Confucius | The Art of Becoming Better (Self-Cultivation)

[@Einzelgänger]

A disclaimer: the intention of this video is not to support certain governments or indoctrination of any kind. It simply intends to highlight the effects that ritual can have, and how we can harness this power to improve ourselves. I'm aware that this idea goes against the usual undercurrent of this channel with common themes like acceptance and non-conformity. I'm pretty sure the idea of self-cultivation as presented here will be regarded as 'too simplistic' by mental health professionals. Nevertheless, I think this idea is interesting and I want to keep an open mind (which is what this channel does: exploring ideas). Also, this video is not against counselors and personality tests (au contraire): it reflects on how some people tend to cling to their 'personality types'. Thank you.

[@Juginohero2137]

Thank you

[@brookesfriend8359]

Somebody in AA told me that in the begining, to "FaKe it TilL you makE it"

[@guillermochavez2170]

@@brookesfriend8359 Fake it until you make it does not sound genuine to me maybe I don't understand the true meaning behind it.

[@Any_Friday]

I’m so glad you you included this disclaimer. Because there are certain governments that have corrupted and edited Confucius to conform to their way of manipulating the populace. Their interest is not to nurture individualism, as it is to force conformity to the state.

[@Spoeism]

Yeah you were treading a fine line there. The individual motivation determines indoctrination vs self cultivation. Also "faking it", can lead to "breaking it". Current wide spread cultural results, WAY too many people are faking it these days leading to a chain reaction based on what cause n' effect?

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”

[@Danskadreng]

Mindfulness ^

[@ShardsofWisdom]

"Don’t make your move right away, even against what seems overt and plain; sometimes false things give the appearance of truth." Seneca

[@MrJaffer2011]

you must be the master of short notes!!! you just said everything in one sentence.

[@seeknre8390]

This works

[@aymanel5198]

Totally helpful

[@sarared2292]

Yes after years and years of trying to find myself to be happier I realized the secret is daily rituals. It works like magic for me.

[@idontknowyetwhoiam]

Whats your ritual?

[@sarared2292]

@@idontknowyetwhoiam mostly self care rituals. A morning routine and bedtime routine. Also other things I try to do everyday to take care of home. Taking care of yourself and your environment ritualisticly everyday brings peace and real self confidence.

[@antoniosinstrumental3820]

Seeking “happiness” has been the most well known thing that society has put on us... And seeking happiness will never happen. Because it has already been within us my man.

[@ChubakaSteven]

Most human behavior in any given day is strictly a ritualizatiom -- that's why people find it hard to change bad habits. It's not so much the thing, it's the attachment to the ritual. The brain is lazy, it wants to do what it has done before.

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

So important Sara

[@AlexBlank]

If we'e open to continually changing, we won't get too attached to the outdated versions of us we might be too afraid to let go of.

[@Einzelgänger]

I think that's a good way to put it, yes. It seems that many people struggle to 'update' the views they have of themselves and others as well.

[@BuffaloBillBtch]

Interesting thought, I think I somewhat live like this without ever putting it quite like that. I simply wish to find my limits on various fields and "make the most of it".

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

There's fear to change of our selves and also fear of how others would perceive our new self. And the latter is more limiting in my opinion. But I think it heavily depends on the environment for this fact, whether it encourages change or not.

[@BuffaloBillBtch]

@@planetary-rendez-vous You are absolutely correct, the people you surround yourself with are one of the biggest factors in how easily one can try to change themselves. Everybody has certain roles in each group of people they are with. I am lucky in a way that my friend group has same sort of interests and I can openly share my want to change in various ways and they are totally fine with it.

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

Well said

[@Eternalised]

"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated" - Confucius

[@satnamo]

A simple life is a good life because a good life is simple. Simple is beautiful. Simple; But not too simple. Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication. Love, patience+simplicity=3 greatest treasures of mankind; But man tends to chase the ends And forgets the root. Returning to the source is returning to tranquility.

[@phiswe]

Either that or: “Life is really complicated, but we insist on making it simple” - Confusion

[@andistheinforitbutso7513]

@@satnamo well said

[@flamingaish]

Perspectives :)

[@windseekervideo]

Not really by Confucius.

