Coming Out | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 10 | Season 1

After getting married and having a child, he realized that he is gay. For the sake of his happiness, he had to make a life-changing decision that turned his whole world around. Lindani Ndwandwa unpacks his coming out story.
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Host:
Relebogile Mabotja
Studio Guest: Lindani Ndwandwa
Production:
Executive Producers:
Kgothatso Legwale (KG)
Relebogile Mabotja
Content Producers:
Clive Moagi
Zoliswa King
Social Media / PA:
Obakeng Mogafe
Camera Crew:
Series Director:
Thabiso Mofokeng
Camera Operator:
Katleho Tsotetsi
Sound Operator:
Tumi Sekudu
Art Director:
David Arends
Set Dresser:
Edgar Moyo
Make-up Artists:
Merlene Williams
Lesego Tloubatla
Production Driver:
Masene Mogoai Worx
Office Assistant:
Phathisiwe Mkweli
Post Production:
Graphics:
Not A Sausage
Editors:
Pixel Culture
Post Production / DIT:
Tumelo Kgongwana

[@nobuntusibozo1044]

Being gay doesn't mean being a horrible person and this guy is a horrible person.

[@cleodontina1]

Exactly, he sounds so selfish and self centered!

[@tj7_sa]

❤️😂

[@kvngkruzhworld1514]

Very true. I parted with my ex wife so amicably and to this day we still frenz bcz I left with honour and still value her as the mother of my baby, my being gay doesn' stop me from co parenting not respecting my bay mama and my kids. It's sad that this guy thinks it's ok to say all that he said about his wife

[@NormaJileka]

I agree shame.. Yooo I feel for the kid whose dealing with the so called father who has to drag fatherhood out of him to be with him

[@neomalapane983]

This guy is so forward....This whole gay facade is just go phapha nje🙄

[@tsokho_tube]

People should find themselves before marrying someone’s child otherwise you will hurt many people to avoid those pains!

[@lebogangpetlele8998]

Hurt people, hurt people.

[@mohalecandy5878]

Strongly agree the wife now beArs the shame

[@zimkhitha.h]

Honestly

[@tsokho_tube]

@@zimkhitha.h yah

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

@@mohalecandy5878 Not necessarily. Why does she bare the the shame. She can actually rise above this. She can happily move on and find her true love. There A LOT of people not living their truths.

[@AllThingsLindo]

Frustrating how Somizi keeps being brought up as an example here by uLindani when uSomizi is such a stellar father and friend to his ex wife. He has immense respect for her as the mother of his child.

[@AllThingsLindo]

@Yandz The man so sad!!

[@princessmathandi]

Somizi also said the mother of his daughter knew he was gay. I am not homophobic but gay guys who think like this make me feel sick to my stomach.

[@leahq.simelane5872]

​@Yandz The man .

[@sontomonakali5086]

Somizi ddnt marry his daughter's Mom so she's not his ex-wife

[@edmundsishange3608]

@princessmathandi what do you mean gay guys who think like this? Somizi's situation was very different because he told the girl directly that he was gay but she insisted they must continue the relationship, they were also very young at the time and didn't marry, so it's not like he strung the girl along.

[@shanteg8770]

Gay or not - this guys perspective on relationships and commitment is so distorted. 😐

[@nkosiyazisukazi3927]

Right? He’s a bit too disconnected, he’s acting like it’s nothing at all

[@tsholomakoni7777]

My thought exactly ☹

[@lolaatchabao5893]

His all over 🤔

[@MrSadikiboy]

Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYPYlpiio5iKeqM

[@Thembi_3]

His just disgusting nje

[@cmsimango13]

Can we talk about how gorgeous Relebogile is 😍😍😍

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you! ❤️

[@timbawangu3038]

Am getting distracted😂, you're such a beauty mma❤️❤️❤️

[@cmsimango13]

@@relebogilemabotja215 🤗❤

[@missthiya]

😍 Her beauty is breathtaking yoh

[@cmsimango13]

@@missthiya too much hey

[@missnd8613]

When he said he married his wife becuase he saw that she's a girl angamudla (sleep with) that pirced in my heart😭😭😭 I pray we neva marry guys who just see us as sex object

[@Sky-zg8lz]

I'm sorry but people can be shallow. These are times we got to live through.

[@ksazobafit....2216]

Unfortunately most if not all see us as obje ts mainly for sex or knowing that they have someone to take care of them and when you nurturing by nature ppl will take advantage of that... Men honestly don't care about what we think forget feelings just having a convo with a man he automatically thinks he can teach you something but you can't teach him anything coz u there for sex and chores...a guy I spoke to once told me hes blocking me because I wouldn't let him teach me love. Money and other things but why assume I need you to teach me anything you barely know who I am

[@stellamooibedi9027]

The DISRESPECT!!!

