College Advice From A McGill Student

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[@rcamhess]

Sis how come you never warned the good folks that you were this physically sculpted brother lmao

[@billybeans2253]

tru

[@guyinaroom7771]

I love how this video is supposed to be a help to college students but everyone is just watering out of their mouth at the perfection of this human being. Well at least I'm sure this comment section is a big ego boost

[@edwardsarchive8134]

He really just did a face reveal and casually ignored the fact that he has perfectly chiseled cheekbones like we're not gonna notice 🗿

[@safir2241]

@@edwardsarchive8134 bruh he looks normal wdym

[@edwardsarchive8134]

@@safir2241 well, i think he looks above average

[@goodbyesolong2110]

oh no he's hot, smart and has a deep voice

[@Music-lb8rp]

What does the world owe him?

[@offtop1832]

life just aint fair bro

[@ye9803]

Mad sus but also yes

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

Yes he's very charming boyo

[@mightworth3735]

And I thought I am the only one who falls for the calm, broken and deep. Check!!🙌

[@thekevinfoster]

If anyone wants more advice, here is my spiel: College is a place to explore. One of my early professors told us basically we are paying for help to figure out who we are. That said, I don’t think anyone should expect to know who they are or what they wanna be after school. That could even be considered a bad mentality. I think it better to look at passion and identity as something dynamic and more fluid. Really think about why you are doing what you’re doing. Don’t give yourself anxiety over it, to your best ability that is, but take classes because you are interested in what that class has to offer. Not every class is going to be amazing, but do your best to take ones that are good for you. Personally I don’t recommend majoring in something just for the money, but some may choose otherwise, power to you. But don’t be afraid to do something else. I have switched majors more times than I can count on a hand and I’m still pushing through. It’s okay to come out the other end and be like “what the fuck was I doing?” All you can really say is you took your best guess. Also, find the things that you value and give yourself time for that. When I say give yourself time, I mean schedule it out if you have to. Lastly, it is incredibly common to become jaded with college or classes (at least from my personal and peers’ experiences). Again, I encourage taking risks and changing it up if you feel that way. At some point you will have to commit to something, but that’s only until you finish school. Then, you’ve got a degree and can keep on trying to find out what the hell it is you want out of life. There’s always time for change and college is just one stepping stone on the path through life. It’s cliche, but true. Embrace your own experience, try your best to be present, make friends, and keep making more friends. Good luck.

[@josiahdurrell4323]

Well said

[@daoyang223]

My friend once told me "make friends and network so you can secure and build some sort of foundation in the future" so I made a ton of friends who ironically, were just a bunch of plugs for me to get my hands on discounted indoor marijuana.

[@elysiantulips5793]

thanks

[@forsaken7161]

well i know who i am, tell me how to suck less in college. i barely pass anything lol and its not about learning. its about understanding.

[@thekevinfoster]

@@forsaken7161 not sure how I could help exactly. Organization usually seems to be a common factor in getting better grades. Provides more time to work effectively/ go to professors if you need help. Taking classes that are more enjoyable might help too, but that can be difficult. Professors generally seem to want to help as well, but that can vary significantly by school, class, etc. Starting off terms strong may be of help as well, but motivation/discipline to do so can be hard.

[@duncanclarke]

Just graduated from Queen's this year. As one of the biggest party schools in Canada, your point about finding the balance between work and social life was definitely the most significant thing for me. I saw lots of folks drift too far to one side of that continuum.

[@alexj7440]

Everyone I know at Queens parties a solid 3/4 days a week. I don’t get it. I work a part time job and have a full course load and I can go out max once a week, but even then that’s ambitious.

[@duncanclarke]

@@alexj7440 If you're frosh, the best advice I could give is to find likeminded people that share your habits (trust me, they exist!). I lived with a group of guys who liked partying at about the same frequency as me (about once a week). Everyone at my res was either party every night, or study 24/7, so I didn't really click with any of them. It wasn't until second year that I found a good group.

