clearing things up… lip pigmentation, how my skin tone changed + childhood story time

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hi hi! The lipstick I’m wearing here is Haus Labs Rose Shine (bought in US) Similar lipsticks available in India are: - Maybelline Saucy: amzn.to/3SWn2tV - Maybelline Ringleader (for fair skin, add clear gloss over it): amzn.to/40VAmAr - Maybelline Enchanter (for medium to dusky skin. Add gloss): amzn.to/4a34f6i

[@raani4104]

Please share the 3 month video bestie

[@Eunoia22223]

You are sooo good and care about your subs.. like you even cared to tell the similar lipstick that we can get and afford. I was watching you but didn't subscribe .😅😅..you got a new sub . Thank you so much ❤❤

[@ritupatil4375]

@SatshyaTharien please share ur 3 months diet and products plzzzzz

[@raishachowdhury8718]

love love LOVE the fact that you've mentioned a different lipstick for darker skin tones!! color therory!!

[@manveersingh1133]

I also have a kind ko similar story but i am in between 😂 when i was a child i was super fair but later due to my hobby of riding i got tanned and now i am brown have lots of closed comedones and these are going off from my face ..thinking of going to a doctor … watched your video it was great 👍 ❤

[@tweez5516]

My mom has a darker skin than my dad. And after her marriage she was constantly reminded how she wasnt fitting into the family because my dads family everyone is much fairer. They have this superiority complex and mock everyone with a darker tone.Its sad that people do these things just to feel better about themselves :)

[@gon6152]

My mom was also darker than most of my dads family but she earned more than my dad and was also doing govt service so everyone respected her ( one of my dads brothers is also very dark but no one cares here)

[@EsshaqzaiRohina]

That's super unnice 😢😢 judgement ,racism is not good not nice.

[@travelwiththamanna]

Same thing with my mother.

[@ChaptersofGrowth7]

I am darker thab my husband His family everyone is fair. The day my daughter was born everyone was so glad she took after my husband's family. And a single question everyone had was whether she took after me or her dad. I was outraged. Like ask after her health! My health. But no. The question was is she fair?

[@qquantoom7838]

​@@ChaptersofGrowth7That is so upsetting and ignorant of them. I was a kid who had darker skintone than my parents and they all wondered why I am like this, they would also tease me left and right about my skin color. I don't like the fact that colorism happens often in my country and home, I think every skin is beautiful as the others but I doubt that they will believe me, I've never felt so insecure about something my entire life. I felt so bad over something that was naturally given to me. I just want to feel accepted for who I am even once. 😢

[@harshitaswami4309]

This is so true. As a child, I was so tanned because we used to go to school at such hours when the sun was on our heads. I have not stepped out much in the last three months, so my tan has faded and people are like, 'Did you do skin lightening?' I was like 'wtf'. Even my brother who used to be so tan has become light skinned by exercising, eating good food, and using sunscreen.

[@userrrr12233]

What food did you eat

[@pawsible4744]

Do u atleast know the meaning of hallelujah and how much imp is that ? Don't use like this

[@fiaalmahira]

​@@pawsible4744what?? where in their comment did they write "hallelujah"? 😭

[@MuskanSingh-kw7ux15]

@@fiaalmahira Nowadays people are replying instead of commenting ( a lot of times). I guess it is because of change in how yt works.

[@salt5711]

sunscreen doesnt protect you from tanning, I hope you know that

[@sumedhasaha7534]

i have brown skin tone and all my cousins have fair skin tone.so all my relatives used to praised my sisters beauty in front of me .and i used to feel so sad , even my grandmother used to love them more. but now as a 22 year girl, i became so confident about my skin colour .

[@ilovefairiesverymuch4867]

dark skin, fair skin, all skin tones are beautiful. i'm happy you love your natural skin colour now!

[@Yiboo123]

You slay girl❤

[@DocArtsyy]

Youu GO GIRLL ,❤

[@Noorxbrarr]

I am facing same im so insecure i wnna just become fair

[@jenchulicheangj5827]

Same girl

[@ramisatarannum7064]

Most of us brown kids have been bullied back when we were kids. But ig we can all agree that when we grow up, know how to take care of ourselves, become positive and accept us just the way we are, we tend to glow. Inner happiness radiates!

[@idocarebabe]

But why do I like brown skin , I'm not even brown myself

[@agentreply]

Then what are you.​@@idocarebabe

[@idocarebabe]

@@agentreply arab

[@mimichocos07]

Agreed

[@Pslwrld]

​@@idocarebabeArabs are brown??

[@aditikakkad1506]

Since you mentioned that you read every single comment, I would just like to tell you that I really appreciate you talking about all this. Even when you show us all the blemishes on your face and lips, I think your glowing skin and lips are your most attractive features regardless ❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

🥹🥹🤗 thank you so much for such a kind message ❤️❤️

[@adamseden1330]

​@@SatshyaTharieni get this all the time. I am not fair. I was very dark during school days, had assembly in the morning, then PT period, no skincare. Now i am 34, have put on some weight, not playing in the sun, now my old relatives ask me in public ... You were black, how did you get fair. I say WASHING POWDER NIRMA😂😂😂

[@shrutikumari9993]

​@@adamseden1330🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@nikitamohan3390]

@@SatshyaTharien So this is only a suggestion take it or leave it. I have tinted fuller lips like you and regarding sheer lip sticks or lip gloss, I remember seeing some old makeup tutorial videos on KZbin few years ago with this tip. Have you tried dabbing a little foundation or concealer on your lips with a blending sponge or beauty blender to even out the lip pigmentation. That way you can try out more variety of lip products or lip colors including nude and pink lip colors without worrying so much about the lip pigmentation thing. Just a thought and suggestion since you mentioned it.