[@gugukhumalo8065]

I thought men don't marry women they see as sex objects

[@sylviemorgan9770]

Unfortunately,that's the society we lives in,that's why we have to ask GOD for protection on us from demons in human form..

[@afrobae9244]

The face of a narcissist He will never ever take accountability

[@lelentus6466]

For anything! Disgusting

[@wanda4573]

Very hurtful for his wife, kids

[@candyngeny8272]

My thoughts..

[@minahm8038]

Sad to watch. Trying too hard too...

[@malcolmdee8056]

This guy is raw he needs to learn how to process the things he is saying

[@mphihlengmagoro2957]

@Relebogile please bring the ex wife on a future episode so we can hear this from her perspective. You will see the harm and hurt she feels.

[@namhlazimasa8819]

PLEASE

[@MzaLee_TheParent]

PLEAZE

[@alicegauteng2358]

I don't think the ex wife should dignify this with an answer. He is vulgar and she is better off if he stays away from her and her son. He needs to work on himself and grow up

[@samanthadutoit1247]

Please

[@friedaniyambo5434]

Please

[@nhlakaniphontuli1793]

To his ex-wife, sorry sweetness for having to go through what you went through. Phephisa nana.

[@mbalingcobo7834]

Yho 💔 I’m also really sorry to her

[@gamerboy7015]

No one deserves what she must have went through from being with this guy.

[@boitumelogundu5414]

I actually believe this guy need to apologize to his ex-wife because this poor woman over looked all the red flags because she was blinded by love and she thought it was in his past and believed that it happened because he was young and probably being naughty. How was he going to be happy when he kept switching back to his gay self and yet hr eants to blame it on his wife. Im so pieced to what this lady went through. Sorry my lady

[@surpriseitsdimakatso4384]

I'm so sorry queen 👸, the trauma, hurt, disrespect handed to you is so undeserved. You are so beautiful, so strong, so amazing, intelligent and you light. I wish you and your angel baby nothing but joy and happiness. You didn't deserve this.

[@morakanemorakane9830]

The son will watch this episode one day 😥😥😥 words can’t be taken back. This man is self centred & needs to grow up.

[@octaviamahlatsi2203]

I had this same thought💔

[@oppahmkosana7810]

It's sad really for someone to speak openly like that. Poor child. Shame.

[@pinkie9321]

.

[@bradleydirks2397]

This young man is so confused , a definition of a relationship to him is sex. He has a very immoral view of relationships. Secondly he lies about his emotions

[@DzunyB]

That's what I thought

[@BlooZulu]

This is an accurate observation.

[@omuhle_bytshepi3659]

Very very very confused .

[@angelandaba]

I couldn't have said it better

[@zainabinti5170]

He was delivered from sexual immorality, it wasn't about his gender preference ...

[@TariroC]

I can’t believe this guy said the only reason he didn’t become a deadbeat is because of his reputation. What a narcissist, I’m disgusted

[@periswanjuhi]

The way he talks about being a father, ' it's a full time job, I want to go back to my gay self '. I thought him growing up without a father would help him to become a better father but no. Soo disgusting

[@nerrisamaripane4101]

Yoh😒ai he's selfish yerre

[@matlalaledwaba6416]

I am not yet married but I wish people could understand that marriage is not just about sex...marriage involves emotional health, mental health, etc...People should find themselves before finding partners please

[@sihlendwandwe5777]

Very true I always tell people that as well and most people they think mirriage is to be submissive to Ur partner do duties of husband and wife...is more than that... emotional understanding is a priority to me ect

[@user-dd4qv3yp5t]

I so agree. Know ureself before. Even normal guy n girl relationships. People go into marriage thinking, now I am complete. No one can complete you, but you.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Well said!✨👏🏼

[@lizzypereowei]

How on earth did his wife cope with this guy for that long? He is every definition of a confused person, hurting his wife and playing the victim. From this interview, he displays the characteristics of a self-centred individual, proud and insensitive. The lady conducted the interview very professionally; good job 👍🏼 Ps: it would be great to hear the woman’s side of this whole thing but I respect her decision if she decides not to grant any interview for this. This was as annoying as it was painful to watch! So sad 😞

[@makoromolapo5705]

Its how He is so careless with words about his ex-wife 💔

[@nkule2493]

Dude! 😭

[@AllThingsLindo]

Dude!!! Sooo unnecessary!

