Coming Out Gay | Pastor's Son

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[@davidvalenta9394]

sound kept cutting out at various points on this (?) while video kept playing. anyone else have that prob? -on a good connection on CPU, not phone on wifi or anything.

[@rdr319]

Yes, Eavid Valenta. Quite a few lapses, some of them too long.

[@danielxmiller]

Hey guys!! I'm sorry about the audio, several years ago I tried "fixing" the audio to remove music and it deleted parts of the video. These were done with old KZbin editors that are no longer available today, and they won't let me restore the original file either. I have since then redone the entire video if you would like to watch it here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eWfPan1pjN9kd80

[@davidvalenta9394]

@@danielxmiller thank you so much! Merely asking/ not criticizing; Thank you for accommodating!

[@rdr319]

@@danielxmiller Thanks. Glad to hear you're doing well and being conscientious.

[@michaelmoore2991]

Yes the sound was cutting out.

[@48acar19]

How horrible is to be a Christian preaching against homosexuality while being a serial divorcer!

[@superdougie10]

48acar19, And Serial Marrier.

[@chillbrutha82]

Seriously, if you were any sweeter or adorable, I would have diabetes. I could stare into those eyes all day.

[@annecholley5352]

chillbrutha82 as

[@erichickman1365]

I'm a 45 year old divorced father of 1 son who is a loyal follower/subscriber/viewer of your page. As you are well aware of by now, your video's are very educational and entertaining to everyone who views. Please keep up the good work and do not give up on the video's. Your hard work has is enjoyed by many. I am now a loyal follower/subscriber/viewer of your page thanks to my son and his friends. When my wife and I divorced, my son chose to live with me so that he could stay at the same high school. After graduation he chose to join the Marines for some reason - WHY??? - I found out why a year later. One day while we were eating dinner he nervously told me that he was gay and loved me very much. He told me that he has known for awhile about this feelings and was afraid to tell me. Didn't want to hurt me. He said that he he had joined the Marines so I would be proud of him. He thought it would make it easier on me when found out that he was gay. I really did not even suspect nor did I care but was glad he told me. TOLD HIM THAT I LOVED HIM AND JUST WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY HIMSELF AND LIFE. We now talk more than ever about what is happening in life, even about who he is seeing. RECENT QUICK STORY ABOUT MY SON, From time to time my home becomes a crash pad for my Marine son and his friends on leave from base. The latest 4 day leave my son had was a lot different from all others I've witnessed. My son invited 15 of his Marine buddies over for their 4 day Labor Day weekend leave. I found out the whole group of guys were in various stages of lets say "finding themselves" surprised me. Their leave developed into a 4 day marathon session of viewing KZbin coming out videos. PLUS they also viewed every episode of a Portuguese Soap Opera about Paulo & Miguel. They were really hooked on all the story lines. I have to look up the soap opera soon. Only time they ever left the house was to play in the pool. Each guy purchased a case of beer for the weekend and planned on doing nothing but to relax for 4 days. Sad to say that all the beer was gone the first night. I made 7 trips for beer & food during their stay. Also had to turn into a maid for them (someone had to collect 100's of beer bottles) I WAS HAPPY TO DO SO. The biggest surprise came for me the last day when they were leaving to go back to base. Each one gave me a hug and thanked me for being so understanding of them. I proudly hugged them back. Told them that "I was very proud them all and glad I got to know each one of them". Seeing them all walking to their cars joking, laughing and smiling with each other made me tear up. The best Labor Day weekend I ever had. THANK YOU Daniel, I found out your videos were viewed by all the guys during their stay. Your video's made 16 Marines very happy over their past Labor Day leave. A QUICK NOTE FROM ME TO OTHERS, Knowing my son is gay, BUT OUT TO Me and few others has me very very concerned for his safety at times. He has started to see another Marine which makes me very happy for him. Hard for them to go out on dates. Asked my son him if I could meet him and I did on one of their leave. Nice guy by the way! I love my son so much; don't ever want to loose him or his friends to senseless violence. Make peace with your self, then with others. Thanks, ERIC

[@danielxmiller]

+Eric Hickman Thank you so much for this comment, Eric! Tell all of the marine's that I'm so glad that I could help or make this difficult time in their lives a little bit easier. You have a son to be very proud of, and one who is going to be a great leader to help the other's find their way as well. I'm not sure where you live, but living in the areas I have lived in have been very accommodating for me, so perhaps living in a larger city might help. Thanks again for being awesome, I greatly appreciate your message.

[@annecholley5352]

Eric Hickman soos

[@zrp8y23]

What a better world this would be if all fathers, and parents, were the wonderful person you are. Your son is so lucky to have you for his father. Congratulations on being the father every parent should be.

[@keithnewton8981]

His real mother acted like a proper mother loving and supportive, and I am happy that she behaved this way.

