COPING WITH STRESS

[@itsmeadowlark]

As someone who works in mental health, I really appreciate when people like you - whose content doesn't have a mental health focus - still take the time to acknowledge and share your experience and your tools or coping mechanisms to share with others. I also like what you had to say about open communication when you're feeling overwhelmed and unsupported - you're right, people can't read your mind!

[@AlexisBelon]

There’s no way I could’ve done vlogmas during my four/five year stint working in fashion. Especially here in NYC. I think people underestimate just how demanding it is. And you’re better than me... because I surely cried every time I had a sit down and talk at work.

[@kelsey3824]

I'm glad your tears helped wash away the initial angst and spiraling. I agree with all that you said! I've had countless jobs within fashion and retail and there are so many times I've cried or internally combusted from keeping it in. No good, on the latter. I have found that corporate fashion is a lot more clique-ish and until you're "in" you are not a part of the transparency when things seem unfair and overwhelming at work. So you have no one to talk to. I wish us ladies would speak together on this more. I feel like the tension in offices would be annihilated. ** Side note to things to film, it might not fit in with the vlogmas, so maybe after, but I'm pretty sure I helped you out over the phone, on a backordered item when I worked at Gucci awhile back, any who, I am looking for a new job again and finally starting to believe that I deserve something higher. I absolutely love your dressed up and casual style, and would love a video of like "A work week in clothes,/ Clothes Story at Work" sort of deal. I need interview outfit ideas to look professional, express myself, and avoid looking like a reject-able drone. Sorry for the book! Am I alone here ladies?? xx

[@dorisyeung2687]

When you mentioned, part time job but full time job expectations, i feel like you should really put the foot down, communicate with them and managing expectations. If youre being paid part time but making full time output, then its not fair on you. But i think you pretty much covered and addressed this in the video

[@sunshinesparklesx]

It must be overwhelming doing Vlogmas and working at the same time, I really appreciate how much time must go into making these videos! Love what you said about transparency, I hope you feel less stressed soon. Another great video ♡

[@ninaosvald457]

I feel ya, I have two jobs and the moment I try to chill; I get a billion emails and calls telling me they want or need something. Take a breath and handle one thing at the time, that's really helped me handle stress and anxiety

[@DucPhams]

Thank you for your honesty and transparency with your viewers. A couple of weeks ago, I confronted my boss and told him that I wasn't receiving the help I needed at work also, and it really helped the situation. Hope you're feeling better!

[@erikataniguchi]

Frustration cries are the worst and the best. So many realizations of what you can do with your 100%. Also I think most people who experience this are always working at like 90%, so feeling overwhelmed is a weird vulnerability-type of feeling we aren’t used to. Just remember to keep moving forward, and this too shall pass ❤️😘

[@ritatocta7583]

This could be completely off but... sometimes it is JUST ONE person at work that is giving the bad vibes and bringing your work and efforts down behind your back. Follow your intuition. Love, Rachel, you are so generous in doing vlogmas, much love, Rita

[@alexniue]

Thank you for being so transparent. Vulnerability is rarely shown online and I so respect and admire your honesty.

[@sharifa7561]

There is something so beautiful and raw about addressing and acknowledging your true feelings and thoughts. I really think crying is a good way to detox the stress outside of your system. Have a moment or two scream, shout or as you did just cry. Then pick yourself up again because you are STRONG and tomorrow is a new day with new chances.

[@lebasi529]

GIRL first of all you're doing a-mazing. Watching your vlogs (ones like these in particular) I can relate with the feeling of stress, needing to do everything and do it "right" and feeling like there's not enough time. But the fact that you can work through these feelings while on your commute in a constructive and productive way already puts you on the right track. The fact that you can handle your channel and a job at the same time is really inspiring and not something that everyone will have the courage to do. Keep adjusting and learning you're inspiring!

[@Erica-vy7ol]

Thank you for sharing this side, Rachel! I know it probably isn't as fun to go through or share as glamorous trips and fun weekends, but this really resonates with me! I too have had my share of moments being incredibly overwhelmed and frustrated at work the past few months, and it is really comforting to see that someone who I really do admire like you goes through similar things, and to see how you go about expressing your emotions and dealing with the situation maturely. Definitely agree a good cry is great, and then brushing off and creating actionable steps on what can actually help. but one of the best things about life is that 1) we can take action to change our circumstances and also our perspectives, and 2) everything is temporary. The good, the bad, the stressful. This too shall pass! And you'll be stronger for it. 💖

[@xoxopikapikaboo]

You are so real and that’s what I love about you! Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m in the process of transtioning my full-time job and it has been a hectic week full of phone calls, presentations and a lot of expectations from both my old office and the new office I’m going to. I like to think that these challenges are stepping stones that will take me higher and closer to my goal. I’m glad to see you smile after the big cry! Cheer up and don’t be stressed out 😘 Lots of love from Thailand ❤️

[@lexilei]

We women can do everything. It's ok to feel frustrated and cry and that makes us stronger. Love your channel as always.