[@noxiek]

No respect for the poor woman .even calling u "gal_"

[@figuringitout1660]

Yooooooooooooooh I'm screaming

[@helennyathi175]

no respect at all for the ex wife

[@charmaine869]

Sending virtual hugs to his ex wife 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@Livingincapetown]

I also feel so sorry for the child who will one day watch this and hear his dad say he didn’t want to be a father to him! Wisdom doesn’t really come with age

[@Yamkela_Nguleka]

This guy doesn’t realize that one day his son will come across this and be like “oh my father actually doesn’t want me, he wishes that I was not born if he is forcing himself to be my father “ and he will regret it.

[@mmaneo_v]

Imagine his son watching this when he’s old 😭😭😭😭

[@SuzetteKhiba]

Yoh the trauma 😭😭

[@NormaJileka]

Exactly sisi.. Haibo I could never with him.. Imagine seeing your father saying fatherhood is horrible and he has to drag it out.. Yeses he's horrible and confused

[@gontseraphunga5745]

Yoh

[@sindisiwesibiya3939]

Omg the poor boy has to live with all this rejection , my goodness💔

[@gamerboy7015]

I feel bad for the child for having a narcissist as a father, the ex wife deserves better than him.

[@nokuthuladhlamini664]

My jaw dropped throughout this interview. Total and utter disrespect to the ex-wife. It seems like he was experimenting and will continue to experiment with people's lives and turn around and say 'I don't think I want this...'. I would say Good riddance to bad rubbish, umuntu okhuluma ngathi wehla esihlahleni. Sies!

[@Athingahangwi]

Yohhh I'm still shocked!!

[@leratomaledi8677]

I agree he doesn't have respect for the ex wife, and he is really shifting the blame nje asking why didn't she leave? There were so many red flags and all that like dude u married the girl, you stayed for the damn 3 years!!!! Like she knew im gay? WTF! you told her you had a gay phase... I don't know really i feel he wasnt honest to her and trying to shift blame!!! Im happy he finally found himself and is happy as a gay man!

[@AllThingsLindo]

Ave edelela ngempela, its one thing ukuthi things didn't work but its another ukungahloniphi because egcineni she was uNkosikazi or even your unborn child. Kwaze kwabuhlungu. Even the exclamations o 'Im still connected to this woman, oh my gaaawwwd' like haibo Bhuti.

[@cilviasegokodi4046]

Yazin... I was cringing the entire episode! 🙆‍♀️ 🙆‍♀️ 🙆‍♀️

[@tlholoheloramosoeu4398]

So basically his decision to marry her was only based on the fact that he could have sex with her and nothing else. Absolutely no regard for her as a person.

[@thelastdays4586]

This is how demons have taken over. The person is walking dead.

[@MrSadikiboy]

Our men in SA need to shift focus to loving and protecting our women and kids m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYPYlpiio5iKeqM

[@MyDadfoundtheLordunderaPAWfema]

This is exactly why this world is awful, men with men, women with women, and hoes are sleeping with other hoes. Its ridicules. And none of these folks are parenting their children.

[@emangrabogadi1051]

At first I thought “wow I love his honesty.” As the interview kept going, I realized he is a narcissist. There was no empathy to the betrayal he caused her. No accountability, and most dismissive people like to say “I hear you”- just to shut you up. They probably never had the conversation because of silent treatment and dismissive behaviors so as not to give closure. No empathy whatsoever for the cheating etc….

[@nwabisashiya5074]

The way he speaks about the ex wife. Wow...that woman should be glad that he is an ex husband. Thizaaa...isile lekaka

[@tshepanggiftpoo7423]

Lekaka😢😂😂

[@normakay9244]

He I the worst and soooo gay, so this woman could not see that this man us super gay.

[@kzeetha]

😆was thinking th same, gay or nah he sucks shame, attitude stinks for daaays

[@nokwandasbiya6462]

Lekaka 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂

[@LadyT06]

@@tshepanggiftpoo7423 🤣🤣 khuzeka!

[@TariroC]

I’m so happy for his ex wife. This man didn’t deserve her at all, sies

[@andilemaphanga2354]

Exactly sis, SIES!!!!!

[@mummyandme3410]

He irritates me mxxm

[@sanelendlovu6831]

She deserves better and I am sure God will bless her with something special.

[@ulliginster131]

Thank God he's not related to you. He's having his own family and daughter who loves him to death. You're boyfriend or son could be also gay. Stop pointing fingers.

