Relationship Q&A | Moving In + Individuality + Breadwinning

So Ben and I are back just in time for Valentine's Day for our biennial couples Q&A! Relationships are work and sometimes you need a second perspective. We cover our thoughts on moving in together, our idea of a healthy relationship and more!
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[@imjennim]

Happy Sunday everyone! In the spirit of Valentine's Day, Ben and I filmed a couples Q&A. What is the best relationship advice you've heard? Share with me here! 😍

[@erine7483]

Love you Jenn!!

[@phylishac]

Jenn Im not that it really matters. but i am curious. i know jenn is a virgo. but what is ben’s sign? 🤔

[@justaperson4363]

Adorable puppy. ❤ Adorable couple. ❤❤❤

[@isabellebrophy5116]

I live with my boyfriend and everything has been great but the only thing we’ve ever argued on was him not respecting my boundaries and lying to me so he doesn’t hurt me, when he knows i hate lying and would rather the truth so we can talk about it and move on. I’ve always listened to his boundaries and accepted them because that’s how I would want mine respected. I’m the type of person who gets a problem and immediately looks to fix it but he’s the type of person to leave it to one side and try to forget about it. That’s where we struggle to communicate. I like problems fixed but he likes to forget they existed. I was wondering if it was due to maturity because we are both 19 and going on 20 at the beginning of next year. Do you have any advice? ❤️

[@wellwellmymichelle]

He gives me Robert downey jr vibes, of course rdj is much better looking but this guy is so 🧁🧁🧁🧁

[@kevinwthai]

“Hey everyone! It’s your girl Ben!” I died 😅😂🤣

[@cutevideos7579]

Me too

[@imjennim]

In my head, I wanted to introduce him right after and then it got switched! 😂

[@CherylGoer]

I know!😂😂 Jenn&Ben! Really similar!

[@katiesnyder6664]

Ben makes me realize I've never dated a good man in my life

[@katttydaddy4741]

Katie Snyder you n me both sis :(

[@juliagulia8200]

This is my life.

[@Nehagrows]

I hope you find your ben❤️🥺

[@user-hu7ug7pw9g]

Same here. I'm so happy for them but I'm sooo sorry for myself.

[@KellW2012]

😂

[@nealaguo9814]

the response to the breadwinner question was superb "the question shouldn't be how i feel about her being the breadwinner, instead it should be celebrated that another female is crushing it"

[@gargeesharma2630]

I'v seen their one more video as well(not on this channel) where he said that he has some u knw thoughts in his mind so that he could provide Jenn's financially n her family. I dnt understand that. N here too it's like she is the bread winner. Doesn't seem like Ben isn't employed. I m sorry I didn't get it.. cn someone plz explain.

[@rheosmin1064]

​@@gargeesharma2630 Breadwinnner usually means the person in the family that provides, but can also be used to mean someone who generates the most income for the family which is what the questions seems to point to. Jenn being the breadwinner doesn't necessary mean that Ben is unemployed or that he doesn't contribute to the household (be it monetarily or even just taking care of the house). Him expressing his desire to financially take care of her and her family can also just translate to him wanting to take care of her as a husband and lessen the financial burden for her family however they can. Plus he is still working on finding other paths for his career, doesn't mean it can't change in the future.

[@inkasaraswati7625]

I really like how Ben said "It'd be hard for you not to be the breadwinner", which opens a whole new perspective for me. With how hard Jenn works, and we all know that she is type A and achiever, it'd be soul crushing to see her not as successful as she is. Gender role is bogus anyway, but their relationship and their answer to that question really brings home the fact that couple's dynamics should be about each individual person and not some arbitrary rules from society.

[@ChelyAmour]

Omg i cry 😭😭😭

[@mariale5262]

Yes I Stan Ben so much, Jenn! It’s a joy seeing a man being secure with himself and to cheer on his woman and work on his own career knowing y’all are a TEAM!! 😍

[@imjennim]

Aww thanks Maria! Yes, we're both on the same team. n_n

[@hayleykong4794]

No one: Not a single soul: Jenn & Ben: G R O W T H

[@ApplesThatRead]

Yes! I normally hate "couples" stuff because a lot of women are so deeply invested in the image of love, they come to youtube to put on a show. But Jenn always shows up and talks about the WORK and I just can't get enough. It's a utility and a service to others instead of a vanity project with a raw file literally titled "monument to my greatness" LOL and I stan.

