CONFESSIONS: " I Hate My Brain Damaged Sister..."

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[@babymama406]

I know nobody likes to admit it and it’s not supposed to be a feeling we have, but when someone is heavily handicapped to the point that the entire family gets run into the ground financially and any futures they had planned are just thrown out, you’re allowed to be unhappy and resentful about it. ESPECIALLY if it was something they did themselves like drunk drive repeatedly. It’s not all rainbows and it’s extremely draining in every way to have to take care of someone like that, and that’s not even including her kids. Now, if they’re your OWN child or parent, then that’s different because it’s a labor of love instead it being forced on you and it’s a labor of responsibility that ruins your life projectory. I hope she finds a way to ease the burden on herself, her parents, and find good parenting for those kids. Maybe a go fund me so they can afford a full time nurse? Frankly I feel bad for everyone involved. Yes, reluctantly, I even feel for the woman who wrecked. People who are mentally okay don’t do stuff like that repeatedly. She was clearly going through something as it was.

[@flameepidemic4839]

Everything you said is just all correct. I feel so bad they had to do all that because she doene something stupid but i also feel bad something drove her to do that

[@randomobserver8168]

Yes- that strikes the right balance. You're right few would admit to such feelings, but we'd all be better off if we did, at least to someone. This video probably did a service not only to that commenter but to others who see that story.

[@perrydowd9285]

You're absolutely correct. I think these feelings are some kind of outdated group survival behaviours that our genes hold on to. Like when chickens peck the injured member of their flock to death. As many people who grew up living with chronically ill relatives can tell you, it's an emotional roller-coaster. My brother was an epileptic at a time when epilepsy had a stigma. My parents overreacted to his condition by spoiling and babying him. He was intelligent, sensible, 6 years my senior and the baby of the family. There were times when I hated his guts because of the attention and privilege he seemed to get. Of course I didn't realise til many years later that he was actually being smothered by well intentioned misplaced parental love. Ironically I was the lucky one.

[@ButtonsCasey]

Theres a name for this. Its called caregiver burnout. Its very real and it doesn't matter the relationship of the people involved. To your point about children and parents, elderly parents shouldn't be taking care of a grown adult child like this. They shouldn't have to spend their money and rest of their lives taking care of someone who decided to do something stupid. I have no sympathy nor empathy for people who drive drunk. If that was my daughter that did that, I honestly would not give a flying fuck what happens to her. Sorry not sorry.

[@tacobell1299]

What I got from this is yall are admitting to hating disabled people- 💀

[@sarahsmith7953]

Watched her walk a way like a happy little penguin ..... So cute

[@Aerodil]

Seriously.

[@bluebird4732]

That was so cute

[@laurafranich4807]

In the first story, she was very smart to do what she did. Too often that's gone from he just yelled at you once to he just called you one bad name, he just slapped you once, he just kicked you once, he just pushed you once, he just shot you once etc. Of course it works both ways. There are good men and good women out there so don't settle for less.

[@Justyouraveragechaosenjoyer]

Speaking the truth. She did the smart thing: It was the first real red flag, and I'm so proud of her for realizing it and saving herself.

[@katrinascarlet5637]

When stories about DV come up Hubby is just like "You got his number." A long time ago he told me "If I somehow turn abusive and lay a hand on you, you call this person. He will deal with it." Nothing I can do to hubby physically but I expect to get thrown out if I ever tried. DV is talked about a lot in the military so it comes up every once in a while. We never expect to need it but things are in place just in case either of us loses our minds.

[@ravenmindful673]

Yeah it always begins with the small things and what people don't know is that most of the times this small thing becomes a big deal and someone unfortunately dies. It's not worth it. It's cool to be transparent and talk it out and tell them you don't like it, but obviously if it continues after some time then yeah it's best to dip out before things become worse. Happened to people I know. Fr it's not worth staying in the relationship until it becomes quote on quote "serious" or too late.

[@zebnemma]

It's so refreshing to hear stories of people that will not put up with bs setting a good example. I could honestly learn from that as a longterm doormat. I have put up with bs for 3 lifetimes worth already but I'm slowly learning to get better I think. Noone should put up with such nastyness from anyone, not even your boyfriend or girlfriend, especially not for something that was just a normal "mistake". It's not even a mistake cuz there's nothing to even apoligize for, no harm done, literally nothing.

[@nightraven5249]

When I heard that part I wondered what they would say if he hit her or pushed her. Would her friends still say the same?

[@FinnyThePorg]

Bruh the guy in the first story went off over a remote. She was right to dump him.

[@irid891]

That's already a big red flag just like what kyutie said Bro imagine if they proceeded to a married relationship which is full of bumpy roads, OP will become deaf by the amount of yelling she would've received.