[@althia1126]

You’re just showing off go repent

[@Mamgcina1993]

This guy refuses to take accountability. He owes his ex wife an apology and needs to do better as a father.

[@mphohappiness1736]

Narcissism on a 💯 One thing about children, they grow up to see who the problematic parent is

[@MsMokgadi]

“ i have to drag myself to be a father” this part hurt me

[@yayarsa]

...I'm hurt because one day the child might watch this. Imagine what it will do to the child. 💔

[@anelaninjokwana9039]

Bruh💔💔💔

[@silondilesikhakhane9565]

Then he goes to say he could adopt 3 children 🙄🙄🙄

[@Themoments665]

like how does being gay has to do with being a father,somizi is a dad moes

[@faneledlamini5156]

Dude he’s confused💔

[@nondumisobuthelezi3553]

I think Lindani always knew he was gay. He is self-centered and refuses to see how he hurt this woman. How he speaks about his ex wife calling him ugirl. Relebogile tried her best but cha, akezwa, it's all about him nje. Even the language he uses in reference to other people in the LGBTIQ community!

[@zimkhitha.h]

He is still confused namanje yazi

[@amantletamajobe8986]

He definitely knew he was gay.

[@bluebird4815]

Exactly. He irritated me so much. He is the definition of an ass hole.

[@alexanderbalungilemdlongwa7984]

I am here too. He always knew that He was gay.

[@gloryseerane8913]

Can we acknowledge the fact that evn straight people can still fall in love with gay people evn when they could see the person's character purely...

[@molapothapelo2738]

The way he just changed his story though,,,,he didnt know at first and found out after the wedding ,halfway the interview its another story

[@JulzJewel]

When he said i drag myself to be a father. I saw history wanting to repeat itself on his son. The devil is a liar

[@kuselwa6715]

The ex wife actually dodged a bullet here... imagine a lifetime with this guy 😳

[@ntombenthsambadlanyana6123]

You know God saved her really from this selfish man

[@Leetso]

@@ntombenthsambadlanyana6123 he's Sooo disrespectful

[@violetgapiti8481]

Yoh imagine🤦‍♀️

[@nkule2493]

Nyan!

[@kctshaka6525]

Definitely 🤭🤣

[@londiwexaba3331]

There's a difference between being honest and rude, this man is so rude yoh. And why were her pictures shown, I wonder if they asked her permission

[@gabimthombothi4604]

It's important to acknowledge when you had a hand in someone's pain👏Relebogile

[@seegos]

I appreciate his honesty and rawness, not everyone can do that. We are so used to sugarcoating our feelings. It’s good they separated, choosing your happiness is key. I’m happy for the ex wife, hope she gets a man that will love and respect her. She deserves all good things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.

[@brandinmichael5475]

I swear her interviewing skills are on point ! 💯

[@AllThingsLindo]

Seems like it's all for show.

[@lungilemtshawe9046]

She's brilliant

[@Cebo88]

Indeed. She's not being emotional and she put herself in his shoes. She's not giving him a Spanish inquisition as a lot of people in this thread wish.

[@NthabisengLetsatsi]

She asks relevant questions!

[@albertodacache1261]

You are very right, she has the mind for it.

[@naledidube3532]

him not enjoying being around his son has nothing to do with his sexuality.... also, if he didn't want to be a father he could have used protection mos...

[@andisani257]

Exactly. This 100% he is just a deadbeat dad. Lots of gay men actually father the children!!!! He is busy calling other people hypocrites but does not see it in himself.

[@sinayemakhanya557]

Like I said, he needs to revisit his past

[@LuciaHamukwaya]

I love this lady's last words... forgive in the absence of no apology....and apologise just because you had a hand in someone's hurt

[@lhamikala]

Yho! I dont know how the ex-wife lived with this man if he is like this in an interview... My goodness! My heart goes out to you Queen

[@sosibo4174]

Please can we get his Ex wife's side of the story because she was very patient I wanna know why

[@tj7_sa]

Absolutely!

[@jonniefesto3715]

Very true and am sure her story is different n painful

[@gontseraphunga5745]

He's happy ,she's probably miserable. Mxm

[@endinakomali5158]

Great idea !

[@nomvelomoyo8916]

Please Lebo

[@indradumile5132]

My fear is to get married to someone whose so confused like this guy. So help me God

[@asandamthembu6275]

Not once does Linda I take responsibility for his actions. What an exhausting human being.

