My Child Drowned (Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 56 | Season 2

A guest shares how losing her child, Chumalethu changed her whole life
Studio Guests: Monica Ndindwa
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[@tiyiselanin]

This is really triggering for me. No mommy should ever bury their own child. I’ve never been the same since I buried my son. I can literally feel your pain mommy. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. May God continue to comfort you 💔❤️❤️

[@stellamooibedi9027]

Sending you much Love my Queen.❤

[@tiyiselanin]

@@stellamooibedi9027 ❤️

[@mulaloratsiku6533]

I am so sorry about your loss. May God bless you with so much peace and acceptance knowing that she is in a better place and one day we will be reunited with our loved ones for eternity. Sending hugs of love to both of you Mommies. May the holy spirit comfort you 🙏🙏🤗🤗🥰🥰

[@katlehomokaba1245]

💜❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜💜💜🌻

[@tiyiselanin]

@@katlehomokaba1245 ❤️❤️❤️

[@makubumoloi8463]

I dnt hv a child but I felt this... It hit very close to my heart I could never imagine what she is feeling 😭 😭

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

I pray she heals because this is just too painful, can’t imagine the pain she carries 😔

[@nsekwakokome1631]

I think this mommy needed this session.... Where she has a platform to share her story without having to explain her feelings to anyone.... Thank you sis Relebogile for letting having her

[@stellamooibedi9027]

And our resident therapist Relebogile is giving her all the time, I love this for both of them.

[@nsekwakokome1631]

@@stellamooibedi9027 You know sometimes even going to a counselor can end up feeling like a place you have to explain and account for all your feelings but I feel this series just gave her a place to talk 😩🤧

[@stellamooibedi9027]

@@nsekwakokome1631 I would not have said it better than this my Queen, you hit it spot on.

[@mulaloratsiku6533]

This is a very emotional session. Thank you so much Mommy for sharing the story. This is the beginning of your healing process. Talk more and cry more about it, it's okay Mommy. May God give you so much strength and peace. Please forgive granny for what happened. Only God knows what happened and why. I know it's hard but for your wellbeing please do Mommy. Love you so much Mommy 🤗🤗😍😍❤💜💙💚

[@MrsMax2009]

Yes, tks R for listening and let her be..so much pain was bottled up

[@mafokopetrusmokwena126]

I just want to know what is wrong with the 5 people that disliked this episode? No human being should go through what she went through yoh😭😭.

[@witneymqadi7306]

Bruh exactly my question I'm even going through the comments to see what are they for

[@dandiekekana7283]

They must be family members from the husband's side.

[@wamemasilo7546]

Guys people dont use this things the same way as us. It coukd be that they dislike the tragedy..not that they didnt enjoy the episode.

[@simplyandrandomlysane8208]

​@@wamemasilo7546 Thank you. I was about to say

[@quelquun2018]

15:00 when she started crying, my heart broke for her😭😭😭 I don’t have kids, no spouse, never been pregnant but lord my heart broke for her😭😭

[@tridabalira5992]

Dear Jesus please heal this beautiful lady, it is too much to go through. She is in too much pain only you can close this wound. So sorry for your loss.

[@semukelisomaseko8795]

I do feel your pain. I lost 2 sons same day in May 2020 ages 19 and 23 my life has changed. U have encouraged me strengthened my faith as well. Only Jehovah knows why. Prayer is the medicine of all.💔💔💔

[@nellyburu7322]

Ngxesi sisi. I'm soo sorry❤️💐

[@katlehomokaba1245]

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜sending love and comfort

[@nkule2493]

💐💐💐💐💔💔💔💔

[@relebogilemabotja215]

I'm so sorry 💔💔

[@motheowalerato701]

Oh my sis, I'm so so sorry 😭🥺

[@beverlyrabohlale3752]