[@riya12581]

how?​@@adamseden1330

[@ahalyabala3494]

I also have two-toned pigmented lips and I used to be self-conscious about it but in North America (I'm from Canada), the dark lip liner/gradient lip combo is so popular so I love my lips now. It's unfortunate that our self-perception is so reliant on our environment but I hope it makes you feel better that there are people in other countries who would be ecstatic to have lips like yours!

[@shresthahira1285]

I love how honest and humble you are. Feels so good to find such an organic content creator.

[@aashnaps6166]

As a dark South Indian girl living in North India I've always been discriminated against by my peers and teachers. My father had a colleague/friend who has a daughter(fair skinned didi) older than me and always bullied me as a kid. Anyways, we grew up and all bullying and stuff was in the past. I wanted to get admission in the same college as hers so I met her to inquire about the procedure since she was in third year. She provided me with all the info but asked me not to tell anyone that I knew her because that can cause my seniors (her peers) to bully me. Initially I was so happy about how she is so gentle and thoughtful of me. I told that to my bestie and she pointed out that the 'didi' is ashamed to show you, a dark skinned girl as her 'sister' because she calls us(black skinned mallus) names behind our back. I knew for a fact that she used to brag about how people don't believe that she's from Kerala because of her light complexion. It hit me like a train and I felt so bad even though I'm over it now. This is just one incident. There are just countless of them. I'm happy that I know better now and it doesn't bother me as much as it did in the past. I've started to love myself because my family, especially my husband keeps boosting my confidence by showering me with compliments. Beauty has nothing to do with your skin colour. Light skin, dark skin, skinny, curvy, too tall, too short blah blah blah.. Don't listen to toxic people. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE. ❤

[@AtulKulkarni-dw6rz]

There is no one bigger than a teacher Even mom dad This is our culture So if she teaches you Than she is the one who deserve respect

[@aashnaps6166]

@hanzula1913 Ikr 😭 they give you compliments like "your skin is just a little dark but you've got nice eyebrows, if you were fair you'd have been so pretty, you still look good but.. you know what I mean right" I'm like oh okay ig 😅 (so I don't look good with my brown skin? Yeah thanks for breaking my already non existent confidence)

[@aashnaps6166]

@@AtulKulkarni-dw6rz No she was not a teacher, she was a student at that college and that's a wrong take imo, teachers can be wrong too and we should always stand up against the wrong, even if it's your teacher or your parents.

[@Tanyapaperbacks]

It’s completely normal to have two toned lips!

[@ungoyaji2012]

If ppl from Kerala are stereotyped as being dark I can only imagine what they'd think of tamil people

[@misahhere9224]

I just love how happily and honestly you share your experiences, its so relatable and just makes me happy and empowered watching you talk

[@AKB0AB]

Satshya! Satshya! Satshya! You EARNED a new subscriber today. Your shorts used to pop up in my feed, and that's how I got to know you as a creator. However, even after watching a lot of your KZbin shorts, I never subscribed to your channel. However, today, watching you speak out about and normalize your insecurities gave me so much strength from within. Not kidding. Thank you so much for empowering me and other girls who watch your videos by showing how skin problems are normal, and how the "perfect" skin that we see as a result of good camera quality and lighting also has its own imperfections. We should not feel bad about them, and work on ourselves, as you have mentioned. Also, thank you so much for highlighting that working out also makes skin better. I have been planning to go to the gym for quite some time, and now I got another reason to do so. Thank you so much, Satshya. Love and love. Keep growing and bringing more videos like this one. ❤❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

Youuu 🤗🤗 what a kind message!

[@RAmbati21]

Kudos to you for speaking up on this topic!! I can totally connect to this, as I was told that I'm lucky to have my mum's skin tone. There are many people who were made to believe that their appearance = their self value. I wish and hope we collectively can acknowledge and rise over this generational trauma together.😊

[@SatshyaTharien]

Omg 🙊 yess!! I hope so toooo

[@purnimapadmanabhan2031]

This is soo true and relatable, I was fair skinned as a baby, but eventually my skin darkened, I never had a problem with it, neither did my family, none of us really cared about having fair/dark skin 😆✨. My mom always taught me to embrace my skin colour, she even told me what to say to the random bullies who used to tease me for being dark skinned, she told me that black, or dark colours are the really beautiful colours, our eye colour,hair colour etc is also black,lot of things around us in nature is balck coloured, even lord kirshna is dark skinned, so being dark skinned is not a bad thing or something to tease a person

[@bagyalakshmi5973]

This skin tone based discrimination just breaks my heart. My uncle once said to his daughter to not talk to a child because she is brown skin toned. This just broke my heart and the respect for my uncle.

[@riyaannthomas-hw5rh]

😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮whaaaat

[@soumyasussan6374]

An average dusky skin girl hear the same atleast ones in her entire life .

[@Shivanshi-li4bc]

When I was like 13 I used to search for skin whitening masks etc but now I am 18 and so so grateful for my brown skin because I think brown skin looks so much sexier 😌

[@Hazel-234_4]

Ouhhh I wish I can think like that

[@A_Menon]

So so real and so so validating. Definitely related to each aspect. Thank you for the reminder 'dont internalize'

[@MisbaHumda]

Absolutely, we want that three months skin care ,work out, diet routine. We will be waiting for that❤

[@ton-we]

It was even harder for me because both my parents are the "white south person" and im the "normal south person". They ask you whose genes you got, even my grandparents are whiter than me. So it was hard growing up. Thanks for talking about it ❤

[@tanmayeesarikonda2407]

Oh, that must be tough getting asked such weird questions from relatives, but do remember that it's your skin color, so just own it! We're all perfect in different ways and it's the confidence that's gonna give you the most amount of beauty ever ❤(and ignore your relatives plz 🙄)

[@soumyanittala283]

Thank you so much for talking about darker lips or imbalanced lip pigmentation. I feel this is such an underrated topic, and having gone through it most of my life , I felt really relieved when someone spoke about it. My insecurity about it hasn't fully gone but I am trying not to get so affected with it. Again thank you so much for throwing light on such a small yet effective detail!