[@janeosun]

^^^^^^

[@elinem777]

"IT'S YOUR GIRL BEN "💀💀💀💀

[@mslegalstory]

Jenn, you just cant take your eyes off Ben ♥

[@grayonthewater]

Just wanted to add that’s it’s not weird to not fight with your SO! It’s always bothered me that people say it’s healthy to fight when it can also be healthy to not fight.😸 I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years, living together almost the whole time, and we’ve never once raised our voice at each other, never said or did anything irrational or immature for the sake of messing with the other person, never did anything intentionally selfish, and never snapped at each other when we’re angry, and we’ve hardly been angry with each other it’s usually for external things like work and family. It’s not the we don’t disagree ever, it’s that we approach everything with empathy, we pause and take a step back when we’re frustrated so we don’t take it out on anyone, we communicate our feelings, and we immediately apologize and calmly talk things out when we do something that upsets the other person. We just both really had our priorities straight from the get-go and have never lost sight of what’s important, that the basis of everything we do is love. This the first and only relationship I’ve had like this- I haven’t even reached this level of harmony with any of my family or friends that I’ve known longer than him, so all my other relationships are way more average and typical with arguing and stuff lol but because my boyfriend and I are so grounded with each other, it’s teaching me to treat all my relationships this way and it’s helped me grow so much. We are definitely not the only ones like this, Simon and Martina have been married for 10+ years and they also have never fought and for the same reasons, I highly recommend their videos talking about their relationship- they have many so just look through their channel

[@raenewnham7490]

My relationship is the same way! Early on we decided that nothing is worth fighting over, and we can just be mature and discuss the issues. The only real fight we had was due to a miscommunication and taught us both a lot. It’s all about learning about your SO. Some people are quick to argue and fight, others aren’t. I don’t think it’s weird at all to not argue. 😊 it’s refreshing

[@imjennim]

Thanks for sharing this! I've never been in a relationship where they haven't been arguments, so it's really refreshing to hear that there are healthy relationships where tiffs don't happen. Sounds like you and your partner have your heads screwed on right. ♥️

[@haleyhay9280]

@@heatherking3391 When you only watch someone online yet think you understand everything about them and their intimate relationships in the name of "psychology" .... this is absolutely inappropriate, rude, and just completely unnecessary. I have a degree in psychology and if I am to match your assumption making, I would guess you're projecting some insecurities onto them, because from what I can tell, they have a pretty healthy and realistic relationship. Even mentioning they go to couples therapy is so refreshing and a great thing for an audience to see.

[@MN-us8dv]

Yes! It is not weird! We can just talk and discuss not fight!

[@rloeun1]

Gray Glider Girl Same. I’ve been with my husband almost 15 years now (known each other for 25+ years). We rarely fight or have arguments. We agree on an open communication and allow ourselves to grow with each other and for each other. We can’t be anymore different, but we enjoy that difference in our relationship. I don’t want to sound cheesy, so I don’t say this often to people. But marriage has been amazing and I love every part of it.

[@trishafloreza8556]

AHH i love how jenn looks at ben while he's talking. I love both of them so much !!

[@user-gp4hq3yy9k]

This is too cute, to be so in love you unconsciously call yourself your partner's name. So much love!!

[@imjennim]

LOL! I was meant to introduce him and it slipped out like that! 😂

[@diananguyen4132]

Wow! You’ve guys have put a lot of working into each other and it CLEARLY shows! Not a lot of couples do that these days, but I definitely think taking the time out to understand each other and communicate has paid off! You guys are such a great couple and I really appreciate you uploading this video. Not only has it inspire and educate me but it shows the strong bond and vulnerability between you two. Thank you!

[@BerryFeenie]

Watched you since clothesencounters and still can't believe you're a wife!! 🥺💕 looking forward to your cooking vids, Jenn!

