"Mutual admiration"... What a beautiful way to describe marriage. 🙏
@melbaT27707 ай бұрын
Marriage has to have mutuality!
@karenjohnson56347 ай бұрын
The last one is SO important. As a woman, I’m exhausted from managing and carrying the responsibilities. Yes, I struggle with accepting help, but I would LOVE to be able to “rest” with my husband in any areas.
@amyproudfoot66116 ай бұрын
Truth 🙌🙌🙌🙌
@loisbeyer53365 ай бұрын
Agreed. I couldn't lean on my ex husband. It was as if I was a boarder. My finances were my problem. He supported his first wife. He expected me to live with him for pocket money. I was supposed to have no legal rights, be buried elsewhere ( not with his family plot) had no say in who walked in and out of his house ( they had the key code) and he kept telling me to put a muzzle on my mouth. He.flirted with adolescent girls to the point where their mothers glared at ME and wouldn't let their daughters in our house. He threatened me that he wanted my clothes to stay in my apartment and not be brought to his house. He tried to date other women ( I saw it on his cellphone.) He shut the hot water off in frigid weather so I couldn't shower ( he showered at his gym), he would tell me to invite little girls on swings in them say he was "horny". He refused to consumate the marriage, and called me "HEDONISTIC". He said his first wife could come back if she "begged forgiveness." I stopped.all conversation and insisted on a plane ticket. He told everyone I refused counseling and I didn't RESPECT HIM. he has a lot of clout. Not all women can rely on or trust their husband. Divorce is the only option.
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
@@loisbeyer5336 Dear, I pray you finally got away. And are healing. Dr. Ramani (internet) can guide you through narcisstic abuse + help you heal. You were dealing with a person with an evil (this is the right word), tortured ego. Leave. Go no contact. Get professional help. Trust your own gut. Whatever you do, do not go back. Reach up. Surrender. The Universe will guide you. Evoke our angels + guides. They can only come forward if you open that door of communication. God Bless.
@sneakertoes17 ай бұрын
After 63 years we ALSO had love. How blessed was that!?
@india_milan63056 ай бұрын
Yes! Which is the important part. You must have love. Respect alone will not keep people together for the right reason. You must have love ❤️
@commoveo17 ай бұрын
So sweetly said and I say that with my heart ❤️!
@athomas18236 ай бұрын
I was never able to lean on my husband for anything. He pushed all responsibilities to me. Then criticized how I did them and worked against me. Blamed me for being hard and falling short. Slandered me to everyone at church. Played the victim. I was still loyal to him and our marriage because I trust God. Don’t take a wife and have children if you aren’t willing to lighten her load. She can’t be who you want if you won’t shelter her from this hard world. Wives if you can lean on your husband. Don’t kick his legs out from under him. Respect him. Trust him. Assume the best of him. Listen to him. Love him. God intends marriage to be heaven on earth. ❤
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
@athomas1823 Leave. Get help. (Dr. Ramani can be found on internet). Heal. Reach up. Surrender. Let God help you on the road to Self Care + Self Love. Then only, would you have done the right thing. For the moment, you are playing in the mud + misquoting God's intentions. And living some wierd + perverse life. Make it better. Make the right decision. I did. Twice. Ok ?
@CasondraFeitzinger4 ай бұрын
Our marriage has been struggling for the last 3 years. We're coming up on 20 years total next year. We reached out for counsel. We have an amazing rabbi assisting. We're not happily married..but happy isn't our goal..healthy..holy..and committed is our goal. This past week we had a discussion about some hard things and it became such a beautiful and fruitful conversation. Mutual admiration, it's a sustainable base!!!
@Steve245276 ай бұрын
If you feel you have to go to marriage guidance counselling you are with the wrong person. With the right person you can always talk with each other and settle anything easily
@user-un9ud8jj7r5 ай бұрын
Is this true?
@Steve245275 ай бұрын
@@user-un9ud8jj7r Of course
@artbyrachelc.45655 ай бұрын
No,it is healthy to look for help when you need it.
@daniellemoss77465 ай бұрын
This is foolishness
@lilianalaccable7 ай бұрын
Admiration and respect!!!
