CNA | The Family Affair S4 | E03: Breaking Point

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Favouritism, academic pressure and unfulfilled promises threaten and strain ties in the families.
What happens when children are pushed to their breaking point?
Watch, laugh and be moved by the struggles and joys of parenting in Asia, as your favourite CNA documentary series returns with five Asian families from five countries.
How far are Asian parents willing to go, to see that their children fulfill their hopes and dreams? And when children are not mature enough to decide what to do, whose dream should it be anyway?
Meet the families:
Song Family - South Korea
Yap Family - Singapore
Martinez Family - The Philippines
Lokhan Family - India
Wen Family - China
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[@advaith365]

Gab is gonna grow up, get successful and maybe won't ever be in touch with her family. They are completely ignoring her, to make their son their priority.

[@dt4654]

I would bet on my bank account that she will probably go abroad or move far away from her parents. the ones who go abroad for school don't always come back :) one I knew never came back and is married with twins in australia right now.

[@amyabay4826]

Poor families in yhe philippines dont get to go to good universities except if they are really intelligent. Most teenage girls end up having bad friends getting pregnant at an early age or if they go abroad to work as domestic helpers, that is the sad reality of living below the poverty line in the philippines. With the mother and father having no work and relying on their dream making their eldest son as breadwinner hoping he becomes a star is being irresponsible

[@noirnua1257]

That Filipino mother needs to wake up. Her daughter is going to grow up resenting her and her favourite son. That is NO WAY to treat your own child!!!

[@siphobrisloks8133]

@Manga Is good you still don't understand that

[@myfartstinks]

@@siphobrisloks8133 at least the kid wanna learn what resenting means

[@JCRocker102181]

Agree (even if I am a Filipino). Unfortunately, that's how it is in a typical poor Filipino family. That's totally bullshit!!!!!!!!!

[@joy7218]

I feel her my mom use to get mad at me for everything when I was a kid in the 90s my mom favor my disabled sister who is one year older than me, I did most of the chores at home as a teenager and as an adult. I finally got out and in up homeless on the street in my late 20s and on section 8 DHA I'm still on it now in my 30s. Favoring one and screwing up the other child doesn't make there life better.😥

[@julaihaahmad2214]

All I can say, I'm appalled by the parents in these show. They are suffocating their children with dreams that are not even theirs. The Filipino one's is the top worst one here. How can a mother be having double standards on her own biological children! What is so special about her son! He's not even a big celebrity and already she's treating him like the king in the house!...she is so infuriating!...I really sympathise her daughter, she is so young and yet she has shown sign of resentment towards her parents, I don't blame her, her parents made her that way.

[@passivedre]

I agree, but the worst for me is the Wen Family

[@anushiyasaralatan874]

Sending your younger daughter to the provision shop so that your eldest son can maintain his complexion is the most ignorant and selfish thing a mother can ever say and do!

[@marythr2617]

Anushiya Saralatan she should have never had children. She is a blood sucker. So sad.

[@JK-zu1np]

The worst thing is, her son is already dark skinned, so it doesn't matter the sun! In Philippines, there are much fairer boys than him.

[@Jethro-xi1fq]

Filipino lady tremaine,Ruth Dewitt Bukater.

[@amyabay4826]

These parents dont really care much for their other children but only for their eldest son.. girls often end up getting rape and murdered if they meet drug addicts along the way when running errands

[@tosin333ify]

I really feel for the Korean girls. Their dad thinks the first daughter is not good enough to start her own food truck. He also wants the second daughter to stop pursing her dreams and just focus on the family business. This is rather selfish of the dad. It's not like the family is broke. They can hire more people. Should a dad not be supporting his kids dreams and ambitions?!

[@biancab310]

Tosin Abiade they’re cheap you know the vibes

[@dreampianist8]

I mean the reason why the father thinks that way is because in episode 1, he said that he scored really low for college entrance exams but became rich. And he doesn’t have much qualifications and sometimes these people, don’t realise that there are ways to climb the ladder. Having said that, the mother said that she doesn’t trust other people.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

It’s very selfish for him to expect his daughter to sacrifice her dreams and future just so they can make even more money when they don’t need it - purely for status.