[@noralally6449]

Keith Newton oh yes um yeah because proper parents should always support their do child's decisions even if it's self destructive self harming

[@pippasalmon4613]

Rr Anonymous being gay IS NOT self destructive or harming its being who you want to be

[@MrChristerj]

@@noralally6449 it is not a choice so supporting your kids for who they are is the correct thing to do. Parents hating their kids for being gay is like hating your kids for having blue eyes. The kids are who they are due to the parents do not accepting them is unfair and evil.

[@zrp8y23]

@@noralally6449 What's self destructive "and" self harming is living a lie and not being who you truly are. Your homophobia is displayed nicely with your comment.

[@aundreahepearnthisstripes6865]

I don't get it if you're dad is SO RELIGIOUS why did he get a divorce.... I know it's because he's not happy with the women and he said that being gay is disgusting excuse me pastor.... You getting divorce multiple times is disgusting..... So please think.... Before you call someone disgusting. GOD BLESS YOUR WIVES PASTOR

[@danielxmiller]

I agree!!! Hahaha. I thought the same thing lol. Although most of the wives divorced him. Haha

[@noralally6449]

Jherome Slays god u sound like a dumbass

[@mariananevesl1023]

I was thinking the same throughout the video!!!

[@MrChristerj]

@@thetitanarmy7789 because if you judge others maybe you should not be full of flaws yourself. Judge and you will be judged.

[@juansierralonche9864]

@@thetitanarmy7789 Great spelling and use of punctuation there. Or should I say their?

[@juliaskagfjord6207]

I am hetero, however I think many people can relate to what it is to feel oppressed, or not fully supported in being who they are. This world is a better place with people being exactly who they are and following their passions and dreams. Thank you Daniel for sharing your stories with bravery and eloquence. Inspiring!

[@danielxmiller]

+Julia Skagfjord Thank you Julia. I appreciate your kind words, much love

[@ElCactus7567]

Damn, those blue eyes though...

[@buffrogers6650]

@Michael John Dennis You don't have to be 20 years younger. Date him anyway. ;)

[@udocostantini9704]

I know. Okay, so I am totally superficial, but I have to say I think this dude is damn fine.

[@itbarthur4u]

As one preachers kid to another, thank God you had a reliable friend who had parents willing to give you a safe place to stay. This is one of the most important things to have lined up before coming out to conservative parents who might have a strong negative reaction when you come out. Some parents will even kick you out whether you have a safe place to go or not. But things are much better now than they were when I was coming out to myself in the '70s. I didn't dare come out to my parents because back then it was almost certain I would have either been kicked out or sent to Conversion/Reparitive Therapy. I tried for 10 years to become straight because I thought God required it. I went the "pray away the gay" route and discovered that does not work either. I tried dating women. At that time I was using the serenity prayer every day. For three years in a row the women I was dating invited me to meet their family over Thanksgiving Dinner. That's how well I was faking it. Every time when I met the girls families at Thanksgiving Dinner I ended up falling for their brothers . I felt an instant connection with the brothers even though I had little in common with them. God was answering my prayers by rubbing my nose in it. After meeting the brothers I could not get them out of my head. Not even when I was in bed with the "girlfriend'. This was not fair to the women so I had to stop seeing them. No, I did not try to date the brothers. Once I started dating men it became easier to be monogamous.

[@larissamack7704]

Your voice is so soothing. I could listen all day. this is so amazing and I'm glad your completely in touch with yourself. ❤❤❤

[@saucy1233]

This video was not long at all, I was so inspired by you and touched in my heart. Thanks for the feel good story. We need more of them, and told with such sincerity the way you did. Thanks

[@danielxmiller]

That was sooo sweet of you. Thank you very much.

[@leedaniels617]

+Maritza This video was awesome,I agree with what you said here : ))

[@deanomarshall2926]

What GORGEOUS blue eyes you have!!! Just WOW!!!!

[@zaneseahorn6877]

It was really hard to focus on what you were saying because I kept staring at your eyes.

[@k3grappler]

Great that you came out so early in life. I am 76 and regretfully didn't come out until my 30's. Of course, it was a different planet in those days. The world was extremely conservative on these matters when I was your age. But I have come to know the truth that we cannot live our lives in order to make people happy who want us to be straight. We must live our lives for our own happiness by not denying our true nature, but by embracing it.

[@ElectricSpokes]

I had a similar experience. Parents and family were/are religious. When it was discovered I was gay, I was kicked out of my church and home. I was 16. I took odd jobs, made ends meet the best I could and despite being gay, I still generally followed everything I was taught in church. Be good. Help others. Be honest. Etc. it took a while but I was able to go from homeless to my own place to graduating with a masters degree over the course of years of hard work. I still miss my family and, unfortunately, my parents passed away before I could... work on, or at least try, to mend fences. I’m glad I’m not alone, I know that’s horrible anyone goes through this but when this all happened, nothing ever made me feel as lonely as I did. Finding comfort in others helps. You have beautiful eyes btw. Thank you for sharing. Really hard to do but so meaningful.