[@shambhavi2804]

This is the first time I am listening to someone having the same lip issue that I have. It is so damn hard to find a lipstick. I use to think what is wrong with my face but now I don't care. Thank you Satshya for sharing this video.

[@SatshyaTharien]

Aaww 🤗 hugs ❤️ it’s actually a lot more common but I guess people don’t talk about it too much

[@yunosart5941]

Haha i also have the same issue

[@vaidehidoye]

I've never seen anyone else being THIS honest. Incredible.

[@gakhila4225]

Being a dark skin girl with acne issues was really horrible for me until my 20s. The comments you get to hear from relatives, school mates are unreal. As a kid and as a teen , it was really a tough journey for me. It killed and buried my self confidence .

[@anisha3118]

My condition is same. Now I am in my late 20s, even now my acne problem hasn't gone. My family, relatives and even outside people ask whenever they see me. What can I do?😢😢😢

[@gakhila4225]

@@anisha3118 totally relatable, I just learned to ignore them and tell them not to worry about me , I will do that for myself. But no matter how much I ignore, it still hurts that my skin is not normal.🫠

[@swagatadas5121]

​Just say it's my body's problem not mine whaat can I do if my face has acne?i Personally didn't tell my face to generate acnes its something it did itself may be a learn a thing or two before saying stupid things .say it to their face.​@@anisha3118

[@ZaraSultanKhan]

​@@anisha3118 develop a good skincare routine, facewash, moisturizer and sunscreen. Also any serum for your targeted concern like vitamin c for dark spots or niacinamide for pores. But if you have proper acne and not just a few spots then it's better to ask a dermatologist.

[@SriPranita-i8j]

Just as you mentioned, my mom is fair and my dad is dark according to the irritating Beauty standards. And I inherited to be dark. Now I am 20 and even today when our relatives visit our house or we go for an event, they say " Ayyo! You got your dad's colour and being a girl it will be hard to get a rishta". Like seriously!!😂 As a child, these actually used to affect me quite a lot, but as you grow you actually start loving yourself the way you are! Thank you for sharing this ❤

[@kaushiknatarajan2637]

Yeah, people tell me, being a light skinned Indian man, it is going to be very difficult to find a rishta.... Marriage matching is hard for everyone, don't think much...

[@supposedlyhuman]

​@@kaushiknatarajan2637it'll be easy for you don't think too much either.

[@bobbibibiboo]

Same story here.

[@daldacare7973]

Same story here Every relatives would tell that you got unlucky getting darker complexion of dad instead of mom's fair skin This was really sad ,but I don't care about anyone else now ..being myself is fine for me

[@Dropletsojoy]

Just think people always want what they can't have. In Europe everyone is burning themselves in the sun to get a tan and using dark foundations. I am a brown girl and one time I couldn't buy my foundation shade, the makeup artist told me its coz white girls use that to tan... I went to 3 shops and only that shade was sold out haha. Don't care about other people's opinions. Find the right colours to match your skin tone and undertones (dark girls can pull of orange and blue in a way light girls could never) :)

[@cherrytomato8]

I have two-toned pigmented lips as well and I relate to everything you just shared about your lip pigmentation. I'm also learning to accept and love my lips but sometimes I can't help but feel jealous with those who have even toned pink lips especially when they wear lip oils or glosses 😅 i love this video thank you so much for sharing your story! ❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hahah man I relate so hard to this comment 🤗🤗 I also feel jealous (and I hate that I do) but slowly learning to redirect that and change my thinkinh

[@PixieFan900]

@@SatshyaTharien I got a lip tattoo for my pigmentation (had super dark grey lips), It's the best investment I have ever done in myself. Finally I can try all different lip colours and go for that glossy look. It;s worth considering

[@SatshyaTharien]

@@PixieFan900 oh myy that’s so fascinating!

[@ShwetaGupta-cp1bb]

​@@SatshyaTharieni have tooo same type of lip pigmentation.. please suggest some good lipstick for us.... Please please 😢

[@MapleSyrup_Xx]

Samee even I have two-toned pigmented lips and I would always wonder why they looked so different from other people's and the first time I were like a dark red lipstick I felt soo good

[@meghana.lokesh]

I'm not a very confident person generally, I do feel insecure about how I look so I don't take selfies /photos expect festivals and special occasions. So one of the goal of this year was to take more pictures...but my skin been the worst it's ever been, lots of pigmentation and texture throughout my face. Now seeing you talk about issues like this made me feel seen. So thank you and hopefully in the coming year it will be cleared and I shall take plenty of pictures and be comfortable with my skin like you 😊

[@tanmayeesarikonda2407]

TAKE MORE PICTURES!! I'm sure you're gorgeous inside out, so why you wanna miss out on that?? Come on, it's your smile and confidence that's gonna give you the most amount of beauty ever ❤ You're not alone in this for sure!

[@Cafinalistshyama]

Same situation ,I'm not alone with tht prblm then.... I'm gonna take more pic or selfie frm today

[@prajakta78127]

I just love how honest, lively and candid you and your conversations are and the way you guide us and share your genuine reviews, in the videos, talking about the hyped products in the market, they're so helpful to me that I see myself reaching out and looking forward to your reviews and recommendations more than the beauty bloggers these days, cause at times with so much information and so many suggestions and the exposure on a gazillion variety of products to buy, it can get very overwhelming and confusing. I love the way you explain and keep it short, simple and especially relatable. Also, corgis are super adorable to look at, so lucky you have one! Lots of love and happiness to you! Keep going and spread shine and smiles everywhere! ✨🧿💖

[@SatshyaTharien]

🥹🥹 what a sweet comment! Thank you soooo much it means a lot ❤

[@bananapookoi]

both of my parents are really fair. And i am brown. All i heard from people was "oh maybe she is adopted or something haha lol" and none of them really taught of what on earth they are saying. I was in north India that time and no one would be friends with me cuz i was brown and they were fair. They literally said that to me on my face. It has taken years for me to actually love my skin color but every time i hear a comment, it still breaks my heart. Sending love to you and all other girls who are forced to feel bad about themselves because they do not fit the unrealistic beauty standards. Everyone is beautiful and the imperfections we all have is what makes us unique.