[@FifthGate]

It's an aberrant parenting style for Korea.

[@joetke]

I love this chinese boy. He's really clever, smart but he feels under too much pressure from his obsessed mom. She's destroying her son's motivation indeed. As obsessed as the chinese mother, the philippinos mom is frankly unfair toward her daughter. She considers herself as a great coach while the result of her "expertise" are still wanting. Does she know what karma's about? You are so unfair vis-à-vis your daughter... you can't succeed with your too much beloved son! IT'S IMMEDIATE KARMA! Far ahead all those obsessed and PRETTY ANNOYING moms, the philippinos is really a stubborn one! not sympathetic at all! Her husband who lacks many qualities becomes more sympathetic than her. Those moms are CONVINCED that they DO KNOW HOW THEIR KIDS CAN SUCCEED! It's definitely STUPID! They NEGLECT some aspects of happiness! And their kids after all, respond the right way by making them understand that they're not robots nor mom's puppets!

[@gabrielkok9208]

Jean Seb Astienback if the Pinoy Mom really is that good, she wouldn't be living in a slum to begin with, the irony lol

[@ailinseah3190]

That pinoy boy won't go far in life

[@vinteb7987]

*filipino/filipina

[@NaruruArtDumpStation]

Basti's dad should divorce his wife for lying, stealing, and cheating with the whole family. He doesn't deserves this treatment and he'll be the best dad for the two kids. The mom should leave and never come back again.

[@CaranLonde]

Divorce is illegal in the PH. Annulment is the only way out and that costs a lot of money and it's a looooooooooooong process.

[@NaruruArtDumpStation]

@@CaranLonde Oh my God...I hope he has his own happiness after getting rid of her

[@halovegejakarta6592]

@@CaranLonde why is it illegal tho?

[@halovegejakarta6592]

@@mcsfalcon6826 ohh ok

[@dreamygal7221]

Yeah, he seems so sweet to his daughter too. His wife is crazy!

[@HiThere-mb6pp]

Poor Gab, she's so sweet with so much innocence but her mother is just focusing on their son. She just wants respect. Her mother winds her up... 'you're got going to throw another tantrum are you?' take care of your children, don't neglect them

[@navanmamun]

Mad Respect for the Grandpa who makes his grandchild feel loved.

[@opticalace068]

I feel so bad for Gab.

[@yukilynx3526]

She's so cute I feel so bad for her 😭😭😭

[@joy7218]

I feel her my mom use to get mad at me for everything when I was a kid in the 90s my mom favor my disabled sister who is one year older than me, I did most of the chores at home as a teenager and as an adult. I finally got out and in up homeless on the street in my late 20s and on section 8 DHA I'm still on it now in my 30s. Favoring one and screwing up the other child doesn't make there life better.😥

[@yvysz]

is that filipino mother that annoyed that she has to criticise her husband’s fish . i-

[@idontknow-nh3vq]

lol at the singaporean boy's age i dont even have an ipad or gaming consoles instead i was at the playground. wow literally primary teens are glued to tech devices which maybe also why theres the myopia issue in singapore 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@yukilynx3526]

I had a phone back when I was ten but yk, back then phones didn't really have any fun games and it was more to call my friends and mom instead. I also had a gameboy advance sp but I primarily read books back then.

[@weisbars5]

I think Gab mother couldn't wait to send Gab overseas to work as domestic helper to support the whole family (incl. her lazy brother). She's one bad mother.

[@Pushkin62]

The Yaps have made one cardinal mistake in bringing up Keane - they have allowed Keane to be addicted to computer games to the extent that he throws temper tantrums when deprived of the console and iPad. Such negative parenting is very common among Singaporean parents. At restaurants, it is common for parents to keep their toddler kids entertained with an iPad rather than engaging them in the real world. The Yaps should engage Keane in more outdoor activities and sports rather than allowing him to become a couch potato.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

I think one of his problems is they have not set appropriate consistent boundaries for him. Like many they get used to using it as a babysitter - it’s easy to do but very unhealthy for the kids.