[@emmaziolkowski7326]

I think it’s so interesting how there was a question about the feelings of a female being the bread winner in a relationship. I loved bens response! I feel as though this would never even be a question if Ben was the bread winning (hint hint, patriarchal society seen as normative). Thank god we’ve made progress where a female can be the bread winner and not. be shamed; but I can’t wait until this doesn’t need to be something that has to be addressed and is just assumed as normal as a man being a bread winner! Go Jen and Ben!

[@itsJessalyn]

How Ben answered the breadwinner question 💖💖 Such a keeper!! 😭

[@mahimarai2893]

the way jenn looks at ben ... my heart

[@tanhoney]

Ben’s response to the breadwinner comment is SO SWEET!!!!!!! You can tell he’s such a supportive person, not just for Jenn but for all people & especially women! I love you two 🥺

[@AlyssaNavida]

The way they look at each other when one’s speaking their mind >>>

[@madeleinecindrich9283]

Yes!!! couples therapy is important! I feel the conversation around couples therapy is very underrepresented! Great on you guys for taking initiative and put the work into your partnership. Couples therapy really helped me take the next step in my long term relationship and I we will probably go again once we start entering new phases in our lives.

[@Hazelv96]

I love how you guys give and take and are willing to hear each other out in order to work things out. Now that's the kind of relationship I wanna be in!

[@tahn4579]

I feel like Jen puts a lot of pressure on herself and Ben reminds her to balance things! Idk Ben as much but he seems like a great human being

[@sadeeptadhungana7504]

I always find Jenn so much motivated and positive. Ben is also so supporting and shares so much positive energy, calm, patience as well as soothing thoughts and perception regarding mental welfare, health, personal space. You guys really complete each other in every perspective although you guys have your own relationship work.

[@TheFoxJiu]

You guys are so inspiring in how you’re always keeping it real and acknowledging/ showing to your audiences that nothing is ever perfect in a relationship, and up and downs are a part of the journey! Loads of love your way ❤️

[@janinen5309]

Your relationship is so inspirational. Incredibly healthy and mature. Appreciate both of you for being open to sharing something so intimate 💕

[@victoriakamila8276]

I so, so appreciate you and Ben openly talking about attending couples therapy and acknowledging that your relationship and your communication isnt always perfect - you argue, things can get heated, you had to set certain boundaries, etc. It’s so humanizing, and I feel like couples who are going through the same thing can find a lot of relief in knowing theyre not alone. My boyfriend and I have been considering couples therapy for awhile and I think this video really convinced me to go for it. Thank you for always being so real!

[@jessica.isabelle]

5 months later and I'm still learning and ~growing~ so much thru Jenn & Ben's Honesty Hour 💘 they're always such an inspiration for such honest communication and making it work as a couple!! and thr tummy scratches for Chippo- my heart is crazy warm! thank you for blessing us!

[@hadadita]

Your husband is such an amazing person. So humble and so nice to your family.

[@NathalyDove]

I almost cried when he started talking about women crushing it rather than being the bread winner! 😭😭😭

[@ko-unseo3417]

I can clearly see that Jenn is such a good listener. (I should let my bf talk as well!! Lol) You guys are so sweet!! :)

[@kayaeki]

You dont xD

[@ritastulov8412]

I totally thought the same :D I should become softer again and listen more :->

[@iselavalenzuela1888]

Lol, I was just thinking this.. like “wow, I need to listen like Jen.” 😂

[@megiecady03]

Being in a long term (used to be long distance) relationship myself, i love watching you two grow!

[@justastrawberrymonst]

11:28 basically jenn admiting she's a virgo (particular in what she does) and ben admiting he's a libra (peacemaker and undecisive) 😂😂

[@imjennim]

LOL. True...

[@victoriakamila8276]

I’m a libra and my boyfriend’s a virgo and we definitely embody this dynamic as well 😂

[@melissagee227]

Bruh yes the Libra is so indecisive and peaceful and yea virgo being particular and wanting things clean and where they were left gagagah

[@tinawhoo]

Love you two! I love how you guys are a strong couple but also have your own individual lives going on too. Love the support for each other!