@user-tr7yg7zo3j6 ай бұрын
Total agreement! You must admire and respect your spouse. And a woman must be able to lean on her partner. When you have a marriage like that, it is the warmest, most comforting experience imaginable.
@brians79016 ай бұрын
I have been married for 13 years. In my mind, the only acceptable reasons to end a marriage are abuse and infidelity. Outside of that, you took an oath to another person.
@moubhattacharyay68916 ай бұрын
#2 Is The Most Important Quality To Be Attend For Any Relationship.. Coz, "RELATIONSHIP" ONLY THRIVE ON MUTUALITY & TOGETHERNESS.. Otherwise, SINGULARITY IS THE BEST FOR LIVING BY OWN..😊
@shannonsmith2977 ай бұрын
If everyone would just do what I say we would all be alot happier 😊
@merabbhatti59686 ай бұрын
But it's really hard to find a man to whom women can lean on.
@Y1836Y7 ай бұрын
Thank you Rabbi Friedman.
@mariamabidha6 ай бұрын
When one person is ready for counseling and another is not.. nothing can be done other than suffering .
@Timbo_tango2 ай бұрын
And if one person goes to counseling just only so they cant be accused that they didnt try the same... nothing can be done other than suffering.
@jeanettepelletier14026 ай бұрын
Omg thank you 🙏 everything I’ve felt and recently went through is exactly what you just said.
@bellapaz976 ай бұрын
Beautiful wise words 💖💫
@MS-kz9fy7 ай бұрын
Love is unconditional and a comitment.
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
But beware of the abusive people who try to profit from it. Protect yourself. Or just accept to fail, leave, get help, heal and carry. On. Maybe Life has another chance upstream. Be ready for it.
@ipt30007 ай бұрын
Thank you!!!!
@jessgatt54415 ай бұрын
Three things, yeah, but treasures each and every one.
@Y1836Y7 ай бұрын
Terrific.
@corasteidinger95946 ай бұрын
Smart man🙏... Admiration and respect ❣️❣️
@belgindhyanasatori43405 ай бұрын
Its both . Love and respect 🙏
@mariarooney62627 ай бұрын
Excellent. Thank you.
@Shir_Hadash7 ай бұрын
No, it's not "mutual admiration," but חסד (hesed), which is the type of loving kindness that you give to someone who is vulnerable and who needs you. See Genesis 20:13. You regard your spouse not as a mere sexual partner but as your brother, who needs you to look after him because you know he's helpless without you. Rabbi Manis is very nice fellow, but he'd be _even better_ if he understood and taught the things in the Torah instead of making up nonsense like "marriages succeed on the basis of mutual admiration." That's how business partnership succeed. Marriages succeed on the basis of חסד, merciful love and kindness.
@elileather7 ай бұрын
I think you could could say when the woman leans on the husband is חסד, I don't think you guys disagree
@alexandereisen34867 ай бұрын
You must be Reuven follower
@elileather7 ай бұрын
@@alexandereisen3486 sorry, not following you
@alexandereisen34867 ай бұрын
@@elileather sure 👌
@Shir_Hadash7 ай бұрын
@@elileather I think Alex is talking to me. I'm pretty sure he's talking about Rabbi Yaron Reuven, who is a vociferous critic of Rabbi Manis Friedman's view that "We don't need Hashem, he needs us." But no, I don't follow this or that rabbi. I follow the Torah. It would be really cool if Rabbi Manis gave it a try rather than making up a bunch of nonsense. The foundation of a healthy marriage is חסד, which is the kind of love you give to someone who is vulnerable and who needs you. Manis is right about Hashem "needing" us to do mitzvahs. Yaron is wrong about that. The Torah certainly implies that Hashem wants to receive חסד. "According to the חסד that I have lavished upon you, so shall you do unto me in the land in which you sojourn" (Genesis 21:23). That's EXACTLY what a mitzvah is. "Mutual admiration" is the feeling Barry Bonds and Greg Maddux have for one another as baseball players. חסד is the attitude and feeling spouses are supposed to have for each other. Rabbi Manis is a knucklehead.