[@Archangel178]

gosh, the son is a spoilt brat! 2 hours of gaming and youtube! addicted! ridiculous! no wonder he is like that and his results are like that!

[@uthandophumelele]

why does Basti's audition video look like something the UN would receive to report human trafficking? 😭💔

[@Lucyk6]

Hahahahaa

[@masonartsirilim4532]

Keane needs the parents from China. And that Pinay (OMG) should go get a job and leave her family in peace.

[@avamartel9666]

Keane is having meltdown over gaming, Zi Xu is having a meltdown over Chinese Language.

[@passivedre]

I'm having a meltdown on how stupid the mothers are on this episode

[@omvtv817]

Gab, one day you'll make it out of there and start a very good life of your own. She may never see this message, but I hope she stay's strong among her parents that treat her like that. I was born and raised in the Philippines, and I know just how hard it is there. To the parents, give your children equivalent attention so they EQUALLY feel special. How would you feel as a mother or father if one of your kids gave the "favorite" parent a new car for your birthday, and for the other parent's birthday they receive a pack of sponges from the dollar store... Put your self in your kid's shoes at times. I know exactly how it feels to be left out like Gab since I've been down that road. Now that I have had my own life away from them for years, that's when they want you most. Funny how life works.

[@zhibinliu7263]

The China boy is the most stressed up

[@passivedre]

Yeah I feel bad for the boy

[@dreamygal7221]

He is so cute and innocent though!

[@ailinseah3190]

Ya poor thing

[@coderr_]

I feel bad for him hos mom keep pressureing him while hs cant do what he likes

[@Adityaclone4]

@@coderr_ and monitoring him

[@sallmon3689]

Is no one gonna talk about the Chinese boy? That legend loves Minecraft

[@tonyshu6052]

Was waiting for this comment

[@chris9879]

I wonder how the youngest child (junjun) in the filipino family will be brought up. Will he be treated the same way as Gab?

[@mainaccount1284]

34:34 when I become old I wanna be as chill as this guy 10/10 grandpa.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

I have to be honest these families seem a bit dysfunctional. The parents don’t seem to understand their children are separate from themselves and are using their children to fulfil their own needs and dreams. I understand the Chinese mother trying to get her son to do well with school but I think she has to appreciate he is quite unique and different to the average child and will find his own pathway. The Filipino mother is the worst neglecting her daughter to chase unrealistic silly dreams. Gab is such a sweet beautiful girl who needs love and attention too - it breaks my heart to see her treated so badly. I do like Wens fathers empathy and compassion.

[@JCRocker102181]

Agree!!!!!! All of the parents in different Asian countries are bunch of assholes.

[@agnespang9523]

39:10 that's definitely fake Gucci I mean u can't pay off ur loans but can buy Gucci lol

[@charletteahn4977]

I feel super stressed for d china boy, so sad, d pressure for him is way too much, he’s already a bright boy...

[@jaycowper]

Man, where's a gofundme for Gab? I feel so bad for her, it's breaking my heart a bit.

[@JoyTv281983524]

This is very interesting to watch.....hope more videos like this. Thank You

[@ShaylaMist]

This whole season is heartbreaking really. These kids are pretty much abused. Some of them may have all the comfort at home, but they are so unhappy because of their parents. I really don't understand how a parent can behave like that towards their own flesh and blood. I really want to strangle the Chinese mother in every episode. Her kid is brilliant and she's killing his spirit by not allowing him the basic freedom of being a kid. The Filipino mom is a monster to her own daughter and she needs to be reported for child neglect. That poor kid deserves so much more. It broke my heart when she said she thinks of her mom when she sweeps the floor. It's so painful to think that there are couples out there who desperately want children and there are those who have them and don't appreciate the gift they have. The Korean parents are plain selfish. They don't care that their daughters are wasting the best years of their lives working for the family business. All they need to do is hire two people to replace them. The mother's claim that she can't work with strangers is ridiculous. I understand her need to control things but she is putting herself first and shows no empathy for her own children. IMO the Singaporean family is the most normal one. They have allowed their kid to be a kid. But the fact that he's addicted to gaming shows that he's been spoiled and he'll likely get away with a lot more in the future if they don't change their parenting style. However their daughter is awesome and that shows they're good parents.