[@shortking3429]

Hello fellow Queens students

[@s.a.l.1974]

someone I know said that rich kids always go to Queen's

[@edgyhummus584]

im still in gr11, but I was prepared to apply for western....😬😬

[@admiralbenji]

I feel like I used to work with this guy. If it is him, his judgement and opinion is as on point as I recall.

[@ye9803]

Wait ... B-Ben? BEN IS THAT YOU?!?!

[@pr_nj_l]

@@ye9803 Kanye?

[@yashbhatt5373]

@@pr_nj_l e-girl???

[@stopsign1663]

@@yashbhatt5373 yash, is that you?!?!?

[@loopeyfluff]

@@stopsign1663 stop sign??? It’s been AGES!!!

[@alyssaknappen9275]

just wanted to tell you that several of your videos have changed my life, thank you for getting me interested in philosophy, I major in it now and im heading to university of Chicago in the fall!

[@tinytina8451]

it's the "french for dummies" book in the back for me..

[@anahatghuman2241]

no cause literally me being a mcgill first year with the sAME book

[@Vizceral]

If there's one piece of advice that I have for freshmen going into college : Get a summer job to save up money before you go. The difference in quality of life when you go to college with money for groceries instead of struggling is astronomical. Minimize your suffering. Good luck, you got this.

[@shitposter1000]

Interviews scare me, it seems so terrifying, any advice on them?

[@zants_]

My shock when I arrived at college and people were asking who wanted to go out to restaurants that night. I assumed everyone was like me and had no money. It was a lot of instant confusion and jealousy.... As someone that grew up very poor, my instant (albeit oblivious) reaction was "if you can afford to go out and eat, why are you even in college?"

[@Willty64]

@@shitposter1000 if you can, ask around your friends & family for a job or work at a local place that is desperate. I was a dishwasher at a local pizza place and I just walked in & asked to work, a week later was my first day.

[@Vizceral]

@@shitposter1000 Lot's of service jobs, while not glamorous most of the time, require very little if nothing at all in terms of experience. Wait tables or wash dishes and you'll be doing alright.

[@mileitman]

But don't you go to McGill after college (or at least CEGEP)?

[@santicraft8]

Really needed to hear tip 4 or 6. Next semester is my last in university, and I've made zero friendships that survived outside of the classroom. I've managed to get good grades, but probably at the expense of a million things I would've liked to try out -- not to mention the amount of stress and the toll on my mental health. Despite being only one more semester, I've been dreading having to go another six months of my life like this, but your words helped me see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you, love your videos. You should do more like this every once in a while.

[@willcarmichie698]

You and me both. I only have one year left of university and I haven't really accomplished anything other than passing classes. I have friends that I've known from high school and we see each other somewhat often, but I'll always feel sad that I never made many other friends in the last 4 years.

[@lucas3918]

Videos like this are always such a profoundly direct interaction between two aspects of my life. I'm in my second year if Uni, and whilst your videos often relate to topics I study, they as a while exist as a separate, more whole part of my person I in turn try to reflect in school. Seeing the the reverse, the latter talk about the former, can be surreal

[@brendanmulrooney368]

Whilst lol

[@NIL0S]

The non-group group work is totally a thing. After almost burning out on a summer class because I wanted to get max score and was the only one putting work into the group project, I was so relieved when the current teacher asked if we wanted to do her class project as a group or individual... And she listened to my suggestion to structure the work solo. I grew to dread group projects 😂

[@minaDesuDesu]

Someone should do a research on this. I swear everybody I know has experienced this in uni

[@theast.phillip7542]

This helped me so much, thank you for posting! I needed to hear some of this. I just started college after a gap year and it’s been such a mixed bag experience. Some days I feel like I’m sitting in my lectures for philosophy and anthropology (which, thank you btw. I feel like this channel helped me realize I wanted to work in those areas) and everything makes sense. Like, I really feel like I’m growing and understanding the world through these really interesting new perspectives. Other days I’m beyond frustrated dealing with the day-to-day struggles of college life. I don’t know what about this made me feel better but it helped so much. it’s just nice hearing it’s a mixed bag experience for most people. Anyways, I clearly ramble and am not one for grammar either lmao. But I really appreciate the post. Made me feel so much less weird abt everything going on in my life.