[@apollojakenwill]

Yeah I mean they said she overreacted? HE is the one who overreacted. Actions have consequences. Maybe next time he won’t treat someone that way.

[@kalielik]

it was even funny about the phone

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

The first story - why would the guy do that?! It's a simple, miniscule thing. She was right to dump him for sure!

[@geriroush8004]

Called her a "st**d B***h" over something so minor, but SHE's the one overracting? She absolutely did the right thing.

[@PrettysureyouneedaHug]

The last story was really sad. Hopefully they will all recover from this and heal. My guess is the sister was grieving over her deceased husband and turned to alcohol for comfort. Doesn't excuse her actions but I get grief makes some people do stupid things(not saying all people). I do understand the OP's side of the story though because she had a full life ahead of her and a bright future only for it to be interrupted by a tragedy and now having to care of her sister and her sister's kids. Even though she loves them I understand her frustration since she most likely never wanted to have kids. And you're right Ellen even though she posted this, one can still feel the love OP has for her sister. If she didn't she would have blurted out already how much she despises her sister to her sister's face and refused to care for her anymore.

[@eleanora1623]

The story with the pregnant woman was so wholesome

[@kanelovec4315]

You can't be anger at the guy with the brain dead sister. Out of everyone sister is technical living the best life out of everyone. She can't understand the pain she cause and lives in ignorance bless because she physically can't understand. Op had to be both their parents, nephews, and sister care taker. Op can no longer have a life and had to give up everything for their family. I would say if ever op feels the resentments becomes hatred then put sister in a care home.

[@rosamarques5959]

Sometimes it's not that easy. OP commented their parents were using their retirement money to help with taking care of them. The thing is, retirement homes can be expensive. A full-time nurse is usually expensive. They might not have the money, which will mean they will have to do everything a nurse would do. I don't remember how physically disabled the sister became, but if it was fully then there is a lot that it entails. Someone needs to give her a shower, take her to the bathroom everytime she needs it, probably brush her teeth, if she has medication give it on time, feed her on time if her medication can't be taken on an empty stomach, if she throws tantrums over medication, eating what she doesn't want and waking up that can get tiresome fast. Besides, there's the part of taking her everywhere she needs and wants, making sure she doesn't get bored since the things she has to do are limited when she can't move, etc, etc. It is very tiresome physically, and emotionally, both because patience can grow short and it is so disheartening to see someone you love in that condition. Add to that all the physical and emotional needs of the kids... It's very hard. They might not even be able to leave the house often to unwind since she can't move without a wheelchair and bringing a wheelchair and getting ready to live the house can take some time. And the things you do while outside probably have to be things she can enjoy too. That if you can't afford hiring someone trustworthy to look after her. I'm totally projecting. My family had to look after my grandma who hardly could walk for 7 years. It is very frustrating...

[@HappyXID]

@@rosamarques5959 That all sounds very frustrating, I'm sorry you had to deal with that

[@kachuleinchen]

Man, the last one... I don't have any siblings but I think I can understand how OP must feel. My dad had a substance abuse disorder and often drove under the influence until he permanently lost his driver's license. It angered me so much every time I found out he had put himself and other people in danger... If you look at the fact that OP had to make a 180 to their life because of their sister's carelessness, I can understand their resentment. And I feel like, especially because they love their sister so much, these negative feelings are so intense now. This is just a really unfortunate situation... I really hope the sister gets better and that OP will be able to live more for themself again.

[@Promses2Keep]

In that first story, when she kicked that asshole out after he snapped at her for such a silly thing, THAT is what we call "the tip of the iceberg." She was as wise as Solomon to get that POS out of her life immediately, because if he'd lose it on her for something that trivial, it was only a matter of 'when', not 'if', he'd eventually resort to violence. And as for the story about the pregnant sweetie, THAT is the cutest, sweetest, most adorable story I've heard all year! The final story was heartbreaking. I wish the OP all the love in the world, for having to take care of such an idiot for a sister. But I do hope the idiot recovers.

[@turtleduck5490]

The first story the girl was right, she saw that the relationship wasn't going to work and that incident proved her doubts, she just broke it off before things got too complicated.

[@nataliawashington872]

It irks me that in the 1st story the girl’s friends thought she was overreacting, she wasn’t-as her friends shouldn’t you guys be the ones to stick by her and see the red flags that she isn’t able too? Like just cause you gone stay with a guy that’ll make a big deal about something like that doesn’t me I’ll stay with someone like that. If he’s capable of getting that angry over a remote, then who knows what else he’s capable of doing. Best leave them when there red flags show up

[@teaharris]

In the first story, Op's "friends" aren't their real friends and they need to block them.