This reminds me of when I just came back from delivering my baby girl n I had complications from cza…they called ambulance for me n as I walked to my room to kiss my girl n tell her mommy will be back soon…I found my Mom on her knees praying n her words was “o senkotle ka thupa e bohale Modimo wake” (God don’t punish me so harshly)..that was mother’s love n they don’t ever wanna bury their children coz she was really scared for me😭😭😭but now she(mommy )left me this January 😭😭I miss her dearly even though I as a child m ment to bury her…she prayed for me more than she prayed for her self n that’s what I carry on from her,praying for my kids every day…I am so sorry for you sis God will grant u strength 🙏

[@tnohanyaza]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@nhlanhlandhlazi4485]

No one deserves to go through this.... I'm so sorry sis, and may Chuma's soul continue to rest in peace 🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@samanthadutoit1247]

This is why I left my job when I starting having kids, I don't trust anyone with my kids especially so young. I do respect working Mothers though it must be tough. May God continue to keep you.

[@motheowalerato701]

Accidents can happen even in our care as mothers sadly. We can only but ask God to protect our kids daily😭🥺

[@kmtz1107]

@@motheowalerato701 True, but as a mom, it is less likely to happen as no one can take care of our kids better than us. I am very paranoid about leaving my son under other’s supervision. All I can do is pray that God will keep an eye on him at all times, especially when I’m not around.

[@nomawethundondo5401]

@@kmtz1107 You cannot predict accidents - there are many mothers who have looked after their children and accidents happen. Only God knows

[@tebogomokobane8094]

Even as a mother accidents do happen no matter what You can't be wit ur kid 24/7. 5minutes of being apart then somethimg happen

[@namisazulu1372]

But how do you financially support your kids since left your job?

[@ntshuxekosambo2684]

I lost my son in 2019 . He was 17 , hit by truck while coming back from school. I know the pain. it hurts so bad 💔💔💔💔

[@thusimphahlele5085]

My most heart felt condolences to you. Hope you find peace and healing.

[@nasiphituswa4848]

Condolences to you sister, may you find peace 😔❤

[@mantelekhitsane8935]

I'm so sorry may God heal you 🙏💐

[@koketsokaym234]

Yoooooo💔💔💔😭😭😭😭😭

[@bonganimashienyane2920]

I speak healing upon you

[@lelokprecious3947]

I kept my tears in until she said "I said take these clothes off her, she's cold" My heart broke 💔💔💔

[@tessmokoka6827]

Yoh I can’t imagine the guilt the grandmother is feeling… mistakes happen

[@tanyasnyman-stanford8012]

Yes. Mistakes do happen

[@quelquun2018]

Parents need to put their child in swimming classes if they’re gonna be near bodies of water.

[@lebomol]

Well Done Relebogile!! I love how you allowed her to process her emotions before moving on with the conversation.

[@lesegoyv]

The pain of losing someone your love in your absence. 4 years ago today (16th August 2017) I lost my mom from her sleep after gasping and the delivery was through a phone while I was on my way to work. I remember asking if she was administered and my aunt said to me " Nana she was gone even before we arrived at the clinic and the nurses did not check her" I think that's why sometimes we blame families not because of hate but because we feel like they didn't do much to help when they could. May I watch too much WONDER channel where people get revived even from being under icy water for more than 20 minutes, with possibilities to being brain dead but they live on. I am sorry for sis's loss. Thanks Rele.

[@moitheiphora1073]

I had a miscarriage though I didn't cuddle with my baby, I just know where she comes from... for me it is the same😪😪 she will heal as time goes, but it is unforgettable 💋💕💞

[@cc35506]

I had a stillbirth about 2 weeks ago. It really hurts. I understand.

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

@@cc35506 sorry Chipo

[@kellyalexander7347]

She will never heal , losing a child you never heal from that I know alot of people who have lost their children and they never have healed to this day

[@minenhlemaphanga9548]

@@cc35506 oh jeso, I'm so sorry my love 😞.