[@cakep.9830]

Mr. Phus 55, thank you. Uni's been rough on me and on this side of the world where schools haven't opened up. Lost a scholarship grant and am on the verge of losing another. Lost whatever identity I've had of being 'that smart kid.' Uni's got me studying more than I ever have and it's opened me up to the idea that I don't really know who I am or what I want (much like your videos have). Thanks again. Much love.

[@sndawihc6713]

I've been going through a bit at the moment, and i just found this video helpful. Studying has never really been my thing so it's been hard to adjust, i only discovered videos like this recently and they've helped me balance out the way i want to live and pave the road for my future. thanks dude.

[@fergusconnor7476]

First time I've been early to a Sisyphus video

[@Sam-bn5bb]

I’m in community college (2 year) right now, but I’ll be transferring to a university eventually so this is great advice.

[@daoyang223]

Going to a CC is the best way to approach college because you can explore more of yourself that way when you go to a CC first. Also it's cheaper.

[@zachiga]

This came at the perfect time. I just got out of the US Marines and am going to school in the summer semester as a sophomore and am excited/scared. It’s a huge change and I’m more worried as being an older person just coming into school again after being away from it for several years. Thanks a lot! This channel is so great!

[@Bladings]

ay good luck man wishing you the best

[@nitrogen_p4]

I’m at uni in France and one of my options was McGill, I’ve come to a realization talking to friends who went to unis all over the world: the universities might be different but the struggles are the same everywhere.

[@aidanhyman]

Phenomenal video! Thank you for being so candid, I needed to hear this :)

[@sethlouiszimmerman]

I had a huge relationship with alcohol, cocaine, and Xanax which I would do alone in my bare studio apartment. I barely went to class or did work while studying architecture. I ended up leaving my last semester during the COVID lockdown and they still awarded with my degree. I've been clean for about four months. Bless the education system. P.S. Had to take 2 medical leaves and wrote mostly about theory.

[@daoyang223]

College happens that way. Had a professor who taught music theory and he was old and seemed extremely underqualified for the job. He wasn't good at explaining music and was disconnected with the students which was a big turn off for my brain. Anyways he's old so he had health complications. He had a mini heart attack at home and took a leave from work and gave everyone an A (this happened in the first 3 weeks too). Also had a Philosophy teacher who "taught" us some religion about peace like buddhism and sometimes brought up politics like it was a poli sci class. Anyways throughout the semester she openly encouraged us to come up with ways to interpret whatever the hell we want when we give her answers and then when mid terms and finals came, she told us to walk the track and think about our life. Everyone got an A in that class, it was way too easy. So easy I wish I hadn't spent money on it as I don't think I actually learned anything from it, I may as well have just watched a youtube video.

[@sugarray710]

Good to hear ur doing good now

[@patrikfrroku7215]

Wow man thank you so so much for this. As a freshman in a university I am unsure about this video was extremely helpful to me. I wrote down (approximately) your words from this that hold the most weight for me: Don't have any expectations... Creating the wrong impressions, messing up the interactions.... Be present. Pay attention to people. Appreciate that it's a new experience.

[@Trapping_ackbar7]

Thanks for the advice! First couple months of freshman year, and could definitely put your tips to use. Thanks 👍🏼

[@SavouryWhale]

Thanks for this, I'm jumping back into school after some years off and this is exactly what I needed to outline the big things I didn't consider I'd need to prepare for

[@wolverineg89]

I definitely agree with balancing work and school, my freshman year I did so horribly I lost a critical scholarship but I also did bad socially, I was able to turn it around and get a full scholarship but I basically forsook any potential new relationships with people at the other 2 schools I went to after my first because I was so focused on getting the education. So I would definitely say take some time to get to know people and be social a lot of my trouble came from not doing that.