[@youraveragemexorican]

Honestly, the sister who got drunk and fucked up is mostly to blame. She was warned. She got drunk anyway? Sure, that’s fine i guess. But drunk-driving with the knowledge that there’s no one else ready to take care of your children is FUCKED UP Forcing your parents to pay for medical bills you know damn well they can barely afford is FUCKED UP Ruing your sister’s(OP’s) life because of your reckless behavior is FUCKED UP The OP had a job, friends, a new home. And OP had to leave it all for what? The husk of someone she once knew, and that person she once knew is the one to blame for all of it. That sister deserves every ounce of hatred. Every. Damn. Ounce.

[@PhantomMagician1846]

I agree with you 100%.

[@eileenhathaway1674]

First story: Yup, I would have dumped him too. I don't put up with that kind of disrespect. Same with the third story. I don't got time for people like this much less someone who is supposed to care about me. Getting into a disagreement does not need name calling and infantile stories.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

I had a bully in 4th grade, your 10 years in that grade in the USA. He was horrible to me, he bullied me for months until his dad found out and put a stop to it. He is now he is now a child psychologist specifically for treating those who are bullied

[@randomobserver8168]

Damn- this elicited the whole range of human interest in these confessions. I feel like I just got the summary presentation of the human condition. The pregnant woman story was so wholesome I just glowed. And I don't usually for anything except a really good animal video. The one with the [presumably woman] taking care of her sister was dark AF- but I get it. That family was shattered. I don't lack feeling for her sister- widowed mother just lost her husband, and I get she had problems managing. But she clearly had her parents and even at a distance her sister[?]'s love. Still did one of the dumbest things a person in normal life can do, and made things massively worse. I get where the confessor comes from.

[@AngelINTheMatrix]

I've been in a situation like the guy in the first story. the girlfriend did the best thing she could. telling him to get out and never come back. because if he yelled at her over a remote if it's something serious and actually something important he would beat the crap out of her period, Been there done that.

[@sariahbowman1681]

We don't live in a black and white world there are many grey areas in between. We are not perfect. This is a reminder for myself and whoever needs it to not look through black and white lenses but to see everything between the lines.

[@persephone3309]

First story just reminds me of my partner tbh went really fast from him shouting to him doing other things and he didn't even care that I was pregnant at the time too and it got so bad to the point I could have lost the baby due to what he was doing to me. I 100% agree with what the girl did and I wish I would have the courage to do the same.

[@HappyXID]

If their being a a bad and unsupportive partner you need to dump them. It might take some time to build the courage to do so, but please hurry. Of their stressing their pregnant SO to the point of almost having a miscarriage, they need to go. (I really hope this is a past-tense story)

[@SilentlyCreative]

I really hope you leave them, please build up that courage to leave because honestly if they are willing to do that while you're pregnant with zero regard for the baby I worry that baby may also become a target in the future. You deserve so much better and you shouldn't let anyone let you believe differently ✨️ 💛

[@HappyXID]

@@SilentlyCreative It's been a month now, so I hope they already made a decision..

[@SilentlyCreative]

@@HappyXID sometimes in those situations it can be incredibly hard to leave because of the cycle of emotional and physical abuse followed by a small break enforcing the love and dependence of their victim and there's also psychological bullying the abuser will often have them convinced they can't leave or think they are doing the right thing by staying I really hope they have left too but there's no way of knowing they could still be stuck in one of those cycles thinking their partner will change

[@HappyXID]

@@SilentlyCreative that is true, sometimes a month flies by. But I really hope their not in a cycle..

[@brendaespinoza1115]

Hi Ellen I love your videos! I don't know why I feel compelled to write this but I'm writing this. Its a bit like the last story. My biological father was very abusive my most of my life towards my mom and I. He has been a heavy drinker for some time and after mixing his meds with alcohol for some time he had a stroke. He can't move part of his body and requires a lot of assistance. He lost his job and my mom had to stop working to take care of him. I truly despise that man, but I couldn't let my mom suffer because of his mistakes. Currently working my butt off to help pay for a house that he wanted that was out of our budget. I also had to pay bills he was overdue on. It difficult to work and still go to school and take care of so much. I manage but its hard like really fu jing difficult to balance everything out. It hard to help someone who has done nothing, but hurt you. I'm not sure what I'm doing with my life, but I'm trying to survive. Anyways again I don't know why I felt the need to write this. I just want to say thank you because the energy you put into making your videos means a lot to me. I love your channel even if I don't have the time to hop on KZbin as much anymore. To anyone else reading this, if your going through a hard time, you can do it. Keep going. Keep fighting to survive. You will be ok. 💛💛💛

[@Justyouraveragechaosenjoyer]

I don't know if this is in the past or currently happening, but if it's going on as we speak, I hope you and your family get a stroke of good luck to balance out the burden and find peace. Best wishes man.