[@carcrazynik]

Thank you for making this video. your story is a lot like how mine went. I'm 25 now and I actually came out when I was 15. but my father was religious. when I came out to him, he ended up kicking me out of the house because he was so disgusted. about 2 days later, he had me move back in, but it was another 2 weeks or so before he could even look at me, let alone talk to me. but now here we are 10 years later, and my dad is one of my best friends and he's finally as accepting as he can be. he still doesn't agree with my life and my boyfriend's in the past, but he understands that it is a part of me that's never going away and he has no choice than to get used to it. I love him and I'm proud of how far he has come in acceptance.

[@TheCelloman7]

Loved the video. Even when there's tons of other similar videos, each one has its own personal uniqueness to it. Hopefully one day coming out will be like announcing your favorite color.

[@taylorjackson5476]

I don't know if you'll read this, but I live in N. Manchester, IN. Small town w/ about 7k people. Im a senior and I came out a few months ago. You have no idea how much I relate to you about this state. My goal is to move to California to get away from here. It just makes me happy that people from here can really leave and be happy.

[@CH-tj2ru]

being closeted at 14, I appreciate this video so so much. thank you for making it because it's really helpful. I've told some friends and they support me. I hope my parents support me as well. hopefully my mom is like yours :) once again, thank you so much.

[@bernardmarigny8785]

My father is preacher and at 17 i told him and my mother that I though I was gay and they shipped me off to live with a Christian therapist which didn't help and a complete waste of time. Turns out I'm actually bi but regardless I felt like I was being deprogrammed. Good times. -.-

[@nikvee6330]

Bernard Marigny omg sooo relatable. Being confused i came out as gay to my mother, she didn't accept it. Now i am proud to identify as bisexual!

[@JackChurchill712]

Whoever wins your heart will be one very lucky guy. Having only seen you on the UNDERWEAR EXPERT, I had a totally different opinion of you. I thought you were out your whole life. This video really humanized you. You've gone through all struggles we all have. Thanks Daniel .You're a sweetheart.

[@michaelsterling6084]

I feel so sorry about how his parents reacted. How stressful that must have been. I'm glad his real mom was supporting and accepting. That's how all parents need to be. Do you love your kid? The answer is unequivocally YES.

[@larkatmic]

You are the man! Thanks so much for sharing your story. It does get better. I'm so happy for you.

[@danielxmiller]

larkatmic Thank you so much, I appreciate your kind words :)

[@Soundofsilence-j4d]

@@danielxmiller WHAT YOUR. NOT TOLD AND THIS VIDEO IS TEN YEARS OLD. YOU FOUND OUT CAUSE REASON IS BEFORE YOU ENTERED YOUR ABERTWA. YOU FROM FOURTH DEMINSION YOU DECIDED TO GIVE GOD EXPERIENCE OF LOVE. IN DIFFICULT LIFE PLAN. YOUR PLAN WAS BEING DIFFERNT. YOU WERE TOLD YOU ENTER WORLD. OF PEOPLE NOT LIKE YOU. THE DIRECTORS OF LIFE ALLOW CAUSE GOD WANTS TO LEARN IN ALL LIVEN THINGS TO BE EXCEPTED. RELIGON IS. DIVIDE AND CONQUER. SO YOUR THEIA WAS FEMALE AND DIRECTORS OF LIFE PUT THAT IN MALE BABY. AS TIME GOS ON YOUR ORAS ATRACTED TO MALE. YOU ARE TO LEARN EXCEPT YOUR SELF. BUT ITS NOT ALL WHO YOU ARE. ITS EXPERIENCE. NOT WHO YOU ARE. YOUR GOD AND ONLY REAL THING IN ILLUSION. YOUR PARENTS NEED TO EXCEPT TO LEARN LOVE. AND YOU EXCEPT WHO YOU ARE. BUT YOU CAN NOT BE FULLED BY BAD WAYS . GOD WANTS EXPERIENCE BUT ONCE YOU TO LEARN NOT DO WHAT CABOL GIVES LGBQ. DONT LIVE FOR THERE SCENE. EVERY ONE IS CORUPT. GO BY LIGHT VIBE. STAY KEEP BODY CLEAN. DONT EXCEPT LOW VIBRATION OF LIFE STYLE. YOU GOT TO FIND PERSON WHO IS NOT ZIATON. TAKE CARE. STAY SAFE. HURT NO ONE STAY OFF VACCINES. TAKE NANA SOMA. THERE THOSE NO EMOTION IN EFFECT ANY ONE. THERE SUB HUMAN. SO YOU ARE IN DIFFICULT LIFE PLAN. BUT YOUR LIFE IS NOT SINN. YOU ARE NOT ON BENDIN KNEE. THOSE MAKE CHURCH ALLSO MAKE SINNS. SAME GROUP. BE YOUR OWN GOD. LV D