[@Darknight526]

Thank you for the video buddy. Really appreciated it!

[@rafaelnavarrete5217]

Just found your channel and I absolutely love it already. Keep up the good work!

[@nirupamasuresh3291]

love how he’s using his hand movements to emphasise points KEEP EM COMIN🫂

[@garrisonmcelwain19]

I just got into your channel, thanks for your mentorship and wisdom-from your average teenager.

[@kosh9019]

Thank you for the upload bro defo helped me

[@marie-eve822]

Damn you went to McGill love the Montreal reppppp

[@belcavendishny]

campus mental health resources don't "vary in quality" so much as "basically always suck" (at least in my experience)

[@appmania2180]

can you explain more / give examples?

[@apriluno7210]

@@appmania2180 not op but at my university (also in canada), the university says they are very supportive of mental health concerns but when it comes down to it and you require accommodation, it's extremely difficult to get and they aren't very considerate of extenuating circumstances. also, if you need a counsellor or therapist or medication from a doctor, wait times can be really long.

[@ems7623]

Sorry you had bad experiences but there are many colleges with good mental health resources. Try not to discourage people from seeking out help. For some, it's literally a life line.

[@FreyaBassam]

just started at uni in the uk- this video was super helpful so ty

[@soggysaggyseggy8115]

Just started college! This is helpful af, thank yuh ^_^

[@devonbotney2762]

Thanks for the advice. Just finished my first semester of college and have already had two mental health breakdowns where I had to rethink how I think and my experiences.

[@stadtbekanntertunichtgut]

Uni comes for me next summer and I start to get a littel nervous lately. I don't even move to another city but I don't know, I never liked big changes that much and a lot of things will change that is sure! Thanks to anyone who reads this. =)

[@nima7209]

Wooooah I'll hopefully be coming to mcgill this fall!

[@karun_vv7190]

I am going to college tomorrow after covid, thanks for it.

[@chimpsimp9879]

currently applying to college, this was perfectly timed :)

[@smilodon92]

Been always the one making and/or presenting the presentations. Most of the times the group contribute a little to the presentation assignment, but man, you still gotta do a lot of work reviewing their sent materials + fixing mistakes. Well, sometimes you'd feel that you took the short end of the stick, but it's actually very helpful in advancing your skillset and becoming better in the long run

[@dakota5569]

Watching this the day right before a midterm

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

Yassssss That John Basquiat Tshirt! Love!

[@haidiwu7968]

Test the limits of what you can do is really making me feel better about my questionable decision making abilities

[@yvette8415]

I'm moving to my dad's home country for university next year, and while I'm very excited, I'm absolutely terrified. I'm most scared of how I'll be alone for the first time in my life and really far from the country I grew up in (and maybe the fact that I don't speak the local language lmaoo). I know it'll probably end up a really memorable experience that I would otherwise never get & I just have to make the most out of it but my god I also got into university options outside of my dad's home country, but I'd feel guilty if I didn't go lol (mcgill being one of them woo). I just feel like I owe it to him to maybe get to know him better? I think I have attachment/abandonment issues with my dad but that's a convo for another day. ANyways yea!!!! super scared but super excited!! Also thinking of taking a gap year, but I can't tell if it's because I'm scared or I genuinely want to take a gap year. I'll also only be 17 for the first 4/5 months of uni and I feel like I'm too young to be making these decisions loll

[@6023barath]

It's always scary before we start but it gradually gets better! I was quite nervous and even terrified about my college life but it was better than I expected. I was only 17 too for nearly 7-8 months of my uni life, dont worry! Best of luck!!

