Coparenting update

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[@mathildebahadourian8477]

Your calmness and allowing her to put more makeup on was next level of good parenting. So many parents would have FREAKED. You handled that so well. I gasped

[@emilyplatt8172]

Laura your ability to be calm and parent responsively is so fucking impressive

[@jennifers.3818]

Isnt it?? Idk what happens when camera is off, but Id say seeing how her kids act and react is a wonderful example of what kind of great parent she is

[@brandym613]

I so needed this video. Struggling with anxiety and depression. I know I need to start exercising again. I love to do it in the morning but having a hard time getting back to my routine. I have been trying to get myself better to be a better mom for my kids. Thank you for posting this.

[@LeahBreHappy]

I know, i am feeling so grateful to her. So real❤

[@emytje]

Hi Laura! I’m a long time lurker but I felt the need to comment. You are an inspiration in so many ways! I think you have grown so much in being a single mom and choosing a more stable life for yourself and your family. In one of your last videos you mentioned taking things slow dating-wise. You were never going to rush ever again. So I think that counts too for any decisions regarding living situations. You being so confused around Stephen staying or going, is because you felt pressured into making a decision that was conflicting with your boundaries and your feelings. So anyway, I just wanted to say that you KNOW what is good for you and that whenever you feel stressed or pressured in any situation it is not because you don’t know what you are doing, you are rocking it!

[@emilylewis8290]

You're a rock star Momma. I get a lot of inspiration from you. Being a mom, a sober addict, and someone that struggles with mental health, I draw a lot of patience and peace from the way I see you interact with your children and the way you talk your way through spiraling. I just love ya girl. Thank you for what you're doing.

[@Mademoiselle-Bee]

Such a great reset with poppy on your makeup! Glad you are prioritizing your recovery (your mental health!) and kids first and foremost - you will have better long term family dynamics creating firmer boundaries now. ❤

[@emily407]

My son was obsessed with baby shark, immediately switched him to Daniel Tiger, it’s the new gen Mr Rodger’s and it teaches so many things like taking turns, being calm, sibling relationships, handling disappointments, it’s truly amazing.

[@judymcinnis]

I had to retire 12 years sooner than my peers due to medical reasons. Over time I have lost all my support people. Days can go by that I don't even talk to another human. I tell all my problems to my dogs. They really don't seem to care. But at least they never laugh at me.

[@abnormalizeit]

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[@kimallen7451]

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[@recoverednow]

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[@fairy12324]

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[@kathyhyams5757]

Listening to you talk about meetings makes me want to start going back myself

[@MithrilMagic]

I’ve made those cookies before. I actually like to bake them in one piece, I press the mixture into an oven safe skillet or shallow baking dish and then I put a scoop of vegan vanilla ice cream in the center and some chocolate syrup and eat it with a spoon. (Not by myself, normally I make it as a dessert when my niece and nephew come to visit) It’s really fun! We have a “camp out” in our living room. I don’t have children of my own but I love being an aunt! ❤

[@digitaldorothy]

Sounds like you are a good one 😊

[@TherealMrsCothrine]

Alfie is using his words more and more! Go Alfie! Poppy is a beautiful sweet mischievous little one! You are such a good mom ❤🎉❤

[@mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat]

It’s so cute when Poppy gets into your makeup! 😹 As far as exercise and mood, my mother is an entirely different person if she hasn’t gone to her Zumba class. She calls Zumba her “therapy.”

[@digitaldorothy]

Mommy needs an old school Caboodle box … with a combination lock 😅 poppy is so funny

[@mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat]

@@digitaldorothy Haha! Definitely! I was just thinking of even putting it up on a higher shelf, but it’s sweet she doesn’t mind her playing with it as long as she asks!

[@digitaldorothy]

@@mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat the shelf is less aggressive and more economical … I was being selfish and thinking of turning security measures into a treat for Laura 😆 btw your mom is 100% correct, Zumba is therapy

[@kathylindberg1754]

Laura...your a good mom without having to be perfect. Its unattainable. You should do a Skit with your friend on it. You two could be a riot with that one. So many could relate...