[@ishitajain537]

Yesss bless us with your 3-month eating clean + work out routine video

[@pranaydas864]

Thank you for addressing this with relatable, factual content. And more power to your niece's mother. We don't realize the impact of colorism growing up but each statement of ridicule or "fun insults" roots heavily and obstacles inner confidence.

[@paqito429]

That 3 month strict routine! We are here for it ❤

[@sunandinighosh6037]

the lipstick thing is so relatable, even I have pigmented lips but our school did not allow any lip balms or lipsticks, but now that I am in college I apply lipstick and my face just changes, I look so much better with lipsticks

[@divyaam]

I've had a similar experience with my skin tone - born with fair skin.. tanned a lot because I used to play a lot in the scorching sunlight, and from then on I was shamed a lot (aunts saying the same "aiyyo nee vallathe karuthallo"). Needless to say, my self-esteem was non-existent and it took me YEARS to accept my darker skin tone.. once I started working and the pandemic happening soon after, my skin tone changed and suddenly I was being given compliments, which at this point seemed fake to me, and did nothing to boost my confidence 😂 I just cannot stand the whole 'fair skin = beauty' bs anymore.

[@divyaam]

One of the most infuriating instances was when we were visiting Kerala for my cousin's wedding and I was carrying this huge suitcase to enter my aunt's house.. her husband stood by the door to greet us and the first thing he said when he saw me after almost 15 years was "aiyyo nee vallandu karuthupoyi" 😒 "dude I'm exhausted from a train journey, can you please shut up for a second?!" - is what I wanted to say to him, but couldn't 🥲

[@Kitty786kat]

What does that mean

[@kaushiknatarajan2637]

@@Kitty786kat basically, vallundu karthupoyi means "oh my god your skin has darkened."

[@sakshirawat4900]

Same here. What hurts more is your own family bulling you😢

[@ritika1366]

Your content felt so relatable honestly...I too have pigmented lips and hyperhidrosis and people keep pointing it out and saying things like you mentioned and it made me feel really insecure... Thankyou for talking on this topic. Loving your videos 💕

[@HaricharanDasi]

Its the same with me, my dad is darker brown skintone and my mum is medium fair. My skin is like golden medium skin tone and all my life I've heard my dad that if i were more like my mother i would be so beautiful. And it hurts hearing that as a child all your life. Especially from your own parent. And i love my skintone. Its beautiful on its own, why does there need to be comparison. He clearly has some terrible insecurities which were projected on me all my life. Self love is not easy when you have to start from undoing all this mess that has been done to you. But it sure is a journey.

[@PixieFan900]

I got a lip tattoo for my pigmentation (had super dark grey lips), It's the best investment I have ever done in myself. Finally I can try all different lip colours and go for that glossy look. It;s worth considering

[@guppyd69]

From u got ur lips tattoos done🥲

[@Adwiita_]

OMGGG THIS IS SO CRAZYY.... I was JUST watching your video about u reviewing wether the products were worth the hype (simple facewash version lolol) and you POSTED!!! Thank you so much didi you have actually helped wit my skincare journey sooo much 💕💕 TOTALLY NEED THAT 3 MONTH STRICT ROUTINEEE!!! (as a student trying to glow up before the next session starts 🥲🥲) Love you.... keep up the good work didiii ❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

Hehehe what a nice coincidence hehe sureee will dooo

[@vedjanve4361]

Honestly being a boy, I don’t know that people can be insecure or worried about uneven lips. I don’t even know these standards exist. Either ways you are amazing and beautiful and beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. (Cliché, but valid)

[@KoralKaur4731]

If you are saying such things You r not a boy You are a man now W man

[@darshanajadeja7923]

Girl……. You nailed it you spoke your heart out and so honest loved it 🫶🤌🏻 And spreading the awareness to young girls We need such people

[@susanmeitei7071]

I mean this lady's positive vibe >>>>>>

[@tiyasaguha5413]

Can we just address how pretty she is? Like her college pics are not at all embarrassing like mine 😂 love you girl!! That takes courage to show skin texture and talk about body image on a social platform like this. Proud of you!! ❤❤

[@srinidhi.selvam]

Hey Satshya, I want you to know that your speech is impacting many in a really positive way. The things you said about the skin colors are so true, and I really think that we should normalize all of it. At the end of the day, everyone is beautiful no matter what - there's always something that shines about them, and if not anything it's their smile that makes them glow :) Whether you wear makeup, or lipstick or not, I honestly found you to be pretty either way. I Hope everyone can feel confident in how they look like

[@nrn3172]

Really loved your mother standing up for your dad, not many men these days get support in the world. I bet it mattered a lot to your dad and he must've been happy.

[@ansuiyadassi5676]

i am so glad to see that you said everything with so much honesty. Otherwise Influencers don't even tell us what they actually do. But u r the real influencer.