[@meirfa]

dude, thanks a lot. im getting a physics bachelors, second year already and having a lot of troubles, your advice to "Embrace Flexibility" - made me realize i should just do somethings i haven't been doing but wanted to for a long time, because of doubt, fear, etc. thanks again and my grammar ain't that good either :p

[@CoolBen465]

I saw the basquiat shirt and i immediately knew you were in montreal, good to know that you shop at simons lmao

[@randomthings9393]

definitely this is not me having mid term exams the other day and watching this late at night

[@finn9000]

Bro I don't care I need to do my laundry rn stop distracting me

[@awppenheimer]

ok

[@sweettea735]

Come back when you’ve finished your laundry 😉

[@annaturquoise7114]

LMFAO

[@adrienneroy1705]

I just finished my first year at McGill and I think what helped me the most was that "work hard play hard" is in fact very real and it doesn't matter how studious you think you are, you still need to play hard -- and it doesn't make you a bad or lazy student for taking time to have fun. Don't just work hard to play hard, but play hard so you can work hard. The workload is so much more intense than high school and it is impossible to manage it if on top of the work itself, you're super miserable. I can't stress how important the balance is.

[@gailism]

I'm in my last year at UWaterloo and definitely cosign this advice.

[@veggiechip]

WOOOO THANK YOU FOR THIS

[@eric690]

This is the video I wish I had when I was in university

[@patientno1797]

i started my undergrad at mcgill in 2020. a few mental breakdowns, two program changes, and lots of failures later, ill be entering my fourth year in the fall. ill be at mcgill for six years for my degree but ive grown so much as a person. university is definitely not for everyone and i struggled through most of it but it's feeling more and more comfortable. thanks for a greatly reassuring video from a fellow mcgill student

[@chrisbulan]

ok handsome squidward, we see you.

[@edenrakuen]

As a fellow final year student, I approve!

[@Lemwell7]

As someone who’s been going to a smallish music conservatory in a big city for the past few years and was just last night getting texts from a friend at McGill who was freaking out about a paper dude tommorow this video just solidifies more and more that real college would not have been for me.

[@willcarmichie698]

One thing I absolutely can not stress enough is the value of living on your own, whether that is in a dorm or an apartment off campus. My freshman year I lived with a friend and really discovered a lot of who I am as a person outside of my comfort zone, which helped in overcoming some of my mental health issues in the years following. Living away from campus (and especially with my parents) has made it tough to make relationships in college. I really wish I chose to live in a dorm 4 years ago, but I was too worried and riddled with anxiety to do so. If you feel anxious or too socially awkward to live on your own and are tempted to commute, please take my advise and take the leap of faith. I promise you won't regret it.

[@nikibronson133]

It's a small part of hopefully a super long life and don't forget you can always go back and get a different degree, where you go especially for undergrad doesn't really matter because it's all the same degree is it central equivalent to a high school diploma now, and once you get out learning doesn't stop. You're always learning and because you live in the age of the internet where the world is at your fingertips you can really learn whatever you want. Take risks and go for whatever you want to go for a while you can. And it's okay if you don't know what you want to do because who really does at 18 or 22 And from personal experience, this is my final year in college. It's okay if you take longer than 4 years. Most people actually Take 5 years I'm pretty sure it's over 60 percent. at least in the United States. Practice safe sex and speak up if something happened to you. And please don't let your mental health deteriorate because that could be detrimental to your entire experience at College, your progress and your life in general. Whether it be the doctor or that be the mental health counseling

[@RocketDog797]

I'm a first year psychology student. This video made me feel a lot better

[@sheeti4467]

Hey you go to McGill, awesome. UWloo student here.

[@spacecadet8322]

they should put this in the orientation 😩

[@larryfitterman]

My freshman year started 3 months ago, we've been in lockdown since March of 2020, last time I saw my friends and basically how I ended high school, since Grade 12 was online as well and basically useless. Now in college I feel like absolute shit, no desire to work, don't give a damn about the reqs, stuck at home for god knows how long now. The only positives I guess is that at least I live with my family and still have the same friend group around me since high school (since no one could meet anyone knew anyways lol) I just hope 2nd year comes around already and I step foot in the campus again. Heres to better days.