[@PhilosophyToons]

"The man who says he can, and the man who says he cannot, are both correct." -Confucius

[@daviddorf]

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right!" -Boss Baby

[@Tom-Travels]

That's why Confucius did not have any friends.

[@sugarray710]

@@Tom-Travels so?

[@巫轟]

@@Tom-Travels If he did not have any friends his teachings wouldn't survive.

[@Tom-Travels]

@@巫轟 - Not true. The Apostle Paul also didn't have any friends. The one man he thought was his friend... Stoned him.

[@JamesTheNomadic]

“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within” - Miyamoto Musashi

[@marcbow]

Obviously Mushashi wasn't aware of anabolic steroids and performance enhancing drugs lol

[@tap356]

@@marcbow Steroids won't turn a Volkswagen into a Mustang.

[@sshvdow6894]

@@tap356 bruh

[@Dacademeca]

"Everything Has It's Beauty, But Not Everyone Sees It.." - Confucius

[@Tom-Travels]

Beauty is over rated.

[@flamingaish]

@@Tom-Travels what does that even mean?

[@yourtypicalinternetcommenter11]

that’s such a BS, someone gets cancer it’s ugly and painful and scary, is there any beauty in cancer? -No, only pain and fear and suffering. This BS philosophy gaslights us into thinking that it’s not life it’s us, we can’t see the beauty in everything when in reality there are some things that are absolutely terrible and it’s ok to be negative sometimes.

[@Dacademeca]

@@yourtypicalinternetcommenter11 i see yur point, or maybe its not seeing the buety in everything but maybe its seeing opportunities in everything. Or you can always turn ugly things into goods or advantages. Like cancer might be terrible ugly and bad but you can use that opportunity to become healthier and appreciate life more on what really matters.

[@gwang3103]

Which chapter in the Analects? Which verse?

[@the_krym]

"Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power" Laozi

[@JaysonT1]

Random quotes guy?...

[@jetaime8941]

In Chinese: 勝人者有力，自勝者強。 Book: 文子 ; Chapter: 下德

[@cutiemeowie8352]

Doing both means you are a legend

[@free2tingleasmr918]

"we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence therefore is a habit."

[@Tom-Travels]

I agree!

[@buddhistoic]

-Aristotle

[@KJ-pu8dw]

As is degredation. Depends what we repeatedly do.

[@dandare1001]

It becomes your nature, once it is a habit.

[@True38]

There's no "finding yourself", it's only creating yourself and adapt to different roles, mainly work roles. You alone are responsible for who you wish to be and who you do not wish to be, and then manifest that being in the world. This is critical because if you don't define yourself, society will and it will put you into a box/role that they feel is the most appropriate. At that point, you have lost all power over who you are so never fall into that trap. People will always tell you "who you are" but this is not to be taken seriously, as you should just be everything to everyone while focusing on your main role and path in life. At the end of the day, nobody cares what you do so just do whatever you want and don't feel pressured by anyone else and what they are doing. That means that you should also avoid social media like the plague, as it's pure poison and will only make you depressed when comparing yourself to other's "perfect lifestyle" which is of course only a very small portion of their otherwise miserable life like most people. My advice is to focus on your core, strengths, and values and try to find work that is most relatable to those. You have some particular interests, something that you are drawn to, perhaps even a talent that the world needs. If so, it's your duty in life to fulfill those needs. Be all you can be and never be afraid to experiment with yourself and those around you. Remember that life is short so don't waste it on things and people that you don't like.

[@sarahB06]

you have no idea how badly i needed this 🙏 you’re an angel truly

[@KingASage]

these are great sentiments, i always understood it but sometimes it takes another to make one truly understand. cheers mate, hope your journey continues to be prosperous. memento mori 🤘

[@True38]

@@sarahB06 Thank you, I'm just trying to stay true to myself in a world I otherwise regard as fake. I hate trying to fit in all the time when in reality, I can't stand most people, and I do NOT want to be like most people! I want to be my unique self no matter what the consequences. How is living like an empty shell any better? It isn't! Every single person on this planet needs to find their own true power and path in life regardless if it's "wrong" or "right". That all depends on YOU and who YOU are!

[@doisaEFE]

I completely agree. I strive to be better every day at the things I enjoy. I'm sick of people defining me and what I should be doing with my life. I'll pursue what I enjoy, better myself in multiple areas of my life, fulfill my goals and live a minimalistic life. I don't need toxic friends/family members. Stay zen everyone!