[@darshitaraut3939]

I am a dark skin tone girl and even I am conscious about it but the thing's u said about skin tone did boost my confidence and now I feel like I am brown beauty and however is my skin tone at all doesn't matter so thank u ☺️

[@viritakhanna9559]

You mentioned about sweaty palms and feet. I used to never think much about it but when I was in school and had to play, some people would say yuck! and then I started feeling bad about it and stopped holding hands with people, recently I was thinking about if I would ever be able to hold hands with someone I like, and omg u mentioning that in the end about acceptance made me feel so much better! Thanks girl!! You really show how much a word/sentence can influence people and spark a change in them

[@Thatclassyexplorer]

Thank you for speaking up for Skin tones... Colour/Skin tone shaming is so common in Asian countries and still bring tan or brown or of dark complexion is considered an issue.... Ridiculous.. But you put is so beautifully ❤❤❤ loads of love... Great its coming from content creators

[@anjalibarot9353]

Thank you so much for this video. This is my first time listening to you and I can relate to you at every single point you made here. May be because I have gone through them by myself too. I relate because I too have stopped my sports life that I loved so much just because when I was in 10th grade teachers and family members commented on my skin tone getting darker and to stop the sports. Wearing lip stains to cover my darker lips. People saying you look like your father and at the same time looking at my sister with this smile on saying you look like you mom luckily just because she is fair. And all this has majorly shattered my confidence in my own skin. But I have now learned to let this all go and on my own journey to gain back that confidence in myself and be comfortable in my own skin. And watching videos of people who have gone through what I have also experienced really helps in the long way. Thank you for sharing this. 😊

[@srashtisingh6756]

Thank you, Satshya for having this wonderful conversation about colour consciousness. Love ❤❤❤

[@SatshyaTharien]

❤️❤️❤️🤗

[@bishnupriyatripathy6117]

​@@SatshyaTharienshare how u handle sweating.

[@JhimliRoy-g5z]

10:36 Out of topic but this is so true. I had been dancing since i was a child. My dance teacher was so impressed with me and called me her golden child. I was so confident with my dance. Then as i shifted to a town i had to leave her class. She told my mom to never let me quit it. i was 13 then. I got into a dance class in the town but due to studying pressure i had to quit. I used to participate in school programs. The dance teacher praised me a lot and even told me to join her academy. But i couldn't. Then due to boards, I didn't participate for 3 yrs, that's when i 'totally' quit dance. But then in highschool when we were practicing for a school program(that teacher left btw), my friends who participated were soooooo good. They were truly being marvelous. My confidence dropped down so low, i refused to dance. My height was another problem. Puberty hit me too early which left me shorter than everyone now, while it was opposite earlier. I stood out like a sore thumb. Their movements looked so graceful. I worked so hard. But I still looked odd. No one commented on my dance(neither +ve, nor -ve). I did participate but I was so disappointed with the performance even though my mom did complement me.i swore to never let my body flow with the rhythm of music. It really hurts me that i quit something i was really confident about and was good at it but it's also true I'm the one to blame for not prioritising dance.

[@shardapargaonkar1038]

you have such a positive energy and thank you for being so genuine about your skin care journey

[@bananidawka4916]

Finally I found someone I can relate to. Everything you said feels so honest and inspiring. I can just listen to you all day. And your smile, that glow comes from your smile✨️

[@ritikadas16666]

I am so glad that you spoke up about this. I have a similar story. I was born fair but used to go out and play under the sun a lot as a kid and got tanned very much as a result. I never had an issue with tanning nor my parents did but my own grandmother and some other relatives kept on pointing I looked so dark and looked like ( don't want to use the N term as its offensive but ig you guys get it). Anyway looked like they had a problem with everything. I also had curly hair and I often used to be called maggie hair, coils, relatives always told why did I look like this etc. One time they even had the audacity to say "oh none of your parents are so dark, why are you like this" I was just in class 4 or 5 back then. And about skin lightening some of my friends even used to bully me for it. I just want to say people just don't know how much damage they are doing. I was just a 10 y/o kid. Today I'm 22 and obviously due to not going out much and due to lockdown my tan went away a lot and my skin is much fairer now but even when now I go to my grandmother's place she always uses the term "you've become very beautiful NOW" like bro excuse me? I have heard about skin and hair so much since childhood that I straightened up my hair so many times which eventually was damaging my natural hair and even till date I just fear tanning because of all the negative comments I heard as a child. People think children will forget or they won't remember but children do remember all the hurtful stuffs and bullying and that gives them trauma as they grow up. Thank you for addressing this issue :) I am trying to heal from it and accept myself and I think myself to be beautiful

[@not_a_cat1392]

Omg I literally had the same experience. I relate to you on every level, and yes, going through those negative childhood experiences still affects us in the present. It's so hard to get out of that generational vicious cycle of insecurities and self-hate. I'm just glad that I've become more self-aware about these issues and constantly try to correct them as much as I can, even if sometimes I also struggle with those same insecurities.

[@ritikadas16666]

@not_a_cat1392 I'm so glad we are trying to accept as we are, love ourselves, and think us to be beautiful. Healing takes time and we are doing great. More power to us 🫶🫂

[@Marauder-eu9om]

Same here, i was quite fair when i was born but. When I was in school I used to be in the sun without sunscreen (I'm from Kerala and the uv here is 11 which is extreme), and I became so dark that my cousin (who is quite fair) told me "in white dresses you look like N". And I do remember that when I was like 15 or 16, when I got a new hairstyle , my uncle said "you look like an actress" then my aunt interrupted and said "only if she was fair". I also used to play for like 1 hour in the sun every single day in my teenage. Anyway now fast forward 7 to 8 years , I strictly use sunscreen , and take care of my skin, yet my face and arms are like 2 to 3 shades darker than my neck and chest and upper body. But I do get a lot of compliments including that aunt who said "only if she was fair" recently said "why aren't you applying for beauty pageants?" Although she meant that as a compliment, it took me back to the time when she said that I can only look like an actress if I'm fair. I get that everyone is complimenting me now because I'm not as dark as childhood and teenage now. The bullying and teasing goes a long way , I still am trying to heal because my upper arm is lighter than my lower arm which is dark and I feel very insecure to wear sleeveless dresses and white dresses due to the trauma. I guess these kinda things never leave us fully.