[@fragilefleur]

Ps. So proud of you for being a newfound boundaries queen and realizing it’s maintenance to do your meetings. Your neighbors seem super cool and the road is gorgeous. Very envious of your home. It’s so gorgeous. And forgot to say I died at the electrolysis butthole moment! 😂😂😂😂 and I’m not an exercise fan bc I’m obese and hurt all over from arthritis and spine pain from failed spinal surgery so a simple walk is a b word for me and super painful and miserable but it def boosts the endorphins and I feel mentally better just after taking a walk. But then I start hurting from it so then it balances out to helpful and not helpful. If I was healthy and your size I would be down for the Alfie walk and jog and blowing off steam. I’m looking at going back to a pool for my movement bc I love water more than anything when I need to move my body. I’m a mess and trying to get on top of a binge eating issue and it’s got all the hallmark symptoms of food addiction. It’s hard and I also have a very strong propensity to codep relationships so I really related there. I’m so so happy you and Steven are working it out on parenting and some healthy boundaries. Open up your own time away from him and see what opens up for you like some more time for self care and less high anxiety in the mom calls. She will be happy to see and hear it. The kids will likely flourish just a little more too if you are more calm and less intense and anxious. Having ADD is hard enough. That alone needs a one day at a time focus. Also I def feel a ton better when I back up and focus on that ODAT and not omg life is so overwhelming mentality. I am prone to anxiety and overwhelm also so can relate there. Question is do you feel out of sorts when things are calm and peaceful and going as planned and stable? Do you find yourself anxious when it’s like that bc it’s unfamiliar? And if so what do you do to calm down inherent sense of waiting for the other shoe to drop? Curious to what your support meetings are focusing on that you relate to also. Are they all AA/NA or other support groups as well. Do you have any autism mom support groups there that you can attend? You are doing great things. Don’t freak out if the stability makes you uncomfortable. It’s not familiar as much as many years of chaos and instability. Sending a big hug and hopes you feel grounded and get to go play outside and move your body. Is there a swimming pool there where you can take the kids for lessons and family swims? My local pool has a therapeutic pool as well as the main one where they do lessons for autistic kids. I’ve seen them in practice and some kids have to work their way thru the sensory part of things like getting in and sensations of water, changes in breathing and temperature changes. I watched one kid who went from screaming and being allowed to have a meltdown and then just lay down on a ramp into the pool in water that was ankle high and at the end he was in and practicing with a kick board. If there’s a ramp into the water, it really helps. Anyways have a great rest of your week.

[@maartasilva]

You're such an amazing mom, Laura! Your kids are so lucky to have you in their lives ❤️

[@freelancecat]

Actually tearing up watching you guys parent. You’re such a great mama.❤️ what I’d have given..

[@Unholy__grace]

The way you respond to your kids when they get up to mischief is so lovely ❤ you’re doing a good job momma.

[@DoctorJoanieTool]

I was JUST going to say that looks like Frank Lloyd Wright home style. Very cool. And so great about the free library and snacks. Kind neighbors. And SUPER HELMET!!! Alfie is doing so well. He tolerates the helmet, he is communicating and laughing and letting you know what he needs. I’m thrilled you worked through having Stephen go back to his house. I hope he pays for it and helps you with the kiddos financially. How is your mom. It was nice to hear you mention talking to her. I miss your mama!!!! How is your dad doing? You’re a wonderfully patient mama! The plant based sausage looked amazing. They’ve really made great advances in the meat substitute market! I really do love these vlogs. ☮️

[@freedomrings.0007]

The oat milk as well as most other grain type foods in the u.s are uner massive scrutiny right now for using a highly toxic fertilizer which is known to cause major delays in development. You can look this list up and California is currently wrapping up a class action lawsuit over this. My son was one of the many victims and its possible that this is playing a role in your children too. We need to be aware of these things. We are all literally on the front lines when it comes to our children.