[@stillwaters7233]

Lindani sounds very confused. Lindani there must be a big trauma in your past that you are running from...and until you get help to deal with it you will keep running, hurting yourself and others while at it. Sending you compassion

[@estiaanmabunda1697]

He is so narcissistic, and instead of taking accountability he goes on to treating the experience like a joke. I hope the women who got dragged in this is healing. Also I doubt his ever love some one nor does he know what genuine love/like is because he is hyper sexual, he associates attraction with sex almost throughout the interview. He needs help.

[@RatoLaka]

The fact that he doesn't acknowledge wasting her time aswel. Its all Me, My, I... absolutely disgusting

[@MrsMkhangwane]

Thank you for saying this Estiaan. You articulated it well. He is very hyper-sexual, it’s got nothing to do with him being gay.

[@lhamikala]

I totally agree with you Estiaan, he needs serious help

[@dabizonke161]

A comment I have been looking to see, he is screaming I am a narcissist when he talks!

[@syathokozahlophe9011]

he lacks accountability ... his divorce is a joke to him, he is a joke... oh my gosh...

[@leefortunate5764]

He’s making it feel like gay people cannot be good parents 😏it’s sad

[@vuyox]

And that thought alone reveals how flawed such intellect is.

[@lorrainesindane4079]

Exactly my point, mnx ...😡

[@carmennicholson2867]

Are you one of them?

[@leefortunate5764]

@@carmennicholson2867 you’re missing the whole point

[@ksazobafit....2216]

He keeps saying ppl are homophobic but he's giving off homophobic and masoginy vibes it's a mess

[@maambomuleya3063]

This interview aggravated me so. He is so disrespectful,lost and a narcissistic. The ex wife is really lucky to be rid of him.

[@ulliginster131]

She was desperate for that white gown and being a wife.

[@nselelosinqobile1254]

I have nothing to blame him for. All I see is someone that's being 100% honest both to us and to himself ❤

[@sisiphokhwatshube4107]

Why does he think being gay is only about sex. Honestly Lindani still needs to find himself (introspection). As for the ex-wife sorry Queen sending you love and prayers, may you heal if you are still hurting♥️

[@NTcreativeSole]

Exactly..all he talks about is ukudla ugirl

[@sinayemakhanya557]

Totally

[@lizasekaggya6932]

I think he is a bi-sexual

[@SimzRight]

I love how Relebogile is conducting this interview. So non judgemental and very precise

[@mapasekakokozela4688]

❤️❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜

[@n.m6249]

I was reading all the negative comments before I started watching and realized I needed to listen in full. After watching I can fully understand why people are grilling this selfish human, I've never heard anyone regretting or speaking badly about their child, children are always a blessing no matter how bad the relationship was. The Lady interviewing is just dripping with class and beauty. She's gorgeous, an excellent speaker

[@Executive_Essy]

This guy has evil spirits pursuing him

[@Ayanda__Booi]

Please bring the ex wife here . So that we can hear her side of the story too. However i like how blunt and honest he is about his feelings and how he feels about this whole thing.

[@xolilezulu4560]

I feel so sad for the rejected son, who is innocent in all of this. I have nothing to say about Lindani he is very selfish and self centred human being. Sending love and light to the ex wife and the son ❤️

[@honeyasonja522]

Amen Amen Amen!!🙏💙

[@azaniajuicethwala5324]

The way he speaks about people ngathi they’re disposable s*x objects😩

[@harrietboateng5239]

@@azaniajuicethwala5324 he has a reprobate mind

[@reabetswemazibuko3969]

Fame and popularity is a problem here. He is a well known and well respected person.

[@reabetswemazibuko3969]

And its gotten to his head ALOT

[@NeoM2105]

This interview was more about the ex-wife than the person whose being interviewed. Every single answer touched on her . He has such an interesting story to share and for some of us to learn something but he made it so much about a person whose not there to tell their side of the story . My recommendation would be to have a follow interview to balance the scale .

[@nancyomundi9076]

Home sexual is a sin read Leviticus 18

[@teniabe7600]

My question to this young man is, when will his journey of discovery end. I don’t see why anyone should take him seriously.

[@lisatati5350]

Men will embarrass you and not even feel ashamed

[@hlengiwemasondo2858]

You can say that again, and that is why I keep my relationship private on social media

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

And they will blame you for them being embarrassed

[@londiwexaba3331]

I'm all for people living their truth unapologetically but this guy is a little insensitive and selfish, he doesn't understand that he's creating traumas for his son.

[@tebohomare6622]

Yooooo he is not aware 😭

[@puntakinte2049]

He does not care

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Not a little insensitive, a whole lotta insensitive

[@sageofsixpaths17]

Relebogile is so amazing lets talk about that !!