[@True38]

@@doisaEFE Agree 100%. Fuck em all!

[@Koaki913]

Was having a depressive meltdown while sitting alone in my house but somehow after watching this it feels like I've been soothed.

[@Kidkromechan]

If you have depression then search this in youtube: (LISTEN TO THIS EVERY DAY) Earl Nightingale - The Strangest Secret (FULL) - Patrick Tugwell It can probably help you

[@Koaki913]

@@Kidkromechan Thank you for the recommendation, I have added it to my favorites list. I was going through a dark time, I had sustained an injury in my knee requiring surgery and was really having anxiety over the thought of my mortality. But I have been studying stoic philosophy and it has greatly improved my mental state.

[@sarahB06]

it’s been a year hope you’re doing better 🤍

[@duncanharvey3959]

Same

[@nehainthebay]

Taking personality tests to know who we are may turn into a short cut that makes us complacent. “Ah, so the test says this is who I am and so now I can behave this way.” Instead, if we are aware of our actions and thoughts and open to change and adapting, we truly learn who we are. Thanks for helping philosophize on this very important topic. 🙏🏽

[@ashwinidombale7158]

Finally someone said it.That's what I felt odd,looking within and going to a counseler to know what we are doesn't go together.

[@whiteboxwithbluelights1473]

Soo true. Thanks. 😊🙏😁

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

Tests needs to be helpful not directing. Tests are flawed.

[@UnknownUser-ye7fb]

Yes! Needed to hear this, because as soon as i knew my personality type, and seeing people that says that my personality type should be like this, that, etc., I started acting way differently, doing everything that might type “should be doing”.

[@praxis22]

I went through a phase of taking personality tests. A friend even gave me a credit to get a paid test, with In depth scoring, etc. I always came out as INTP, which in the main I would identity with. Then I remember taking another, which defined me as an Architect. To which I completely rebelled. Went to look at the other types, found one I preferred. Complete nonsense all of them, but a good way to understand who you are to an extent.

[@TheDhammaHub]

Thinking of the self as something permanent inevitably leads to suffering. When we cling to something that is impermanent and that thing or concept changes, we experience loss

[@diegolemos066]

It's not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me. - Bruce Wayne/Batman

[@VerenaSatriani]

Everyday we can be better, no matter how slow our pace is. Keep doing the best.

[@alecia2891]

So true 🤏

[@heavymeddle28]

I've been trying to find myself for almost 50 years and it turned out that I was here. All along

[@OLiSaNofficial]

All you had to do was, hear

[@katherineg9396]

Wherever you go, there you are.

[@QuietlyMagnetic]

“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.” ― Jordan Peterson

[@schindy6385]

@@PratibhaRaut333 same

[@truenorthaffirmations7049]

🔥🔥

[@ZhongGuoge]

Yes! We all can be better ourselves than yesterday.

[@truenorthaffirmations7049]

@@ZhongGuoge 🔥🔥

[@SammyxSweetheart.02]

Peterson is a Christian apologetic that has contradicting arguments. There are many videos that debunk some of his recorded debate ideas, with others like Sam Harris. He can never put his ideas into simpler terms that are easier to understand, and continuously overcomplicates basic questions when asked to him (i.e Do you believe in God?)

[@prasenjeetsaurav2334]

"A holes can become pleasant and kind" laughed out really loud. Btw love your content.

[@borys2767]

"Be the change you want to see"..Love that statement.

[@advaithhegde5553]

Confucius principles: 1)'The self' -Learn about yourself. Think about yourself properly. Know yourself. 2) Set your behavior according to situation. 3)Involve yourself in the rituals. 4)You can change if you follow 'fake it till you make it'.

[@vitorluigi2911]

These videos are like painkillers for my soul

[@ShahabAhmad1398]

There is something about einzelgänger and his content that you simply can't find in the likes of the pursuit of wonder and school of life. Not that I have any major issues with those channels though I don't really care for school of life. Einzelgänger vids have such a peaceful feeling

[@karltanner3953]

It's a vibe. His videos have this aura of calmness.

[@averagep3rson954]

From my experience this channel have some vibes and genuine aura. While school of life give a lot of good info but does not give us time for self reflection and its visuals is overwhelming.