[@brendaespinoza1115]

@@Justyouraveragechaosenjoyer unfortunately this is currently still going on, but we are getting through it. Regardless thank you. It means a lot. Its not easy, but ill push through

[@laurafranich4807]

What a kind person you are to be going through everything you're going through and still take time to encourage others. You'll be okay This too shall pass and you will make it.

[@Olimpina]

The ✨hypocrisy✨ of the guy in the first story... So he's the one calling her a "stupid b*tch" over a small, funny mistake and she's the one getting called dramatic ? Nope, she saw the red flag and dumped the jerk, great for her. She should maybe consider getting better friends too...

[@zebnemma]

It's always like that tho. The most dramaqueen abusive people out there saying everyone else is being dramatic for just expecting BASIC human RESPECT. Like wtf.

[@godofchaos9571]

The sister in the last story literally ruined six people's lives- at least. Her own, the sibling, the two sons, and the parents. That's so unfair and the OP can't say anything or complain to anyone because then they would be called heartless. Don't drink and drive, god.

[@jessicawidmeier2862]

I kind of have been in the Woman with a Brain Damaged Sister's shoes. My Husband 4 years ago became handicapped from Obesity, his knee gave out, it was so badly infected from whatever caused it to give out from the weight, his knee fused together at an angle, this is after years and years of trying to get him to diet. Our lives changed, he was gone for almost two years, he was almost and hour and 45 minutes away for almost a year, then had to be moved three hours from home, I had to work two weekends, got one weekend off a month and spent one of those days going up to see him, he had to be on Dyalisis as his kidneys were not good, he couldn't sit in a chair for treatment as he had aquired a massive bed sore to the bone, he also had Diabetes, as well as heart problems, so it took twice as long to heal, he was finally healed enough to get off the Dyalisis to come back to a Manor in the area, we had no alone time hardly at all, as Nurses coming in and out, Covid then hit and we had to sit on either end of a long table from each other, then Covid got bad they closed the facility to the public for a year, I could tromp through a swampy front yard to talk to him on a phone through a closed window, snowy and cold through most of it, which I decided not to an face timed him or called him, we grew further and further apart, he wanted me to have this company come in and handicap the apartment that we rented, Landlord was not real excited about it, either was I as I had gotten used to being alone and my Husband had gotten selfish, even more lazy, buying more food to get even bigger without telling me, even though he was offered help he just kept eating, I was doing everything on my own, I realized if he came home, I would be his caregiver and everything in my life would be, him, about him, all him, which it had been for years, because he was always sick with one thing or another, he'd had Cellulitis, heart problems, we were always in the hospital, before his knee gave out, I was always giving and put on the back burner, by myself I had gotten to see a little of me I lost when we got together and it became him, him, him, I don't think he even realized it till later, how much I really had sacrificed for him, so when he was able to finally come out after Covid restrictions, I felt not relived and I knew then it was over, he wasn't a miserable guy, but he was neglecting of me, but didn't realize it till later. We decided to Seperated, making me seem like I as a burden was off of him, we stayed Married till November when he was finally able to find a place, then holidays hit, so we stayed Married we were still friends, no hurry, I tried once in March to Divorce him, but the Lawyer seemed fishy, so around June I decided to try again, I was kind of in the healing process too, so the week of I got Medication for my Depression and Anxiety, had the Divorce Lawyer set for that Thursday, but a wrench got thrown in the works, my Husband had been taken to the Hospital with Cardiac Arrest, two days before my seeing the Lawyer, he was almost two hours away in the hospital, we were super short at work, didn't want to ride alone, so I had to wait till I got a ride on the weekend, ride fell through on Saturday, but I had an urge, like a strong pull I need to be there, the one Doctor had been lying so I didn't think it was as bad as it was, like they had hope, but when I saw him on that Sunday I knew, his eyes were like hamburger meat, red swollen( knew he'd be blind) he was in a coma, on a resperator helping him breath keeping his body alive, he wasn't responding to anything, they asked us what we wanted to do put him on end of life care or let him go, he would have been a vegetable and I knew it wasn't fair to him, I still loved him and couldn't make him stay in that sick body and I whispered that to him if he heard, I don't know, but we had to wait a day for his Dad to get there, I asked our loud to the room, to him to God to whomever, don't make me have to make the decision to let him go as I felt like "What if I made the wrong choice?" Apparently my Mom asked for the same, she knows me well, the next day we went, I held his hand, gave him hugs, cried, his Dad called to say they were at the Hospital, the Nurse came in and heard this and said" Good his Dad is here" I had felt this impatients in my Husband to go and right then he made the decision for me, his monitor flat lined for a second he popped back up, but was going into Cardiac Arrest a week later and at the exact moment his Dad was there, they asked if we wanted to shock him, we said "No" if he was going to take himself out, why put him in more pain, his Dad came in we said "He is going hold his hand" his Dad held his hand on one side, I held the other, the took the tube out, they gave him pain medicine, the sounds of the death rattle were not peaceful and he got less and less until he slipped away and his whole body sank into the bed, death is not beautiful, he has been gone almost 5 months, I still grieve he was only 42, his Birthday came in September and I miss him, I've been alone as far as not dating for almost two years and I am just healing right now, been though so much, to much to think about, I feel mad at him, but I care all the same, so I can see why this girl feels like this and it is ok to feel this way, people tell me, because you were the one who had to pay as well for others mistakes and it is natural to be mad and upset, but sometimes you have to let it go in order to move on and heal.