[@wanda9740]

I'm just going to tell you you're beautiful and look healthy today! I love seeing you post videos like these. I hope you have the best afternoon.

[@cindygrill127]

Your eyes look so much brighter! It does look like a calmness is coming back to your life. Congratulations, you are awesome!

[@shellydaybutch2230]

Laura….you are a great mom. Step is great too. Great co parenting makes for happy, healthy kids. 👍🏼❤️

[@fruitypops5885]

Love this every bit of it!!❤

[@michelelbondurant3821]

You are such an awesome mom!! I love these videos, especially co-parenting videos with Stephen.

[@sarahjane8949]

Adorable kids ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@chelseaaa7x]

take care of yourself laura! ✨ you can’t pour from an empty cup. you are a wonderful person and such an incredible mum! 🖤

[@azeetrona]

You’re an inspiration, Laura. ♥️📿🕊️

[@wistfulwriter7]

Also, just in case it's helpful, those magnetic locks you can get cheap at am@zon might deter Poppy from your makeup. If she learns she can just tear it off, it won't help, but maybe? Alternatively, a little safe. I got one for my meds because my child is drawn to them, and it's been great.

[@lacyrobinson5516]

Buy him a toy made out of wood or thicker plastic. My oldest son loved Thomas the Train but not the plastic kind, the wooden track set snaps together. Little Tikes also makes thicker plastic toys for little hands.

[@lyndzelizabeth]

Laura, you never need drugs/alcohol ever again! You have that dopamine all by yourself being sober!! ❤ You totally made me giggle whilst you were talking to those charity workers haha xx

[@jeannietheobald917]

not judging,but you do not need make up,,you are naturally beautiful..

[@jessicafoss7725]

You are so lucky you have such an amazing mom u can talk to. My mom passed 2 years ago and I truly miss talking to her so much.

[@carolynparsons5066]

Laura I have an idea what about play makeup kits for little girls. Alfie and Poppy are so adorable. I love the touch of British accent the kids have.

[@brandonlewismalone986]

You are an amazing mother 🙏🏽

[@swaagaa]

I love the unhinged realness! I'm all here for it

[@smithsontherun9731]

It’s the oils in Oatly. Also not organic oats so sprayed. 💁🏽‍♀️ I use to love it but ditched it.

[@fragilefleur]

Laura. Logic says she’s not going to stop getting into the makeup right now. 1. Put it up and or away. 2. Get her some she can have just for herself. (Marshall’s/Tj maxx for the win there) and keep yours in a kid proof container. Maybe one of those tackle box looking containers with a lock for a little bit so she stops focussing on yours and make her a mini makeup table and mirror in her own space. Redirect. I think telling her to ask is cool but she’s too tempted right now. It’s like leaving a box of cookies at her height and saying don’t eat them. Practice permission asking with something a little less expensive. Lol and if she loves makeup, play the hell out of makeup in her space and get her a stand up mirror to play in as well as maybe some dress up costumes as she’s liking playing with supplies to alert her appearance. Normal developmental thing but maybe as she loves it it will also distract from baby shark obsession. Maybe grab Alfie some costumes also that are acceptable to his needs. Not sure if he has high sensory aversion but maybe you can take him and see what he likes at the costume store or section in target. Anything you don’t want her into though, put up or put a lock on. Make sure if you take medicine or vitamins or even gummy vitamins they are on child lock also up and away. At her age I was into it all and got into eating once a bottle of baby aspirin and once a ton of fluoride tablets and my poor mom had to induce vomiting at home to keep me safe. lol 😅 Also those round batteries and laundry pods if you have those. It’s scary when you think they are safe bc you are right there and one second later you are in a panic calling poison control. Maybe do a review on home childhood safety bc she’s much more into things than Alfie was. She’s so cute it’s hard to be mad though.