[@pr7ish]

i feel sad for gab how her own mother is ignoring her.

[@carbokat]

Gab’s mom is ridiculous. She does all sorts of stupid things so that her son can be a star so that she can have a better life?! I feel so bad for Gab.

[@user-zs8ym6tk7b]

That Filipina mom is all about money.

[@JCRocker102181]

Agree

[@QihuiLooi]

For Singapore, Alex Yap is a better parenting father here. You can see how much he has already lost talking to his wife, where she insisted on thinking whatever moves that she made is correct for the future. But didn't really think is that what they want. Whereas the father here, subconsciously understand why they are reacting to this way. I think most of the parents at this generation knows what is the correctively way to do things, but doesn't know how to handle them correctly. The execution process is what kills off what they have expected of their children. For Korea, I think they just lack of communication between them. Their burger shop has pulled them apart on understanding what both their targets and wishes. They need to understand their goals are not to be casted on their children's vision and goals well. They need to know they have their own will and path they want to go also. For Philippines and China, I think both are really wrong vision alignment and putting their kids on entitlement. Their priorities are totally wrong. Joseph neither wants to intervene also, seems like a four parties family each with their own world to achieve.

[@dawnyap]

I would like to just clarify that my brother and I both asked to do performing arts as it is also like a way for us to not stress to much about our studies. I feel that both my parents kinda balances out my life. My mom is trying to make sure we are able to do want we want to do in the future, thus the want to help us. There are also time in which we all have fun as a family as well. However, I also agree that most of the parents at this generation does not know how to handle their kids correctly as I hear much of this. I just wanted to clarify that my brother and I chose this path and I think we have to go through this to reach our goal:))))

[@beezlebub9]

@@dawnyap I can understand that. I guess it’s just that your Dad does come across as a more balanced father specially when we watch the whole series and all the parents together. Btw, I’m kind of a pushy mom too so I understand where your mom comes from.

[@kirstent5080]

Keane is such a spoilt brat... he is so entitled to everything

[@lindsayshockledge579]

LET KIDS BE KIDS CHILDHOOD IS SHORT ADULTHOOD ISN'T

[@PrincessAmenRa]

When I was a child my mother spent a lot of money and effort grooming my brother in a lot of things. Art, public speaking, enrolling him in classes, sending him for competitions. He was just 2 years older than me. I got jackshit. When I was 5 and he was 7, she entered him in an art competition at a community center. The lady at the counter saw me and asked her "Are u sure u just want to enter 1 child? There needs to be an adult present." My mom decided to enter me solely because it would cost more to hire a babysitter. So on the day of the competition my mom left me in a corner with an easel and a box of crayons while fussing over my brother's artwork, making sure his drawing was perfect. I got to work, filling in the colours of my drawing by myself without anyone helping me. My name was called out during the prize giving. I got a small trophy. My brother got nothing. The judges took 1 look at his painting and knew it wasn't his own work. It was a moment I never forgot.

[@srfin24]

really millionaires from burger shack

[@user-hp1sb5en1o]

I feel like when there is a problem it's always a matter of communication. Explain why you are doing something, explain how you think it will benefit your child and listen to them speak. Discuss! Children are smart, they understand when you explain And no favoritism please.

[@fairymay7486]

For crying out loud let these children be children smfh 🙄

[@michaelskyqq]

The korean family - i seriously dont get it, they have the volume to hire someone, this just comes down to not wanting to spend the money… just crazy guilt tripping her family like this

[@maricrisibarrientos3472]

Welcome to the crazy Asian family....this is very very true....amazing documentary..

[@estranged9410]

How some Chinese people tend to spoil their kids is just unreasonable, one is suffering from gaming addiction and crying his heart out because he doesn't get what he wants, the other is throwing a tantrum in public, screaming and shouting at his poor grandpa and even throwing his stuff in the air for the old man to pick up! (the little emperors are turning to big crises)

[@Adityaclone4]

Well the Chinese boy did it because of way too much pressure especially from his obsessed mom I bet if U were him your head would turn really red and start raging and cussing

[@ti_me_li9678]

4 hours is a lot for gaming and electronics? wahhhh my mind is blown,

[@Sasssquatch369]

30:01 Badass!