[@cherdimy1200]

i love how you both look at each other when you talk, is like a conversation between you too

[@Hannah-hd5si]

When he answered the breadwinner question, I cried a little. I love the supportive energy between you two 🧡

[@chiefgitsu]

seeing the ups and downs you guys have and the positive outlook fulfills my relationship quotient, thank you for providing high quality content; it's been a rough but interesting month with the epidemic. keep the vids coming.

[@Vickysantos]

I'm also a 9/2 just like Ben! No wonder I'm so fond of him 😅 I really admire you as a couple, and I find very important that you admit that you do struggle and have difficult moments sometimes, not just rainbows and butterflies

[@soupafleye]

LOVE THIS ENERGY AND LIFE OMG IM SMILING SO HARD. GRATEFUL FOR YOU TWO AND I HOPE YOU BOTH CAN PROSPER AND LIVE WELL THIS YEAR!

[@katet8639]

Jenn looks so happy and healthy, you're shinning

[@theLaurawind]

Please do more videos together. I love the maturity of your relationship, it’s so refreshing to see two intelligent people in a healthy union ♥️

[@mammadonna]

One of the BEST couples from KZbin! Love you guys😍😍

[@karishma_xo]

The Q&A’s you upload is some of my favourite content to watch 🙌🏽

[@haseena1001]

Hey Jenn and Ben - I loved your previous relationship video and this one is just as awesome. You both are amazing individuals and you have a beautiful relationship. Love how you both accentuated GROWTH as being one of the most important factors to a healthy relationship. We are all people and have our own life journey, so when it comes to our partners and relationships it is important to understand that growth and evolution naturally happens. Love how you both work together as a team x :-)

[@lydia6417]

I reaally hope you guys post another Relationship Q&A this year!! Your guy's advice gave me so much insight and new perspectives to think about

[@omfgellysha]

me: crying you two are so cute & so inspirational

[@somethingforyou345]

I love to see people, individuals, groups and cliques really talk about what's really going on for them ✨

[@michellec6034]

Bens response about breadwinning is the most mature and amazing answer. Ben YOU crushed it. Jen, you found one of the best man. Breadwinning has been a big issue for ALL my relationships. And I felt incredibly alone. But now I know, I just need to search for someone to understand. So thank you Ben and Jen.

[@LauPao4]

I love how you both think. That respect and admire for each other is awsome!!! Super cool couple!

[@yangyumhashira579]

Wow. You both are so lucky to have found eachother. I wish you both every kind of joy in life.

[@scarlett2437]

The way Ben looks at Jenn & Jenn looks at Ben 😍😍😍 I can feel love & respect. It's so sweet to see you two ❤️❤️❤️

[@jramielle]

You guys are amazing. Thank you for inspiring so many and showing us what a healthy, wonderful relationship is like. Happy Love Day! 💕

[@anarkia_zh]

I'm so glad you and Ben made this video! Lately I'll been thinking now to keep a healthy relationship with my partner and want advice from you. And here the video comes! 😍

[@adiosamigos4907]

I can’t believe that I’ve been watching you guys for this long 🥺

[@t0d1ff]

[@Rachel-qd5ei]

they’re literally perfect for each other

[@angelinetjq1]

Wow.. there's so much being shared here! Especially regarding arguments, picking the right time, and how you guys go to couples therapy and used card games to help learn more about each other. And yes, I do believe we all need our own space to grow that is beside our partner. But at the end of the day, we have our partners watching us grow through it all and giving us the support to hold on regardless!! :)

[@lyncassady9868]

Wow! Brilliant! You really are goals. I’ve learned a lot from this, thank you for being so open, honest, humble and amazing! 🥰

[@Thaotliu]

Wow. I admire this so much. Went through a very toxic relationship. I have two kids- ages 2 and 4. And it’s been rough but watching you guys make me so happy!

[@monkey93xf]

I'd love to hear more about how you're learning to communicate and the things that specifially help you gain perspective. My partner and I are the same combo!

[@gisellel480]

Thank you for telling us about your couples therapy experience! My bf and I have been together for six years now and are just starting with the therapy together and we’re both scared but excited to get this started and really communicate with each other more:)

[@Chrisliu1122]

I usually don’t enjoy relationship advice ish videos but since I like jenn I still watched this. Didn’t expect to love it so much - thank you so much for sharing this

[@mariyka55]

Ben is soo confident and thoughtful man! I’m happy to look at you both together. And Jenn, you are super inspiring and talented!!