[@theworkerofclay]

i havent been to this channel in a while, and never saw any really dramatic stories so seeing ellen say "bitch" casually scared me 💀

[@magickaldust1213]

The vegetative sister story is particularly tragic, because it WAS her fault. She chose to ruin her life for herself and her entire family forever. That is FAR more selfish than dying.

[@vanessagp5405]

I take it as the biggest compliment when someone says or thinks my food tastes good, I can ALWAYS share! she was so cute

[@Milk-ck1wv]

If he is gonna yell once what make you think he won't do it twice, or even start getting violent over more little things. How could he call her dramatic when he called her a bitch for handing him her phone accidentally!! I'm happy she left good on her.

[@Aerodil]

My partner and I have never screamed at each other. We have had normal couple's bickering (both of us are stubborn), but nothing like that. The first guy was in the wrong.

[@shaunahiggins544]

Over reacting the boyfriend is over reacting. No her!!!!

[@dhy5342]

I think there was a Tic Toc challenge thing where guys were supposed to call their SO a bitch. I hope it went over as well as it did for the fool here.

[@nancyomalley6286]

Tic Toc needs to be shut down ASAP!

[@PhantomMagician1846]

that's one messed up challenge, another reason why I have no use for Tic Tok

[@HappyXID]

Why is that a challenge? What are they achieving? A possible break up? A how much can you disrespect your SO challenge? A how to be a red flag for my SO challenge?

[@dhy5342]

@@HappyXID have you ever seen tic toc?

[@HappyXID]

@@dhy5342 I don't use tic tok because I prefer youtube shorts. Why do I prefer youtube shorts? Because I watch shorts that are from my favorite youtubers and their already at my set preference. Not to mention a lot of youtubers take a regular video a make a small part of it into a short, because of this, I can watch the video later. I most likely would have never known about the video without it. And after learning this new knowledge, I don't think I want to use tic tok.

[@chiefs1992]

The pregnant neighbor one was very sweet and made me laugh when you laughed.

[@udita_g]

Hey Ellen, I've been watching your videos for a few years now. It's really great to see you opening up to us even more! Thanks for uploading content everyday!

[@obobob1867]

I would have plastered publicly what he called you to both your and his friends. The pregnant neighbor story was heartwarming.

[@steph6955]

That pregnant lady one is sooo wholesome and cute 🥺

[@randomobserver8168]

Wow- that guy in the first one seems to have been a barely contained psycho who cut loose really fast at a bizarrely trivial moment. Jesus. It's one thing to say not to end a relationship because someone yells at you once- fine. People argue and raise their voices. Unlike physical violence, which IS and should be a dealbreaker on the first instance no matter how modest, a raised voice isn't, necessarily. Everybody can return that in kind and it isn't violence. Though every incident needs to be judged for context and motivation, over time kept in mind and it shouldn't take many to re-evaluate the whole situation. But this isn't that. As described, dude sounds like he was a ball of anger, irritation, and abuse kept tightly wound until triggered by a trivial, harmless, effortlessly resolved, and funny incident. It's not as though she did anything worthy of the slightest anger, or they were arguing over some substantive thing. He just straight up exploded for no reason. That guy was one step away from pounding her in the face with his fist. Again, Jesus. What the hell is the matter with her friends?

[@alexsspyssky4486]

Last story) In all honesty I don’t think anyone HAS to like somebody regardless of reason. Hatred or dislike shouldn’t be seen as a bad thing.

[@hannahgates2994]

I have a brain damaged sister too, and she sometimes gets on my nerves bc she acts really childish, but no one can be perfect. I still love her. I’d never want anything bad to happen to her.

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

Love you sm Ellen! You are wonderful! Your voice is calming as well (weird compliment? Lol)

[@tomboyjessie1352]

Ahh! That pregnant lady story was so cute! 💕

[@mustwereallydothis]

I suspect the brain damaged sister didnt accidently wreck her car that night. I wouldn't be suprised to learn she got in that car fully expecting to never leave it alive. Given the extent of her injuries, I doubt she can recall the accedent or even the weeks or months before and afterward. I don't blame her sister for feeling the way she does. That was so unfair. Her family should never have asked her to do such a thing. And her parents having to spend their savings on her care... I hope I'm never put in that sort of situation because I'm not sure how I would react.