[@spookyloreehx4009]

How would you describe your experience in McGill? I wanna move to Canada and hopefully start a Masters and PhD in McGill eventually. Im from South America, so everything education related will be fairly new to me.

[@Judah132]

Yes, I feel like lots of people share the same experience being stuck for 2 years in online courses. It's mental, but at least as a dual student you still gather experience at work (if you don't have to work form home office lmao). I usually don't watch these videos, but it kinda helped I guess. Greetings from Berlin.

[@ems7623]

This guy is the sexiest Canadian ever.

[@AG-bq2zd]

I really value this advice.

[@jlinkpro]

First time seeing a previous familiarized voice in person is always strange to me, but damn, turns out my favorite philosophy mumble boy is almost handsome enough to make me gay. I always pictured him as a dark brooding swarthy looking guy.

[@thomasjdk]

well that's how it starts 'almost' lol

[@__Hanasei__Levinus__]

in this day and age, being a closet gay purely for one's own amusement is nice... ahhh, if only people around over here won't stone me to death and/or shame cause I just find it fun to feel attracted to my same-sex... oh boy

[@jlinkpro]

1q

[@mozz6319]

Nice basquiat shirt:)

[@toxicyasuo2897]

This is awesome, mcgill is my top school school

[@kaylenboudreau1000]

i've been watching you for a while now and also study (and am from) montréal! i hope you are enjoying the city! surprising to hear mcgill is so "american", concordia does not have that feeling at all. also great video with a lot of great points. the flexibility and freedom is something ive found to be very nourishing for myself. bon études!

[@hansoyi6726]

Not going to Mcgill, and not from Canada either, but this was really good advice!

[@georgebushdid4202]

I am a freshman, this seems to be competant advice. Thanks Fren.

[@landonstokes7802]

I’m just terrified of going in without knowing anybody.

[@1999_reborn]

Oh shit a fellow Canadian. My brother went to McGill.

[@MrFishChamp]

great advice sir

[@theprimonemo]

yo my dad has the same light on his desk... nice. Good light Choice

[@torment808]

hey sisyphus, on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the hardest, how hard is mcgill to get into? say for a physics or maths degree...

[@lh6575]

Im In mcgill Statistics, mcgill posts their cutoffs each year. That’s all that matters for them, so if you have an average above the cutoff you should get in no problem

[@an3craft499]

you should test your boarders and try everything. holly damn, thats good advice

[@explanationmark_]

thankyou!!

[@saosintheyperch]