[@KathieeeSung]

Honestly I barely heard anything in the video because I just enjoyed watching how the two of you look at each other so much! I can see the love within you two and that drew my attention from the video. That's really something I have never seen from other's couple Q&A video.

[@emilybaughman2339]

The energy in this video is so pure 🥲

[@badetgb1446]

the way jen look at ben, so IN LOVE.

[@msdalena20]

This video was so great and informative! Please make it an annual thing!! Love from Toronto ♥️

[@yoonsunso6278]

Needed this, watching as I get ready for the day 😉 && the shirt looks so pretty on you with the hair ❤️

[@amandahee2157]

I’ve been learning lots of vocabs from you guys! It’s really fun to watch and learn new words at the same time! Love you Jenn❤️

[@TheKubbas]

This is such a GOOD HEALTHY conversation. Beautiful!!!!

[@joana1684]

JENN I LOVE ALL YOUR VIDEOSSSSS, YOU ARE SUCH FANTASTIC PERSON!!!! I WILL ALWAYS AND FOREVER SUPPORTING YOU!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@GYOOREE]

I’ve been subscribed to ur channel since 2013 and i never get bored of your videos!!!❤️❤️

[@farasyuhada]

I loveee how Ben is so supportive and supports Jen so muchh

[@chenalindelossantos967]

i love how both of u stand out together and how both of u are talented 😊❤

[@dayana3082]

Your doggie is adorable! Thank you for sharing, Ben and Jenn :).

[@TheImperfectionistt]

It is good to listen to you I’m struggling with that balance between attachment and individuality. It is so great.😘

[@sadacalli]

aww just love how you guys look at each other

[@korrina504]

Awe I love the enneagram test, I took it a little while ago and it really helped me grow as a person. I’m also a type 9 🤗

[@otwavo1151]

THIS COUPLE IS SO CUTE OMG 😭🥺

[@seuljilee4178]

I’ve never been early this tooooo and excited to watch this one!

[@kajalspandey]

I love how you explained that it's so important to always be learning about yourselves and growing cause it all feeds into the relationship. I would be curious to know what your human design type is!

[@kornshim]

you guys are one of the cutest and most compatible couples I've ever seen. I adore both of you so much.

[@sabenak3768]

Not even 10 seconds in and i think i busted my lungs laughing 😂 but “ your girl Ben” aww thats cute actually 🥰

[@TheperfectfrenchwithDylane]

You guys look so perfect!

[@louandjosephvlogs]

Jenn is such a powerful woman💗 truly someone we want to aspire!

[@josiesittig8788]

Yaaaass. Been waiting so long for this!

[@jenniferstein7968]

And Ben, you're great too!

[@acmanda07]

I love you guys so much! thank you for sharing with us how you guys manage your relationship and are the ultimate team :)

[@kabitagurung8612]

SO MUCH LOVE FOR YOU GUYS! Feel happy and inspired every time I watch your videos. God bless you.. XOXO

[@Oftheadvisor]

Ok but why do these two look more and more in love as time passes by?? Such cuties.

[@kristinalugo3797]

Yes! Enneagram is SO helpful for building All relationships 💕

[@MsMomobi]

we need more of these types of videos. so informative and cuteeee

[@jamessamy]

Love your freely communication with each other on topics. This what misses in many relationship ☹️

[@DeliaX]

LOVE you guys' perception on therapy! I couldn't agree more!

[@sarahwho7732]

Love seeing you and ben together💕💕💕💕

[@vincichan4930]

relationship goals!!!!! I love you guys 💕

[@Heejujujuju]

The way they look at each other 😍😍

[@emilyi.4594]

always love your insight, so great to hear !

[@alishacrai8472]

“It’s your girl, Ben!” Omg 😂

[@hemanshikumar2179]

I love you Jenn! Been watching you for so long and you always make me feel at home and motivated as well! You and Ben are so freaking incredible too! So much love from Sydney, Australia ❤️

[@blairechen_]

i love you guys so much!!!!!!!!