[@dollyknockers]

Coming out is probably one of the most frightening things we have to do in order to feel free to be who we truly are. My experience was so different. I expected the worst. Yes there were a few tears, a lot of questions and a few awkward silences, but the following week my parents were ready to meet my boyfriend and that Christmas we were both invited to spend the holiday with them. There is no right or wrong way, or right or wrong time to come out, but I agree with you about two key points. 1. Have a supportive friend/friends and 2. It really does get better. Twenty four years later we are still together and our relationship is stronger than ever. Although my parents are no longer alive, I am so proud of the way they accepted my being gay and so proud of how they accepted my partner into the family. Our parents even became friends and would invite each other to family events. So if you are still waiting to come out, just know, IT DOES GET BETTER.

[@braddpatton3595]

This was the best video I've seen yet on encouraging gay teens. You were relatable, spoke with a true and kind voice, and ultimately made one feel that when things get rough, they always, with time, improve. As the son of an angry pastor father myself, this video would have changed my life when I was a sophomore in high school in 1988. Thank you for posting this. Well done!

[@edwinsaw724]

Thanks for this video. It touched my heart. My parents are both homophobic but I'm gay. I didn't know I was gay until I was 14, which was this year. I had this crush from school. He was super cute. In class, I always make eye contact with him. And one day, I told one of my best friend that I was gay. She's ok with it. And after that day, we always text each other about our crushes because we both like guys. And I even confessed to my crush, and he said that he was ok with it. From that day onwards, we became very close. But one day, my parents checked my phone...... And they saw the conversation with my best friend. They started talking about this "issue", because to them, being gay is wrong. They even wanted me to change. After I told my friend about this, she was so shocked that she wanted to talk to my parents face to face, but I stopped her. Even after this incident, we still talk about our crushes. But again, my parents went to check my phone again. I was so dumb that I let my parents know my phone password. My parents were so disappointed they wanted me to change school so I won't be gay. And they even don't allow me to hang out with friends. That day onwards, I was so disappointed that I almost cut myself but my friend stopped me. Can you guys give me some advice, because I really need it. 😭

[@johnrobinson6809]

Daniel thanks so much for your video. If I had had supportive friends, family and a home to call my home at your age. But I didn't, parents divorced at 2yrs old. Dad an alcoholic, mom an unfit mother. I drifted from my grandparents, to foster parents. To an aunt and uncle in Michigan, then to a children's home near Indianapolis. Back and forth with my mom and sister. To have been abandoned at 4yrs old then on and off during my child hood. But then I met my soul mate, whom I have had several years now. I feel blessed. I found LOVE! PEACE!! And hugs to everyone! xxxx

[@billstrong4814]

Daniel - I'm 68, a retired teacher. Today some high schools have far better support but it's still amazing how many kids come out and find religious or other condemnation from their parents. I sponsored a GSA and many members couldn't have their names on any lists, be seen coming to my classroom, etc. When I was a teenager I didn't even know the word gay - and thought I must be the only one in the world. Even through college at a huge university I knew only a handful of out guys and thought they were strange and scary - they were the few who couldn't hide in any closet. I'm glad you made it out and that your life seems to be on track. What's with a fundamentalist preacher dad who condemns his gay son (Jesus said nothing about gay) but is a serial monogamist w/ at least 3 divorces (Jesus had a lot to say about divorce). By the way, the blue eyes are stunning; keep the longer hair.

[@crossfire1605]

A really Great and Inspiring video Daniel! I've celebrated my 2nd year anniversary of coming out in September this year and I feel much better happier and myself than when i wasn't out. I've also learned that there is nothing better to be than your one true self! :-) Keep the videos coming and good luck in everything you do for the future :-)

[@danielxmiller]

Awe thank you so much Kevin! That means a lot to me :) glad you had a great experience as well!

[@crossfire1605]

danielxmiller Thanks Daniel! I consider myself very lucky to have such accepting and loving friends and family, they're my rocks! :-) I just know that your video will continue to inspire others and lighten and give hope in their hearts when they feel that there is none - I Hope we can chat some more some time for longer, on fb or on here if you want to? :-)

[@RexKristoffer]

It's been so long since I worried about this type of religion that I forgot for some people it's a huge issue. Good video!

[@geoffreyfence9569]

Thank you so much for this video, I have a very similar story that I am still living and I'm going through a really tough time right now, of all the coming out videos that I've watched this is the one that has resonated with me the most and the only thing that keeps me going as my life is getting so painful is hope, hope from things like this. I can not thank you enough and I hope my family can be as accepting as your's was.