[@beezlebub9]

Poor Keane. Dawn is a hard act to follow.

[@sabah4123]

Stop pushing children, use encouragement instead. 🤷‍♀️

[@hezry293]

That korean dad want his family work for his business and his ambition , what a selfish more demanding 😤😤😤

[@LindateoteoteoIn]

Why should he give attention to her if she doesn't give attention to her daughter

[@gracenrgaard4951]

Kakainis ka favorite mo yang isa, parang Nanay ko noon. Pinaaral ng ilang courses ang isa nmin kapatid. Ako hang high school lang. Nag Self support ako. Nag college. Nagabroad. Dito sa Europe, nagupgrade p ako ng knowledege dito. Sino ang successful? Napagawa ko bhay kahit hindi ko dag ng nanay ko. Hayys

[@floydthangwane5763]

that Filipino mom is bringing so much agony to the little girl, its a shame that all she wants is to be seen

[@123arcadia]

Basti is truely a basti!

[@sandorayaki5301]

Basti o bastos na bata?

[@ezelmanicia7243]

Basti has been influenced too much by his mom, he has no respect at all, when you speak to your parents especially if you’re talking in Tagalog, you talk to your elders by saying “po” in each sentence. Gab needs more attention from her mom but the mother only focuses on basti who doesn’t even show that much effort in his dream to be a child star.

[@denysiabethea5931]

Wen and his grandfather needs to get their own show of them just traveling

[@ailinseah3190]

I always tell my kid win some lose some win ok lose treat it as experience

[@epicpeeconsumer45]

I feel like ive seen that basti kid before Isnt he a actor or something?

[@p0m2girl]

The korean family - I thought they are rich now, why can't they just hire more ppl to help them in the restaurant?? Whyyy

[@justinlee269]

the grandad is just so chill omg

[@khkcoolcool5025]

That grandfather deserves a better grandchild

[@wongwingsang3036]

What a tough way of life competing with one another constantly to get ahead its the Asian culture it's not like this in Europe and people live happier

[@dt4654]

also someone remind the "appa" that it is his dream to have the hamburger shop,not his daughter's or wife's...

[@desrenerankine9983]

Batsi is hungry feed him and you get a damn job and stop borrowing from your friends..

[@michellesp7805]

The Korean father is so selfish. He's sacrificing his wife's health & daughters dreams in favor of his own agenda

[@desrenerankine9983]

Remember your daughter Batsi mommy..

[@PrincessAmenRa]

In terms of attractiveness, I think Gab is actually a prettier child than her brother. If anyone is going to become a celebrity, it's her.

[@pinaplpg3d306]

Bro what two hours of games a day is good.

[@amyabay4826]

I wish i had the stamina of yeon ji.. baking breads cakes and cooking are very fulfilling, you just have to have a lot of energy to do all that.. the girl is going to be very succesful.

[@avamartel9666]

Keane is having meltdown over gaming, Zi Xu is having a meltdown over Chinese Language.

[@coderr_]

No he has a meltdown over his mom because he cant do what he likes all the time is mom keeps pressuring him about school and stuff

[@Adityaclone4]

@@coderr_ exactly

[@Adityaclone4]

@@coderr_ people are so quick to judge rather than watching the video and realising why and what's going on

[@coderr_]

@@Adityaclone4 yup

[@notomgpool0l594]

The Filipino family is really pissing me off, how could they treat their kids differently? Its basically the same thing as saying "I like my father more than my mother". Things like this shouldn't exist and they should be treated and judged equally. AND USING THEIR CHILD TO DO THEIR LABOUR AND INCOME????

[@biancab310]

This season is pissibg me off

[@charletteahn4977]

Pitty d othr siblings of d fil family... d fil mother should devote her time equally to their children... other siblings may resent her & big bro as they grow...