[@cynthiamagaga9061]

It's the fourth or fifth time I've heard Sis Monica telling her story and everytime she tells her story she weeps and it hurts because no one deserves to go through such😭💔, we cannot not bury our kids... We cannot! 😭, Sis Monica will never forget but doesn't have a choice but to accept her pain💔... The Lord shall comfort you Sis, stay strong 🙏

[@londziwekhoza6651]

Eish.i felt her pain.

[@tokozilembadamana7233]

My big brother drowned when he was 9 (in 1998) and I was 7. My mom was never the same, to this day 💔

[@lebogangkekana191]

Exactly what happened to mine, my brother drowned cos I threw a doll in the pool, and my brother went for it. The nanny was inside the house answering the phone. When she came back his lifeless body was floating on top of the pool. And I was only 3 I couldn’t do anything nor say anything. I remember that day like it was yesterday.

[@tokozilembadamana7233]

@@lebogangkekana191 I'm truly sorry you had to witness that.

[@debbi189]

😥😥😥it's hard to watch

[@quelquun2018]

Parents put your child in swimming classes if they can’t swim!

[@theplug8263]

I saw this interview somewhere some years ago and our sister is still crying the same in this interview, indeed you never forget loosing your child, sending love and light to this woman♥️

[@zimkhitha.h]

Esh

[@Malekgotla777]

Yoh... I can't imagine the pain of losing a child under such circumstances. Touching interview and I'm taking notes. Looking forward to part 2

[@tshepisomongane1892]

This is heartbreaking I'm really sorry sisi the loss of a child is never easy I'm talking from experience no mother should bury their own child and the pain never goes away,im really sorry I pray God give u strength to deal with it all 💔💔

[@thandindlovu9088]

I don't even wish for my enemy to go through such pain even now am still grieving for my late daughter at the age of 22 after graduating and started to work who passed away in 2017/11 but it seems like yesterday but all is well, they say everything happens for a reason but sometimes we eager to know that reason 💔💔

[@nonhlanhlambhele466]

Oh nkosi yami 😭😭😭😭😭 my heart is shattered in million pieces

[@nozizanelesithongam5521]

U mama ka Chuma broke me into pieces betunana💔💔💔💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔

[@ntsoakisebetoane2109]

Kubuhlungu sisi

[@nozizanelesithongam5521]

@@ntsoakisebetoane2109 a lot sisi yooo 💔

[@ntsoakisebetoane2109]

I cried... I am a mother to a 1 year old son...I wouldn't want that to happen to anyone's child even Chuma did not deserve that, she had so much more to live for. It really hurts

[@lelokprecious3947]

Yoh Sisi💔💔💔

[@SincerelyPearlM]

Hi Lebo, may i suggest that you have tissues for the guests who have emotional moments on the show. Thank you❤

[@ongieluppy6588]

And water🥺

[@B.Thusii]

Monica has a tissue in her hand.

[@makalifapopzitshia6647]

And some water or something to drink atleast

[@zinhlemasilela1545]

I can't comprehend the pain she went through and still going through 😭😭😭oh my goodness 💔

[@stellamooibedi9027]

She's hurting yazi yhoo💔

[@marciajames9434]

Mommy Monica -the light of Chuma is in you. I'm gonna keep on praying for you. Hope you can use therapy and also your prayers to keep you sane daily. A kind suggestion would be to find a cause to celebrate Chuma's life either on her birth date or the day she fell asleep in Jesus. You describe her so well, we (the audience listening) got to know Chuma through your eyes. Such an angel. God comfort and hug you just the way Chuma did. Love you sis Monica from sis Marci.

[@thandonm]

We lost our son in a home accident, the minutes leading to the accident he hugged me the same way, I literally had to pull him off coz i was rushing. It seems they always it's the last day. Hard as it was, perhaps my case is better that we the parents were involved because it would be difficult to forgive the person. She seems very angry at the grandmother

[@leratomolele]

as a new mom this cant have been an easy interview for Relebogile.😢

[@asiveangel4940]

You ladies are so beautiful man. Lebo, thank you for always delivering😭❤ we really appreciate you, mama.