[@Danilingusness]

Viewing your video on break on my 4th twelve hour shift as a home health aide during a blizzard. I'm also a lesbian. I love my fellow LGBT members! You are brave to admit this story. You appear to be such a lovely adventurous spirit! You inspire me to become more outgoing and truly work on myself to be more open and less socially anxious. Thank you genuinely for making videos and sharing your authentic self. :)

[@dubon9999]

This why it is important that we Gay men have our own spaces to talk about affairs that affect us and connect with other Gay men; in the same way that straight men and women have their own spaces, and straight men and women must respect Gay spaces and respect our differences 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[@tyreece60]

Subscribed. Watching this, is really touching. (For me) I came out a few months ago, to my parents. I started to feel like I was gay halfway through grade 7, and here I am, grade 8, going into grade 9 this year. And from the beginning of the school year I told a few of my friends. Kept it between them, here I am now, my parents and friends know. They're accepting me for who I am. and watching this, makes me feel like I shouldn't give up. Love it!

[@SkollicsPlace]

Aw, good for you c:

[@danielxmiller]

John Martinz that's so awesome man! Everything gets so much easier over time :) let me know how things go!

[@richardgeorge9569]

I grew up in Indiana too. I too am sooooo happy to be out of that state. Glad that you have finally found happiness and your father and step mother realize what a gift it is to have a great son like you.

[@snowblind9495]

Pretty dam good video Dan. Everyone is God's children, you can't change how you were made. I would have been proud to have such an articulate, pensive, reflective, honest and charming man like you as a son. I know you will be inspiration to other young people in a similar situation. May you be blessed in your life Dan.

[@richardbair3531]

I grew up 30 miles northwest of Ft Wayne, and came out at 22 year's old after leaving home. Both events were the best things I ever did for my self. Just wanted to say ' Congrats' to somewhat of a neighbor. Richard

[@jacobmullens374]

My dad is a pastor....It's super complicated and every time I go to tell them I can't say it because they already told me if I was gay that I was NO longer apart of the family and crying almost every night is killing me!

[@matthewbaca417]

I feel so bad or you. Hang in there. I love you. It might be safer to wait until your an adult to tell your family. I don't want you to end up homeless! It sounds cliché, but it wel get better! PLEASE, if you need help, someun to talk to, advice etc email me. [e-mail]

[@sotarmurrechimneysweep3007]

Choose your own family....that shit about blood lines isnt real... The bible and any other holy book sucks donkey ass.....

[@dubon9999]

When Gay men empower themselves and unite to each other, they can achieve great and awesome things ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠🌠

[@justme07111]

Wow, this has got to be my absolute favorite video of yours (right behind the underwear dance). You are truly a wonderful person and inspiration to everyone. In fact, I'm pretty sure this video may actually save someone's life who is struggling with similar issues. Love you bunches! Keep these great videos coming!

[@danielxmiller]

aweee thank youuu. So glad you liked it! And so glad you have faith in what I create, and hope that it really can help someone out there who may need help! Love you too :)

[@williamturner1735]

Thanks Dan for sharing this...it makes all so much better and easier. Proud of you for having the courage for coming out to your parents and family; it will be better for you in the long run because you did live as yourself always.

[@dylankruf7117]

I just have to say, your eyes are so amazingly blue. They're so piercing and clear. Other than that, this video really helped me feel better about myself. i love the relaxing welcoming feel about you

[@danielxmiller]

Thanks buddy :) hope you have a wonderful day!

[@raisinhead2]

Priteena Sra You pack a lot of crazy into one message.

[@dylankruf7117]

Priteena Sra please..... shut the fuck up. Your comments are an eyesore. Nobody should have to repent for being who they are

[@Thursdayization]

Daniel, I love your coming out story. You are so empowering

[@federicopotenza8441]

You've just EARNED my Full Respect! You've been so brave Daniel , and TRUST ME if I say to you, you have been such an inspiration for me ..I do thank you from the deepest of my heart ❤️! Big hugs from a common follower from Italy 🇮🇹 🌸🍃

[@Iwasshocked]

So your religious father divorced, remarried (wife #2), divorced and remarried (wife#3) divorced and remarried back to wife #2 So he has been married 4 times ? Just want to check I understood it right.

[@rickusom1]

This video is sort of unlike many other ones, not that the other ones hold less weight. This one seems more applicable to relatively conservative families. In any case, it just goes to show that it really does gets better. Thanks for the video, it gives me hope.

[@timothyb949]

I'm with you bro! I'm a preacher's kid myself, and all is good!

[@danielwilda8167]

So happy to you that you’re now Free from all the bigotry. Your story will help other young Men 💙💪👍💜⭐️🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸❤️🌈

[@jphilly08]

I come from a religious background also, I just want to give you the biggest hug! I'm from GA and Lexington, IN. Amazing story! :)

[@PriestmanCub]

So glad that your life with your parents has improved and got easier for you. Like the video, it took some courage to give so much detail of your life. Lots of love to YOU Daniel from John in the UK.