[@mountaintruth1deeds533]

Eat the meat, spit out the bones, in general.

[@timmenhoff]

check out "Freedom in thought" channel

[@Diana-gt1rv]

Confucius is such a great philospoher and I totally agree with him. Each one of us is a "diamond in the rough" and through self-cultivation we can transform ourselves into the persons we be want to be and who we really are deep in our core.

[@4ksilentwalk485]

For the past 20 years I have been having green tea with dark chocolate and dry fruits 30 min after my dinner. I always look forward to have my tea time. This ritual keeps me content. I cannot imagine my life without my after dinner tea time. Also, every Saturday I go for long walks and mid way I treat myself with a cappuccino at Costa, and just the sound of coffee making at Costa and sense of coffee keeps me calm. :)

[@jamesmcfarland1521]

Makez very muxh $enze🎉🎉

[@AspieGamer1986]

I grew up never knowing that I was different than others due to my Aspergers diagnosis. No one was there to tell me let alone teach me socially. I have a high strung mother, and I learned from her that life was stressful of course her anxiety didn't help matters much. I wanted to be happy but I haven't been most of my life and am tired of it. I'm bitter at my mom for the fact she never grew into a stronger person. I've been bitter and angry for many years of my life. I see my true self buried underneath all this darkness and anger I've carried over these many years. I've repressed emotions for a long time and am tired of having my past be the thing that holds me back.

[@Zepster77]

Forget your Mom’s shortcomings. We can’t keep blaming others…

[@昊天金阙无上至尊自然]

加油

[@sarared2292]

“Stop focusing on who we are but who we can become” gold👌 Let go go of who you are and stop limiting yourself

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

Lifelong application of this .. means you become happier and happier

[@annabellacrewe8858]

Good, that You bring forth the immense importance of rituals, big and small, in daily life as well as in community. Nowadays it's not conscious to people in the western world, that we lost most of our "social cement". Individualism has erased the ritual gatherings we used to have throughout the yearthousands, few peaces left here and there like the celebrating of midsummer fex. Celebrating the different seasons give us grounding as human beings remembering our connectedness to Nature. We cannot all like flootball games that much !🌱

[@SlytherinShark888]

I've discovered the benefits of daily ritual with the quarantine and my life has improved significantly. It's empowering to see self-cultivation as a result of maintaining ritual.

[@HelloHello-iu4ht]

I spent hours and hours, days and years trying to be something I am not, I denied my traits and only focused on what I wanted to be, I realized after a breakdown that I was being unrealistic. I believe in the concept of the false self and how it is a major cause of mental health conditions. I believe you can develop traits and expand your skills, but some things you can spend a lifetime trying to attain and it will never come naturally, not only that but cause psychological issues at the same time.

[@elbob3631]

How did you get out

[@m.zulkarnain7246]

This is why taoism comes to save the day because it certainly in a way illustrates the reality of how ego can hurt us in all aspects of our live,so to my limited understanding one must embrace taoism to carry on with confucianism because self-progress starts only when the ego dies and we go with the flow.

[@shrin210]

My traits is being lazy, what should i do? 😅😭

[@biggiebossie6656]

@@m.zulkarnain7246 thank you for this comment my friend

[@jhonnalbisa8422]

"Always find the slight sight of light in the dark abyss" a quote I made and followed back then that has been a great part of my journey in life. I was always able to see the positive stuff in every kerfluffle I experience.

[@jeansoo-learngrowserve3266]

I agree that rituals and behavior change is the key to changing yourself. Some changes I've made are becoming an early riser to have time for myself, cutting out junk and eating only healthy food, exercising daily, journaling every night and etc... These rituals have made me feel more happy and at peace with life! ♥️😌

[@dinil5566]

This channel makes me feel better knowing that I'm not the only weirdo out there.

[@Paul-eb2cl]

You're not on your own, there are plenty of us weirdos out here, maybe we should start a club :)

[@ahsanarshad4420]

@@Paul-eb2cl I'm in

[@dinil5566]

@@ahsanarshad4420 haha. Club is never my thing but still I'm in

[@Paul-eb2cl]

@@ahsanarshad4420 Awesome, that's two of us XD

[@ahsanarshad4420]

@@Paul-eb2cl np. This club has been formed

[@trikaruniaaji7670]

"Be the change that you want to see."