[@Manda_Ncube]

The minute she starts crying 😭 I also do the same this is so said 😭😭

[@nthubexnthubex8634]

I watched this woman's story on Cent Twins channel here on youtube my heart broke for her. I am even scared to watch again. May the good Lord comfort you 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@stellamooibedi9027]

Oh man Uxolo Sisi❤sending love, comfort and light your way.

[@mathibafrancina2447]

I am so worried about 9 people who disliked this video💔🥺

[@mphokokoma5693]

This is sad...be comforted mommy. The Lord will strengthen you. Please forgive granny it was an accident

[@thabomolautsi]

Mpho o bolela taba e kholo. A se ka boomo bana a banne Stelle. May God give her grace of forgiveness.

[@matekedigojane6405]

Tshwarela mme eo wa batho hlé. Ke phoso...accidents do happen ngwaneso ❤💕💕

[@LungaConstable]

I lost my son 12yrs ago, the pain is still raw some days bt ngamanye amalanga there is peace because I know his spirit lives on. Sisi unkulunkulu ukubusise futhi akusule izinyembezi, siyabonga sisLebo for such stories because we feel less alone in our pain. All is well indeed unkulunkulu abenathi

[@mdungethulile]

Phephisa sthandwa may you be comforted in knowing that your son felt loved by you and you were the best mother he could ever asked for and he loved too.💔💔

[@nkule2493]

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔

[@sunrise7640]

With all that pain, I wouldn't be alive today. I wouldn't even be this beautiful. This woman is so strong. I'd be in a mental asyllum or dead and I'm not being extra....and that grandmother!!!!!!

[@thonkhaPatricia]

I wish sisi Monica all the perfect healing available.

[@ingelosikazi]

This interview broke my heart. Strength to you Aussie. May God heal your heart, I'm so so so sorry for your loss 💔

[@florencempitse7714]

I cried watching this 💔 No parents should burry their child

[@saloshniejagathesan1577]

So important to have swimming pools covered by protective nets if there are children in the family. Also, we should get children to take swimming lessons from infant stage. As non Whites, we need to overcome this fear of learning to swim.

[@minenhlemaphanga9548]

I know a lady who lost her 4 year old daughter by drowning even though the child had swimming lessons. Children are only good swimmers when supervised.

[@nomathamsanqamatai7549]

Ooh! Lord😢😢. This made me cry so much,my son is turning two years next week as I'm watching this I just hugged him and I told him I love him😪😢😇

[@nozizanelesithongam5521]

Uphi uChuma 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 😭😭😭😭😭

[@NtsikiHarmse]

Yoooh my whole mood just became sad, I can’t imagine what the guest is going through. I pray she gets more strength and hopefully some sort of closure/ understanding.

[@lebogangdlaminilebogangdla1691]

This must have been the difficult interview for you kelebogile. Its painful to burry your child . sorry sisters hope you heal

[@noluvuyomakhoba2901]

Relebogile you're very strong, I wasn't going to be able to sit through this interview 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@orapelengtawana3287]

Eish fola mama God give you strength. It was an accident 🥺😭 Yes granny should have kept an eye on the child but what happened was an accident

[@magrethafrikaner3814]

As a mommy to a little girl,i cried watching this....Oh God this is incredibly sad...God give this mommy peace and a reminder that we will be one day reunited....❤

[@stellamooibedi9027]

My heart is sore for the lady...

[@zodwamahlangu6426]

No mother should ever bury their child... 💔may her gentle soul rest in peace🕊🕊🕊 God this is heart breaking, may the Lord give you comfort mommy❤

[@teamawesomeluhambo608]

watching this show makes me realise as parents we go through the most.i know how this lady feels i also lost my daugther in a fateful accident

[@stellamooibedi9027]

This has to be the hardest to speak about 😭😭

[@thokomtswene6128]

I'm watching this for the second time already no parent should go through this, Rest in peace baby girl 😭😭

[@tshegofatsomosito8245]

This thing called life is so fragile. Losing your child must be the most painful ever in the world. How do you even begin to move on after such. Sending warm love to the mother, may God cover her with warmth, strength and healing.