[@erikrwilson]

Your story was very captivating. It was tender, emotional, and sweet. I'm sure many relate to the struggle u went thru. It was quite heart touching. I loved listening to ur story and feeling like I got to know u better. Erik

[@danielxmiller]

Erik Wilson that was super sweet of you :)

[@danielhodson5489]

Love your eye color. I was prepared to commit suicide when I came out. I knew at 8 but it took 2 attempts to come out to family at 27. I initially came out to my friend (once you're out, you're out). I was 10 minutes from home after dropping him off and I got a phone call after coming out to him. He said it was ok and his now wife guessed it because it didn't work out with a female friend set me up with. It took 2 attempts and 2 bottles of wine to come out to family. It didn't go well with my mom and we didn't talk for months. Now I'm her caregiver and I don't know if acceptance is genuine. All others are accepting. If you met me, you wouldn't suspect that I'm gay.

[@timfranklin937]

I was so able to relate. I wasn't a pastors son, but my parents were very into church so being gay wasn't an option. Also came from a small town(1,000) and would have been beaten up had it come out that I was gay. I am 69 and just came out to my siblings 3 years ago. Parents are gone but the other children were okay with it. Still not out to a lot of people even now. On a light note, Daniel, I almost didn't recognize you with a shirt on.

[@RonaldChristy]

those blue eyes...

[@Trey38785]

Dearest Daniel, I am so sorry for everything you have been through. I can't believe after everything that's happened you are still so sweet. I wish I could hug you, love you very much, me.

[@thomasbost7928]

I was in Indiana and knew I was gay since twelve. I did not come out until I graduated university because I wanted someone to love me not just use me. More than twelve guys propositioned me during my four years at college. I told my parents who are fundamentalists I was gay. My dad had always told me I was the devil's child since age five, so he told me this proved he was right. My dad does not speak to me. Mother died sometime later but was more accepting. I had a ten year relationship with a doctor until he was caught stealing drugs from the hospital and lost his medical license. I left the relationship after he entered rehab for a third time and returned to drugs. I knew there was not future for us.

[@dab7963]

Religious dad. My sympathies. Always makes it difficult. You are so cute and adorable and I hope you stay happy healthy and happy. Don't let your Dad make you feel bad if he does not accept you. Clearly he is the one that could use some professional counseling. You will meet your Prince Charming and while we like to seek our parents approval it's not as important as you think. He is passing judgement on you but he has been married 3 or was it 4 times (think about that). You are very smart and you are clearly a survivor. Always seek to make yourself happy and as you get older you will learn that if people don't accept you they don't deserve a place in your life no matter who they are. Stay happy and positive and push away the negative ones in your life. Being gay is not a choice you were born gay. It's like the color of your eyes it just a fact.

[@CatchTh3Wind]

My story isn't the same as yours, but I thank you for telling it.It gives me more strength and peace in accepting myself and warms my spirit. Thank you again, its beautiful to see how peaceful you are when talking about being yourself.

[@danielxmiller]

awe thank you so much, I really appreciate your comment, means a lot to me!

[@russellhancock9765]

I am 52 years old. My Parents know, and even now, My Mom still doesn't approve of it. I have always loved and respected My Mom and it really hurts that She can't be Happy for the person who I have become. I live in a building behind My Parent's House now, but I am not allowed to let a Guy live here with Me. I really don't think it is fair, but I respect their decision, and I have My own camper trailer and I am planning on moving in soon, so I can be Myself.

[@koffz-nl2118]

Please, never take a tan Your skin is fabulously beautiful!

[@malin6755]

Thx for your encouraging words

[@JoeyCaster]

Wow. That was a Powerful yet candid video Daniel. The way you delivered your story was in a way a friend would convey it to a another friend. Enjoyed it immensely! Keep up the great work Bro!

[@danielxmiller]

Thank you so much, Joey! I really appreciate what you wrote, it definitely was my most difficult video to make, and I spent a lot of time on it. If you know anyone who might be struggling with this show them my video, it's my hope that it can deliver inspiration and hope to anyone that might be having a difficult time with it like I did.

[@Dzakku]

Thank you for having the courage to tell your story. I'm glad that you came out of it strong and that you were able to mend wounded relations with your family.

[@jph0917]

I'm Sorry all this happened to you, but happy you survived. BTW, you have beautiful royal blue eyes. Never seen anyone with such crystal clear eyes like that. 😊 God bless you 🙏.