I can vouch for the social loafing that happens in assignment groups. I experienced a particular situation where one guy appointed himself as the group 'facilitator' (but this was really just a veil for being the self-appointed leader) and gave all of us specific tasks to do for a presesntation. I requested that we all catch up at the library at least one day per week. However he preferred that we all just do everything online via Google drive, which the group complied with. No one contacted me properly or helped me during the three weeks despite my efforts to communicate. Anyways, for the assignment, my task was to evaluate the literature on the possible aetiology of the disease we chose (neural tube defects). But! On the day of the presentation (literally one hour before the class) the 'facilitator' organised everyone to catch up and quickly go over our material together. I voiced how this is sooooo unproductive and pointless, but it seems that voicing dissent within a group dynamic is not very well received for the most part. In other words, a lot of people just want to go along with the group mentality and flow, which is not always good. In fact, this leaves room for assholes to take over... this 'facilitator' guy had a massive ego, or superiority complex, if you will. We hardly discussed the presentation in detail because (1) it was rushed, and (2) he flirted with the girls and started bragging about how he doesn't do ANY readings but can still score high distinction's just by watching lectures (at 1.5x speed apparently) alone. Nonetheless, he turns around halfway through our meeting and mentions how he is discussing the aetiology of the disease. I was like WTF that was my given task and I worked my ass off on it! According to him it wasn't, and only one other group member stuck up for me. As a result, I was given the short straw and had to discuss one specific aetiological factor and had to try and spread it out and discuss it for over 6 minutes (I initially had a presentation on 4 factors and how they might interact, along with my interpretation of the greatest risk factor). Fair to say, I hardly had enough research material to discuss one facet in the length of detail required. Although I managed to fluff through the presentation (which ended up being 2 minutes haha), I pretty much died on that stage. The point of this story is that some people will shit on you but others will help. I was pessimistic about the situation, however the girl who stuck up for me said I should speak to the tutor about what happened, so I did. I showed him all of the work I had prepared and explained to him how there was a misunderstanding in the group outside of my control that stuffed up my presentention (I must admit though, I was VERY tempted to throw the 'facilitator' under the bus, but I didn't in fear of undesirable backlash). The tutor considered my point and gave me a high distinction. If it wasn't for that girl telling me to do so, I probably would have said nothing and failed (or got a bad mark). So my advice to anyone out there who may come across the same thing is: speak up! Even if your natural inclination is like mine to just take the bitter attitdue and not say anything. My attiitude was thus because I saw my inability to handle myslf in the group dynamic as a failing of my own abilities, hence I believed I deserved to get shat on. I guess this highlighted how I may have had a certain pre-conceived self-ideal (pride perhaps?) that was also getting in my own way. It was a lesson learned, and these days, although winning my point is still rare, I speak up a LOT more and look for those who actually listen (hint: they are usually, but not always, the quiet ones). I have learnt that as long as I have the solid work behind myself to support my stance, there will generally be someone who will listen (even if the group disagrees, steals your work, and makes you look like a fool). Sorry for the tangent, but if you read up to this point, then I'm guessing this story was at least interesting or helpful enough :)

[@jaidnnn]

thank you.

[@LonkinPork]

went to the University of Calgary. most people in the school are from that same city, so they try to keep their high school cliques intact. they usually fracture and splinter by second year though.

[@pj1016]

Does it include anything about how to tackle with sucidal thoughts I've been having for the past few months due to being a fucking disappointment and worthless guy for my parents and loved ones who invested a lot into a degree which I have no interest in but I want to make my mom proud which sadly I've never been able to(actually I've never made anyone proud). I don't want to continue this pathetic existence anymore just consuming my parent and grandparents hard earned money. Edit- Wow there are many amazing people trying to help in the comments, I love you all so much, you're all great people. I've drowned myself in self hatred(and for very good reasons, I deserve it) in these past few months. I can't explain my family situation here but it's very very hard and thanks for trying to help.

[@sandyburbach7101]

Apart from dying, what would you be doing if you could choose?

[@user-ie7ou5oj8f]

Try to go out and find things you enjoy. Live for yourself and don’t let your peers put you down whenever you try to finally come up. Try to help people anytime you get the opportunity, and balance that with your own passions. Find the person you want to become and practice being that person around people who you’re comfortable with. Channel your feelings into something like writing or music; use those things to find more goals and thus opportunities. That pain is temporary at the end of the day because life doesn’t stop for anyone. You need to find happiness in much smaller things so that way you get to feel joy more often. I’m sure you already do, but self reflect, and come to positive conclusions.

[@rheatanner4818]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I wish I had a better, more convincing way of saying it- but, here's the most straightforward advise I can give- Reach out. Let others know what's going on. Tell them what you're dealing with and know that, at the end of the day, your family will value your life infinitely more than your success. Please don't stay silent about this. I remember reading somewhere that we're a mosaic of all the people we've known and loved, and I'd say the reverse holds true just as well. Your life is part of many other peoples lives, it has a place in their mosaics. To destroy it is to damage theirs's as well. Your existence makes a difference. Here I am writing all of this, because it has made a difference to me

[@idontgetlaidbut]

Damn bro...