[@louisawambui4475]

I've just discovered the Channel. Everything from the set, the host , manner of interviewing and videography is soooo beautiful. Much love from Kenya.

[@rea9085]

The wife mustnt consider the end of the marriage as a loss .Its actually a gain.Such a self centered man yoh🚮.

[@beewest5704]

This guy: Dates women, engages a woman, lobola's woman, marries her, gets her pregnant, has a child. Also this guy: Why didn't my wife see I'm gay.

[@neomalapane983]

This guy o thanda izinto....Uku phapha nje.....

[@anilndaba2735]

Morguy is selfish

[@mvuselelo7150]

0p

[@zainabinti5170]

@@neomalapane983 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😃😄😄😅

[@triston9618]

💔💔💔💔💔

[@bygrace3497]

The title is such a lie. As predicted. What I didn't anticipate was the level of pride in this man-child.

[@torcheverblazing4594]

I know them both and I honestly disappointed, not by him being gay, that is his prerogative, but to drag his ex-wife into this is beyond disrespectful.. I really didn't find this conversation honouring at all and having spoken to her about this whole thing I feel she was so honouring of him and still continues to honour him and I feel like there was no honour here... She is the mother of your child brooooooooooo 🤯🤯🤯 that deserves a level of respect that is not shown here... This whole thing made me really sad... Like she is so honouring of him till this day and I just can't believe after all this he would have such an interview, he really could've spoken about coming out and how marriage helped him realise this without disrespecting her and making her look like some naive child... Calling her "ugirl" , saying she missed red flags, like, was it necessary to say things like " now that you're here and I can f*CK you everyday" 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 like for real for real, that's how you speak about her, in all the conversations I've had with her she has never disrespected you like that💔😭,

[@torcheverblazing4594]

I mean, was it necessary to say "1stly Iyanya" 💔... This is disappointing and so publicly disrespectful... I hope he actually comes to realise this

[@kamohelontjantja565]

Everything this guy said is sooo disrespectful. I am glad i dont know him 😩

[@nokuthuladhlamini664]

I was utterly shattered throughout this interview, I do not know them at all but I cannot begin to imagine what this guy says to her face when he can publicly speak like that of her. Totally full of himself and no consideration of the person he vowed to once love, a person who brought his child into this world. Honestly the lady was saved by grace from this man. I hope she finds true happiness again.

[@zimkhitha.h]

I'm annoyed you have no idea

[@fumanemokhomo4497]

You are right hey. He made his ex wife look naive when all the lady did was to love her

[@Mkhehla]

How dare he use Somizi as the extreme version of gay, while speaking about how being gay makes it difficult for him to be a parent. Somizi is an excellent father! And has lots of respect for Palesa. Somizi is a good example for how to parent right, even as a gay man. Sexuality should have little-to-nothing to do with your parenting.

[@BubuhleGobodo]

Thank you for saying this❤️

[@kvngkruzhworld1514]

Indeed...he is still a great father and is in good terms with his baby mama...why on mother earth does this guy behaves likes this? I am a gay man and have been married but that don't mean I dishonor my kids and their mum

[@mbalenhlengcobo9320]

My thoughts exactly 👌🏾I'm so disappointed in how he tells his story and the amount of disrespect towards the wife.

[@esthermphanda4836]

Exactly!!!

[@ntombenthsambadlanyana6123]

Exactly Somizi is a man above anything else and is so responsible. Rha this bloody nja

[@stellamooibedi9027]

Somizi ungenaphi yena,because he is an Amazing father more than I can say about you and has RESPECT for the mother of his child and never goes around bad mouthing her.

[@daregreatthingseasq786]

I like how Lindani explains his journey but NOT where he puts it to his ex wife that she saw the red flags that she shouldn't have gone forth with the marriage. I strongly feel Lindani should apologize. When you love someone and committed to the marriage, all negative things do not get attention. I can feel her pain.

[@vuvulicious41]

He refuses to take accountability, he's minimizing the role his gaynes played in their divorce.

[@zozibiningqula3316]

So sick and selfish and don’t even care about the child

[@neomalapane983]

This guy is not gay...Uya phapha this dude....

[@no_prisoners6474]

This guy is lost. For any sexuality. He's just not well. Mercy.

[@honeycubey3120]

Ignore the ignorant comments and watch for yourself. Listen to him with an open, objective mind. This is one of the few most honest interviews you'll ever find on KZbin!