[@JCRocker102181]

Agree

[@damsie64]

Bruh what?! sending ur daughter to buy rice because IT WAS TOO SUNNY so her precious prince won’t get tanned?! He’s alr tanned dude. Her daughter is rlly mature & understanding. she volunteered to run the errands instead of keeping quiet. Edit: skin colour & complexion are 2 diff things. If u want better skin complexion, u shld go get some vitamin D from the sun and also use some facial cream. Not staying at home all day, staring at ur phone.

[@ytho8597]

Bless that chinese boys grandpa

[@mpdmpd8118]

the SG parents really sibeh kiasu lolol

[@biancab310]

Millionaire is not middle class

[@annalovesanime1]

its probably in kor won so take off 3 zeros for usd

[@studentnguyen2564]

@@annalovesanime1 Bruh so they got like 1,000 dollars.

[@joy7218]

I feel her my mom use to get mad at me for everything when I was a kid in the 90s my mom favor my disabled sister who is one year older than me, I did most of the chores at home as a teenager and as an adult. I finally got out and in up homeless on the street in my late 20s and on section 8 DHA I'm still on it now in my 30s. Favoring one and screwing up the other child doesn't make there life better.😥

[@Globetrotter_Alpha]

Korean Family is the BEST!

[@amirnelli3603]

Anyone else watching after the wuhan virus?

[@qooaesta]

Where’s the Indian family? :(

[@joaniedaniel9889]

They all need Dr Phil😄

[@Adityaclone4]

Why

[@Adityaclone4]

36:24-28 be like wth going on

[@raphaelbrito205]

to be honest I am nothing compared to these kids

[@satymyman315]

wait.The Filipino parent can afford Basti a phone.But cant afford to buy fish and go for workshops.:----/

[@CringeLord123]

Smart phones are really cheap these days.

[@TheFS10show]

The Filipino father on the fish is on point.

[@nine-ul8qo]

I have doubts about the Filipino Family... Sobrang scripted!

[@bernicutie]

Honestly i dont like the way they giving them so much to learn. Where is the childhood the kids suppose to hv?? They are only adding on stress to them...shld i say selfish? Cos parents want them to learn so much..even plan for them since 5yo?? I hv 4 kids myself. I never stress them too much on studies. They only hv tuition twice wkly n nothing else. i will nvr force them to take up courses they do not like. I want them to hv a happy childhood...nt tons n tons of extra curriculum other than studies. I do nt expect them to strive for 80 n above...as long as they pass their exams is gd enuf.

[@betaalpha4275]

Imo, season 4 is mostly about child abuse. (indirectly).None of them are talented(except the Indian family) and look good enough to be a star (NONE)...they are just some bright kids that had to fulfill their family's wishes due to their lack of financial capabilities or desired for their kids to be somebody. A sad world indeed.

[@rvlxt97]

A lot of them are actually talented for example the Singaporean girl, it's just that they don't have the resources or proper training (referring to basti)

[@rvlxt97]

But I agree with the child abuse part

[@lindsayshockledge579]

The little Singaporean kid, Keane, is sooo cute :)

[@marialorenatan271]

taga Philippines diko ata marinig ung salitang po at opo sa mga anak eh! asan ung pag galang!

[@JCRocker102181]

Walang kwenta kasi mga magulang.

[@mattwallace8720]

The Korean Dad needs to support his daughters ambitious goals and dreams. The Philippine Mother needs to divorce her lazy husband, get a job and be a loving Mother to her children. The Chinese parents need to let their son play and be a kid.

[@JK-zu1np]

Oxymoron, if she divorce her husband and is still poor, how will she be able to work and care for her kids? One of her kids looks like a toddler. She is still buying diapers for that kid. Also, divorce is illegal in Philippines as it's a catholic country and their laws are heavily influence by the catholic church.

[@xxx-sp8fh]

The korean father is really rare in asia usually asian parents will force their kids academically so they could enter good university while this guy dont even care about degree.

[@bbrabow1gmail]

I’m sorry about this mother in the Philippines is trying to live her dream through a child who is not competent to accomplish what she wants. Since her husband is not willing to go abroad and it’s not fair to push her expectations on her child. Maybe she should go abroad and work for a living to send money home to her family, there are a lot of Filipino mothers who are living abroad working and sending money home to their children.