[@africaunite2957]

Sending love to you mama and your family I pray that god will heal you and comfort you everyday of your life

[@LethoHali]

Grandma must be living in so much guilt! 😭

[@nkule2493]

I'm also feeling sorry for her even though I haven't heard her side of the story. Imagine such trauma!

[@KeorapetseMokwena96]

"Take off these Clothes from her, she is cold!"😭😭😭Yho Ma, this was way too emotional.😭😭

[@NomD05MZ]

Phephisa sisi, and please let go, personally I think it was her time if God wanted to serve her he could have done so, it could have happened even under your care. The pain is unbearable, but you also mentioned that, the way she hugged you it was like she knew she won't see you again, ngxe cc

[@theparajse2020]

The reality is that a child can sleep for more than 30minutes, this is sooo painful and unfortunate but sometimes there is really no one to blame…yhoo so sad bathong😢

[@hendrinahaikwiyu8149]

True.... children can sleep for hours and really she wouldn't have know the child woke up

[@katlegomalatji1231]

Currently on maternity leave. The thought of leaving my princess in the care of other people keeps me awake at night 😭. My she find healing. 💔.

[@sihledlamini-makhubu4791]

God Jesus Christ that is so painful... Really no mother has to go through such pain... God be with you sisi... I can't imagine the pain she is going through even today...

[@yolandamusasira7764]

this was painful 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@stellamooibedi9027]

Yhuu!Too much my anxiety sky rocketed after watching this episode

[@veronicalizekamemani8673]

After watching this I do not have strength to open my books. Sending love and healing to you mommy. Let the Angel rest she sees you everyday and she is smiling down on you. Thank you Lebo

[@stellamooibedi9027]

You are allowed to be emotional Sis.

[@Tebo5583]

😭Phephi sis Monica, phephi ausi. I'm so sorry. May God continue to give you strength

[@conversationwithmokgadimam9499]

💔💔 I’m heartbroken, no parent should go through that😭

[@patienceikombele9161]

This is heartbreaking, I could have never finished this interview. I was difficult to finish watching it how much more to the host.😭😭😭

[@motheowalerato701]

I couldn't finish it yesterday, only watching it now again😭😭😭😭

[@victoriamokoatle8241]

No mother should ever go through this may God locate our sister's pain and may she find healing cant help it but cry with you

[@princeshongwe4938]

I Just remember myself driving 1 hour a distance that i normally drive for 2& half... four months ago when I was called while at work an they told me that my 3 years old beautiful angel was knocked by the vehicle an the driver left her under the car just like that an she died after somuch pains, with broken bones, head open etc...till today I'm still angry Im asking myself what kind of human being who can leave a child to die an not help her...be strong sisi you're not the only one..trust in God

[@nkule2493]

I'm so sorry bhuti 💔😭😭😭

[@relebogilemabotja215]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Wishing you strength and peace ❤️💐

[@motheowalerato701]

Oh my brother, I'm so so sorry💔🥺😭

[@princeshongwe4938]

As my cter said.."It is well",,,thank you 🙏

[@emisto9sakina398]

I'm sorry for what happened to your child may GOD MAKE IT EASY FOR YOU AND YOUR Family. U reminded of my son accident that happened 7 years ago he also got hit by the bus lucky he survived but the driver ran away MAY her/his soul rest in peace.

[@neriayose1126]

I just want to give you a warm hug Monica I am so sorry for your loss🤗

[@ThePrincess-vb8ql]

May the little, bubbly , sweet Princess continue to rest in peace.To the mother, thank God for the heartwarming, sweet moments u shared wth this sweet soul.Thank u Lebo for such a touching, enlightening interview,it really took me time to finish coz i would literally stop and cry esp on that part where she spoke about Chuma being cold,so touching Nkosi yami ,watching this was not easy.

