thanks for the website/blog recommendation.

[@dlewis895]

TRY. APP. SUPERBETTER. AND. WOEBOT

[@superstitiousims7329]

My biggest tip is that I clean or try to clean the house the best I can with my adhd and I give myself or allow myself to only be "messy" on my desk this means i can can put whatever i want on my desk and clean it if i feel like it but i dont pressure myself to it's my safe space to be adhd and messy also it's a roll a top desk so I can hide the mess if need be lol

[@butterbean3892]

Great video, so clear and helpful!! ❤️

[@Galaxiebot]

Glad it was helpful!

[@zephyr6991]

This is the first time I've ever heard somebody talk about under rewarding with ADHD and I do this all the time and didn't realize it like even if I spend $5 on something I really needed I beat myself up over it being like did you really need that could you have gotten by without it what's wrong why are you wasting your money.

[@Galaxiebot]

I totally get like that too, it's important to remember that not everything is an impulse purchase, and spending money is necessary, you just have to be careful not to let your impulses send you into a bad spot!

[@MyNameHere101]

You know, I've never been diagnosed with ADHD or executive dysfunction, but every time I hear others' experiences, struggles, and tips I'm like "Yeah! Oh yeah! Me too! Yeah same!" Maybe there's smth goin on here hmm 🧐🤔

[@Galaxiebot]

I'd say definitely talk to a professional if you can in that case! But I feel that, I was having similar experiences before I found out!

[@gab3963]

I started doing things in short bursts like writing essays. It sometimes helps...sometimes I start and just don’t go back

[@Galaxiebot]

I have this problem too sometimes! Honestly, what's helped me is setting a timer for the time I want to take as a break so I have a reminder to go back!

[@TheAyanamiRei]

Me? I HATE doing dishes. I can fold laundry, but when I do dishes it's so INCREDIBLY draining and difficult to stay on task >.

[@Galaxiebot]

Same honestly, it can be really hard!

[@22lyric]

I have ADD (still OLD school) Sometimes my OTHER issues take care of the ADD issues. I hate SPIDERS! Putting clothes on the floor enable spiders and other bugs to get into the clothes. And I don't want the smells from the carpet to get into them!

[@bluejayjitsu4429]

I def find it hard to reward myself because I feel chronically behind, so I could do 9 hours of work then be like 'well I struggled to do full days of work before so I'm just breaking even :/' or never knowing what to reward myself. I'll def try make a small reward menu :) then maybe I'll reward myself for attaching a door handle that i bought nearly 2 months ago to my cupboad XD

[@Galaxiebot]

I would definitely recommend it, taking care of yourself is important, especially when you're struggling to keep up 💚

[@jillianguilford5191]

I like the idea of rewarding with a task completion.

[@AnthonyToddCat]

Watching a video on cleaning instead of doing the cleaning i need done. 😅

[@Galaxiebot]

Ah yes, it's a universal experience

[@goblinodds]

whew idk if i have adhd but this resonated a lot, especially over- and under-rewarding

[@Galaxiebot]

I'm glad it resonated with you!!

[@torigarcia969]

So my cleaning is I hand wash a load of dishes and run them through the dishwasher wile thats running Ill clean the bathroom. when im done with that the dishes will be ready to put away and do usually another load of dishes and while thats in the machine I'll pick up the trash and put the full bag on the door. usually by then Ive given up on finishing and the house pauses there

[@NickVS]

Love the shirt, Metroid is my favorite

[@rabbitofficial736]

I hate starting tasks but once I do start I don’t stop until the dopamine does. I tend to do it all in the last hour that I have too. Speaking of which I have three minutes left until that last hour 👀

[@arzooray3145]

I hate to clean it’s like climbing with high heels Mount Everest. Now I’m not lazy I have no problem cleaning someone else house 😩😰💔 Now I’m not on medication because I can’t afford it anymore on top of that pandemic depression anxiety,sleep apnea 😰😩

[@Galaxiebot]

That's exactly how I feel about cleaning too!!

[@kowaihanashi6921]

I HATE CLEANING But I love cleaning other peoples places even organizing but not my own room and I do get told I'm "Not trying hard enough" I do use piles it does help me handle cleaning, I'm too young to get meds though I am just a kid... (Yes I think I have ADHD) And yeah I do feel like there is too much mess I'm not a hoarder I think but I'm called one and the reason why my room is a mess is my sister gave all her toys to me and so uhh... Packed room not enough storage. She started giving me toys when I had a small room with a bunk and a dresser (SO SORRY ITS SO LONG but thank you for reading if you did!)

[@Galaxiebot]

I understand how hard it can be, especially with your family around. Good luck with trying to navigate your situation!!

[@kowaihanashi6921]

@@Galaxiebot Yeah (Ill always love my parents there just a bit aggressive here and there) Its been quite for a while giving me a chance to work in peace ^^ And I hope you have a great day

[@navylaks2]

I never knew where to start, cause if I pushed something away from one corner it would just fill another one

[@Mommin31]

Thank you for this 🙌

[@kimberlyirving6412]

Thank you for this!! I am ADHD.

[@Galaxiebot]

Of course, glad you liked it!!

[@nickorange4881]

For lists i put it on my phone so I dont lose it. As a Todo list though i never though of using it for rewards .

[@Galaxiebot]

It can be very helpful! Especially when you can't think of how to reward yourself and you can always add things to it!!