[@witteney3334]

Great advice.

[@fragilefleur]

@@witteney3334 thanks. I’m better at giving it than taking it or using my own so I hope she doesn’t think I’m some kinda micromanager of her life with my suggestions. Lol.

[@breeny162]

I learn so much from you about what it means to be a great mom even though I don't have kids, love these videos so much

[@lisacunningham5475]

Mom! PUT A LOCK ON YOUR MAKEUP DRAWER! Or a very strong magnet she can’t pull open! This is a phase she’s going through so asking is not at the top of her list! When you accept that, you will save so much expense products! Also, Stephen…… you know what needs done there. Stalker vibes!!! (To me anyway)

[@erinemilyrobinson325]

Loooove Beyond Meat Sausage! Vegan here too. Those spicy veggies look amazing!!! Need to find those! Send big hugs from Quebec, Canada ❤️🌱

[@wendybooterbaugh7266]

I love you & your family so much ❤

[@brianna.pichardo]

I still replay that prank call because I laugh hysterically every time 😂

[@mrsdiana324]

Its really important for your continued sobriety and good metal health that you continue to take care of yourself metaly as well as pysical the groups are so important

[@SuperTea1979]

I love my cookies gooey! You definitely have more patience than I do lol

[@michellesims6953]

I wish i could hang out with someone like you. There is something very calming and peaceful about you.

[@dani_darko134]

Hearing your lanky ass running down the street like i do too😂😂😂 cracked me up. Clomp clomp clomp😂 Bean pole girlies!

[@Ellie-re8hd]

You are a great mom

[@lauram4124]

Allie and Poppie have really changed! They are so good together and Alphie speech has improved so very much! They are beautiful wonderful children, just learn to take breaks when you need it! I’m so proud of you for all the crap you have been thru between Stephen and the kids you have come out so sting and are doing so well. You might not see it the way your subs do but we can see it! Please, 🙏 dont be upset when things don’t go the way you plan they should with the kids or life in general everyday, you just have to move on and adapt and choose happiness even if your not!!! I’m so glad you told Stephen the truth and that he needs to go back to his apartment! It’s better for you and your mental health which effects the children and you mood all day! It might be hard at first, but if he needs something he will get it! I think it’s better for his mental health and for you and you new boo as well! You don’t need him showing up unannounced! You’re the best mom Laura and you are making things work and have come a long long way!!! Be proud of the accomplishments you have made! Love always, Laura M from Tx

[@Blerrycat]

You're the best, better than the rest!

[@cibellis]

This place is so beautiful

[@aprilm1480]

I compared the amount of sugar in multiple oatmilk brands…. And I found that generic had less sugar.

[@jennyhughes8761]

Esp with asd children things break really quickly.. I found quality, and if he breaks it instant replacement doesn't teach them any respect for their things ...I don't know the answer..I've just bought a replacement computer, required for school but broken in a asd rage ...he has been told so many times other strategies and that if this one's break there is no replacement but who knows..it's very very hard.

[@JustJen17]

Girl I’m in the same boat with my hair. But that’s a cute bun! I’m going to try that after my shower

[@wistfulwriter7]

In terms of milk, what my pediatrician said (and makes sense to me) is to look for high protein and make sure it's fortified with iron and vitamin d at minimum. I also look for DHA or I add DHA drops (for kids). I try not to be too crunchy of a mama because I don't want to pass on my ED to my kiddo, but it makes sense that protein and fat are good for growing littles. Mine is allergic to whole milk so we do unsweetened, fortified soy and add DHA drops (pediatrician approved). My little is 16 months. ALSO, I thought he would struggle with the switch because whole milk is quite sweet, but he loved it so, yay!