[@gazoontight]

First story: This will only get worse, not better. She did the right thing. Second story: Strange story but possible. Third story: Two knuckleheads. Fourth story: Very nice. She made her neighbor happy. Fifth story: Smart lady. Sixth story: Sad but understandable anger. One person’s irresponsibility has changed the lives of so many others.

[@karasanchez9720]

Hii Ellen I absolutely loved the video and I hope that you and coco have had a wonderful day and stay healthy and coco is adorable love y'all💜💜💜

[@obobob1867]

My ex classmates were in a car accident. The one who was on the passenger seat lost his life. The one on the wheel was sentenced to jail. DWI and DUI is no joke.

[@randomobserver8168]

I agree no one has to forgive a bully, or anyone, if they don't want to. It's more or less my credo. I feel no pain or fatigue nor suffer in any way for not having forgiven someone, it costs me nothing. I don't have to feel those feelings from year to year, or ever, I just have to not forgive. Easy peasy. Even if I do recall them, the feeling is not tiring but energizing. Still I respect those who do forgive, it's a fine choice. And if nothing else, this bully both grew up a good man and, as a young bully, actually had both a reason other than just being a jackass, AND could be reasoned with and paid off at a low price. Those three things make him a premium bully to be valued- the bad ones are doing it just as a power trip or because they're psychos, cannot be bought off at any price or consistently and keep their word because they're basically irrational, whimsical and cruel, and stay that way into adulthood.

[@luvxoxundertalehazbinhotel1835]

Omg I haven't seen you in like a decade 🤣 (prob less but still)

[@starlightwolf9093]

I love your hair, it looks like a pretty sunset

[@ashlismith8596]

Thank you for uploading🔥✨💖my day has been crazy😞

[@girl1213]

Sometimes the hardest thing you have to admit is that you hate someone. Rightfully or wrongfully, it doesn't matter, because that feel IS real and it's yours. What you do with it, how you live with it is what matters. This is especially true when you're in a situation like the brother of the Title Story. She put him in that situation and now can't take responsibility for it, but no matter what or who she is now, it doesn't change what she did was wrong, and that people got hurt because of it. That does not go away just because her mind was damaged. If he can't do it anymore, then he has to be selfish for both their sakes: stop caring for her and put her in a place where she can still get her care and focus on healing himself. Because you can't take care of someone if you yourself can't take care of yourself. People may judge him, even scolded and try to shame him, but they are not him. After all, my own grandmother had to put the man she loved into a care home because she was growing to hate him but felt ashamed of the hate since he had Alzheimer's. She confessed to her children, who assured her that it was alright to put him away if she couldn't do it anymore. And for all my grandfather's dislike of the home, he was safer and better taken care of there than he ever was at home because those carers had no historical or emotional attachment to him. He died peacefully there. And while grandma still feels a little guilty, she was able to heal and forgive herself. She did the right thing for both their sakes.

[@badateverything5392]

The brain-damaged sister: when I hear stories like this, all I can think of is how necessary home care is. If I were the OP, I would offer to take the kids in, move back to my city and live my life (or send money back to help my parents with childcare), but I would not lose everything I worked for because my sister decided to destroy the family. If I were the parents I would leave the sister to social services to deal with, while they take the children. It isn't to punish the sister, but simply because this isn't sustainable. The sister cannot live independently, and the parents aren't going to outlive her, which means one day OP will be left with her sister and either has to quit her job to take care of her (not financially viable) or pay for home care (possibly financially impossible). It would be better to put her in government care than wait until the parents die to do it. It sounds harsh, but I am living a very similar situation, except my parents have known what the situation is for years, and have money set aside for my sibling for any help he might need when they pass away. When the OPis old and looks back on her life, she will have so many regrets, you can't get that time with your friends back, or your parents, you need to live life for yourself (and any children that you bring into the world) and not for someone who doesn't even know you are helping (especially in this case where it is unsustainable), who you can't really help.

[@monstermcboo7282]

Let the sister go to the state hospital and put the kids up for open adoption. That would be the best thing for the kids and the OP, sadly. 😭

[@arcticxabyss]

imagine if the lady in the first story stayed with her crappy boyfriend and he kept doing all of this awful crap to her more than once?? would they have tried to blame her for "not leaving him sooner", or would they have told her to leave him and to not put up with that crap anymore??

[@issssaa3]

Story one: What's wrong with her friends????!!!