[@uttaravaidya4478]

most genuine video i saw so far. very honest,kudos to you

[@kiku293]

Use vitamin c lip blam from Juicy Chemistry and lip blam that contain spf , it' s sure not going to change the colour completely but definitely helps in making skin softer and prevent further pigmentation.

[@idek08_]

this is your first video im watching,and i wish i had come across your channel way before. 16:07 i feel the same way especially when ppl say this and not like only strangers but also your only imitate family.I feel really bad,sad and unlucky even tho there is nothing bad in having a dark skin but it’s just that ppl around me don’t think the same way or are the same way. new subscriber here and thank you so much for talking about this i love your confidence and i wish your channel grows more❤️

[@Love-gx8ul]

Actually dark skin is not the problem but the tanning is . If your naturally fairer and get tanned. It's so uneven and harsh. Your skin doesn't look good with all these. There's nothing wrong with removing tan if your naturally fairer.

[@yoursnottruly]

9:23 yes please! Badly need the workout and diet routine 🙏🏽

[@Polar_Bear_2007]

I'm tired of people thinking being brown is ugly. Brown isn't ugly, we're just taught to be insecure, we have to break the god damn cycle.

[@smzf9512]

Close your eyes .. “deepika padakone “ speaking

[@raya7390]

Now i cant unhear it 😭

[@ShubhiAroraa]

holyy sheeshh so trueeee

[@tanishasorte3047]

Omg its true😂

[@BabitaPatwari-s7n]

Yoooooooooooooooo😂😂

[@Fammalicious-Recipe]

Omg yesss

[@khushisinha1395]

loved the honest conversation .....changing mindset is the best thing u could do to urself

[@satakhisaha]

U r so genuine, so I definitely want a video on hyperpigmentation on intimate areas like armpits, knees, elbows, inner thighs. Will u please make a video on this topic??

[@sims_ran]

Omg yes please, drop those videos on your healthy food plan and sweaty care routine!! 🙈

[@sutapasarkar3769]

Would you make a seperate video on your 3 months strict journey regarding your diet & workout for healthy skin as you said about in this video ??.....really appreciate you the way u talked on such sensitive things about our shade, skin colour, body shape etc ☺️

[@shreyakumari8149]

She's absolutely true girl " many girls in you tube shows they are perfect and you have to be perfect" . But she's the only one I love it❤

[@angada]

I think most of us in India have gone through this 'dark skin, fair skin' nonsense. As young kids, it really affects you, especially when there is no contradictory/difffernet narrative. When you're a kid and that is the only thing you hear, it becomes impossible to separate it from yourself and not internalize it. You're the 2nd KZbinr (even after all these years) to candidly and extensively talk about this. I am so grateful for people like you. For me, @SherryShroff was the first person ever to talk about the reality behind skin tones (and a lot more like skin imperfections, scars, etc). Through her videos I realized that my skin tone is what I have and will never be able to change (oh the heartbreak when I first heard this and then subsequently confirmed on the Internet). But that is also when my acceptance began. And, slowly but steadily I started loving my skin colour. I owe so much to her, more for being the source of my really long self-love journey. I learnt how to embrace my natural self and love me for exactly who I am. And I am so glad to see another influencer talk about this! I am sure, Satshya, that you'll be this person for so many other people! The after-effects of trauma already experienced is hard to reverse but if you can stop someone before they fall into this pit, it can bring such monumental changes! My 5-6 year old self (who would desperately rub tubes of Fair & Lovely with the aching hope that it would make me at least a tad bit fairer) (yes, I agree that is horrible!!!) would be so proud to see me be absolutely in love my skin colour! So much love for you guys. Y'all are the real "influencers" for me!

[@SatshyaTharien]

Aaaw thank you so much for such a lovely message ❤❤ and I love sherry too 🤗🤗🤗

[@NV-dk3jz]

​@@SatshyaTharien hey di ..i would like to request you to come with whole day and night skin routine showcasing all the products you use and in serial. I know this might sound clinche😢 but it was not clear to me the products in the previous video.. we can relate to you much please do if you can or tell me here only .

[@midnightswan24]

this is so relatable! im North Indian, but my dad has dark skin and mom did too, but she grew up to be fairer. I inherited dark skin, and my friends are always surprised that I'm North Indian because of my dark skin, even though I like in the USA. it's so crazy what society has set as beauty standards and even hearing comments from my own ones just blows my mind. thanks for sharing this :)

[@snehatoms]

From your skin care journey to this pigmentation/skin tanning issue I felt every word of it all…thank for speaking about it like a real empathetic friend would. Lots of love and good vibes to you and yours❤❤

[@anshiikaaa11]

i am a new subscriber of urs and i am 20 years old yet i could relate to every single thing that you said about dark pigmented lips and and sweat ...man we are soo much alike

[@Miracle-sb4io]

I just saw this video randomly.. and i literally feel like this is so true as a teenager ik how it feels so.. this helps me alot to get motivated this is really appreciative.. so I'm not alone .. thanks for the wise words and experience you shared ❤️

[@SatshyaTharien]

🤗🤗🤗❤

[@EnoughLion]

Waiting for the video on your ‘working out + clean eating which gave me glowy skin’ era video!!

[@udita3207]

This video has a lot of comments now so not sure if you will read this one, but this is the first video of yours which I have watched and I just wanted to say I loved the way you addressed each point. The genuineness was so refreshing! Felt like I was having a conversation with a friend, and I'm sure lots of people could relate to the personal stories you added (including me). If there are any younger people reading this, please know that as you get older a lot of your insecurities fade away, I PROMISE! In fact, you will start to love the unique things about yourself and a lot of issues like acne will resolve by itself or with some good medication. A big part of maturing is is learning to be appreciative of the big things like health, the ability to run, laugh, and feel joy. Of course, we all feel insecure at times but its important in those moments to feel gratitude for all the wonderful things in your life!

[@beingkhushi_]

That lipstick story..oh my god is so relatable to I don't like dark lips but I love bold red colour a lot .