[@MissNikkiDawson]

Toddlers definitely seem to go through phases with shows. Right now my 4 yr old son is obsessed with Bluey and Numberblocks. And he did love Baby Shark at one point but the show not as much as the song and other associated music. Also oat milk is very good for you, it's what my son drinks. I recommend Earth's Own Oat Milk 😊

[@RainStormEyes17]

I'M SO PROUD OF YOU. Seriously, making him go back to his house and not backing down when he tried to trick you, that must have been hard but it'll be so good for you.

[@summerholt112]

Tryyyy wiggles! That’s what I do for my kids and it’s so much better than the mind numbing baby shark🤣 I can’t do that shark. Or cocomelon

[@DoctorJoanieTool]

We are a Wiggles family too. Especially if she loves songs. They have eons of songs!!!

[@lysapashley968]

So oat milk is a carbohydrate so turns into sugar when digested so nut milk would be better. Make sure the plant milk is just three ingredients- nut or if you want to stick with oat then just oats, water and salt. No oils or other additives. Whole oat in porridge not chopped or powered is better as it's slower to break down into the sugar into your blood stream. But because oat milk had blended oats it like instant sugar into your blood stream. But girl you do what's right for you and your children. I think the whole thing with oatly is that it's not three ingredients so look for an option which is three ingredients. Ok anyway you get what I mean. Love you and you are amazing but you already know that ❤

[@sarahjane8949]

💯💯💯 feel better after a walk etc

[@nikkimurphy1737]

It is awesome to see you excited about food! Eat those sausages gal!

[@ElizahGravesande]

Lovely suggestion

[@stephaniegonzalez3575]

I truly love the co parenting ❤

[@mathildebahadourian8477]

I used to love oatmilk but was told numerous times by specialist and different doctors that it’s bad for you. And so is soy milk. Apparently almond or regular milk is better for you. But the best is to make your own milk with different coconut and seeds :)

[@karencristobal4999]

One up: baby shark hospital. My grand is obsessed

[@clairehawkes1112]

I really needed this , in the same place! And are there any women’s groups in the uk anyone or is that a US thing?

[@lmgmcneil]

Love the beyond sausages.

[@alisonchristian6351]

God bless your energy. As for the broken toys yup not with my eldest (he's now 20 😱) he really looked after all his toys but my second (also a boy he's almost 9) wow he's a totally different breed I don't know if it's the 11yr age gap or the different family dynamics, I was a single parent and very young (early 20s) when I had my eldest I never had a lot of disposable income so I had to save for toys and if I didn't have the money I had to say no but the younger one I've always worked and his dad (were still together 12yrs now) works also and I work in a supermarket where we sell toys so he usually gets treats more often than he really should but he would break things within a day or 2 if getting them it's so frustrating I know but they do grow out of that I remember my little brothers used to always break their toys also drove my parents insane

[@pamkagarise7537]

ryan here in Pennsylvania lots of people had a cough for about 90 days then it went away......

[@chitzkoi]

Re oat milk. There is no single oat milk. And the oat element is a figleaf. Really it generally is is rapeseed milk, which is fine if done carefully, but the food techs generally focus on making it as delicious as possible so it becomes habitual (drama queens would say "addictive") so they arent prioritising health in quite the way you might want to. Personally I enjoy it so 🤷 if you are living a healthy nutritional life, which I think you are, you can have some imperfect treats.

[@anneyoung2310]

Sleep is so necessary! Go girl!

[@lisacunningham5475]

I agree. For a few reasons.

[@michelemurphy7342]

You have the cutest kiddos

[@tinagarcia4381]

1st I liked to say I love your Mommy Videos with the Kiddos. They are so Cute 🥰... Anywho..we as a family are trying to find HEALTHY Foods for our kiddos and was just wondering what market do you shop at..Trader Joe's? Sprouts?. And I had an idea I hope you would like.....so you always eat so healthy and make meals so healthy for the kids. Would you consider doing any type of grocery haul or cooking videos for those of us who need help in that dept.... We just found out 2 of our grandbabies are Autistic and we are trying really hard to learn what's foods to use. It's really a hit and miss at this point, but we are doing our best..🙏🤞. Have a GREAT Day👍💐

[@rawlyroo5975]

This video is everything

[@sekushimitsukai330]

Stephen relapsed on drugs. How is this okay for your children?