[@Aeturnist]

Fake it until you make it !! It's very powerful thing when you have anxiety and fears. Faking is hard first but it will eliminate your fears subsequently and make you calm. When you calm what you feel is happiness !!!

[@RK-vt9xd]

So true

[@lionzion619]

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” ~Will Durant (No, not Aristotle, but it almost, since it's in a book which explains Arisrotles moral philosophy, but it's more of a summary than a quote)

[@Ashad1st]

The background video is so peaceful that every word goes directly inside our head. Agree?

[@Lowlitstudio]

The human soul needs a life of meaning. Chasing happiness will surely lead to the opposite. Meaning is key.

[@zovalentine7305]

"....and with all thy getting, get understanding...." ~ King Solomon, Proverbs 4:7

[@yoshi8508]

“A Daoist embraces our natural state and approaches life conformable to the force of nature” this resonates so strong with me

[@Morn2moon]

My cat never works on trying to change herself and she is very happy and content. I have found that trying to change oneself inherent a feeling of self-rejection of who one is. And if one rejects who one is and "what" one is; that feeling brings about negative feelings that projects in one's personality... it prohibits self-love and acceptance. I have found that once one accepts one's self as is; improvements start to show naturally because at that point one isnt working against one's self but from one's self... going with the flow of natural self-expression. .. which could be expressed through rituals ... which becomes a natural manifestation of the self... like my cat sitting at the window every night before she goes to bed. Of course one can improve in natural skills and abilities... but then such things aren't the self. My cat worked to improve her skills but not herself. She doesn't think that there is anything amiss about her (a wise perception) In other words.... YOU are FINE but if you like; you can improve on your skills.Thanks for the video... food for thought. Enjoy your day 😊💖

[@samuelebincoletto637]

Confucius is without a doubt my favourite Chinese philosopher, thank you so much for this video.

[@danelobe2524]

I threw away pride, and most of my worries left with it. I became free from the thoughts of others and happiness filled the void. I sold all my extra vehicles and traded up for a smaller home. Now I am not owned by my possessions and free time and money piled up faster than I could use it. Peace and security now own my doorway. I now live surrounded by comfort and simplicity........

[@freezo244]

I have always resisted forming routines (rituals) in my life but have lately been considering establishing a few. This video helps me understand the benefits of them. Thank you!

[@freezo244]

@@Ruhan885 haha! Yes! Good point!

[@raquelmorocho7250]

Just today I decided to do something different. And it worked. Without to know the " As if it" rule something turns for good forever. Great thematic. Greetings from an ecuadorian girl who lives in Germany.

[@BlackStripePro]

" A holes can be pleasant and kind. " ----- Best line ever.

[@midnari]

The master said, "Have no friends not equal to yourself." - Confucian Analects. Book 1, Hsio R, VIII

[@blingclem]

"The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity" - Bruce Lee

[@OfGunsAndKatniss]

Thank you for this video. I’m at an extremely rough time in my life where I’m about to sit my final exams for collage. I feel lonely, abandoned, isolated. Hence why I’ve adapted this “asshole” like mentality, which I realise is getting me nowhere, and leading to me feeling more lonely. This video couldn’t have been recommended at a better time.

[@ayasavid9807]

“Stop focusing on who we are but instead who we can become”

[@Lily-gb7jq]

This is making me motivated to do new things to expand my comfort zone and become better. Too bad it's already 2am and I need to go to sleep. I should start watching these types of videos in the morning along with my coffee. New habit.

[@Cybernaut551]

When I first saw "how to be a better person" was I moved, dumbfounded, dumbstruck, in awe?

[@patricelauverjon2480]

Self Development is not just necessary, it is paramount because FREEDOM is not granted and requires constant Awareness aiming at the Truth!

[@jacksaitama5729]

I'm just 2:30 mins into this video and i just cant comprehend how high in quality is this Video. The way you put is justttt beautiful. Lots of love from INDIA my friend.

[@maryjohannah1234]

feeling miserable then had a notification about this one 3mins ago, timely.

[@JaysonT1]

What?