[@tanyad.saxena1304]

Oh we sure need that 3 month routine love❤

[@pratikshabhor9428]

Yes❤

[@DanielOgunnusi]

The part about not internalizing negative comments is super important.

[@padinampriyanka471]

You’re so honest, I love that!😊

[@102rajlakshmia5]

Hey Satshya.Thank you for this video.I felt it to be so relatable.I also sweat a lot.And sadly I was upset of my skin color growing up, and it took a long time overcoming the inferiority complex.Now I am happy with how I look.The thing which is the most important as you said should be health.Easy!

[@ms.m666]

My aunt was darker in skin tone, and later as she grew older, she became fairer. This is how hair color changes. How some have blonde hair growing up, but they turn dark later on.

[@miniantony3676]

I loved this video Satshya! You've addressed so many issues that i have personally also had to deal with. I'm Mallu too with a fair mum, dark dad...and yes i've had to deal with comments on how my dad looked madrasi and that was back when we lived in the North in the late '80s. Sad to see that such comments are still made. More strength to you!

[@puja_t]

More power to you girl! Even I have faced this same problem, I played so much sports and never carried an umbrella, my skin got tanned so much, but now slowly after joining office for so many years, my shade has become lighter.. i mean this happens to every one, its so normal.. love your videos as always 😃😃

[@poojachundawat6818]

Its really about self acceptance,self love ,self improvement for your own self and the confidence that builds up out of these . I really used to constantly run after these societal beauty standards just to feel happy like i was kid who was compared alot for skin tone,not being equally beautiful n smart as my brother. Like i remember in college i did actually manage to keep up with those standards pretty well though it was more out of my own passion for clothes and beauty until it came all crashing down due to my health issues and hair loss.i felt like i was a prisoner now, body shaming and hiding myself, thinking what will those same people think of me now who used to admire my beauty so much like crazily , i was giving my worth into the hands of outsiders. Then there came a day when I chose to shave my head and damn I don't think so i ever felt this happy and liberating in my entire life. Even when people used to laugh at me in my village i used to laugh back at them thinking they are so stupid to think that all i got was beauty bro like common each one of us is more than just what we look like.i realized how superficial society is like discriminating based on these superficial things .I was so happy that i got to understand this superficiality and started to live for myself.Like why do people wants you to fit into their standards,stories.....why should I fit am i a product u gonna use. People who are right for you will love you no matter what and fully and trust me only those who loves themselves truly can love others unconditionally else everyone wants you to fit into n not follow your own heart.you are so inspiring to me thankyou so much ❤

[@Kishi-k9z]

16:28 oh the way she said now my husband holds my hand i love these things about marriage 😭😭

[@florencebanklore5480]

I appreciate your honesty, great that people like u are sharing their journey on how they've flawless skin today

[@yashasvisingh6949]

Hi satshya! It's my first comment on your channel but I have been seeing your videos since a long time. I just wanted to tell you that you're my fav person on this platform and your content just brings so much joy and positivity into my life. I'd be glad if you could make your 3 months diet video. Plus do mention the eyeliner that you're using. You look amazing in it

[@sariyafarhathsiddiqui6982]

Appreciate you sis!!! Appreciate whatever you said as a “girl who’s like her dad” in the family. Really important conversation to have I must say. Please share how you deal with your sweatiness! Sure need it!! Love to you an everyone embracing their brown skin, or their identity in general!! :)

[@snehabiswas8837]

It's totally opposite for me My father is dark, and my mom is fair, and I got my father's color. And whenever me and my mother and I go out, people are always like,'Is She your daughter' 😅 And this thing has been such a pain point for me that it makes me so frustrated. And some of my relatives are like 'oh you will go fairer as you grow' But I really don't understand how. I was always dark, so I will, of course, not suddenly change my skin color. It still bothers me. But less than before. But my parents love me very much so I think it compensates for all the bad things people sometimes say, I guess.

[@Sana-cx2lw]

Same here buddy ... it's okay ❤

[@prits4433]

Much needed video. I was very tall for my age when I was a kid, everywhere I go, I'd get commented on that.. saying if I'll be a able to find a husband since I'm tall. But my mom would always say to be proud of my height. She'd say while others have to try harder to make them noticeable it came naturally to me. So I never felt bad for being tall. We all need that one person to say that will all be fine..

[@peachy_mama]

One more comment for you to read for : ) I have been frustrated with my dark circles issue for longest time. Like i am light wheatish (not fair exactly) and my dark circles are like DARK dark.Given that discolored lips have also been pain in my ass for good amount of time and even I feel great whenever I wear lipsticks. This video really helps me to focus on the all over health of my skin and not just some random teeny part of it. Also I am quite intrigued to know what your diet and workout plan was/is. Would love a video on it. ✨easy!✨

[@nidhihegde4579]

You were so genuine in this video. ❤ please make a video on your food routine you followed to deal with your skin issues

[@krishnasreenivas1249]

Hey Satshya, I would love to see the video on how you changed your skin more glowier because i have the same problem . i really wanna try out the routine that changed your skin ( like diet and workout ) . i hope it works for me too

[@coldturkey3938]

Use glycolic acid toner at night and wear sunscreen in day.

[@summi225]

i agree so much to the fact that sometimes...you dont speak back...its true we dont HAVE to reply, stay unbothered dont internalize! LOVE YOU!

[@kpop_lover_army.876]

Definitely need a video on how to control and handle sweating!! As me being an AMBIVERT whenever go through situation which makes me feel embarrassed or scared of I really start sweating all over my face and armpits and body, plssssss, I HOPE IT CAN HELP ME!!!!!