[@celestialgarden]

Its hard to breaks because I just won't go back to it. But If don't take a break I'll get overwhelmed and just stop anyway. 🥲

[@Galaxiebot]

I feel that, it's so hard sometimes

[@fancyfree8228]

This was hilarious and useful :) thank you

[@Piscesluna]

I'm less than 3 minutes into the video and my adhd brain is really wondering what the heck is going on outside her window to the left! lol 🤣 I liked this video, the part about rewarding yourself, it made me realize that I never really reward myself for anything... wow. I really have a problem with feeling like I'm not doing enough every day and yet I work my butt off every day. Hmmm.

[@Coffeeismylifeblood]

It helps me a lot to call someone on the phone. body double.

[@TheRogueDM]

Out of all the cleaning issues I have, laundry has always been the worst. I can't think of a single time in my life when I've effectively done laundry, or kept on top of it. Why is it that I get more motivation with taking the rubbish out/doing the recycling? I don't do it super often, but I still do it *more* often... xD The worst part of laundry for me is putting the clothes away once they're dry. I live with my fiancee and our house is small, so we can't just put everything in one wardrobe/set of drawers. But we wash both our sets of clothes together. So the steps of sorting them out, taking them to the place they need to be put, *then* put them away is just... argh too much. Especially as I can't listen to music while I do it unless I put earphones on. Also, growing up as a musician and also with very highly ambitious parents, the idea of rewarding myself for every little thing is something I find hard to get behind due to internalised ableism I guess. It's this whole thing of, "You're expected to do it, so it shouldn't be rewarded." Only extra special stuff should be rewarded. I'm getting better but it's a battle of wits, definitely.

[@Alliriyan]

Try drying the clothes on hangers so they can transfer straight to the wardrobe. Takes longer to hang up but you get the buzz of knowing it takes 3 seconds to put them away... Once you remember to.

[@vlvchii]

I've had a coat rack for about 7 months that I took down to paint and never put back up... help me plz 🥲😅

[@Galaxiebot]

Omg this is a mood. Honestly, I'd say schedule a time, that's how I get things like that done, just straight up put it on my calendar

[@mshortyscreations]

Omg yes I do the same with the clothes my laundry I dislike doing that with a passion. I just found your channel and I like u already hehe

[@Stacymc2012]

Thank you so much for your video! I'm going to be subscribing to your channel! I have a question though: with taking breaks: my problem is, I forget to get back on task or to finish cleaning. And part of it has to do with over-rewarding, but then when I do finish cleaning, I won't reward myself at all because I think, "You should be doing this every day", and I'm REALLY struggling with giving myself credit for doing things -- but that's a whole other story. Your timer technique when taking a break and making a list of short tasks are two techniques I will try! But how can I get motivated to finish tasks after a break?

[@Galaxiebot]

I totally understand, this can be really hard! Honestly, for me, sometimes my motivation has to come from my end goal. I know that I will feel less anxious when my laundry is done and put away, or I will feel better when my dishes are done, but even that can be hard. Body doubling might be more effective in your situation, just having someone in the house with you to help keep your momentum really helps sometimes!

[@Stacymc2012]

@@Galaxiebot ahh, thank you Jess! Those are great suggestions! I will try those! 😁😁

[@ode5830]

Currently sitting on my floor watching this while knowing I need to finish cleaning and am on a time crunch

[@Galaxiebot]

That's a mood honestly, good luck with your cleaning!!

[@ada-te9rf]

I HATE FOLDING LAUNDRY TOO

[@AwwesomeVal]

Lol yes the lists xD I do make lists but it helps my anxiety more than anything. I get overwhelmed by trying to remember this never ending list of things I have to do and can't rest. I've been making a quest board to hang and leave the lists hanging up on with rewards for finishing them, but its not gonna make me do em any faster. Just calm me down. I'm anxious af about all the stuff to do. Overwhelmed. Potentially burnt out considering the fatigue. But yeah doing the dishes (the reason I clicked on this video) is not gonna get done by putting it on a list. Its already on one. My daily morning routine. It's noon. Today is a struggle day for this executive dysfunction, or maybe it's the fatigue, who knows? I'm still watching the video. Just got to 5:07. I'm looking forward to seeing a potential solution. I hate laundry and dishes so much!!

[@Galaxiebot]

Honestly, lists are about the same for me 😂 they make me feel less anxious at least. But a quest board is also good, gamifying things helps a lot!

[@leedouglass4106]

I'm one minute into this video and I subscribed to your channel

[@Galaxiebot]

Omg I'm so glad!

[@ugl1w0rds]

I write and rewrite list so I dont have to hyperfocus ....but then sometimes i hyperfocus on list! As a young kid(8-9?) mom said pack your stuff for vacation( camping) if you forget something it's on you...I made my first list and at the bottom I listed myself! Now as adult(64) - 3 months before I leave on yrly trip I start list pare it down rewrite it ever couple weeks or less...its mentally exhausting but I never forget anything but don't use list to make sure everything gets home go figure. When they told me in the 70s your dyslexic they didn't know about ADHD 20 yrs later talked to doc that told me I had it said they goes hand and hand...so I'm . A list maker may not be able to always find my list but that's OK I will make another one....sigh*

[@Galaxiebot]

What's very funny about this is that the exact same thing happened to me in the 90s 😅 My parents and teachers fully knew about my dyslexia but I didn't find out until 20 years later that I found out it tends to go hand-in-hand with ADHD. Funny how some things never change.

[@Coffeeismylifeblood]

I need a cleaning schedule time blindness suckssssssssss because i think it was six months between vacuums and like, the area behind my toilet scares me

[@samkl3572]

thankyou for this channel

[@Galaxiebot]

It's my pleasure

[@KaYlAmArIe233]

When I try to clean I get side tracked thinking well I could have laundry going as I do blah n blah n just nothing happens

[@chrisdapriscillia3948]

I had to like the video cause of laundry 😭😂❤