[@BLUESKY10X]

That was exactly what I did, became a globe trotter by myself while pursuing my graduate degrees and working experiences, including almost 5 years in Asia including in China and Japan. Over the years I keenly studied Chinese ancient philosophies. For 2,500 yrs there is this dispute between Taoists and Confucionists, but the more evolved in inner knowledge and refinement did embrace both philosophies, like the ancient Chinese wisdom of the interplay of Yin & Yang. By the way, the Buddhist teaching of no-self supporting Prof. Puett's Confucian rituals is the same of as the Taoism

[@tylersizelove7521]

Moving to a new place and changing jobs was not something I was comfortable with, but seeing as how my current situation became stale and limited I see how this path is totally necessary.

[@danielsalgueiro2549]

So easy listen to it. I’m study English these days, I want to travel when Covid “over” “finish” idk lol

[@danielsalgueiro2549]

@I’m Fatman thx man! I’m already don’t care about accent, especially cuz I practice ‘conversation’ alone. I speak Brazilian Portuguese btw :)

[@onestep1646]

everyone should watch this im sure it would help many people and give hope to many people to know the power of change is in all of us

[@kanikacr2568]

I've an introverted personality.it's my personal experience that most of the people misunderstood introvert people as they're rude or egoistic person etc so you're saying that we should change ourselves and try to become more people's person(in my case).I'd tried that to become a extrovert person but in that process i didn't become extroverted person but i start loosing myself also and i didn't like that so I've decided not to change myself anymore. Be who you are.

[@rightcliquegod7653]

This who you are isn't something we were born with it's a series of experiences from our childhood outside of our control that shaped the personality of the people we are to day. So if I care too much what others think,low self-esteem or I fear being criticized by people which makes me rather prefer staying alone than interracting with other people, it is safe sure but with time it'll become a burden which might to serious problems both mental and physical. Hastag an ex introvert i guess xd

[@orianeo6947]

@@rightcliquegod7653 I agree with you that a lot of our personality is shaped by experience, if not most of it. But I do think we are born with certain traits that influence how these experiences shape us. For example someone might be born as a rather sensitive person, and later in life, based on how that sensitivity was nurtured, the person will turn out one way or another. If this persons sensitivity was nurtured and encouraged by their environment, they could perhaps turn out to become a great artist. But if they had to repress that sensitivity because their parents saw sensitivity as weakness, that person might not turn to out a great artist at all. But rather someone bitter, or even aggressive from having had to repress this part of them all of their life. So you turn out with 2 completely different people because of nurture, even though they were born with the same trait.

[@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265]

That is all our goals ... to simply be who we are .. and keep improving on that

[@castroirabradleys.4655]

Being labelled as something makes you feel like you have an identity and having an identity allows you to feel special. Filling a role or purpose for society. Not until you realize the person who labelled you consciously or subconsciously has already manipulated you. I believe that cultivation is awareness of something or self then doing something about it. Depends on what fits right to your void or "label"

[@MsDebbiedebby]

This!!! This is what I’ve been trying to get the ppl in my life to understand, didn’t know there was a whole “religion” or established philosophy about it.

[@Greendog-Major]

Its not the ritual that makes you better, its the change. Over time the ritual becomes a habit with no positive outcomes, that's my belief from experience.

[@ristopaasivirta9770]

When Stanislavski was building his "system", a way of teaching actors on how to develop characters, he found that although some characters are to be developed from the inward out, ie. built upon the psychology of the character, scenes and emotions can often times be made authentic through repeated action. If you constantly are doing what an angry person would be doing: throwing objects, shouting, cursing at everything, frowning; soon you will find yourself to be angry, even thou you started doing those actions with no internal emotion. Similarly if you laugh and smile artificially long enough soon you find yourself to be genuinely happy. Funnily enough in the 21st century through neuroscience we have found out that our brains are constantly reading our faces to try and decide what emotion we should be feeling. The reflex of smiling is faster than our inner conscious so just doing the act of smiling can lead our brains into thinking that we should feel happiness.

[@MindNow]

*I think we should all strive for becoming better, right? Self reflection and being self analytical is the best thing u can do* 🙏 Since I have been doing it nearly a year now, I see how strong my ego is...