[@cheycheywilliams7767]

Im surely struggling but I'll come around...I'm out parents and family knows but I'm not expressing it the way I would love to.do to other personal things n my life.I just can't wait to b fully free n happy.but I must b so I will.when the time is good for me.its things I'm trying not to share tho I have to say something.that's y I'm here.glad to b apart of your channel 🙌🏼👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@parryglasspool4415]

Coming out is extremely hard I felt this feeling about a year ago. My parents still don't accept me. Maybe it requires long time. So thank you for sharing your experience with everyone. I believe that you are happy.

[@juanvelez8564]

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[@randallross822]

James Dean was gay and from Indiana too! You're in good company.

[@Sleepinghobbit]

I found this video randomly (avoiding Teen Mom on TV). What a great a story! To be honest I wasn't sure if I wanted to sit through all 24 mins, however I was hoping for that happy ending. Glad things worked out, Cheerio ole bean.

[@michaelmichaelfordloverman8332]

I'm proud of his mother for being supportive and loving I'm gay and dont like religion period I love myself and that's all that matters and i love this guy

[@medina996]

THANKS FOR BE STRONG . ITS NOT EASY TO BE A SON OF A PASTOR AND BE GAY. I WAS A PASTOR AND I DISCOVER MY FELLINGS FOR A MEN, AND I LEAVE THE CHURCH , IT WAS VERY SAD FOR ME I CRIED MANY DAYS TO DISCOVER WHO I WAS I STILL LOVE MY GOD I STILL IN CONTACT WITH MY CRISTIAN FRIENDS NOW I AM MARRIED TO A MAN . GOD BLESS YOU .

[@earthworm4255]

Your dad sounds like a piece of work. You be you. You're lovely.

[@brentcoates935]

Wow! Not the longest story, but you did have a lot to cover. you did a good job. I hope telling this helped you. Isn't it nice to have that one friend know so you can be yourself. Girls are always looking for someone to talk about guys with. I almost cried when you said you could not go to Fort Wayne - it would have been so good for you. your family was no help, but you had some good friends. I am so glad to hear your real mom supported you. you handled a lot on your own very well. I am happy for you that things worked out with your family. this is a phenominal video.

[@sherijacobson3645]

Daniel- i am so glad i watched this. Also am happy your dad changed his thinking, and when you talked about your mom- before you said it, i knew exactly what she would say to you- and i was right! She is one special lady! I wish you the best- glad all worked out! The key to happiness is always being true to yourself!

[@joanmh5241]

I loved what I heard of your video, just the audio kept cutting out through the last half. It's great that you were able to know who you are at such a young age. Congrats for being true to you.

[@benjaminmarker]

Thank you for sharing. Being gay and the son of a pastor, I can relate. I don't have any contact with my parents, but instead have the best friend who I call family.

[@froggydoes7092]

Your father said that you were going to hell? According to Matthew 19 verses 8 and 9 he was committing adultery by getting divorced and remarried multiple times.

[@Chris-fe1kx]

Froggy Does the irony

[@cjvon]

YOUR EYES! OMG....!!!

[@danielxmiller]

Awe. Thank you :)) so sweet

[@MLeunHardingBurke]

Dude, actually enjoyed this. Well done bruh

[@tarotastrology]

I've subscribed thanks for sharing your story!

[@danielxmiller]

Gregory Scott thank you :)

[@troymartin4005]

Good video Daniel! Thanks for sharing your video and being so candid about your life. I came out summer of last year and the hardest part was coming out to myself. Recently subscribed to your videos and love your personality. I have come to realize that I should not care what anyone else thinks. You be you man!

[@ThomasakaDes]

Life is too short to be afraid of what others think of you. Sure it will suck if your parents will "hate" you for it. But you should live YOUR life and be yourself.

[@PrinzOtto]

Thank you Dan for sharing your experience of coming to awareness. I was about the same age as you when it clicked as an identity. I had affectional attraction to other boys in my school and neighborhood. One day, one Sunday I was reading the question section in the Sunday Parade magazine that come with the newspaper. One of the questions was if it was true that "Brian Epstein the manager of the Beatles was a homosexual" My dad had a big dictionary in his home office so I took the paper with me and looked up the word "homosexual" and it was like "THAT's IT!" I knew that there was a word for what I felt, for my attraction which meant to me others were feeling that too. I was in my 20's before I finally came out to my folks. That's another story for another time. Thank you Daniel so much for what you do and for the forum you give us. Thank you for being there. Even though I'm older I learn much from you and am much entertained. Keep on doing what you do here. Much love and thanks. You're awesome!!

[@TDPRODUCTIONS97]

I only realised that I was gay in year 10, I kind of knew before then but I kind of kept it buried because I didn't think I would be excepted by anyone. I came out to friends first and they were fine with it! I was so glad. Then I told my parents towards the end of the year 10 and they were fine, I don't know why I was worried and I wish I had came out a lot earlier. Btw, I found this video really inspirational. Thanks for making it :D

[@danielxmiller]

TDPRODUCTIONS97 Thank you so much! I'm glad you were able to come out to your friends and family with little issues :)

[@Cremanite]

Your a keeper Daniel. You are cute. You have soft features. Your have a lot to be proud of in your life. I am glad things got better for you after high school.