[@ngwanabadimo9793]

I'm literally in tears. A narcissist of note. I hope he doesn't go around hurting people. Both men and women. Nna nka screama hore 😭💔

[@NtsikiHarmse]

I feel like Lindani wants to blame the wife for them getting married when he also ignored his own red flags. He keeps on says why didn’t she run when I told her I slept with men, she saw this, she should have...

[@motshewamakhafola9486]

Exactly, then he says him being gay was not the cause of his divorce????? I feel like if she'd have been a Saint he'd still blame her

[@nompumelelompumi2706]

Deep down he was using her just to have a child. Asile amagay they use people just to have kids and later act like victims. They don't have peace

[@bluebird4815]

He was totally using her as beard. I just wanted to slap him the entire time.

[@hopekhoza1388]

We can blame Lindani but he was hornest by telling her that he slept with other men before. What do u think a man sleep with other man? obviously he is gay.

[@Zimkhitha]

Exactly! Why is it her responsibility! Why he even asked knowing the truth deep down? Such a horrible person who can't even take some responsibility. I feel sorry for her.. this is so self centered shame!

[@kms708]

A narcissists of note this guy

[@lorrainesindane4079]

Period🤞

[@dabizonke161]

a clean textbook narcissist

[@nokuvelaputini8408]

The way he speaks about his relationship with his wife 🥺 Yoh poor woman

[@afrobae9244]

This guy keeps contradicting himself he lies a lot .

[@fortunatemotsa8065]

He is confused shem

[@samzehelephant9578]

Aybo never seen such a lying, confused, narcissistic, rude person like him. My jawsa are still dropped. He was not gay during the 3 years but ex wife caught confession with him chatting with another gay. It too much. We thank God that daughter of God is now an ex wife.

[@hoppykubs1368]

He saw being gay will make him "money" His so confused shame nxaaa

[@letschatwithkeam3820]

He's full time confused shame. He's living a lie even after divorce

[@mohalecandy5878]

I feel for that women I am actually interested in the wife’s story

[@thandankosi6374]

There are many like that, some are still waiting for their ex husbands to come out

[@sibongiletseletsele6191]

It really is not fair to marry a woman while u know you are gay

[@thandozitha9839]

Watching this, I can see why the ex wife declined to be part of this interview.

[@wondergenaro2881]

@@thandozitha9839 did she declined?

[@umpumee]

I hope after seeing this she'll come and speak up.

[@marshallnyamadzawo8553]

If confusion was a person!

[@ninahmbatha1890]

He is the one 😂😂

[@ntombenthsambadlanyana6123]

@@ninahmbatha1890 listen 😂😂

[@mosa1mabilisa]

Geeeez.

[@pertuniarameetse8805]

Let me download this,...will watch it in my bed,relaxed. Can’t wait to hear all about it🥺❤️

[@asiphemacala6058]

The maturity of this woman interviewing 🙏

[@preciousthaba945]

Lack of compassion is on another level. I feel for the ex-wife.

[@motingwethaboj1475]

His child must not see this. It will traumatise that child. Knowing the circumstance he was born into.

[@fulufhelomanyage6960]

I think for the whole interview I tried so hard to see things from his perspective and tried to understand his journey is different , but when he said "How didn't she see that I'm guy".yooh Noo 🤦🏿‍♀️ I'm so heartbroken 💔 than someone's son can marry me and be father of my child and still choose to disrespect me like this on national TV 😫😫😫

[@BB-dk3fd]

He thinks he is on top of the world 😢

[@thandombatha8242]

I hope after this he consulted for healing. How he reacts to situations is based on his past. He said something about his gran saying he is gay because he didn’t have a relationship with his mom, and never knew his dad. Though that is false but i see how that is actually affecting him when its comes to relationships. It like he doesn’t know how to love because he doesn’t know what love is. Hence he associates it with sex a lot of times. I hope his ex also heals. And at some point they do sit down not only for the sake of their child but for both their sake because for a child to benefit both parents must be happy individuals.

[@mphomokhudu7599]

What was done to her was so unfair and Lindani’s tone is disrespectful. I am so sorry to her that she had to go through that and has to have her marriage discussed publicly. I mean if you were unhappy from the second week why didn’t you leave and not waste her time. This is so infuriating.

[@torcheverblazing4594]

My thoughts exactly.. intimate marital issues discussed so disrespectfully so publicly 💔

[@nompumelelompumi2706]

His language nje, he's such a disrespectful boy

[@tendanipelaelo6293]

@@nompumelelompumi2706 You have said it very well.. He is a boy and not a man. He has a long way to go before he can get to the stage of being a man

[@dentswapage1906]

He will answer to God for this... 🤞🏾

[@mrsetamayple]

♥️

[@roseopl7]

I love Relebogile's non judgmental style of interviewing

[@lovezee3532]

OMG. Lee designed my matric dress I remember the first time I met him. I just saw that this guy is gay. Then my sister said no his not, his married. But I disagreed with her and told her, he is so gay trust me. Haha and BOOM he comes out 🙌🔐 anyways its a good thing.