[@FelipeKana1]

A few years back I had a few morning rituals that helped me to through a stressful job. Then I quit the job, eventually, and now I don't "need" the rituals, and started to forget them. But I surely miss them. Not only I miss those rituals, I miss the bit if order my day to day life had, even if my life is much better now. Still not sure how to restart a ritualistic routine in my current moment, tough. Yeah, rituals are important. Great video. Something else: this discrepancy in beliefs, this way of seeing ourselves as something concrete and immutable... I agree, its deeply problematic. Not to mention the connection to misused concepts like "souls", in recent years I consider that it revealed even worse facets, like people who would go under deep surgery or heavy hormonal treatments to forcefully change one's body into something that the person thinks "it is" inside.

[@praxis22]

Yup, "Confidence is an act, anyone can fake it"

[@quil7five]

It’s crazy i was watching the natural flow video and i was understanding but i wasn’t really feeling it and something told me to look up Confucius and i found exactly what i needed ✅

[@havenbastion]

There is always a fixed self as long as we have an individual perspective. Self-improvement wouldn't even be meaningful without a fixed self. Fixed doesn't mean unchanging, it only means there is a central experience that continuously exists across time. We are the continuity of our experience.

[@terrycaldwellORST]

That "Aholes can become pleasant and kind" slipped in at the end caught me off guard 😄😄

[@kriziacc1988]

Yes :) rituals did help me better my life. I wake up at 5am and start the day reading strictupes, then i exercise, then read self help books, and then take a bath, then work on a project that i have :) It helps me stay grounder

[@satnamo]

I am a spark of infinite that is functioning through this body+mind complex. My true self is the only part of me that wants to grow; I am that which wants to master Congfu. Above all I want to be perfect strong+healthy.

[@mat-tilde]

I scrolled past this video twice today, both times reading the title as ‘becoming bitter’ and then having to scroll back to confirm what I thought I saw. The actual video was much more insightful! For a while now, I’ve noticed similar patterns in my life that I’ve just chalked up to me being who I am while simultaneously getting frustrated that I am unable to change. My issue has always been talking to people and making connections. I never really did anything about it because I’d talk myself out of social situations often without realising it. I definitely agree with the ‘fake it till you make it’ approach though and have been employing something similar in my life recently to overcome this issue. Sometimes just pretending you’re at least a little bit more confident than you feel can make all the difference.

[@shywolf321]

My favorite video on this channel at this moment. Thank you!

[@shivashaktiyoga108]

this video is such a gift. thanks for sharing wisdom

[@dugmai]

Thank you for this video. With self cultivation and with progress in this endeavour it is important to stay humble.

[@silk3142]

today i deleted all my social media’s & im gonna do it for a week to get back to my real self & so i can stop being distracted & programmed & controlled via the media.

[@mrua12]

This is my 10th month without facebook, IG... It is for good

[@jimmybiemans8264]

KZbin is also a form of social media, and the company uses marketing tactics in the form of algorithms to limit the content they recommend to fit your interests, and with that your access to unbiased and nuanced views. You won't be informed better, you'll just get pushed into the ideology you have affinity with without you noticing it, or giving you a way to form your own opinion. Don't get me wrong, they won't force you towards a way they're paid for, because their income is depending on your attention spanne and time invested on watching their videos. So they'll present you anything to keep you watching, while also extremely but discretely polarizing global societies.

[@Magnulus76]

The heart of the issue is the modern western fascination with authenticity expressed through individualism. Asian cultures recognize there is no distinct, authentic self to grasp, and that it's more important that we embrace good habits and customs.

[@millieilenelynnfetzig1576]

Einzelganger, you have hit the head of the nail once again, right through my thick ass skull. I’ve been needing to adopt new rituals since intravenous drug use carries its own rituals. In reality, we have these rituals regardless of intent, because we are creatures of habit. Be it morning coffee/evening tea and reflection/planning (stoic) or fixing a rig. Or planning our wardrobe to look like a soccer mom despite our extra curricular activities. Thanks for being part of the grounding experience I have held onto during the last year or so. I hope you will be here in this new state of “attempting to flourish”.

[@doesntmatter3654]

I don't know when have I agreed this much with something on KZbin. Marvellous work!

[@Coodykween]

Seeing this video was like a reassurance hug.

[@mattakubodimasen10]

It might be weird but sometimes when I travel home from school or any short trip out among the busy and crowded traffic, I like to pretend to myself that I am no one. I am no one to myself, no past nor future, no identity nor life. I was just existing in the world, one of the many cogs, and I lived fully in the present with no worries clouding my mind.