[@Julia-nc2pn]

really refreshing once again, I feel overwhelmed and lost a lot - and seeing you talk it out and gather yourself for a day at work was really inspirational. thank you once again for that Rachel, it’s like therapy with you. all the love x

[@kkfashiongrrl18]

you're so inspirational

[@AngelissimaASMR]

As a wife & mother I have sometimes envied the free-time that singles/childless seem to have. But I think it's more accurate to say that mostly everyone is busy nowadays, and that's not the biggest problem. I think the parallels I see between my situation as a work from home/stay at home Mother and yours or others' like you (bloggers/freelancers) is that it's so hard to "turn-off" and unwind because the work day never really ends. We try to balance everything in any "free-time" we do have and it's just so hard sometimes. The hours are intense. I log at 12-14 hour days on average just taking care of my child during her waking hours. Not to mention waking up multiple times in the night for the past 2 years. It's hard to squeeze in any social time and I honestly just don't have it unless it involves a playdate. I've been able to get some alone time, and some QT with my wonderful husband, but my hobbies outside of family time and my social life are just something that haven't been attainable in this stage of life. Thankfully life is seasonal and my baby is getting older now and I hope to soon regain my social life, hobbies and career once again! We all need help from others. Whether we are single and working or married and raising children. Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable side of your life. I'm wishing you the best at work and in life. Happy Birthday

[@thatschicblog]

Ah that is tough, and so much respect for new mothers in the modern age to juggle all of it. At the end of the day, we have to be okay with compromises and if that's social settings, that's okay! Dear Sugar's podcast did a really great episode on balancing friendships and one was about motherhood. I don't know where to find it, but either way, Dear Sugars is a great and rich resource for not feeling alone in this chaotic world :) x

[@AngelissimaASMR]

@@thatschicblog thanks so much for the encouragement & rec. I'll look it up

[@feifei2097]

That’s exactly how I felt these past few weeks. I wasn’t able to put it into words, until you just started naming off your feelings. Thank you so so much for this video bc everything was just so spot on and I think I finally found a way to just let this stress go a little. 💗

[@ladyyyyyy4630]

rachel i hope you're feeling better now. i really do. i have also dealt with stress lots of time in the past and i'm certain i still will in the future. what got me through is knowing that it's just a temporary feeling and it will soon fade.

[@selinaaaxxi]

I literally cried when u said Wes started ur presentation before u could. He such a sweet bf! Love you and the positive energy u spread~ 😘💞✨

[@MyCupcakelandia]

I love when you show us the beautiful person you are with all the good and bad things, you are an amazing human being, my good vibes for you Rachel ✨✨✨

[@xianjinkoh598]

Such a timely video as I'm going through a challenging and overwhelming work season. Makes me feel less alone. And I can relate to the part where you teared up before work so you could be "strong" during work. Let's all power through whatever we're facing while knowing deep down we're only humans xo

[@karagi19]

Rachel! Don’t pressure yourself with vlogmas! We can always watch it next month or the month after that :)

[@mdalgona]

First: I know we don't see everything going on behind the camera, but you're doing amazing and we'll be here if you need to take time to rebalance your work 💕 Second: As a triple water sign (sun/moon: pisces, cancer rising) I know exactly what you mean about unraveling. I was raised to believe being emotional was weak (I could write a book on the gender issues alone when it comes to sensitivity/being emotional!) For the longest time the frustration would just build and build because I was completely denying myself. As I've gotten older I've learned that having a good quick cry before I kick some ass is exactly what I need to do, just as you did. It keeps us from unraveling because we're being transparent with ourselves and while it acknowledges our emotions, it doesn't let them take over. Tl;dr Crying is good exercise lol

[@ritatocta7583]

M. Addams triple water sign here and I agree that being sensitive and emotional can be a strength. It depends on each ones beliefs but one thing that changed my life is to put the outcome in a power above me, in the Divine. I'll do my best but I'll ask for Divine guidance. Angels are always there to help.

[@jcanswers]

Your drive and creativity is an inspiration. all your videos are so transparent and we appreciate your content

[@PerfectSmilesz]

Rachel! I know editing every day can be a challenge but I just wanted to let you know that I truly appreciate your videos - so, thank u!!!! 💓

[@muckamuse421]

I relate so much to this with the trial and tribulations of freelance life.