[@christopherdavidhewi]

You're such an amazing human, Daniel! What a great video about your story, you are so open and honest and so sweet and kind. I am so glad your parents accept you more now. I love your message of love at the end. There is always love in the world :). Thanks for being so awesome man!

[@danielxmiller]

thank you :))

[@danmakely9294]

Stay confident, you'll be fine. You do have people that care and do love you. Be patient with yourself. I pray you will be okay.

[@MrBooklover16]

Oh goshh...I'm 100% sure this video was made for me to see...I'm a sophomore in high school in a small town in Indiana too. I'm from a Christian family and Christian town. I just really came to terms with me accepting myself and told a few of my close friends today. I can't imagine telling my family, but I really want to. I just wanna be honest and open. And honestly I hope to be where you are someday; happy, a long long way from here, and open. I can't wait to get out of here and leave. Anyways, this video helped me a lot. I feel like you get it. So thanks for this video and keep it up.

[@danielxmiller]

awe dang, Indiana too?! Which part?? How did your friends take it? And remember you have a long life ahead of you, so if you feel it's not the right time to tell them, then wait. Although there is also a huge relief (at least when I did it) from telling them...so it could be helpful as well. And I know the feeling! I felt it! haha. Indiana is honestly no place for us, the weather is horrible, the people are closed-minded, and it's just not a very fun place to be unless you want to be a farmer. However I am still glad that I grew up in the state because being in a small town I think made me more well rounded than most people as well as being family oriented. Keep me updated on how it goes :)

[@MrBooklover16]

Thanks a ton man! And I'm from Nappanee in Elkhart county. And my friends at first threw bible verses at my face and said I needed help, but by the next day they all texted me and said they were okay with it and with me all the way. Still struggling how to balance me being gay and Christian and trying to explain it to these conservative hoes but hopefully it'll all fall into place one day. Anyways thanks for replying and love your vids!:)

[@jeylful]

Thanks for sharing your story. Mine was difficult too and took years too but finally it is Ok. You are doing a great job by posting this, hopefully every generation will be easier! :)

[@TheFashiongirl05]

as a girl i want to know why are gay guy so beautiful looking!?!?! WHY!?!?

[@theone9831]

It's absolutely insane to me how similar and relatable my story is to yours, except I. haven't come out, and sadly I'll never be able to😢😢😭😭😭

[@jameswynne6498]

Just subscribed to your channel. Love your story and keep sharing! Much love and support from Tennessee!!!

[@danielxmiller]

Thanks buddy!! :D

[@jimmydire8607]

Yes, I've had the problem with the sound too. The story was very compelling, that was very irritating to have it interrupted! This kids story is pretty interesting, he's got a good head on his shoulders, he'll do fine in life.

[@danielxmiller]

Thanks Jimmy! There is an updated version of this video if you click the link in the description 😊

[@szabados1980]

I know it's an older video but I haven't seen it yet. You're a great guy for sharing your story with us. Keep up the good work.

[@49612tyler]

My dad is a pastor so I can relate to you, it is hard being a PK but being gay and a PK is harder.

[@MichaelAndersxq28guy]

I really enjoyed hearing your story. However, the audio kept cutting in and out. In any case, good for you for becoming such a great person.

[@danielxmiller]

Sorry about that! This is an old video :(

[@JuanseColmenares]

+danielxmiller thank you so much for sharing your story. I just turned 21 in October and I am still not out of the closet. Unlike most people I don't put very much emphasis on friendships and my family is the MOST important thing to me in this world. My sole fear is that if I were to tell them the truth they would reject me. To be honest, I don't think I would be able to bounce back from that. However, it's videos like yours that keep my hope up for better days to come. Thank you again Daniel

[@michaelmoore2991]

You are so super intelligent and have a real future. I really admire you and wish you the best.

[@PoetGorman]

Awesome coming out story.....I think. The sound cut out at some key moments which made it hard to stay with it emotionsally. You really should re-record this if you want it to have the impact I suspect you hope for. Seriously, yours is a wonderful and heartfelt coming out story. It deserves a better telling.

[@lame-ohdame-oh6794]

“This was really the first party I’d been to besides the ones at our church which were retarted” 10:18 SCREECHING I’m dead af Lmao

[@JS-vy6lt]

So much of what he went through is like what I went through, except that I did not say anything to anyone until I was 33 years old. I was also a nerd in high school in the nineties and did not accept myself as homosexual until I was 33 years old and found that the worst people were "gay". I have gone into gay bars and clubs and felt like other gay guys did not accept me for who I was. I am 47 now and still looking for a man, maybe two men to share life with and be best friends in love and have each other's backs. I am starting to lose hope though.