[@thetruth4654]

Becoming is more important then being, that is some of what i`ve learnt from reading Nietzsche and Heralictus, but after i started to train martial arts, i have slowly but surely found my way back to interests of stoicism, bushido philosophy, and other eastern thought because i do train a martial art that isn`t connected to some philosophy, but i have returned because i do think that reading this type of philosophy will perhaps change my mindset even more. So that my progress will come even faster

[@soap.333]

Man. I am in love with your content mate. Idk if you’re going to see this a year after making this but man your content adds value to my life. I am consistently self cultivating and being the change I want to see within. Thank you.

[@MasteryOrder]

Be the change that you want to see in the world around you. We are all responsible for our times! Build yourself into a man of character and strength, a man of his word and master some useful skills that you can put in the service of others and you will have a great and fulfilling life. If you are interested in topics related to manhood and masculinity, feel free to challenge yourself with some ideas on the Mastery Order Channel and, of course, challenge back if you have other points of view. Looking forward to your opinions. All the best to you!

[@True38]

This is actually very good as an introvert, breaking introvert habits to get better along with other people.

[@adamtheathlete]

There is no linear path. Everything is a flux and the energy works within the space. Being in the flow of life is very therapeautic.

[@chaosknighthd3138]

Saying hello to strangers on my commute is my ritual. Smiling to drivers on my bicycle is my ritual. As an individual, I wouldn’t say I’m a confident person. That’s the difference I’m trying to make.

[@TrueWisdom135]

"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop." - Confucius

[@nestoryassenga7995]

This channel makes me feel and rethink how real life works, i love your ur contents and the comments are all awesome 🤗

[@jamesmcfarland1521]

Tht waz very calming and exonerating🗣🧲

[@doisaEFE]

I'm having epiphanies as I watch/listen to your videos. Thank you for summarizing the valuable lessons from various philosophers throughout your videos!

[@michelleburkholder2547]

Einzelganger and Dare to Do Motivation are a big help to me in these troubled times.

[@martylaprise5988]

for sure!

[@zovalentine7305]

Change is the one constant in life

[@Monk-Amani.]

Thankful for your existence.

[@Paulstevenfrazer]

Yes, as Alan Watts says, the you that you feel capable of being in control of your quaking mess can’t help you because it isn’t there, once you know this things drastically improve because you realise you’re the one who does the changing

[@worldenhancedwealthecosyst5489]

It is not about ‘finding’ yourself, it is all about creating yourself.

[@macmacedo2962]

This is the first day that I watched this channel and I like it so much

[@peterkhew7414]

The debate between Taoism and Confucianism has always been about nature versus nurture. Like everything else in life, moderation is key.

[@sebastianshine4262]

If i am what i do then my self view is not seeing the truth. It's holding on to the peak period of my life and thinking i am that person right now. Therefore it skips lessons that are yet to be learned fully. Only because once I have coped with them successfully. But appearantly i didn't fully learn the lesson as it presents itself again and again in other ways still. This means that if my ego doesn't acknowledge what is now..then i am living in a wishful world. Not in the is-world. And my view on what needs to change is not focused on the inside, but expecting change from the outside. That inevitably creates Frustration of some kind or intensity depending on the size of the lesson that yet is to be learned. To protect itself, my ego is ignorant of what is. Maybe it just didn't know yet how to see/interpret >what is< correctly. Maybe the thought that the peak moments define the self was what was holding back the lesson and growth. Once again i see the ego is behind it. Life is like playing hide and seek with the ego. Everytime you want to grow, you gotta find where the ego is hidden in that one. Then, get rid of some ego. And the energy flows stronger than ever. Thought I'd journal a bit here. Maybe it helps others as well

[@stephentuthill4598]

Totally get the ritual part, Jesus The Christ did too... When we partake and share Holy Communion it is a joint and shared Fellowship moment, in that all the members of the Fellowship share it together. We all "do this in memory" of Jesus' sacrifice on the cross for our sins, and because of that we all can receive the infilling of the Holy Spirit. We also grow as individuals as Christ Followers, and hopefully by becoming more Christ-like become better people as we live our lives. Are we perfect? By no means, but we cultivate a better person within our earthly physical shell. Our Spiritual Selves grow and cultivate within us, and the way we express ourselves becomes better.