[@nueah]

I really appreciate this Rachel 💕💋

[@studdedlife016]

Sending hugs n good luck for your presentation! Wes is such a sweet person n m glad u both r always there for each other!

[@jupitired777]

the last two minutes of this video just unreal wow

[@kaiavasquez1255]

Thank you so much for this! This vlog comes just when I’m feeling overwhelmed and without motivation. I love your channel Rachel! It feels like talking to a wise big sister 💓

[@lauravillalobos6436]

Vulnerability is key

[@christinejoybalbarino9606]

I’m so glad your spirit lifted by the end 😊

[@Charlee245]

Rachel! Thank you for making videos they are so beautiful and mesmerizing and relaxing I look forward to them everyday! You the best

[@graceshubin4181]

I’m glad you’re taking the time to re-assess your priorities and needs. It’s healthy for you and good for you and a sign of strength not weakness. Keep pushing on! Also, where did you get your flower earring stud. It’s so delicate and pretty😍

[@alicetucker8983]

You’re doing such a great job. Such admiration for you ✨

[@belen9958]

sending you so much love raych ❤️

[@hannahlee4299]

Thank you for the sage advice!!! SO relatable :’)

[@anaescariz8568]

I really loved watching the behind the scenes from your job, so interesting!

[@ViviannaParc]

Rachel hope you feel better and stronger after this moment. You are so brave and so inspiring for sharing with everyone.

[@fluximagery6500]

It’s hard sometimes. Thanks for sharing, love your vlogmaseses. Always the best 💕

[@madisongebhard]

You got this! It will all work out in the end. ❤️ Also, please tell Hailey Gates, Madison says “hi” 😁

[@christineoh338]

♡♡ hey give yourself a break! You're doing very well, at least on this platform. Give yourself credit for the amount of work you're doing here as a one man show. It's incredibly ambitious and of course stressful. I'm so happy the amount of work you've put in here. Mostly because I really believe in your vision and content. I know you just putting out more here and getting your name out will lead to opportunities. I truly believe that. My mom and I both have this thing where we get anxiety a lot at work that we're secretly getting fired. She's 60 now and she regrets worrying so much when she was young. She is close to retiring as a professor and through her career she's worked as a single mother raising 3 kids. It's funny because she's my definition of girl boss but she's always been insecure and scared deep inside. Im not saying your fears are unfounded buuut A LOT of women feel incompetent at work and it leads to anxiety and stops them from advocating for themselves. You're my role model and I am advocating for you! I'm not just saying that to be nice but I really see so much in you and I hope you can pratice advocating for how awesome you are too :)♡

[@smartpuppy437]

I need a Wes in my life

[@misslucy79]

are you going to get your depop up and running again? my wardrobe is lacking hehe

[@Eileray]

You should try CBD oil!!I’ve been doing so much lately it’s the only thing that keeps me sane.

[@oracularvernacularr]

Eileray do you take it orally or is it like a salve? I’ve always been so curious about it.

[@16dancechik]

thank you for making me fall in love again with lana del rey.

[@MoMotivation0304]

Aww hang in there Rachel. U got this! You're ability amazes every1. Also, if they're making you do full time work for part time pay you should really sit down and talk to your supervisors and express how you feel. I think that's only natural and right

[@alexniue]

I would have a breakdown just from having to be anywhere near those bugs.

[@onemillionyen1006]

love from tokyo ♡

[@Georgiana400k]

uh, weston got something special tonight 😉

[@theomstr]

🖤

[@nadinefourie7111]

Why does she feel shes gna get fired?? Shes so good for them

[@thatschicblog]

because everyone has different visions and ways of working. i am not outwardly communicating my ideas enough with the team, so it feels a little lone ranger, and everyone is just really confused on where I am placed. because you know, in super corporate environments, everyone has to have strict titles and roles for a well oiled machine to work. but thank you!! i think i am too :)

[@nadinefourie7111]

Rachel Nguyen thank you for the personal reply! I also work at a corporate environment and I always feel judged and tense.. do you hhave any advice to feel more at ease when waking into the office?

[@thatschicblog]

@@nadinefourie7111 I think the best way is to brush it off. Not too good at playing the politics game, but if I can prevent myself to succumbing to it, then I think that's the best we can do! Good luck in the new year xxx

[@frankenstein6585]

Roll a blunt, pack a bowl or take a edible. Take a moment to relax and find your center. 🌱💗