[@InWinds]

In the first story, it's not just him snapping that matters, but also what he said during that moment. Calling her a "stupid bitch" is absolutely vile and says a lot about him- that wording means a lot and to me reads that he is misogynistic, and it would explain how he was annoyed/didn't respect her the entirety of their time together. I'm so disappointed in her friends in this story aswell. Those are not good friends imo

[@wisteria3032]

1) what worries me is her friends now - maybe they are just trying to be reasonable but why doesn't she have even one friend telling her she did the right thing? If my boyfriend yelled at me in my own house for something like that he would get out of the door feet-first. And my best friend would help me hide the body. 2) I am happy op forgave his bully no matter the reason for the bullying it's a difficult thing to do. 3) why would he call her? I thought he didn't care? 4) ❤️🐧 5) I have mixed feelings - on one side I think it's pure genius. On the other side it concerns me that the husband didn't tell her anything after the third or fourth time (especially since he knows she is on a budget). also a bit concerning that she has to resort to this kind of trick (I'd use it on kids though). 6) It's fine. really. Everyone hates things (or people) that get in their way. It's natural. Especially in this case since it is her own fault. If yhe accident had been caused by a drunk driver running into her you would hate him for what he did to your sister and your family. In this case the problem is that the hated asshole and the victim are the same person which leads to mixed feelings. The fact that you are still taking care of her on both a physical and emotional level means that your hate is nothing compared to your love for her. There is a saying that goes "the road to hell is paved with good intentions". If that's true than the opposite is also true: it doesn't matter why you do something - for pity, duty, spite... you are taking care of her and her kids and your family with everything you have and give everything you can. That is all that matters. Your hatred for her is not something to be ashamed of and you actually should be proud of being able to talk about it. Feelings that are not acknowledged usually come out all of a sudden at the least opportune moment. If you just understand and accept what you're feeling it will not happen so I am quite sure now that you will never let your family down.

[@saramccormack3025]

S1 - w@ a dumb thing 2 get mad @, it was a simple mistake th@ any1 other people would have laughed @. Gd call ditchin the guy, th@ disrespected u. S2-nice change of pace. S4- Th@ was sweet. S5- Nt sure u should bribe/ trick ur husband in2 doin the shores. But ur life. S6- I can understand the frustration, the sister is entirely 2 blame. She literally destroyed herself n her family in 1 fell swoop n can't even make up 4 pain she cause it. I would b pissed as hell 2 n wishing the same. Prays go out 2 her n hope th@ their situation changes 4 the better soon.

[@theresaeng5330]

The last story also says much about how the parents raised their child and how even if she hates her sister, well not hating her, but well hating what she did is more like it. She still loves her sister, just not her actions. And yes it does take a toll on her. I hope that maybe they can maybe get some help in there, to give the sister (sorry I think it's a sister right? ) a break, otherwise resentment will start to set in.

[@violetp77]

ahhh early!! tysm for this ellen

[@amateurflor13]

my goodness, the funeral one is wild

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

Love you to the moon and back ellen❤

[@lovelia69]

i love your hat! your videos too!

[@cgamejewels]

First: She needs to get some new friends. What kind of "friends" support the abusive ex? Second: I haven't had hot fries since the 90s. This was heart-warming. Third: who says that to somebody? He sounds like one of those "say hurt things and apologize the next day" abusers. NOPE Fourth: Nice! Fifth: LOL Sixth: Sad. 😢😢😢😢I don't want to see any comments saying OP is selfish because she's not.

[@ely.shxrtcake]

1st story: The guy called her dramatic but he's the one who's overreacting, he got mad at her for handing her phone and not the remote. That's such a stupid thing to get mad at

[@philraymond2543]

Story #1. We all get annoyed from time to time and lose our sense of humor. Maybe even get angry. But no one deserves to be degraded the way this guy treated the OP, especially for something so silly and insignificant. BIG red flag. Especially once you get married and become his "Property." And then to tell her she is overreacting is just a manipulative control tactic. RUN AWAY as fast as you can.

[@WittyRoseKoi]

I love your videos kyutie

[@idkwhatthisis6270]

Did Ellen change her backgroud? Or moved out?

[@xuimello3877]

I love u kyutie

[@Used-Tampons]

Doesn’t have to do anything with the video but I just wanted to say, Ellen you make me happy

[@guanabana2007]

I love these videos

[@angel-nv7jk]

First story, know your worth. Fuck what all the others say

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

❤

[@js8303]

Congratulations Jiyu, you’re first! 🎉 How are you today? ❤

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

@@js8303 thank you sm! I'm doing well, how r u?❤

[@js8303]

@@Jiyu_Starfam you’re very welcome! I’m also doing well, thank you for asking! :)

[@shadowboxer1]

Here's your gold medal! ====> 🥇

[@-Orchideous-]

hi kyutie ❤

[@fru1tcup702]

hi kyutie :D

[@celestiashi]

1 Story: I think this story is a little fake or has a lot of info missing, like the OP is leaving out a major detail. But of course the dude could have been a big red absuive flag.