[@harithaabharathan2311]

Ya me too

[@tashisinghh]

you should be so grateful nobody in your family or your friends tried to bully you for becoming tan, good for you girl :)

[@HasnainAbbasi2006]

Sister tbh it hurts a lot when people call u darker. I myself being brown can feel that bcz I have been bullied a lot since my childhood on brown skin and tanned lips. Even though my natural color is like light brown not even dark but my face color is so dull due to tanning, acne and oily skin. My father is himself fair and my mother isn't fair but she is almost like fair bcz she is having the lightest shade of brown, my face looks medium brown I already told u the reasons but my natural color is still visible on my thighs and a little bit on my chest. And one another reason I would like to highlight is my diet has also affected my face color a lot. My sister is so fair, I'm not jealous of her she is my sis I love her so much but one thing I wanna tell is, not my mother but sometimes my father unintentionally highlights that I'm wheatish/brownish and my sister is fair and it hurts a lot as I have been bullied so much outside home due to Color and mainly due my lips color. Sometimes my heart wants to cry so much bcz fair people always highlight that I am brown, almost all of my family is fair, I love my color bcz it's natural and there's nothing in that to worry about but it hurts so much when people ALWAYS highlights it by saying "Kaale" or 'Sanwile" even though I am brown not black. 💔

[@SatshyaTharien]

Oh no!! Shame on those people who say that!! Next time if they say kaale then just say peela, safed, laal and if they are confused say “I’m just saying all the colours, I thought you wanted to play a game” 🤪

[@niksave]

By saying you are brown not even black , and stressing on that a lot throughout the message - also seems like being black isn’t good. Why do we have to have these segregation in the mind first of all and make yourself look like a victim of something by comparing yourself to something that “you thought was better than how you look” . At the same time feeling proud that “you are better than” that in your head is lesser than you. ? (Think maybe) Not your problem. It’s just how Indians compare. It’s how the Indian mentality is. Why aren’t all shades just different shades of skin. India has a lot of different shades. Not just “fair” “brown” “dark” “wheatish” or whatever !! One comment cannot change peoples mindsets. But it is weird when people talk about how they were “bullied” but at the same time unintentionally bully some “other category” defined by them of people.

[@rohinisingh230]

I had the exact same childhood as the one you described. I've never been insecure about my brown skim, but sometimes I would catch my father consoling my sister (who is fair) saying that at least you are fair.. Look at your sister she's dark and wouldn't get married easily. Here the best part is we belong to a family where skin color is not regarded as something to be proud of or ashamed of, yet I've heard my own father say this. I was left speechless that day

[@kiitti6999]

@@niksave this is true i was wondering why the commentor was stressing on being "wheatish" not dark skin tone

[@kaushiknatarajan2637]

Well, I'm a light skinned Indian man and I've been called "maida". Literally "wheatish" is a good color neutral term because wheat, like human skin tones, has a very wide spectrum.

[@thebrodo529]

love Tonu, such cutie!! petition to have him in every video :D

[@theclumsyyme]

Seriously these people don't even understand that people can tan and that tan eventually goes away with good skincare and sun protection. Even if you use sunscreen all alone and nothing else, your skin starts getting lighter. People these days are so narcissistic that they just have to connect everything with surgeries and all. You're beautiful.. lots of love ❤❤❤

[@loveindeed]

You seem like a really cool person to be around 🥺💕 Really appreciate you sharing all these confidently and for inspiring others aswell 💓 There are lot of people who try to put us down or make us feel bad about our skin tone and imperfections but it’s self love & positivity that actually transforms us. ✨ Keep up your good work gurl 😍

[@samudrikanaik1481]

I could literally relate to all the things that you talked about. Kudos to you and everyone who have shared these similar moments or have been part of a similar situation/ conversation. It takes a lot to speak up. I used to complain to my mom that why didn't you make me fairer when I was a baby... After years I understood this and accepted my genetics. My relatives used to always point out my complexion and they used to blame my parents saying she's her Dad's daughter not mom's... And I was like what the hell... My mom used to listen to all these silently and cry...Just before some years the same relative said the same thing again when we visited their house and I just lost it and it took a lot of courage to stand up and be vocal about it. And that was it... No one has ever talked to my mom or dad or even me again regarding this complexion thing. And am glad that i did it. And I used to cry a lot when someone said "Yaar tu Kaali hai" and all that... Now it doesn't even matter... I reply to them "Yaar kaali hun toh kya hua dilwali hun" 💖😅 My parents & my sister 's opinion matter to me. That's it... Whoever will love you... Will love the way you are, no matter what. Lot's of love to you for sharing this topic @SatshyaTharien And I would love to see a video on how you dealt with hyperhydrosis ❤

[@harshitavardhan1436]

isn't kali the goddess❤️

[@20poppet]

Thank you for being so candid and genuine

[@samgupta6116]

Please do share your 3 month journey in detail. i have clear skin (as in I dont have acne scars or anything) but I do have a lot of pigmentation around my mouth and my skin always looks dull. I love how genuine your videos are so please please please post that. P.S. relate so much to dual toned lips. My upper lip and the outline of my lower lip is soooo dark and ive always hated it since lip balms look different coloured on my lips. I struggle to find a lipstick that hides ths pigmentation and make both the lips even toned. Even I've always gone for reds and shades of reds or dark browns to hide it. Please please make a video siggesting other lip shades and the lipsticks you use that work for you. Also im a little dark skinned so IDK if the same will work for me, but I want to give more shades a try. Never have I ever tried any pinks. Thanks a lot for your videos.

[@jayaparmar1112]

You should try Vitamin C or kojic acid for the outer line lip pigmentation and you should try derma kojic lip balm

[@nafisaismat8985]

I haven't watched the previous video as the transformation & all doesn't attract me at all. But today I just clicked this one to see what's your say about fair, dark etc skin tone.. & I'm so glad that you have told about the mindset & turned the video completely.. & not about skin care routine & blah blah.. ❤ P.s- It is so important for any student to enjoy the moment & participate in all the activities they like & not to think about the skin tone & dark-fair etc.