Coping with Guilt During Bereavement

[@CristinaPerez-ib2uu]

Absolutely amazing. I'm a noneoftheabove, I lost my mother to covid19 five weeks ago, and have been struggling with a lot of guilt within immenses grief. You've helped me a great deal. Thank you.

[@elizabethmonje3126]

My heart cry's I lost my son to Covid malpractice given wrong meds he didn't have pneumonia

[@CristinaPerez-ib2uu]

@@elizabethmonje3126 I'm so so sorry, Elizabeth.

[@issenur6679]

Same here, Condolences

[@ChocoCarmelApple]

So sorry for your loss. This is a wild time and loss during it doesn’t help 💗

[@CristinaPerez-ib2uu]

@@ChocoCarmelApple thank you

[@veronicaviveros3212]

I have guilt about surviving a horrible car accident as the driver, when my 9 year old precious son died and my 7 year old daughter was severely injured. He was wearing a seatbelt and my daughter wasn’t. I mostly always asked them to make sure to be wearing them, I am not sure if I did that morning. It’s been 51/2 months since the tragic day on August 10th, 2018. I was at a one way stop while turning left to get onto the highway, I was t-boned by a double tanker. Of course it was an accident but my decision to go is a thing I will have to deal with for the rest of my life. I just want my boy back and if one of us had to go why couldn’t it have been me. Not my RJ. I was taking the kids to their last day of horse camp and he was super excited to be going to the county fair that afternoon.

[@healthfitnessbysuman6602]

Try to forgive yourself sweetheart... RJ wants you to be happy... He loves you

[@timboweslyon6611]

Wonderful seminar Bob. I 'get' what you are saying. But no matter what your suggestions are, my guilt is deserved and my loved ones would not forgive me. I don't deserve it, Mum died 2004, Dad & I had no choice to keep her alive. We both were mortified. Doctor's were going to turn off the life support machine, regardless. Less than 3 years later, Dad died. He died because he was without his loving wife of 60 years. I was stuck in the USA, and he needed me. I couldn't get back. It was SO complicated. I let them both down. I wish I could follow your logical and brilliant advice. I will die & the guilt will be with me to the end. I regret SO much. I should have been a better son. Thank you for the video. I'm sure it will help many. I truly hope so. T Show less

[@healthfitnessbysuman6602]

Try to forgive yourself dear.. they would have wanted you to be happy...

[@CristinaPerez-ib2uu]

I can't forgive myself for things I didn't do for my mum. But I'm trying. I'm trying for her, she loved me so much that not trying would bé letting her down.

[@irynzak3726]

One of my twin girls died, and I regret not taking her to the hospital in time, I always thought she was stubborn when she refused the hospital I took her to, little did I know that she wanted me to to change the hospital, I didn't know it was her last day with me, oh my God why didn't I notice that she was dieing,may her soul rest in peace

[@millettemone6844]

I am glad I now know clear difference between regret and guilt. I believe no matter what you do, you will probably feel guilty if your loved one passes away but you may not have regret or have less of it if you try best you can save loved one.

[@rebekahdesimone1196]

I just lost my only child October 26th, he died of an accidental overdose. He had been doing very well and i dont know what happened, I don"t know how people do this, its just too hard. i feel like i could climb out of my skin, it's like an alien in my own body. All I do is cry, I miss him so much. He was so kind and a gentle giant. The drugs are the devil and they took my baby

[@tacobelle69]

That happened to me recently. Last month my friend who I also loved accidentally OD after being sober for over a year..6 months strict rehab 6 months Christian sober living home and as soon as he got his own place he went right back into his old life as if he never put in all that hard work. I have been devastated and my heart is broken...I think of his mom every single day, I know she is heart broken just like you. I can’t even imagine. I’m so sorry for the loss of your son, it’s a shame there’s a stigma around OD’s because these drugs don’t discriminate... my friend was also kind like your son... very loved. I hope you have been healing as the years have passed on. Would you say that you’ve been moving on with your like okay? Or the best you know how to? I feel like I need some comfort in my heart knowing that his mom will feel okay and be able to breath again someday. Thank you 💕💕💕💕 sorry for your loss...

[@arundhatijacob7268]

Wonderful webinar.. very very helpful

[@Cricket1030]

I really liked this webinar. I listened to it a few weeks ago...and today I am listening to it again. This time I am taking notes. The first time I listened to it I did "listen to her words"...and I pretty clearly "heard" the sister who I lost to suicide say "it wasn't your fault...it was mine". And I think that began my healing.

[@chrisbuck7520]

How are you doing today? Lost my son to suicide almost two years ago. He told me those exact words that it is not my fault. And I'd say that I know why he was saying that. He just hadn't acted on his thoughts and when things got to that point please call me. No matter where or what time I'll come be with you. Brandon came to live with me after previous attempts that I never knew about until a year earlier got a call from his ex. She was no longer able to keep the secret & was scared. They couldn't get on the same page so he came to stay with me for his last few months. He tried to comfort me & shield us from the worry that we would be under if he was 100% honest. Not wanting to burden us he did the best he could to hide it from everyone. But I saw him everyday and could feel that he was struggling more and more. Until one day that started as one of the better days ended in his deciding to finally succumb to his depression and wrote us why he felt he could leave his kids because he knew we'd be there to raise them as we raised him. Still I can't forgive myself for not finding a way to help my son find a solution for his depression. Rationally I know it was beyond my control but it is still crushing that I being there everyday couldn't get him to believe in himself and that we could get through this to better times. I cry everyday still almost uncontrollably for a few moments. Hoping to hear how to get beyond the grief someday

[@jenpowell7965]

Thank you for this. It has helped immensely

[@mahimasajan1997]

This is really helpful material! thankyou!

[@mybrianlips2387]

My mom passed away last year and I want to die. I regret not spending more time with her. I was hard on her and just wish I was dead.my Christian beliefs lead me to believe if I kill myself I will go to hell but I already feel like I’m in hell without her. I am depressed but the type of career I have I can’t let that be known. Then sometimes I just feel like, killing myself bc I miss my mom so much. I had no clue she was going to die so soon. I feel so bad bc I believe I could’ve been a better child. I hate myself so much. I miss my mom. I HATE LIFE, I wish I never had such a good mother. Life sucks. All these ppl r dying. Why can’t I just die already I will gladly trade places with someone that was dying so I can just die.

[@christalmayokosun4645]

I am going through all almost thesame thing right now. I lost my Dad 3weeks ago and i am depressed. The pain is too much. God will help us

[@mybrianlips2387]

ChristalMay Okosun I hope so. My condolences to you.May you gain strength and peace

[@TheEarthboundfairy]

Stay strong! Our mothers would have wanted us to carry on.

[@eecheseck1451]

You’re not alone...I treated my estranged wife the same way and after I heard the news of her passing I have been beside myself and even attempted to take my own life. The poison didn’t work and I’m still here but I don’t feel any better. I wish I could offer words of comfort but I can only reach out as a peer going through the same awful stuff. My advice is just hang in there friend....no one is perfect and no one has a crystal ball. Maybe we can learn from this.

[@KathyMillionKitzmiller333]

My guilt is in allowing the doctors to decide to shut the machines off that were helping Shawn.

[@embracedchimera5886]

moment of/moving on guilt/if only guilt...cat's death

[@MrWestdayable]

I heard that guilt was a result of doing something to intentionally to hurt someone. Not true?

[@smallies7154]

nothing about dogs? my dogs death is harder than my brother and my fathers