@c-m54 ай бұрын
Such a perfect description of marriage ❤️. Beautifully spoken. Thank you 🙏
@samesamuels7 ай бұрын
Wisdom
@medisorroman60717 ай бұрын
❤❤❤very well said 👏
@user-sk1nt6tq3s6 ай бұрын
Thank you Rabbi
@Elizabeth-ie5fz4 ай бұрын
Yes!!!!!!!! 💯🙌🏽
@DarryHardaway7 ай бұрын
I HAVE FOUND A NEW FRIEND 😊
@AngelHeart19712 ай бұрын
Thank you...
@8Platinum86 ай бұрын
SAY IT AGAIN SUPER LOUD FIR THE NARCISSISTS LIKE YA CANT DEPLETE SOMEONE AND THEN EXPECT THEM TO HAVE SOME SUPPLY YO SERVE YOU
@adrianafalaguasta54907 ай бұрын
Amen
@we_thrive7 ай бұрын
Mutual admiration is true!
@chrisclark14366 ай бұрын
Ty so much
@davidblackmon49357 ай бұрын
50 years, you got the business. thank you.
@natashabell73856 ай бұрын
Oh how amazing it would be to have your as our marriage counselor
@PrettyLittleBrownie6 ай бұрын
Well said
@loniwatson81105 ай бұрын
Marry your best friend who amazes you, makes you laugh. Be with the one that you can bare all to. Someone that you would hide nothing from. The one you tell anything to first. also, ask yourself if their opinion matters to you. If so, they have value to you. Someone you could live without but Don’t want to.
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
True. However be prepared to give back when this person needs you. As Love is not exactly a one-way street. It takes two to clap.
@JP-qx2wb7 ай бұрын
So true …
@MaplesyrupCA5 ай бұрын
I agree- but I do believe love is greater than respect. Because it's not a feeling. It's an action. It's putting the other person first before yourself. Even when you don't want to. Some days you may not really admire your spouse, they are human after and make mistakes. But humbling yourself to serve your spouse is love.
@jameskeating47197 ай бұрын
Love u
@user-fl2bm2hi8u7 ай бұрын
ONE hundred percent ❤
@sue64547 ай бұрын
Yes❤
@gabrielagabriela80686 ай бұрын
❤🙏
@andrepaulosilva30047 ай бұрын
Great
@nata98326 ай бұрын
This fundamental of marriage.
@kathleenmolo45207 ай бұрын
Options are limited at 79!Sadly,I must get real!But at any age,begin with mutual respect and honorable intentions.
@billdaou79737 ай бұрын
I love rabbi friedman . How wise is human. Respect is the key .
@dominicmonteiro6 ай бұрын
If there is love (not a romantic love only it a commitment) it produces respect . Therfore love is the root . God is love. The sacrifical love for each other
@user-un9ud8jj7r5 ай бұрын
❤😊
@elessar58484 ай бұрын
This man also said: killing Palestinian children is not a sin.
@jameskeating47197 ай бұрын
Hey sir i wish i could get marriage counseling sir but i got no wife
@wherethewildflowersare6 ай бұрын
Haha 😅
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
Maybe you haven't really risen to the challenge. Yet. But do realise that it is a responsability. Which requires investment + commitment. The question is, will you ever be up to it. Or perhaps, are you willing to learn to give + take, and of course, all the rest... 😉😁🙏
@frances.ca.11917 ай бұрын
this essential Concept of ''Respect'' can be extended to all other ''relational Fields'' of Society, because many say ''I love you'' in Terms of ''inferior Emotions'' and ''intellectually'' destroy others, also by practicing ''evil Tongue'' and also ''evil Eye'' that is ''wish another Evil'', in order either to ''destroy him, her prematurely, in the Case of Envy, or to hold him, her exceedingly, in the Case of Jealousy'', and ''intellectually'', the higher ''Aspect'' of ''Intellect'' (the lower being ''Rationality''as ''envious and jealous'' as ''Emotionality'' above mentioned), one is capable of ''allowing the other to live the own 'g.dly' existential Life, upon the 'Doctrine of the Conscience, Soul' so to put it'', instead of being forced to be a ''Slave of the World'' and of the ''Partner'' or of the ''Colleague, Colleagues at Work'', and so on, and the ''Doctrine of Conscience'' is neglected Today, also dysqualified, that is to say, who says ''we are a Soul'' may be subjected to ''Tortures'', moral and also physical, socio-economical and financial-economical, inflicted also ''officially'' by so to name them ''materialistic Individuals'', ''G.dless'', ''atheist'', also ''Satanists'' as ''Satan'' is presented in the ''Bible'', a ''materialistic without Respect, for the 'Soul' that the other is''. ''Shlom'' through ''Emounah, Betaqon, Tzdqh'' to everyone.