[@darlenemahaven9297]

First RED flag.

[@karlagonzalvez4703]

"Calm down and stop overreacting" says the one who immediately disrespected and over reacted over a tiny funny mistake. She was right to dump him. There's so much wrong with that small interaction. Red flags all over. Her friends are wrong too. But it's sad due to how we are conditioned at such a young age to basically make the men happy. So they're invalidating her feelings and minimizing his disrespect because we are so used to being told that we are too emotional or we are always over reacting. So in a way being raised to believe we are always doing that and not realizing when we are in the right with what we think. Her friends are just blind to it because they're stuck in that conditioning. This girl knows that she doesn't deserve that disrespect and isn't scared to stand up for herself qnd demand that respect. Nothing wrong with cutting ties with those that don't care about how you feel. Good riddance. ✌

[@RaidenMeii]

Hey

[@rainbowsubs2]

about the last story: isn't it her fault? I don't get the complaining when she could have easily said 'um no boo I ain't coming back home 💅"

[@cruxal216]

OP in the last story is selfish 😂

[@HappyXID]

They threw their life away to take care of their sister who is in that condition because of something she was warned about but did anyway. How is that selfish? Are you saying if your siblings did drunk-driving and wreaked your family you wouldn't resent them in the slightest? I'd like to see you walk a mile in their shoes and then tell me their selfish.

[@katrinascarlet5637]

@@HappyXID probably bait, love

[@user-guigui01]

i don't know, seems strange.

[@cruxal216]

@@HappyXID lmaoo you took the damn bait.

[@HappyXID]

@@cruxal216 I saw the laughing emoji and assumed it was a joke, but you never know on the internet so I decided to explain it anyway

[@js8303]

I’ve been binging your videos waiting for a new one! 🫶🏻 I still can’t believe I’ve been watching for 4-5 years and then I see my old comments on your videos😭 Edit: I’m so here for Ellen swearing>>

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

I've also been watching for around 5/6 years!!! Fun how we have been watching for around the same amount of time! How are you doing?❤

[@js8303]

@@Jiyu_Starfam That’s so cool! I’m doing pretty well, how are you doing? ❤

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

@@js8303 that's great to hear!!!! I'm doing well today!❤

[@js8303]

@@Jiyu_Starfam That’s great to hear as well! 😊

[@PhantomMagician1846]

1st story .... I am No fan of name calling but if that woman dumps every guy who makes a mistake and never gives them a 2nd chance then she will die alone. She should have tried to talk it out and given him a 2nd chance. If one wants a BF/GF expect to get into a fight about something at sometime. yes the guy was 100% in the wrong but he is also human and we all make mistakes

[@randomobserver8168]

Getting into a fight, arguing, EVEN raising one's voice [though perhaps short of screeching] can be OK if it's mutual, over some substantive issue, and neither includes insults or name calling nor shoots from 0-60 so fast. This was him by himself just going off like a bomb, over something that is nothing at all, not even a trivial basis for argument, went straight to name calling and yelling from a standing start out of nowhere, and seems to have been preceded by many examples of angry glares and barely controlled rage. Dude is clearly in need of some kind of medication or police intervention.

[@HappyXID]

He got mad over nothing. That was no base for an argument let alone name calling. If he's willing to blow up over a silly mistake, he could possibly be abusive. Not saying he is, but he could be with how he acted. OP did the right thing.

[@user-guigui01]

She doesn't need another human being to be complete, she's already complete. Also, it's her choices. Also, there are people that think the same as her (me, for example), so about dying alone: of course she will, how you expect somebody to share a coffin?

[@PhantomMagician1846]

@@HappyXID again he is 100% in the wrong however we all make mistakes and I am sure you have blow up at somebody for a stupid reason before ( I know I have).

[@PhantomMagician1846]

@@user-guigui01 let me explain ... if she just dumps guys every time they make a mistake she will never find true love, she will never find a man in her life, she will be alone. If she is not willing to forgive people then no man will date and or marry her

[@Nicholaspimpinsohard]

How are you doing Kyutie? How are you feeling? She needs to dump him immediately. How has he been treating her those past 7 months?

[@pecanpie8888]

❤

[@js8303]

Hello you’re second! Congratulations 🎉❤

[@Jiyu_Starfam]

Congrats on being second !!!!🎉

[@pecanpie8888]

Thanks guys :)

[@shadowboxer1]

Here's your silver medal! ====> 🥈

[@blobbythepotato7062]

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