[@zuzannamarczewska1894]

The only person who you should make proud is yourself, remember that. Please try to get proffesional help. The fact that you're still here means that you're stronger than you think.

[@morrisw4284]

nice Basquiat shirt

[@zramsey11]

Not exactly succinct but certainly genuine and I appreciate that

[@Sarahstearsdandelionseeds]

you give good advice

[@powfoot4946]

I would definitely suggest joining a club or sport. You end up meeting so many people so often. Theres a sort of high school hierarchy which sucks but for the most, i try to avoid people who take that stuff seriously.

[@marklegend2566]

Oh cool, I'm just starting as a freshman at mcgill now

[@MrRealeyesrealize]

I’m finishing my degree this semester but this is a cool listen lmao

[@rafaeltesema4896]

This video is great for me. Due to covid I had trouble finding a college course I wanted to go to back home so I moved to the Netherlands just to recieve my education and being in a foreign country I didn't know where to start. This video puts all the feelings I felt into words. I'm 3 months in already and I'm going strong tho only one failed course so far:/

[@weezypeezy1725]

I assume going to school in another country is more expensive. How hard was it to make that move?

[@rafaeltesema4896]

@@weezypeezy1725 Oh it was actually cheaper for me in the end cus netherlands has a lot of support for students from other countries especially in covid. My tuition was only 500 euro and my rent is 400 a month for a decently big studio room and I claimed a loan here for 800 euro a month. The only hard part is leaving behind my life back home.

[@LarzR]

Thank you for this! I've been struggling and feeling like I let myself down from the expectations of college that ruined all the opportunities or moments I've had. I feel distant from my friend group and it's like I'm stuck. I know I'm not but I just can't seem to build up the courage to leave my friend group, since I know I'll struggle to find other friends. Any advice? I'm a freshman at ASU (Arizona State University) it's not that much of a party school anymore.

[@asdffghjkhgfdsa]

I'm just like you when I'm a freshman, in the "friends" group but feel distance, and now in third year I'm hanging out with totally different people, but not like highschool, everyone have their schedule, so you will still have a lot of time being alone, at least it's what I feel like.

[@nataliad4378]

In my country there is this college entrance exam, you use it to get into most public universities and some private ones. The exam is in a week, so I'm in this weird place where I keep watching these videos but I don't even know if I will get in. I mean I hope I do, been studying like crazy.

[@rashmipai9523]

Good luck! Preparing for a similar exam in 6 months

[@nataliad4378]

@@rashmipai9523 thank you! Wish you all the best as well

[@s.a.l.1974]

I'm a Canadian student and I just started applying to university

[@naive_person472]

john fish x sisyphus 55 are the canadian university students i look up to

[@NamelessvonIrgendwo]

I hope chuck teached you about Magna carta at mcgill school. Wouldnt want you to do any chicanaries

[@digitaldina]

Crazy just found out you’re Canadian

[@km-sc4kz]

jeez man your biceps. sheesh.

[@pyral514]

You live in Montreal? The same city as I live in? DAMN.

[@colestevenosky7207]

I'm at a pretty rural university in America that's really good academically, but I do feel like I'm in a bubble because freshmen aren't allowed to have their cars here and the town is really small. I've been feeling really lonely lately because I haven't really found my group yet. I'm the president of the German club already and I'm involved in the orchestra, but I just don't have any real connections. We're a pretty big party school too, but frats don't let me in because I'm a man. Does anyone have advice on how I can find some true friends?

[@meryem-sh7wg]

forming real connections take time, u got this

[@cine4551]

Motivational shit.

[@noahhradek5426]

My two regrets in college. Not socializing enough, in engineering you focus a lot on your studies because you need to work a lot. Also that I didn't help out as much as I could have. I feel like I should have done more. College is mostly about connections, you're paying to meet people in your field. I'm glad I didn't have to work through college most college jobs are useless anyways. They don't help society in any way. I feel like i should volunteer more.