[@petehadhlomo1557]

Love how the host corrects him and is honest to him !!

[@mariashilongo2863]

Sheemmme poor wife….

[@lindomagubane8815]

This guy comes across as a self centered. Its all about him all they way. There is no accountability at all as to how he hurt the poor woman and also the way he speaks abut his child.

[@noloyisomaqubela2725]

He made himself look bad

[@heatherbooth4217]

I was just thinking that, he's selfish. I feel so sorry for his son. Instead of breaking the chain of fatherlessness, he's continuing it.

[@paballomajela4907]

They are all like that...

[@palesakhoza7153]

Narcissistic tendencies.

[@keshebileonekbmorwe3163]

@@paballomajela4907 exactly, it always buffles me h

[@SimzRight]

I can't imagine having a partner like this. Nka Screamer

[@Tanya_M988]

I can almost see you saying this! You kil me 🤣🤣🤣

[@prettymaphalla5443]

This guy had zero respect for his ex wife 💔

[@keshebileonekbmorwe3163]

Princess ur here❤

[@Zimkhitha]

😂😂😂😂 I'm so triggered! Yhuuu the disrespect!

[@matladithobejane4285]

All i can say is choice of words is very important. I know Lindani, he is not a bad person, he loves his son. I'm quite shocked by this side of him.

[@khanyoengcobo9315]

Yoooo y this guy could say uGal... To his ex wife

[@faith9224]

Clearly you don't know him😂😂😂

[@thutonnena3092]

Relebogile has to be one of the most professional and objective people I have ever seen. You're amazing girl!!!

[@eugeniamanana9424]

A confused liar, inconsistency in his story telling. He doesn't know who he truly is, take!

[@irenethamahane4376]

Ma’am I thought I’m the only one hearing how’s lies. Plus the foul language ☹️☹️

[@fionamohlala3789]

Many contradictions and inconsistencies. The level of disrespect for his ex wife wow.

[@thatontshingila-zuma8854]

nje ... literally my view too...

[@SimplyNoxoloSangweni]

He us just a disgusting human being. Nothing hurts me more than the way he addresses his ex wife

[@after-lifeadvice7067]

Could be a staged thing , folks need content out here ....

[@beaulas6550]

It was painful to watch this. The marriage might have had to end but he didn't have to disrespect his ex wife like that. The attitude🚮

[@AllThingsLindo]

Really didn't have to.

[@mompolokinawane2343]

So hurtful no love no respect for his child

[@minahm8038]

Awful!

[@noxolokunene7949]

“Never expect an apology for your own peace, find it within you “ I know this one too well..

[@nonkumaphanga7766]

Can we get the wife side of the story! 🙌🏽

[@honeykoba5289]

It is Not fair to have expected your ex wife to see red flags 🚩 I think she is justified to feel betrayed and misled.

[@edmundsishange3608]

Except it's more than red flags, he was also direct with her. I mean why continue a relationship with a guy who tells you straight that he had gay relationships in the past? The woman was either downright naive or desperate to continue after that point. That said, I'm not vouching for this guy's overall invalidating behaviour towards the pain he caused.

[@bridelamb2000]

This young man needs therapy.

[@nthomengmajara8575]

Years and years of intensive therapy.

[@Kahanovitz010101]

True

[@kabelomolomo6671]

Exactly

[@pearljantjie3784]

Thank you Relebogile for this interview, and also the questions you asked and how you asked them, spot on. How you directed the entire conversation. And lastly, how beautiful you look. loved it

[@mariestellamolope6593]

Relebogile you are so good at this and how you can deliver the truth without fear amazed me... Surprised that people think playing dolls makes boys gay 🤮🤢🤮🤢

[@mathabothwe7886]

I just feel sorry for the poor woman who got dragged into this😢🥺

[@D_cider]

My heart goes out for.

[@mathabothwe7886]

@@D_cider it sad cz he knew all along 😢

[@D_cider]

@@mathabothwe7886 😢😢

[@ncumisajuliwe6874]

I never felt so much pain for a Queen I don't even know💔😭.

[@mathabothwe7886]

Imagine uzitshela ukuba you have found your life partner the man of your dreams mese akwenze kanje 😢😢😢soze a recover from this i dont blame her😢