[@abigailcona7352]

Andakhala, ooh yhini umntana,,, yooooooooo Im broken

[@nkule2493]

This is the most difficult and painful episode I've watched on this channel as a result when the notification came through yesterday I dismissed it😭💔💔. As a mom, I cannot fathom the pain she went through.

[@lesegorammego6666]

Yhoooo God this is so painful. May God grant her the strength to continue. 😭😭😭😭😭. I am a mother myself I can't begin how she feels. It's like a horrible dream that one will wake you up from.

[@0766125189]

This is so heartbreaking. No parent should go through that. Strength to you sister

[@joshuaserudu9062]

This was too emotional to unpack, there is lot of transfer of emotions, I really felt this interview 💔

[@nonhlanhlamoyo8136]

Oooh nkos yami, pray cc, am feeling your pain, am sorry dear😭😭😭, Lebo you are a strong woman, may you be lifted high by God 🙏

[@mpumimgidi7257]

Her pain💔💔this is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry, may Chuma's soul rest in peace ❤️🕊️

[@boikhutsoonline3834]

This was hard to watch as it literally hits home. I know exactly how she feels. It's hard, it's a nightmare..... We move but it ain't easy. God be with us. Burying a child literally kills u😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@_RuuM]

So heartbreaking 💔💔 I pray Sis’Monica finds healing 🥺💔♥️

[@mantwamadiba4715]

How does she even begin to heal but that’s all we can pray for. Shame man 🫂🫂🫂💔💔💔💔

[@tiyiselanin]

Sending you so much love mommy ❤️❤️❤️. May you please continue healing.

[@sunrise7640]

The 9 people that have already disliked this video should come here and explain to us what is so bad about this video!!!

[@Kgothatso_Lenkopane]

Yoh Sisi this is heartbreaking💔😭

[@gugukhumalo9313]

Askies mama Chuma, may God hold you together ❤️ May God and her spirit continue to be your strength.

[@wpp1586]

Condolences to you mama, omgosh I can't stop crying.May God heal you and your family. As a mother I can't imagine the pain you are going through. God bless you

[@asiveangel4940]

Oh, this is touching😔😔

[@tyrone3858]

Heartbreaking really 💔

[@dikolizaskk5847]

You still need a therapist I don't think you are healed as yet sisi

[@nonkululekothabethe1739]

I can relate to that feeling why I was picked up from work when my daughter passed away 😥I dont know what's going but u feel something in you dying 💔

[@juliandube6808]

Reading this as a mom who lost her daughter also in drowning I cant even know what to say honestly

[@mongezimahlangu4544]

I pray for healing and may she forgive the Granny...I have a child and as human beings we tend to relax caus we don't expect the worst...May Granny forgive herself also❣❣

[@pointa2b388]

Eish, askies sesi, 😭😭😭😭😭, i can actually picture the whole scenario. I was not there, i feel her pain

[@bongiwelanga1706]

Chuma sounds like an angel, like a literal angel. She came to show the people around her how to love and change them

[@phyllismagunde5844]

This is a very important lesson for all of us. The swimming pool must always be protected, walled and gated under lock and key or completely covered ALL the time.

[@ngwanabadimo9793]

I still think about this episode. I remember I couldn't stop crying.😭😭💔 It still makes me sad. Well narrated. Love and light mommy ❤❤❤

[@reflioekheswa6314]

I am so sorry may God continue to strengthen you

[@debrawhite1759]

My heart goes out to this mother, her pain is still so raw!

[@samanthadutoit1247]

As a Mother of a beautiful vibrant daughter, I am so sorry you had too loose your perfect Baby..really I'm so sorry.

[@sharonshiba6548]

No mother deserves this 😭 I pray for strength and healing to you Mama 🙏🏾 Where was the father of the child 💔 yangu mama yedwa 😞

[@sinandeleqinga9799]

This was so hard to watch. No mother deserves this pain.

[@armanimphande6069]

😭 I'm so sorry for your loss. RIP little angel Chuma.