@elileather7 ай бұрын
When you say evil between a couple, give me an example
@frances.ca.11917 ай бұрын
@@elileather it was ''evil Tongue', ''evil Eye'', beside ''evil Deed'', that is ''HaRä'' of the middle eastern Tradition, the Opposite of ''HaTov'' of the same Tradition: ''uncorrect Tongue'' let's say, ''uncorrect Eye or uncorrect Wish'', beside ''uncorrect Deed'', it something willingly or unwillingly, otherwise said consciously or unconsciously, done by 1 of the 2, that ''damages'' the other, which is habitually perpetrated ''behind the other's Shoulders'' as it is phrased from neolatin Language, or ''away from the other's Sight'', in a Way that ''the other ignores it'': one may ''blame'' the Partner, one may ''wish that something unpleasant occurs to the Partner'', or ''one may do something that is eventually damageful fot the Partner'', and I prefer to avoid and present Details, despite there is Movie titled ''Gaslight'' (Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergmann) of some 60 Years ago, that is very ''telling'' about the Subject. ''Salve'' through ''Fides, Spes, Caritas'' to everyone.
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
We are all creatures of Light + of Dark. We attract what we are. At the most, we are here to work on ourselves. By the way, love is unconditional. It is OK to fail. We just pick ourselves up, get help, heal, continue the road like the other 8 billion travellers on it, give ourselves a chance in self care, self love, self respect, pay our dues, be responsable, be accountable, avoid (conscious) mirroring onto others (this is so easy to do, isn't it ?) + basically just carry on. Trusting ourselves. You do you. Ok ? Try a little give + take. None of us are getting out of this alive, remember ?
@ambershi90237 ай бұрын
True enough! I would love to see you try to tell him the government, that! A fly on the wall, a spider on the ceiling anything just to see you tell them that
@AnGeLaOYA6 ай бұрын
Covert abuse, repeated micro-expressoons of contempt, denial of underlying issues, projection of issues, competition, responsibility avoidance... it can't work!
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
Leave.
@irakotlik7 ай бұрын
Admiring each other is consequesnce of deep love :)) and no, it is not rightful for couples to stay together unless they are two part of one whole… the sacred union though is hard to achieve with mentality that does not see body and sexuslity as the most sacred and wise of all
@elileather7 ай бұрын
Every case is different
@user-xl4ze9kg9q7 ай бұрын
I AM Going to my husband! I know him!
@bellapaz976 ай бұрын
🕺💖💃💫🌌🌠
@busylane7 ай бұрын
I love number three. I hope I find a man who I can lean on...
@cf-ry1zo6 ай бұрын
What if she can’t lean on her husband for almost anything and she has to be the stronghold of the family?
@cindypock49497 ай бұрын
How does a man re-earn her trust and respect, if he's tarnished it?
@redonionsyummy5 ай бұрын
Feeling secure...bingo
@tb-hs4nl5 ай бұрын
Perfect❤
@darenalleyne4666 ай бұрын
🫡
@skibootdier94885 ай бұрын
Most people shouldn't get married in the first place. Marriage is a rotting institution, and men are finally starting to realize it. Don't do it guys.. the odds are not good.
@jeanannedupratt70754 ай бұрын
Kudos for finally admitting that you know something is amiss (in yourself)+ that you haven't found the road towards self care, self love and self growth which would eventually make you a proper human being. So get on with it, man. And good luck !