[@marciajones2993]

How do you know Stephen relapsed mind your own business. Laura knows what’s best for her own children. People are so judgemental. 😮

[@lkoss6337]

He did, but is recovering

[@jennifblair]

When did he relapse?

[@sekushimitsukai330]

@jennifblair his 2 ex girlfriends talk about it. He relapsed on drugs just before his trip to the UK

[@user-ht2tc6kc9x]

Alphie and Poppy are sooo cute!!! You are such a fun and loving mother and they are so blessed to have you for a Mom. I am glad that you and Stephen are getting along together and working through the divorce. It makes me sad to see your marriage is over, however it is still wonderful that you two can remain friends. My ex-husband is my very best friend. I still love him. Always did always will but together in marriage it just wasn't working for us. I pray that the two of you will always be friends...i actually pray for you and Stephen from time to time .I have been following you since Alphie was in your belly and at St Patty's Day you had a big 4 leaf clover on your belly with a leprechaun suit. It would be so wonderful if at some point the two of you can collaborate and make comical videos once again , as friends.

[@lauriebieda4498]

Poppy is all up in the makeup because you’re to busy ,always Alvie,you need to see that she is like well I’m alone so no one is paying attention,sooo let me entertain myself,please Laura she’s needing just your time….love ya poppy,had my fill of Allie,sorry,my heart hurts for POPPY 😔😕😒😔☹️😟

[@UgiBaby]

Such a good mom

[@thebeaverfamily1418]

I have tried the beyond meat. I just can not...

[@CallMeQueenV]

I tried "beyond meat" once. Once was enough 🤢

[@amy_janedoe2486]

Haha idk what itnis butnmy grand babes loved it alot also!!

[@brittnyann]

Man…. I wish I was as present and active with my kids as you are. 😩

[@seasun4948]

Just get the cosco Almond Milk it's clean cheap and delicious!

[@carflk916]

Anyone else think the aspca guy looked a little like Paul Rudd?

[@hunaseven4676]

1- goey team all the way for the cookies 2- exercices are the best anti depressant that exists 3- i loooove how you handled the makeup situation with Poppy 🙌

[@kathygus]

I think it's probably pretty normal for kids to be a little "obsessed" with tv shows that way. My daughter also had an "obsession" with Little Einsteins for a long time. She's 17 and she doesn't still watch it, lol. Your kids are amazing!

[@kimberleynealis5808]

Oat milk is fine, too many people fall for misinformation and switch to "healthier" options when there really is no need. Sugar isn't the devil, a little bit will not harm you

[@a_lotusinthemud]

I wish I could go plant based, but my IBS is like no ma'am .

[@lesleytolley5033]

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[@musicvisionvideo8198]

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[@izzy12285]

I like Chobani extra cream oat milk! Taste much better than Oatly

[@nomadrat]

So much love and strength to you. ❤️🫶🏼🙏 Namaste, woman. Strong souls are thrown strong stuff.

[@noreinzweidrei2607]

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[@freelancecat]

Our daughters 3rd AND 4th birthday parties were baby shark😅

[@ashkirk83]

We love ripple brand with pea protein!! kid approved!

[@Ambre_-ok5bz]

Have you tried coconut milk?

[@kimferguson2173]

They say that it's bad because your not getting the calcium your body needs.

[@user-hl8xq5xg8n]

Regarding Baby Shark ..it’s very normal bc children LOVE and find comfort in repetition and familiarity. Both of which is provided by baby shark, Miss Rachael etc

[@elanchantel]

My toddler is obsessed with “princesses jumping on the bed “ on KZbin. She asked for it every day

[@ElizahGravesande]

2:47 😊😊